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| EXPERIENCE |talking”. His grandfather lived to the ripe old age of 89bowing out gracefully “I’ve done my job and I’m movingon to Heaven” - a simple decision that has shadowedall that John Di Lemme went on to achieve with regardsto his writing and motivational speaking. Whilst stillsuffering a speech impediment, John used to tense upwhen someone simply asked his name. He recalls thatone day he walked in a restaurant and when he wasasked for the reservation name, John said “Di Lemme”without any trouble. That was the first time he feltfreedom from fear and it was a truly remarkable turningpoint in his life.John now travels extensively around the world withthe sole reason to change people’s lives. He enjoysfacing an auditorium to teach and challenge thosepresent. He speaks simply, urging his audience toundertake simple decisions: ‘Everyone should havea mentor’. In his words, John Di Lemme explainshow it’s like someone taking you on a boat witha knowledgeable person at the helm. A mentor issomeone who’s been there before, and is ready toadvise you what roads to take and which to avoid. Johnbelieves that everyone should have a mentor.There are many life coaches but John Di Lemmemaintains that the truth shall set one free, emotionally,financially and spiritually. But the truth can hurt andthat’s the strength of a mentor who can help you realisethat the truth will cut fear’s deep-rooted anchor.John is the author of the book “Find your Why andFly”. Many people moan and complain that life isboring. John blames the people themselves for theseclaims – he believes if we surround ourselves withnegative people, it’s hardly likely for us to feel joyfuland motivated to achieve our goals. Taking charge ofnew actions and getting in touch with new people andfocusing forward is surely not a formula for boredom.Do we all have dreams and goals? Are these dreamsboring? We are responsible for our own dreams but tobe truly inspired we first have to step out of our comfortzone. If we had to watch a kid aged 2 or 3 years old,it might surprise us that they never seem to be bored.Kids embrace life with open arms - they wake up everyday and experiment by trying to walk, run and hop, singa new tune... Kids too need to be mentored in order to self-develop – problems arisewhen they continually face dismissive or deprecating remarks – ‘you’re a bad child,why did you do that?’ If we had to switch these confrontational words to – ‘you’re agood child but why did you do such a bad thing?’ the bad turns to the action and notthe child. An overabundance of negative remarks and habits only results in a grown upsaying “I don’t know what my dreams are.”This is when we have to be brave enough to take a conscious decision to change.In the word ‘challenge’ there’s ‘change’. John feels responsible to push, stretch andencourage one to step out to the next level. “Associate with someone who is positiveand this will lead to anything but a boring life. Move to the next level by getting outof your comfort zone. Make new decisions, change your life – you are the only oneresponsible for your own decisions”.John’s website can be found at www.findyourwhy.com and when I asked aboutthe importance of keeping this website updated, he confided that it’s the only wayto keep in direct contact with people from all over the world. He was also keen toexplain his views on the media today. He plainly concludes that one negative word istwenty times more powerful than a positive word – and the media seeks to continuallybombard us with negative thoughts, which results in us being influenced. By keepingclose to the subscribers of his website he aims to fight this battle against negativity.When I asked what his main goal in life is, John answered that he would like tosee a change in people’s lives, with their suit of fear chipped away. This he does bymentoring, encouraging and challenging people from all walks of life and to ultimatelyteach them determination through a well-tested process. “Process means a journeywith a destination. Success is a journey not a destination. Champions make decisionsand decisions make champions”. Those words are what John Di Lemme teaches.“Every decision you’ll take will predict your future”, so his goal and mission is tomanifest the champion that was born, and he challenges you to grow and have asuccessful life. “Grow physically, spiritually and financially. When you choose to takethe championship walk, you’ll become successful because you’ll make new decisions.Champions are born – losers are made. When you plant a seed, say today is the dayof a beginning of a new life.”On a personal level, chewing on this seminar and experience given by John diLemme, I’ve learnt to try and not let anyone’s opinion become my reality or haveanyone steal my most precious dreams. Achieving this will mean moving to an all-newchallenging level in my life. Life is beautiful, worth living and ultimately it is up to us tomake it what it is. (A special thanks goes to Di Lemme Development Group, Inc. and Alfred Difesa fromMalta for the great effort to bring such a mentor to us). Visit www.findyourwhy.comand give yourself the opportunity to change.L&s | DECEMBER ’07 11