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What’saffectingchildrenin 2013Can I<strong>tell</strong> <strong>you</strong><strong>something</strong>?ChildLine review of 2012/131


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ForewordsChildLine helped support thousands of <strong>you</strong>ng peoplelast year, sometimes quite literally saving lives and Iam very proud of the work our staff and volunteershave done to listen, empower, support and helpchildren.But this <strong>report</strong> isn’t about ChildLine. This <strong>report</strong> isabout the thousands of children who contacted usto <strong>tell</strong> us about their experience of life in the UK.This <strong>report</strong> isn’t what I think, or what colleagues atChildLine think, but instead it is the real words ofsome of the most isolated and vulnerable childrenand <strong>you</strong>ng people. They spoke to us about difficult,challenging and concerning experiences, feelingsand situations. And we listened. Our confidentialitypolicy gave these <strong>you</strong>ng people the confidence totalk to us about how they feel, what life is really likefor them, and I believe we have a responsibility toshare our knowledge and insight with professionals,influencers, the government and the public.As <strong>you</strong> read the <strong>report</strong> <strong>you</strong> will see there have beensome concerning changes since 2011/12. We’ve seena 41 per cent increase in the number of counsellingsessions where a <strong>you</strong>ngperson talked about selfharmand a 33 per centincrease where suicidalthoughts and feelingswere mentioned. Wehave also seen a 69 percent rise in counsellingwith <strong>you</strong>ng people whohave experienced racistbullying. These statistics are alarming and while it isgood that <strong>you</strong>ng people are seeking our help ratherthan suffering in silence, I believe together we mustdo more.My hope is that this <strong>report</strong>, reflecting the voicesof children, contributes to the dialogue about howtogether, we <strong>can</strong> better support vulnerable <strong>you</strong>ngpeople. We hope that by listening to <strong>you</strong>ng peopledirectly we <strong>can</strong> all learn from their experiences andhelp them shape a better future.3


ForewordsI am often asked if, when ChildLine launched inOctober 1986, I ever dreamed that we would haveby now have helped 3.2 million children, and beable to answer more than a million contacts fromchildren and <strong>you</strong>ng people a year. The obviousanswer is no, I had no idea the demand would beso huge. In our earliest days they had to run to thenearest phone box. Now, of course, the mobilephone has been a liberation, allowing <strong>you</strong>ngpeople to talk to ChildLine confidentially anywhere,anytime, even – as happened in one case – fromthe back of a classroom, wherea child who had taken anoverdose rang us and whoselife we were able to save.The internet has also been aliberation. Many harsh thingsare rightly said about thedangers of sexting, groomingand entrapping that existonline, and <strong>you</strong> will find thosereflected in this <strong>report</strong>. But thefact is that it has also liberatedchildren and <strong>you</strong>ng peoplewho would not dare tospeak on the phone abouttheir suffering, but feelable to contact ChildLineonline. And this year, forthe first time, counsellingonline has outnumberedcounselling by telephone.This <strong>report</strong> clearly shows the deep unhappinessof thousands of <strong>you</strong>ng people. The biggest singleproblem is depression and unhappiness affectingnearly 36,000 children. 4,500 children betweenthe ages of 12 and 15 rang because they neededto talk about suicide, and that is an increase of 43per cent over the previous year. Why are so many<strong>you</strong>ng children in such despair that they want todie? Children like the girl who told ChildLine, “I’mterrified of what I might do. I want to be gone andI’ve never felt this bad.”Searching for reasons, I found clues throughoutthis disturbing <strong>report</strong>. Some of the unhappinessis caused by their relationships with other <strong>you</strong>ngpeople. Bullying plays an even greater part this4


year in creating misery, with online bullying up by87 per cent. Comparing themselves detrimentallywith their friends, more than 13,250 <strong>you</strong>ng peopletalked about their low self esteem, confidenceissues or were unhappy with the way they looked,to the point that some shun the company ofothers, and hide alone in their bedrooms: “I feel sosad. I am really ugly and feel like nobody wantsto talk to me. I have really awful skin and havetried everything to make it go away but nothingworks… I <strong>can</strong>’t think of anything I like aboutmyself.” Have we created a society in which <strong>you</strong>have to look perfect to have the right to friendshipandhappiness?ChildLine is still one of the fewplaces where children dare to<strong>report</strong> abuse, both physicaland sexual, by their parents.This year, nearly 33,000<strong>you</strong>ng people described thedeliberate cruelty of abuseinflicted on them. There wasa huge increase this year(122 per cent) in the numberof <strong>you</strong>ng people (3,153)who contacted ChildLinebecause they were so deeplydistressed by their parents’divorce. And parentaladdiction hurts, not onlythe addicts themselves, butalso their children. Nearly4,000 children contactedChildLine to say that theyare frightened and worriedby their parents’ drinking.All this unhappiness may find expression not onlyin suicidal feelings, but in self-harm and eatingdisorders. Overall there were 22,532 contactsabout self-harm, with a further 1,515 contactsfrom children concerned about another childself-harming and wanting to try and help. Andthe problem seems to be involving <strong>you</strong>nger and<strong>you</strong>nger children; this year for the first time itwas in the top five concerns for 13 year olds, andChildLine also received 50 per cent more contactsabout self-harm this year from 12 year olds. Whyare so many thousands of our children driven to5


hurt themselves? Is it an expression ofself-loathing or, as the children themselves say,to numb or distract themselves from other pain,“I am getting bullied at school…I feel so scaredand have been self-harming because I need arelease. I’m a pathetic failure…I don’t want thescars but I need to cut and I need to suffer.”So has ChildLine been able to intervene andalleviate this suffering? Among the 289,847children and <strong>you</strong>ng people we helped thisyear, there has been heartening evidence ofthe difference our counsellors have made. OurManchester base heard from one child: “WithoutChildLine I wouldn’t be here now. I’ve told myfamily about my self-harming. They’re reallysupporting me with it. Thank <strong>you</strong> for giving methe courage to talk about it.” Our Northern IrelandFoyle base talked to a child who said “The adviceI got from ChildLine was amazing. I’d never usedit before so I just want to say thank <strong>you</strong> for all <strong>you</strong>rhelp, <strong>you</strong>’re a great organisation.” And a childtold one of our volunteer counsellors in Glasgow,“I want to thank ChildLine for saving my life. If <strong>you</strong>hadn’t have called me an ambulance I don’t knowwhat would have happened. I’m out of hospitalnow and feeling fine.”So I must thank all the staff and volunteers whosecrucial work for children has made this <strong>report</strong>possible. We need to listento these <strong>you</strong>ng voices. Theyhave an important messagefor us all. Unhappy childrenare a reflection on the wholenation. But together we <strong>can</strong>help to make their lives farhappier, if we listen to them,reassure them that they areprecious, that we care, andif we put children where theyshould always be: first.6


