Always Abounding - Spring 2016

Fundamentalist
Always
Abounding
Spring 2016
Building Strong Families
A
common theme in American
churches is building families. A
simple search on the Internet
will produce thousands of results for
churches, para-church organizations,
and secular organizations that are trying
to build strong families. The amazing
thing is that most churches do not
seem to adhere to Biblical standards
anymore when it comes to the family
unit.
The family unit has changed
drastically since the mid-1900s.
Commenting on the results of the 2010
U.S. Census, The New York Times reported
that “married couples represented just 48
percent of American households in 2010....
This was slightly less than in 2000, but
far below the 78 percent of households
occupied by married couples in 1950.”
In this issue. . .
Meet a Fairhaven Student
The Nursing Home Ministry
The Tale of Two Worlds
Navigating Technology
About Evangelism
Missions
Getting Your Child to Obey
This same trend is sadly seen in many
churches. The traditional family is broken
and almost seems to be an endangered
species. Local churches need to analyze
the Scriptures to make sure their
philosophy and practices are being a help
to the families in their church rather than
being a hindrance. I am going to mention
a couple of things that have helped us over
the last few years to be a help to families in
our church. Some of the items may seem
over simplified, but in dealing with some
issues, keeping things simple can be a help.
First, a good Christian school can be a
huge asset to the family. The trend for the
past decade or so in America has been for
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“. . . be ye stedfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord” I Corinthians 15:58

CONTENTS
1 Building Strong Families
by Pastor Steve Damron
5 The Nursing Home Ministry
by Pastor Travis Burke (‘97)
6 Meet a Fairhaven Student
Caleb Rouillard
7 The Tale of Two Worlds
An Allegory by Pastor Archie Parrish
8 Navigating Technology
by Pastor Dave Mallinak (‘93)
10 About Evangelism
by Dr. Randy Starr
12 Missions: Expected and Attempted
by Pat Gordon (‘88)
14 Getting Your Child to Obey
by Dave Olson
15 Upcoming Events
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Building Strong Families
(cont.)
Pastor Steve Damron
churches to stop having Christian schools.
I believe the reason for the decline is
because of the conflict that seems to
occur between the church authority and
home authority. The sad point about this
trend is the horrible decline in the church’s
influence in our nation. With the Christian
school movement on the decline, our
country has become weaker as a Christian
nation, not stronger.
We have striven to have a godly
philosophy in our school since its inception
over 40 years ago. At some point, our
children need to mature and learn that
there are other
authorities besides
dad and mom. A
good Christian
school will help a
parent in this area.
I do keep stressing
a good Christian
school because most
“Christian” schools
are no more than
private education
centers. They are no
more Christian than
the fashion designer
Christian Dior, and are
Christian in name only. Churches need
to make sure that a Christian school is a
help to the home. The Christian school
should have godly teachers, a godly
curriculum, and a godly philosophy. I am
personally thankful for the school out
of our church. It has enabled my wife
and me to surpass our expectations with
our children academically. The teachers
have also been a huge help spiritually in
finding weaknesses in our children. A
good Christian school will provide a great
avenue for the parents and staff to work
FAMILY
together to provide laborers for God’s
harvest.
Second, a good youth group in a church
is a great asset to the family. Again, I stress
a good youth group. A youth group is not
a babysitting service. The youth pastor
should feel a calling and have a strong
desire to work with the youth in the
church. Through the combined 60 years
experience of my own youth pastor (when
I was young), our church’s current youth
pastor, and myself, I have seen the benefits
of having a youth group. I believe that
the church leadership must assess at least
once a year how the church and its families
work together.
There are always
adjustments that
need to be made with
the youth group and
the families in your
church. Just because
something worked
five years ago in your
church schedule,
does not mean that
it will work effectively
now. Family concerns,
cultural adjustments,
and time constraints
change over the
course of a church’s history. You must be
willing to sit down and adjust things as a
church so that you are not irritating the
good families in your church. I say all of this
to show you that the church and the family
should work together to produce godly
young people. Working together produces
a good, godly balance in maturing young
people to love the Lord with all of their
heart.
I would like to challenge the dads and
moms reading this article. It is our job to
instruct our children in the ways of the
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FAMILY
Building Strong Families
(cont.)
