It's not her fault you can't get - Focus on Women Magazine

Constellations Plus—Healing to WholenessStories - ExamplesBert Hellinger tellsthis story in one ofhis books. The clientdiscovered she had beensignificantly, unconsciously,impacted by <strong>her</strong> mot<strong>her</strong>’shorrific childhood experience—witnessing<strong>her</strong> fat<strong>her</strong>drowning.The day after the healingresolution occurred, theMot<strong>her</strong> called with very goodnews. Totally unaware <strong>her</strong>daughter had just attendeda Constellation weekend,<strong>her</strong>e’s the gist of what Iimagine was said.“Remember how, on theanniversary of my Fat<strong>her</strong>’sdeath, I always felt impelledto return to the same spot onthe bridge? When I got t<strong>her</strong>ethis year, this time I couldn’tstay. I felt just as compelledto walk to the opposite endof the bridge, and when Igot t<strong>her</strong>e I felt ever so muchlighter, like a huge burdenhad been lifted.”Constellations can have apowerful impact on familymembers who are <strong>not</strong> present,or even aware a healingresolution has been initiatedwithin the family system.Isn’t that marvelous!?* * * * *20 <strong>Focus</strong> on Women MagazineThe issue I chose to workon was achieving my potential.For many years I hadexperienced the sensation ofbeing held back, as if someonehad a firm grip on theback of my shirt and wouldyank me backwards as soonas I took half a step forward.The Constellation immediatelysurfaced that myMot<strong>her</strong> was extremely upset,<strong>her</strong> attention stuck on somepast event. I remembered <strong>her</strong>telling me how traumaticallyupsetting <strong>her</strong> honeymoonwas. A foretelling of whatto expect the rest of <strong>her</strong> life.The Constellation processconfirmed this was the reasonmy Mot<strong>her</strong> was unableto be the loving, supportiveMom she really wanted tobe. As we came to<strong>get</strong><strong>her</strong> inhealing resolution, I felt alifting, a release, that I wasno longer being held back.Life-long patterns canchange quite dramaticallyonce initiating events arehealed. It’s such a relief todiscover it was <strong>not</strong> <strong>you</strong>, <strong>you</strong>really were being impelled bysubconscious conditions. Howfortunate the person who isso freed!* * * * *Now that my Mot<strong>her</strong> and Ihad connected in loving resolution,I expected momentumto begin building immediately.That didn’t happen. Twoweeks later I was still stuck!So I did a second Constellation,focusing on my Fat<strong>her</strong>.This is how I learned why becomingfree of my Mot<strong>her</strong>’sissue had <strong>not</strong> been enough tofree me fully.“It was <strong>not</strong> safe for <strong>you</strong>to move forward, Ann,” themessage said. All havocwould have broken loose if<strong>you</strong>r creativity had been letfly before <strong>you</strong> were securelygrounded. You need the firmfoundation <strong>you</strong>r Fat<strong>her</strong> canprovide. He’s a very solid,steadfast man.” I felt myDad’s strength begin to flowinto me, supporting, stabilizingand grounding.Ever since that session, Ihave felt myself growing internallystronger. Now, whenI start to bog down, I can <strong>get</strong>myself going again. Tasksare <strong>get</strong>ting done with fewerinterruptions, my writing isflowing with greater ease.Delightful synchronisticevents are occurring withincreasing frequency. Free atlast, free at last, how gratefulI am for Constellations!Is this the kind of freeingexperience <strong>you</strong> choose to gift<strong>you</strong>rself?Will we see <strong>you</strong> at our nextConstellations Plus–Healingto Wholeness?To save <strong>you</strong>r place Jan.31st 2010 call 703-262-0620or email MidWife@AnnMc-Gill.com. Do <strong>you</strong> wish to bethe focus of a Constellationas well as Participant?