Executive summaryOver the past 12 months, we’ve seen many changes in <strong>you</strong>ngpeople’s needs and concerns.A rise in self-harmOne huge increase is the number of <strong>you</strong>ng people contacting ChildLineabout self-harm – up by 41 per cent from 2011/12. Girls were 15 timesmore likely than boys to contact ChildLine about self-harm.ChildLine in the digital ageAs the internet increasingly becomes a part of children’s everyday lives, theincidences of <strong>you</strong>ng people contacting ChildLine about online bullying haverisen by 87 per cent in the past year.Thankfully, as technology has changed, so has ChildLine. Now when <strong>you</strong>ngpeople contact the service about self-harm, suicidal issues, or mentalhealth issues – the vast majority (78 per cent) do so online, via email or1-2-1 online chat.However, when <strong>you</strong>ng people talk to ChildLine about abuse, most(58 per cent) still prefer to contact us by phone.We also saw that overall, boys prefer to be counselled by phone,whereas girls prefer to be counselled online.41per cent increase in thenumber of <strong>you</strong>ng peoplecontacting ChildLineabout self-harm7


FamilyThis year has also seen an increase in the number of children contactingChildLine about problems relating to their family situation. We haveexperienced a 122 per cent rise in children contacting us about theirparents’ separation or divorce. As well as this, 3,930 children contactedChildLine concerned about their parents’ drinking, twice as many asin 2011/12.These are just a few examples of the many reasons why ChildLineneeds to exist and be there 24 hours a day, ready to listen and helpin any situation. Millions of children have been helped over the past27 years and in 2013/14 we will continue to be there for more childrenand <strong>you</strong>ng people.Increasing thoughtsof suicide2012/13 saw a 33 per cent rise in the number of children contacting us aboutsuicidal thoughts and feelings, compared to the previous year. More than 4,500children aged between 12-15 needed to talk to ChildLine about suicide. While itwas the third most common reason to contact ChildLine among 16-18 year olds.Often, the suicidal thoughts are at such an advanced stage that the ChildLinecounsellor judges the child to be in a life threatening situation.When this happens, ChildLine makes referrals to external agencies such asthe police, ambulance or social services. Last year, 60 per cent of the referralsChildLine made related to a <strong>you</strong>ng person being actively suicidal. This is a 14 percent increase from 2011/12.8


Key Stats• ChildLine has helped over 3.2 millionchildren and <strong>you</strong>ng people since its launchin October 1986.• During 2012/13, ChildLine counselled 278,886children and <strong>you</strong>ng people while also dealingwith a further 10,961 contacts from <strong>you</strong>ngpeople who had concerns about another child.• For the first time ever, more counselling tookplace online (59 per cent) than by telephone(41 per cent).• Once again, self-harm saw another signifi<strong>can</strong>tincrease – 41 per cent. There was also a 50 percent rise in contacts about self-harm from 12year olds.• There was a 33 per cent increase in suicidalcounselling overall, with a 43 per cent increaseamong 12-15 year olds.• 60 per cent of referrals were on behalf of<strong>you</strong>ng people who were actively suicidal– a 14 per cent increase from 2011/12.• Concerns about online bullying rose by 87 percent from the previous year.• Counselling about racist bullying rose by 69 percent with over 1,400 counselling sessionstaking place in 2012/13.• Over 35,900 <strong>you</strong>ng people came to usstruggling with depression and unhappiness –the top reason why <strong>you</strong>ng people contactedChildLine in 2012/13.• We provided 40 per cent more counselling with<strong>you</strong>ng people about money problems thanthe previous year.• The ChildLine website has proved verysuccessful, receiving 2.4 million visits– a 28 per cent increase since 2011/12.9


Reasons <strong>you</strong>ngpeoplE contactChildLine10


TOP TEN REASONS FOR YOUNGPEOPLE TO CONTACT CHILDLINERank Main concern Definition Girls Boys Unknown Total Percentage totalcounselling1 Depression andunhappinessFeeling sad, low mood, lonely,has low self-esteem, confidenceor body image issues.19,054 5,208 11,679 35,941 13%2 Family relationships Conflict/arguments with familymembers. Parents’ divorce/separation.18,537 5,556 11,061 35,154 13%3 Bullying/online bullying Peer-to-peer bullying, eitherface-to-face or online.14,653 6,724 9,010 30,387 11%4 Self-harm Self-injury that is intentional. 12,643 856 9,033 22,532 8%5 Suicidal issues Suicidal feelings, ideation oractively suicidal.8,461 1,579 4,823 14,863 5%6 Problems with friends Falling out with friends, difficultymaking friends.8,321 1,896 4,068 14,285 5%11


Rank Main concern Definition Girls Boys Unknown Total Percentage totalcounselling7 Physical abuse Young person has beenphysically abused by adult/olderperson – includes where theyhave felt at risk or have beenthreatened with violence.6,318 4,066 3,496 13,880 5%8 Sexual abuse andonline sexual abuseYoung person has beenpersuaded/forced by an adult/older person to take part insexual activities, or encouragedto behave in a sexuallyinappropriate way. Includes onlinesexual abuse such as exposureto sexually explicit images,grooming, sexting etc.6,894 3,324 2,213 12,431 4%9 Puberty and sexual health Young person has concernsor wants information/adviceabout sexual development,body changes, STIs,contraception etc.5,889 3,164 2,209 11,262 4%10 Mental health issues Mental health conditions suchas bi-polar or severe depressionwhich is signifi<strong>can</strong>tly interferingwith the <strong>you</strong>ng person being ableto lead a normal life and isprolonged or re-occurring.5,452 928 3,094 9,474 3%12


Who CONTACTEDChildLine in 2012/13?13


The ways <strong>you</strong>ng peoplecontacted ChildLineThe number of online counselling sessions increased by 13 percent from 2011/12. This meant that, for the first time ever, morechildren and <strong>you</strong>ng people were counselled online – either via1-2-1 chats or email – than by phone.The increase in the use of online channels correlates with thechannel preference of the top age group who contactChildLine – 12-15 year olds.The majority of 11 and unders and 16-18 year olds chooseto be counselled by phone.For the firsttime ever, more<strong>you</strong>ng peoplewere counselledonline (via 1-2-1chats or email),at 59 per centcompared to41 per centby phone19per centemail 41per centPHONE40per cent121 chatAge group Telephone Online11 and under 66% 34%12-15 42% 58%16-18 58% 42%14


The preference for online contact was seen most starkly when<strong>you</strong>ng people spoke to us about self-harm, suicide or mentalhealth issues. In these cases, 78 per cent of counselling tookplace online.Contact by phone was still the preferred choice when <strong>you</strong>ngpeople needed help with issues relating to abuse. 58 per centof counselling for abuse took place over the phone.One theory for this is that self-harm, suicidal issues andmental health concerns are often viewed as taboo subjectsby <strong>you</strong>ng people. As a result, <strong>you</strong>ng people might findit harder to talk about their feelings on these subjects.Contacting ChildLine online rather than by phone createsa ‘safe’ distance for the <strong>you</strong>ng person to share theirfeelings and explore the issues they’re experiencing.How <strong>you</strong>ngpeoplewith abuseconcernscontactedChildLine31per cent121 chat11per centemail58per centphoneHow <strong>you</strong>ngpeoplewithmentalwellbeingconcernscontactedChildLine56per cent121 chat22per centemail22per centPHONE15


Age overviewChildren and <strong>you</strong>ng people don’t have to <strong>tell</strong> ChildLinetheir age when they contact us. However, in 63 per centof counselling sessions, the <strong>you</strong>ng person told ChildLinetheir age.Where age was known, the majority of counselling waswith 12-15 year olds with the majority aged 15.A breakdownof age groups31per cent16-1813per cent11 andunder56per cent12-1516


