Bereaved through suicide - Southern Health and Social Care Trust

IntroductionThe Suicide Prevention Co-ordinatorsWorking Group in the Eastern arearevised this edition of the Bereaved BySuicide Booklet. The members of thisgroup are, Margaret Woods, MentalHealth Promotion Manager, PatMcGreevy, Suicide Prevention Coordinator,Fiona Molloy, HealthDevelopment Specialist for MentalHealth Promotion/Suicide Prevention,Maria Morgan, Mental HealthImprovement Practitioner Advanced.We wish to acknowledge thecontributions and guidance received inthe development of this booklet fromboth our colleagues and variousBereaved by Suicide Groups acrossNorthern Ireland.We are extremely grateful to Westcarewho developed the initial booklet for theirpermission to revise and produce thisedition.2

contentsFeelings you may be experiencingImmediate reactionsNatural responsesWhy?The familyThe childrenIsolationSupportSuggestions for the bereavedInvestigation of a death by suicideSorting out your affairsHelp with the costs of a funeralOther benefits that may be availableHelpful OrganisationsHelpful Reading445677910101316172023313

Feelings you may be experiencingWhen someone dies by suicide many people are affected. Parents,partners, relatives and friends all feel the pain. People bereaved bysuicide need to know that there is a range of services available tosupport them through the extreme circumstances and reactionsthey may experience.Immediate reactionsWhen bereaved by suicide the whole fabric of yournormal world disintegrates. You may feel totallyoverwhelmed by what has justhappened and may wonder howyou will ever survive this tragicloss. Nothing can prepare aperson for such an event. Youmay find yourself in a place thatis unfamiliar and unknown, withno signposts to show the way,feeling disorientated andpowerless. While shocked andnumb you may have to cope withevents that are out of yourcontrol. Your heart may feelbroken with pain beyond yourcomprehension.Police, doctors and otherprofessionals seem to take over;information and answers can bein short supply. There may be anintrusion by the media and your4

private grief can become public property. You have a rightto choose not to speak to the media, or you may wish toidentify someone to speak on your behalf. Theseoverwhelming events can leave you feeling stunned. Youmay not want to believe that your loved one has takentheir life and search for other explanations. You may feelthat this is happening to someone else and hope thatwhen you awake from this awful dream, everything will beback to the way it was before.Natural responsesGrieving is a natural response to loss. It includes crying,remembering, yearning and talking - all the many waysthat we express our sadness. Anger can also be a majorpart of grief. We can often struggle with theloss and with a sense that the death is unfair.It should not have happened. There can be aterrible sense of loneliness and absence. Lifecan lose its meaning for a time, your moodcan be very low and it can feel difficult for youto just keep on going, day by day and evenhour by hour. Guilt feelings, which are a normal part ofgrief, are often exacerbated. Grieving can cause feelingsof anxiety, depression and fatigue. Sometimes thesefeelings become severe and prolonged. If you experiencethese symptoms to an extreme degree, you may need totalk to your family doctor.‘Grieving isa naturalresponseto loss..’When your loved one dies by suicide the grievingresponse can be more complex and even more difficult toresolve. The death is sudden and unexpected. It appears5

to have been avoidable and so very intense feelings ofanger and guilt can arise. It feels like somebody must beto blame.You may feel angry with the person who has died - “whydid he or she leave me?” A deep sense of rejection maybe experienced, particularly if it is a partner who has diedin this way. Family members often feel responsible for thedeceased’s actions and believe that they could or shouldhave done something to prevent the death. It is importantto hold on to the reality that the death was not your fault.This is a tragic event that has happened. No one cantake total responsibility for the life of someone else.Anger can be turned out towards others - “someoneshould have noticed”. Others turn the anger onthemselves - “I should have noticed”, and so begins aharmful pattern of self blame and guilt.Why?The question “why” assumes enormousproportions. You may go over this again andagain. There can be a frantic search for a notethat will give an explanation but even if one isfound, it will rarely answer your questions. It willtell you how the person who has died felt at amoment of intense distress, but it will probablynot tell you the full story. “Why me? Why us?What have we done to deserve this?”6

