“PARENTS ARE WRONG WE DO HAVE SEX…”

Page 4BrushUpOnYourBeautyFRIDAY, OCTOBER 5 2012ISSUE No.1“PARENTS ARE WRONG,WE DO HAVE SEX…” Page 2Young people shocked their parents by admitting tohave started having sex in a community dialogue atLamgabhi. The dialogue was attended by Indvunayenkhudla, bucopho, rural health motivators, parentsand young people. Appeal to parents to allow themto go to community events where they can getknowledge and skills about sexuality the young peoplebetween the age of 15 to 24 years revealed thatthey do not get in-depth information about sexualityfrom their parents at home. This is cause for concernbecause Parents want young people, particularlygirls, to abstain. How is this possible without talkingto them about sex and growing up. Who is to talk tothese girls (young people) so that they do not havesex early?(Continues on page 2)Doughnuts and dialogues at US embassy every month for every youth. Book your place and share your mind…It‟s Not Culture; It Is Not a Religious Practice;So Why Didn‟t Swazis Say Anything About It?See Page 3Should government sponsored students payback their scholarships so that other Swazichildren get the same privilege?See Page 3

Page 3What is your name?Siyabonga Vuyani DlaminiHow old are you?20Where in Swazilandare you from?I live in TicantfwiniWhat do you think isthe biggest issue facingyouth today in Swaziland?What work haveyou done for the youthof Swaziland?The biggestissue facing youth ofSwaziland is ignoranceand the "I don't care attitude".Most of young peoplehave the informationat their disposal and theyare choosing not to use it,if you look at issues ofteen-pregnancy and drugabuse it’s not the lack ofinformation but its ignorance...Ithink we havepassed the stage of peerpressure and lack ofawareness of SRH issues.Who is your rolemodel and why?I do not have one particularperson that I can say Isincerely look up to. Anyonewho makes a positivechange in other peopleslives be it at school, inchurch, at community level.I consider that personmy role model.What are your passions?What inspiresyou?I'm passionate aboutworking with young people,being in their companywhilst working togetherThe BigQuestionCangovernmentsponsoredformerstudents payback their scholarships so that other Swazi childrenget the same privilege? Many Swazis weregiven scholarship by the government. This wasa good initiativebecause it gave most Swazis thetowards a common goal .Ienjoy seeing them makinga positive change in theirlives is what inspires.What do you doas a hobby or recreationalpast time?I'm not a sport fanatic butI like watching soccer andplaying pool.What are your plansfor the future?My plans for the futureare to go to Universityand get an Honours, andhopefully a Masters oreven PhD but whatever Iend up doing, my goal inlife its to continue workingwith young people as theytry to make the world abetter place.Why do you think youwere selected as 'Youthof the Month'?I think I was selected tobe the ‘Youth of theMonth’ because of thededication , effort andlove that i have for workingwith young people.One funny/interestingthing about you thatmost people don'tknow?I am a really really goodcook. I can cook everything.Know a youth that deservesto be „Youth ofthe Month inSwaziland? E-mail yournominations toec.thepress@gmail.comopportunity to go to university. Young Swazisare at the verge of losing that privilege. Is thisbecause those who enjoyed the privilege didnot pay? What is stopping them from paying? Ifa person wants to pay, where can that persongo to pay? What has the government done toensure that this money is paid. Here we ask thequestions that all young people ask.