August 2011 Final Pages.indd - World Memon Organization ...
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A GRUMBLE<br />
On<br />
Getting<br />
Old<br />
Some people age gracefully while others<br />
do not due to increasing pressures,<br />
tensions and unabated worries. How<br />
truly it has been said that old age creeps<br />
upon one unawares. As one ages, human<br />
faculties gradually begin to slow down.<br />
Dark hair, which you were once proud of,<br />
turns grey, the eyesight starts failing, teeth<br />
begin to deteriorate making it difficult to<br />
eat and the stamina also registers a decline.<br />
It also becomes difficult to walk fast, never<br />
mind being able to run or take part in games<br />
and sports. After living an active life ageing<br />
makes one fidgety, this is accompanied by<br />
physical and emotional changes. Indecisiveness,<br />
pensive moods, dulling of memory,<br />
growing temper, fretting over trifles and intolerance<br />
of other’s view-point become the<br />
hallmark of life. Retirement brings a change<br />
in one’s social status as instead of sharing<br />
responsibilities with others and drawing<br />
a fabulous salary every month one has to<br />
depend on the small pittance in the name of<br />
pension or ‘Old Age Benefit.’<br />
Each passing day brings new social,<br />
economic and health problems, ranging<br />
from minor problems like body aches and<br />
insomnia to more serious ones like highblood<br />
pressure, urinary disorders, and<br />
at times the dreaded cancer or any other<br />
wasting disease. To add to that you can not<br />
relish your favourite food like sweetmeats,<br />
Icecreams, chocolates, cakes, cold-drinks<br />
and even fruits like mango in order to keep<br />
blood sugar under control. Sugar-free,<br />
30<br />
salt-free and fat-free food is now your fate,<br />
whether you like it or not. You are advised<br />
to give up meaty and spicy food and be content<br />
with insipid and tasteless pulses or leafy<br />
vegetables for your health’s sake, though<br />
some of us at the risk of fatal diseases refuse<br />
to take controlled diet despite knowing that<br />
‘prevention is always better than cure’.<br />
Some people however, meet old age with<br />
a positive attitude and continue to live life<br />
to the full, like my next door neighbor, who<br />
though now in his late 80s still goes to the<br />
nearby mosque to say his prayers, as and<br />
when he can, and instead of using the chair<br />
meant for the old people sits on the carpeted<br />
floor. He has a couple of like minded<br />
friends who keep themselves busy by doing<br />
social work, like helping the poor patients<br />
or acting as a match-maker for the neighbourhood’s<br />
eligibles.<br />
The breezy side of advancing age is that<br />
you are addressed as ‘Sir or Uncle’ by the<br />
area vendors, shopkeepers and the neighbourhood<br />
children and apologized to if<br />
still sought by your children and you are in<br />
the decision making position in matter of<br />
accepting or refusing marriage proposals or<br />
settling disputes between estranged couples<br />
or other soured relations. Your grandchildren<br />
seek your company for playing indoor<br />
games like ludo, snakes & ladders and<br />
carom (if and when they get away from the<br />
computer or the TV) and insist that you take<br />
them to the near by public park, where they<br />
can play and breathe the fresh air under the<br />
azure sky, and coax you into buying them<br />
goodies like chips, peanuts and pop corn.<br />
Ageing makes one physically weak, emotionally<br />
fragile and distraught but it also has<br />
a balmy side. People are generally helpful<br />
to the elderly; for instance if you are trying<br />
to cross a busy road and are hesitant due<br />
to fast moving traffic someone among the<br />
passers by will help you to reach the other<br />
side, or if you are standing in a long queue<br />
at a bank to pay your utility bills, under<br />
the blistering sun, someone will let you<br />
pay your bills out of turn to save you the<br />
inconvenience.<br />
Similarly, those who have to travel in<br />
public transport are often offered a seat by<br />
someone or if on foot someone will offer a<br />
lift as far as he/she can.<br />
Such sights are very rare in the West,<br />
although they care and claim so much for<br />
the welfare of the homeless people. It is<br />
heartening to see that senior citizens are<br />
cared for in our society despite the fact<br />
that it has become so materialistic, though<br />
there are families where the elderly are not<br />
considered to have their utility. We ought to<br />
care about the old people who, in a way, are<br />
our national asset due to their experience<br />
and knowledge.<br />
The notion that old people are a burden<br />
on us is also not acceptable in any way.<br />
They can still contribute their bit for the betterment<br />
of social and moral values, as well<br />
as customs and traditions that still matter<br />
much to us.<br />
MEMON ALAM AUGUST <strong>2011</strong>