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<strong>IQ</strong> HR<br />
How our relationships<br />
affect our emails<br />
Jacqui Kemp, from Namasté Culture, discusses how our<br />
relationships affect the way we decipher emails<br />
In this electronic age, we rely a lot<br />
on email to communicate at work.<br />
While this can be effective, it has been<br />
found that email is more likely to be<br />
misinterpreted and increase tension.<br />
Research carried out by Professor<br />
Albert Mehrabian found that when<br />
discussing our attitudes or feelings, we<br />
receive the message in the following<br />
way:<br />
7% from the words used<br />
38% from the tone of voice<br />
55% from the body language.<br />
Based on this research, if we are<br />
communicating data by email it should<br />
not be open to misinterpretation,<br />
because we are not sharing attitudes<br />
or feelings.<br />
However, I believe that our attitude<br />
towards the sender can have a negative<br />
impact on the message we take from<br />
the email.<br />
Consider a time when you have<br />
received an email from someone you<br />
had a difficult relationship with; when<br />
the email came in did you look at their<br />
name and think ‘Oh good, I wonder<br />
if this is the information I’ve been<br />
waiting for?’ Or did you look at the<br />
sender’s name and think ‘Now what?’<br />
When I receive emails from someone<br />
I have a difficult relationship with, I<br />
may find my shoulders drop, I slouch<br />
and my chin moves towards my desk.<br />
Neuroscience has found that our<br />
moods are directly affected by our<br />
body language, so by slouching I<br />
have added 55% of negativity to the<br />
message before I have even opened<br />
the email.<br />
I also add a tone of voice to the<br />
message when I am reading it, one<br />
that is less than enthusiastic!<br />
This means that I am only really<br />
receiving 7% of what is being<br />
communicated by the sender<br />
in the words that<br />
they use, and I<br />
have added<br />
the remaining<br />
93% of the<br />
meaning<br />
based on<br />
how I feel<br />
about the<br />
sender.<br />
I am not unique<br />
in this - we all tend<br />
to do it. By becoming<br />
aware that I am adding to<br />
the tension, what I need to do is take<br />
a deep breath when I see those emails<br />
come in, lift my head up and smile<br />
before I open the message. Asking<br />
someone else to read out the email in<br />
a neutral tone of voice can also help<br />
the recipient to get the true meaning.<br />
In the next issue I will talk about how<br />
we can improve our relationships<br />
by becoming aware of our body<br />
language.<br />
More Information<br />
Jacqui Kemp is a trainer and therapist at Namasté Culture.<br />
For more information call 01954 267640 or email jacqui@namasteculture.co.uk<br />
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