Disbanded Brothers – Has a ‘Feminised’ Church Alienated Men in the UK?
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spaces (whe<strong>the</strong>r play<strong>in</strong>g or watch<strong>in</strong>g football, go<strong>in</strong>g to <strong>the</strong> pub, etc.) and o<strong>the</strong>r contexts of<br />
<strong>the</strong>ir lives are predom<strong>in</strong>antly male, or gender balanced. It is worth recognis<strong>in</strong>g that many<br />
men may feel threatened by this unfamiliar m<strong>in</strong>ority status. If <strong>the</strong> adults <strong>in</strong> <strong>the</strong> typical church<br />
described by Tearfund (which was only 35% male) were to sit <strong>in</strong> a circle for a time of worship<br />
or prayer, an average man would have two women on his left and two women on his right,<br />
and he may be tempted to conclude that Christianity is for women ra<strong>the</strong>r than men. We turn<br />
now to look at some specific aspects of fem<strong>in</strong>isation.<br />
4.3.1 <strong>Church</strong> Worship<br />
Perhaps <strong>the</strong> ma<strong>in</strong> focus of those who criticise <strong>the</strong> <strong>Church</strong> for hav<strong>in</strong>g become fem<strong>in</strong>ised is<br />
that its worship is too ‘touchy-feely’, overemotional or over-personal. This has been<br />
derogatorily called ‘Jesus is my boyfriend’ (or, more provocatively, ‘girlfriend’) worship. As<br />
Murrow (2005a, 187) argues, “today’s praise music <strong>in</strong>vites <strong>the</strong> worshipper to assume <strong>the</strong><br />
fem<strong>in</strong><strong>in</strong>e role” and praise music can resemble <strong>the</strong> Top 40 love songs. 12 Here are three<br />
examples from (many) such worship songs:<br />
“By Your Side” by Noel and Tricia Richards<br />
©1989 K<strong>in</strong>gsway’s Thankyou Music<br />
By Your side I would stay;<br />
In Your arms I would lay.<br />
Jesus, lover of my soul,<br />
Noth<strong>in</strong>g from You I withhold.<br />
Lord, I love You, and adore You;<br />
What more can I say?<br />
You cause my love to grow stronger<br />
With every pass<strong>in</strong>g day.<br />
(Repeat)<br />
“From <strong>the</strong> Sleep of Ages” by Stuart Townend<br />
©1995 K<strong>in</strong>gsway’s Thankyou Music<br />
(Based on <strong>the</strong> ‘beloved’ woman’s responses <strong>in</strong> Song of Songs 1-2)<br />
From <strong>the</strong> sleep of ages,<br />
I am stirred by <strong>the</strong> kiss of love,<br />
By <strong>the</strong> fragrant perfume<br />
When His name is mentioned.<br />
I have learned to wait for Him,<br />
To receive His presence<br />
With <strong>the</strong> sound of laughter,<br />
And <strong>the</strong> joy of rest<strong>in</strong>g.<br />
But listen, my Lover<br />
Is com<strong>in</strong>g from heaven’s throne!<br />
Over <strong>the</strong> mounta<strong>in</strong>s, leap<strong>in</strong>g <strong>the</strong> hills,<br />
He runs like a deer through <strong>the</strong> open pla<strong>in</strong>;<br />
Gaz<strong>in</strong>g through w<strong>in</strong>dows,<br />
Peer<strong>in</strong>g through doors,<br />
My Lover is call<strong>in</strong>g and call<strong>in</strong>g aga<strong>in</strong>…<br />
“What a Friend I’ve Found” by Mart<strong>in</strong> Smith<br />
©1996 Curious? Music <strong>UK</strong><br />
What a friend I’ve found,<br />
Closer than a bro<strong>the</strong>r;<br />
I have felt Your touch,<br />
More <strong>in</strong>timate than lovers.<br />
Jesus, Jesus,<br />
12 Pivec (2006, 14) f<strong>in</strong>ds corroborative evidence from Dr Barry Liesch, author of The New Worship, that “There’s<br />
def<strong>in</strong>itely a trend toward a more <strong>in</strong>timate music style.”<br />
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