Hypnosis for Inner Conflict Resolution

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Chapter 5The First Four StepsAfter properly preparing my client for parts therapy and verifyingsufficient hypnotic depth, I move right on into the first four steps.They appear together in one chapter because a skilled therapist mayflow through the first three smoothly enough to blend themtogether almost as one step. The fourth step follows immediatelyafter the part emerges and responds. My students learn the steps byexamining each one separately in order to understand what to say,and why.Although I include scripts where appropriate, you may paraphrasethem to your comfort. You should still obtain results with most ofyour clients if you follow the steps in accordance with the conceptspresented in these pages. In addition to the scripts, a sample sessionis included to further demonstrate the steps. The sample sessionappears in sans-serif type, and the scripts appear in bold serif type.Rather than asking my students to memorize scripts for the elevensteps, I encourage them to understand the concepts behind eachstep of the parts therapy process.5.1 The risk of imagery in parts therapySome therapists who enjoy guided imagery and Ericksonian techniquesmay notice the absence of imagery in most of my scripts.Numerous therapists take the client to an imaginary room with aconference table. Several years ago, I personally experienced partstherapy with a therapist leading me into an imaginary conferenceroom. While that imaginary place was fine for me, similar imagerycould push buttons with a client who heard bad news (or got fired)while sitting in a conference room.Some therapists guide a client to a meadow or some other imaginaryplace for calling out the parts. Programmed imagery that the51
Hypnosis for Inner Conflict Resolutionresolve their dispute. Linda is like the motivating part and Rogerrepresents the conflicting part. Obviously Linda will probably havea strong desire to come to the mediation table, because she hasalready demonstrated her motivation to make a change; but whatabout Roger? He continues working, business as usual, eitherignoring Linda or causing her more stress because he believes hisway is the right way.If Linda spills her negative opinions about Roger or his department,how might Roger react if I show any indication of taking Linda’sside? My best chance of persuading Roger to talk is to thank him foragreeing to allow me to mediate, compliment him, and make himfeel that he may safely communicate his opinions. This metaphorholds true for parts therapy, because we obtain best results by treatingeach part with the same courtesy and respect as we might usewith a separate person.We start building rapport by complimenting the part and by providingsome assurance that it will not be subjected to criticism bythe therapist. This especially applies to the conflicting part, because,if it believes the therapist will take sides with the motivating part,the conflicting part might refuse to respond. We must remain neutralthroughout the entire parts therapy process, acting like anobjective mediator.By gaining rapport quickly, we increase the chances of effectivecommunication with all parts involved. Conversely, if we sabotagerapport, building it back is much more difficult than gaining andmaintaining good rapport from the start. One of my former studentslost rapport with a part during parts therapy, and it took himtwo additional sessions to regain it and get the therapy back ontrack. (He provided the extra sessions at no charge to compensateher for his mistake.)I’ll return to the metaphor. In my classes, I demonstrate Step 2 bysaying, “Roger, thank you for coming to this discussion. You aredoing important work for Company XYZ, and probably have goodreasons for doing what you are doing. Linda will listen withoutinterrupting, and I will listen …” The participant in my workshopposing as Roger almost always agrees that he would communicatewhen asked in this manner. Let’s consider an unwise alternative.54
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