You may experience symptoms, for example panicattacks, nightmares; sleep disorders and flashbacks,particularly if you have found the body yourself. It is avery natural response to think that you are “going mad”.If a suicide note is found the coroner needs the police totake it as part of the investigation. If the suicide note isaddressed to a specific individual, that individual cancollect the note from the Coroner's Office when theinvestigation is completed. This must be done in personto ensure that it does not get lost in the post.The familyFamily relationships can suffer at this time. Familymembers, grieving in different ways, can find it hard tounderstand one another or to communicate with oneanother. Some relatives may not even want to mentionthe dead person’s name. Conflicts may develop causingfurther heartbreak and pain. Sometimes the search forsomeone to blame results in one particular familymember becoming a scapegoat, leaving that personespecially isolated.The childrenChildren in the family may have particular difficulties.Often the family tries to protect the children by keepingthem away from the funeral or not telling them what hashappened. The children, however, can observe thesevere distress all around and usually hear all the painfuldetails from other sources eg. at school. It may be usefulto discuss your concerns with the school or other7

organisations which the children areinvolved with eg. youth clubs etc.They can feel trapped in silence as theyare “not supposed to know” and they feelthat they do not have permission to talkabout what has happened, to share in thegrieving events and to grieve too. Gossipmay harm children if they have not beentold the truth.Children need to be prepared for the outside world after atraumatic death. Honest and open communication,shared in loving ways helps most. Younger children areoften satisfied to know that their relation had an accident.Older children will need to know what has happened andto be allowed to talk about it and to ask questions.Barnardo’s Child Bereavement Service can providesupport for you to do this. They can provide someonewho will listen to you and help you identify the best wayto support your child. They can give clear, ageappropriate information both verbally and in written form.Barnardo’s will also provide the opportunity for you andyour children to meet with experienced workers. Theseworkers are very skilled at listening and supportingchildren. Opportunities regarding individual work forchildren and young people looking at the impact that asuicide has had on them and their life can be discussed.Regular and appropriate feedback will be given to you asthe parent or carer. Families will also have the8

opportunity if appropriate to attend a residential group forthose bereaved by suicide.The Barnardo’s booklet ‘How to help children and youngpeople bereaved by suicide’ will help you to explain thesuicide to your child or children.IsolationFamilies bereaved by suicide often feel socially isolated.Friends and neighbours, not knowing what to say, may withdrawfrom you or avoid you. Others may approach and ask how youare but you sense that they really do not want to know. You canfeel surrounded by happy families who do not want to see yourpain. As a result you may feel stigmatised and isolated. Youmay even feel a sense of shame.You may not know anyone else bereaved in this tragic way. Thismay make your grief journey feel especially lonely and difficult.Other outsiders may ask personal questions that are difficult toanswer - it seems they just want a piece of your story. A simplestatement like “He or she was unable to go on” may be enough.In grief a person needs to be able to express and work throughtheir feelings. There is a need totalk about what has happened andabout the meaning of the event andto ask “why”. It is important to tellyour story and to continue telling itfor as long as is necessary for you.This process may go on for a longtime, possibly years.9

SupportTo get through this difficult time you will need the supportof other people.You may turn to family, friends, clergy or funeral directors.Since this bereavement is different from otherbereavements, support from counsellors or doctors mayalso be needed. The opportunity to meet others bereavedin the same way may also help. It is important tounderstand that an extreme grief reaction is a verynatural response to such a sad and tragic event. This is atime to be aware of your own vulnerability and to takecare of yourself. Most of all it is important to rememberthat you are not to blame. No one is to blame. You willfind a list of support groups and other support services atthe back of this booklet.Suggestions for the bereaved“ ”“Know that you“may feeloverwhelmed bythe intensity ofyour feelings butall your feelingsare normal.” “Know you can survive. You maynot think so but you can.Struggle with “why” it happened until youno longer need to know “why” or until youare satisfied with partial answers.Anger, guilt, confusion andforgetfulness are commonresponses. You are not crazy:you are in mourning.10””

“Be aware you may feel inappropriateanger at the person, at the world, atGod, at yourself, its okay to express it.”“Having suicidalthoughts iscommon. It doesnot mean that youwill act on these.You may feel guilty for what you thinkyou did or did not do. Guilt can turn“ into regret through forgiveness.””Remember to take onemoment or one day at a time.“ ”“Find a good listener with whom toshare. Call someone if you need to talk.”“Give yourself time to heal.”Remember the choice wasnot yours. No one is the sole“ influence in another’s life.”“Try to put off major decisions.”“Give yourselfpermission to getprofessional help.“Don’t be afraid to cry.Tears are healing.”“” Be aware of the pain offamily and friends.“ ”11Expect setbacks.Emotions canreturn like a tidalwave but you mayonly beexperiencing anarea of grief not yetdealt with.”

