trips with her, but prefers to stay on <strong>the</strong> family farm. Herchildren enjoy sightsee<strong>in</strong>g trips, but now have families of <strong>the</strong>irown to consider.Kay is married to Thomas Wicker of Macon. They havethree children, and Kay is a stay-at -home mom who keepsher college degree above <strong>the</strong> washer and dryer <strong>in</strong> <strong>the</strong> utilityroom to rem<strong>in</strong>d herself of her accomplishments. The oldestson, Ken, and his wife Kim have two children and reside <strong>in</strong>Reidsville. Ken has been employed for over twenty years atGeorgia State Prison and is a licensed embalmer and funeraldirector. Kev<strong>in</strong>, <strong>the</strong> youngest, and his wife Kathy live <strong>in</strong> Douglaswith <strong>the</strong>ir four children. He works as a County ExtensionAgent.“We have n<strong>in</strong>e grandchildren, ages thirteen to twenty-five,”Tatum said. “They’ve been scattered out all over Georgia,but we get to see <strong>the</strong>m pretty regularly. And we still host familyevents, especially dur<strong>in</strong>g <strong>the</strong> holidays.”Lyndal’s o<strong>the</strong>r <strong>in</strong>terests <strong>in</strong>clude be<strong>in</strong>g <strong>the</strong> only clerk <strong>in</strong> <strong>the</strong>history of <strong>the</strong> P<strong>in</strong>eview church. She put toge<strong>the</strong>r a historybook, full of pictures, to celebrate <strong>the</strong> <strong>in</strong>stitution’s fiftieth birthdaythree years ago.“That was a very fulfill<strong>in</strong>g th<strong>in</strong>g for me,” she remembered.“It’s hard to describe how I feel about that church. My daddyand those people loved it so and worked so hard to get itstarted.”The Tatums also hosted a foreign exchange student fromGermany for a year. He recently returned with his new wifeto celebrate Thanksgiv<strong>in</strong>g with <strong>the</strong>m.Lyndal has also contributed to historical articles for localnewspapers and magaz<strong>in</strong>es. These have <strong>in</strong>cluded her perspectiveson her church and <strong>the</strong> Tattnall County Courthouse.She has been many places, but still lives less than ten milesfrom her first home. She remembers curl<strong>in</strong>g up with that Aliceand Jerry reader <strong>in</strong> her bed at night, dream<strong>in</strong>g of places shemight someday go.Hold<strong>in</strong>g that volume <strong>in</strong> her hands, she said, “This littlebook, I first saw it when I was <strong>in</strong> third grade. When I camehome with it, I read it that night, and we read it <strong>in</strong> class. Icould not put it down. I would say, ‘Oh my gosh! I want to go<strong>the</strong>re one day.’ I was entranced with <strong>the</strong> places I read about. Igot <strong>in</strong> my m<strong>in</strong>d back <strong>the</strong>n, that when I was grown I wanted togo and see <strong>the</strong>se places with my own eyes. That was always<strong>in</strong> <strong>the</strong> back of my m<strong>in</strong>d, that I would do that. I just didn’tknow how.” πCommon Discounts Available to SeniorsToday's seniors mightcr<strong>in</strong>ge at <strong>the</strong> escalat<strong>in</strong>g costsof necessities such as prescriptionmedication andeven higher utility bills, andunderstandably so. However,savvy seniors can save by tak<strong>in</strong>gadvantage of a host of discountsexclusive to <strong>the</strong> thoseover <strong>the</strong> age of 65.• Travel perks. Many seniorslove to travel, and caneven do so at heavily discountedprices. Larger hotelcha<strong>in</strong>s often offer seniors discountsas high as 10 percent.Unfortunately, many U.S.domestic airl<strong>in</strong>es, fac<strong>in</strong>ghigher fuel prices and dw<strong>in</strong>dl<strong>in</strong>gbus<strong>in</strong>ess due <strong>the</strong> globaleconomic downturn, ceasedoffer<strong>in</strong>g senior discounts <strong>in</strong>2009. However, certa<strong>in</strong> airl<strong>in</strong>es,<strong>in</strong>clud<strong>in</strong>g SouthwestAirl<strong>in</strong>es, still offer discounted52<strong>Mature</strong> <strong>Liv<strong>in</strong>g</strong> W<strong>in</strong>ter Editionrates to seniors. These discountscan be as much as 10percent. It's also common forcar rental agencies to offersenior discounts.• Transportation. Manycommunities provide heavilydiscounted, if not free, ratesto seniors for public transportation.Consult with your localgovernment to determ<strong>in</strong>eif you qualify for senior discounts.• Food. Grocery storescommonly offer discounts toolder customers, and manytimes you don't even need tobe a senior citizen to qualify.In general, cha<strong>in</strong>s offer seniordiscounts, <strong>in</strong>clud<strong>in</strong>g specialdays for seniors to shop, toanyone over <strong>the</strong> age of 55.Restaurants are also known tooffer senior discounts, andoften <strong>the</strong>se discounts extendbeyond "earlybird special" discountsof yesteryear.While earlybird specials stillexist, many cha<strong>in</strong>restaurants offerdiscounted pricesto seniors regardlessof time of day.In many cases,<strong>the</strong>se discountsaren't listed on <strong>the</strong>menu, but it neverhurts, and typicallysaves, to ask.• Arts and culture.Seniors look<strong>in</strong>gto spend a dayor night on <strong>the</strong>town and take <strong>in</strong>some culture cantypically do so at a discountedrate. Museums and NationalParks typically offer discountedadmission to seniors,as do movie <strong>the</strong>aters and evensome concert halls.