Top ten concernsby age groupChildren aged11 and underThere were 22,733 counselling sessions with this age group.86 per cent of <strong>you</strong>ng people within this age group were agedbetween 9-11. The <strong>you</strong>ngest recorded age was five, for whichthere were 319 counselling sessions.Nearly one in four (24 per cent) children aged 11 and underwho contacted ChildLine during 2012/13 were concernedabout bullying.Counselling about physical abuse was proportionately higher(9 per cent) for this age group, compared with 12-15 year olds(6 per cent) and 16-18 year olds (3 per cent).There was also a 19 per cent growth in counselling about schooland education problems among this age group.A third (33 per cent) of neglect counselling was with childrenaged 11 and under.When a child describes their life to ChildLine they rarely recognisethat what they are experiencing is neglect. ChildLine counsellorswho are trained to identify this type of abuse often determinewhen a child is being neglected.17


Top ten concerns of childrenaged 11 and underMain concern Number counselled Percentage of totalcounsellingBullying/online bullying 5,449 24%Family relationships 3,579 16%Depression and unhappiness 2,482 11%Physical abuse 2,092 9%Puberty and sexual health 1,143 5%Sexual abuse and onlinesexual abuse1,020 4%Physical health and illness 983 4%School or education problems 940 4%Problems with friends 867 4%Loss and bereavement 542 2%18


Are <strong>you</strong> talking PANTS?Last summer, the NSPCC launched the Underwear Rule campaignto help parents and carers talk to their children, aged 11 and under,about staying safe from sexual abuse.We know that simple conversations <strong>can</strong> make a big difference,and that’s what the Underwear Rule is all about. But we recognisethat finding the right words <strong>can</strong> sometimes be tricky.We developed PANTS as an easy way for parents to teachchildren the Underwear Rule:Privates are privateAlways remember <strong>you</strong>r body belongs to <strong>you</strong>No means noTalk about secrets that upset <strong>you</strong>Speak up, someone <strong>can</strong> helpTeaching children the Underwear Rule is a really effective wayto prevent abuse.For more information about the Underwear Rule campaign visitwww.nspcc.org.uk/underwearrule19


12-15 year olds56 per cent of ChildLine counselling was with 12-15 yearolds (97,685 calls, emails and 1-2-1 chats). In 2011/12 thisage group received 53 per cent of the counsellingChildLine provided.14 per cent of counselling for this age group was aboutfamily relationships, making it the most common issueaffecting 12-15 year olds.Bullying/online bullying was the second most commonconcern, with two thirds of these contacts specifically talkingabout online bullying.The number of 12-15 year olds counselled about self-harmhas increased by 52 per cent, with the majority of <strong>you</strong>ngpeople affected in this group aged 15.However, while 15 year olds were most commonlyaffected by self-harm, contacts from contacts from12 years increased by nearly 50% (700 counsellingsessions) from the previous year. This is the highestincrease of any age for this issue. Self-harm represented5 per cent of all counselling with 12 year olds.Suicidal feelings did not feature in the top 10 concernsfor 12-15 year olds in 2011/12, but this year ranked ninthbecause of a disturbing 43 per cent increase (4,504counselling sessions).52per cent increasein the number of12-15 year oldscounselled aboutself-harm43per centincreasein suicidalconcerns from12-15 year olds20


Top ten concerns12-15 year oldsMain concern Number counselled Percentage of totalcounsellingFamily relationships 13,458 14%Bullying/online bullying 11,690 12%Depression and unhappiness 10,876 11%Self-harm 8,174 8%Physical abuse 5,829 6%Sexual abuse andonline sexual abuse5,086 5%Problems with friends 4,672 5%Puberty and sexual health 4,599 5%Suicidal issues 4,504 5%School or education problem 3,711 4%50per cent rise incontacts aboutself-harm with12 year olds21


16-18 year oldsChildLine dealt with 54,003 contacts from <strong>you</strong>ng people aged16-18, representing nearly a third of all contacts (31 per cent)received in 2012/13.Suicidal thoughts and feelings featured as the third mostcommon reason for 16-18 year olds to contact ChildLine thisyear. It represented 7 per cent of all the counselling providedto this age group (3,575 counselling sessions). The majorityof these sessions (1,420) were with 17 year olds.Counselling about mental health issues was also among thetop 10 concerns for this age group, representing 6 per centof all counselling.Sexual abuse also accounts for 6 per cent of all the counsellingthat took place with 16-18 year olds in 2012/13. This meansthat sexual abuse is a greater concern for 16-18 year oldswho contact ChildLine than it is for any other age group.Pregnancy and parenting is an issue that only features in thetop 10 concerns of this age group. During 2012/13, almost halfof all counselling about this issue was with 16-18 year olds(2,278 sessions).Sexualabuse isa greaterconcernfor 16-18year oldsthan forany otherage group22


Top ten concerns16-18 year oldsMain concern Number counselled Percentage of totalcounsellingDepression and unhappiness 7,243 13%Family relationships 6,925 13%Suicidal issues 3,575 7%Self-harm 3,337 6%Problems with friends 3,191 6%Sexual abuse and onlinesexual abuse3,073 6%Mental health issues 3,043 6%Puberty and sexual health 2,842 5%Pregnancy and parenting 2,278 4%Bullying/online bullying 2,151 4%23


GenderIn 2012/13 ChildLine counselled 147,302girls and 48,351 boys (53 per cent, and17 per cent of all sessions respectively).In 83,233 sessions (30 per cent) thegender of the <strong>you</strong>ng person wasnot disclosed.This 3:1 girl to boy ratio is consistentwith 2011/12.30per centunknown53per centgirls17percentboys24


GirlsBoys• Girls contact ChildLine about self-harm much morethan boys. It’s the fourth most common reason for girlsto seek support, yet the issue doesn’t appear at all inthe top 10 concerns for boys. The gap appears to bewidening. The ratio of girls to boys concerned aboutself-harm is 15:1 in 2012/13. In 2011/12 the ratio waslower at 12:1.• Among girls, suicidal thoughts and feelings also appearto be on the rise. It was a top 10 concern in 2011/12,rising to a top five concern in 2012/13.• Mental health issues are a top 10 concern for girls,but does not feature in the top 10 for boys.• There has been a 95 per cent increase in the numberof girls talking about feeling excluded or isolated asa result of being bullied, however counselling aboutbullying with girls is proportionately lower thanwith boys.• Consistent with 2011/12,bullying is still the leadingconcern for boys.• Being bullied about theirappearance or being‘different’ was the mainreason given for bullying,and represented a quarter of all bullying counsellingwith boys. Also, one in four boys who contactedChildLine about bullying told the counsellor that theyhad experienced violent bullying.• Nearly half of all abuse counselling with boys wasabout physical abuse (48 per cent).• Rape was mentioned in over a quarter of sexualabuse counselling with boys.• Sexual and gender identity, and concerns about the<strong>you</strong>ng person’s own behaviour, appear in the top 10main concerns for boys, but do not appear in thetop 10 for girls or counselling overall.• Due to a 4 per cent increase, suicidal issues replacedmental health issues, and became the tenth mostcommon reason for counselling in boys.25


