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<strong>Parishioner</strong><br />

S T F R A N C I S ’ C H U R C H<br />

ISSUE <strong>22</strong> SUMMER 2013<br />

Bishop John Hine to Retire<br />

Denis and Rosemary Neale<br />

Bishop John Hine retires in July, so we went to interview him at the Hermitage, West Malling to get<br />

the lowdown on his life as Priest and Bishop.<br />

John Hine spent his formation in Rome at the<br />

Venerable English College and was ordained in 1962<br />

by Cardinal Godfrey in the chapel of the College. He<br />

was 23 years old. He was sent to Worcester Park,<br />

London, as assistant priest to Fr. Beausang, a man from<br />

Cork. Coming straight from the kindly bosom of college,<br />

having studied theology and philosophy etc., Bishop<br />

John told us that on arrival he wasn’t sure what to do.<br />

“Why am I here?” He asked Fr. Beausang. He was<br />

promptly asked to go and count the candle money!<br />

In 1970, he came to Maidstone as one of the<br />

assistant priests to Monsignor Denis Wall at St. Francis’.<br />

This was a busy time for the Church with many changes<br />

taking place. At that time, priests at St.Francis were<br />

allotted different areas of the town and surroundings to<br />

their pastoral care. Fr. John’s was the Barming area,<br />

where there were many Catholics with young families,<br />

including us. Mass was celebrated on Sundays in St.<br />

Simon Stock School (later at the Oakwood Hospital<br />

Church). True to his concern for marriage and<br />

family life he encouraged us to meet together in<br />

each others houses for friendship and mutual<br />

support, to share House Masses and discussions<br />

about the Faith. Fr. John left Maidstone after only<br />

three years and we all missed him.<br />

He wasn’t too far away, though - only in<br />

Chatham, at the church of St. Michael the<br />

Archangel, as assistant priest to Canon Thomas<br />

Hill. At that time, he tells us, he had no car, only a<br />

bicycle. “I was young and vigorous then”, he says,<br />

Father John blesses the site where the<br />

future St Peter’s Church will be built and<br />

below the completed church.<br />

“but someone reminded me one day that Chatham<br />

has 43 hills - apart from the Parish Priest!”. He was<br />

five years in Chatham and during that time saw out<br />

three parish priests. “To stop me”, he joked, “they<br />

made me a parish priest and moved me to<br />

Bearsted!”<br />

Bearsted had no church or priest’s house. He<br />

obtained a small bungalow on an estate to live in<br />

and celebrated Sunday Mass in his front room, also<br />

in an upper room of a Memorial Hall in<br />

Harrietsham. At first, Mass in the upper room<br />

attracted a small crowd and a collection of around<br />

£23 at each Mass but soon the congregation grew<br />

so big there was little room to move. “One day”. he<br />

said,”I backed into a candle, caught fire and had to be put out by one of the servers!”<br />

Soon, it was his task to provide a church for the Bearsted catholics. Eventually, the Church<br />

of St. Peter, an attractive, modern building with an integral flat to house the priest, rose up in<br />

Button Lane. As soon as it was finished, Fr. John moved in. Altogether he spent eight busy<br />

years in Bearsted. Apart from building the new church and ministering to his parishioners, he<br />

worked closely with the Marriage Encounter movement. Also, having been involved with<br />

Canon Bernard Hegerty in Catholic education during his time in Chatham, on the the Canon’s<br />

death he moved on to the Southwark Diocesan Schools Commission for Kent, which took up<br />

a lot of his time. <strong>The</strong>n,<br />

one evening, he was at<br />

his computer, working<br />

late and very tired when<br />

the phone rang. He<br />

snatched it up and<br />

growled “What?”. It was<br />

Bishop John is ordained by<br />

Archbishop Michael Bowen in 2001<br />

Archbishop Michael<br />

Bowen, asking if he<br />

would become Vicar<br />

General at Southwark<br />

Cathedral.<br />

That appointment lasted fifteen years and he says, “He<br />

was never bored”. His worked included dealing with the<br />

media and the burgeoning Child Protection Programme,<br />

as well as with the many and varied cares and problems of<br />

the clergy.<br />

One day, Monsignor John (as he was by then) received<br />

another phone call from Archbishop’s House telling him to<br />

go to the Nunciature. What had he done now? Fearing the<br />

worst, he obeyed, only to be told that the Holy Father, Pope<br />

John Paul II, on the recommendation of the Nuncio and Archbishop Bowen, was to appoint<br />

him auxiliary bishop of Southwark. He was<br />

ordained by the Archbishop on 27th February<br />

2001. He was now Bishop John Hine, Bishop of<br />

the Titular See of Beverley and Auxiliary in<br />

Southwark.<br />

That appointment brought him back to the<br />

Maidstone area, where he has lived at the<br />

Hermitage, West Malling for the past 12 years,<br />

serving the diocese and beyond with no less<br />

enthusiasm and love than he did as a young man.<br />

We have been friends with him since his days in<br />

Maidstone and we know how deeply he cares for<br />

married people and families and their struggles<br />

in this difficult world. His work with the Marriage<br />

and Family Life Team in the diocese is proof of<br />

that. As Chair of the Bishop’s Conference<br />

Committee for Marriage and Family Life, he told us with delight<br />

that the Team has recently received an anonymous donation of<br />

one million pounds, which means that their work can be<br />

extended and improved.<br />

We all thank you, Bishop John, for your fruitful and<br />

wholehearted ministry. We hope that you enjoy your retirement,<br />

although we suspect you won’t be sitting around. One thing you<br />

told us, you’ll be staying in Kent. So, don’t be a stranger!<br />

<strong>The</strong> newly ordained Bishop John<br />

with the authors<br />

Bishop John meeting parishioners at the<br />

celebration of the 150th anniversary of the<br />

founding of St<br />

Francis’ Parish,<br />

October 2009<br />

Happy birthday! Canon John celebrates 65 years


S T F R A N C I S ’ C H U R C H<br />

<strong>Parishioner</strong><br />

THE PARISH OF ST. FRANCIS<br />

GROVE HOUSE, 126 WEEK STREET, MAIDSTONE , KENT ME14 1RH.<br />

TEL: (016<strong>22</strong>) 756217 FAX: (016<strong>22</strong>) 690549<br />

E-mail: stfrancis_parish@yahoo.co.uk Web site: www.stfrancisparish.org.uk<br />

Parish Priest: Canon John S Clark MA.<br />

Assistant Priests: Fr. Bartlomiej Dudek, Fr.Peter Kucharski<br />

Deacon: Rev’d Tom Coyle KSG<br />

E D I T O R I A L<br />

Once again we welcome a new edition of the <strong>Parishioner</strong>. I am<br />

