The Basics of Biblical Counseling - Biblicalcounselingonline.org
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G. What should you do if he repents? Mt. 18:15b 21-22 Js. 5:19-20 Pr. 11:30<br />
Eph. 4:32<br />
1. If he repents, rejoice and f<strong>org</strong>ive. Eph. 4:32<br />
2. Repentance may involve restitution and seeking the f<strong>org</strong>iveness <strong>of</strong> other<br />
parties.<br />
H. Other questions:<br />
1. Do those who are under authority (i.e. a wife or a child) have the right to<br />
confront those over them (i.e. a husband or a parent)?<br />
2. How can you know someone isreally repentant? II Cor. 7:10-11<br />
3. If you doubt his repentance, can you move on to stage 2?<br />
4. If he pr<strong>of</strong>esses repentance, but keeps sinning, can you move on to stage 2?<br />
Mt. 18:21-22<br />
5. Are there cases in which a man may repent, but the church will still need to<br />
be told? I Tim. 5:20<br />
6. What level <strong>of</strong> confidentiality should you <strong>of</strong>fer in counseling?<br />
7. How long should you wait before moving to stage 2?<br />
III. Stage 2: If he will not listen to you, take two or three witnesses. Mt. 18:16 Dt. 19:15<br />
A. What is the function <strong>of</strong> the two or three?<br />
<strong>The</strong>y come to bear witness against his sin and to admonish him to repent.<br />
B. Whom should you bring? Gal. 6:1<br />
C. Are there cases in which those you bring may not agree that he is guilty?<br />
1. You may lack decisive evidence.<br />
2. <strong>The</strong>y may not agree the matter is a sin issue.<br />
D. Are there sins which may warrant admonition, but don t require going to stage 3?<br />
Can every sin potentially lead to public discipline?<br />
E. What should be done in disputes in which counter-chargesare being made?<br />
1. Jesus is addressing clear-cut cases <strong>of</strong> sin in Matthew 18.<br />
2. Disputes among brothers require application <strong>of</strong> additional scriptural<br />
principles. I Co. 6:1-8 Phil. 4:2-3 Pr. 18:17<br />
F. What should you do if the erring brother repents?<br />
G. Other questions.<br />
1. What should you tell a witness when asking him to serve?<br />
2. What if the accused party refuses to meet with the witness(es)?<br />
IV. Stage 3: If he still refuses to repent, tell it to the church. Mt. 18:17a<br />
A. Who tells the church? <strong>The</strong> leaders <strong>of</strong> the church must be involved in determining<br />
the validity <strong>of</strong> the charges and the means <strong>of</strong> dealing with the matter publicly.<br />
B. How should the situation be communicated to the church?<br />
C. How much should the church be told?<br />
<strong>The</strong> presentation to the congregation must be open and above-board.<br />
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