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April Fool’s Day<br />
Good Friday<br />
April 1: City Market at<br />
the Museum - Fayetteville<br />
Transportation and<br />
Local History Museum.<br />
Wednesdays at 2 p.m. and<br />
Saturdays at 8 a.m. The City<br />
Market will be held at the<br />
Transportation Museum,<br />
downtown Fayetteville. The<br />
market will feature local<br />
artisans, produce, music and<br />
history. The market will open<br />
Fourth Friday 6 p.m. - 10<br />
p.m. The museum grounds<br />
are filled with eggs, honey,<br />
meats, as well as vibrant seasonal<br />
fruits and vegetables.<br />
Artisans add to the variety<br />
of items with soaps, pottery,<br />
original art, jewelry, and<br />
more. For more information,<br />
visit www.facebook.com/<br />
CityMarketAtTheMuseum<br />
or call (910) 433-1457 or via<br />
email citymarketassociation@<br />
gmail.com.<br />
Thursday, April 2:<br />
First Thursdays At The<br />
Cameo at 225 Hay Street , 8<br />
p.m. Hank Smith and Shawn<br />
Chase from Raleigh, NC will<br />
be performing acoustic and<br />
bluegrass specialities. Hank<br />
Smith’s progressive bluegrass<br />
and Shawn Chase’s mandolin<br />
and country soul vocals blend<br />
with improvisation akin to<br />
jazz to drive the rhythm.<br />
April 3:<br />
Sunday, April 5 – Backstage<br />
at the Gilbert Theater.<br />
Saturday at 8 p.m. and<br />
Sunday at 2 p.m. If you are<br />
into comedy, then Backstage<br />
is a performance you do<br />
not want to miss. The play<br />
is written and directed by<br />
Stephen Miles. For more<br />
information, visit www.gilberttheater.com<br />
or call (910)<br />
678-7186.<br />
April 3:<br />
Oldies, Rock & Blues Music<br />
at the Hope Mills Recreation<br />
Center at 6 p.m. open mic<br />
oldies, rock and blues music<br />
every first and third Friday of<br />
the month. Enjoy live Rock,<br />
Country and Blues music from<br />
local artists. Registration to<br />
perform is the day of the event.<br />
Sign-up is open to everyone<br />
on a first come first to perform<br />
basis. For more information,<br />
call 910-426-4109.<br />
April 4: Easter<br />
Eggstravganza at the Hope<br />
Mills Recreation Center<br />
includes Breakfast with the<br />
Easter Bunny from 8:30<br />
to 11 a.m., $6. RSVP and<br />
payment deadline. Menu<br />
includes: pancakes, eggs, sausage,<br />
bacon and juice. Easter<br />
Egg Hunt at Hope Mills<br />
Municipal Park, free and<br />
open to the public, inclement<br />
at the Hope Mills Recreation<br />
Center. Age Groups and<br />
Times: Ages 1-3, 11 a.m.,<br />
Field 1; Ages 4-6, 11:15 a.m.,<br />
Field 2; and Ages 7-10, 11:30<br />
a.m., Field 3. Easter Craft at<br />
the Hope Mills Municipal<br />
Park Tennis Courts at noon,<br />
$6 per person. RSVP and<br />
payment deadline March 23.<br />
April 8:<br />
Celtic Woman on stage at the<br />
Crown Complex at 7 p.m.<br />
The 10th Anniversary Tour<br />
features four sublimely gifted<br />
Irish women – three angelic<br />
vocalists and a dazzling Celtic<br />
violinist – will a full band,<br />
plus the Anotas Choir, bagpipers<br />
and Irish dancers. This<br />
enchanting musical experience<br />
features Celtic Woman<br />
performing a treasure chest<br />
of traditional Irish standards,<br />
classical favorites and contemporary<br />
pop songs, in the<br />
group’s distinctive signature<br />
style. For more information,<br />
visit www.crowncomplexnc.<br />
com or call 438-4100.<br />
April 9: Augusta Alsina<br />
with special guest, Kirko<br />
Bangz at the Crown<br />
Coliseum at 7:30 p.m. Born<br />
and bred from the streets of<br />
New Orleans, Alsina is eager<br />
to follow in the footsteps of<br />
the NOLA music legends<br />
that paved his way. In 2013,<br />
MTV named him one of<br />
their Fab 5 Hip Hop artists<br />
to watch, leading to his<br />