so grateful to Denis and Ross for all the hard work they put into<br />

in preparing the current edition. We lead with the forthcoming<br />

retirement of Bishop John. We hope he will be around with us<br />

until the end of the year. He has served the people of Kent and<br />

of the diocese for over 50 years as both priest and Bishop. He<br />

will be sadly missed. He has always been a great support and<br />

help to anyone who has turned to him when<br />

in need of support. No doubt we will have<br />

the opportunity of thanking him formerly in<br />

the coming months.<br />

Canon John<br />

Fr Piotr Kucharski<br />

I was born on May 1983 in Sanok, a city in southeastern<br />

Poland and grew up in a small town called<br />

Zagórz. After my school-leaving exams in June 2003 I<br />

entered the Seminary in Przemysl. In May 2008 I was<br />

ordained a deacon, and after a year I was ordained a<br />

priest by Archbishop Józef Michalik in the cathedral in<br />

Przemysl. Over the next three years I was assistant<br />

priest in the Sacred Heart of Jesus parish in Biaobrzegi,<br />

then I was sent by my Archbishop to Maidstone.<br />

I enjoy England very much, especially in this parish,<br />

particularly my friendships with the clergy team and<br />

parishioners. Everyone is very nice and kind. I think that<br />

this is the real spirit of St Francis’ - from a simple smile,<br />

kindness and prayer to real community of Christ. I hope<br />

that my ministry in the parish will be useful and fruitful.<br />

Fr J Victor Emmanuel<br />

I am from India and belong to the diocese of<br />

Tiruchirappally in Tamilnadu. I was ordained a priest<br />

on April17th.1996 and have completed 17years as<br />

a priest. For thirteen years I worked as a parish priest<br />

in different parishes in my diocese and for the last<br />

three years as financial administrator in our regional<br />

major seminary.<br />

I always enjoy coming to St.Francis’ Parish in<br />

Maidstone. This is my third time here and it has<br />

become like a second home for me. I was previously<br />

here in 2004 and 2007.<br />

Canon John has always been kind, cordial,<br />

hospitable and generous and I have found all the<br />

parishioners to be very friendly and welcoming.<br />

I am really grateful to Canon John, Fr.Bartlomiej,<br />

Fr.Peter and all the parishioners for their cordiality and<br />

hospitality. Thank<br />

you very much.<br />

Phoenix Youth Club- Ablaze with<br />

Love and Light<br />

If, on Friday, you’re thinking...it’s been a long<br />

week, it’s time for a laugh and a chill out,<br />

then, you should be thinking… it’s<br />

time...for youth club!!!<br />

Let’s kick off with the important stuff.<br />

Firstly a point of gratitude, the youth club is<br />

run by some very cheerful people, Lydia<br />

Burchell, Fr Bartholomew, Fr Peter and other<br />

helpers. We are lucky to have these<br />

wonderfully dedicated people who help to<br />

make our experiences even more enjoyable.<br />

When the youth club was first set up, with the<br />

initiative of Jackie Iffie, we obtained a KCC<br />

grant for £708.54 to help with redecoration<br />

and equipment and this was the money Lydia<br />

used to purchase the air hockey table (just<br />

one example of the awesome work they do).<br />

On Fridays we meet from 6.30 - 9.00 pm, and very much<br />

enjoy going head first and challenging each other (overcome<br />

with competitive spirit) to a game of pool, table tennis, table<br />

football, AIR HOCKEY! and Wii games. Sometimes though the<br />

most simple games please us most and one of the most popular<br />

games that we all play together is “Spoons”, which is a card game<br />

where there are not quite enough spoons to go round, so you<br />

can imagine what happens! Every Friday we have sweets, crisps<br />

and fizzy drinks to enjoy but our favourite evenings are those<br />

when we have pizza or ice cream! :D<br />

We also go on trips (everyone likes trips :D), we’ve been ice<br />

skating, bowling and we have been on a midnight hike to<br />

Aylesford Priory (with hot chocolate and marshmallows...yum!)<br />

and also attended the Rosary at Aylesford during October.<br />

We have led a couple of 6 pm Masses and really enjoy the<br />

food evenings we have after the Masses, let’s be honest who<br />

doesn’t like food?! We had a Mass followed by KFC in January<br />

and on Mother’s Day we led the evening Mass and afterwards<br />

we had pizza with our families in the Parish Hall. Unfortunately<br />

there does seem to be a recurring theme of snow at every Mass<br />

we have led so far. Let us hope next time we lead a Mass in the<br />

Kathleen Dalton was born in<br />

Tinahely. Co. Wicklow in Ireland<br />

on the 24th January, 1938 into a<br />

deeply religious Catholic family. She was<br />

the fifth of six children, She saw her sister<br />

Stephanie leave home at the age of 17 to<br />

go to England to join the Sisters of<br />

Providence in Lincoln and two years<br />

later, aged 17, she joined her sister in<br />

Lincoln on the 15th January 1955 to<br />

begin her formation, taking the name of<br />

Sister Mary Lawrence in honour of her<br />

father.<br />

She made her first Profession on the<br />

5th October 1957 and remained in<br />

Lincoln assisting with the youngest<br />

children in the Infant School. In 1964 she<br />

went to Belfast in Northern Ireland where<br />

the Sisters worked with the Redemptorists in their retreat<br />

house. In 1966 she moved to Maidstone where she was to<br />

spend the rest of her life, firstly at the Sacred Heart Convent<br />

School and from 1975-2005 in Fintonagh House. From<br />

1970-1973 she did her teacher training in Nottingham. In<br />

1973 she began work in St. Francis’ Primary School and<br />

remained there, becoming Head of Infants until her<br />

retirement in July 2000.<br />

In 1981 she had a serious, life changing heart operation<br />

and she lived with its consequences for the rest of her life,<br />

always having to be closely monitored. This did not stop her<br />

building up the Infant department of the school, creating a<br />

truly unique place to work and study. She worked with a<br />

committed and loyal group of teachers and helpers. <strong>The</strong><br />

children were at the heart of everything that Kathleen did and<br />

only the best was good enough for them. She had a<br />

particular place in her heart for her “naughty boys”. <strong>The</strong><br />

school was definitely at the heart of the parish community.<br />

Sister Kathleen got to know generations of families, which<br />

stood her in good stead for the next chapter of her life.<br />

In 2001 with the prospective closure of Fintonagh House<br />

by Jennie Kemps<br />

summer that it’s not snowing!!<br />

Many of you may remember that just<br />

before Christmas the youth club performed a<br />

Nativity for the Parish. This was written and<br />

directed by Jade Nelson one of our<br />

members. Jade’s script was so well done that<br />

we were able to act out a teenage Nativity<br />

with a little bit of humour but the Nativity did<br />

not lose the true meaning of Christmas. We<br />

had our ups and downs during the rehearsals<br />

but we were so proud of our final<br />

performance and the feedback we received<br />

from the families, friends and parishioners<br />

who came to see it was really positive. So, to<br />

all those that came along...Thank You! It was<br />

really amazing to experience so much<br />

support!<br />

On Friday 15 March 2013 we also performed the Stations<br />

of the Cross. We understood that the Stations are an emotional<br />

and moving prayer and we wanted to express this in our<br />

performance. Most of the youth club were able to take part and<br />

this was directed by members of the youth club; Rachel Williams<br />

(readers) and Georgina Burchell (actors). <strong>The</strong> reflections were<br />

written so that they were very thought provoking and<br />

emotional and the actors led the congregation through Jesus’<br />

last moments to his death. Many of the congregation attending<br />

said that the Stations of the Cross performed by the youth club<br />

brought them to tears because it was so moving and prayerful.<br />

We also regularly take part in Parish activities like the Parish<br />

Quiz Night and we have helped at the summer and Christmas<br />

Fairs. We think it is important that we take an active role in<br />

Parish life.<br />

Over the next few months we hope to have many more<br />

food evenings, trips and activities and just chill out in the youth<br />

room (and play spoons!). Come and join us! We meet every<br />

Friday during term time from 6.30 pm to 9.00 pm. Looking<br />

forward to seeing you there! :)<br />

Sister Kathleen Dalton<br />

1938-2012<br />

and the dispersal of the community of<br />

Sisters, Kathleen asked to continue the<br />

100 year mission of the Sisters in<br />

Maidstone by remaining there alone in a<br />

sheltered flat and becoming the Parish<br />

Sister for St. Francis’ Parish. Her new<br />

responsibilities were for the sick and<br />

elderly of the parish. Every week she<br />

would visit many people in the parish,<br />

the hospital and the psychiatric hospital.<br />

She initiated many of the Indian and<br />

Polish priests into the parish by taking<br />

them on her weekly visits. <strong>The</strong>se were<br />

very fruitful years of Kathleen’s life as<br />

she lived alone, developing so many<br />

skills and becoming independent. She<br />

often said that these years were a gift as<br />

she became more aware of who she was<br />

and what she had to give.<br />

She also found a new attachment to the Congregation<br />

and the Region, too. She enjoyed visiting all the<br />

communities in England and even made visits to<br />

communities in Europe.<br />

She loved her family and was immensely proud of them<br />

and she was deeply loyal to her Irish roots. Kathleen felt<br />

blessed to be able to look after her sister Mary in her last<br />

months. She loved her trips “home” and the regular phone<br />

calls, emails and photos.<br />

We know she was always grateful to Canon John Clark<br />

and all her friends in Maidstone, without whom she would<br />

not have been able to live alone. She always felt part of the<br />

community of the parish and she knew she had friends who<br />

supported and appreciated her.<br />

Sister Kathleen’s sudden death has left a big gap in the<br />

lives of so many people, but she lived her life to the end<br />

doing what she felt called to do as a Sister of Providence,<br />

being “providence especially for the weak and the poor”<br />

(Const 1) in “hope, complete trust, simplicity and joy”<br />

(Const 8). May she rest in peace.<br />

Have you visited your parish web site?<br />

www.stfrancisparish.org.uk


Welcome to Pope Francis<br />

Following the resignation of Pope Benedict XVI on February 28th this year, the world waited with bated breath to see who would<br />

be his successor. Would he be, like Benedict, conservative and intellectual or be a pope more open to change and less formal, from<br />

Europe or from further afield? <strong>The</strong> answer came on March 13th when the Cardinals in conclave in Rome elected Pope Francis.<br />

Born Jorge Mario Bergoglio on December<br />

13th 1936 in Buenos Aires to Italian<br />

parents, Pope Francis worked briefly as a<br />

chemical technician before entering seminary<br />

school. He was ordained priest for the Jesuits in<br />

1969 during his theological studies at the<br />

<strong>The</strong>ological Faculty of San Miguel. From 1973 to<br />

1979 he was Argentina’s Provincial superior of the<br />

Society of Jesus and became Archbishop of Buenos<br />

Aires in 1989 and a cardinal in 2001. After his<br />

election as Pope he chose the name Francis in<br />

honour of St. Francis of Assisi. Francis is the first<br />

Jesuit pope, and the first pope from the Americas<br />

and the southern hemisphere. He is known, both<br />

as an individual and religious leader, for his<br />

humility, his concern for the poor and his<br />

committment to dialogue as a way to build bridges<br />

between people of all backgrounds, beliefs and<br />

faiths. Since his election to the papacy he has<br />

displayed a simpler and less formal approach to<br />

the office.<br />

What the Pope does. by David Willey<br />

After Pope Francis’ solemn inauguration Mass,<br />

attended by six reigning monarchs, 31 heads of state and representatives<br />

of 132 governments, he became head of state of the world’s smallest<br />

sovereign enclave, Vatican City, as well as spiritual leader of an estimated<br />

1.2 billion Catholics scattered over every continent.<br />

<strong>The</strong> duties of the 266th successor to the throne of Saint Peter are wideranging.His<br />

regular Vatican appointments are a weekly blessing for tourists<br />

and pilgrims every Sunday from the window of his private study overlooking<br />

Saint Peter’s Square and a weekly general audience for some 5,000 pilgrims<br />

in a modern audience hall in winter and in the open air in Saint Peter’s<br />

Square in summer. <strong>The</strong> Pope normally presides over religious celebrations<br />

of all the major church festivals of the year inside Saint Peter’s, including<br />

Christmas and Easter, when he also appears on the same balcony where he<br />

was proclaimed pope after his election to deliver his “Urbi Et Orbi”<br />

message to the city of Rome and to the world.<br />

Past popes have celebrated Mass every morning in their private chapel<br />

before settling down at their desk to deal with correspondence. <strong>The</strong> Pope<br />

has a small personal staff of nuns to run his household, to cook and clean,<br />

and a personal valet or butler. Pope Benedict and Pope John Paul both had<br />

two personal secretaries. He also has a team of speechwriters.<br />

While Pope Emeritus Benedict lived a secluded life inside the Vatican<br />

(and plans to live an even more secluded existence in the former convent<br />

which is being prepared as his new home in a corner of the Vatican<br />

Gardens), Pope John Paul II lived a more gregarious existence, often<br />

inviting personal guests to attend his early morning mass and to share his<br />

breakfast. He also gave frequent lunch and dinner parties for visiting clergy<br />

Early in November 2012,<br />

we visited the BBC TV<br />

Centre at White City in<br />

West London, just a few months<br />

before it closed in March 2013<br />

for redevelopment.<br />

Some of the best-known<br />

programmes on British<br />

television were recorded within<br />

its walls: Dad’s Army, I Claudius,<br />

Fawlty Towers, Top of the Pops,<br />

Monty Python’s Flying Circus,<br />

<strong>The</strong> Two Ronnies, Blue Peter,<br />

classic era Doctor Who and<br />

Absolutely Fabulous.<br />

<strong>The</strong> façade to this iconic<br />

1960 building features a central<br />

circular block affectionately<br />

referred to by BBC staff as the<br />

“doughnut”, around which were<br />

built studios, offices, engineering areas and the News Centre. <strong>The</strong><br />

architect, Graham Dawbarn, literally drew a question mark on the back<br />

of an envelope as the original concept for the shape of the building,<br />

since he only had a triangular piece of land to work with. <strong>The</strong> BBC TV<br />

Centre was the first in Britain specifically designed for television.<br />

We were lucky enough to have a sunny day in London, and we were<br />

treated to a wonderful view of the Palace of Westminster as we went over<br />

Lambeth Bridge. It was quite a cold day, but on arrival to the BBC TV<br />

Centre, we were fortunate not to be in the queue for ‘Strictly Come<br />

Dancing’, which already trailed quite a long way. We divided up into<br />

different groups to have a tour of the some of the studios and other<br />

parts of TV Centre. Our group had fun and games with weather<br />

forecasting, news reading and a mini TV quiz, and we saw inside<br />

different studios including the old News 24 Studio, which had already<br />

relocated to Media City in Salford at the time of our visit.<br />

and friends. One of the duties of a pope is to meet<br />

at least once every five years with his more than<br />

5,000 bishops from around the world - roughly<br />

1,000 a year, or 20 a week.<br />

Under church law they are obliged to visit<br />

Rome to report to the Pope on the state of their<br />

dioceses in what is called an “ad limina” (on the<br />

threshold of Saint Peter) visit. Benedict XVI had<br />

just finished this exhaustive series of interviews<br />

with every Catholic bishop in the world, and was<br />

embarking on a second round just before his<br />

retirement.<br />

Foreign travel is also, these days, among the<br />

Pope’s duties.In contrast to the 19th Century<br />

Pope Pius IX and his immediate successors, Pope<br />

Francis is unlikely ever voluntarily to confine<br />

himself to his micro-state. Pius’ pontificate lasted<br />

for 32 years, the longest of all time. Although he<br />

was forced to leave Rome and seek temporary<br />

refuge at nearby Gaeta when revolution broke out<br />

in Rome in 1848, he angrily declared himself a<br />

“prisoner in the Vatican” when forced militarily to<br />

forfeit his temporal rule over the former papal<br />

states of central Italy after Italy became a unified state in 1870. He<br />

remained inside the walls of the Vatican until he died.<br />

Pope Francis has already made several sorties into Rome in an<br />

unmarked car and is likely to continue the regular worldwide and Italian<br />

travels of his immediate predecessors. His first foreign visit is expected to<br />

be to his home country Argentina, and also to Brazil for a Catholic youth<br />

festival in Rio de Janeiro in July. His first visit inside Italy could be to Assisi,<br />

the birthplace of the much loved patron saint of Italy, Saint Francis, by<br />

whose name the new Pope chose to be called.<br />

<strong>The</strong> Pope also receives many visitors. Traditional papal protocol is<br />

complicated and serves to isolate the Pope except when he officiates at<br />

these public ceremonies. <strong>The</strong> Apostolic Palace, a fine Renaissance building<br />

next to Saint Peter’s Basilica, has suites of official reception rooms on its<br />

second floor, below the papal apartments. Here the Pope receives heads of<br />

state and official guests in his private library - groups of visitors range in<br />

size from four or five, to several hundred at a time.<br />

Popes traditionally live in the spacious apartment reserved for their<br />

use on the top floor of the Apostolic Palace. This may not suit the new Pope<br />

who, as absolute monarch, is free to live where he will. When appointed<br />

archbishop of Buenos Aires, Pope Francis refused to live in the<br />

archbishop’s palace, preferring more simple accommodation.<br />

Up to now he has chosen to work from a hotel room inside Vatican City,<br />

rather than move directly into his palatial official quarters, which he finds<br />

excessively large.<br />

A GREAT DAY AT BBC TV CENTRE<br />

Olga D’Silva<br />

No room for the Daleks! <strong>Parishioner</strong>s queueing up for a trip in the Tardis?<br />

