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G rade 7 /8 Activity Bookcybertip.ca/respect<strong>you</strong>rselfHow far would <strong>you</strong> <strong>go</strong><strong>to</strong> <strong>get</strong> <strong>noticed</strong>?
cybertip.ca/respect<strong>you</strong>rselfThe Respect Yourself campaign is designed <strong>to</strong> teach <strong>you</strong>about healthy relationships. This activity booklet will help guide<strong>you</strong> through ways <strong>to</strong> recognize strange behaviour and situations.The website discusses some of <strong>the</strong> most overlooked issues with<strong>the</strong> Internet such as send<strong>in</strong>g pictures/videos <strong>to</strong> o<strong>the</strong>rs. Once <strong>you</strong>rpictures/videos are shared, whe<strong>the</strong>r by email, IM, or post<strong>in</strong>g onl<strong>in</strong>e,<strong>the</strong>re's no way for <strong>you</strong> <strong>to</strong> rega<strong>in</strong> full control of <strong>the</strong>m!Our <strong>go</strong>al is <strong>to</strong> <strong>in</strong>crease <strong>you</strong>r safety. Talk <strong>to</strong> a safe adultif <strong>you</strong> are unsure or uncomfortable about anyth<strong>in</strong>g.Need <strong>to</strong> Tal k <strong>to</strong> Someone ?Sometimes it can feel like <strong>you</strong> are trapped <strong>in</strong> a situation and <strong>the</strong>reis no way out. Remember no situation is so hopeless that <strong>the</strong>re isno way out. Tell an adult that <strong>you</strong> feel safe with. It is okay <strong>to</strong> talkabout it.»»If <strong>the</strong>re is an emergency call 911 or <strong>you</strong>r <strong>to</strong>wn’slocal emergency number.»»If <strong>you</strong> want <strong>to</strong> talk <strong>to</strong> someone about <strong>you</strong>rself ora friend and do not want <strong>to</strong> give out <strong>you</strong>r name call<strong>Kids</strong> Help Phone @ 1-800-668-6868.It’s free and open 24/7!»»If someth<strong>in</strong>g <strong>in</strong>appropriate or uncomfortablehappens onl<strong>in</strong>e report it at cybertip.caor call 1-866-658-9022.
Table of ContentsI. Who are <strong>you</strong>? » 2II. How far would <strong>you</strong> <strong>go</strong><strong>to</strong> <strong>get</strong> <strong>noticed</strong>?» 6Positive or Negative Attention Quiz » 6III. Reality check » 8IV. healthy, respectfulrelationships» 9Dat<strong>in</strong>g Do’s and Don’ts » 10True s<strong>to</strong>ry—I Don’t Th<strong>in</strong>k So! » 11True s<strong>to</strong>ry—Wake Up Girl! » 12True / False Quiz » 13Date-O-Meter » 14Okay or Weird Quiz » 14V. Personal Boundaries » 16True s<strong>to</strong>ry—Foul Play » 17VI. Media » 18What Do You Th<strong>in</strong>k About That? » 18Maze » 20True s<strong>to</strong>ry—How Can I Help My Friend? » 21Technology » 22True s<strong>to</strong>ry—It’s Not His Fault! » 22Be careful because ... » 23True s<strong>to</strong>ry—Walk<strong>in</strong>g Right In<strong>to</strong> a Trap » 24Answers » 25
3This is who I a mFill this page with words andicons <strong>to</strong> represent who <strong>you</strong> are.use <strong>you</strong>r answers from page 2 <strong>to</strong> fill this pageand/or turn <strong>the</strong> page for some more ideas!