recent signing with Def Jam<br />
Recordings. Alsina is currently<br />
touring with Usher and<br />
Chris Brown. For more information,<br />
visit www.crowncomplexnc.com<br />
or call 438-4100.<br />
April 9: Raisin’ Cane: A<br />
Harlem Renaissance Odyssey<br />
at Seabrook Auditorium on<br />
the campus of Fayetteville<br />
State University at 7 p.m.<br />
Starring Jasmine Guy & the<br />
Avery Sharpe Trio. In a musical<br />
tribute to the days when<br />
Harlem was in vogue, Jasmine<br />
Guy and the Sharpe Trio<br />
celebrate and honor the legendary<br />
voices of the Harlem<br />
Renaissance. For more information,<br />
visit www.uncfsu.edu/<br />
arts/fine-arts-series-calendar<br />
or 910-672-1571<br />
April 11: Fayetteville<br />
Roller Derby at the Crown<br />
Arena. Games at 5 and 7 p.m.<br />
Watch The Rogue Rollergirls<br />
take on the Marietta Derby<br />
Darlins. For more information,<br />
visit www.roguerollergirls.com.<br />
An Evening With Casting<br />
Crowns at the Crown<br />
Complex at 6 p.m. For more<br />
information, visit www.<br />
crowncomplexnc.com or call<br />
438-4100.<br />
Berlioz Symphonie<br />
Fantastique in Huff Concert<br />
Hall on the campus of<br />
Methodist University at 7:30<br />
p.m. For more information,<br />
visit www.fayettevillesymphony.org<br />
or call 433-4690.<br />
Through April 20:<br />
N.C. Faculty/Student<br />
“Mentor” Exhibit at Cape<br />
Fear Studios, Monday<br />
through Friday 11 a.m. and<br />
Saturday at 10 a.m. For<br />
more information, visit www.<br />
capefearstudios.com or call<br />
433-2986.<br />
April 9:<br />
Sunday April 12: The Trip<br />
to Bountiful on stage at the<br />
Cape Fear Regional Theatre.<br />
Shows are at 7:30 p.m.<br />
Wednesday through Saturday<br />
and at 2 p.m. on Sunday. For<br />
more information, visit www.<br />
cfrt.org or call 323-4234.<br />
April 10-12: Backstage at<br />
the Gilbert Theater. Shows<br />
are at 8 p.m. Friday and<br />
Saturday, with a 2 p.m. matinee<br />
on Saturday and Sunday.<br />
For more information, visit<br />
www.gilberttheater.com or<br />
call 678-7186.<br />
April 12:<br />
Cape Fear New Music<br />
Festival at Hensdale Chapel<br />
on the campus of Methodist<br />
University at 7:30 p.m. This<br />
event features performances<br />
of new works by regional and<br />
nationally known composers,<br />
and a round of paper<br />
presentations. The festival’s<br />
guest composers are Brent<br />
Miller from San Fransisco’s<br />
Center for New Music, and<br />
Jan Radzynski from Ohio<br />
Easter Sunday<br />
State University. The theme<br />
for this year’s festival is “Sight<br />
and Sound,” with many of the<br />
festival performances focusing<br />
on the interaction between<br />
the visual arts and music; in<br />
addition to our guest composers,<br />
acclaimed photographer<br />
Burk Uzzle will be on<br />
hand. For more information,<br />
email smarosek@methodist.<br />
edu or call 630-7100<br />
April 14: Evening of Voice,<br />
Strings & Wood Winds at<br />
Seabrook Auditorium on<br />
the campus of Fayetteville<br />
State University at 7 p.m. For<br />
more information, visit www.<br />
uncfsu.ed/arts/fine-arts-series<br />
or call 672-1571.<br />
April 15:<br />
Refresh Leadership Seminar<br />
at the Holiday Inn I-95.<br />
The seminar is sponsored<br />
by a number of local businesses,<br />
including Express<br />
Employment Professionals<br />
and Up & Coming Weekly.<br />
The event begins at 9 a.m.<br />
and includes a Live Simulcast<br />
featuring Daymond John,<br />
CEO of FUBU, Shark<br />
Branding and ABC’s Shark<br />
Tank; comedian Dan<br />
Aykroyd and Liz Murray.<br />
Following the free simulcast,<br />
attendees are invited to<br />
participate in the Keynote<br />
Luncheon, which features<br />
former Fayetteville resident,<br />
now turned motivational<br />
speaker Denise Ryan. A Shop<br />