As we walked along one of the<br />

circular corridors, our group brushed<br />

shoulders with Michael Vaughan, the<br />

former England Cricket Captain who<br />

described himself as ‘A Dad from<br />

Sheffield’ in his incarnation as a Strictly<br />

Come Dancing contestant. Well, at<br />

least we’d seen a ‘Strictly’ contestant<br />

without having to queue for hours in the<br />

cold.<br />

After our BBC tour, we were free to<br />

go to the Westfield Shopping Centre in<br />

Hammersmith, for lunch and a spot of<br />

early Christmas shopping.<br />

Our next Parish Trip will be to<br />

another British icon, but quite a<br />

contrast, in the form of the Royal<br />

Botanic Gardens at Kew on Saturday<br />

<strong>22</strong>nd June 2013. All parishioners are<br />

welcome to join, and I am confident that<br />

our BBC weather forecasters will give us a wonderful summer’s day!<br />

<strong>The</strong> following exasperated notice was placed in a Northern parish newsletter by an angry<br />

parish priest: “To make it possible for everyone to attend church next Sunday we are<br />

going to have a special ‘No Excuse Sunday”. Beds will be placed in the foyer for those<br />

who say, “Sunday is my only day to sleep.” We will have steel helmets for those who<br />

say, “<strong>The</strong> roof will cave in if ever I come to church.” Blankets will be furnished for those<br />

who think the church is too cold and fans for those who think the church is too hot. We<br />

will have hearing aids for those who think the priest speaks too softly and cotton wool<br />

for those who think he preaches too loudly. Scorecards will be available for those who<br />

wish to list the hypocrites present. Some relatives will be in attendance for those who like<br />

to go visiting on Sunday. <strong>The</strong>re will be TV dinners for those who can’t go to church and<br />

also cook dinner. One section will be devoted to trees and grass for those who prefer to<br />

see God in nature. Finally, the sanctuary will be decorated with both Christmas<br />

poinsettias and Easter lilies for those who have never seen the church without them.”<br />

Knocking on the Tabernacle Door<br />

Do you hear my gentle knocking<br />

Lord?<br />

Are you listening to my prayer?<br />

This sinner asks in whispers<br />

Knowing that you care.<br />

Thoughtful though I try to be<br />

But failing all the while,<br />

I ask your pardon humbly<br />

Aware my soul could be on trial.<br />

Tell me you are listening Lord<br />

And your holy words are true,<br />

That gracious mercy flows<br />

On sinners old and new.<br />

And that Heaven is attainable<br />

With hope and love for you.<br />

Oh yes indeed I hear you Lord,<br />

Your answer within my heart.<br />

Binds penance with redemption<br />

Confirming faith and love to start<br />

<strong>The</strong> journey to your glory<br />

And never more to be apart.<br />

Len Watson<br />

NEWS IN PICTURES<br />

Len and Viv Watson’s son, Steve, seen<br />

on the TV quiz show ‘<strong>The</strong> Chase’ this<br />

year, narrowly missed winning a half<br />

share of £30,001. Steve contributed<br />

£30,000 to the prize fund, his fellow<br />

competitor just £1. Unfortunately,<br />

the Chaser matched their score with<br />

just 6 seconds to spare!<br />

Congratulations to the winning team<br />

at the Quiz Evening last October,<br />

seen here with the coveted ‘gold cup’<br />

and prize bottles of wine. <strong>The</strong> Quiz<br />

was a great success (as usual) and<br />

made over £500<br />

<strong>The</strong> winners of the Quiz evening,<br />

organised by the Watson family and<br />

held on Saturday, May 4th, raised<br />

over £600 for Parish funds. <strong>The</strong> Hall<br />

was full to bursting and a great time<br />

was had by all.<br />

Apologies to Len and Viv Watson. In<br />

the last <strong>Parishioner</strong> the article “Two<br />

Golden Weddings” showed the wrong<br />

‘Just married’ picture. Here is the<br />

correct one.


<strong>The</strong> Glory of the Cross<br />

You lie down meekly, lovely lamb<br />

Drain the chalice sacrifice, surrender<br />

Stretch, stretch, accommodate the<br />

wood<br />

Only God could escape through the<br />

agony<br />

Silent, silent lamb, submissive,<br />

gentle<br />

Your mutilated body for sins, and<br />

your distant Church<br />

Pierced wrists, punctured brow and<br />

feet<br />

An interior cry, obediently bleating<br />

Slaughtered, drained for His Fathers<br />

glory<br />

<strong>The</strong> majority do not care in future<br />

centuries<br />

That God was there in lovelorn<br />

convulsions<br />

For the remnant, He knew deserving<br />

Covered by spittle, blood,<br />

abandonment<br />

Incomprehensible, creations limited<br />

compassion<br />

Such awesome love leaves agony<br />

insignificant?<br />

<strong>The</strong> fetid carcass, if allowed, would<br />

give a repeat performance<br />

For the salvation of one soul, yes,<br />

one only,<br />

yours ..<br />

Christine Mace 2009<br />

Well done, Anna!<br />

At the age of forty-four, St Francis’ parishioner, Anna Kirby-<br />

Hall is going to university to read <strong>The</strong>ology at Oxford. Anna<br />

tells her story.<br />

Fulfilling a dream is always a scary<br />

prospect but I hope that it is going<br />

to be a rewarding one. At the age<br />

of forty-four I am going back to university<br />

to read <strong>The</strong>ology at Regent’s Park<br />

College, Oxford. Where? Well, Regent’s<br />

Park College is a Permanent Private Hall<br />

(or PPH as they are more commonly<br />

called). Regent’s Park College started life,<br />

as you might have guessed, in London<br />

where it was a Baptist Foundation to train<br />

men for the ministry and moved up to<br />

Oxford in the 19th Century. It is a mix of<br />

young and more mature students like<br />

myself who study a variety of Arts<br />

subjects and includes about ten students<br />

who study theology; the theology school<br />

takes about a hundred students per year,<br />

so I am very lucky to get in.<br />

<strong>The</strong> application process was the same as if I had been an<br />

A Level student. In December I was called for interviews at<br />

the College and spent two days being gently and not so<br />

gently grilled about my knowledge of scripture and why I<br />

wanted to study theology. Candidates are given a piece of<br />

scripture to read, critically evaluate and discuss. All very<br />

scary for anyone, but when you consider that I left school<br />

with no qualifications and my careers advice was to ‘go and<br />

work in a supermarket until you get married and have<br />

babies,’ it makes it even more remarkable that I would even<br />

consider going to university, never mind applying to one of<br />

the top universities in the world.<br />

Why am I going to study theology? A<br />

good question, but really one that is<br />

probably impossible to answer fully. I<br />

want to apply the curiosity and drive that<br />

I have used in my profession as a teacher<br />

to learn all I can about human spirituality,<br />

such as our innate need to explore our<br />

relationship with God, in whatever form<br />

we have taken God to be. From the<br />

earliest period of the Church’s history we<br />

have felt the need to discuss and define<br />

what, as Christians, we believe God to be,<br />

what the nature of our faith in Jesus is and<br />

what it means for us as Christians.<br />

I have spent nearly fifteen mainly<br />

happy years in St Francis’ Parish and seen<br />

it change and grow. I have made some<br />

wonderful friends at the 10:30 Mass who have been<br />

supportive and enthusiastic at my plans for the future. I have<br />

been an active member of the Parish, being a reader and<br />

even having the rare privilege of once helping with the<br />

collection. It was remarked that I am the only woman, so far,<br />

to whom this privilege has ever been given! I will stay in<br />

touch with my many, many friends and we have plenty of time<br />

to plan a proper goodbye to the wonderful people of<br />

Maidstone. Keep me in your prayers as we prepare to move<br />

in August and Maidstone will always be in mine.<br />

10th January 2013<br />

Lots to do, trying not to be late.<br />

10th Jan., 1.30pm, that’s the date.<br />

Arrive breathless at 1.35, looked<br />

around,<br />

Scanned the café, no one to be found.<br />

Get a coffee to quench my thirst,<br />

Surely I cannot be the first!<br />

Has the winter flu bug struck<br />

All of them? That’s just bad luck.<br />

Five minutes later I begin to wonder<br />

Has there been some king of blunder?<br />

Check my diary for the date,<br />

Maybe got there one week late!<br />

17th Jan, that’s when we meet.<br />

One week early, that’s a feat!<br />

Will the girls believe my tale,<br />

I’ll be here next week without fail.<br />

I’ll be early, as I should,<br />

As being so late is not so good.<br />

Action plan, organise, it will be fine,<br />

Going to try harder to be on time.<br />

Mary Brittain<br />

<strong>The</strong> little Chapel of Our Lady, Wateringbury<br />

After a dramatic conversion to Christianity and becoming members of St. Michael’s Church in Maidstone, Christine and<br />

Rod Mace felt called to build a chapel in their spacious garden. That chapel is now home to the Maidstone Ordinariate<br />

of Our Lady of Walsingham, led by Fr. Paul Gibbons. Christine writes:<br />

4<br />

Six years ago Rob and I were ‘average’ people. We<br />

went to church, Church of England that is, only<br />

for weddings, (lovely) baptisms (nice) and<br />

funerals (scary and sad).<br />

We got on with life, a very, very busy life, Satan<br />

really likes it that way, no time to think of anything<br />

spiritual. We had a full time business from home<br />

looking after peoples’ cats, 80 a day in the summer,<br />

barely time to breath really. So when I reached 60 I said<br />

to Rob, “I want retire now”, I had run the business for<br />

10 years and after all I deserved a rest!<br />

Rob had built an annex onto our house 12 years<br />

before and his mother had lived there for 10 years until<br />

she had to go into full time care with Alzheimer’s. <strong>The</strong><br />

annex had been empty for two years when we put the<br />

main house on the market and decided to move into the<br />

one bedroom annex when it was sold. So on the 31st<br />

March 2007 we moved into our very small abode, it was<br />

also<br />

t h e<br />

Christine & Rob Mace<br />

Fr Paul Gibbons<br />

very day Rob’s mum died in the home<br />

at Cranbrook.<br />

A few months went by and we<br />

settled into retirement. <strong>The</strong>n began the<br />

story of our conversion.In the New<br />

Testament the word Pagan often comes<br />

up to describe someone with no<br />

religion except the worship of idols and<br />

I always used to think then that this<br />

meant for example a big fat golden<br />

man, or a lady with a dogs face or a calf<br />

with 50 nipples etc. It had never<br />

occurred to me that “Thou shalt<br />

worship no other gods before me” meant money, along with jewellery, clothes, cars, etc,<br />

etc! Oh,I was baptized and could remember in another time 45 years before when I had<br />

toyed with the idea of becoming a nun, even though I was Church of England then. I had<br />

burned with love for the Lord that much, but that was before the world had taken hold of<br />

me and dragged me along on its mad merry-go-round of pleasure and sin. God was there<br />

always, this awesome being, somewhere very far off, and I knew I loved Him very deeply<br />

but I did not know Him at all - He was a stranger, a very, very, distant relative.<br />