““Be patient with yourselfand with others who maynot understand.“”“Steer clear of people who wantto tell you what or how to feel.Many people feel that their ownpersonal spiritual faith can bea great source of strength.“”Realise that the willingness to laughwith others and at yourself is healing.Set your own limits andlearn to say no.“ ”””“It is common toexperiencephysical reactionsto your grief eg.headaches, loss ofappetite, inabilityto sleep.””Ask questions and work through any anger, guilt, orother feelings you may have until you can let themgo. Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting.“Know that you will never be thesame again, but you can surviveand even go beyond just surviving.”“Be kind and gentle with yourself.”From “Suicide and its Aftermath” Ed. E.J. Dunne, J.L. Mackintosh, K. Dunne, W.W. Norton & Co.New York/London12

Investigation of a death by suicideOfficial agencies always intervene in the investigation ofall sudden deaths including death by suicide. Theseofficial agencies include the police, coroner andpathologist.The bereaved sometimes feel that they have little controlover preliminary events but it is important for such deathsto be investigated thoroughly and promptly to facilitateearly release of the body to the family for burial orcremation.When the person is found, the police will preserve thescene until they have completed their preliminaryinvestigation and a doctor has confirmed the death. Thedoctor will be the GP, a police doctor or a hospital doctor.An ambulance team will usually be inattendance. The coroner shall be advised andthey will authorise the transfer of the body bythe family funeral director to a hospitalmortuary for formal identification by a familymember or friend.The coroner is an experienced lawyerresponsible for a local district. The coronerinstructs the police to arrange for the person to undergo apost mortem, which is an external and internalexamination of the deceased person. A specially traineddoctor called a pathologist carries this out and this maytake place at a different specially equipped mortuary.13

The coroner will issue an interim death certificate to allowthe funeral to take place and this can be used for benefitclaims, insurance claims etc. (it will be accepted by mostbut not all organisations) until the coroner issues the finaldeath certificate at the conclusion of their investigations.From Start to FinishDiscovery of bodyPolice/ambulance/doctor contactedFamily informed and coroner contactedFuneral DirectorMinister of Religion contactedBody removed to the mortuaryFormal identification of the bodyPost-mortem carried outBody returned for funeral arrangementsCoroner’s InvestigationIssue of Death Certificate15

Sorting out your affairsExtended family and friends will need to be informed. Ifthe person who has died has left a will, the executor oradministrator of the estate will need to be informed. Youmay need to contact the solicitor of the person who hasdied to find out who this is. If the executor/administrator isnot told at this stage, there may be difficulties later, forexample, in making funeral arrangements.There will usually be a number of financial issues whichneed sorting out when a person has died. It will be usefulto try and collect together as many of the relevantdocuments as can be found. These will include:• The Will• Bank and building societybooks and statements• Insurance policies• Pension or benefit order books• Details of any creditagreements or outstandingloans• Mortgage Statements• Rent books• Shares, savings certificates,premiums and bonds.• Tax Documents.The property and belongings of the person who has diedcannot be given away until there is legal authority to do16

so. This legal authority is known as getting a grant of probate ifthere is a will, or letters of administration if there is not. Thesolicitor of the person who has died will be able to guide you onthese matters.Help with the costs of a funeralYou may be able to get help with the cost of the funeral ifyou have made the arrangements for the funeral, you areeligible to claim and if you or your partner are getting oneof the following benefits or entitlements:• Income support• Jobseeker’s Allowance (income based)• Housing benefit• Child Tax Credit – awarded at a rate higher than thefamily element• Working Tax Credit – where the disability, or severedisability, element is included in the award, or• Pension creditand you have good cause for taking responsibility for thefuneral.Who is eligible to claim?• The partner of the person who has died at the time ofdeath (partner means a person you are married to, or aperson you live with as if you were married; or a civilpartner)17

