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]. Psychosom. Obstet. Gynecol. 16 (1995) 137-144<br />

<strong>Involuntarily</strong> <strong>childless</strong> <strong>couples</strong>: <strong>their</strong><br />

<strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>children</strong> <strong>and</strong> <strong>their</strong><br />

•<br />

motives<br />

F. van BaIen1 <strong>and</strong> T C. M. Ti-imbos-Kemper<br />

lDepartment of Education, University of Amsterdam, IJsbaanpad 9, 1076 CV Amsterdam; <strong>and</strong><br />

2Fertility Clinic, Leiden University Hospital, Leiden, the Netherl<strong>and</strong>s<br />

Key words: MOTIVES FOR HAVING CH1LDREN, INFERTILITY, GENDER-DIFFERENCES, PARENTHOOD, COST-BENEFIT<br />

ANALYSIS<br />

ABSTRACT<br />

Long-term infertile <strong>couples</strong> cften riflect seriously on <strong>their</strong><br />

<strong>desire</strong> for a child. By investigating involuntarily <strong>childless</strong><br />

<strong>couples</strong> we might get a better underst<strong>and</strong>ing of the intensity<br />

of the <strong>desire</strong>for thefirst child, the motives behind this <strong>desire</strong><br />

<strong>and</strong> the dijJerence between men <strong>and</strong> women in these<br />

respects. In this study among 108 <strong>couples</strong> with a mean<br />

infertility period of 8.6 years, the <strong>desire</strong>for <strong>children</strong> was still<br />

very strong especially among the women. Also, there were<br />

dijJerences between men <strong>and</strong> women as <strong>to</strong> <strong>their</strong> motives for<br />

having a child. The most frequent motives for wanting a<br />

child are part of the categories happiness <strong>and</strong> well-being.<br />

Motives within the categories social control <strong>and</strong> continuity<br />

were seldom mentioned. Among women with the most<br />

intense <strong>desire</strong> for a child, motives within the categories<br />

motherhood <strong>and</strong> identity-development were very important.<br />

INTRODUCTION<br />

The motives behind human procreation <strong>have</strong> been<br />

the subject of much speculation. Within the<br />

psychoanalytical tradition great value has been<br />

attached <strong>to</strong> biological drives. Deutsch described an<br />

inborn need of women <strong>to</strong> procreate!. Benedek<br />

discerned an instinctive motive for motherhood<br />

<strong>and</strong> an instinctive drive for survival as the root of<br />

fatherhood2,3. The sociologist Rossi is also inclined<br />

<strong>to</strong> give biological drives great importance4,5. In<br />

contrast <strong>to</strong> these views, radical feminists stated that<br />

wanting <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> a child is a consequence of social<br />

enforcement. Rowl<strong>and</strong> sees procreation as dictated<br />

by the dominant norms <strong>and</strong> values of society (made<br />

by men)6, Hamner accentuated the need for<br />

women <strong>to</strong> be free from enforced motherhood7 <strong>and</strong><br />

Corea described motherhood as a consequence of<br />

masculine politics <strong>and</strong> patriarchal rule8. These two<br />

different viewpoints ('instinct' versus 'social<br />

pressure') are difficult <strong>to</strong> test empirically. However,<br />

we can ask what people themselves see as the<br />

reasons for wanting <strong>children</strong>. This area is accessible<br />

<strong>to</strong> empirical research.<br />

Within the empirical tradition the research in<strong>to</strong><br />

the motives for wanting <strong>children</strong> has been centered<br />

on the cost <strong>and</strong> benefit model. Since Hoffmann <strong>and</strong><br />

Fawcett proposed this model, it has been the<br />

dominant way of analyzing reasons why people<br />

want a child9-13. There are two versions of this<br />

model: a macro-model <strong>and</strong> a micro-model. The<br />

macro-model starts from sociodemographic <strong>and</strong><br />

economic data. On the basis of these data forecasts<br />

are made about fertility decisions. In this version<br />

Correspondence <strong>to</strong>: Dr Frank van Balen, Department of Education, University of Amsterdam, IJsbaanpad 9,1076 CV Amsterdam, the<br />