After a profound spiritual event, experienced by both Rob and myself, we felt the<br />

Lord wanted us in His church, so within weeks we were attending every Sunday at our<br />

local Church of England and we were confirmed in Rochester Cathedral in July 2008.<br />

<strong>The</strong> Lord wanted us to move on however, so within a year or so we were led to a High<br />

Anglican church, St Michael and All Angels, Tonbridge Road, Maidstone, met Father Paul<br />

Gibbons and felt a lot more fulfilled spiritually.<br />

<strong>The</strong>n we were inspired to build a Chapel, we felt very inspired and was sure it was<br />

what the Lord wanted but there was a problem we had no vehicular access to the annex<br />

we now lived in or to the field out the back, we only<br />

had a small area of parking out the front.<br />

So we said to the Lord “If you really want us to<br />

build this Chapel, we need access for cars. <strong>The</strong>re was<br />

a spare piece of land at the side of our property that<br />

we had tried to buy on and off for 25 years. Within 8<br />

weeks it was ours! Well, we just knew then it was the<br />

Lords will so we set to work and built the Chapel<br />

which took a year of very hard work. <strong>The</strong> building we<br />

converted had been a stable and had then been used<br />

for the business, one end for office and the other for<br />

kitchen with storage in the middle.<br />

<strong>The</strong> day that we opened in June 2011 the place<br />

was packed with people. Glory be to God.<br />

About six months went by and we heard from the<br />

council saying that they had had a complaint that<br />

someone said that we were living in the building,<br />

which was not true. <strong>The</strong>y came to look and said just<br />

put in for change of use, so we instructed our<br />

planning consultant to deal with it for us.<br />

It went through without a hitch and his bill was £1,400 when we opened the letter. At<br />

the same time we opened another letter from Inland Revenue with a tax refund for Rob<br />

from 2006 for guess what? £1,400! We know that the Lord will always look after our little<br />

Chapel of Our Lady. We feel it is blessed as we have been blessed by His mercy and love.<br />

Now this very, very distant relative is my dearest friend, consoler, brother, father, and<br />

beloved. I have been given the great grace of knowing Him personally and intimately, a<br />

treasure worth more than all the riches of the whole world and I can truly say - Death<br />

where is thy sting?<br />

Last year we joined the Ordinariate of Our Lady of Walsingham and were confirmed<br />

into the Catholic Church. After a whirlwind journey, Jesus now has us where He wanted<br />

us all along! Blessed be His name.<br />

<strong>The</strong> Chapel of Our Lady, Wateringbury.<br />

This spacious building, originally a stable and later an<br />

office, was converted to a chapel by Rob Mace and a<br />

friend and is a beautiful place. <strong>The</strong> chapel takes up<br />

most of the central space, has a fine altar against the<br />

side wall (Mass is said ‘ad orientem’) and there is<br />

seating for 30 worshippers. Stations of the Cross and<br />

a statue of Our Lady adorn the walls. At one end of<br />

the chapel is a modern kitchen and space for<br />

meetings and coffee after Mass and at the other end<br />

is a small two bedroomed flatlet with a bathroom in which people in trouble or those<br />

who may need shelter can be ‘put up’ for the night. It is situated in a very quiet and<br />

peaceful country setting at the end of Barming Road, Wateringbury. Sunday Mass is at<br />

11am and there is a Low Mass on Thursday at 11am.


1 Have you always lived in Maidstone?<br />

No, along with my 2 younger<br />

brothers, I was born and grew up<br />

around Thornton Heath in South<br />

London. My secondary school was St<br />

Joseph’s College, Beulah Hill. I<br />

moved to Maidstone in early 1987.<br />

2.Who else is in the family?<br />

Angela and I have been married for<br />

25 years and we have four children.<br />

Two are away at university: Tom is<br />

studying Medicine at Queens<br />

University, Belfast and Peter is<br />

studying Medical Engineering at<br />

<strong>The</strong> University of Bradford.<br />

Both Joseph (Year 12 or Lower Sixth<br />

as I know it) and Victoria (Year 10)<br />

attend St Simon Stock Catholic<br />

School.<br />

3.What do you do for a living?<br />

After a few jobs, including working in<br />

a supermarket and in a children’s<br />

home, I joined the London Fire<br />

Brigade in 1985. I was promoted<br />

through the ranks and spent time at<br />

various stations before becoming an<br />

instructor at the Brigade Training<br />

Centre. After a few years in training I<br />

returned to stations and three years<br />

later was promoted to Station<br />

Commander at Brixton. One promotion<br />

later and I’m currently the Borough<br />

Commander for Lambeth, with<br />

responsibility for 5 stations and 240<br />

staff. I still attend larger incidents,<br />

and most recently I was the Fire<br />

Incident Commander for the<br />

helicopter crash at Vauxhall.<br />

4.Has your work with the Fire Service<br />

helped to equip you for the Diaconate, if<br />

so, how?<br />

I have many opportunities at work to<br />

engage with people from different<br />

backgrounds, often in difficult<br />

situations which requires me to be<br />

adaptable, approachable, a leader and<br />

team player, plus being able to face<br />

various challenges. My time as an<br />

instructor, talking to groups, and<br />

presenting, is something to build on.<br />

I’ve also been involved in some<br />

schools based work, so who knows if<br />

that might help. I also have jokingly<br />

said that I’m used to wearing a<br />

uniform!!<br />

5.What is your next stage on your<br />

journey to being ordained Deacon?<br />

In June I shall be instituted to the<br />

office of Acolyte. This will mean I will<br />

be playing a bit more of a part on and<br />

12 Questions<br />

Ian Black<br />

Since we last wrote about Ian Black in the <strong>Parishioner</strong>, he<br />

has continued to make progress in his formation programme<br />

towards ordination as a Permanent Deacon. <strong>The</strong> Editor caught<br />

up with Ian to find out a bit more about him. Below are the<br />

answers to the questions he was asked.<br />

around the sanctuary during Mass and<br />

other occasions. This will be in<br />

addition to other catechetical roles in<br />

the parish.<br />

My formation programme continues as<br />

academically we move towards<br />

completing our Foundation Degree in<br />

Pastoral Ministry, supplemented by<br />

practical and spiritual development<br />

(e.g. practice homilies, study<br />

weekends and an annual retreat).<br />

God willing, ordination as a Deacon<br />

will be sometime during summer<br />

2014.<br />

6.What is your favourite country?<br />

England – I think our country is great,<br />

and there is so much I’ve still not<br />

seen.<br />

7.What TV programmes do you enjoy?<br />

Shows like, Morse, Lewis, New Tricks<br />

and Jonathon Creek, also Have I Got<br />

News for You and Mock the Week.As a<br />

child it was Trumpton/Camberwick<br />

Green and the Wombles (I’ve got them<br />

all on DVD!!)<br />

8.What is your favourite film, and why?<br />

Forrest Gump – It’s light hearted, but<br />

covers so much about life.<br />

9.If you were allowed to have one last<br />

meal. What would it be?<br />

Traditional Christmas Dinner, with all<br />

the trimmings, including sprouts!!<br />

10.What type of music do you most<br />

enjoy?<br />

Much to my children’s frustration I<br />

would best be described as a Radio 2<br />

listener. Anything from the 60’s to<br />

present day, as long as I can hear the<br />

words.<br />

CD’s in my car range from <strong>The</strong> Who to<br />

Noah and <strong>The</strong> Whale, from Pink Floyd<br />

to <strong>The</strong> Military Wives, and Fifty<br />

Favourite Carols to Bruce Springsteen!<br />

11.What three pet hates would you<br />

choose to put in ‘Room 101’<br />

Footballers or other sports<br />

professionals who spit on the pitch.<br />

Text message language.<br />

People who criticize others who are<br />

doing a job, but won’t do it<br />

themselves.<br />

12.If you were marooned on a desert<br />

island, apart from the Bible, what book<br />

and luxury item would you have?<br />

Book - Jonathon Livingston Seagull<br />

by Richard Bach<br />

Item - An extra large, super warm,<br />

waterproof sleeping bag.<br />

Christopher (Chris) Willson<br />

9th March 1957 - 10th May 2013<br />

A eulogy given by Alasdair MacWilliam at Chris’ funeral<br />

Ifirst knew Christopher more than 20 years ago as<br />

a travelling companion on our journeys to work by<br />

train from Barming to London over very many<br />

years. We were a convivial group and at Chris’s<br />

suggestion three of us car-pooled to the Station. I also<br />

knew him as a fellow parishioner here at St Francis<br />

and a neighbour in Barming. Our families became<br />

firm friends.<br />

I was honoured to be his sponsor at his<br />

confirmation on his being received into the Catholic<br />

Church and then again when he asked me to be the<br />

godfather to his son Pierre. Chris and I served<br />

together on the parish Finance Committee and used<br />

to meet up once a month to reconcile the parish<br />

books and then go for a drink afterwards.<br />

I was sorry when a few years ago his change of office location<br />

meant that he travelled up on the Charing Cross route, so that it was only<br />

occasionally that we journeyed together on the same train.<br />

Christopher was born 56 years ago in Rayleigh in Essex, the second<br />

child of Peter and Pamela Willson, his elder sister being Claire and his<br />

younger brother Keith. It was obviously a very happy childhood. When<br />

Chris was of primary school age the family moved to Sittingbourne to be<br />

closer to Pam’s family who were in Canterbury. Chris attended Borden<br />

Grammar School and he excelled in all subjects except perhaps the<br />

sciences. From Borden he went up to Oxford University where he read<br />

French and Spanish and gained a good 2:1 degree. I am told it would<br />

have been a first if it had been just French without the Spanish. In his third<br />

year at Oxford Chris went to Leon in Spain where he taught English at a<br />

school as part of his degree course. It was there he met Brigitte who was<br />

in the equivalent role, only teaching French. Three years later they married<br />

and settled in Maidstone and then Barming where they have remained<br />

ever since, bringing up their three children, Fleur, Jacinthe and Pierre.<br />

From Oxford, Chris went on to join Bank National de Paris which is<br />

now BNP Parisbas, initially at their Knightsbridge branch before moving<br />

up to the Bank’s English Head Office in the City. He was no companyhopper<br />

and remained loyal to the bank for all his career. He fulfilled<br />

several important roles, at one time having 80 people working under him.<br />

<strong>The</strong>re were worrying times when, following mergers, there were many<br />

redundancies but fortunately Chris retained his employment in the reshuffles.<br />

