Biblical Counseling.pdf - Online Christian Library
Biblical Counseling.pdf - Online Christian Library Biblical Counseling.pdf - Online Christian Library
E. Working at Bringing Motivation into the Scene.1. A willingness to change is needed. Without a desire it will not likely take place.Godly sorrow works repentance (II Corinthians 7:10).2. All motivation must be based upon the Word of God. If it is not Scriptural it will notlast. The Word should be used properly as the best motivation(II Corinthians 5:11, 14).note:• Help the person see his position in Christ Jesus (Ephesians 1:3-12).• Help him see what Christ desires of him (II Peter 1:3-12).• Help him by a punishment/reward system that will give him impetus to change.(See Malachi 3:9-13; Deuteronomy 11:18-25.)F. Helping Them Structure Things toward Change.1. All structuring is very important, for it sets the stage for change.2. Every Christian has a battle between the old nature and the new nature, and thisnaturally brings inward conflict. The flesh is filled with sinful, often very wicked,desires.3. The counselee's activities, surroundings, and associations should be consistent withand aid his avowed desire to put off a sinful practice (Romans 13:14). EveryChristian has lust within his members.4. Structure facilitates change as the counselee puts himself into a new environment tobring change.5. One must rearrange his environment, schedules, activities, etc., to becomefacilitators rather than impediments to change.6. The person must do what God desires him to do. There is personal responsibilitytoward godliness which must be faced.G. We Must Help the Person "Break the Links" in the Chain of Sin.1. We must help him trace the problem back to its origin and stop the problem at itsoutset.note: This may also necessitate understanding the programming-- sinful self-talk practices--attitudes-- emotions-- and finally the behavioral aspects. This may mean we will need tounderstand much of their past which has led to their viewpoints, habitual sinful practices, etc.2. Chaining is a proven learning theory as well as a Biblical concept. It asserts that bymanipulating the various components in the chain of sin you can prevent the finalbehavior from occurring.note: Many counselors and counselees think of change only in terms of changing the fullblownproblem. It is important to break the problem down into all of its component parts.The failure to work out our problems daily will bring frustration-- and the person willprobably "blow up" or become very depressed.©2000, Revival in the Home Ministries 36
3. To break the chain of sin requires ability to stop an action. This could take place atthe point of resistance or at a point of restraint.note: Resistance is the God-given ability that makes it possible for the person to delay hisresponses. We are not as animals who live by reflex only. We do have brains that enable us toresist and reject a sinful course of action. When we do not practice such rejection it is probablybecause we would rather enjoy the sinful action, thought, etc. Or we just did not work atcatching ourselves in the sinful practice.The goal is Biblical "action" not sinful "reaction." We are to be controlled by the Scripturesand not by the situation. Breaking the destructive patterns that "accelerate sin" involves thestructuring and development of new responses. Resistance is to work at preventing the practice.Illus: Instead of screaming, the mother works at developing the habit of speaking softly.(Note Proverbs 15:1; 16:32; 29: 11, 20; 30:33.)Restraint is to work at curtailing the problem . Restraint is the approach when the resistancefails. It is stopping oneself prior to going too far in sinful responses or habitual action.Restraint is the "recognition of sin" and seeking immediate forgiveness for it and obtaininghelp to discontinue the sin. It is thought before action or speech as the element in therestraint of evil. Memorization and meditation on the Word of God are very helpful in all ofthis effort toward change.H. Aiding in the Practice of New Patterns.It is very important to help the counselees discipline themselves in order to have the"key" to holiness. There is no option for godliness as the goal of the Christian life. One'swhole life must be disciplined, set up, organized and running day by day toward the goalof Christlike living. It will necessitate sacrifice; there are no shortcuts.VI. Getting Help From Others for Biblical Change.Change is difficult because without thinking we respond to temper, we clam up, andinternalize resentment, etc. We live according to the sinful patterns and habits that we havedeveloped over the years.Others can aid in building new habits and the breaking of the sinful practices. This takeswillingness and an understanding that it is a process. The Scriptures continually stress the needfor "mutual help." (See Romans 15:1; Galatians 6:2.)People do not seek help for many reasons. Pride is one of the primary reasons ( ICorinthians 10:12; Proverbs 16:18). Because people are spiritually unwise they do not see theneed for the counsel they desperately need. They hate to admit they have failed and cannotmake it on their own and therefore need assistance.note: When people fight over things like squeezing the toothpaste tube in the middle, turninglights off, etc, they give evidence of a number of things.