Netherl<strong>and</strong>s


Motives for having <strong>children</strong><br />

the researcher evaluates the advantages <strong>and</strong><br />

disadvantages of having <strong>children</strong>. In the micromodel<br />

the judgements of the individuals themselves<br />

are the subject of study. Advantages <strong>and</strong><br />

disadvantages may be sociopsychological (feelings<br />

of happiness versus loss offreedom) <strong>and</strong> economic<br />

(care in old age versus costs of upbringing). In both<br />

versions research is centered on the positive <strong>and</strong><br />

negative sides of having <strong>children</strong>, not on the<br />

reasons for wanting them in the first place. Within<br />

this model <strong>children</strong> are seen more or less as com­<br />

modities. People are supposed <strong>to</strong> make rational<br />

choices on the basis of pros <strong>and</strong> cons. This model<br />

has been frequently used in studies about the determinants<br />

of fertility in developing countries,<br />

especially in respect <strong>to</strong> the upper limit of the<br />

number of <strong>children</strong>. This model however, is also<br />

used for explaining fertility-trends in Western<br />

countries14,15. Most <strong>couples</strong> eventually want one or<br />

more <strong>children</strong>. Surveys in severalWestern countries<br />

indicate a voluntary <strong>childless</strong>ness of approximately<br />

5%. In the USA only 2% of the women who wed,<br />

want <strong>to</strong> be <strong>childless</strong>16• Perceived costs deter <strong>couples</strong><br />

very seldom from wanting a first child. It is therefore<br />

important <strong>to</strong> look in<strong>to</strong> the motives for wanting<br />

<strong>children</strong>, why <strong>couples</strong> value becoming parents.<br />

Direct questions about motives for wanting<br />

<strong>children</strong> are supposed <strong>to</strong> be difficult <strong>to</strong> answer,<br />

when it concerns the general population1o. This<br />

expectation is supported by the results of studies in<br />

the Netherl<strong>and</strong>s17,18. Motives were often more<br />

latent than manifest. Respondents often had <strong>to</strong><br />

think for a long time <strong>to</strong> formulate a motive. Among<br />

involuntarily <strong>childless</strong> people, however, it is<br />

reasonable <strong>to</strong> expect explicit motives about why<br />

they want <strong>children</strong>. Because of <strong>their</strong> infertility they<br />

are stimulated, or even forced, <strong>to</strong> reflect on the<br />

reasons for <strong>their</strong> <strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>children</strong>. Originally<br />

involuntarily <strong>childless</strong> <strong>couples</strong> do not differ from<br />

the general population. So one would expect that<br />

we can get a deeper underst<strong>and</strong>ing of the reasons<br />

for wanting a child by asking involuntarily <strong>childless</strong><br />

<strong>couples</strong> about <strong>their</strong> motives.<br />

Another aspect of the transition <strong>to</strong> parenthood is<br />

the strength of the <strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>children</strong>. What is<br />

the intensity of this <strong>desire</strong> among men <strong>and</strong> women?<br />

This is difficult <strong>to</strong> investigate among fertile <strong>couples</strong><br />

because they easily beget a child. To get a better<br />

underst<strong>and</strong>ing of the strength of the <strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong><br />

a first child it may be useful <strong>to</strong> do research among<br />

involuntarily <strong>childless</strong> people,<br />

138<br />

van Balen <strong>and</strong> Trimbos-Kempel<br />

In research motives for parenthood attention<br />

should be given <strong>to</strong> both women <strong>and</strong> men. Althougr.<br />

the meaning of <strong>children</strong> for men <strong>and</strong> for women i~<br />

still different in Western society, it is self-evidenl<br />

that both partners playa role regarding the choice<br />

of having a child.<br />

In this article we report on a study among involuntarily<br />

<strong>childless</strong> <strong>couples</strong> about <strong>their</strong> <strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong><br />

