Freud_Burlingham_1943_War_and_Children_k_text

mother's relationship remains more or less unalteredand what is half a lifetime tothe baby is only half a year toher, the mothers cannot experience this situationwithout bitterness. They naturally thinkthat it is the material comforts which the nurseryhas to offer, the choice of toys, the goodfood, the "nice bath", which has stolen theaffection of the children from them.itIn reality,is the extreme material and emotional dependencyof the small child which forces it toform such strong ties with his immediate surroundings.For this very reason we may expectmany difficult situations to arise at the end ofthe war when alltoreturn home again.these children are supposedThe state of affairs with the bigger childrenin the Country House is quite different. Nowthat the quarantine has made the visitsof parentsimpossible we have the opportunity of seeingthe children under conditions which moreclosely resemble those of other children inevacuation. There are still some differences ofcourse. It is astonishing that even the smallerchildren understand the reason why the parentshave stopped coming. We encourage lettersfrom both sides, small parcels are sent and newsis taken back and forth when the doctor makesher regular visits. We find that in this distancethe relationship to the absent parents is154greatly