Pali News - Palisades Charter High School

First of all, try to share your own feelings about this as it sets the tone of honesty,
permission and vulnerability for them. Try to ask them open-ended questions such as,
'How has that crash simulation and memorial been coming into your thoughts lately?'
or, 'Are you having any dreams about what happened last week at school?' Tell them
how heavy it must have been and that even just hearing about it stirred up a lot for
you as a parent. Give your children permission to talk about their feelings and fears
about the intensity about a death of a local teen. Many seniors who are about to leave
for college and are approaching a big transition, will be stirred up by this, as they
make their big separation from their parents.
When speaking with groups of parents I encourage them to continue parenting their
child who is an older teen. I often tell them, 'We kept them safe when they were little,
why would we stop now? Their frontal lobe (judgment center) is not very developed
so they need us to guide them. Yes, they need to make mistakes and experience
consequences, but let's not have the mistakes be the big ones that cost them their lives
and change our lives forever.' I've ended my discussions with this quote from Barbara
Lazear Ascher: 'To live in remorse is to live backwards. If death is to have any
meaning at all it is to teach us the power of love and to allow that power to propel us
through the rest of our days.' "
Please make the effort to talk to your student about their impressions and feelings
about these powerful assemblies.
Monica Iannessa
Director of Student Services
MAGNET NEWS
As the school year starts to wind down there are many exciting things happening at
Pail. The Senior Prom and Graduation are among the high profile events we have
going on. Please remind your child that It's Okay to Say "No" to all the temptations
that surround these activities.
We had an assembly that focused on these issues recently and it is our hope that your
child will take their responsibility as a young adult seriously. It's not only drugs and
alcohol that cause accidents, but it's also excessively talking to friends and texting that
distract drivers. The chances of getting in an accident increase 100% for each
additional passenger that is riding in the car. Please remind your child to remain