a child. The aim of this article is <strong>to</strong> investigate the<br />

strength of the <strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> a (first) child <strong>and</strong> the<br />

motives of the <strong>couples</strong> (husb<strong>and</strong> <strong>and</strong> wife). Also the<br />

time spent thinking about the motives will be<br />

reported. Attention will be given <strong>to</strong> the relationshiJ<br />

between the strength of <strong>desire</strong> <strong>and</strong> categories 0<br />

motives. Furthermore, the consensus between the<br />

partners about <strong>their</strong> <strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>children</strong> i:<br />

considered. Finally several demographic aspect:<br />

(such as participation in the workforce, religion<br />

educational level <strong>and</strong> age) <strong>and</strong> personality charac,<br />

teristics (femininity <strong>and</strong> masculinity) are taken intc<br />

account.<br />

METHOD<br />

A group of 164 long-term involuntarily childles<br />

<strong>couples</strong> were asked <strong>to</strong> co-operate in the stud)<br />

These <strong>couples</strong> were selected from the files of ;<br />

fertility clinic in the Netherl<strong>and</strong>s (Leidel<br />

University Medical Centre). The selected file<br />

covered a period 00 years of medical investigation<br />

regarding infertility. The chosen period extende(<br />

from 6 <strong>to</strong> 3 years before the study <strong>to</strong>ok place<br />

Couples who had begotten a child, had adopted, 0<br />

in which the wife had an ongoing pregnancy wer<br />

excluded. The response rate was 66% (108 <strong>couples</strong>)<br />

There were no indications that the non-respondin:<br />

group differed in demographic <strong>and</strong> sociocultufd<br />

aspects from the responding group. The couple<br />

were interviewed between April 1988 an.<br />

November 1989. Both men <strong>and</strong> women answered<br />

structured questionnaire at <strong>their</strong> home. An inter<br />

viewer was present <strong>to</strong> make sure they answered th<br />

questionnaire separately.<br />

The respondents were representative of th<br />

Dutch population of the same age, in respect t<br />

religion, community-character <strong>and</strong> age differenc<br />

between husb<strong>and</strong> <strong>and</strong> wife. The educational leve<br />

was somewhat higher. This finding can be partl<br />

explained by the higher infertility rate among th<br />

higher educated, which in turn is the consequenc<br />

of the later age at which the higher educated war<br />

J. Psychosom. Obstet. Gynecc


lfor Fac<strong>to</strong>r having analysis identity/parenthood<br />

social jadJac4 well-being <strong>children</strong> Jac happiness jac 2(0.42)<br />

0.43 control 0.74 0.82 0.74 motivation 5continuitywell-being<br />

well-being<br />

control<br />

control happiness identity happiness identity parenthood <strong>to</strong> parenthood continuity<br />

0.72 0.87 0.75 <strong>have</strong> a child(0.42)<br />

0.72 0.64 0.83<br />

0.53 0.65 0.49 0.39 0.82 0.57<br />

0.79 0.66 van Balen <strong>and</strong> Trimbos-Kemper<br />

Jac 1<br />

~ir first child. The <strong>desire</strong>d age of <strong>their</strong> transition<br />

parenthood was equal <strong>to</strong> that of fertile <strong>couples</strong><br />

th the same educational level. Participation in the<br />

)fkforce of the women did not differ from other<br />

Jmen without <strong>children</strong> in the Netherl<strong>and</strong>s. Also<br />

e involuntarily <strong>childless</strong> women did not differ<br />

om other women, in <strong>their</strong> attitude <strong>to</strong> continuation<br />