73. While onl<strong>in</strong>e Sandra meets a guy who tells hershe is beautiful and asks <strong>to</strong> see more pictures ofher. He tells her she looks like a model and asksher <strong>to</strong> <strong>get</strong> on her webcam <strong>in</strong> her underwear andbra.positiveornegativeAttention4. Scott’s coach tells him he is <strong>the</strong> best player on <strong>the</strong> hockey team. He tellshim that he has a real shot at <strong>go</strong><strong>in</strong>g pro some day. He asks Scott <strong>to</strong> comeover <strong>to</strong> his house <strong>to</strong> hang out with him. His coach is act<strong>in</strong>g weird and isreally “<strong>to</strong>uchy” with him.positiveornegativeAttention5. When L<strong>in</strong>dsay <strong>go</strong>es <strong>to</strong> <strong>the</strong> s<strong>to</strong>re with a group of friends, she realizes that shefor<strong>go</strong>t <strong>to</strong> br<strong>in</strong>g money. When she <strong>get</strong>s <strong>to</strong> <strong>the</strong> s<strong>to</strong>re her friend, Jeff, offers <strong>to</strong>buy her a dr<strong>in</strong>k. L<strong>in</strong>dsay buys Jeff a dr<strong>in</strong>k <strong>the</strong> next time <strong>the</strong>y’re at <strong>the</strong> s<strong>to</strong>re.positiveornegativeAttention6. Michelle’s friend Abby is always post<strong>in</strong>g pictures of herself onl<strong>in</strong>e. She hasbeen putt<strong>in</strong>g “sexy poses” of herself onl<strong>in</strong>e and has been receiv<strong>in</strong>g a lot ofcomments from people. She really likes read<strong>in</strong>g all <strong>the</strong> comments. She justposted one of herself do<strong>in</strong>g <strong>the</strong> splits <strong>in</strong> her bik<strong>in</strong>i. You should see all <strong>the</strong>comments she is <strong>get</strong>t<strong>in</strong>g!positiveornegativeAttentioncheck <strong>you</strong>r answers on page 25
8III. reality checkDo <strong>you</strong> th<strong>in</strong>k what <strong>you</strong> do onl<strong>in</strong>e is private?realitycheckThe Internet is a public place. Parents, teachers,coaches, and anyone who wants <strong>to</strong> can see what <strong>you</strong> do<strong>in</strong> social network<strong>in</strong>g sites, chatrooms, newsgroups, etc.Do <strong>you</strong> th<strong>in</strong>k post<strong>in</strong>g sexy poses of <strong>you</strong>rselfonl<strong>in</strong>e will <strong>get</strong> <strong>you</strong> attention?realitycheckYeah! But is this <strong>the</strong> type of attention <strong>you</strong> want?Respect <strong>you</strong>rself.Do <strong>you</strong> th<strong>in</strong>k post<strong>in</strong>g embarrass<strong>in</strong>g picturesof o<strong>the</strong>rs will make <strong>the</strong>m look bad?realitycheckIt makes YOU look bad.Respect<strong>in</strong>g <strong>you</strong>rself also means respect<strong>in</strong>g o<strong>the</strong>rs!DID YOUKNOW?It ’ s illegal for <strong>you</strong> or<strong>you</strong>r friends <strong>to</strong> sendout naked picturesof <strong>you</strong>rselves!!!
9IV. Healthy, respectfulrelationshipsWhen <strong>you</strong> decide <strong>you</strong> really like someone it can be <strong>to</strong>ugh <strong>to</strong> decide how <strong>to</strong> let<strong>the</strong> person know how <strong>you</strong> feel.Do <strong>you</strong> ever wonder how <strong>to</strong> show someone that <strong>you</strong> like <strong>the</strong>m? How far would<strong>you</strong> <strong>go</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>get</strong> <strong>noticed</strong>? Respect <strong>you</strong>rself.»»Actions speak louder than words!»»When <strong>you</strong> really care about someone, show <strong>the</strong>mby <strong>the</strong> way <strong>you</strong> act <strong>to</strong>wards <strong>the</strong>m.»»When someone really cares about <strong>you</strong>, s/he needs<strong>to</strong> show <strong>you</strong> by <strong>the</strong> way s/he acts <strong>to</strong>wards <strong>you</strong>.How <strong>to</strong> show someone <strong>you</strong> like <strong>the</strong>mBe RespectfulBe courteous and careful not <strong>to</strong> make<strong>the</strong> o<strong>the</strong>r person feel uncomfortable.have funHave fun jok<strong>in</strong>g around with each o<strong>the</strong>r.Hang outEnjoy spend<strong>in</strong>g time <strong>to</strong><strong>get</strong>her.ShareBe s<strong>in</strong>cere. Talk andshare personal s<strong>to</strong>rieswith each o<strong>the</strong>r.TrustKeep <strong>you</strong>r word and do not takeadvantage of each o<strong>the</strong>r.Do not tell o<strong>the</strong>r people whatis shared <strong>in</strong> confidence.CareBe thoughtful about how<strong>you</strong> treat each o<strong>the</strong>r.CommitBe reliable. Keep plans that<strong>you</strong> have <strong>to</strong><strong>get</strong>her.Show how much <strong>you</strong> carethrough respectful andwarm behaviour.FYI:Bad strategy!Don ’t putsomeone downas a way <strong>to</strong> <strong>get</strong><strong>the</strong>ir attentionIt may notbe <strong>the</strong> last<strong>in</strong>gimpression <strong>you</strong>wanted <strong>to</strong> make!