Top ten concernsfor girlsMain concern Number counselled Percentage of totalcounsellingDepression and unhappiness 19,054 13%Family relationships 18,537 13%Bullying/online bullying 14,653 10%Self-harm 12,643 9%Suicidal issues 8,461 6%Problems with friends 8,321 6%Sexual abuse and onlinesexual abuse6,894 5%Physical abuse 6,318 4%Puberty and sexual health 5,889 4%Mental health issues 5,452 4%95resultper cent increasein girls talkingabout feelingexcluded orisolated as aof bullying26


top TEN main concernsfor boysMain concern Number counselled Percentage of totalcounsellingBullying/online bullying 6,724 14%Family relationships 5,556 11%Depression and unhappiness 5,208 11%48per cent ofall abusecounselling withboys was aboutphysical abusePhysical abuse 4,066 8%Sexual abuse and onlinesexual abuse3,324 7%Puberty and sexual health 3,164 7%Sexual and gender identity 1,992 4%Problems with friends 1,896 4%Young person’s ownbehaviour (abuser)1,740 4%Suicidal issues 1,579 3%27


Referrals28


58per cent of referralswere for children and<strong>you</strong>ng people agedbetween 12-15In 2012/13, ChildLine made 1,882 direct referrals to externalagencies – such as the police or children’s services – onbehalf of 1,836 children and <strong>you</strong>ng people (some individualchildren <strong>can</strong> be referred to multiple agencies).Referrals are made when the ChildLine supervisor judges thechild to be in a life threatening situation, facing signifi<strong>can</strong>t harm,or where the child themselves has requested direct help.71 per cent of these referrals were made directly to the police(an 11 per cent increase on 2011/12), while 12 per cent weremade to children’s services. A further 17 per cent involved otheragencies – such as the ambulance service.Where the child’s age was known, 58 per cent of referrals werefor children and <strong>you</strong>ng people aged between 12-15. 36 per centwere aged between 16-18, and 6 per cent were for childrenaged 11 or under.It remains a signifi<strong>can</strong>t concern that 60 per cent of all referralswere about <strong>you</strong>ng people who were actively suicidal – thisis a 14 per cent increase on the previous year.Though statistically small – at 82 referrals – it is interesting tonote that referrals where the <strong>you</strong>ng person talked about beingan abuser saw the greatest increase from 2011/12, a riseof 37 per cent. It is encouraging to see that <strong>you</strong>ng peopleare recognising their own abusive behaviour and turningto ChildLine for help on this issue.Nearly three quarters of these referrals involved boys. Mainlythese cases were where the <strong>you</strong>ng person had a seriousintent or had already sexually or physically abused anotherchild. Sometimes, they were threatening to seriously hurt(or even kill) family members, or another person.Where appropriate, ChildLine makes every effort to getconsent from the child or <strong>you</strong>ng person before sharinginformation with external agencies. However, in thosecases where there is immediate danger either to the<strong>you</strong>ng person themselves, or to another child, this is notalways possible. In 2012/13 confidentiality was breachedin 70 per cent of referrals.32per centincrease inreferrals wherethe <strong>you</strong>ngperson talkedabout beingthe abuser29


ChildLinewill breachconfidentialityin thefollowingcircumstances:• where we assess the child or <strong>you</strong>ngperson to be in a life-threatening situation• the child or <strong>you</strong>ng person has allegedabuse by a person in a position of authority• the child or <strong>you</strong>ng person is abusing others• the age or capacity of the child indicatesthey do not have the ability to makeappropriate decisions to promote theirimmediate safety.Top ten reasonsfor referralMain concern Number referred Percentage oftotal referralsSuicidal issues 1,095 60%Physical abuse 180 10%Runaway/thrown out/homeless 127 7%Sexual abuse and online sexual abuse 83 5%Abuser 82 4%Self-harm 48 3%60activelyper cent ofreferrals wereabout <strong>you</strong>ngpeople who weresuicidalDepression and mental health 38 2%Family relationships 33 2%Neglect 32 2%Looked after child 25 1%30


Self-harm31


A signifi<strong>can</strong>tincrease for thesecond year runningIn 2012/13 we counselled 22,532 <strong>you</strong>ng people whose mainconcern was self-harm. This represented 8 per cent of all thecounselling that took place this year, compared with 5 percent the previous year.During a further 24,186 counselling sessions, self-harm wasmentioned as an additional concern. This means self-harmwas mentioned in almost 47,000 counselling sessions– a huge 41 per cent year-on-year increase.Where age was known, 70 per cent of the contacts wereceived about self-harm came from <strong>you</strong>ng people agedbetween 12-15.In 2011/12 self-harm was a top five concern for 14 year olds.This year, it featured as a top five concern for 13 year oldsfor the first time. There was also nearly a 50 per cent risein contacts with 12 year olds about self-harm – the highestincrease of any age.Over the past year it has become clear there is an enormousdivide in the genders when it comes to self-harm – withgirls outnumbering boys by 15:1. There was a 37 per centincrease in self-harm counselling with girls, compared withjust 10 per cent with boys.41per centincrease inself-harmcounselling“I am getting bullied at school. They aresaying really nasty things and <strong>tell</strong>ing meit would be better if I wasn't here. I feel soscared and have been self-harming becauseI need a release. I'm a pathetic failure anda nobody. Every time I look in the mirror I feeldisgusted. I don't know what to do anymore.I don't want the scars, but I need to cut andI need to suffer.” – Girl aged 1432


Online counselling85 per cent of all self harm counselling was carried out onlinewhich makes it the second most common reason why <strong>you</strong>ngpeople contact ChildLine via 1-2-1 chat.The self-harm page on the ChildLine website was the thirdmost visited page during 2012/13, receiving 115,144 page views.ChildLine’s self-harm awareness raising video – Will’s Story –received 25,688 views. The online resources available on theChildLine website also include peer-to-peer support messageboards, and in 2012/13 there were 122,388 page views of theself-harm message board alone.Long-term problemsAlmost one third of <strong>you</strong>ng people told ChildLine that they wereactively self-harming – meaning they had very recently selfharmed.Where this was the case, they frequently admitted thatit was not the first time they had self-harmed and that it was<strong>something</strong> they felt would be very difficult to stop. They oftenexplained that it had become a habit, and they felt reliant onthe sense of relief brought about by the pain.When <strong>you</strong>ng people told ChildLine how long they had beenself-harming, 42 per cent said “years”, and it was “ongoing”.Cutting was talked about by one in three <strong>you</strong>ng people, and hasincreased by 20 per cent since 2011/12. Methods of self-harmingdiffered between boys and girls. Suffocation, asphyxiation andhitting were more common in boys – whereas girls tended tocut, scratch or pick their skin, and burn themselves.ChildLine also received over 1,500 contacts where the personhad concerns for another child or <strong>you</strong>ng person who wasself-harming. These <strong>you</strong>ng people were seeking advice andinformation on how they could help them to stop.Self harm is oneof the most signifi<strong>can</strong>tgender disproportions –with girls outnumberingboys by 15:133


