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herlife | love and relationshipsCoAskJaimee Leeby jaimee leephoto by la vene stephensQ:I met a guy about six months ago and he is really wonderful.He gets me flowers at least once a week, is a perfectgentleman, is really hot and has a great job. I don’t thinkI could ask for more. My problem is that he’s starting to get really serious,and I think he’s planning on asking me to marry him. Yes, I know itsounds like a wonderful thing and I should just say yes. However, I wasmarried once before and it lasted 4 ½ years, then things went wrong. Weended up divorced and I don’t want to go through that ever again. I knowso many people whose marriages did not work out. I want to know if truehappiness is out there. Do people get married and stay together forever?If he asks, I’m not sure what to say. I believe in my heart I love him but Idon’t know what to do. ~ Confused in MantecaA:Most men bring you gifts in the first six month but itusually tapers off after the first six years—actually morelike after the first year. The key is to find a man whobrings you flowers after 60 years. But let me get this straight. It’s beensix months and you haven’t had “the talk” to find out what you bothwant out of the relationship? Don’t even think about getting married ifyou don’t feel comfortable talking to him about the direction of yourrelationship. And trust me, no relationship is perfect. If a couple tellsyou they never have disagreements, they’re lying! Look at a relationshipnot as what YOU take from it, but rather what you both learnfrom each other, and how the other person complements your qualities.Anyone can buy flowers but how does that help you be a betterperson? If gifts are what motivate you, sit for five hours in a stuffy hotelconference room and listen to some guy sell you a timeshare. Forgetthe flowers and gifts. Don’t waste your time if you’re not into him! Howdoes this guy make you feel? You need to decide what you want beforethis gets too serious. And yes, marriage does work, can be happy andlast forever. My parents are celebrating their 50th wedding anniversarythis year, and they still bring each other gifts. Mom and Dad say “I loveyou” every single day. That’s the gift that counts!Jaimee Lee rocks the airwaves on Kat Country 103’s, “DJ Walkerin the Morning Show!” She has given relationship advice to hergirlfriends and thousands of listeners over the years. Now youcan ask her the secrets to a long-lasting and happy relationship.Jaimee Lee has been happily married for eight years. Please emailJaimee Lee with your love and relationship questions,jaimeelee@herlifemagazine.com.72 <strong>HER</strong><strong>LIFE</strong>MAGAZINE.COM
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