:-work after the birth of a child. The different<br />

LUsesof infertility (female: 48%, male: 11%, both<br />

lrtners: 12% <strong>and</strong> unknown: 29%) were all repre­<br />

:nted <strong>to</strong> some extent.<br />

nstruments<br />

n order <strong>to</strong> measure motivations for having a child<br />

\Teused the parenthood-motivation list, developed<br />

)y one of the authors (van Balen) in co-operation<br />

'lith Zalmstra (clinical psychologist, Leiden<br />

Jniversity Medical Centre). The parenthoodnotivation<br />

list is based on the value of <strong>children</strong><br />

;cale of Fawcett <strong>and</strong> co-workers9,1O, the work of<br />

Hoffman <strong>and</strong> Hoffman 13 <strong>and</strong> the research by<br />

Niphuis-Nell <strong>and</strong> Moors19. Six types of motives<br />

were discerned: happiness, well-being, motherhood/fatherhood,<br />

identity, continuity <strong>and</strong> social<br />

control. Happiness denotes the expected feelings of<br />

affection <strong>and</strong> happiness in the relationship with<br />

<strong>children</strong>. By well-being is meant the expected<br />

positive effects for the family-relationship. Motherhood/fatherhood<br />

is defined as the expectation that<br />

parenthood will give life-fulfilment. Identity<br />

consists of the <strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>children</strong> as a means of<br />

achieving adulthood <strong>and</strong> identity-strengthening.<br />

Continuity is unders<strong>to</strong>od as the <strong>desire</strong>d affective<br />

relation with grown-up <strong>children</strong> <strong>and</strong> the wish <strong>to</strong><br />

live on symbolically after one's death. Social control<br />

denotes the implicit or explicit pressure from<br />

outside the couple <strong>to</strong> procreate. In the parenthoodmotivation<br />

list each category consisted of three<br />

items. So in <strong>to</strong>tal 18 items were used, each with a<br />

three-point scale. A type of motivation was considered<br />

present when one or more of the items of a<br />

type was mentioned (strongly agreed).<br />

Fac<strong>to</strong>r analysis (principal component analyses<br />

with varimax rotations, six iterations), was used <strong>to</strong><br />

test this categorization. It turned out that four<br />

categories (happiness, continuity, social control <strong>and</strong><br />

well-being) were indeed different fac<strong>to</strong>rs.Two<br />

categories (parenthood <strong>and</strong> identity) appeared <strong>to</strong> be<br />

one fac<strong>to</strong>r (see Table 1). Although fac<strong>to</strong>r analysis


Motives for having <strong>children</strong><br />

showed five fac<strong>to</strong>rs, the six types of motivation<br />

discerned on theoretical grounds <strong>and</strong> in preceding<br />

studies, were maintained.<br />

The strength<br />

well-being motherhood social identity continuity control of the <strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>children</strong> was<br />

measured on a six-point Likert-scale. happiness The following<br />

question was asked: 'what are you willing <strong>to</strong> give up<br />

<strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>children</strong>?' Furthermore, the respondents<br />

were asked <strong>to</strong> compare the strength of <strong>their</strong> own<br />

<strong>desire</strong> for <strong>children</strong> with the strength of <strong>their</strong><br />

partners' <strong>desire</strong>.<br />

Another concept was the thought-process<br />

(reflection) involved in <strong>their</strong> <strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> a child.<br />

This was measured by the time spent thinking<br />

about the reasons for desiring <strong>children</strong> (often,<br />

sometimes, never).<br />

Also used, were the concepts of femininity <strong>and</strong><br />

masculinity. Femininity <strong>and</strong> masculinity are defined<br />

according <strong>to</strong> (Lipsitz-)Bem, as describing stereotyped<br />

feminine <strong>and</strong> masculine attitude2°-22.<br />

Femininity <strong>and</strong> masculinity were measured by a<br />

scoring on a list of self-ascribed stereotyped<br />

adjectives (a translated <strong>and</strong> shortened Bern Sex Role<br />

Inven<strong>to</strong>ry). Both scales are independent of one<br />

another.<br />

Finally the questionnaire contained variables<br />

measuring the period of infertility, the medical<br />

his<strong>to</strong>ry, the attitude <strong>to</strong> adoption <strong>and</strong> sociodemographic<br />

characteristics. Sociodemographic variables<br />

were educational level, participation in the<br />

workforce, religious denomination <strong>and</strong> age.<br />

RESULTS<br />

The sample consisted of 108 infertile <strong>couples</strong>.<br />

Mean duration of infertility was 8.6 years. Most<br />

<strong>couples</strong> retained <strong>their</strong> <strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>children</strong><br />

