My Grandmother and Other Stories: Histories of the Palestinians as ...
My Grandmother and Other Stories: Histories of the Palestinians as ...
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A Farewell<br />
Naila suggests parting from <strong>the</strong> neighbourhood with a get-toge<strong>the</strong>r–a crazy idea,<br />
given <strong>the</strong> non-festive nature <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> circumstances–but <strong>the</strong> o<strong>the</strong>r three families like<br />
it. We bring meat for <strong>the</strong> barbeque, Rousan <strong>and</strong> Sa’id make salads, <strong>and</strong> Manal <strong>and</strong><br />
Amer bring Nabulsi knafa, a Palestinian cheese p<strong>as</strong>try. The table is heavy with all<br />
kinds <strong>of</strong> salads, cold drinks <strong>and</strong> p<strong>as</strong>tries. Out <strong>of</strong> respect for Abu al-Sa’id, <strong>the</strong> only<br />
fully observant Muslim in <strong>the</strong> group, we decide to leave <strong>the</strong> wine <strong>and</strong> <strong>the</strong> beer in <strong>the</strong><br />
kitchen. Anyone wanting a sip can hide in <strong>the</strong> kitchen or simply use opaque cups<br />
to hold <strong>the</strong> wine or beer. This is a typical Palestinian detour, a way to enjoy alcohol<br />
without <strong>of</strong>fending observant guests.<br />
Everything is ready. Manal, Amer, Sa’id <strong>and</strong> Rousan come early to help with <strong>the</strong><br />
preparations. Spirits are not high <strong>and</strong> <strong>the</strong> atmosphere isn’t exactly celebratory, but<br />
we want to share experiences, stories, <strong>and</strong> gossip from our lives in Dhahiat al-Barid.<br />
Abu <strong>and</strong> Um al-Sa’id, <strong>the</strong> elders <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> group, come late. And with <strong>the</strong>ir entrance,<br />
<strong>the</strong> atmosphere changes. The old man’s silence <strong>and</strong> Um al-Sa’id’s red eyes trigger<br />
suppressed emotion. We look at each o<strong>the</strong>r, speechless. Sadness <strong>and</strong> tension dominate.<br />
Everyone expects <strong>the</strong> o<strong>the</strong>rs to say or do something, but out <strong>of</strong> respect for <strong>the</strong>se two<br />
old people, we keep silent. Naila, who h<strong>as</strong> developed a close relationship with Um<br />
al-Sa’id over <strong>the</strong> l<strong>as</strong>t six years, bursts into tears. Manal <strong>and</strong> Rousan choose to stay<br />
in <strong>the</strong> kitchen. Abu al-Sa’id feels embarr<strong>as</strong>sed <strong>and</strong> blames his wife for spoiling <strong>the</strong><br />
ga<strong>the</strong>ring. Amer <strong>and</strong> I are protective <strong>of</strong> her, but somehow her tears have exposed <strong>the</strong><br />
façade <strong>of</strong> celebrating this forced parting. The idea <strong>of</strong> a party <strong>as</strong> an act <strong>of</strong> revenge–<strong>as</strong><br />
Naila wanted it to be–comes to its failed end. No one h<strong>as</strong> an appetite, so we sit down,<br />
silently sip c<strong>of</strong>fee <strong>and</strong> smoke a nargila.<br />
Later, I tell Naila that this whole idea doesn’t fit our Palestinian character. We lack<br />
<strong>the</strong> needed humour. Of course, she disagrees. Her position is that we weren’t sensitive<br />
enough to <strong>the</strong> situation <strong>of</strong> Um al-Sa’id, <strong>the</strong> one most affected by <strong>the</strong> wall. She h<strong>as</strong><br />
been living in her house for 25 years. She gave birth to her children here <strong>and</strong> raised<br />
<strong>the</strong>m in a peaceful environment. Her two daughters are married <strong>and</strong> live in Ramallah,<br />
<strong>and</strong> visiting <strong>the</strong>m h<strong>as</strong> become impossible.<br />
Sa’id is going to live with his in-laws in Shu’fat, in Jerusalem, <strong>and</strong> his younger bro<strong>the</strong>r<br />
‘Umar h<strong>as</strong> not yet decided what to do. He cannot join his parents since <strong>the</strong>y will be<br />
living in a small room in <strong>the</strong> house <strong>of</strong> Abu al-Sa’id’s sister in Wadi al-Joz, in E<strong>as</strong>t<br />
Jerusalem. Her entire family is disintegrating <strong>and</strong> dispersing, but most difficult for her<br />
is <strong>the</strong> separation from her two gr<strong>and</strong>children. (On <strong>the</strong> o<strong>the</strong>r h<strong>and</strong> this may be a relief<br />
for Rousan, her daughter-in-law. Finally, she will have control over her daughters<br />
without Um al-Sa’id’s endless comments.)<br />
Jerusalem Quarterly 30 [ 101 ]