Word of God. We should have a goal for
our children to eventually have a Proverbs
3:5-6 philosophy. They should grow to
trust in the Lord with all of their heart.
This is a daunting task, and the church can
be a huge help in accomplishing it. You
do not find in the New Testament where
the church and the family are in conflict.
They should be working cohesively to
Christians who faced crises: “We are
troubled on every side, yet not distressed;
we are perplexed, but not in despair;
Persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down,
but not destroyed” (II Corinthians 4:8-9).
Paul and these faithful Christians relied on
God for strength and help to endure trials.
You, too, can build a strong family for God
if you rely on His strength!
accomplish God’s will in the homes of the
believers in the church.
There are many obstacles that face
parents and churches today. Some
obstacles or challenges are external such
as Hollywood, an immoral culture, and the
anti-authority attitude; some are internal
such as our flesh’s desire to control our
walk in this world. I would challenge
you to be inspired by the Apostle Paul’s
description of the resilience of first-century
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The Nursing Home Ministry
Pastor Travis Burke (‘97)
At the age of sixteen, I knew the
Lord was calling me to preach His
Word. One week after surrendering
to this calling, my pastor sent me to
our nursing home to preach my first
message. I have never stopped going.
One of the most important outreaches
a church can have is a nursing home
ministry. Sadly, many churches do
not see the great need of ministering
to the residents at these facilities.
All nursing home residents have souls,
and they make up a part of “all people”
of the Great Commission. These lives
can still be reached with the gospel,
taught the doctrines of Scripture,
and used of God to reach other
souls before it is eternally too late.
A church’s own members can be greatly
edified and strengthened through the
nursing home ministry. As stated, my
first opportunity to preach was in a
nursing home service. Many members
of our church participate in this weekly
ministry. They have grown to love the
residents, learn from God’s Word, and
lead others to Christ. This excitement
carries over into our church services, and
our entire congregation is encouraged.
It is my experience that nursing homes
are made up of people who are lost and
close to an eternity in hell as well as people
who are saved and need encouraged in the
Lord, corrected in doctrine, and edified
to serve the Lord in their latter years.
Often a nursing home service is viewed
as “entertainment” when it could be a
time greatly used of God to encourage. I
normally hold a forty-five minute service
each week. A collection of numbered
hymns is distributed. Residents share
prayer requests, and specific prayer is
offered on their behalf. Next, we teach
MINISTRY HELPS
a simple object lesson that emphasizes
that God’s grace is not earned, but
given as a gift—we call this the “grace
gift.” We place a sticker on one of the
hymn pages, and the resident who
receives this page receives a special gift.
It is important to learn names and be
personal to the residents. We plan vocal
or instrumental music as special music.
We always end our time together with
the song, “Mansion Over the Hilltop.” The
forty-five minutes are generally as follows:
Welcome and Singing — 6:30-6:40
Prayer Requests and Prayer — 6:40-6:45
Grace Gift & Shaking Hands — 6:45
Congregational Singing — 6:45-6:50
Special Music — 6:50-6:55
Message — 6:55-7:10
Closing Congregational Song — 7:10-7:15
Time is spent afterward walking residents
back to their rooms and visiting those
unable to attend. The Lord has blessed
with souls saved, hearts encouraged, and
the opening of doors to residents’ families;
in fact, I have had the privilege of preaching
many funerals and sharing the gospel with
families I otherwise would have never been
able. We have folks in our weekly services
at church who were reached through our
nursing home ministry. May the Lord use
your nursing home ministry to do the same!
(Travis Burke has been the pastor of Cozaddale Baptist
Temple in Goshen, Ohio, since 2004.)
The Elderly In God’s Word
By: Travis Burke
A series of messages
A series of messages designed for a
nursing home ministry. The messages
highlight many of the elderly characters
as found designed in God’s Word. for use in a
Messages highlight how God uses
everyone in their elderly years and how
he can use folks today.
Books may be obtained by a
For recommended information
offering of $5 to:
Cozaddale Baptist Temple
10632 Eltzroth Road
on Goshen, ordering Ohio 45122 Pastor
or by calling
Burke’s book, please
(513)722-­‐2064
nursing home ministry.
call (513) 722-2064.