(86%). About half of them still pursued <strong>their</strong> <strong>desire</strong><br />

<strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>children</strong> (genetically <strong>their</strong> own) with<br />

medical help. Mean age of the women was 34.9<br />

years <strong>and</strong> of the men 38.0 years.<br />

Reflection<br />

A large proportion of the involuntarily <strong>childless</strong><br />

people in this sample think often about the reasons<br />

for wanting <strong>children</strong>: women 50%; men 29%. Half<br />

of them think sometimes about these: women 37%;<br />

men 64% <strong>and</strong> a few never think about these:<br />

women 14%; men 7%. There is a clear difference<br />

between men <strong>and</strong> women: women reflect more<br />

intensely on <strong>their</strong> <strong>desire</strong> for <strong>children</strong> than men.<br />

140<br />

van Balen <strong>and</strong> Trimbos-Kemp<<br />

Table 2 Types of motives among women (n= 108) ane<br />

men (n=102)<br />

UIomen social well-being happiness fatherhood identity34%* continuity control 2% 78% 20% 46% 54%** 27% 48% 84% 68%* 56% 10% Men<br />

*Difference between men <strong>and</strong> women: x: p < 0.003<br />

**Difference between men <strong>and</strong> women: X2 p < 0.014<br />

Motives<br />

As described earlier, six categories of motivatio<br />

were discerned: happiness, well-being, parenthoo(<br />

identity, continuity <strong>and</strong> social control. Happine~<br />

was clearly the most mentioned category (<br />

motives, both for women <strong>and</strong> men. Motherhoc<br />

was second for women, fatherhood third for me]<br />

Social control was seldom a motive. All motive<br />

were reported more often by women than by me!<br />

Motherhood was mentioned significantly more 1:<br />

women, than fatherhood was mentioned by me]<br />

Also identity was significantly more often a moti,<br />

for women than for men (see Table 2).<br />

Intensity of the <strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>children</strong><br />

The strength of the <strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>children</strong> w<br />

measured by a six-point Likert scale. More th,<br />

20% of the women answered that they were willir<br />

<strong>to</strong> give up everything for <strong>children</strong> (men 7%), 30<br />

of the women were willing <strong>to</strong> give up a great de<br />

(men 28%). Overall the strength of the <strong>desire</strong> fi<br />

<strong>children</strong> was greater among women than arnOT<br />

men. The mean score of the wives was 4.06, me;<br />

score of the husb<strong>and</strong>s was 3.79 (t-test pairs: t = 3.2<br />

P < 0.023) (see also Figure 1). The strength of tl<br />

<strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>children</strong> did not correIa<br />

significantly with the duration of infertility (wome<br />

r = 0.02; men r = 0.04). There was, however,<br />

significant correlation with the age of the olde<br />

partner - mostly the husb<strong>and</strong> - (women r = 0.3<br />

p < 0.01; men r = 0.29, P < 0.01). A higher a:<br />

correlated with a less intense <strong>desire</strong> for <strong>children</strong>.<br />

Consensus of partners<br />

It has been reported already that the <strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> ha<br />

<strong>children</strong> is stronger among women than amOl<br />

J. Psychosom. Obstet. Gynec


Motives for having <strong>children</strong><br />

percentage<br />

35<br />

30<br />

25<br />

nothing<br />

20 105 15 0<br />

a little something much a great deal everything<br />

Figure 1 Strength of <strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> a child: what are<br />

you willing <strong>to</strong> give up <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>children</strong>? Solid bars,<br />

women; hatched bars, men<br />

men. It is in accordance with this finding, that<br />

women experience <strong>their</strong> own <strong>desire</strong> for <strong>children</strong><br />

more often as stronger than <strong>their</strong> partners' <strong>desire</strong><br />

