“Lord,show me who I canbless today.”Those words were written last July byDr. Kim Gaither in a prayer journal thatwas given to her by her daughter, Brianna,last Mother’s Day. Brianna read thosewords at her mother’s funeral on Nov. 23,2005.To have raised a daughter who couldstand and speak at such an occasionis a testament to the kind of life KimGaither lived. Her daughter carried on theexample of her mother, blessing others bysharing her mother’s words of faith.Kimberley Kay (Herron) Gaithergraduated from <strong>Oklahoma</strong> <strong>Christian</strong> in1981, returned there to teach in 1988 andwas serving as Professor of Biology at thetime of her death on Nov. 19, 2005.Kim was diagnosed with a rare andviolently aggressive breast cancer in 2001.She fought it hard and was in remissionfor 18 months before tumors reappearedlast year.Kim, who received OC’s Gaylord Chairfor Distinguished Teaching in 2004, helda B.S. degree in biology/chemistry from<strong>Oklahoma</strong> <strong>Christian</strong> and M.S. and Ph.D.degrees in microbiology and immunologyfrom the <strong>University</strong> of <strong>Oklahoma</strong> HealthSciences Center.May 19, 2005 STFather. I feel so inward focused these days. Lifeis so much more enjoyable when others – familyand friends – are my focus. Help me be content inevery and any circumstance. - Kim’s JournalFor anyone who knew Kim – whetheras a fellow student more than 25 yearsago, or as someone who was blessed tohear her sing, or as her friend, or as astudent who sat in her classroom the daybefore she died – she exemplified courage,determination and an abiding trust inGod.Joseph Thurman was one of thestudents who was in Dr. Gaither’s lastmicrobiology class.“Last semester was a defining timein my life. We were wrapped up in Dr.Gaither’s journey through her treatments,going from fear at the announcementof the brain tumor, to great hope at thetreatment in Pittsburgh, to confusionand despair as her condition suddenlyworsened, to sudden shock and grief ather death,” he said.“That emotional rollercoaster actuallytaught us all a lot about life, faith, and theimpact we are each capable of makingon those around us,” said Thurman, whoplans to attend medical school.Kim made an impact on everyone– immediate and long-lasting impressionsthat remain clear in the hearts and mindsof many who shared their memoriesabout her on the OC website.Judith (Bennyhoff) White (79) wrote,“I met Kim during Neat Week before ourfreshman year in college. We instantlybecame friends and I watched Davidspot Kim on a hill singing during adevotional one night, during our firstweek of freshman year. He scooted overby her and from that moment on theywere together. Kim was always there tolisten, trim your hair, laugh – she was justa great presence to be around. I especiallyremember our Chorale trips freshman andsophomore years. Yes, our loss is heaven’sgain.”And for Kim (Smith) Hart (82), “Iremember so many things about Kim! Shehad such a giving and caring personality.You could see that she always walked thewalk of Jesus. My fondest memory ofKim was when she directed Spring Singfor Gamma Rho in 1980. She was so VISION SPRING 2006 Transforming lives for <strong>Christian</strong> faith, leadership, and service.
patient with all of us, but especially me.You see, I can’t sing or ‘choreograph’ andshe was always there to encourage me nomatter how bad I was doing! She truly diduse her gifts to glorify God.”“My brother, David Smith, who hadKim as a biology teacher 10 years later,said that she was one of the best teachersbecause of her ability to communicatehard material in a way that others couldnot. He said that her patience andencouragement were evidence of heralways glorifying our Lord with her Godgiventalents.”And Valerie (Wright) Sisk wrote thisto Dr. Gaither’s children: “Your motherbelieved in me when others did not. I washer student in 1994. She didn’t give meany breaks and I didn’t pass her class. Ithought she was being mean at the time!I am now a mother of two and it is onlybecause I care about them that I insist theydo their very best. Your mother is still awoman I think about when I don’t believein my abilities as a mother or teacher. Sheis truly an inspiration to me.”Oct. 31 SLord, your perfect peace is beyond myunderstanding. You have given me all I need. I feelrested, calm, strong and ready to face anything bythe grace of your strong hand. Cover my family.Give them assurance that you are in control. Theevil one has no control over me. None.Thurman says his most vivid memoryof Kim was from right before she left forPittsburgh on Halloween. She came toclass in full costume, not as Dr. Gaither,but as a microorganism named “KimGaitheriacea,” a corruption of KimGaither.