Methods-of-Self-Care

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JODIEIt seems to go in waves for me: self care becomesalternately about reminding myself that my vulnerabilityis real and strong and beautiful and, conversely, that Ican’t start a fire worrying about my little world fallingapart (as Bruce Springsteen would say). My self care lookslike tenderness and quiet and ferocity and fearlessness.Lately it seems I spend much more time kicking my ownass to remind myself that I’m capable and gorgeous andthat the world needs to hear my voice. So this the themusic that dries my tears — the soundtrack for pencilingin my brows and putting on my good underwear andthrowing up the middle finger to the patriarchy.PLAYLIST+ Half About Being A Woman by Caroline Smith+ Fighting Fish by Dessa+ Bossy by Kelis+ Batches and Cookies by Lizzo+ Yoncé by BeyoncéKARAFor me, self care is being radically patient with myfeelings, surrounding myself with empowering women,and being okay with feeling down once in awhile. Andthat’s why each of these songs so much to me.+ Flawless (Remix) by Beyoncé featuring Nicki Minaj+ Love Me by Katy Perry+ Let It Die by Feist+ Walking Off Strong by Caroline Smith+ Beautiful by Carole King
CAKE BY THE POUNDSince I was tiny enough to fit in the clearing at the meetingof our lilac bushes, I knew that being tiny was important.Not just to hide away with books and the scent of thosepurple petals, but to look acceptable. I learned that fatwas to be feared — in myself and in others. I learned thatsmoothness of figure was desirable and that desire waspowerful. I learned to find more things wrong with mybody than right with it. That I was a chubby kid didn’teven particularly weigh those lessons heavier on my10-year-old shoulders: it’s the messaging that the tiny girlsgot when they were praised for their body size, too. Beingfat certainly makes my relationship with my body andwith other people’s perceptions of beauty and health morecomplicated, but there isn’t a babe out there who hasn’tbeen delivered the memo that being slim is desirable andshrinking is an achievement.I don’t remember when I started calling myself fat, but I doknow that it made me feel at home in my body for the firsttime in what felt like forever. It felt like a descriptor thatmade sense, the way short or brunette or curvy made somesense of what I looked like but didn’t define me or evenmy appearance. I felt like it gave me permission to justaccept my round stomach and my soft upper arms and mysquishy chin as matter-of-fact — no judgement.When we stop letting ideals and the words that governthem have power over us — at least some of the time — wecan maybe start to believe in the importance of caring forourselves. We take away the ability for others’ judgementsabout our bodies to shape our own. We let ourselves thatboth our bodies and us are worthy of time and pleasureand love and devotion. Just as we are. Right where we’reexisting. Right now.Lesley Kinzel says we don’t have to start loving our bodies,but that we can aim to stop hating them — even if for justsmall intervals. The best way to take care of someone orsomething is to be motivated by love that seeks out the bestfor them. Eat like you love your body and the pleasureand purpose that comes along with that. Move your bodylike you love it with gentleness and discipline. Adorn yourbody like you’re smitten with it.BY JODIE
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Page 11 and 12: “Not Indulgence,Preservation.”S
Page 13 and 14: A S KF O RHELP!BY STEPHANIE McCOLLO
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Page 17 and 18: METHODSHave a great method of self
Page 19 and 20: THE END.P.S. You are worth it.

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