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undertaken, and prosecuted with ardor; as he believed that it might be attended with incidental
advantageous results, and that it would certainly assist in forming a habit of industry."
Note how Bowditch wanted his children to learn mathematics. There is a bit of a Pygmalion project
there, no? However, Bowditch wisely didn't push the matter. INTJ parents are independent and
think for themselves; they want their children to be this way also—both in mind and ideas. This is
indicated in the way that Bowditch helped his growing offspring select an occupation:
If a predisposition were manifested for any occupation in life, the father candidly stated his own opinion,
and enforced his views by such arguments as occurred to him, but left the final choice of his child free. In
one instance of this kind, he, by his advice, induced the adoption of a profession other than that for which
a slight preference had been at first felt; while in another case, he readily yielded at last his own wishes to
the strong predilection which one of his sons manifested for a seafaring life; judging wisely in both cases.
Bowditch "left the final choice of his child free." He ultimately wanted his children to make their
own decisions, though he did not forgo giving advice.
INTJs tend to treat children like little adults whose thoughts and ideas should be taken seriously.
They are not likely to employ gushy baby talk; it would be an embarrassing display for them, and
they would almost see it as a lack of respect for the child. By a similar token, an INTJ will not
brush a child's question off or give them a half answer—they want the child to actually understand
what is going on.
A study found that while a large chunk (65.1%) of INTJs rated "Home and family" as one of their
most important values, they nevertheless placed the least weight on it of all types. 221 Homemaking
by itself is unlikely to meet an INTJ's intense desire for achievement; therefore some balance
between the familial sphere and the project sphere is called for. A stay at home INTJ may choose to
get a degree online, learn another language, or start a home business. (Actually, however, children
themselves provide a fascinating study for INTJs. Just as young INTJs enjoy watching tadpoles
become frogs or caterpillars becoming adults, so adult INTJs find the child rearing to be a fun
opportunity to observe the growth and development of a human being.)
When it comes to hugs, kisses, etc., INTJ are not one of the more touchy-feely types parents; they
mainly like having their child sit on their lap while they read together. An INTJ parent is more
likely to smile lovingly at their child than to say, “I love you” aloud.
Fun With Children
Male Rationals enjoy comic books and other “juvenile” forms of entertainment more than other
types. 222 Since male INTJs enjoy these pastimes into adulthood, they are better able to relate to
their children’s entertainment material than most. They may even pass on some of their own
childhood interests directly to their children, i.e. an INTJ parent who still enjoys Batman comics
may pass the torch on to their offspring. Parents and children may enjoy talking about the same
shows, books, computer games and comics together.
INTJs also seek out fun educational activities for their children (combining learning with
entertainment is an NT trademark). They will take their children to the science museum, library,
nature exhibits, etc.
Some childhood games are interesting to INTJs; others, not so much. Lewis Carroll, author of Alice
and Wonderland and an INTJ (I'm not going to type him, sorry), did not have any children of his
221 Myers, McCaulley, Quenk & Hammer, 1998
222 Parent, 2012