“The entire class had bought her 75pink roses as a show of our love andsupport as she went to Pittsburgh (fortreatment). Dr. Gaither, however, was notDr. Gaither and would not leave character,creating a very awkward, funny andtouching scene all at once as 25 studentstried to show their love to someone whowas there in body (under the frizzy hair,black clothes and dark makeup), but wasnot going to break her act to be there inperson,” Thurman said.November 14 SPlease help me accept with grace and patiencethe test results today. Thank you for increasedstrength. And for the support you surround mewith all the time. Prayer warriors, card sendersand food preparers you are moving right now forour benefit.As her family, students and friendscontinue on without Kim, there is anotherspecial group of friends who are grieving– Kim’s colleagues at OC.The day before she died – weak, in awheelchair and in pain – Kim insistedon giving a lecture to her microbiologystudents. They had a test scheduled thefollowing Monday and she told her familyand others who were concerned about herthat her students would not be preparedwithout that lecture.She gave the lecture that Friday … butthe students did not take the test thatMonday.“Instead, Dr. (Molly) Hill came in andwe spent the entire hour talking aboutDr. Gaither’s life and impact on all of us.There wasn’t a dry eye in the room. Thatday was one of the most memorable inmy college career thus far, and was goodfor all of us in the sense that it gave usa sense of peace and closure,” Thurmansaid. “Not enough can be said about Dr.Hill and the guiding light she was for all ofus during that time and for the rest of thesemester.”The class eventually took that test.Thurman made an A.Hill also spoke on behalf of the facultyat the funeral. She shared sweet storiesabout Kim’s reputation among students asthe “velvet knife,” and how even thoughher fellow professors might sometimes becalled cantankerous, no one could ever say“no” to Kim.“For a woman as intelligent, personable,talented, beautiful and self-confidentas you could ever know … she wasnonetheless as unpretentious and trulyhumble as you could ever know,” Dr. Hillsaid. “Kim taught many lessons. Thismay be the most important. She alwaystold you, ‘I have learned that you are notdefined by what you do; rather, you aredefined by whom you love.’”July 10 SPraise you God. For you are the Creator of allgood things. Your beautiful world is glorious thismorning. I love you Lord, and look forward topraising you more with our church today. Show mewho I can bless today. Teach me from your wordthis morning. Help me to be more like you to lookat the heart and not outward appearances. Giveme a song Father that brings glory to you andcalms and soothes my troubled spirit.by Dawn Shelton (90)Read the tribute to Kim Gaitheron the OC alumni website.http://www.oc.edu/gaither/Kimberley Kay Gaither, 46, ofEdmond, <strong>Oklahoma</strong>, died November19, 2005, in <strong>Oklahoma</strong> City,<strong>Oklahoma</strong>. Kim was born September16, 1959, in Wayne, Michigan, toNorman Lee and Merilyn KikhoefelHerron. Kim obtained her Ph.D.from the <strong>University</strong> of <strong>Oklahoma</strong>and applied her knowledge andtremendous faith in God to a careerin <strong>Christian</strong> education. She was aProfessor of Biology at <strong>Oklahoma</strong><strong>Christian</strong> <strong>University</strong>. She was admiredand respected in both the academicand medical communities. She showedkindness, wisdom, encouragementand patience to everyone. Kim bravelyfought breast cancer with graceand dignity during her final years.Her constant example of faith andfortitude blessed innumerable lives.She brought out the best in all of us.Kim accomplished many great thingsin her life, but she would tell you hergreatest legacy is her children, Lukeand Brianna. She was so very proudof them. We will always miss herencouraging smile and her beautifulvoice. At the end – “She couldn’twalk, but she won the race.” “BecauseHe lives, we can face tomorrow.”Survivors include her husband, David;son, Luke; daughter, Brianna; parents,Norman and Merilyn Herron of Tulsa,<strong>Oklahoma</strong>; brothers and sisters, JeffHerron of Livonia, Michigan, SteveHerron of Edmond, <strong>Oklahoma</strong>,Melissa Smith of Niles, Michigan,Heidi Dickens of Tulsa, <strong>Oklahoma</strong>,and their families. Memorial donationsshould be made to the scholarshipfund established in her name with theOffice of Advancement at <strong>Oklahoma</strong><strong>Christian</strong> <strong>University</strong>, P.O. Box 11000,<strong>Oklahoma</strong> City, <strong>Oklahoma</strong> 73136.Transforming lives for <strong>Christian</strong> faith, leadership, and service.VISION SPRING 2006