“Dopeoplechoose tobe gay?”For a few moments Ipondered the questionthat this stranger (nowmy best friend, a pillarin my life, and the kindof support that all gaypeople need) hadposed. I mean, whowould actually want tobe gay? Really Now!Then I responded,“Who would choose tobe disliked, ridiculed,and literally hated?” Atthat moment, I answeredmy own questionand that was whenI first „came out‟.In retrospect, I shouldhave responded to thisstranger with a stern “Idid not CHOOSE to begay” and that wouldhave been the end ofthe conversation. However,I‟m just not thatkind of person andfrom there a whole discussionensued.Recently I hung outwith this person againand it reminded me ofthat time. When it happenedten years ago, Iwanted to say that givenhalf a choice I would notchoose to be gay. But hey, ifwishes were horses… And I realizeI wouldn‟t change that foranything.I‟m alsoglad we hadthat conversationbecauseit sortof preparedme for thechallengesand manydifficultiesthat haveresultedfrom being gay in this society.Truthfully, being gay is as hardas being a prisoner on deathrow. If you are in the closet,you have no freedoms and alwayssort of in hiding. You constantlyhave to watch what youThere was a story in theSwazi News dated14 April 2012 that Ithought was importantto look at again. The factthat no one said anythingabout it meansthat stories like this oneare becoming commonsense, and this is notright.The story was about amother who told herdaughter to sleep withher boyfriend (mother‟sboyfriend). Both themother and the boyfriendwere living in aone room flat but due toillness, the mother toldher daughter to take herplace and bed with theboyfriend. Despite thechallenges of being illand still needing to havefood on the table, themother had no right totell her daughter to sleepwith the boyfriend.Even if this girl wasgiven a choice, she wasonly 15-years old,say, especially around certainpeople or you have to actwhich means that underthe constitution this isrape. This act wentagainst the young girl‟shuman rights and thesexual and reproductivehealth rights , and puther at risk of gettingpregnant, getting HIV orother STIs, which couldgive her problems moreserious than „paying thebills‟.Adults and church leadersare telling us asyoung people that weshould not engage insexual intercourse beforemarriage. We are shownverses from the bibleabout the importance ofholy matrimony and theconsummation of marriagebut adults in ourown society, people thatattend church, are doingthe opposite. They aresupposed to be our rolemodels.How are we supposedto listen to this when amother can force herdaughter to have intergenerationalsex, lets„straight‟. Being gay is toughenough, but living in this society?It is a full time job withoutany payment.Butwhat choicedoes onehave, to„come out? „Yeah right,then what,endure evenmore hardship,discriminationand hatred?I remember during that conversation,my friend later asked,“So why are you gay”? Tenyears later, I know that the onlypeople who would ever asksuch a question are not gay.Not that I take offense to it buther be raped by her boyfriendand no one seemsto be bothered? Whydon‟t our elders stand upfor the rights of thisyoung girl? The mediahas played their role bytelling us this story butwhat has our churchleaders done?D o S w a z i st h i n k i t ‟ so k a y t os l e e p w i t hy o u rm o t h e r ‟ sb o y f r i e n d ?What has our communityleaders done? Whathas our governmentdone? What have theydone to protect therights of the youth?If nothing is said aboutthese events, what is tobecome of the future?What will Swaziland belike in ten years if reportslike this becomecommonplace and whatof the ones that are notbeing reported?This mother and herboyfriend must be heldaccountable for their actions,and that adults actthe way that they wanttheir children to act.Young people it's nowtime for our voice to beheard.By Vusie Wax Mthuphathe answer is not straightforward.I mean being gay variesfrom individual to individual.Most people don‟t realize thereare different degrees of homosexuality;or worse, they compareyou to someone else theyknow (or heard of) that is gay,as if we are all somehow thesame. Why is it that „straight‟guys can be different but gayguys are somehow all thesame? I am me. I can only beme and the me that I am isgay. I just am. Period.How I came to this realizationshall be explained in an upcomingarticle.Florence NightengayleWrite to us at ec.thepress@gmail.com so we can ask the questions you want to ask.

