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neither party will retreat from their position. When issues are brought up, they will eventually be
dealt with on the basis of logic. (Caution: The problem may be solved so logically that it leaves
emotions out of the equation entirely. The triumph of logic over feelings can lead to situations
where the INTJ is getting optimal results but also feels miserable and exhausted, so it pays to give a
little extra attention to figuring out how each person feels about the solution.) Since INTJs are
calm, nonreactive creatures, there won't be shouting matches.
INTJ couples won’t spend too much time talking about their feelings. They might not even need to
do this, since they instinctively know what each other’s feelings are. Or alternately, they may
simply try to guess their partner's feelings, which will be difficult because INTJs are so impassive.
Warning: it's not a good idea to make assumptions if you don't know what's going on, because there
is a tendency to assume the worse. It is better just to ask.
Depending on the strength of the Thinking/Feeling preference of each partner, the habit of not
discussing emotional issues may create some unwanted coolness in the relationship. When one
partner does divulge their feelings, the disclosure should be carefully nurtured. This is a healthy for
both for the relationship and the individuals in question. 93 Tieger and Barron-Tieger caution that a
pair of INTPs may neglect their loving aspect of their relationship in favor of the intellectual
connection; this may lead to a scenario where the two INTP lovers become just friends. I suspect
this holds true for INTJ-INTJ pairings also.
INTJ/Artisan – “The Playmate” 94
The characteristic that best defines the Artisans is having fun together. 95 So how do the "serious,"
"stern" 96 INTJs fit with this criterion? As it turns out, INTJs actually do list "having fun together"
as an important value, but they ranked it last. Does this suggest that INTJs might be an exception to
the high valuation that the SPs generally put on NTs? Not necessarily; the ENTJs also placed fun
last on their important list, and it did not even make the INTP list. (For the ENTPs fun was listed as
the most important part of a relationship, go figure.)
So I guess the question is, do you like having fun? Well, do ya?
What Draws INTJs and SPs Together?
Artisans bring a certain joie de vivre to a relationship. Exciting and eager to explore new activities,
they have a knack for drawing INTJs out of the world of the mind and into interesting new
experiences. 97
SPs admire the self assured drive with which INTJs pursue their visions for the future. Since SPs
live in the moment, they appreciate the fact that INTJs have a long term plan for the couple. The
STPs appreciate how INTJs don't need to discuss feelings all the time; it can be refreshing to
exchange views without worrying about hurting the other person inadvertently. However, both
partners should remember sometimes to show a little empathy; it acts as a bonding agent and makes
each person feel cared for. As for the ESFPs and ISTPs, they particularly enjoy the INTJ's flashes
of sarcastic wit, though all SPs enjoy whatever contributes to the fun pool.
INTJs find the SP attitude of "let go and live life" rather relaxing. They can learn from their SP
93 Tieger & Barron-Tieger, 2000
94 Keirsey, 1998
95 Tieger & Barron-Tieger, 2000
96 Thorne & Gough, 1991
97 Tieger & Barron-Tieger, 2000