In Chapter 2, I talked about choosing a direction, and about the concept <strong>of</strong>"the good." To put into practice any new skill, there must be a reason, a motivationfor putting in the energy and time that integrating something into one's daily lifeentails. I believe that successful use <strong>of</strong> the reality management ideas is most likelyto occur if these ideas are explicitly used to seek the good.Human beings have a built-in tendency to look for what is good. At first,they begin by seeking what is good for them, and them alone, in part because theyare only aware <strong>of</strong> their own existence. As they grow and mature, their search forwhat is good encompasses the welfare <strong>of</strong> more and more people: their parents,their brother and sisters, their friends, their school, their teams, their social groups(be they cliques, or gangs, or clubs), their churches, businesses, communities, andfinally their countries. More and more are going beyond that to encompasshumanity as a whole, and some attempt to encompass life, whether plant or animal,the earth, and even the universe.As the search for the good expands beyond solely what is in one's owninterests, the concept <strong>of</strong> good begins to approximate the search that is the basis formany spiritual quests. <strong>The</strong> concept <strong>of</strong> the good then becomes compatible with themany religious traditions that have been and will continue to be important inhuman life.<strong>The</strong> development <strong>of</strong> religions themselves have had similar stages, beginningwith beliefs and practices aimed at securing from deities what was necessary forsurvival, such as food, water, warmth, or victory over one's enemies. Religiousthinking gradually expanded to more interactive relationships with one's god.<strong>The</strong>se interactions have included promises <strong>of</strong> faithfulness and explicit and <strong>of</strong>tenpublicly stated intentions to follow particular lifestyle practices, believed to beHMOR.July2005.Muñoz.doc 94
good not for self-gain, but good in a more universal sense.Cynics point out that, even in cases where material benefits are not themotivation for spiritual practices, the belief that these practices will lead to eternalbliss is the real reason for adopting them. Thus, self-gain is still involved even inapparently selfless lifestyles. I admit that this may very well be the case for certainpeople. But my sense is that, for most individuals for whom spiritually influencedlifestyles are more than just socially sanctioned rituals, the seeking after the goodgoes beyond self-gain. "<strong>The</strong> good" begins to develop a reality in these people'slives, and the ways they think and behave begin to be judged in their own minds interms <strong>of</strong> whether they are in harmony with their concept <strong>of</strong> the good.<strong>The</strong> good is independent <strong>of</strong> what specific human beings think is good. Itcannot be defined by polls, popular beliefs, or the power <strong>of</strong> the state. It has anexistence beyond time and space: the beliefs <strong>of</strong> societies throughout the centuriesand throughout the vast geographic locations in which they have flourished hasshifted in terms <strong>of</strong> what has been considered good. In some ways, the search forthe good parallels the efforts <strong>of</strong> scientists to discover how nature works, takingprecautions not to be biased by one's assumptions or one's society's current beliefs.<strong>The</strong> efforts <strong>of</strong> people for whom spiritual and moral values are important are aimedat gradually discovering more aspects <strong>of</strong> "the good" and their practicalimplications.HMOR.July2005.Muñoz.doc 95
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