10Dat<strong>in</strong>g Do’sDO:»»Go out with someone that has first been <strong>you</strong>r friend»»Go out with someone because <strong>you</strong> likespend<strong>in</strong>g time <strong>to</strong><strong>get</strong>her»»Go out with someone because <strong>you</strong> have strongfeel<strong>in</strong>gs for her/him (butterflies <strong>in</strong> <strong>you</strong>r s<strong>to</strong>mach)»»Go out with someone because <strong>you</strong>feel comfortable <strong>to</strong><strong>get</strong>her»»Go out with someone because <strong>you</strong> trust each o<strong>the</strong>r»»Go out with someone because <strong>you</strong> havecommon friends and <strong>in</strong>terests»»Go out with someone because <strong>you</strong> are attracted<strong>to</strong> <strong>the</strong>m and <strong>the</strong>y are respectful <strong>to</strong>wards <strong>you</strong>Dat<strong>in</strong>g Don’tsDOn’t:»»Don’t <strong>go</strong> out with anyone that <strong>you</strong> have not been friends with first»»Don’t <strong>go</strong> out with someone <strong>you</strong> first meet on <strong>the</strong> Internet»»Don’t <strong>go</strong> out with someone who is more than two years older than <strong>you</strong>»»Don’t <strong>go</strong> out with someone just becauses/he likes <strong>you</strong>»»Don’t <strong>go</strong> out with someone just because<strong>you</strong> don’t want <strong>to</strong> hurt her/his feel<strong>in</strong>gsHow far would <strong>you</strong> <strong>go</strong><strong>to</strong> <strong>get</strong> <strong>noticed</strong>?»»Don’t <strong>go</strong> out with someone only because s/he is hot»»Don’t <strong>go</strong> out with someone just because <strong>you</strong> don’t know what else <strong>to</strong> do»»Don’t <strong>go</strong> out with someone because <strong>you</strong> are scared <strong>to</strong> say “no”»»Don’t <strong>go</strong> out with someone just because <strong>you</strong>r friends want <strong>you</strong> <strong>to</strong>»»Don’t <strong>go</strong> out with someone just <strong>to</strong> make out
11True S<strong>to</strong>ryit’s okay <strong>to</strong> talk aboutth<strong>in</strong>gs that happen<strong>to</strong> <strong>you</strong>. make sure<strong>you</strong> tell a safe adultwho can help <strong>you</strong>.I don’t th<strong>in</strong>k so!A 14-year-old girl from W<strong>in</strong>nipeg started <strong>go</strong><strong>in</strong>g out with an18-year-old boy. He <strong>to</strong>ld her she was pretty and he wanted <strong>to</strong>spend all his time with her. He would <strong>get</strong> mad if she wanted <strong>to</strong>spend time with her friends. He would tell her that if she didn’twant <strong>to</strong> spend all of her time with him, that she must not careabout him. He didn’t like it when she wore tank <strong>to</strong>ps and wouldtell her that she looked fat. She spent less and less time with herfriends. They started <strong>to</strong> <strong>get</strong> upset with her. Everyth<strong>in</strong>g she ateworried her because she was afraid that she would <strong>get</strong> fat andthat her boyfriend would dump her. What should she do?List 5 unhealthy flags <strong>in</strong> this Relationship:1.2.3.4.5.check <strong>you</strong>r answers on page 25