Help<strong>in</strong>g a Parent After <strong>the</strong> Loss of a SpouseFew children, even adult children, are ever preparedenough to help <strong>the</strong>ir parent deal with <strong>the</strong> loss of a spouse. Inaddition to cop<strong>in</strong>g with <strong>the</strong>ir own loss of a parent, many adultsmust f<strong>in</strong>d a way to help a parent who just lost <strong>the</strong> love of <strong>the</strong>irlife.While it is never easy help<strong>in</strong>g a parent <strong>in</strong> such a situation,<strong>the</strong>re are ways to help a parent cope with such a significantloss.• Be m<strong>in</strong>dful of your parent's health. Sadly, a commonside effect of los<strong>in</strong>g a spouse is show<strong>in</strong>g less <strong>in</strong>terest <strong>in</strong> yourown health. Kids must make sure <strong>the</strong>ir parent cont<strong>in</strong>ues toeat regularly. This can be done <strong>in</strong> a number of ways. Inviteyour parent over for d<strong>in</strong>ner a coupleof nights a week, and go over toyour parent's home for d<strong>in</strong>ner acouple of additional nights. If youhave sibl<strong>in</strong>gs, share this responsibility.Also, you can cook for yourparent just like he or she used tocook for you.While physical health is important,be sure your parent ma<strong>in</strong>ta<strong>in</strong>shis or her mental health as well. Depressionis common among thosewho have lost a loved one, so ask<strong>the</strong>m about <strong>the</strong>ir feel<strong>in</strong>gs and if<strong>the</strong>y're gett<strong>in</strong>g enough sleep. If adultchildren have <strong>the</strong>ir own kids, br<strong>in</strong>g<strong>the</strong> grandkids over whenever possible.Noth<strong>in</strong>g puts a bigger smileon a grandparent's face than <strong>the</strong>sight of his or her grandchildren.• Allow <strong>the</strong>m some space to be<strong>the</strong>mselves. While you might wantto stay as close as possible to yourparent, you also need to give <strong>the</strong>msome space to be <strong>the</strong>mselves. Yourparent just lost his or her spouse, andit's perfectly natural for him or herto want some time alone. Afford<strong>the</strong>m this opportunity, but be m<strong>in</strong>dfulto check <strong>in</strong> with <strong>the</strong>m regularlyand not allow <strong>the</strong>m to spend toomuch time alone.• Engage your parent as muchas possible. When both your parentswere still alive, you might not have<strong>in</strong>vited <strong>the</strong>m along to <strong>the</strong> movies orwhen tak<strong>in</strong>g your own kids to asport<strong>in</strong>g event. However, engage<strong>the</strong>m <strong>in</strong> such activities now, as <strong>the</strong>y might not get a chance todo such th<strong>in</strong>gs o<strong>the</strong>rwise.Ano<strong>the</strong>r way to engage parents is to talk to <strong>the</strong>m aboutcurrent events or even books you have been read<strong>in</strong>g. Do<strong>in</strong>gso will help <strong>the</strong>m stay mentally sharp, and you will no doubtbenefit as well from <strong>the</strong>ir po<strong>in</strong>t of view.• Take a trip with your parent. Initially, your parent mightbe reluctant to travel, especially of he or she had travel plansor dreams with his or her spouse. However, over time yourparent will no doubt enjoy <strong>the</strong> prospect of travel<strong>in</strong>g with <strong>the</strong>family, and it can be an enjoyable experience for everyone<strong>in</strong>volved.Amy R. Gardner, LUTCF243 East Parker St., Baxley(912) 367-3932agardner@metlife.com<strong>Mature</strong> <strong>Liv<strong>in</strong>g</strong> W<strong>in</strong>ter Edition 53