English - Balay Mindanaw

Part 2 - Four Datus: Stories of the Higaunon Lifemarriage which has no defect in the first place. This is what wecall as ‘gold,’ those settlements without flaws.” Conflicts thatare not serious are termed lumba bulawan or minor conflicts,while conflicts involving blood relatives are termed sisisma hulido or anip ha lido. This is also called kinakatangkawan or highestform of conflict because it is like “sipping one’s own blood.”“These are conflicts when relatives are killing each other, likethose involving nephews, uncles,” according to Tatay Yukmo,a respected Higaunon datu of Sangalan, Gingoog City. Crimesof incest are termed lubad dinagsaan. “Like coveting your son’swife. It’s bad and dangerous,” said Tatay Yukmo.’Tay Dikno disclosed that when he started mediatingconflicts, he was extremely cautious because he was afraidthat he could utter inappropriate words during the pangapog(invocation) and in the actual settlement.’Tay Dikno remembered the first wedding heThe Talakub, mamaun, salay, galang and candles used during a singampo.93