Suicidal issues35


a 33 per cent increaseCounselling with <strong>you</strong>ng people who were feeling suicidalrose for the third year running in 2012/13. ChildLinecounselled 14,863 <strong>you</strong>ng people whose main concern wassuicidal issues – representing 5 per cent of all counselling.Then, during a further 14,300 counselling sessions, suicidalthoughts or feelings were mentioned as an additionalconcern. This means <strong>you</strong>ng people mentioned feelingsuicidal in over 29,000 counselling sessions – a 33 per centincrease on the previous year.Self-harm was the main concern in nearly a quarter ofcounselling sessions where the <strong>you</strong>ng person also talkedabout feeling suicidal. 57 per cent of suicidal counsellingwas with girls, compared with 11 per cent with boys and 32per cent where gender was not disclosed. 70 per cent ofthese sessions took place online.As <strong>you</strong>ng as 12Suicidal issues start to become more prevalent as childrenget older. It first features as a top 10 concern for children as<strong>you</strong>ng as 12, and then it becomes a more common concernas age increases – appearing in the top three concerns for16-18 year olds.While 17 year olds are the age group most commonly affectedby issues relating to suicide, the biggest increase year-on-yearhas been among 12-15 year olds. 43 per cent more childrenof this age contacted ChildLine about suicidal thoughts orfeelings in 2012/13 compared to the previous year.“I'm having a bad day. I have allthese voices in my head <strong>tell</strong>ing meto hurt myself. I <strong>can</strong>'t ignore themand i get such strong urges to end itall. I have tried to kill myself beforeand I ended up in hospital and noweveryone thinks I am some kind offreak. I don't feel like I have anysupport at home and find it reallyhard to talk to anyone about.”– Girl aged 1520 per cent of <strong>you</strong>ng people talked about their suicidal ideation(where they had either thought about suicide, or had a planin place). On top of this, 8 per cent of <strong>you</strong>ng people told thecounsellor that they were actively suicidal – meaning they hadalready taken steps to end their own life.Over one in seven (15 per cent) talked about overdosing. Theproportion of girls who talked about overdosing was higherthan many other types of suicide.36


"No other way out"Many of the <strong>you</strong>ng people who spoke to ChildLine aboutsuicide were often in desperate situations where they feltlike there was no other way out. They talked about subjectsincluding previous or ongoing abuse, family relationshipbreakdown, bullying, mental health issues, school pressuresand fear of failure.They often talked about feeling depressed, having low selfesteemand being overwhelmed with what was happening intheir lives. For some, suicide was an impulsive reaction whichthey felt would be the only solution to a problem they wereexperiencing at the time.Young people <strong>can</strong> find it very difficult to communicate theirsuicidal feelings and often suffer in silence. Of the <strong>you</strong>ngpeople who mentioned whether or not they had spokento somebody regarding their suicidal feelings, 18 per cent<strong>report</strong>ed that they had not told anyone else. Many childrenwho had spoken to somebody felt they had not received thesupport they required and they therefore contacted Childine.Disclosing their feelings did not always result in help and<strong>you</strong>ng people often felt a lack of understanding from adults.They frequently mentioned the stress of going throughpsychiatric assessments and how they struggled to verbalisetheir feelings face-to-face with strangers.In 2012/13, ChildLine dealt with 9,474 counselling sessions wherethe main concern was mental health issues. In 19 per cent ofthese sessions, the <strong>you</strong>ng person also discussed feeling suicidal– illustrating the close relationship between these two issues.Top 3Young peopleexpressedfeeling suicidalin over 29,000counsellingsessions – a33 per centincreaseBullying and school/educational problems were talkedabout as issues that related directly to suicidal thoughtsby one in five <strong>you</strong>ng people. Where <strong>you</strong>ng people wereexperiencing bullying, they described suicidal feelings inrelation to being unable to cope, and believed that thebullying could not be stopped. The pressure and stress ofexams and not being able to deal with failure was anotherreason <strong>you</strong>ng people wanted to escape, seeing suicide astheir only option.Suicidal issues is atop three concernfor 16-18 year olds37


“I don't know why I am like this but one minuteI feel like I want to die and the next minute I don't.I have my exams coming up soon and I'm reallystressed and down. I feel like I am going to failand people will be disappointed in me. I havebeen self-harming because I'm so angry and ithelps me release everything. I'm scared I'm goingto do <strong>something</strong> stupid.” – Girl aged 16“I've been depressed for a few years and <strong>can</strong>'tcope. Things have gotten gradually worse andI feel so overwhelmed. I have spoken to my GPbefore and met with a psychologist but I just feellike it's a constant battle. I don't trust them andfeel like they are trying to control me. They just<strong>tell</strong> me what to do and if I don't agree then theyjust do it anyway. I feel like killing myself is theonly option to get away from how I'm feelingand be in control.” – Girl aged 1738


Bullying39


an 87 per centincrease inonline bullyingBullying has always been a top concern for <strong>you</strong>ngpeople contacting ChildLine – and this was no differentin 2012/13. During this period, 30,387 <strong>you</strong>ng peoplewho were counselled cited bullying as their mainconcern. A further 14,379 mentioned bullying as anadditional concern.Therefore bullying was mentioned in 44,766 counsellingsessions – an 8 per cent increase on 2011/12.However, there was an 87 per cent increase forcounselling about online bullying. 4,500 <strong>you</strong>ng peoplecontacted ChildLine for support and advice on how todeal with being bullied via social networking sites, chatrooms, online gaming sites, or via their mobile phones.Online bullying affects a slightly older age groupwhen compared with other types of bullying. It is morewidespread for 12-18 year olds, with 84 per cent of allcontacts about online bullying being from this age group(16 per cent of contacts from children aged 11 and under).66per cent of bullyinginvolved the <strong>you</strong>ngperson beingbullied about theirappearance or‘being different’69per cent increasein <strong>you</strong>ng peopleexperiencingracist bullyingAge group All bullying Online bullying12-18 years 72% 84%11 and under 28% 16%40


From December 2012, ChildLine began to monitor instanceswhen <strong>you</strong>ng people specifically mentioned bullying thatrelated to social networking sites, chat rooms or gamingsites. From December 2012 to March 2013, ChildLine heardfrom 1,098 <strong>you</strong>ng people who mentioned these platforms,a third of whom were aged 13 or 14.As with previous years, ChildLine still finds that most bullyingoccurs in school, with 19,795 <strong>you</strong>ng people mentioning thatthe bullying happened there. 11 per cent of <strong>you</strong>ng peopletold ChildLine that they had felt too scared to <strong>tell</strong> anyoneabout the bullying, believing that speaking out would makethings worse.Nearly 8,500 <strong>you</strong>ng people said they’d actively sought helpfrom a teacher at school. However, in too many cases, thosesame children told ChildLine they had been left feeling thatlittle or nothing had been done to stop the bullying.Of those <strong>you</strong>ng people who mentioned how long thebullying had been going on, nearly half said it was lessthan a year and that it was ongoing.66 per cent of <strong>you</strong>ng people said they were being bulliedabout their physical appearance or for being different. Thisleft <strong>you</strong>ng people feeling ashamed and too embarrassedto <strong>tell</strong> anyone about it.Over 1,400 <strong>you</strong>ng people told ChildLine that they wereexperiencing racist bullying – a 69 per cent increase.A common theme was for <strong>you</strong>ng people to be calleda “terrorist” or a “bomber”, and to “go back to where theycame from”. These constant insults left many <strong>you</strong>ng peoplefeeling upset, insecure and frustrated.“My school is rubbish – I don't like going.I'm being bullied by a group of boys andI don't know why. I've tried my best toavoid them but they always come andfind me to push and kick me around.I've spoken to my parents who camein and talked to my teacher but it wasa waste of time. My teacher hasn't doneanything to help, they've just told meto try and avoid them.” – Boy aged 11In nearly20,000counsellingsessionsthe <strong>you</strong>ngperson saidthe bullyinghappenedin school.41