12i wanna hold <strong>you</strong>r hand ...now Hold on just a m<strong>in</strong>u te!Just because <strong>you</strong> are attracted <strong>to</strong> someone orhave fantasies about <strong>the</strong>m doesn’t mean <strong>you</strong>have <strong>to</strong> act on it! Come on now ...keep <strong>you</strong>rself under control!True S<strong>to</strong>ryWake up Girl!My friend Michelle is 13 years old and I am really worried about her. She metthis guy onl<strong>in</strong>e a year a<strong>go</strong> and is still talk<strong>in</strong>g <strong>to</strong> him. I th<strong>in</strong>k she wants <strong>to</strong> <strong>go</strong>and meet him and he is 26 years old. I am completely freaked out becauseshe doesn’t see anyth<strong>in</strong>g wrong with it. My boyfriend th<strong>in</strong>ks I am overreact<strong>in</strong>gand so do <strong>the</strong> rest of my friends. They th<strong>in</strong>k I should m<strong>in</strong>d my own bus<strong>in</strong>essand stay out of it. She sends pictures of herself <strong>to</strong> him when she is chang<strong>in</strong>g.What 26-year-old is <strong>in</strong>terested <strong>in</strong> a 13-year-old?!@*! Seriously stunted! If I tellshe will kill me! What would <strong>you</strong> do?This is what I did: I made a report <strong>to</strong> Cybertip.ca.
13When dat<strong>in</strong>g someone <strong>you</strong> should ... tr ue or false ?1. Enjoy hang<strong>in</strong>g out <strong>to</strong><strong>get</strong>hercircle onetruefalse2. Spend all <strong>you</strong>r time <strong>to</strong><strong>get</strong>hertrue false3. Laugh <strong>to</strong><strong>get</strong>hertrue false4. Be <strong>go</strong>od friendstrue falseslowdownDangeraheadcaution5. Never wear clo<strong>the</strong>s that <strong>the</strong> o<strong>the</strong>r person doesn’t liketruefalse6. Share personal s<strong>to</strong>ries and trust each o<strong>the</strong>rtruefalse7. Be able <strong>to</strong> joke around and not take th<strong>in</strong>gs <strong>to</strong>o seriously(such as be<strong>in</strong>g teased, call<strong>in</strong>g <strong>you</strong> fat, stupid orswear<strong>in</strong>g at <strong>you</strong>)handhold<strong>in</strong>gpermittedherespeedbumpsaheadtruefalseRespect Limits.8. Care about and respect each o<strong>the</strong>rtruefalse9. Do whatever <strong>the</strong> o<strong>the</strong>r person says(even sexual types of activities!)Don’t pressure someonewhen s/he doesn’t want <strong>to</strong>do someth<strong>in</strong>g.Hands Off!!!truefalse10. Try <strong>to</strong> change th<strong>in</strong>gs about <strong>the</strong> person that <strong>you</strong> don’t liketrue false check <strong>you</strong>r answers on page 25
14Date-o-meter10 yea r syo u n g e ryo u10 yea r so l d e r<strong>to</strong>tally<strong>in</strong>appropriate!Is this Okay or Weird?It is not always obvious when someone breaks boundaries by do<strong>in</strong>g or say<strong>in</strong>gsometh<strong>in</strong>g <strong>to</strong> <strong>you</strong>. Sett<strong>in</strong>g personal boundaries can be uncomfortable. Read <strong>the</strong>follow<strong>in</strong>g situations and circle Weird if boundaries are broken or OK if itis appropriate.no problem!A <strong>go</strong>od dat<strong>in</strong>g range is <strong>you</strong>r age <strong>to</strong>one or two yea rs older or <strong>you</strong>nger.<strong>to</strong>tally<strong>in</strong>appropriate!1. A 24-year-old guy asks a 16-year-old girl out <strong>to</strong> a movie.okweird2. A 14-year-old guy asks his girlfriend <strong>to</strong> show him herunderwear on webcam.okweirdit’s not okay foradults <strong>to</strong> givesexual attention<strong>to</strong> teenagers!3. A 13-year-old is chatt<strong>in</strong>g <strong>to</strong> someone she just met onl<strong>in</strong>e, and <strong>the</strong> person asksher if she wears a bra or not.okweird