(30%). Only 8% of the women perceive <strong>their</strong> own<br />

<strong>desire</strong> for <strong>children</strong> as weaker than <strong>their</strong> partners'<br />

<strong>desire</strong>. This result is mirrored by the opinions of<br />

the men: 30% of the husb<strong>and</strong>s perceive <strong>their</strong> own<br />

<strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>children</strong> as weaker than <strong>their</strong> wives'<br />

<strong>desire</strong> - <strong>and</strong> 8% as stronger - (see Figure 2). Also,<br />

the mutual assessment of the <strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> a child<br />

was analyzed. Both partners perceive the strength of<br />

each other's <strong>desire</strong> very well: in two-thirds of<br />

<strong>couples</strong> the partners perceived <strong>their</strong> mutual <strong>desire</strong><br />

for <strong>children</strong> correctly.<br />

Motives <strong>and</strong> strength of <strong>desire</strong><br />

The most frequently mentioned motives are not<br />

always the most potent ones. Therefore, the<br />

strength of <strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> a child has been analyzed<br />

regarding the presence or absence of a motivation<br />

category (by pointbiserial correlation). As shown<br />

previously, (in 35<br />

24<br />

6the<br />

happiness a child is expected <strong>to</strong> give<br />

1<br />

order offrequency)<br />

*p<br />

<strong>to</strong> its parents< 0.01; **p<br />

is the most < 0.001<br />

frequently mentioned<br />

category. However, among women this is not the<br />

strongest motive. The motivation category happiness<br />

does not correlate significantly with a strong<br />

<strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>children</strong>. Among women identity<br />

<strong>and</strong> motherhood are considerably more important.<br />

There is a very significant correlation between these<br />

categories <strong>and</strong> an intense <strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>children</strong>.<br />

Among men, on the contrary, the strength of <strong>desire</strong><br />

<strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>children</strong> correlates with motivation categories<br />

in the order of frequency of these motivation<br />

categories (see Table 3). Among men the longing<br />

equal<br />

63%<br />

equal<br />

62%<br />

less<br />

7%<br />

women<br />

men<br />

van Balen <strong>and</strong> Trimbos-Kemper<br />

less<br />

30%<br />

stronger<br />

30%<br />

stronger<br />

8%<br />

Figure 2 Perception of one's own <strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> a child<br />

compared with parmers' <strong>desire</strong><br />

Table 3 Strength of the <strong>desire</strong> for <strong>children</strong> <strong>and</strong> motivation<br />

in women (n = 102) <strong>and</strong> men (n = 95)<br />

Strength of the <strong>desire</strong> for <strong>children</strong><br />

Motivation happiness well-being continuity social parenthood identitycontrol<br />

category<br />

r0.38**<br />

0.44** 0.38** 0.17 0.28* 0.24 Men 0.16 0.36** 0.44** 0.12 0.22 0.23* VVomen r<br />

for happiness, fatherhood-feelings <strong>and</strong> optimizing<br />

well-being are the strongest motives for wanting<br />

<strong>children</strong>.<br />

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Motives for having <strong>children</strong><br />

Other variables<br />

The intensity of the <strong>desire</strong> for <strong>children</strong> <strong>and</strong> the<br />

motives people <strong>have</strong> for wanting <strong>children</strong> could<br />

very well be connected with sociodemographic <strong>and</strong><br />

personality characteristics. Several variables were<br />

used <strong>to</strong> investigate these possible relations: educationallevel,<br />

participation in the workforce, religious<br />

denomination, age, femininity <strong>and</strong> masculinity .<br />

Concerning the intensity of the <strong>desire</strong> for<br />

<strong>children</strong> two variables showed significant correlations.<br />

Among women an intense <strong>desire</strong> for <strong>children</strong><br />

