Virginia Lang - HERLIFE Magazine

love & relationshipsAsk MaritsaBy Maritsa Yza guirrePhoto by Lorie RebeccaMaritsa Yzaguirre (Ritz) is the owner of Peace ofMind Counseling Services. A graduate of NSUpsychological studies, she is also a nationallycertified professional counselor. Maritsa focuseson helping couples and families communicate andenhance understanding. Just like anything in life,relationships take work. Email your questions toMaritsa at Maritsa@completeintervention.com.QI’ve been with my boyfriend for about five years now.We just had a baby six months ago and things seemedto be going great. I haven’t worked since my pregnancy.I was working as a bartender and my boyfriend and I workedat the same place. I know he used to talk to some of the girls atwork, but I never paid much attention to it because I knew hewas going home with me—he’s just friendly. We have had issuesin the past (him cheating,) but I thought we were over it until Isaw a heartbreaking text the other night. A girl we used to workwith texted him that she misses him and was waiting to see him.This broke my heart. I’m so confused. What do I do?Please help!-Mel, Cooper City, FLQI’m a pretty shy girl and there is this really cute guy atwork. How do I get him to notice me in the way I noticehim?-Celina, West Palm Beach, FLADear Mel,First, have you talked to him about what you’ve discovered?If not you need to. You need to get his side of thestory. This could just be some obsessed girl. If you all workedtogether she could have gotten his number many differentways. Give him a chance to explain. If it comes out that he gavehis number to this girl and there was more going on, then youhave to decide what you want to do. Chances are if he’s cheatedin the past and is cheating now, he’s just going to continuecheating in the future. That makes for a miserable relationship.So talk to him. When you get your answers you can make adecision. If you decide to leave it will not be easy, but you haveto do what is best for you and your child.ADear Celina,So you have a crush on a co-worker. First things first, ifyou like your job make sure there are no company policiesin place about dating a co-worker. Okay, now that we havethe boring stuff out of the way and assuming no policies are inplace, on to the fun stuff. You can set up an after work social ata bar, restaurant, or maybe a night out to the movies. The keyis getting him out of the office. Most people feel uncomfortablegetting all flirty at work because that is not why they are there.So get a group together, put your game face on and just talk tohim. Remember, if this goes great or not you’re going to have tosee this guy at work. So be prepared.42 HERLIFEmagazine.com