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punishments are threatened. Or, if INTJs find that they cannot win in a straightforward way, they<br />
may apply their thinking skills to the problem of disobedience with all the cunning that you would<br />
expect from a l'il professor Moriarty. Computer restrictions will be hacked. Forensic evidence that<br />
could link them to crime will be eliminated, while evidence that seemingly demonstrates obedience<br />
will be manufactured. (Generally, however, INTJs are straightforward in their refusal of authority.)<br />
For all these reasons, head-butting between INTJ children and parents is a common issue. It is<br />
better to get the INTJ's input on the rules beforehand 237 rather than staking out a position that may<br />
be unpleasant to enforce later.<br />
Young Female INTJs<br />
A descriptor study 238 found that non-type-savvy observers perceived INTJ females as not being<br />
"feminine." But childhood is a stereotypical time where boys wear blue and girls wear pink; where<br />
boys play "army" and girls play "house;" where boys get Legos and dinosaur books for Christmas<br />
and girls get a ballerina outfit. As you might already guess, boy stereotypes fit the INTJ personality<br />
better than girl stereotypes. Is it any surprise the INTJ girls end up hanging out with friends who<br />
are boys and playing with their brothers' toys? They tend to be tomboys, and evidently others'<br />
perception of them in this regard never goes away.<br />
When it comes to toys, INTJ girls are less interested in dolls than other female types. Yes, they may<br />
enjoy designing and setting up the house, but not so much brushing dolls' hair and dressing them<br />
up. But with any luck, the INTJ girl's parents will not try to force them into a stereotypical<br />
feminine role.<br />
Tips for Parents<br />
• Don't force INTJ child to socialize.<br />
• Don't force them to sit on Santa's lap if they're uncomfortable with strangers.<br />
• Don't compliment them on their intelligence, but rather on their work ethic.<br />
• Explain rules logically; get your INTJ to buy into them before carving them into stone.<br />
• Listen to your INTJ's ideas and thoughts about what they are learning. They love being able<br />
to talk to people about their interests. If you're not interested (let's be frank), at least try to<br />
fake it.<br />
• INTJs are more skeptical about Santa Claus and the Tooth Fairy than other types, so be sure<br />
to provide really good evidence.<br />
• INTJs enjoy scientific experiments. If you are looking for a memorable activity to do with<br />
your child, there are many books with simple but cool experiments that can teach children<br />
about natural principles.<br />
• Praise your INTJ child for their hard work rather than their natural gifts.<br />
• Items like chemistry sets, insect farms, a microscope, a telescope, etc. will be appreciated.<br />
237 Tieger & Barron-Tieger, 1997<br />
238 Thorne & Gough, 1991
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