“I used to be proud of my rootsuntil I started getting bulliedat school because I lookdifferent to everyone else inmy year. They <strong>tell</strong> me to go backto where I came from and thatI'm ugly or horrible to look at.I know they're trying to makeme feel bad about myself andit's starting to work. I used tobe confident but now I'm shy.My friends <strong>tell</strong> me to ignoreit but it's really difficult not tocare. I feel so down.”– Girl aged 13“I feel really depressed and like I wantto fade away. I have no one to talk toand no one understands what I'm goingthrough. This girl has been sending mereally horrible messages on the internet,<strong>tell</strong>ing me I should kill myself and thatI am fat and ugly. Everyone <strong>tell</strong>s me toignore it, but it really upsets me thatsomeone would say such awful things.I don't know what to do?” – Anon42


Abuse43


In 2012/13, ChildLine was contacted nearly 32,890 timesby children and <strong>you</strong>ng people who had experienced someform of abuse (be it physical, sexual, emotional, neglect orunspecified). 51 per cent of these contacts came from girls,26 per cent boys and 23 per cent were contacts where thegender was unknown.Abuse was also mentioned in a further 29,408 counsellingsessions as an additional concern. This means that abusewas mentioned in a total of 62,296 counselling sessions.“I am not happy at home. Mybrother is physically abusing meand my mum. I don't want to <strong>tell</strong>the police because my brotherwill lose his job. I don't care aboutmyself but I am worried aboutmum. I don't think anything willsort out his behaviour."– Boy aged 1590per cent of physicalabuse involveda perpetratorwho was a familymemberPhysical abuse –the most commonTYPE of abusetalked aboutby <strong>you</strong>ng peoplePhysical abuse represented 42 per cent of all abuse-relatedconcerns. It was also the most common type of abuse talkedabout by boys, whereas for girls it was sexual abuse.In almost half of physical abuse contacts, the <strong>you</strong>ng personalso talked about their problems with family members. In96 per cent of counselling session, the <strong>you</strong>ng person toldChildLine who was physically abusing them. Of these, 90 percent said it was a family member.44


Where the perpetrator was known, the <strong>you</strong>ng persons’father, mother or both parents were mentioned in 80 percent of counselling.6 per cent of <strong>you</strong>ng people told ChildLine they had sustaineda serious injury and 18 per cent said the physical abuse hadleft a mark – a 5 per cent increase since 2011/12.Physical abuse was proportionately more of an issue forchildren aged 11 and under, representing 9 per cent ofcontacts within this age group – compared to 6 per cent with12-15 years olds, and 3 per cent with 16-18 year olds.After self-harm, physical abuse was the main reason that<strong>you</strong>ng people contacted ChildLine with concerns for anotherchild (1,496).“I am really worried for my friend. Myfriend is being physically abused byher mum on a regular basis. She is notcoping well and thinking of runningaway. I know she used to self-harm andhas had suicidal thoughts. I don't knowhow to help her.” – Girl, age unknown“My mum and dadare hitting me – it'shappening quite oftenand is really painful.I cry all the time. Maybeit's my fault they hitme” – Girl aged 1045


Sexual abuse46


Sexual abuse represented 38 per cent of all abuse-relatedcounselling at ChildLine.During 2012/13, ChildLine counselled 12,431 <strong>you</strong>ng peoplewhose main reason for contacting ChildLine was sexualabuse. In a further 6,206 counselling sessions, sexual abusewas talked about as an issue related to another concern.This means that last year over 18,600 <strong>you</strong>ng people werecounselled about this issue.Girls were more likely to talk to us about sexual abuseand outnumbered boys by 2:1. Sexual abuse was themost common form of abuse for girls to speak to us aboutrepresenting 41 per cent of total female abuse counselling,whereas for boys, physical abuse was the dominantabuse concern.1,061<strong>you</strong>ng peoplespoke ofbeing sexuallyabused online28per centincreasein sextingWith the internet and smartphones becoming moreingrained in the lives of <strong>you</strong>ng people – it’s not surprisingthat we’ve seen an increase in online abuse. In 2012/13,1,061 <strong>you</strong>ng people specifically talked about online sexualabuse, with girls and 15 year olds being the most affected.Often <strong>you</strong>ng people talked to ChildLine about being madeto post sexually provocative images online, or share themvia a mobile phone at the request of someone they had metonline (often referred to as sexting).This issue was talked about by 351 <strong>you</strong>ng people – anincrease of 28 per cent from 2011/12. In the sexting categorygirls outnumbered boys by 9:1 and 75 per cent of <strong>you</strong>ngpeople discussing this matter were aged 12-15.47


Grooming was another form of online sexual abuse talkedabout by 327 <strong>you</strong>ng people, with one in four <strong>tell</strong>ing ChildLinethat they had been groomed online.475 <strong>you</strong>ng people told ChildLine that they had been exposedto sexually explicit images or internet porn. Young peopledescribed how guilty and disgusted they felt about whatthey had seen and how they were extremely worried aboutgetting into trouble for accessing these sites.But although there are growing concerns about online sexualabuse – abuse within the family is still far more common.Where the <strong>you</strong>ng person told ChildLine who the abuser was,nearly half (49 per cent) said the perpetrator was a familymember. In over 4,650 contacts (46 per cent) <strong>you</strong>ng peoplesaid the abuser was an acquaintance and in only 660 (6per cent) <strong>you</strong>ng people told us they were a stranger. Fathersrepresented the majority (21 per cent) of sexual abusers inthe family, followed by mothers (5 per cent) and then uncles(4 per cent).Over a quarter of <strong>you</strong>ng people (over 3,400 counsellingsessions) who talked to us about sexual abuse describedrape or penetrative sex.Often, <strong>you</strong>ng people described this using terms suchas ‘touching’ or ‘being made to do things’ rather thanspecifically referring to rape, particularly in the cases with<strong>you</strong>nger children where the abuse was intrafamilial.A third of all <strong>you</strong>ng people contacting ChildLine about sexualabuse had not told anyone about it – showing how difficult itis for children and <strong>you</strong>ng people to talk about sexual abuseand that far too many continue to suffer in silence.49per cent ofsexual abusecontacts said theperpetrator wasa family member“I’m 17 and I recently sent picturesof me in my underwear and toplessto someone I thought was a girl.It turns out it was actually a guy andhe threatened to upload all my photosand show the photos to my family andfriends unless I showed myself to himvia live video messaging. I am so scaredright now, I don’t know what to do – iswhat he is doing illegal?” – Boy aged 1748


“I'm having counselling at themoment to help me get over beingsexually abused by my uncle. So farit's not helping. I'm regretting <strong>tell</strong>inganyone because it's made thingsreally tense at home. I just feel sodown that I've considered endingmy life.” – Girl aged 16“I really struggle to talk to anyone aboutbeing sexually abused. It happenedfor a few years so I feel like it took mychildhood away. I feel really ashamedthat it happened to me – I'm unable tocope. I want some support but I don'tknow what kind of support I need orwhat will even help. I just <strong>can</strong>'t carryon like this.” – Boy aged 17ZipItChildLine'sfirstphone appIn October 2013, ChildLine launched its first app –Zipit. Developed with <strong>you</strong>ng people in response toNSPCC research, Zipit is designed to help them dealwith the peer pressure to share explicit images.The app features funny images to use in responseto requests for naked pictures, advice for safe chatand a way to call ChildLine straight from the app.A landmark for ChildLine, Zipit has been warmlyreceived by <strong>you</strong>ng people as of December we’vehad over 20,000 downloads.49


