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IV.
One Flesh: Your marriage is the only place where God s gift of sex is to be enjoyed
A. Why did God create sex? Heb. 13:4
1. The key to understanding sexual morality is to positively affirm what sex is for.
2. The physical union is a symbolic expression of the marriage covenant. 2:24 4:1
3. Sexual union in marriage is meant to produce children. 1:27-28 Ps. 127
a. Children are a blessing from God.
b. God wisely puts children into families to be raised by a mother and a father
c. We are called to fill the earth.
4. The physical union in marriage is meant by God to be pleasurable for both the husband
and the wife. Dt. 24:5 Pr. 5:18-19 Heb. 13:4 Song of Solomon
5. We need to teach our children a healthy biblical view of sex.
B. Any othersexual expression is a violation of God s design. Ecc. 7:29 Ro. 1:18-32
1. Lust: fantasies and pornography. Mt. 5:27-28 James 1:15 Job 31:1 II Sa. 11:2
2. Fornication: Seeking the privileges of marriage without taking on the obligations. Sex
between a man and a woman who are not yet married. Heb. 13:4
3. Adultery: A married person having sex with anyone other than his or her spouse.
Ex. 20:14 I Co. 6:16 Pr. 7:27
4. Other sexualperversion: Homosexuality, etc.
V. Concluding Applications: What God has joined let no man separate! Mt. 19:6
A. Do your part to protect marriage. God is involved in every marriage.
1. Romance is for marriage. If you are single, protect your upcoming marriage by not
leaving, cleaving, and one-fleshing before you are married.
2. Marriage is for romance. If you are married, protect your marriage.
a. Positively: Invest time and effort in marriage relationship: Enjoy the blessings God has
given you!
b. Negatively: Ruthlessly deal with threats to your marriage. Build a hedge
Pr. 14:12 23:26-28 4:23
3. Protect the marriages of others. Keep safe distance. Show respect. Attack: God.
B. Why should you follow God s directives for marriage?
1. God s way will bring you the greatest happiness.
2. God brings consequences to sexual sin. Heb. 13:4
a. Sexually transmitted diseases. Ro. 1:27,32
b. Financial ruin. Pr. 6:26 5:10
c. ASpoiled reputation. Pr. 6:32-33
d. Intense personal emotionalmisery. Pr. 5:22-23 6:32-33 7:23 22:14
e. The disintegration of our social order.
f. The wrath of God. I Co. 6:9f He. 13:4
3. Your sin will find you out. Pr. 5:20-21
4. God Who is sovereign will never let you profit from violating His law.
C. The key to sexual purity is the fear of God. Pr. 9:10
1. Sexualsin is a heart problem: idolatry. Mark 7:21-23 Pr. 4:23
2. The reason so many professing evangelicals are failing in their families is that they have
lost the fear of God!
a. The post-modern evangelical church has become man-centered.
b. Before the church can affect the world, we must be different from the world!
3. If you love God, you will be pure! Gen. 39:9
4. God offers grace to those who turn to Him.
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