• The person who has died is a child and you haveresponsibility for them• You were a close relative or friend of the person whohas died and it is reasonable for you to acceptresponsibility for the funeral costs, and they did nothave a partner or parent or son or daughter (for moredetails on this see the social security website:www.dsdni.gov.uk).You may also be able to get help with payments if:• You are paying for a funeral whichtakes place in the United Kingdomand the person was originallyresident in the United Kingdom atthe date of their death• You accept responsibility for thefuneral expenses, and the SocialSecurity Agency accept that it isreasonable for you to claim reimbursement.If you are not receiving one of the benefits or creditswhen the funeral takes place, but claim and are entitledto one of them, within three months of the funeral, youmay be entitled to a funeral payment. You should makethe claim for the funeral payment at the same time as youmake the benefit claim or application for the tax credit.You should not wait until you actually receive the benefitfor tax credit as the three-month time limit for making theclaim for funeral payment may expire.18

The Social Security Agency must accept that it isreasonable for the bereaved person to be responsible forthe funeral expenses, and that there is no-one else whocould be expected to be responsible.The bereaved person should send in a claim for a funeralpayment even if they do not have a bill at that stage. Ifyou delay claiming until the bill is received you may beout side the time limits. The claim form should be sent inwithout the bill as it can be forwarded to Social SecurityAgency when the bill is received.You should use Form SF 200 (available from local SocialSecurity Offices), or make an initial claim by letter and besent Form SF 200. The date of claim will be the datewhen the social security office received the first letter,provided that the form is returned within a month of thatdate.You must also send in the original funeral director’s bill(not a photocopy) with the claim form. If the bereaveddoes not have the bill you should send the claim formand the bill as soon as you receive it.The following can be deducted by the Social SecurityAgency from a funeral payment:Any of the person’s assets that are available to the familybefore probate or letters of administration are granted.Once probate or letters of administration have been19

granted the Social Security Agency can recover thefuneral payment from the persons estate. Funeralexpenses have a priority claim on the estate. However,personal possessions left to relatives and the value of ahome occupied by a surviving partner do not count aspart of the estate.Please note that you may be entitled to a furtherbereavement payment if your late spouse or civil partnermet the National Insurance contributions and either:• You’re under state pension age (60 female; 65 male);or• Your late spouse or civil partner was not entitled to aCategory A State Retirement Pension when they diedOther benefits that may be availableWidowed Parents AllowanceA man or a woman (who is under state pension age) canget widowed parents allowance if their late spouse or civilpartner met the National Insurance contributionconditions and:• He or she has a child for whom they are entitled to, orcan be treated as entitled to child benefit; or• Where a widow or a surviving civil partner is expectinga child:- by her late husband- by her late civil partnerWidowed Parents Allowance is payable regardless ofcapital and whether the claimant does any work.20

Carers AllowanceEntitlement to Carers Allowance can continue up to 8weeks after the death of a disabled person being caredfor, provided that all other conditions are satisfied.All this information in relation to benefits has been takenfrom the Social Security Agency web site that can beaccessed at www.dsdni.gov.ukLife InsuranceMost life insurance policies have a 2-year suicideexemption. If a suicide occurs within 2 years of taking outthe policy the company will not pay out. After the 2-yeartime period, they must pay out just like any other death.It is advised however that you contact your insurancecompany for further advice.Since April 2001 Widows Benefits have been replaced bya Bereavement Payment; a Widowed Parent’s Allowance;Bereavement Allowance and a Bereavement Premiumwhich is included as part of Income Support, IncomeBased Jobseekers Allowance and Housing Benefit.Further advice and assistance can be obtained from theSocial Security Agency, Inland Revenue, localindependent advice centre or Citizens Advice Bureau.Dealing with an Estate: getting probateEverything owned by a person who has died is known asher/his estate.21

The estate of the person who has died is usually passedto surviving relatives and friends, either according toinstructions in a will, or according to the rules of intestacywhere someone has died without a will.The legal authority required to act on behalf of a personwho has died is known as a grant of representation.There are two types of grant of representation:• Probate - Probate given to a person named in a will asan executor.• Letters of Administration - Letters of administration aregiven if there is no will, if a will is not valid, if there areno executors named in the will or if the executorscannot or are unwilling to act. Letters of administrationshould normally be applied for by the next of kin.In this section the word probate will be used to describeboth types of grant of representation.A grant of probate is a High Court document issued bythe probate registry. It proves that a person has the legalauthority to deal with the estate and affairs of the personwho has died. It is especially important when dealing withinstitutions holding money in the name of the person whohas died. In effect the grant of probate transfers all of theproperty of the person who has died to the personholding the grant of probate.22