Familyrelationships50


one of the mainreasons why<strong>you</strong>ng peoplecontact ChildLineFamily relationship problems have consistently been oneof the main reasons <strong>you</strong>ng people contact ChildLine – andit was no different in 2012/13. Family relationship problems<strong>can</strong> include issues such as parents’ divorce and separation,arguments and conflict with family members, sibling rivalryand being a <strong>you</strong>ng carer.During 2012/13 there were 35,154 <strong>you</strong>ng people counselledabout family relationship problems as a main concern – and50,936 more where these issues were mentioned as anadditional concern. This means family relationship problemswere mentioned in 86,090 counselling sessions.Of these, nearly 9 per cent of <strong>you</strong>ng people whose mainconcern was family relationships talked about emotionalabuse and neglect.What’s more, 1,200 <strong>you</strong>ng people said they wanted to leavethe family home or wanted to go into care.One of the main related issues that saw the biggest increasewas parents’ divorce and separation - a 122 per centincrease (3,153).Age breakdownof counsellingabout parents'divorce andseparation122(3,15359per cent12-15 yearolds21per cent11 andunderper cent increase incontacts about parents’divorce or separationcontacts)20per cent16-18 yearolds51


Where <strong>you</strong>ng people were involved in custody battles,many were unsure of their legal rights and wanted to knowwhether they could influence decision-making.Some talked about the stress of court proceedings goingon for months and expressed how they felt they did nothave a voice in the decisions that were being made abouttheir lives.After the break-upThe emotional distress children and <strong>you</strong>ng peopleexperience doesn’t always end when their parents’ divorceor separation is finalised.Often, many struggle to cope with their feelings for yearsafterwards. In some cases, <strong>you</strong>ng people are concernedabout the amount their parents are drinking after abreak-up, and the effect this has on their lives. In 2012/13,ChildLine dealt with 3,930 contacts from <strong>you</strong>ng people whowere concerned about their parents’ drinking. This wasalmost twice as many as in 2011/12.“My mum and dad are goingthrough a divorce at themoment. Dad's already leftand I haven't seen him for awhile, which makes me feelsad. My mum told me weare going to have to moveand I feel really weird aboutit because I have lived hereall my life. I know we have tomove but I am finding it reallyhard and keep getting upset.”– Boy aged 11“I <strong>can</strong>'t do anything right. I found out about<strong>something</strong> my mum was doing and I told my dadabout it. I feel like I wrecked the family becausethey split up after this. Dad drinks a lot now andleaves me on my own. I feel like he's not copingand doesn't take any interest in me anymore.I have started to self-harm because I feel likeI deserve to be punished.” – Girl aged 1553


Another key theme, both during and after separation, was<strong>you</strong>ng people feeling torn between their parents. Theycommonly mentioned the pressure they felt to treat bothparents equally, and they felt guilty if they were spendingmore time with one rather than the other. This wasparticularly stressful in cases where the family breakdownwas not amicable.When this happened, <strong>you</strong>ng people felt particularly upsetand angry that they were continuing to be caught in themiddle of their parents’ conflicts.Some talked about feeling neglected by one of their parentsin the aftermath of divorce. Often the child felt abandoned,feeling that their parent was making no effort to maintainany kind of relationship with them.In cases where their parent had moved in with a newpartner, <strong>you</strong>ng people often struggled to adjust to this newset-up – particularly if this partner had children of their own.They often felt unable to cope with the idea of their parentbeing with someone else, and seeing this new family as abarrier to having a good relationship with their parent.“I was eight when my parents divorced so I wasn'tgiven a choice as to who I could live with, I live atmy mum's. I feel so sorry for my dad – I watchedmy mum chuck him out of the house and he leftwithout a proper goodbye. I didn't see him formonths – not even over Christmas. I hated mymum for chucking him out at the time and nowall mum and I do is argue.” – Girl aged 1354


Depressionand unhappiness55


the top main concern in 2012/13In 2012, ChildLine introduced a new concern category – depressionand unhappiness – in order to better represent <strong>you</strong>ng people who’dcontacted ChildLine for support with how they were feeling. Thiscategory includes feeling sad, low mood, lonely, low self-esteem,confidence or body image issues.These are issues that have not yet become so severe that they <strong>can</strong>be classified as severe depression or a mental health issue, butresearch shows that poor emotional wellbeing in childhood <strong>can</strong>result in more serious mental health problems developing lateron in life.Therefore it is crucial that we help <strong>you</strong>ng people identify theunderlying issues before they escalate into <strong>something</strong> muchmore serious.In 2012/13, this new category was the top concern overall with35,941 counselling sessions about this issue as a main concern,and a further 51,918 where it was mentioned as an additionalconcern – a total of 87,859 counselling sessions.This was also the top concern for girls, and for <strong>you</strong>ng peopleaged 16-18 (where age was known).There are clear connections between <strong>you</strong>ng people’s wellbeingand other issues in their lives – such as family relationship issues,money problems, school pressures and bullying.Young people also talked about self-harming and feeling suicidal– both of which feature in the top five additional concerns wheredepression and unhappiness was the main concern.Top fiveadditionalconcernsPercentage ofdepression andunhappiness asmain concernFamily relationships 17%Self-harm 10%School oreducation problemsBullying/online-bullying10%6%Suicidal issues 5%87,859counselling sessions were aboutdepression and unhappiness56


FeelingsChildLine records the feelings expressed by <strong>you</strong>ng peopleduring their counselling sessions. In 2012/13, the mostcommon feeling expressed by <strong>you</strong>ng people was upsetor the <strong>you</strong>ng person was tearful during the call. This wasfollowed by feeling worried, scared, angry and then sad.Stress and anxietyChildLine heard from 20,753 <strong>you</strong>ng people who werestruggling with feelings of stress and anxiety. School andexam pressures were one of the biggest causes. Thiswas mirrored by the fact that in 2012/13, ChildLine carriedout 30,429 counselling sessions with <strong>you</strong>ng people whomentioned school and education problems, a 17 per centincrease from 2011/12.“It has taken me weeks to build up thecourage to talk to ChildLine. I suffer fromreally bad anxiety because of things thathappened to me in the past. I was abusedwhen I was <strong>you</strong>nger and never got anysupport. I want to be able to move on withmy life and understand what I want to doin the future but it's so hard.” – Girl aged 17FeelingsTotalfemaleTotalmaleTotalunknownTotalUpset/tearful 18,207 3,901 7,521 29,629Worried 14,795 3,412 7,396 25,603Scared 15,112 2,781 6,823 24,716Angry 9,084 3,071 4,835 16,990Sad 6,939 1,640 4,094 12,67357