4Kulukhuni Heh!‟Some people never cease to amuse me, lol. sisilongu MC welicembhu sisi. Asengitibutele njekutsi “ubafunani labafanyana umdzala kangaka!”Wacalaphi kubo Fash nyalo sokunangubengititsembelekuya! Awuboni yini kutsium‟dzala utawutselela labantfwana letinswayitakho!! Good tip, get a life sisi, utfole labangangawe….Wuuu! Cha uyatihlaza. Ahhh! Asewubindzemntfwana wemalangeni utoba ngumuntfu.Ayi! KuseMahlanyeni‟Cha! No offense peeps but cha siyabonga kubhuti DJ kugcwalisa population mnakefu. I meanwena at the age of 23 una 4 webantfwana!!!From 3 different mothers, hhayi no! ngabe ucompita naban shem ngoba nalokondlakuyakwehlula. Advice from a friend (not sure ifthis is necessary) “usesemncane nawungaka,yini lokukwehlulako ngekuhlela nje?”Huge Stab In the Back‟Uyabona bakaNgwane basuke bacinisile nabatsi“your best friend is your biggest enemy”. I can‟timagine it is happening to me and I wonder whatyou are going through sweetie. Ey ngoba batsi ligamalemuntfu yinkhomo no names are gonna bementioned. So this famous dude from TV just gotthe bad news that his colleague has impregnated hisgirlfriend. I don‟t understand, sisi, what was so hardabout just sticking to one partner??? I hope thatthey have learnt their lesson. All IBrushUpOnYourBeautyThe Crew From“The Press” wentto ask the expertsat Clicks: „How dowe get a naturallook with our makeup that looks nicebut not overdone?”1. Make sure your face is clean.Use a gentle facial soap or justwarm water and a cloth.To advertise here, call25053082Youth With Purposeby Ntokozo MdluliYouth is the most treasures stage inthe lifetime of humankind. It is duringthis point in life whereby new hopesand dreams accumulate andambitions accelerate. However, theyouthful stage can also be the cause of your downfall either temporary or forever.Life is short yet it offers wideopportunities and knowing that, is just realising your capabilities and then takingfull charge in yourresponsibilities.We are young people so blessed with many resources but still we find it tough tosurvive in life. Many young people are messing around and their blessings are beingcompromised. In their yesteryears our elders used to cherish the youth andcheerfully say; “Oh the young shall grow.” But now we live in an era where theyoung are full of mischief and I have no doubt in declaring that; “Surely theyoung shall die if they continue living in that way”2. To tweeze your eyebrows applya moisturizer to avoid irritation.area with a sponge wedge. Go to the3. Apply a foundation evenly overyour face and blend into the neckcosmetic section to find the right tone tomatch your skin. Apply a pressed powderto face to “set” the foundation.4. Then apply a neutral eye shadow wasto the whole eyelid.Because her skin is acinnamon tone we chose a shimmerylight gold.5. Apply any other colourjust along the edge of thelid. We use a shimmerypurple. Follow this with mascara.6. Before putting on the light shimmeringpink gloss on, line your lips with aliner slightly darker than your lip colour.7. Apply with a blusher brush to yourcheek bones to give a healthy glow.And Voila!!!!Remember to remove the make up withfacial wipes which cleanse, tone andmoisturize, or warm water then moisturizer.Anyway, those who play with cats really deserve to be scratched. However, theysay while there is hope and yes we do need hope in order to cope. Being a youthwith purpose, we have great hope that sometime in the future all the bad shallgive way.A healthy nation is one that comprises young people so vibrant, with minds sobrilliant; faces always looking jubilant, as well asaddressing issues that arerelevant. Let us join hands together and nurturethe hope of our future.Precious young people, we must beat ignoranceand show zero tolerance to evil prevalence. Trynot to be the weak link in the quality chain. Forwithout purpose life is a motion without meaning,activity without direction and yes withoutpurpose I suppose life would be pointless.Solution found at www.facebook.com/youthactionmovement-swazilandDear Sugar and Cutie H;Is it wrong to introduce my boyfriend to my familywhile I’m still at school?Thanks, *Undecided*Undecided,Don‟t worry so much, girl! Do what you feel is bestand talking to your parents openly is good. We thinkthat being truthful will always be the best option. Butthen again, what if you know your parents will not likeit? You may have the best intentions but they mightmisunderstand and see it as disrespectful. Or the minuteyou start slacking at school, for whatever reason,they may blame it on having a boyfriend. So we adviseyou to think it through, being honest is best butperhaps waiting until after you are finished school isbetter. And who knows, waiting may let you be surehe is even worth the introduction! Ya we said it. Xoxo.Sugar and Cutie HWrite to Sugar and Cutie H about all your love,relationship, sexuality and SRH questionsec.thepress@gmail.com