correlated with high femininity (r = 0.27, P < 0.01),<br />

<strong>and</strong> correlated negatively with age (r = -0.24,<br />

P < 0.01). Among men no significant correlations<br />

between the <strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>children</strong> <strong>and</strong> sociode­<br />

mographic <strong>and</strong> personality characteristics were<br />

found.<br />

Concerning the different categories of motives<br />

there were significant correlations with femininity<br />

<strong>and</strong> educational level. Among women motives in<br />

the areas of identity (r = 0.37, P < 0.001), motherhood<br />

(r = 0.24, P < 0.01) <strong>and</strong> well-being (r = 0.23,<br />

P < 0.01) correlated with high femininity. Among<br />

men motives in the category of well-being (r = 0.34,<br />

P < 0.001), identity (r = 0.29, P < 0.01) <strong>and</strong><br />

continuity (r = 0.24, P < 0.01) correlated with high<br />

femininity. Among women as well as men a low<br />

educational level correlated with motives in the area<br />

of identity (women: r = 0.24, P < 0.01; men:<br />

r = 0.33, P < 0.001). Other variables (religious<br />

denomination, participation in the work force <strong>and</strong><br />

masculinity) showed no correlations with the<br />

strength of the <strong>desire</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>children</strong> or the<br />

motives <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>children</strong>.<br />

DISCUSSION<br />

In studies about attitudes <strong>to</strong> having a child costbenefit<br />

models still <strong>have</strong> a predominant place.<br />

However, this approach has some shortcomings.<br />

First, the choice <strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> a child concerns expected<br />

costs <strong>and</strong> benefits, not factual costs <strong>and</strong> benefits.<br />

Factual costs <strong>and</strong> benefits can only be assessed after<br />

the birth of the child. Furthermore, choices are<br />

often not made after a rational evaluation of<br />

expected advantages <strong>and</strong> disadvantages.<br />

In analyzing costs <strong>and</strong> benefits it is important <strong>to</strong><br />

differentiate between <strong>couples</strong> without <strong>children</strong> <strong>and</strong><br />

<strong>couples</strong> with <strong>children</strong>. In regard <strong>to</strong> the transition <strong>to</strong><br />

parenthood (<strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> a first child) it is more<br />

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appropriate <strong>to</strong> investigate <strong>couples</strong> without a child,<br />

than parents. Also the number of <strong>children</strong> is<br />

important11,23. Hoffman <strong>and</strong> Manis already concluded<br />

in 1979 that cost-benefit analysis is not<br />

useful for <strong>couples</strong> wanting <strong>their</strong> first child, but is<br />

important for the decision about th~..3~rJimi.tQ£<br />

/~"'fi.UI:UQer _of chil~~_~/As' most <strong>couples</strong> \<br />

eventually want a first child, percei;,ed_c.Qsts.donot ~\<br />

.deter <strong>couples</strong> from wanting it../We think, that .<br />

C:()hcerniti~fthe transition <strong>to</strong> parenthood costbenefit<br />

analysis does not bring us much further. We<br />

propose <strong>to</strong> concentrate the analysis on the motives<br />

<strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong> a child. Research among involuntarily<br />

<strong>childless</strong> <strong>couples</strong> may, as we tried <strong>to</strong> show, result in<br />

a better underst<strong>and</strong>ing of the human <strong>desire</strong> for<br />

<strong>children</strong> <strong>and</strong> of the various motives for this <strong>desire</strong>.<br />