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COLLEGE NEWS
Meet an FBC Student
Caleb Rouillard
Hi, my name is
Caleb Rouillard. I am
French Canadian,
born and raised
in the province of
Quebec, Canada.
I was born as the
fourth son and the
ninth child of my parents. Overall, I have
seven sisters and five brothers, which is
something that often surprises people.
This means that I grew up in a slightly
larger-than-usual family. Many friends and
acquaintances have said, “It’s one thing
seeing a big family these days, and it’s
another thing seeing a big family where
all the children have the same parents.”
Having so many siblings has taught me
many things that I now see will be useful
for the ministry. I thank God for giving me
the family that I have.
I grew up in a Christian home that
places God and the Bible as our authority.
At the age of five, I attended a small
summer day camp where I got saved. I
remember the teacher talking about Jesus
and how He died on the cross. I felt guilty
about what I did to Jesus, and I wanted
Him to forgive me of all my sins. After the
teacher finished her lesson, she took me
apart from the rest of the class, and I asked
Jesus to forgive me of my sins.
A year after my salvation, my family
began attending Eglise Baptiste du Berger
(Shepherd Baptist Church), which is
pastored by Christopher Hilmer, a graduate
of Fairhaven Baptist College. Eglise Baptiste
du Berger is very missions-oriented, and
that has affected my life greatly. My
pastor would have missionaries come to
our church to present their ministries.
Although I was young, this had a big impact
on my life. Seeing missionaries and their
fields opened my eyes to the mission field.
Every time a missionary would present his
mission, I would have a burden to do what
the missionary was doing. I would see so
many lost souls in their presentations, and
I wanted to reach them, too.
At the age of eleven, I felt God’s call
to the mission field after watching a
documentary of missionaries reaching
the lost in Eastern Africa. Two years later,
I surrendered to the mission field at a
Christian summer camp. Several years
later at a youth conference in Ontario, the
preacher spoke about the mission field at
home and throughout Canada. He listed
statistics about how few churches were in
Canada and told us that of those churches,
sixteen were without pastors. I could not
imagine so many Canadians going to hell
and not doing anything about it. I realized
then that God was calling me to minister to
the souls of Canada.
Since I was a boy, I have enjoyed
anything that dealt with the military.
When God called me to the mission field, I
realized that joining the army could not be
God’s will for my life. I began praying about
where the Lord would want me to serve in
Canada. For a year, I did not know, but God
used a guest speaker—a retired American
reservist and an active Coast Guard
chaplain—to give me a burden for the lost
souls in the Canadian armed forces. How
amazing God is to take a lifelong interest
and make it my lifelong calling!
Knowing what God wanted with my
life, I spoke with my pastor and prayed
about the next step to take. The Lord led
me to attend Fairhaven Baptist College
to get a Biblical foundation. I am in the
second semester of my freshman year,
studying Pastoral Theology. The Lord has
blessed me in my studies, and I am looking
forward to seeing what He has in store for
me.
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The Tale of Two Worlds:
An Allegory
Pastor Archie Parrish
It was the best of worlds; it was the worst
of worlds. He had a loving father; he had
a prison warden. He had a wonderful
home; he had a prison cell. He had a
promising future; he had a pitiful future.
He had servants; he had guards. It was a
reality; it was a virtual reality. It is a tale of
two worlds.
In these two worlds lived one man
simultaneously. Physically, he lived in the
world of reality. Mentally, he lived in the
world of virtual reality. Although reality
said that his world was great, he longed
for the “real life” his mind’s virtual world
promised him. Demanding his inheritance
from his father, this young man set out to
live in the fantasy world he had imagined.
For a time, it was just as he had
dreamed. The wine flowed freely, the
money flowed freely, and the girls and his
friends adored him.
However, one day, his virtual reality
hit some glitches. There was a famine in
the land. He ran out of money. His friends
deserted him. “No man gave unto him.”
He was forced to eat the slop of pigs.
Still, the incredible graphics and
amazing effects of his mental virtual world
concealed reality. Perhaps he thought
he could give the real world a “thumbs
down,” and he would never see it again.