154. A 14-year-old boy really likes a girl <strong>in</strong> his classso he asks her <strong>to</strong> <strong>go</strong> out with him <strong>to</strong> a movie.okweirdRemember <strong>to</strong> th<strong>in</strong>k about <strong>you</strong>rDate-o-meter5. An 18-year-old boy has been pay<strong>in</strong>g attention <strong>to</strong> a 13-year-old girl who justmoved <strong>in</strong> down <strong>the</strong> street. He th<strong>in</strong>ks she is really cute so he buys her an ipodand leaves it on her doorstep <strong>to</strong> surprise her.okweird6. A 13-year-old girl really likes a boy <strong>in</strong> her class. The boy tells her that <strong>in</strong> orderfor him <strong>to</strong> date her she has <strong>to</strong> prove <strong>to</strong> him how much she likes him.okweird7. After babysitt<strong>in</strong>g one even<strong>in</strong>g a 13-year-old girl is driven home by <strong>the</strong> fa<strong>the</strong>r.He tells her what a great babysitter she is and how “hot” he th<strong>in</strong>ks she is.He gives her an extra 50 bucks.okweird8. a) A 13-year-old soccer player has a great coach. All <strong>the</strong> players and <strong>the</strong>ir parentsth<strong>in</strong>k he is awesome. Sometimes he takes players from <strong>the</strong> team out <strong>to</strong> eat.okweirdb) Lately he has been tak<strong>in</strong>g <strong>the</strong> 13-year-old out alone. The last time <strong>the</strong>y were<strong>to</strong><strong>get</strong>her he <strong>to</strong>ok him over <strong>to</strong> his house <strong>to</strong> watch R-rated movies.okweird9. A friend of Sarah’s dad is like an uncle <strong>to</strong> Sarah because her family has knownhim for so long. Sometimes he takes Sarah and her bro<strong>the</strong>r out for d<strong>in</strong>ner with hischildren. His kids are <strong>the</strong> same age as Sarah and her bro<strong>the</strong>r. They have a great time.okweird10. Kate has an uncle who is constantly tell<strong>in</strong>g her jokes about sex and mak<strong>in</strong>gsexual comments when she is around. Her bro<strong>the</strong>r th<strong>in</strong>ks it’s no big deal,but Kate is <strong>to</strong>tally grossed out.okweirdcheck <strong>you</strong>r answers on page 25
16V. Personal BoundariesWhat arepersonalboundariesanyway?Boundaries are about a lot more than<strong>the</strong> personal space around <strong>you</strong>.Examples ofrespect<strong>in</strong>g Bounda riesBoundaries <strong>in</strong>clude respect<strong>in</strong>g:»»People’s bodies»»Personal belong<strong>in</strong>gs»»Beliefs»»Rights <strong>to</strong> privacy»»Right <strong>to</strong> set limits (say “NO”)»»Be<strong>in</strong>g careful not <strong>to</strong> embarrass someone»»Ask<strong>in</strong>g permission before us<strong>in</strong>g someone’s th<strong>in</strong>gs»»Careful not <strong>to</strong> spread someth<strong>in</strong>g that has been sharedwith <strong>you</strong> <strong>in</strong> confidence»»Gett<strong>in</strong>g <strong>to</strong> know someone really well before ask<strong>in</strong>g or shar<strong>in</strong>gpersonal questions such as “Have <strong>you</strong> ever had a girl/boyfriend?”