As far as I know, Chris never thought of leaving BNP Parisbas but<br />

recently he did toy with the idea of taking retirement in a few years’ time<br />

and buying a camper van with a view to taking Brigitte on a grand tour of<br />

Europe. It was not to be.<br />

Chris was justly proud of his children’s achievements; I am told he<br />

was a lenient father, though strict in the matter of education. He was<br />

devoted to his family and they to him.<br />

How do we remember Chris?<br />

Robust. He had a strong rich voice – how well and clearly he read<br />

at Mass<br />

Forthright. Purposeful – he had a purposeful walk, didn’t he? He<br />

was a man who was sure of himself.<br />

Practical good sense. He was never excitable. He remained calm<br />

in a crisis and always thought logically and laterally.<br />

Lucid. He expressed himself clearly and was able to explain things<br />

so that they were easy to understand. He chose his words carefully and<br />

knowledgeably.<br />

Yes, he was very knowledgeable – he read avidly, both books and<br />

newspapers – but he was not one to display his knowledge – he was just<br />

very well informed.<br />

Chris had a wonderful sense of humour. It was not a matter of<br />

repeating other people’s jokes, no, he expressed his own humour. He<br />

could see the amusing side of almost every situation and then make an<br />

original and witty comment which was always apt. Lawyers, I am afraid<br />

to say, were often the butt of his humour, but always in the nicest possible<br />

way.<br />

Although he remained calm in a crisis, Chris could be impatient,<br />

particularly when he suffered from incompetence especially of those who<br />

manage the railway system. He was not greatly tolerant of bad drivers or<br />

with red tape or petty officialdom and things like that, but even in those<br />

situations, his sense of humour would prevail.<br />

I didn’t know much about his work but there is no doubt that he was<br />

very efficient and resourceful in everything he did in the various roles,<br />

such as the private banking section, and head of local<br />

operations – both of which he loved, and Compliance,<br />

which is what he was doing at the time of his death,<br />

but which he did not enjoy so much, I suspect<br />

because it was all about regulation and red tape and<br />

he preferred dealing with real people and real<br />

situations.<br />

Chris was a great supporter of this parish. Not<br />

only did he give unstinting help on the Finance<br />

Committee but he was an enthusiastic contributor to<br />

parish and school events, particularly when it came to<br />

quizzes, which he loved. Indeed he loved anything<br />

which taxed his brain – not only quizzes, but<br />

crosswords, mind puzzles and the like. He took a great<br />

interest in sport – football, cricket, rugby – and indeed<br />

he was a great hockey player while at Oxford. He loved going for walks.<br />

He loved the theatre – especially Shakespeare.<br />

Chris loved France especially Paris. He certainly understood France<br />

and the French. If he needed to cross from one side of Paris to the other,<br />

he preferred to walk even if it would take hours.<br />

All of us here have our own happy memories of Chris – each from<br />

his own perspective and experience, be it family, friends, fellow<br />

parishioners or colleagues at work. To say he will be greatly missed would<br />

be a huge understatement. His loss, particularly at such an early age, is<br />

devastating and we all need to dig deep into our faith to understand why<br />

he should be taken from us. For me, and I feel sure for all of us, we have<br />

been strengthened by having known him and we can take with us an<br />

inspiration of what a thoroughly good Englishman should be.<br />

My Father, Chris<br />

By Fleur Willson<br />

Requiescat in pace<br />

My father was born in Rayleigh, Essex, in 1957, the second of<br />

three children. <strong>The</strong> family soon moved down to Kent in order<br />

to be closer to his maternal relatives. He attended Borden<br />

Grammar School, where he excelled in all academic subjects, particularly<br />

languages and history, as well as sport. In 1976 he went up to Oxford to<br />

read French and Spanish at St Peter’s College. He spent his year abroad<br />

as an English language assistant in Leon, Spain, which is where he met<br />

my mother, who was the French language assistant at the same school.<br />

Upon graduation, he joined the Banque Nationale de Paris (now BNP<br />

Paribas) as a graduate trainee, and moved quickly up the ranks to<br />

managerial level. Over the course of his thirty-three year career at the<br />

bank he worked in a variety of departments, his favourites being Private<br />

Banking and Local Operations.<br />

Despite the long hours he worked doing the job he loved, my father<br />

was a real family man and would always liven up the dinner table with his<br />

jokes, stories and office gossip. He was an intellectual, with a particular<br />

love of reading, languages, music, crosswords and Sudoku puzzles. He<br />

was never happier than when sitting in his armchair in front of the fire,<br />

reading a French novel, finishing off the Times crossword or listening to<br />

one of his favourite pieces of music. His knowledge of history was<br />

impressive, and he enjoyed watching war films and historical dramas. He<br />

also watched a lot of sport, especially rugby, football and cricket. He<br />

enjoyed travelling, with a particular love of France and Spain, although in<br />

recent years he ventured further afield to the Caribbean and Taiwan. He<br />

loved long walks with family and friends, especially if they involved a visit<br />

to a good country pub for a swift half or Sunday roast.<br />

My parents first joined the parish upon moving to Maidstone in the<br />

early eighties. Although my father did not become a Catholic until 1997,<br />

he rapidly became involved in parish life and made some firm friends<br />

there. It was also largely thanks to him that the family made it on time to<br />

Mass; being a very punctual man, he was very efficient at making<br />

breakfast and getting us all up on a Sunday morning! Many of you will<br />

have come across him on the Parish Finance Committee, as a reader or<br />

extraordinary minister of Holy Communion at the 10.30 Mass, or on one<br />

of the parish trips or rambles. It is fitting that the last parish event he<br />

attended was the recent quiz – I understand his team didn’t quite win, but<br />

he recounted afterwards what an enjoyable evening it had been.<br />

I would like to thank you on behalf of all my family for your kindness<br />

over the past few weeks. We have been very touched by the many cards,<br />

"<strong>The</strong> tiniest crucifixion"<br />

Lord Jesus, could you rock him for a while?<br />

He has no mother's breast, no father's smile.<br />

No downy silky pillow for his head,<br />

<strong>The</strong>y placed him in the bloody basin - dead.<br />

He was so small, this baby doomed to die,<br />

His mother's rights, the only reason why,<br />

From somewhere safe and warm, they tore the child,<br />

Lord Jesus, could you rock him for a while?<br />

Poor little one, who was it took your breath?<br />

Who made the healers hand a thing of death?<br />

Who was your Judas?- Mother? Doctor? State?<br />

Or was it we who fought your cause too late?<br />

Please Jesus, rock the other babies too,<br />

Forgive us Lord, we don't know what we do.<br />

He has no cradle, cross, no grave, no tomb,<br />

This baby crucified in the womb.<br />

Anonymous<br />

Once there were three trees on a hill in the woods. <strong>The</strong>y were<br />

discussing their hopes and dreams when the first tree said:<br />

“Someday I hope to be a treasure chest. I could be filled with<br />

gold, silver and precious gems and everyone would see my<br />

beauty”.<strong>The</strong>n the second tree said: “Someday, I will be a mighty<br />

ship. I will take kings and queens across the waters and sail to<br />

the corners of the world”.Finally the third tree said: “I want to<br />

grow to be the tallest and straightest tree in the forest. People<br />

will see me on top of the hill and look up to my branches, and<br />

think of the heavens and God and how close I am to reaching<br />

them. I will be the greatest tree of all time and people will<br />

always remember me”.<br />

After a few years of praying that their dreams would come true,<br />

a group of woodsmen came upon the trees and they cut them<br />

down. <strong>The</strong> first tree was sent to a carpenter but it was made into<br />

a feeding trough for animals. <strong>The</strong> second tree was made into<br />

a small fishing boat. His dreams of being a mighty ship and<br />

carrying kings had come to an end. <strong>The</strong> third tree was cut into<br />

large pieces and left alone in the dark.<br />

<strong>The</strong> years went by and the trees forgot about their dreams.<br />

<strong>The</strong>n one day a man and women came to the barn. <strong>The</strong> woman<br />

<strong>The</strong> Story of Three Trees<br />

(an excerpt from Fr Piotr Kucharski’s Easter homily)<br />

gave birth and they placed the baby in the hay in the manger<br />

that had been made from the first tree. <strong>The</strong> tree then could feel<br />

the importance of this event and knew that it held the greatest<br />

treasure of all time… Years later, a group of men got in the<br />

fishing boat made from the second tree. One of them was tired<br />

and went to sleep. While they were out on the water, a great<br />

storm arose and the tree didn’t think it was strong enough to<br />

keep the men safe. <strong>The</strong> men woke the sleeping man and he<br />

stood and said “peace” and the storm stopped. At this time, the<br />

tree knew that it had carried the King of kings… Finally,<br />

someone came and got the third tree. It was carried by a man<br />

through the streets and when they stopped the man was nailed<br />

to the tree and raised in the air to die at the top of a hill. <strong>The</strong>n<br />

the tree came to realise that it was strong enough to stand at the<br />

top of the hill and be as close to God as was possible because<br />

Jesus had been crucified on it.<br />

When things don’t seem to be going our way we should always<br />

know that God has a plan for us. If we place our trust in Him,<br />

He will give us great gifts. Each of the trees got what they<br />

wanted, just not in the way they had imagined.


Sister Elizabeth Ann Seaton<br />

Words and Ilustration by Charlotte Cassidy, Artist<br />

St. Elizabeth Ann Bayley Seton was born on August 28th 1771<br />

to staunchly Protestant parents, physician, Dr. Richard Bayley<br />

and his wife Catherine, in Staten Island, New York, America.<br />

<strong>The</strong> Bayleys were a wealthy society couple who raised Elizabeth<br />

and her two sisters in a lifestyle of leisure, comfort and<br />

extravagance.<br />

When Elizabeth was three her mother died unexpectedly. <strong>The</strong><br />

following year, Dr. Bayley remarried to provide a mother for his<br />

children. Elizabeth’s Anglican stepmother, for whom Elizabeth<br />

would always have great affection, would often visit the sick and<br />

poor of New York City in their homes to distribute food and other<br />

necessities, taking Elizabeth with her. <strong>The</strong>se kind missions of<br />

charity by her stepmother would later have a profound influence on<br />

Elizabeth’s life.<br />

As a child, Elizabeth loved religion; she would often read the<br />

bible, especially the psalms. She was educated at the best schools in<br />

New York and as she grew up, like most wealthy young girls in<br />

those days, she became a socialite attending many lavish society<br />

parties where she met William Seton, a young affluent businessman<br />

in the shipping import trade. In 1794 the couple married when<br />

Elizabeth was nineteen. Together they would have five children.<br />

Although occupied with raising a family, Elizabeth’s thoughts<br />

would often turn with concern to the sick and poor of New York<br />

City. Recalling their hapless plight she had witnessed as a child with<br />

her stepmother, Elizabeth decided to organise a group of wealthy<br />

women friends to visit the poor and sick in their homes and to also<br />

visit financially struggling widows, offering help where they could.<br />

This kind group of women became known as the “Protestant Ladies<br />

of Charity.” <strong>The</strong>y drew their inspiration from the work of St.<br />

Vincent de Paul.<br />

In 1802 however, Elizabeth’s idyllic life of wealth and comfort<br />

was set to end with devastating effect. <strong>The</strong> embargo imposed by<br />

England on Napoleonic France of that year led to several of her<br />

husband William Seton’s ships being lost at sea which resulted in his bankruptcy. Shortly<br />

afterwards, to add to his despondency over his financial ruin, William was diagnosed with<br />

tuberculosis and advised by doctors that the warmer climate of Italy would improve his health.<br />

Elizabeth, wanting to be with her husband, made arrangements to stay in Italy with Italian banker<br />

