As we enter the twenty-first century, human societies are moving towardagreement on many issues that have not been generally accepted even in therelatively short period <strong>of</strong> time in which we have maintained records <strong>of</strong> humanhistory. Most nations now consider evil practices which were until recentlywidespread and even sanctioned: slavery, genocide, torture, acting on the belief inthe inherent inferiority <strong>of</strong> people because <strong>of</strong> their ethnicity, gender, or social class,or the practice <strong>of</strong> barring groups <strong>of</strong> people from learning how to read and obtainknowledge. Vestiges <strong>of</strong> these beliefs and practices are still within us, and at timesthey erupt with catastrophic results. And there are still many practices which arehotly debated by advocates <strong>of</strong> one or another perspective, and which we are farfrom agreement on. One wonders whether any <strong>of</strong> the currently agreed-upon evilswill ever be totally eradicated. One wonders whether humanity will eventuallycome to a general agreement about the many moral dilemmas that face us today.But as we carry on with our day-to-day lives, we continually make choices. Dothese choices contribute to the actualization <strong>of</strong> the good?In order for the good to be considered worth living for, it must have an effecton one's daily life. Otherwise, it will remain a mere abstraction. For the good tobe perceived as real, it must be felt. It must have an abiding presence in one's life.It must become a recognizable companion, whose absence is noticed.One <strong>of</strong> the best descriptions <strong>of</strong> this type <strong>of</strong> relationship with the good is alittle book called <strong>The</strong> Practice <strong>of</strong> the Presence <strong>of</strong> God by a monk from the middleages named Brother Lawrence. Brother Lawrence's attempts to develop a closepersonal relationship with his God led him to devise a habit <strong>of</strong> becoming conscious<strong>of</strong> what his faith already had taught him, namely, that God was everywhere, andthus, always with him. If God is everywhere, he reasoned, then everything that IHMOR.July2005.Muñoz.doc 96
do is done with Him at my side. With Him at my side, everything I do becomesholy. Peeling potatoes is as holy an act as praying in church. <strong>The</strong>re is nothing I door think which is separate from God. And, because I am never away from God, Iam always in His care, never alone, never forgotten. As he practiced thisconsciousness <strong>of</strong> the presence <strong>of</strong> his God, Brother Lawrence learned that, at first, ittook effort to retain this mind state. But, as he reminded himself to do so, theconsciousness <strong>of</strong> being with his God, became second nature to him. And he foundthat this practice resulted in a deep sense <strong>of</strong> peace and happiness. <strong>The</strong> book is acompilation <strong>of</strong> his letters to others who sought to become close to the ChristianGod. <strong>The</strong>y make fascinating reading.Other traditions provide similar spiritual practices, such as the practice <strong>of</strong>mindfulness in the Buddhist tradition, the use <strong>of</strong> communal prayers at certain timesthroughout the day, practiced by Islam and many other religions, and the tradition<strong>of</strong> having conversations with one's God, as in some <strong>of</strong> the Jewish writings and thepractices <strong>of</strong> Christian mystics. Practices such as these are intended to bring theattention <strong>of</strong> the faithful back to what they understand to be the ultimate reality, bethat understood as a person-like entity, a Supreme Being, such as the ChristianGod, or a more ethereal, ineffable reality, inherently incomprehensible by thehuman mind, such as the Tao.My life experiences have led me to have a deep respect for the large variety<strong>of</strong> religious experiences that I have encountered. I was brought up in Perú, acountry in which Catholicism was, for practical purposes, the only religion. As achild, I was a deeply devout Catholic. I believed that only those who had beenbaptized Catholic and who had lived according to the teachings <strong>of</strong> the RomanCatholic Church would be saved. At age 10, my parents immigrated to SanFrancisco. I met many people from a wide variety <strong>of</strong> traditions in the next 10HMOR.July2005.Muñoz.doc 97
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