Methods-of-Self-Care

TALK THE TALKWhen engaging in self-talk, ask: would I say this to someone else? Whatwould my intentions be? How would I want them to feel? Constructivecriticism and truth-telling are a gift, but they’re not the same as trashingsomeone.Instead of saying: I just need to suck itup and get over it.Say: Feeling all the feels is a gift. It’s okayto be tender-hearted. What do I need tocope? What do I really need to accomplish?What’s most important? I am resilient.Instead of saying: I shouldn’t be botheredby this.Say: I am bothered by this for a reason. It’sokay if this hurts me, I’m allowed to figureout my boundaries.Instead of saying: I really suck at this.Say: I’m not as good at this as I am at_______________. I don’t need to be good ateverything. I can ask for help.Instead of saying: I’m a goblin.Say: I don’t feel cute today, but my cutenessisn’t who I am. My babeliness is aboutme and not the way I look. Maybe I’ll feelcute tomorrow.