Maybe this was just a “reality” show; and
if he succeeded, there was a camera crew
and one million dollars waiting for him just
beyond the pig farm. Maybe there was a
token buried in the mud that would lead
to a different level in this video game of his
life. Regardless of the reason, he remained
blind to reality.
Eventually, however, his “virtual
goggles” fell off. When he “came to
himself,” he saw a different world. His real
TEEN CORNER
world was a pig sty; his father’s house was
a haven. Now, he just wanted to be home
with his father. Repenting and forsaking
his self-made pig pen, he headed home.
Nearing home, he saw his father—the
prison warden of his virtual life—and
ran to him. Hugging and clothing his son
with the cloak and ring of authority, his
father proclaimed him loved, forgiven, and
restored.
While his virtual world had come to an
end, he now lived in a joyous reality.
Many teenagers create a virtual world
in their minds just like the prodigal son.
“Friending” and “unfriending” people with
the click of a mouse or the tap of a finger,
they have no concept of reality. Then,
when the famine comes, they are unable
to cope in a real world.
Learn a lesson from the prodigal
son. Choose the reality of your Heavenly
Father’s eternal love instead of the virtual,
temporal love of a cruel world.
The world will forsake you. The Father
will not. That is reality!
(Archie Parrish is the youth pastor at Fairhaven
Baptist Church.)
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CURRENT ISSUES
Navigating Technology
Pastor Dave Malliank (‘93)
According to legend, in 1779 Ned
Ludd smashed two mechanical
stocking frames, launching a
Luddite revolution of rage against
machines. The term “Luddite” eventually
came to be associated with the fear of
technology and technological change,
but the original Luddites were more
concerned that business owners valued
machines above their workers. Eventually,
the British Parliament outlawed “machine
breaking”—laws which apparently do not
apply to Fords or laptops.
No doubt many sympathize with the
Luddites. The new American posture is
hunched over the cell phone texting. We
are distracted, preoccupied, unfeeling,
apathetic, cold, mechanical, superficial,
caught up in the virtual world at the
expense of the real. We wish that
our lives could be as wonderful as we
make them appear on Facebook. Our
technological explosion strips away
our values and robs us of our souls.
As a result, some Christians have
gone the Amish route, rejecting any
technology made after they turned forty.
Others live by the “gotta have it” creed.
They wholeheartedly and uncritically
embrace every technological advance.
Their cell phone is their lifeline. They
camp out at Best Buy before Black
Friday, think Cyber-Monday should
be a national holiday, and anxiously
await the next version of the iPhone.
Technophobes reject technology;
technophiles relish it. Both take a wrong
view. We cannot reject all technology
outright. Rejecting the keyboard in
favor of pen and paper does not qualify
as a rejection of technology: only as a
rejection of a certain era of technology.
The Amish arbitrarily reject technologies
made after the mid-1800s. They do not
reject all technology. Technology itself
is inescapable. But Christians must not
embrace it uncritically. God commands us
to “prove all things, hold fast that which is
good.” All things considered, technology is
a blessing. Be glad you don’t need to wash
your clothes on a rock or a washboard.
How then should a Christian approach
technology? First, we should understand
that technology is good. Although God
did not create technology, He did ordain
our use of it. How else was man to
dress and keep the garden? And when
God told Adam to name the animals, He
ordered technology. Anthropologists
have long identified language as the first
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technology—a tool for communication.
As God used words to create the world,
mankind also uses words to create. Think
of all we have made with computer code.
Secondly, Christians must understand
that technology has a bias and a set of
values. Technology is not neutral. If you
try to drive a screw with your cell phone,
you will run into trouble. The screwdriver
app has yet to be developed, Dr. Who
aside. Every different technology has its
own unique bias—a way that it insists
on being used. Bluetooth speakers play
music differently than a bassoon. My
father taught me that there is a right
way and a wrong way to wax the car.
Imagine that: right and wrong applied
to a chamois. Every technology has its
own unique set of values, whether a
wrench, a car, a blog, or a coffeemaker.
Technologies have values, but they
also shape values. Many people now
prefer text messages to phone calls. We
would rather google a question than ask
someone who knows. We would rather
drive than walk. Technology has changed
what we value. Think of the way television
and social media teach us what to think
about world events, tell us what matters,
and insist that we all yield our individuality
to the tyranny of “cool culture.”