“Have <strong>you</strong> ever kissed anyone?” “Do <strong>you</strong> wear a bra?”k e e pou t!Examples ofBrea k<strong>in</strong> g Bounda ries»»Ask<strong>in</strong>g someone sexual questions»»Ask<strong>in</strong>g someone personal questions <strong>in</strong> front of o<strong>the</strong>rs<strong>to</strong> embarrass <strong>the</strong>m»»Putt<strong>in</strong>g someone down»»Mak<strong>in</strong>g fun of someone»»Walk<strong>in</strong>g <strong>in</strong> on someone chang<strong>in</strong>g or us<strong>in</strong>g <strong>the</strong> bathroom»»Spy<strong>in</strong>g on someone while <strong>the</strong>y are chang<strong>in</strong>g»»A person over 18-years-of-age giv<strong>in</strong>g a teenager sexualattention, mak<strong>in</strong>g sexual comments <strong>to</strong>ward a teenager, orshar<strong>in</strong>g details about sexual experiences with a teenager
17True S<strong>to</strong>ryFoul PlayBen, age 14, was a dedicated fan of pro football—he never missed a gamedur<strong>in</strong>g <strong>the</strong> season. He also liked computers, so it wasn't long before he jo<strong>in</strong>ed afantasy football chatroom. He chatted regularly with many o<strong>the</strong>r users, <strong>in</strong>clud<strong>in</strong>ga person named Dennis. It <strong>go</strong>t <strong>to</strong> <strong>the</strong> po<strong>in</strong>t where <strong>the</strong>y started <strong>to</strong> chat privatelyonce <strong>the</strong> season started, and kept <strong>in</strong> <strong>to</strong>uch by email regularly with news andcomments about games <strong>the</strong>y each watched on television.Everyth<strong>in</strong>g was f<strong>in</strong>e until Dennis suddenly started ask<strong>in</strong>g questions aboutBen's school and home life: How old was he? What grade was he <strong>in</strong>? Wheredid he live <strong>in</strong> Nevada? Who did he live with? Where was his Dad? S<strong>in</strong>ce<strong>the</strong>y were friends and Dennis had shared his own s<strong>to</strong>ry, Ben didn't th<strong>in</strong>k<strong>the</strong> questions were <strong>to</strong>o unusual—football chatrooms attract fans of all agesfrom all parts of <strong>the</strong> world.Then Dennis started send<strong>in</strong>g emails with sexual references which led<strong>to</strong> details of his sexual fantasies and web addresses for men-and-boyspornography. Ben <strong>to</strong>ld Dennis <strong>to</strong> s<strong>to</strong>p, but <strong>the</strong> emails cont<strong>in</strong>ued. Dennis<strong>the</strong>n started threaten<strong>in</strong>g Ben unless he agreed <strong>to</strong> play along and meet him<strong>in</strong> <strong>the</strong> near future.A child cannotconsent <strong>to</strong>sexual activitywith an adult.It is always<strong>the</strong> adult’sresponsibility<strong>to</strong> re-establish<strong>the</strong> boundaries.This is what Ben did: He f<strong>in</strong>ally<strong>to</strong>ld his mo<strong>the</strong>r, who forwarded <strong>the</strong> material <strong>to</strong>cybertip.ca. Dennis was arrested <strong>in</strong> W<strong>in</strong>dsor,Ontario a short time later. Police discoveredhe had a plane ticket <strong>to</strong> Nevada, a reservationnumber for a hotel room and directions <strong>to</strong> Ben'shouse. Police <strong>the</strong>n started look<strong>in</strong>g for o<strong>the</strong>rvictims of sexual exploitation and found thatDennis had been a junior league footballcoach for many years.
