Erica - HER LIFE Magazine

that we felt did not exist.My husband and I chose to accept our daughter as she was givento us. Rather than to pretend it did not exist, we embellished herobtuse difference. We purposefully remind each of our four childrenthat differences make them special. Be it freckles, a surgical scar,a larger-than-average head; this “world’s biggest birthmark” is ourdaughter’s trademark. Naturally, she is asked many questions andendures extended glances. We deal with this normal human reactionby keeping an open line of communication regarding her feelings nottowards the mark itself, but as they relate to others’ reactions and howthe questions make her feel. Explaining why people ask questions andhelping her formulate an age appropriate response continues to workfor her. Additionally, it helps her peers learn acceptance.Perhaps the most important element in helping your child dealwith their changing body is to start early. Kids today are exposed toinformation from friends, the Internet, television and even radio. Talkingabout the issues of puberty and individual development, remainsan important job for parents because not all of this information comesfrom reliable sources. Parents should always be the main source ofaccurate information for their children. This, in turn, will result inpositive self image for your child and allow you, as parents, to keep the“glee” during your child’s development. ■Resources:KidsHealthhttp://kidshealth.org/parent/positive/talk/talk_about_puberty.html#HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 43