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mate to be more laid back, more flexible in their approach to living, and to enjoy the world around
them. The Artisans can show INTJs how to live in the moment.
Issues
Most of the issues in the INTJ/SP relationships are J/P problems: the state of the house, making a
plan vs. winging it, making decisions now vs. putting them off till later, etc.
ESPs (and ENPs too) can bring friends over too often for the INTJ's taste; introverts generally do
not like having the sanctity of their domain invaded too often and may prefer to hide in their room
until the party is over. This bothers the ESPs, who like it when the INTJ joins in. By a similar
token, an ESP may want to drag the INTJ off on group outings too often for the INTJ's tastes. One
compromise solution is to go on outings that allow the INTJ to keep their distance from other
people; for example, taking a walk together would be easier on them than going to a party. Another
strategy is to take separate cars to an outing so that the INTJ can leave when they get burnt out. 98
To an ESP, a relationship is "no fun" if you have to go everywhere alone, but to an INTJ, being
alone is fun. A compromise will have to be worked out.
SPs have a justified reputation for being an adventurous bunch. The ESTPs, in particular, are the
most risk-taking of the Artisans. The INTJs, of course, are the most cautious of the Rationals.
When one considers these clashing tendencies within the sphere of the financial realm, we see there
is an area for compromise; it may be best to have separate bank accounts. This also applies to the
ENTPs.
Gifts
Artisans appreciate surprises; they like fun gifts that will allow them to do something concrete. A
new tool, a new piece of sporting equipment, a new piece of clothing—something that can be used
for “frivolous” purposes. They are the type which most appreciates big, entertaining, spendy gifts
(read here), 99 so take your credit cards along when you go shopping. To a lesser extent, they also
like sentimental gifts.
Most Important Values
Tieger and Barron-Tieger had each type list the characteristics in a partner that were most important
to them. Some characteristics were universal; others were specific to temperament or type. A
summary of the top seven characteristics that were most important to SPs is listed below. The
number in [ ] brackets indicates the ranking that INTJs gave the trait in question.
• Having fun together All SPs chose this [7]
• Mutual commitment All SPs chose this [3]
• Fidelity All SPs chose this [1]
• Intimacy ESTPs and ISFPs chose this
• Being listened to All except ISTPs chose this [5]
• Mutual support All except ISFPs chose this [2]
• Sexual compatibility STPs chose this
• Companionship ISPs chose this
• Humor ISTPs and ESFPs chose this
• Shared values SFPs chose this [6]
98 Kroeger & Thuesen, 1994
99 Parent, n.d.