My intention is to serve as a catalyst for considering how we lead our lives,and how our actions can move our life in positive or negative directions. My hopeis that out <strong>of</strong> this consideration <strong>of</strong> alternatives, some readers will choose to takeaction to sculpt their realities, and that their actions will lead to satisfaction, innerpeace, and a sense <strong>of</strong> lasting happiness.HMOR.July2005.Muñoz.doc 12
Chapter 1On Managing <strong>Reality</strong><strong>The</strong> universe is infinite. We are finite.Each day, we come in contact with a small part <strong>of</strong> the universe. We see,hear, and are touched by "little chunks" <strong>of</strong> this infinite reality. We feel emotions,think thoughts, and do things in response.This book is about what we feel, think, and do and how these humanactivities affect our personal reality. Sometimes, those feelings, thoughts, andactions fill us with satisfaction. At other times, they fill us with boredom,discomfort, anxiety, or pain.Those around us are also affected by our feelings, thoughts, and actions, aswe are by theirs. We can be peaceful, supportive, and a source <strong>of</strong> strength andenergy for others. Or, we can be "vexations to the spirit," a source <strong>of</strong> disharmony,demoralization, and a drain on others' enthusiasm and joy <strong>of</strong> living.Our feelings, thoughts, and actions become part <strong>of</strong> the infinite universe.First, they become part <strong>of</strong> ourselves, <strong>of</strong> the reality we carry inside ourselves. <strong>The</strong>n,they can become part <strong>of</strong> those closest to us: our spouses and children, our partners,our co-workers, our students, our neighbors, the people we pass on the street. So,our feelings, thoughts, and actions, eventually become part <strong>of</strong> our external reality.HMOR.July2005.Muñoz.doc 13
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