18VI. mediaWhat do <strong>you</strong> th<strong>in</strong>k about that?Did <strong>you</strong> hea r that ?Pick a song with lyrics that are sexually disrespectful andrewrite <strong>the</strong> lyrics <strong>to</strong> make <strong>the</strong>m about respectful relationships.this is my son g:s o n g t i t l e
19Did <strong>you</strong> see that ?Pick an advertisement that is sexually disrespectful <strong>to</strong>ward womenor men and recreate it <strong>to</strong> make it respectful.remake <strong>you</strong>r ad here:
20Can <strong>you</strong> avoid <strong>the</strong> weirdnessand f<strong>in</strong>d <strong>you</strong>r way home ?mazestart heretak<strong>in</strong>g<strong>in</strong>appropriatepics with cellphoneA teachertells ateenagers/he is hotsend<strong>in</strong>g“dirty”picsonl<strong>in</strong>edat<strong>in</strong>gsomeoneyears olderor <strong>you</strong>ngerthan <strong>you</strong>coachasks<strong>you</strong> <strong>to</strong>massagehis backsomeonesend<strong>in</strong>gpornographysexuallyexplicittextmessagesexperiment<strong>in</strong>gus<strong>in</strong>g webcamsexualattentionfrom anadultanswer<strong>in</strong>gtext messagesfrom people<strong>you</strong> don’tknowdat<strong>in</strong>gsomeone whotells <strong>you</strong> what<strong>you</strong> can andcannot wearhomecheck <strong>you</strong>r answers on page 25
21Did <strong>you</strong> know ???People who care about <strong>you</strong>like <strong>you</strong> for who <strong>you</strong> arePeople who care about <strong>you</strong> do notask <strong>you</strong> <strong>to</strong> do th<strong>in</strong>gs that would<strong>get</strong> <strong>you</strong> <strong>in</strong><strong>to</strong> troublePeople who care about <strong>you</strong> do nottry <strong>to</strong> <strong>get</strong> <strong>you</strong> <strong>to</strong> do th<strong>in</strong>gs thatmake <strong>you</strong> feel uncomfortablePeople who care about <strong>you</strong>look out for <strong>you</strong>True S<strong>to</strong>ryHow can I help my friend?My friend Lisa called me <strong>to</strong>day all creeped out! She<strong>go</strong>t an email from a camp counsellor she met atsummer camp. It was so disgust<strong>in</strong>g. He said tha<strong>the</strong> missed her and asked for a sexy pic of her <strong>to</strong>keep on his fridge. He is a zillion years older than her – 30! He asked if hecould meet up with her <strong>to</strong> take her underwear shopp<strong>in</strong>g. Crazy! She <strong>to</strong>ld me not <strong>to</strong>tell anyone. What would <strong>you</strong> do?This is what I did: I <strong>to</strong>ld my mom.
22Technology:Cell ph onewireless, portable telephoneOnl<strong>in</strong> e ga m<strong>in</strong> gmultiple users play onl<strong>in</strong>ePeer <strong>to</strong> Pee rfile transfer program <strong>to</strong> download/transfer musicBl og sa personal website where <strong>you</strong> regularly post op<strong>in</strong>ions,<strong>in</strong>formation, pho<strong>to</strong>s, videos, etc.Voice ove r In te rn e t pr o<strong>to</strong>c olsoftware that allows <strong>you</strong> <strong>to</strong> make calls for freeIns ta n t me ss a g<strong>in</strong> ga program for chatt<strong>in</strong>g with o<strong>the</strong>rs <strong>in</strong> real timeTrue S<strong>to</strong>ryIt’s not his fault!I knew someth<strong>in</strong>g was up with my friend Scott when he started<strong>get</strong>t<strong>in</strong>g <strong>in</strong><strong>to</strong> fights and trouble at school. He never used <strong>to</strong> belike that. I just found out that he was sexually abused by hisuncle. He doesn’t want <strong>to</strong> come <strong>to</strong> school anymore becausehe is embarrassed. The guy has noth<strong>in</strong>g <strong>to</strong> be ashamed of – itwasn’t his fault! I wish he’d come back cause he’s a <strong>go</strong>od guyand I miss hang<strong>in</strong>g out with him.This is what I did: I called him <strong>to</strong> play hockey.