• Their problem is much bigger than the issue (or issues) over which they are currentlyquarreling.• They are not seeking solutions to problems; they are concerned about making points,proving themselves to be right, and the other wrong.• When there are flaming emotions over little issues it is because there are weightier issueswhich they have not settled. From those confrontations they have emotional hurtswhich affect their daily responses.©2000, Revival in the Home Ministries 37
- Page 1 and 2: Biblical CounselingSeminarMaterials
- Page 11 and 12: A. We must begin with the Scripture
- Page 13: Part twoBASIC THEOLOGICAL PRESUPPOS
- Page 17 and 18: C. Nouthetic Counseling includes at
- Page 19 and 20: Part FourTHE COMMITMENT TO BIBLICAL
- Page 21 and 22: make it imperative that the pastor
- Page 23 and 24: If the pastor-counselor does not ha
- Page 25 and 26: 2. Don't be afraid to tell the pers
- Page 27 and 28: note:• Verbal confession strength
- Page 29 and 30: Some people are emotionally control
- Page 31 and 32: ACTION OR BEHAVIOR--Directive Couns
- Page 33 and 34: overcoming anger, scheduling our ti
- Page 35: V. Basic Elements Involved in Bibli
- Page 39 and 40: Lord, and thy thoughts shall be est
- Page 41 and 42: The counselor must encourage people
- Page 43 and 44: is said in the counseling interview
- Page 45 and 46: III. When There Is Failure In Doing
- Page 47 and 48: Appendix ATHE NATURE OF COUNSELING
- Page 49 and 50: 6. The Word of God is added to a se
- Page 51 and 52: 3. Pastors are to counsel their peo
- Page 53 and 54: E. The Bible has the only clear ans
- Page 55 and 56: Appendix BRENEWING OUR MINDS AND ID
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- Page 61 and 62: Appendix CWORKING WITH CRISIS PROBL
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- Page 67 and 68: II. Counseling in Sexual Misconduct
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- Page 73 and 74: 4. Seek the defuse the suicide plan
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E. Working at Bringing Motivation into the Scene.1. A willingness to change is needed. Without a desire it will not likely take place.Godly sorrow works repentance (II Corinthians 7:10).2. All motivation must be based upon the Word of God. If it is not Scriptural it will notlast. The Word should be used properly as the best motivation(II Corinthians 5:11, 14).note:• Help the person see his position in Christ Jesus (Ephesians 1:3-12).• Help him see what Christ desires of him (II Peter 1:3-12).• Help him by a punishment/reward system that will give him impetus to change.(See Malachi 3:9-13; Deuteronomy 11:18-25.)F. Helping Them Structure Things toward Change.1. All structuring is very important, for it sets the stage for change.2. Every <strong>Christian</strong> has a battle between the old nature and the new nature, and thisnaturally brings inward conflict. The flesh is filled with sinful, often very wicked,desires.3. The counselee's activities, surroundings, and associations should be consistent withand aid his avowed desire to put off a sinful practice (Romans 13:14). Every<strong>Christian</strong> has lust within his members.4. Structure facilitates change as the counselee puts himself into a new environment tobring change.5. One must rearrange his environment, schedules, activities, etc., to becomefacilitators rather than impediments to change.6. The person must do what God desires him to do. There is personal responsibilitytoward godliness which must be faced.G. We Must Help the Person "Break the Links" in the Chain of Sin.1. We must help him trace the problem back to its origin and stop the problem at itsoutset.note: This may also necessitate understanding the programming-- sinful self-talk practices--attitudes-- emotions-- and finally the behavioral aspects. This may mean we will need tounderstand much of their past which has led to their viewpoints, habitual sinful practices, etc.2. Chaining is a proven learning theory as well as a <strong>Biblical</strong> concept. It asserts that bymanipulating the various components in the chain of sin you can prevent the finalbehavior from occurring.note: Many counselors and counselees think of change only in terms of changing the fullblownproblem. It is important to break the problem down into all of its component parts.The failure to work out our problems daily will bring frustration-- and the person willprobably "blow up" or become very depressed.©2000, Revival in the Home Ministries 36
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