Helpful OrganisationsCRUSEBereavement support and counselling for anyoneexperiencing problems with the death of a loved onethrough suicide. Group support, information and literatureon bereavement and loss.Day by Day Helpline Tel: 0844 477 9400Open Monday to Friday 9.30am - 5pmEmail: helpline@cruse.org.ukYoung Person's freephone helpline Tel: 0808 808 1677Email: info@rd4u.org.ukwww.crusebereavementcare.org.ukNewry OfficeMoy Office9 Enterprise House Merrion HouseWin Business Park46 The SquareCanal QuayMoy BT71 7SGNewry BT35 6PH Tel: 028 8778 4004Tel: 028 3025 2322LIFELINE COUNSELLINGNo matter what your age or where you live in NorthernIreland, Lifeline offer immediate help over the phone 24/7 ifyou, or someone you know is in distress or despair. All callsare answered by qualified counsellors who are available tolisten, help and support your needs in confidence. They areexperienced in dealing with issues such as suicide selfharm, abuse, trauma, depression, anxiety. If appropriate,you could be offered an appointment for face to face23

counselling or other therapies in your local area within 7days. Lifeline can also put you in touch with follow-upservices to ensure you receive the best possibleresponses to your needsLifeline also gives support and guidance to families andcarers, concerned friends, professionals, teachers, youthworkers, clergy and communities.Just call Lifeline Helpline 0808 808 8000www.lifelinehelpline.infoFor hard of hearing Textphone 18001 0808 808 8000Calls are free from landlines and mobile phones.SamaritansSamaritans provides confidential, non-judgementalemotional support, 24 hours per day for peopleexperiencing feelings of distress, despair, including thosewhich could lead to suicide.Craigavon - 162 Thomas St | Portadown | BT62 3BDTel: 028 3833 3555Newry - 19 St Coleman’s Park | NewryTel: 028 3026 6366 Branch open 9:30am - 9pmExcept Wednesday 7:30pm - 9pmHard of hearing, deaf & speech impaired only Tel: 0845 7909192www.samaritans.orgTel: 08457 90 90 90Email: jo@samaritans.org24

specialises in working with children and young people. TheFamily Trauma Centre is very willing to discuss suchconcerns with parents and will arrange to meet with themand their child or young person when this is required.Tel: 028 90 204700Citizens Advice BureauImpartial, confidential free advice on welfare, benefits andmoney advice.Armagh Office | 9 McCrums Court | Armagh | BT61 7RSTel: 028 3752 4041Banbridge Office | 77 Bridge Street | Banbridge | BT32 3JLTel: 028 4062 2201Craigavon District | Portadown Health Centre | TavanaghAvenue | Portadown | BT62 3BETel: 028 3836 1181Dungannon Office | 5-6 Feeney Lane | Dungannon |BT70 1TX Tel: 028 8772 5299Lurgan Office | The Town Hall | 6 Union Street | Lurgan |BT66 8DY Tel: 028 3836 1181Newry & Mourne Office | Ballybot House | 28 Cornmarket |Newry | BT35 8BG Tel: 028 9042 8288www.citizensadvice.co.ukAware Defeat DepressionServices, support groups and self-help for depression /bi-polar disorder.26

Helpline: 0845 120 2961Email: help@aware-ni.orgBelfast Office | Philip House | 123-127 York Street |Belfast Tel: 028 9032 1734Parenting NIServices offered include support, guidance andcounselling for parents.www.parentingni.orgHelpline: 0808 801 0722Belfast Office | Franklin House | 12 Brunswick StreetBelfast Tel: 028 9023 8800Compassionate FriendsA charitable organisation of bereaved parents, siblingsand grandparents dedicated to the support and care ofother bereaved parents, siblings and grandparents whohave suffered the death of a child/children.Helpline: 0845 123 2304www.tcf.org.ukEmail: info@tcf.org.ukRelateServices include relationship for couples or individuals,psychosexual therapy.Relate Teen - counselling for young people onrelationship issues.Belfast Office | 3 Glengall Street | BelfastTel: 028 9032 345427