Self-esteem,confidence andbody image issues13,257 contacts came from <strong>you</strong>ng people looking for supportwith their low self-esteem, confidence and body imageissues. Young people found it hard to find anything positiveto say about their skills, achievements or how they looked,comparing themselves unfavourably to their peers.Those with low self-esteem expressed how hard they foundit to cope with pressures from school, peers and society. Thisled to many <strong>you</strong>ng people needlessly hiding themselvesaway from society – rarely leaving their bedrooms, going outor socialising.“I feel so sad. I am really ugly andfeel like nobody wants to talk to me.I have really awful skin and havetried everything to make it go awaybut nothing works. My friends areall perfect and I wish I was like them.I <strong>can</strong>'t think of anything I like aboutmyself.” – Girl aged 16“I am so stressed out. I have run into loads ofdebt and I don't know what to do now. I owethe bank loads of money and have massivebills to pay. I took out a loan to pay some ofthis back but I have been unable to keep upwith the payments. I don't know what's goingto happen.” – Boy aged 18Money problemsYoung people mentioned money problems in 3,000 contacts(a 40 per cent increase over 2011/12). 69 per cent of thesecame from <strong>you</strong>ng people aged 16-18, with the mostrepresented age being 18.One in three talked about how their financial difficulties wereadversely affecting their emotional wellbeing or mentalhealth. What’s more, research by another <strong>you</strong>ng people’scharity – Youth Net – supports this, suggesting that a quarterof 16-24 year olds have suffered mental health issuesbecause of their finances.Young people talked about how they were struggling to findwork, meet their financial responsibilities or afford to buyfood and pay bills. Many on benefits found the amount theyreceived noticeably less than what they needed to live on.Often this led to <strong>you</strong>ng people getting themselves into debtand taking out loans as a temporary solution – sometimesleading to their debt problems escalating further.58


Compliments PageChildLine could not exist without the generosity and dedicationof our wonderful volunteers. The following quotes from <strong>you</strong>ngpeople illustrate the impact this invaluable support has madeto their <strong>you</strong>ng lives.59


“I just wanted to say thank<strong>you</strong> for all <strong>you</strong>r helpChildLine. Whenever I call<strong>you</strong> make me feel specialbecause <strong>you</strong> always listento me. I feel much moreable to cope with thingsnow but I know I <strong>can</strong>contact <strong>you</strong> wheneverI need to.”“The advice I got fromChildLine was amazing.I’d never used it beforeso I just want to say thank<strong>you</strong> for all <strong>you</strong>r help, <strong>you</strong>’rea great organisation.”“I’ve been really stressed with myexams so I called ChildLine. Thetips given to me were great andhave helped so much. Thank<strong>you</strong> for listening to me, I’m reallygrateful and feel so much betternow. Thank <strong>you</strong>!”“After speaking to aChildLine counsellor I feelso much better. I followedthe advice I was given andit’s helped improve things.Thank <strong>you</strong> for doing sucha great job.”“ChildLine has helped methrough loads for a long timenow. It’s such an amazingservice. Thank <strong>you</strong>.”“I have used ChildLinea lot, so I just wantedto say thank <strong>you</strong>. I’mmuch happier and moreconfident now. I finallyfeel like I’m making themost out of my life.”“Thank <strong>you</strong> for the helpfulchats ChildLine. Youalways say such greatthings, and it’s true thatthere’s always someonethere to listen – <strong>you</strong>’realways there when I need<strong>you</strong>, and I feel betterknowing that.”60


“Without ChildLineI wouldn’t be herenow. I’ve told myfamily about my selfharming.They’re reallysupporting me with it.Thank <strong>you</strong> for givingme the courage totalk about it.”“Well done for beingso helpful ChildLine,I really appreciateeverything <strong>you</strong> havehelped me with.”“Thank <strong>you</strong> ChildLine.I’m not used to peoplebeing nice to me, butwith ChildLine I knowthat someone will listento me, so maybesomeone does care.”“I want to thankChildLine for savingmy life. If <strong>you</strong> hadn’thave called me anambulance I don’tknow what would havehappened. I’m outof hospital now andfeeling fine.”“Thank <strong>you</strong> ChildLine, I’m feelingmuch better after calling <strong>you</strong>. Thesuggestions <strong>you</strong> gave me to helpdeal with being bullied were great.I’ve now spoken about it to otherpeople and it’s really helped.”“I always feel better about myself afterI’ve talked to ChildLine. It’s like one bigfamily where I <strong>can</strong> speak my mindknowing I won’t be judged.”“I feel less alone knowingChildLine is there. WheneverI contact, I always get theencouragement and supportthat I need. I feel likeI’ve gained so much fromthe advice <strong>you</strong> give me.Thank <strong>you</strong>.”61


“Thank <strong>you</strong> for the support <strong>you</strong>’ve givenme ChildLine. I finally feel confidentenough to get help from people aroundme - they’re all being great.”“Thank <strong>you</strong> for givingme some really goodresources to help with myissues ChildLine. I feel likeeveryone’s leaving me soI’m running out of peopleI <strong>can</strong> turn to for support,but I always know<strong>you</strong>’re there.”“Before contacting ChildLineI felt really nervous aboutspeaking to a counsellor,but I’m so glad I called.I feel so much better nowI’ve talked to someone aboutmy problems. Thank <strong>you</strong>.”“I just wanted to say thank <strong>you</strong>for the help I received fromChildLine last week. I followedthe advice of the counsellorand spoke to someone aboutthe problems I was having.Everything has been sortedout now sothank <strong>you</strong>.”“I really appreciate all the supportChildLine has given me. I’ve finallygained the confidence to confidein my parents who are really helpingme cope with all my problems.I don’t feel as depressed now.”“I think ChildLine’s reallyuseful. I know wheneverI’m ready to talk about myproblems <strong>you</strong>’ll be there.”“Whenever I feel likeI’m running out ofoptions I speak toChildLine - Theyunderstand so itmakes me feelmuch happier.Thank <strong>you</strong>.”“I just wanted to say thank<strong>you</strong> for the support <strong>you</strong>gave me yesterday.I wasn’t in a good waybut <strong>you</strong> gave me thecourage to speak to myfamily which has helpedme deal with it all. I’m ina much better placenow so thank <strong>you</strong>.Carry on doing a greatjob of helping thosewho need it.”62


During the course of the year, ChildLine will produce a number of <strong>report</strong>s looking in moredepth at what children and <strong>you</strong>ng people are <strong>tell</strong>ing us about their experiences. These willaim to highlight trends in areas of concern for children and <strong>you</strong>ng people today.Wherever we have used quotes from <strong>you</strong>ng people, names and potentially identifying detailshave been changed to protect their identity.ChildLine is the UK’s free, 24-hour helpline and online service for children. Trainedvolunteer counsellors comfort, advise and protect children and <strong>you</strong>ng people. Calls toChildLine are confidential, but if a child is in immediate danger the counsellor will let thecaller know if they have to break confidentiality and contact the emergency services tosave the child’s life.Children and <strong>you</strong>ng people <strong>can</strong> contact ChildLine 24 hours a day,7 days a week, 365 days per year on 0800 1111 and atwww.<strong>childline</strong>.org.ukFor any enquiries please contact us at <strong>childline</strong>businesssupportteam@nspcc.org.ukChildLine is a service provided by the NSPCC. © 2013 NSPCC - all rights reserved.Photograph by iStockphoto, Gettyimages and Jon Challicom, posed by models. J2013769. Registered charity numbers 216401 and SC037717.63

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