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D. Be careful not to contribute to any divorce by your acts or counsel. Matt. 19:6 1. Guard your marriage. 2. Don t become involved with a married person. 3. Don t give bad advice. III. Can one be lawfully divorced and remarried? A. The problem of the exception. 5:32 19:9 1. Divorce and remarriage are clearly forbidden in most situations. 2. Alldivorce is a sinful violation of God s ideal; however, not all divorced persons are guilty of that sin. B. Divorce is permitted on the grounds of sexual promiscuity. 5:32 19:9 1. Sexualunfaithfulness breaksthe marriage covenant. a. Underthe Old Covenant, the adulterer would have been executed, thereby freeing the innocent party. Deut. 22:22 b. This is the ground on which God divorced Israel. Jer. 3:8 c. The words Jesus uses (porneia) encompasses adultery and other sexual sins. 2. Even in this case divorce is merely permitted, not commanded. Hosea 2 a. Where there isrepentance, forgiveness and restoration are preferable. Luke 17:3 b. The wronged party cannot be compelled to give up the right to divorce. C. The person who has been abandoned by an unbelieving spouse is also free. 1 Cor. 7:15-16 Rom. 12:18 1. He or she is the victim of the other party shaving severed the marriage covenant. 2. The believer is no longer bound to fulfill the marital duties. 3. What if a believer is abandoned by a professing Christian? Matt. 18:15-17 D. Those who are lawfully divorced are free to remarry. 1 Cor. 7:27-28 1. They are not underany obligation to remarry. 1 Cor. 7:27-28 2. Usually it is best to wait. E. Other questions: 1. Do these exceptions contradict Jesus teaching against divorce? a. The exceptions occurwhen the other party breaks the marriage covenant. 2. Do these principles apply equally to men and women? Mark 10:2ff 1 Cor. 7:10ff 3. Is separation ever an option? 1Cor. 7:10, 5 4. What if one has unlawfully divorced and not remarried? 1 Cor. 7:10-11 a. Those who are not lawfully divorced have no right to remarriage. 5. What if one has unlawfully divorced and remarried? a. It istoo late to go back. Deut. 24:1-4 b. Confessyour sin to God and to those whom you have hurt. c. Live faithfully in the situation in which you find yourself. 1 Cor. 7:20, 24 6. What is the role of government in marriage and divorce? a. States which fail to allow divorce on biblical grounds harm the innocent party! b. Laws (no fault divorce) which promote quick and easy divorce without fixing blame and protecting the innocent party are unjust and harmful to the family. 104
IV. Concluding applications. A. For the married: Don t rush out of marriage. 1. Divorce on unbiblicalgrounds will not allow you to escape anything! 2. Commit to working out your problems. No marriage is beyond repair. 3. Strive for God s ideal in your marriage. Eph. 5:22-33 1 Pet. 3:1-7 Prevention is better than the cure. B. For the single: Don t rush into marriage. 1. Many make a bad choice which will bring years of sorrow. 2. Choose your love carefully! I Cor. 7:39 9:5 II Cor. 6:14 Prov. 31:30 Dt. 7:4-5 C. For those who have sinned: divorce is not the unforgivable sin. Mt. 12:31 105
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IV. Concluding applications.<br />
A. For the married: Don t rush out <strong>of</strong> marriage.<br />
1. Divorce on unbiblicalgrounds will not allow you to escape anything!<br />
2. Commit to working out your problems. No marriage is beyond repair.<br />
3. Strive for God s ideal in your marriage. Eph. 5:22-33 1 Pet. 3:1-7 Prevention is<br />
better than the cure.<br />
B. For the single: Don t rush into marriage.<br />
1. Many make a bad choice which will bring years <strong>of</strong> sorrow.<br />
2. Choose your love carefully! I Cor. 7:39 9:5 II Cor. 6:14 Prov. 31:30 Dt. 7:4-5<br />
C. For those who have sinned: divorce is not the unf<strong>org</strong>ivable sin. Mt. 12:31<br />
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