23Be Ca r eful beca use ...» » Pictures and videos can easily becopied and shared without <strong>you</strong> know<strong>in</strong>g» » You can come across disgust<strong>in</strong>gsexual pictures and advertisements» » <strong>you</strong> could Give away <strong>you</strong>r personal<strong>in</strong>formation <strong>to</strong> someone <strong>you</strong> don’twant <strong>to</strong> have it»» You can end up <strong>in</strong> weird conversationsthat can be really uncomfortable»» People can type whatever <strong>the</strong>y wantand it doesn’t mean that it is true» » If <strong>you</strong> end up shar<strong>in</strong>g private<strong>in</strong>formation, <strong>you</strong> may be <strong>in</strong> for an<strong>in</strong>credibly embarrass<strong>in</strong>g moment!
24True S<strong>to</strong>rywalk<strong>in</strong>g right <strong>in</strong><strong>to</strong> a trapAs a child, Peter visited <strong>the</strong> websites of his favourite car<strong>to</strong>on characters andTV shows. By <strong>the</strong> time Peter turned 13 he was <strong>in</strong>volved <strong>in</strong> onl<strong>in</strong>e gam<strong>in</strong>g,which became <strong>the</strong> focus of his social life.When his parents divorced, Peter and his mo<strong>the</strong>r, Diane, moved <strong>to</strong> anew city. Websites and chatrooms gave him someth<strong>in</strong>g <strong>to</strong> do becausehe didn’t really know anyone at his new school yet.Peter met this guy, Len, through gam<strong>in</strong>g. He talked <strong>to</strong> him for about threemonths before he changed schools. The pair forged a bond through gam<strong>in</strong>g, as Lenknew a lot about role-play<strong>in</strong>g games and encouraged Peter <strong>to</strong> take part.Every day <strong>the</strong>y hooked up <strong>to</strong> play <strong>the</strong>ir favourite game. The two shared personals<strong>to</strong>ries, and each appeared <strong>to</strong> fill a void for <strong>the</strong> o<strong>the</strong>r. Peter's recent move hadseparated him from his dad, while Len's own son had recently left for college. Lenwas a <strong>go</strong>od listener and offered encouragement whenever Peter discussed <strong>the</strong>challenges of his new life. This support made it easier for Peter <strong>to</strong> settle <strong>in</strong><strong>to</strong> school.Even his mom saw <strong>the</strong> improvement <strong>in</strong> his outlook and attitude.As <strong>the</strong> friendship progressed, Len <strong>in</strong>vited Peter for a vacation <strong>to</strong> his home<strong>in</strong> California. Peter was sure he and Len would spend <strong>the</strong> long weekendexplor<strong>in</strong>g new games. Although Diane was a bit hesitant at first, Petereventually persuaded her <strong>to</strong> let him <strong>go</strong>. Len didn't seem creepy <strong>to</strong> Diane — <strong>in</strong>fact, he had sent Diane an email about himself. As a result, she didn't feelscared when Peter boarded <strong>the</strong> plane and headed across<strong>the</strong> country <strong>to</strong> visit his onl<strong>in</strong>e friend and men<strong>to</strong>r.When Peter's plane landed at <strong>the</strong> airport on a hot summer afternoon,Len picked him up and <strong>the</strong>y headed <strong>to</strong> a community pool. Peter enjoyed <strong>the</strong>rough-hous<strong>in</strong>g, splash<strong>in</strong>g and wrestl<strong>in</strong>g. It all seemed like fun until <strong>the</strong>y went<strong>to</strong> Len's apartment. Then <strong>the</strong> rough-hous<strong>in</strong>g turned <strong>in</strong><strong>to</strong> hugg<strong>in</strong>g; Len alsokept strok<strong>in</strong>g Peter's back. Away from <strong>the</strong> security of his home, Peter realizedthat he didn't really know Len very well at all, and that <strong>the</strong> friendship suddenlyseemed very scary.This is what Peter did: He called his mom immediatelyand <strong>to</strong>ld her what was happen<strong>in</strong>g. It turns out that Len was a convictedsex offender, and that Peter wasn't <strong>the</strong> first boy <strong>to</strong> visit him that month.Fortunately, Len's parole officer learned of <strong>the</strong> visits and called <strong>the</strong>police immediately.
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