English - Balay Mindanaw

Part 3 - Mga Paghusay: Concepts and Practices in Conflict Resolutiontheir stories, Tatay Malindahay analyzed that Preglo bore allthe guilt because of his being malimbongon (cheater). TatayMalindahay told Preglo that if he would humble himself andask forgiveness from Mr. Namok, a manggad would be imposedon him like giving a portion of his land to Mr. Namok. Thereand then, Preglo asked apologies from Mr. Namok and theymade an agreement to end the dispute. But in the beginning,right after the settlement, the two persons still seemeduncomfortable with each other. Tatay Malindahay said theylater gradually restored their good relationship since both ofthem had forgiven each other.Looking after the welfare of family members and helpingthem keep away from trouble is one of the foremost concernsof the datus. Datu Manbutalan of Bagasbas mediated thisconflict involving Allan Mandukita, the husband of his nieceand the barangay captain of Eureka, Gingoog City againstBayhon of Impaluhod. The conflict pertains to the rights toa certain piece of land and the natural and mineral resourcesfound on it.Datu Manbutalan or Pedro Sin-inganMandukita versus BayhonTo resolve the conflict, the datus asked the partiesinvolved whether they wanted their conflict settled amicably.The two parties acceded. During the mediation, a singampowas conducted. Since the datus perceived the conflict as quiteintense, they used two pigs and three chickens, plates andbronze as ritual paraphernalia. After the singampo, the twoparties were asked to relate the cause of their conflict. Thedatus discussed the possible solution of the conflict with thetwo parties agreeing on the terms and conditions. In makingthe agreement, Datu Manbutalan noted that it should befair to all involved and they should abide by this agreementbecause there would be consequences or punishment should137