Thirdly, Christians should understand
that technology empowers and enslaves.
Technology extends our natural powers
in phenomenal ways. Our devices enable
us both to see and hear our loved ones
from across the world through video
conferencing. Our feet can carry us
long distances in short times thanks
to airline travel. We can do so much
more because of our devices. I recently
replaced the windows on my house,
having never done windows before. How
did I learn? I watched YouTube videos.
Because technology empowers us so
much, we have become very dependent
on our devices. But the more we
depend on them, the more they demand
from us. Probably the best example
of the enslaving power of technology
is the way our cell phones dominate
our lives. Every ring, buzz, or blink
beckons us to pay attention, and we do.
Technology shapes us, but technology
also exposes us, revealing what is in
our hearts. Covetous people spend
hours searching. Lustful people
spend hours viewing. Self-absorbed
people spend hours Facebooking. For
many, cell phones and accessories
are more about status than utility.
Technology projects what you really are.
So, while technology is a blessing,
we must not set our hearts on the riches
offered us by means of our devices.
We cannot serve God and mammon.
Examine the demands that technology
makes on you; examine yourself and your
use of technology; examine the values
technology promotes; and receive the
wealth of technology with a heart of
submission and gratitude towards God.
(Dave Mallinak has been the pastor of Berean Baptist
Church in Ogden, Utah, since 2001.)
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OUTREACH
About Evangelism
Dr. Randy Starr
“…woe is unto me, if I preach not the gospel!”
~ I Corinthians 9:16b
The word evangelism is a form of
the word gospel. Evangelism has
the word angel in it which means
“messenger or proclaimer of the news.”
Evangelism means “to herald, proclaim, or
announce the good news.” The evangelist
is “one who proclaims the good news.” The
verb meaning to evangelize is translated
“preach” 47 times.
In evangelism, God is accomplishing
two things: (1) Getting the good news
(that a lost person can be saved) to every
person in the earth; (2) Training believers
to be more like Him reaching out to the
lost. Jesus came “to seek and to save that
which was lost” (Luke 19:10).
In the Bible, we find examples of
those who evangelized. God was literally
the first evangelist. Galatians 3:8 says “...
God...preached before the gospel unto
Abraham....” God announced the gospel
ahead of time to Abraham.
Jesus also evangelized as Luke 20:1
says, “...he...preached the gospel....”
We know that Christ spread the gospel
everywhere; and we, as believers, are to
follow in His steps. In fact, all of God’s men
evangelized. Acts 8:25 says that the twelve
apostles “preached the gospel in many
villages of the Samaritans.”
Paul and Barnabas, the first
missionaries, evangelized Lystra and
Derbe. Acts 14:7 says, “And there they
preached the gospel.” This is what Bible
missionaries do. This is what God’s men
do. Paul even said Christ sent him to
“preach the gospel” (I Corinthians 1:17).
He was always “ready to preach the
gospel” (Romans 1:15). Each missionary
must do the work of evangelism first. A
church planter’s work is first and foremost
evangelism.
But II Timothy 4:5 commands the
pastor to “do the work of an evangelist.”
No pastor worth his salt ignores his
responsibility of visiting folks and trying
to win the lost to Christ. He must train
and motivate his church to win others but
cannot effectively do that without being
an example of going out to try to win the
lost himself. This training and example
is missing in too many churches in our
day. Rather than building the church by
transfers from other churches, the pastor
must see what the early church saw. “The
Lord added to the church daily such as
should be saved” (Acts 2:47).
By the very title of his office, the
evangelist has an obligation to preach the
gospel too. Like the other ministers listed,
the evangelist is a gift to local churches
“for the work of perfecting the saints, for
the work of the ministry, for the edifying
of the body of Christ” (Ephesians 4:11-12).
Perfecting means “maturing.” In the Bible,
an example of an evangelist was Philip
(Acts 21:8), who had an itinerant ministry
of going from city to city preaching the
Word of the Lord (Acts 8:5, 25, 40).