Coroner’s ServiceCoroners are independent judicial officers who areavailable to deal with matters relating to deaths that mayrequire further investigation to establish the cause ofdeath. The Coroner will seek to establish the cause ofdeath and will make whatever inquiries are necessary todo this eg. ordering a postmortem examination, obtainingwitness statements and medical records, or holding aninquest.Mays Chambers | 72 May Street | Belfast | BT1 3JLTel: 028 9044 6800coronersoffice@courtsni.gov.ukwww.coronersni.gov.ukSouthern Area Support Groups for thoseBereaved by SuicideThe bereavement support groups offer support,information and literature on bereavement and loss foranyone who has experienced a loss of a loved onethrough suicide.Niamh Louise Foundation32 Coalisland Road | Killybrackey | Dungannon |Co TyroneTel: 028 8775 3327Email: info@niamhlouisefoundation.comBereaved Through Suicide Support Group meets 1stThursday every month @ 7pm‘Drop In’ Coffee Morning meets every Wednesday10:30am - 12:20pm28

PIPS Newry and Mourne30 Kilmorey Street | NewryTel: 028 3026 6195Email: info@pipsnewryandmourne.orgBereaved Through Suicide Support Group meets lastWednesday of every month @ 8pmCoffee Morning every Wednesday 11am - 12:30pmSpringwell Centre- Rainbows Children Bereavement Programme55 Edward Street | Lurgan BT66 6DBFor further information contact Tel: 028 3834 7222PIPS Upper BannMeets at Flat 17 | Mount Zion House | Edward Street |Lurgan BT66 6DBFor further information contact 07901597608The following organisations can providefurther information and support:Protect Life CoordinatorPromoting Wellbeing Team | St Luke’s Hospital | Armagh |BT61 7NQTel: 028 3741 2882Email: nuala.quinn@southerntrust.hscni.net29

Niamh Louise Foundation32 Coalisland Road | Killybrackey | Dungannon |Co TyroneTel: 028 8775 3327Email: info@niamhlouisefoundation.comPIPS Newry and Mourne30 Kilmorey Street | NewryTel: 028 3026 6195Email: info@pipsnewryandmourne.orgREACT Ltd.30A Ardery’s Lane | BanbridgeTel: 028 4062 8829Email: counreact@aol.comPIPS Upper BannMeets at Flat 17 | Mount Zion House | Edward Street |Lurgan BT66 6DBTel: 07595 221334Email: pipsupperbann@hotmail.co.ukAction Mental Health MensSana13 Church Street | Portadown BT66 6DBTel: 028 3839 2314Email: cloughran@amh.org30

Helpful ReadingBooks for AdultsA Grief Observed, Lewis, CS, FaberAftershock, David Cox and Candy Neely Arrington, B&HPublishing Group, ISBN No 0805426221A Special Scar – the experience of people bereavedby suicide, A. Wertheimer, Routledge (1991)A Voice For Those Bereaved By Suicide, SarahMcCarthy, Veritas (2001)Bereaved by Suicide, Patrick Shannon (2000), CruseBereavement CareEchoes of Suicide, Siobhan Foster Ryan & LukeMonaghan (eds), Veritas Publications (2001)Grieving a Suicide, Albert Y Hsu, InterVarsity Press,ISBN No 0830823182Healing Grief: A Guide To Loss & Recovery, BarbaraWard, Vermillion (1994)Suicide & the Irish, Dr. M. Kelleher, Mercier Press (1998)Why People Die By Suicide, Thomas Joiner (2007)31

Books for Young PeopleHealing your Grieving Heart: for Teens, Alan D. Wolfelt,Companion Press (2001How to help children and young people bereaved bysuicide, Barnardo’s Northern Ireland (2008)Facing Grief: Bereavement & the Young Adult, SusanWallbank, Lutterworth Press (1996)When Someone Dies: Help for Young People coping withGrief, Dwaine Steffes, Cruse Bereavement Care (1997)Books for Young ChildrenA Child’s Questions about Death, Available free fromDignity, Tel 0800 387717Beyond The Rough Rock – Supporting A Child Who HasBeen Bereaved By Suicide, Winstons Wish Publicationswww.winstonswish.org.ukCaring for Bereaved Children, Mary Bending (1993),Cruse Bereavement CareHow to help children and young people bereaved bysuicide, Barnardo’s Northern Ireland (2008)32

Books for people with learning disabilitiesAm I allowed to cry? A study of bereavement amongstpeople who have learning disabilities, Maureen Oswin(1991)When somebody dies, Sheila Hollins, Sandra Dowling &Noelle Blackman (2003)When mum died, Shelia Hollins & Lester Sireling (2004)When dad died, Shelia Hollins & Lester Sireling (2004)33

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