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WMO IN THE CHANGING WORLD
control over the moment
following.”
The best way that I have found to overcome
the inner resistance that often stops
us from taking action is to stay in the
present as much as possible and to be accepting.
Why? Well, when you are in the present
moment you don’t worry about the next
moment that you can’t control anyway. And
the resistance to action that comes from you
imagining negative future consequences – or
reflecting on past failures – of your actions
loses its power. And so it becomes easier to
both take action and to keep your focus on
this moment and perform better.
6. Everyone is human.
“I claim to be a simple
individual liable to err like
any other fellow mortal.
I own, however, that I
have humility enough to
confess my errors and to
retrace my steps.”
“It is unwise to be
too sure of one’s own
wisdom. It is healthy
to be reminded that the
strongest might weaken
and the wisest might err.”
When you start to make myths out of
people – even though they may have
produced extraordinary results – you
run the risk of becoming disconnected
from them. You can start to feel
like you could never achieve similar
things that they did because they are
so very different. So it’s important to
keep in mind that everyone is just a
human being no matter who they are.
And I think it’s important to remember
that we are all human and prone to make
mistakes. Holding people to unreasonable
standards will only create more unnecessary
conflicts in your world and negativity
within you. It’s also important to remember
this to avoid falling into the pretty useless
habit of beating yourself up over mistakes
that you have made. And instead be able to
see with clarity where you went wrong and
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what you can learn from your mistake. And
then try again.
7. Persist
“First they ignore you,
then they laugh at you,
then they fight you, then
you win.”
Be persistent. In time the opposition around
you will fade and fall away. And your inner
resistance and self-sabotaging tendencies
that want to hold you back and keep you
like you have always been will grow weaker.
Find what you really like to do. Then
you’ll find the inner motivation to keep going,
going and going.
8. See the good in people
and help them.
“I look only to the good
qualities of men. Not
being faultless myself, I
won’t presume to probe
into the faults of others.”
“Man becomes great
exactly in the degree in
which he works for the
welfare of his fellowmen.”
There is pretty much always something
good in people, and things that may not be
so good. But you can choose what things
to focus on. And if you want improvement
then focusing on the good in people is a
useful choice. It also makes life easier for
you as your world and relationships become
more pleasant and positive. And when you
see the good in people it becomes easier to
motivate yourself to be of service to them.
By being of service to other people, by
giving them value you not only make their
lives better. Over time you tend to get what
you give. And the people you help may feel
more inclined to help other people. And so
you, together, create an upward spiral of
positive change that grows and becomes
stronger.
By strengthening your social skills you
can become a more influential person and
make this upward spiral even stronger.
9. Be congruent, be
authentic, be your true self.
“Happiness is when what
you think, what you say,
and what you do are in
harmony.”
“Always aim at complete
harmony of thought and
word and deed. Always
aim at purifying your
thoughts and everything
will be well.”
I think that one of the best tips for improving
your social skills is to behave in a
congruent manner and communicate in an
authentic way. People seem to really like authentic
communication. And there is much
inner enjoyment to be found when your
thoughts, words and actions are aligned.
You feel powerful and good about yourself.
When words and thoughts are aligned then
that shows through in your communication.
10. Continue to grow and
evolve.
”Constant development
is the law of life, and a
man who always tries to
maintain his dogmas in
order to appear consistent
drives himself into a false
position.”
You can pretty much always improve
your skills, habits or re-evaluate your evaluations.
You can gain deeper understanding
of yourself and the world.
Sure, you may look inconsistent or like
you don’t know what you are doing from
time to time. You may have trouble to act
congruently or to communicate authentically.
But if you don’t then you will, drive
yourself into a false position. A place where
you try to uphold or cling to your old views
to appear consistent while you realise within
that something is wrong. It’s not a fun place
to be. To choose to grow and evolve is a
happier and more useful path to take.
MEMON ALAM AUGUST 2011