The truth is that every believer is
commanded to witness and make disciples
for Christ. Matthew 28:19-20 gives us
Christ’s Great Commission to go to all
nations with the gospel. Acts 8:4 shows
us the example of the early church,
“Therefore they that were scattered
abroad went every where preaching the
word.” These were the people of the
church of Jerusalem since the leaders all
stayed behind in Jerusalem. Remember
these believers could not have done this
without training and experience from their
local church before they were scattered.
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You cannot win the lost until you go to
evangelize. Working on the building, in the
nursery, with the youth, in the sound room,
singing in the choir, or teaching a class are
all vital; but they are not a substitute for
going out from the church to witness. The
most important element in evangelism is
going.
If we are serious about reaching our
city for Christ, we must have a planned
soulwinning training program at our
church, and believers must be committed
to it.
(Dr. Randy Starr is a local church evangelist sent out
from Mt. Zion Baptist Church in Brogue, Pennsylvania.)
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MISSIONS
Expected and Attempted
Pat Gordon (‘88)
William Carey is often called The
Father of Modern Missions. He
led a missionary team of men
and women as pioneers in India. For more
than 40 years, without a furlough, the Lord
used Carey—and those serving with him—
to lay the foundations of Christianity in
dozens of unreached people groups.
A full testimonial of the Lord’s working
through William Carey’s life and ministry
would fill many volumes, but Carey’s path
was not easy as he followed the will of
God. In reality, opposition to God’s will
and call to be a missionary came from
every direction.
His father, a devout Christian, upon
hearing of Carey’s intent to follow God’s
leading to a foreign land, responded, “Are
you mad?”
His wife refused (for more than two
years) his pleading about the Lord’s calling
and stated, “Come what will, I and the
children will remain in England.”
Many fellow Christians expressed
their doubts. It was a common sentiment
in “Christian” England; and Carey was
told over and over again, “Men must be
civilized before receiving the truth.”
English Baptist pastors of the day
rebuked him sharply on many occasions.
During a public meeting, Carey expressed
the need to actively reach out around the
world to give the gospel to the lost. One of
Carey’s closest personal mentors reproved
him: “Young man, sit down: when God
pleases to convert the heathen, He will
do it without your aid or mine! You are a
miserable enthusiast. . . . What, sir, can you
preach in Arabic, in Persian, in Hindustani,
in Bengali, that you think it your duty to
send the gospel to the heathen?”
British government officials and their
surrogates opposed his plans to (as they
put it) “influence the natives.” They
stopped him from settling in Britishcontrolled
India and declared, “You are a
danger to the empire!”
What can be learned from William
Carey’s life and example in light of the
billions of people in the world—the vast
majority who have still not heard the
gospel even one time? What can be
applied and result in many more believers
going and serving in the uttermost places
that are still without a gospel witness?
1. Bring examples of missions in the
Scriptures to the forefront. While Carey
struggled with the opposition mentioned,
he attended a meeting where two pastors
preached back-to-back messages on the
needs of the lost. The Lord used Isaiah 54
verses two and three in Carey’s heart. In
turn, God gave him a sermon to “enlarge
the place of thy tent” through which he
challenged all to expect great things from
God and to attempt great things for God.
The surrender of people, young and old,
to the mission fields of this world will not
primarily come from the preaching of a
visiting missionary. It will come through
the brokenness and burden of pastors,
youth pastors, Sunday school teachers,
and parents.
2. Read challenging missionary biographies.
After William Carey was saved,
he read the recently published accounts of
the journeys of Captain James Cook. Cook’s
writings about people groups around
the world were seeds planted in Carey’s
heart. Carey told everyone who would
listen about how the Spirit of God brought
forth in his soul the idea of evangelizing
the world. We need a revival of reading
challenging missionary biographies! Start
by reading and praying through complete
and unabridged volumes of The Life and
Diary of David Brainerd, Hudson Taylor and
the China Inland Mission, Borden of Yale,
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John Paton: Missionary Patriarch, Mary
Slessor: White Queen of the Cannibals, and
To the Golden Shore: The Life of Adoniram
Judson. Do not settle for shortened easyto-read
editions.
