Freud_Burlingham_1943_War_and_Children_k_text

one girl of another age group, ten years old,who ardently wished to leave England altogetherand to return to Canada, where she hadbeen born, where everything was peaceful and"no horrid things to see".The third type of anxiety is of a completelydifferent nature. There is no education withoutfear. Children are afraid of disobeyingthecommands and prohibitions of their elderseither because they fear punishments or becausethey fear losing their parents' love wheneverthey are naughty. This fear of authoritydevelops a little later into a fear of the child'sown conscience. We regard it as progress inthe child's education when commands and prohibitionsfrom outside become more and moreunnecessary, and the child knows what to dodo under the direction of hisand what not toAt the time when this nucleusown conscience.of inner ideas which we call conscience, isformed, itturns back continually to the figuresof the outside world on the one hand, to theimaginations of his own phantasy on the other,and borrows strength from both to reinforcethe inner commandments.The child of four or five who is afraid inthe evening before sleep because it thinks ithas done wrong or thought forbidden thoughts,will not only have a "bad conscience" or beafraid what father and mother would say if29