Antonio Filicchi and his family, business acquaintances of her husband.<br />

Entrusting four of her children to the care of her sister-in-law, Elizabeth took her eldest<br />

daughter, eight-year-old Anna, with her and set sail with William on the two month voyage to Italy.<br />

<strong>The</strong> tedious sea journey was not easy for Elizabeth. She kept a diary in which she wrote of her<br />

constant efforts to sustain her husband’s waning spirits throughout the voyage.<br />

When at last they arrived at the port of Leghorn in Italy, William was quarantined on board the<br />

ship for severl weeks due to the contagious nature of his illness. Unfortunately , in his lengthy<br />

isolation, his health quickly deteriorated. When he was finally released from quarantine by Italian<br />

health authorities, sadly, William Seton died two weeks later in Pisa. He was only thirty-six. He was<br />

buried in the Protestant Old English Cemetery in Pisa.<br />

Suddenly widowed at the age of twenty-nine with five young children to support, Elizabeth, in<br />

despair and mourning the untimely loss of her husband was comforted by the Filicchi family.<br />

Elizabeth and her daughter remained a year with the Filicchis, and through then Elizabeth became<br />

deeply drawn to Catholicism and she decided to convert to the Faith. On her eventual return with<br />

her daughter, Anna, to America, she immediately announced to family and friends her plans to<br />

convert to Catholicism and was met with anger and opposition. Her family told her firmly that even<br />

though she was now a widow, they would not support her financially if she converted. Unable to<br />

accept her decision to convert, Elizabeth’s Protestant friends deserted her completely.<br />

Although now friendless and ostracised by her family, Elizabeth remained steadfast in her<br />

resolve to become a Catholic. She was received into the Church at St. Peter’s Church, Barclay<br />

Street, New York, where she was baptised a Catholic and made her first Communion. <strong>The</strong> next day<br />

she received the Sacrament of Confirmation from Archbishop John Carroll of Baltimore. On<br />

receiving Communion for the first time as a Confirmed Catholic,<br />

Elizabeth felt even closer to Christ in the Eucharist and declared with<br />

fervour to the Archbishop, “God is mine and I am His!” Elizabeth had<br />

such love for the Eucharist that she would attend Mass at more than one<br />

church to receive the Eucharist twice daily.<br />

Left in financial hardship from her late husband’s bankruptcy,<br />

Elizabeth decided to become a teacher to support her children. After<br />

two failed attempts at opening a boarding-school for boys, she opened<br />

an academy for girls where she taught wealthy young girls in their mid<br />

teens essential qualities for their futures as debutantes.<br />

At that time in America, a wave of anti-Catholic sentiment existed<br />

and as soon as parents discovered Elizabeth’s religion they withdrew<br />

their daughters from the Academy. Elizabeth was then forced to close<br />

her academy, abruptly ending her position as a teacher. Despite the<br />

numerous daily hostilities she faced as a Catholic she never allowed<br />

anyone or any difficult situation to dissuade her from her love of God<br />

and the richness and beauty of her Catholic faith.<br />

Archbishop Carroll of Baltimore, having learned of Elizabeth’s<br />

situation, invited her to his diocese. She immediately accepted his<br />

invitation and moved with her children to Baltimore. Under the<br />

Archbishop’s direction, Elizabeth established the first free Catholic<br />

school for girls in America. This small school marked the beginning of<br />

the Catholic parochial school system in America.<br />

Some months later, when all her own children were at boarding<br />

schools, Elisabeth desired to be part of a religious community so that<br />

she could help the poor even more. After much prayer and spiritual<br />

guidance from the Archbishop, she founded a community called the<br />

Sisters of Charity, dedicated to caring for children of impoverished<br />

children. <strong>The</strong> Order, consisting of a small group of like minded women,<br />

followed the French rule of St. Vincent de Paul.<br />

To establish her convent, Elizabeth had been given land in<br />

Emmitsburg, Maryland, by wealthy Samuel Cooper. He was also a<br />

Catholic convert, and a student priest, and he was so impressed by<br />

Elizabeth’s initiative and zeal for the Faith that he decided to financially support her free Catholic<br />

school for girls.<br />

At her convent in 1809, Elizabeth made her vows. She was clothed in religious habit, with its<br />

black bonnet and long black cape closely resembling the habit worn by a particular Order of nuns<br />

she had seen in Italy. She was elected Reverend Mother of her own convent and became known as<br />

Mother Seton.<br />

Mother Seton had a great love for the Blessed Virgin Mary, she also continued her lifelong love<br />

of reading the Psalms. She had a deep devotion to the Eucharist, also to the will of God and she<br />

would often remind her Sisters of always having the teachings of Christ within them. During her<br />

life as Reverend Mother and as a mother of children, Mother Seton once again suffered immense<br />

personal sadness when two of her daughters died. At the same time she was also diagnosed with<br />

tuberculosis, yet she still managed to continue her charitable work with unwavering dedication to<br />

establish foundations to help the poor. She founded several free Catholic schools, also hospitals,<br />

child care centres and she established one of the first orphanages in New York with a substantial<br />

donation from the former black slave and generous benefactor, Pierre Toussaint, later beatified for<br />

his work caring for the poor of New York City. Much later, at the request of President Abraham<br />

Lincoln, two hundred of Mother Seton’s Sisters served in the American Civil War and Spanish Civil<br />

War, where they cared for and comforted seriously wounded and dying soldiers on the battlefields<br />

and in military hospitals.<br />

On January 4th, surrounded by the love of her Sisters, Mother Seton died from tuberculosis at<br />

her convent in Maryland. She was only forty-six. In several diaries, found after her death, her<br />

writings revealed her deep love for God and for her Catholic faith.<br />

St. Elizabeth Ann Seton was truly an extraordinary woman of her time. Her legacy of numerous<br />

charitable works continues to help thousands of disadvantaged people worldwide today. St.<br />

Elizabeth Ann Seton was beatified by Pope John XXIII in 1963 and canonised by Pope Paul VI on<br />

September 14th 1975, making her the first American-born saint.<br />

Sidney Garner - 19<strong>22</strong>-2013.<br />

From an article in the Pilsdon at Malling Magazine (Easter 2013) by Peter Barnett)<br />

Sidney Garner, who died recently, was a well loved<br />

parishioner at St Francis’ Church for many years. His funeral<br />

was held at the Pilsdon at Malling Community Barn Chapel<br />

in March. He had become a Community member in his eighties<br />

and those who gathered for the Requiem Mass in West Malling<br />

mainly remembered Sidney for his work since retirement with<br />

those suffering from addiction, particularly to alcohol, and its<br />

consequences. He founded, together with the late Roger Hill, the<br />

Mainstay Trust based at St. Francis’ Church, in Maidstone.<br />

Thousands of people, often ex-servicemen, are grateful for the<br />

support, advice and practical help they received from him, often<br />

when in crisis. His link with the Pilsdon communities began twenty<br />

years ago when he began to refer clients to the community in<br />

Dorset and in the past ten years he became closely involved with<br />

the new Pilsdon at Malling Community.<br />

Sidney Garner was a very talented and creative person. His<br />

education was at Denstone College in Staffordshire when his<br />

parents lived much of the time in India. He joined the Merchant<br />

Navy and served in the Far East during WW2. He then took up<br />

acting and stage directing, touring the country and often working with stars such<br />

as Laurence Olivier and Edith Evans. He later went into making films. One such<br />

film involved him sailing a yacht to the south of France, not by sea but through the<br />

canals and rivers of France.<br />

Sidney was also an artist, author, art and furniture restorer, calligrapher and a<br />

Sidney, after receiving his<br />

Bene Merenti in 2002<br />

great storyteller. He was a wise friend for many, old and young<br />

alike.<br />

Underpinning all that he said and did was a profound<br />

spirituality. He said the divine Office daily, whether on his own or<br />

leading prayers at the Pilsdon at Malling Community. He loved the<br />

Eucharist and found great sustenance from Holy Communion. At<br />

St. Francis he was a much appreciated Eucharistic Minister and, in<br />

2002, was awarded the Bene Merenti for services to the Church.<br />

Like all lives lived to the full, not everything had been plain<br />

sailing for Sidney in earlier days. Some of his experiences during<br />

the war were difficult and the theatre and film industry were often<br />

hard and stressful. <strong>The</strong>se took their toll and he often found solace<br />

in alcohol. This, in turn, affected his family and relationships.<br />

He became estranged from his wife and four children, but in<br />

time Sidney, as a recovering alcoholic, used this and other<br />

experiences for the benefit of others. He expressed his<br />

philosophy as follows: “In the course of my own work these past<br />

25 years I have seen thousands of people in various degrees of<br />

distress, on a one-to-one basis and in groups. In every single<br />

instance when someone has forgotten their own troubles<br />

sufficiently to be able to offer a helping hand to another, I have known at once that<br />

their recovery is already well established and, in these circumstances, relapse is a<br />

rarity.” We thank God for this his life of creativity, faith and service. May he rest in<br />