3. Display world maps and details of
unreached people groups. Hanging on a
wall in his shoe shop, Carey had a roughly
sketched map of the world; facts and
figures were handwritten on the map to
remind him of the great task of reaching
the world for Christ. An occasional prayer
letter, missionary names on a list, and a
one-time-each-year emphasis on missions
is not nearly enough. Missions must be
seen and heard in our homes and from
our pulpits throughout the entire year.
Publications, websites, and ministries are
devoted solely to making these materials
and information available. People,
especially the younger generation, will not
surrender to those things which are not
seen as important!
4. Have a burden and take personal
responsibility for other lands. William
Carey published a well-researched
pamphlet which included the details of
the lost in the uttermost. He entitled it An
Enquiry into the Obligations of Christians
to Use Means for the Conversion of the
Heathen.... Look into your heart and take
full responsibility for the billions of people
around this world who have not yet heard
the gospel.
Let us expect great things from God
and attempt great things for God as we
follow the Scriptures:
“Here am I; send me.”
– Isaiah 6:8
“Lord, what wilt thou have me to do?”
– Acts 9:6
“Pray ye therefore the Lord of the harvest,
that he would send forth
labourers into his harvest.”
– Luke 10:2
(Pat Gordon is the Vice President for Development
and Recruitment for Fundamental Baptist World-
Wide Mission of Memphis, Tennessee.)
FBC Internship Program Highlights
Jared Dircks (top) serving in Cambodia and
Jim Hunt in Zambia, Africa.
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FAMILY
Getting Your Child to Obey
Dave Olson
As our society moves away from
God, many people have rejected
the idea that children need to obey.
Others think that expecting obedience
is an exercise in futility. In fact, even
among parents who wish their children
would follow instructions, many think it is
impossible.
Let’s remember that God is the One
Who demands that children obey their
parents—“Children, obey your parents in
the Lord: for this is right” (Ephesians 6:1).
Further, the Lord put the responsibility on
parents, especially the fathers, to ensure
that their children obey—“bring them up
in the nurture and admonition of the Lord”
(Ephesians 6:4). The word nurture means
“to educate and train,” and the word
admonition refers to rebuke and warning.
If you ever hope to get your children to
obey, you must use God’s methods. Those
who have forsaken Biblical principles for
child rearing have reaped a disappointing
harvest. Though most in our nation have
grown to accept temper tantrums, teenage
rebellion, and disrespect for authority as
normal, it is not the result that God wants
produced.
Never accept the notion that some
children are born better than others.
Perhaps you have been tempted to say,
“Some parents have it so easy.” The truth
is that all children are born sinners—“they
go astray as soon as they be born, speaking
lies” (Psalm 58:3). We must remember
that a good child is nothing more than
a bad child who has been instructed,
trained, and disciplined properly. Parents
can expect results in proportion to their
adherence to God’s guidelines for child
rearing. For instance, those who diligently
follow the Bible’s instructions starting
when their child is young will have much
better results than those who start later
in life or are not consistent in applying
Biblical truth. Thankfully, God’s promise
still applies today, “Train up a child in the
way he should go: and when he is old, he
will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6).
Three things that will help you to
produce obedience in your child are
instruction, training, and discipline. First,
God’s words must be daily taught and
applied—“thou shalt teach them diligently
unto thy children, and shalt talk of them
when thou sittest in thine house, and
when thou walkest by the way, and when
thou liest down, and when thou risest
up” (Deuteronomy 6:7). Second, training
is necessary. The word train means “to
initiate, to narrow.” Initiation requires that
we start pointing our children in the right
direction early in life. When we consider
the term to narrow, we understand that we
are to put limits on our children. Contrary
to popular belief, telling your children “no”
is actually good for them! Unfortunately,
most parents allow their children to do as
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they please with little or no repercussions.
Third, obedience is reinforced by discipline.
After you have taken the time to instruct
and train your child, you must correct him
when he disobeys. The word discipline
refers to correction. “Correct thy son,
and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall
give delight unto thy soul” (Proverbs
29:17). The motive for discipline should
be love and must always be measured and
controlled. A parent who takes the time
to Biblically teach and correct his child will
produce an obedient child. If what you
are doing is not working, you better check
your methods against the Bible.
(Dave Olson is the Director of Missions at Fairhaven
Baptist College.)
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