"~l,ong-term l;f~'rtile co~pl~~]differ however from<br />

fertile <strong>couples</strong> in several aspects. The long period of<br />

infertility stimulates the process of thinking about<br />

the reasons for having <strong>children</strong>. Most co~J~sJ~taiIl<br />

<strong>their</strong> <strong>desire</strong> for <strong>children</strong>: They do" not easily I<br />

ab<strong>and</strong>on <strong>their</strong> <strong>desire</strong> for <strong>children</strong> <strong>and</strong> often go <strong>to</strong> .<br />

very great lengthstQPUIsgetl1.e~~d~siEc:<strong>to</strong> <strong>have</strong>. a<br />

child. They often experience invasive medical<br />

investigations <strong>and</strong> treatment. If they choose<br />

adoption they may go through years ~fp:r()~edures<br />

<strong>and</strong> waiting. In contrast <strong>to</strong> <strong>couples</strong> who conceive<br />

without problems, infertile <strong>couples</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>to</strong> reply <strong>to</strong><br />

the questions from <strong>their</strong> social environment<br />

(family, friends, medical staff, adoption workers)<br />

about <strong>their</strong> motives for pursuing this <strong>desire</strong>.<br />

Regarding this aspect infertile <strong>couples</strong> can be<br />

compared <strong>to</strong> voluntarily <strong>childless</strong> <strong>couples</strong>, who also<br />

<strong>have</strong> <strong>to</strong> explain <strong>their</strong> choice. Indeed most infertile<br />

<strong>couples</strong> do think <strong>and</strong> rethink <strong>their</strong> motives for<br />

wanting <strong>children</strong>. When they started <strong>to</strong> try <strong>to</strong> beget<br />

a child involuntarily <strong>childless</strong> <strong>couples</strong>, however, do<br />

not differ from fertile <strong>couples</strong>. Therefore, <strong>their</strong><br />

views can be taken as indicative for <strong>couples</strong> seeking<br />

transition <strong>to</strong> parenthood in general, though <strong>their</strong><br />

views are more crystallized <strong>and</strong> reflected. However,<br />

it is not excluded that some aspects of <strong>their</strong><br />

experience of infertility may influence the relative<br />

importance of motives. Future research among<br />

<strong>couples</strong> seeking parenthood about <strong>their</strong> motives can<br />

test these assumptions.<br />

It appeared that involuntarily <strong>childless</strong> women<br />

<strong>and</strong> men <strong>have</strong> a rather good assumption of the<br />

strength of <strong>their</strong> partners <strong>desire</strong> for a child, in comparison<br />

with <strong>their</strong> own <strong>desire</strong>. Awareness of each<br />

other's <strong>desire</strong> about having a child is expected in the<br />

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,\lIotivesfor having <strong>children</strong><br />

:ourse of the experience of infertility. Still, this<br />

finding is consistent with the good communication<br />

,between involuntarily <strong>childless</strong> partners as reported<br />

:by several authorsZ5-Z8.<br />

Among involuntarily <strong>childless</strong> women <strong>and</strong> men<br />

happiness is the most frequently mentioned<br />

motive-category for wanting <strong>children</strong>, followed by<br />

well-being <strong>and</strong> parenthood. Motives in the domain<br />

of continuity (family name, family firm) <strong>and</strong> social ~<br />

control were seldom subscribed <strong>to</strong>.!Motives th~\<br />

yxpressions of personal development (happiness !<br />

knd well-being) are nowadays in Western societies<br />

more important than motives that express the<br />

interest of the group (social control) <strong>and</strong> continuity<br />

<strong>and</strong> heredity. /.<br />

The desiiet"; <strong>have</strong> a child appeared <strong>to</strong> be much<br />

stronger among involuntarily <strong>childless</strong> women than<br />

among involuntarily <strong>childless</strong> men. This result can<br />

be explained by the different meaning of having<br />

<strong>children</strong> for men <strong>and</strong> women still existing in<br />

Western society. Women are <strong>to</strong> a larger extent<br />

guided <strong>to</strong> motherhood, than men <strong>to</strong> fatherhood.<br />

Even, in dual-career families the main caretaker for<br />

the <strong>children</strong> is mostly the wifez9. Also, it is self­<br />

evident that women experience pregnancy <strong>and</strong><br />

birth more intensely than men.<br />

Motives in the area of parenthood <strong>and</strong> identity<br />

are more important among women than among<br />

men. Social perceptions about status <strong>and</strong> identity<br />

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