peace<br />

<strong>The</strong> Dew Association.<br />

<strong>The</strong> Dew Association wishes to thank the<br />

parishioners of St. Francis’ Church for their<br />

generous financial support via the monthly<br />

collections and monthly Direct Debit systems to<br />

the various charities in Africa, India and the<br />

Philippines. We also wish to convey our<br />

appreciation to Cannon John for allocating the<br />

collection dates in the busy Parish Annual<br />

Calendar of second collections on Sundays. <strong>The</strong><br />

monies we send to the various charities offer<br />

relative enhancement to the education and living<br />

conditions of the beneficiaries. Details of the<br />

collections are given below.<br />

Payments from 1978 to January 2013.<br />

£106,196.00<br />

Project Payments for 2012/13<br />

Mar 12 Mozambique, Nampula, Irmas Carmelites,<br />

(Sr. Anton) £717.00<br />

April 12 India, Children’s Education Mission,<br />

(Lucy Guest) £753.00<br />

May 12 Philippines, Leper Colony, (Bro. Bantilan)<br />

£725.00<br />

June 12 Philippines, Orphan Children,<br />

(Sr. Nicanora) £720.00<br />

July 12 Ghana, Children’s Education,<br />

(Fr. Peter Adu) £550.00<br />

Aug 12 India, Mumbai, Help the Sick and<br />

Homeless, (Sr. Christobel) £510.00<br />

Sept 12 Zimbabwe, (Fr.Tim Peacock) £520.00<br />

Oct 12 Zambia, Orphan Children, Kiltegan<br />

Missions, (Fr. Mulholland) £650.00<br />

Nov 12 Ghana, <strong>The</strong> New Neville Preparatory<br />

School Trust,(N. Maggs) £630.00<br />

Dec 12 Nigeria, Sisters of the Holy Rosary,<br />

(Sr. Josephine) £570.00<br />

Jan 13 Eritrea, Comboni Fathers, (Fr. Paul Felix)<br />

£510.00<br />

Total. £6,855.00<br />

Grand Total. £113,051.00<br />

6


A Real World War 1<br />

Romance<br />

By Pauline Sexton<br />

Children’s Days at<br />

St Francis’ set to become a<br />

regular event<br />

July 1914 saw the beginning of a<br />

major European conflagration.<br />

<strong>The</strong> assassination of the son of<br />

and heir of the Emperor Franz Josef<br />

of the Austro-Hungarian Empire led<br />

to the invocation of treaties within<br />

nation after nation creating a<br />

domino effect. Russia sided with<br />

Serbia, whose nation was the<br />

assassin’s motherland, Germany<br />

sided with Austria, France with<br />

Russia. Germany demanded free<br />

access through Belgium in order to<br />

invade France (part of the<br />

Schlieffen Plan).<br />

King Albert of the Belgians and<br />

his very small army (44,000 men)<br />

defied his massive opponents which<br />

led in turn to the army of the United<br />

Kingdom coming to his assistance.<br />

Consternation and fear spread<br />

amongst the Belgian population,<br />

particularly as the German cavalry,<br />

the Uhlans, were rumoured to be<br />

cruel and ruthless.<br />

In Brussells Madame Luyck<br />

was preparing two of her daughters,<br />

Jeanne and Cecile, to escape to<br />

England by catching the ferry from<br />

Vlissingens (Flushing). I have no<br />

record of their journey, how they<br />

travelled or how long it took them.<br />

<strong>The</strong>y did eventually cross the River<br />

Schelde and stayed a night with a<br />

cousin who was a Dutch policeman.<br />

<strong>The</strong>y then made their way to the<br />

port to book a passage to England.<br />

Imagine their consternation when<br />

they learned there would be no<br />

more bookings and that it was the<br />

last ferry!<br />

A passing lady, seeing them<br />

both weeping, asked as to their<br />

situation. <strong>The</strong>ir fortunes changed as<br />

she turned out to be a French<br />

comtesse escaping with her<br />

entourage and she immediately told<br />

them to join them!<br />

Most refugees from Belgium<br />

came through Folkestone as access<br />

through Lowestoft was banned as it<br />

was thought that spies were<br />

filtering into England this way.<br />

Jeanne and Cecile were eventually<br />

interviewed at Alexander Palace.<br />

Volunteers were trying to place<br />

refugees in homes and<br />

accommodation and the girls had<br />

the good fortune to be seen by a<br />

Pauline’s parents, Frederick and<br />

Cecile, on their wedding day.<br />

Lady Selborne whose husband’s<br />

mansion and estates were near<br />

Alton. She promised them<br />

residence with the family since they<br />

would be able to make clothing for<br />

her grandchildren. Both Jeanne and<br />

Cecile had worked in their father’s<br />

small lingerie business in Brussells.<br />

<strong>The</strong>ir first act on arrival at<br />

Selbourne was to find the local<br />

Catholic church - they had been<br />

surprised by the number of different<br />

denominations in England. <strong>The</strong><br />

church turned out to be a tin hut but<br />

the priest, knowing they had to<br />

travel so far to it offered to pick<br />

them up each Sunday in his pony<br />

and trap.<br />

From this moment their lives<br />

became increasingly difficult with<br />

jibes and comments from the<br />

distinctly Protestant staff in the<br />

Selborne household and this in turn<br />

led them to seek a change where<br />

thankfully their parish priest was<br />

able to help. He found them<br />

accommodation with a Mr.and Mrs.<br />

Myers who ran a canteen for<br />

soldiers at the nearby army transit,<br />

Borden Camp. Mr. Myers was a<br />

convert from Judaism and his wife<br />

an Irish Catholic and they had a<br />

grown up family. <strong>The</strong> sisters were<br />

very happy here, serving the troops<br />

with tea, sandwiches and buns.<br />

Jeanne’s English was reasonable but<br />

Cecile’s was poor. At first she could<br />

only indicate an item of food as<br />

‘Dis’ or ‘Dat’! <strong>The</strong>ir accents,<br />

however, endeared them to the<br />

soldiers. Cecile recalled<br />

nicknaming one as ‘le petit noir’<br />

because of his very pale face, jet<br />

black hair and his slight build.<br />

This same young soldier asked<br />

Cecile,on the day before his posting<br />

to France and the conflict, for a<br />

memento. She gave him her rosary<br />

but asked him to treat it seriously,<br />

that it was not a charm, and he<br />

would come back safely. He joined<br />

the Royal Horse Artillery as an<br />

outrider, drawing guns and<br />

ammunition limbers to gun sites. In<br />

severe winter conditions he became<br />

a victim of trench fever - a form of<br />

pneumonia - was dosed with liquid<br />

aspirin and returned to Blighty!<br />

Some time later Jeanne and<br />

Cecile had a letter form him<br />

updating them about his discharge<br />

from the army , that he was back at<br />

his home in Catford, South London<br />

and that he had found them jobs as<br />

machinists and found them<br />

accommodation in the area. From<br />

then on ‘le petit noir’ began<br />

courting Cecile and unbeknown to<br />

her began to take instruction in her<br />

Catholic faith. I remember my<br />

father, Frederick George (‘le petit<br />

noir’) telling how his mother was<br />

visibly upset when he disclosed this<br />

to her. She said ‘Remember what<br />

you were brought up as’. He<br />

reminded her that their loyalties<br />

had been to the churches that<br />

provided tea and cakes on the<br />

occasional Sunday.<br />

‘Le petit noir” proposed<br />

marriage to Cecile and placed an<br />

engagement on her finger at the<br />

Offertory of his first Mass at Holy<br />

Family Church in Catford. <strong>The</strong>y<br />

married on June 2nd 1917.<br />

I will always remember this<br />

story of my parents coming together<br />

because of the events that led up to<br />

it. I was the youngest of their three<br />

children, both of my brothers have<br />

died, but my parents union lasted<br />

for 50 years until my father’s<br />

untimely death. Incidentally, my<br />

husband, Michael, and I chose their<br />

wedding anniversary for our own!<br />

A ‘Fisherman’s breakfast’ created by the children at the Children’s Day in April.<br />

Since the last edition of <strong>The</strong> <strong>Parishioner</strong> a number of Children’s Days<br />

have taken place. <strong>The</strong> aim of these days is to involve the children in<br />

activities that encourage a sense of community, being part of the<br />

Church family and allowing them to participate actively in the Liturgy as<br />

well as having some fun.<br />

<strong>The</strong> days are themed to reflect the Liturgical season or the Gospel of<br />

the Sunday. <strong>The</strong> day that took place in Advent was exceptionally well<br />

attended, included a visit from Santa and culminated in a Christingle<br />

service, which had the lighted Christingles glowing brightly on the altar.<br />

In January, Baptism was the theme; the children learned more about<br />

the Sacrament and discovered the meanings of their names. In April, the<br />

activities centred on Jesus making His disciples ‘fishers of men’ and on the<br />

continuity of the Papacy from St. Peter to Pope Francis. One young<br />

participant amazed us all by knowing exactly how many Popes there have<br />

been thus far!<br />

<strong>The</strong> children also enjoy playing games together, singing and art<br />

sessions and, of course, the shared lunch.<br />

<strong>The</strong> involvement of the clergy in these days adds to the experience as<br />

in addition to teaching the children more about their faith, the priests also<br />

join in the fun and games. Of most recent memory Fathers Bartholomew,<br />

Peter and Victor were willing victims in a game which involved large<br />

marshmallows and the recitation of the phrase “Chubby bunny,” which<br />

became progressively more difficult as additional marshmallows were<br />

popped into the valiant priests’ mouths. Father Peter claimed victory and<br />

he and Fr. Victor discreetly disposed of the accumulated marshmallows,<br />

but Fr. Bartholomew gradually ceased to look like an overfed hamster as<br />

he ate the marshmallows he had stored in his mouth – however he did<br />

look rather pale afterwards! One hopes the reaction of the audience to this<br />

hilarious performance was considered worth the effort by the ‘victims’.<br />

We look forward to more Children’s Days and the continued support<br />

of parents in encouraging their children to attend.<br />

A man is driving around town when he sees a sign in front of a house: Talking Dog For<br />

Sale. He rings the bell and the owner tells him the dog is in the backyard so the man<br />

goes into the backyard and sees an old Labrador sitting there.<br />

“You talk?” he asks. “Yes” the dog replies. Surprised, the man asks, “So what’s your<br />

story?”<br />

<strong>The</strong> Labrador looks up and says, “Well, I discovered that I could talk when I was<br />

very young. I always wanted to help the Government so I told MI5 about my gift and in<br />

no time at all they had me jetting from country to country, sitting in rooms with spies<br />

and world leaders, because no one figured a dog would be eavesdropping. I was one of<br />

their most valuable spies for eight years running. But jetting around really tired me out<br />

and, as I wasn’t getting any younger, I decided to settle down. I signed up for a job at<br />

the airport to do some undercover security, wandering near suspicious characters and<br />

listening in. I uncovered some incredible dealings and was awarded a batch of medals.<br />

I got married and had dozens of puppies and now I am retired.”<br />

<strong>The</strong> man is very impressed, so goes in and asks how much the owner wants for<br />

the dog. “Ten pounds” says the owner. “Ten pounds?” says the man, “This dog is<br />

amazing. Why on earth are you selling him so cheap”. “Because he tells lies.” says the<br />

owner. “He never did any of that stuff.”<br />

At the Easter Vigil we welcomed the six men and women of the RCIA group into full communion with Catholic Church.<br />

<strong>The</strong>y were joined by three members of the Polish community who, with the others, received the Sacrament of<br />

Confirmation. We offer our congratulations to all of them.<br />

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In remembrance of my Dad,<br />

Eric Emerson<br />

1921 to 1988<br />

by Margaret Emerson<br />

My father Eric Emerson was born on the 1st September 1921 in March,<br />

Cambridgeshire and was the only child to Harold Emerson and Rosanna<br />

Peachey. An early setback for my father was the loss of his left eye, which<br />

was caused by a tumour behind it and to save his sight, he had to sacrifice the eye<br />

aged just seven. This never really set him back, although his school master advised<br />

that he did not take up a career as a teacher, which was something he had thought<br />

of doing, as he was likely to be subjected to taunts from the pupils. He would have<br />

made a great physics or maths teacher as he had a great gift for explaining things.<br />

Before he married my father was considering a call to the priesthood, which I<br />

am told shocked his own parents. Dad had converted to Catholicism in the late<br />

1940s and was always a devout man, keeping a strong faith to the end. Dad served<br />

St. Francis’ Parish as a reader for a number of years. He often commented that he<br />

sung loudily at Mass, joking that he appeared to be the only one singing! His<br />

mother died in her 40s and his father remarried, and that, along with his faith<br />

conversion, lead to a rift with his father. However, they were reconciled shortly<br />

before his father passed on and at his father’s funeral, still in the family home town<br />

of March, he helped to carry his father’s coffin as a final gesture of reconciliation.<br />

Dad married my mother Rita Holliday in 1949 and she also converted to<br />

Catholicism. Times were hard after World War II and he sold his childhood stamp<br />

collection to pay the bills for a couple of weeks. That probably summed him up as a<br />

father, giving up things for the family and working hard to provide for us. My sister<br />

Maria was born in 1950 and I came along in 1960. He would always support us in<br />

what we were doing, including being the local ‘Dad’ taxi service and he gave good<br />

advice, although he would also let us know if he disapproved.<br />

My father settled on a career as a chartered mechanical and electrical engineer.<br />

He started at the bottom as a charge engineer at Battersea Power Station during the<br />

Second World War. His disability meant he could not serve in the regular armed<br />

forces, but power station work was considered essential and he was part of the Home<br />

Guard in London, something he must have found difficult. He had studied part<br />

time for an intermediate BSc and by the time he took retirement in 1986, he was<br />

one of the top consulting engineers in his field in the country.<br />

His expertise especially in gas turbines often led to trips abroad, although he<br />

was also involved in part of the design of the turbine hall at Dungeness B Nuclear<br />

Power Station. He worked for the last 16 years of his career with an American firm,<br />

so he often found himself crossing the Atlantic but he had also been to India, Japan,<br />

various places in the Middle East, the USSR, Libya and a number of European<br />

destinations. He started his travels in the DC3 Dakota and ended them flying in<br />

747’s. In his hand luggage on flight he always carried a copy of the CTS Simple<br />

Prayer Book, which he said might be handy if a flight got into trouble.<br />

My father had a number of operations in the early 1980’s for intestinal<br />

complaints which he took in his stride, although before one operation his life was<br />

in grave danger. This lead to his decision to retire a year early. Having worked hard<br />

all his life, commuting to London for 20 years, his employer moved from London to<br />

Milton Keynes and daily travel became too arduous, although for a while he did<br />

consultancy work. <strong>The</strong>n he became unwell again, which meant he only had 18<br />

months of retirement. My sister Maria passed away on 21st July 1987 after a 13<br />

month a battle with cancer and my father was diagnosed the day after her funeral<br />

with terminal prostate cancer.<br />

He was admitted to hospital for the last time just before the May Day Holiday<br />

weekend in 1988. We later found out that he did not want my mother and I to<br />

know that he did not have long to live. He privately asked the nurse to arrange for<br />

the Last Rites of the Church to be given. We both visited him on the Sunday<br />

afternoon and he wished me a good week at work as we left. Later that evening the<br />

hospital called to say he had lapsed into coma and he passed away peacefully just<br />

after midnight with Mum and I, plus a next door neighbour who had kindly given<br />

us a lift, at his bed side, at peace with God. Thank you Dad for what you did for us<br />

all in your life. Rest in peace, Margaret.<br />

Busy Year for the Ascent<br />

Group<br />

Angela Hunter<br />

<strong>The</strong> year 2012 was a busy year for members of Maidstone Ascent Group. We<br />

have met regularly each month for fellowship and discussions, the highlight<br />

being our Jubilee Party in June for members and friends. We also gained<br />

ONE NEW MEMBER!<br />

During the year members have visited the Shrine to St. Jude in Faversham and<br />

spent a “Quiet Day” with Father Michael Woodgate at Headcorn Church. <strong>The</strong><br />

Annual Four Day Retreat for the Southwark and Westminster Regions was held in<br />

June and Maidstone members were able to attend for a day. Our Group Leader,<br />

Angela Hunter and her husband Keith, were involved in helping to arrange the<br />

Retreat and stayed at the Friars for the four days. It was a most worthwhile break,<br />

glorious sunshine, great company, a spiritual booster, peaceful and restful - not<br />

forgetting the excellent food!<br />

In August we were back again for a refresher and cream teas. We rounded off<br />

2012 with our third visit to the Friars, this time for our Christmas lunch in<br />

December.<br />

We began this year with a pre-Lent party in February and we look forward to<br />

continuing our study of the “Year of Faith”. <strong>The</strong> Southwark region is arranging an<br />

Ascent day at the Kairos Centre, Roehampton in May and Keith and Angela<br />

Hunter will again be involved in the Annual Retreat at the Friars (10-13 June). Day<br />

visitors are welcome. Keith also represents Maidstone at the Southwark Region<br />

meetings so he is in for a busy year.<br />

We would also like to arrange a trip to St. Augustine’s Church, Ramsgate<br />

when we hope to link up with members of the newly formed Ascent Group in<br />

Westgate-on-Sea.<br />

<strong>The</strong> Ascent group was formed to serve retired members of the Church by<br />

offering spirituality, friendship and mission. If you are interested and would like to<br />

know more, or want to attend the Aylesford Retreat for a day, please contact the<br />

Group Leader, Angela Hunter (016<strong>22</strong> 746792).<br />

Designed and produced by Denis & Rosemary Neale<br />

<strong>The</strong> Pencil Maker<br />

Contributed by a <strong>Parishioner</strong><br />

<strong>The</strong> Pencil Maker took a pencil aside, just before putting it in the<br />

box. “<strong>The</strong>re are five things you need to know,” he told the pencil,<br />

“before I send you out into the world. Always remember them and<br />

never forget and you will become the best pencil you can be”<br />

One: “You will do many great things but only if you allow yourself<br />

to be held in someone’s hand.”<br />

Two: “You will experience a painful sharpening from time to<br />

time, but you’ll need it to become a better pencil”.<br />

Three: “You will be able to correct any mistakes you might<br />

make.”<br />

Four: “<strong>The</strong> most important part of you will always be what’s<br />

inside.”<br />

Five: “On every surface you are used on, you must leave your<br />

mark. No matter what condition, you must continue to write.”<br />

<strong>The</strong> pencil understood and promised to remember and went into<br />

the box with purpose in its heart.<br />

Now, replacing the pencil with you:<br />

Always remember them and never forget and you will become the<br />

best person you can be.<br />

One: “You will be able to do many great things but only if you<br />

allow yourself to be held in God’s hand.”<br />

Two: “You will experience a a painful sharpening from time to<br />

time by going through various problems in life but you’ll need it to<br />

become a stronger person.”<br />

Three: “ You will be able to correct any mistakes you might<br />

make.”<br />

Four: “<strong>The</strong> most important part of you will always be what’s<br />

inside.”<br />

Five: “On every surface you walk through life you must leave<br />

your mark. No matter what the situation, you must continue to do<br />

your duty.”<br />

Allow this parable of the pencil to encourage you to know that you<br />

are a special person and only you can fulfil the purpose to which<br />

you were born. Never allow yourself to get discouraged and think<br />

your life is insignificant - your life does make a difference.<br />

St Francis’ Church<br />

Summer<br />

Spectacular<br />

Saturday, 6th July,<br />

11am to 4pm<br />

•Folk Rock Band<br />

•Bouncy Castle<br />

•Irish & Hip Hop Dancing<br />

•Assorted Stalls<br />

Crafts•Cakes•Books<br />

Plants•Bric-a-Brac<br />

Food of the Nations<br />

•Barbecue•Crockery Smash<br />

•Games<br />

And Other Attractions!<br />

Enter the Grand<br />

Draw!<br />

£300 & £150 to be won!<br />

+ other exciting prizes<br />

Calling all <strong>Parishioner</strong>s!<br />

<strong>The</strong> money raised by this event will go to<br />

fund future parish development.<br />

Please will you help?<br />

We need goods for all the stalls, people to<br />

help set up and assist the stall holders on<br />

the day and those who will help clear up<br />

afterwards. Any donations towards costs<br />

are also very welcome!<br />

Contact Martin Sexton (016<strong>22</strong>) 754861.<br />

Baptisms 2012<br />

July<br />

Hermione De<br />

Moulpied Thompson<br />

Thomas Carpenter<br />

Jonny Glover-Stone<br />

Sidney Glover-Stone<br />

Samuel Snepp<br />

Natalia Longhurst<br />

Joshua Sharp<br />

August<br />

Lola Laidlaw<br />

Elijah Douglas<br />

Miley Brown<br />

Alfie Holding<br />

Viktor Tichy<br />

Oliver Ebdon<br />

Ezra Maswire-Hatega<br />

Lacy Franks<br />

Fabian Bean<br />

Summer Baker<br />

September<br />

Oliwia Domagala<br />

Lily Steel<br />

Dominik Swrkowski<br />

Amadeusz<br />

Wojciechowski<br />

Holie Brooker<br />

Luke Pettit<br />

Reese O Connor<br />

Isabella Ketley<br />

Benjamin Ketley<br />

October<br />

Elsie Russell<br />

Samual Perks<br />

Patrick Czechrowski<br />

Filip Mikulski<br />

Chiara Trajano<br />

Yvonne Hodgetts<br />

Leon Hodgetts<br />

Annabella Andrew<br />

Orlagh Edwards<br />

Joseph Crawley<br />

Steven Keane<br />

Lizzy McGinn<br />

Poppy Carter<br />

November<br />

Jonathan Rendell<br />

Anna Duran Espinoza<br />

Daniel Milne<br />

Elizabeth Milne<br />

Emily Milne<br />

Harry Hubbard<br />

December<br />

Skye Powell<br />

Andrey Bragin<br />

John Pefanio<br />

Oliver Smith<br />

Savannah Ellingham<br />

Filip Zybajto<br />

Adam Ozog<br />

Hanna Surowska<br />

Oliver Zarzycki<br />

January 2013<br />

Antonio Mendes<br />

Marco Mendes<br />

Wojciech<br />

Dziegielewski<br />

Julia Zasada<br />

February<br />

Isabella Walczak<br />

Amelia Lander<br />

Aleks Iwanczuk<br />

Nichola Shorter<br />

Remy Perkins<br />

Amelia Dowling<br />

March<br />

Millie Collins<br />

Alex Sims<br />

Jacob Skelton<br />

Jan Wiszniewski<br />

Robert Njamen<br />

Julian Meston<br />

Maddison Goddard<br />

Julie Wilkins<br />

Stefania Burzynska<br />

April<br />

Victor Solinski<br />

Agata Hutnikiewicz<br />

Ben Izquierdo<br />

Cameron Chapman<br />

Aleksander Kaluski<br />

Oscar Tomaszewski<br />

Esme March<br />

Jasmine Armfield<br />

Jessica Michacz<br />

May<br />

George Johnson<br />

Ellis Johnson<br />

Hugo Kotodziejczyk<br />

Darcen Chinnapan<br />

Deaths 2012<br />

June<br />

Mary Deney<br />

Reginald Green<br />

July<br />

Giovanni Roberto<br />

Joseph Flynn<br />

John McElligott<br />

Kevin Jamas<br />

August<br />

George Meeham<br />

Yolande Roberts<br />

Stephaine Godsall<br />

September<br />

Francis Brennon<br />

Bridget Nolan<br />

October<br />

Winifred Hynes<br />

Andrew Akehurst<br />

Josephine Bricknell<br />

David Conaghan<br />

November<br />

Kathleen Gunner<br />

December<br />

Anastasia Agnes<br />

Sr Kathleen Dalton<br />

January 2013<br />

Bernadette Alexander<br />

Kathleen Martin<br />

Monica Casey<br />

Alan Edmonds<br />

February<br />

Pietro Pia<br />

Clifford Boyce<br />

March<br />

Veronica Cook<br />

Neil Linstead<br />

Monica Cobb<br />

Gerald Shephard<br />

Marriages 2012<br />

July<br />

Brendan Beirne<br />

&Lindsey Vegas<br />

August<br />

Steven Borkett &<br />

Marie Walker<br />

John Bowles<br />

& Grainne Doyle<br />

Mark Dady & Jena<br />

Lipski<br />

September<br />

Benjamin Courtin<br />

&Joanna Wilkes<br />

Thomas Jones<br />

&Krystyna Ucal<br />

October<br />

Andrejs Butans<br />

& Marta Krzesniak<br />

March 2013<br />

Dariusz Ozog & Iwona<br />

Kowalska<br />

April<br />

Darren Reid & Maria<br />

Jurczyk<br />

May<br />

Andrew Johnson&<br />

Lisa Champion<br />

Andrejs Butans &<br />

O Christ Jesus, when all is<br />

darkness and we feel our<br />

weakness and helplessness, give<br />

us the sense of Your presence,<br />

Your love, and Your strength.<br />

Help us to have perfect trust in<br />

Your protecting love and<br />

strengthening power, so that<br />

nothing may frighten or worry us,<br />

for, living close to You, we shall<br />

see Your hand, Your purpose,<br />

Your will through all things.<br />

Saint Ignatius of Loyola<br />

Worshipping God means learning<br />

to be with Him, stripping away<br />

our hidden idols and placing Him<br />

at the centre of our lives.<br />

Pope Francis.<br />

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