Small Business Expo will also<br />
be ongoing. For more information<br />
and to register, visit<br />
visit http://business.fayettevillencchamber.org/events/<br />
details/refresh-leadershiplive-keynote-luncheon-5551.<br />
April 16: Smokey Robinson<br />
on stage at the Crown<br />
Theatre at 7:30 p.m. For<br />
more information, visit www.<br />
community-concerts.com or<br />
call 323-1991.<br />
April 16-19: Hair on stage<br />
at Butler Theater on the campus<br />
of FSU at 7:30 p.m. and<br />
on Sunday at 3 p.m. For more<br />
information, visit www.uncfsu.edu/arts/fine-arts-series<br />
or<br />
call 672-1571.<br />
April 18: Spring Lake<br />
Spring Fling at Mendoza<br />
Park from 10 a.m. to 6 p.m.<br />
featuring vendors, art, food,<br />
carnival rides, live entertainment<br />
and baseball. For more<br />
information, visit www.<br />
spring-lake.org.<br />
April 18:<br />
East Coast Step Show at<br />
the Crown Theatre at 6 p.m.<br />
bringing step teams from<br />
across the country to benefit<br />
the Education Endowment<br />
Fund at FSU. For more information,<br />
call 438-4100.<br />
April 19: Duke Ellington<br />
Sacred Concert at Fort<br />
Bragg from 1-4 p.m. Concert<br />
Features the FSU Jazz<br />
Express and FSU Concert<br />
Choir. For more information,<br />
visit www.uncfsu.edu/arts/<br />
fine-arts-series or call 672-<br />
1571.<br />
April 23: Fayetteville<br />
Symphonic Band and<br />
Methodist University’s Jazz<br />
Ensemble Concert at Huff<br />
Concert Hall on the campus<br />
of Methodist University at<br />
7:30 p.m. For more information,<br />
visit www.methodist.<br />
edu/music.<br />
April 24:<br />
Monday, may 18: Cape Fear<br />
Studios Annual Anniversary<br />
Artists Members’ Exhibit<br />
celebrating the 25th anniversary<br />
of the studios. Monday-<br />
Friday at 11 a.m., Saturday<br />
at 10 a.m. For more information,<br />
call 433-2986 or visit<br />
www.capefearstudios.com.<br />
April-24 - April 26:<br />
Dogwood Festival in Festival<br />
Park, featuring concerts, street<br />
fair, the midway, car shows<br />
and KidStuff. For a complete<br />
schedule, visit www.faydogwoodfestival.com<br />
or call<br />
323-1934.<br />
April 24: Berstein-<br />
Chichester Psalms at Beth<br />
Israel Congreation, featuring<br />
the Cumberland Oratorio<br />
Singers at 7:3 p.m. For more<br />
information, visit www.<br />
SingWithCOS.org or call<br />
630-7153.<br />
April 30 – May 10:<br />
Fort Bragg Fair at the Fort<br />
Bragg Fair Grounds. Monday<br />
through Friday gates open<br />
at 5 p.m.; Saturday through<br />
Sunday, gates open at 1 p.m.<br />
for more information, visit<br />
www.fortbraggmwr.com/fair<br />
or call 396-9126.<br />
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editors’notes<br />
“April showers<br />
bring May flowers,<br />
that is what<br />
they say. But if<br />
all the showers<br />
turned to flowers,<br />
we’d have quite a<br />
colorful day!”<br />
This is the<br />
opening to one of<br />
my favorite April<br />
poems and it’s so<br />
true! I am sure<br />
Karla Allen everyone remembers<br />
as a child making<br />
colorful art in school filled with images of<br />
flowers and raindrops and umbrellas and happy<br />
thoughts of spring. Unfortunately, April also<br />
reminds us that not all children are in happy<br />
places. April is National Child Abuse Prevention<br />
Month. It was first declared Child Abuse<br />
Prevention Month by Presidential Proclamation<br />
in 1983. Since then, April has become a time to<br />
acknowledge and remember the importance of<br />
families and communities working together to<br />
prevent child abuse. In this issue of Fayetteville’s<br />
Women’s View, with the help of our local Child<br />
Advocacy Center, we explore and identify the<br />
factors known to prevent and reduce child abuse<br />
and neglect. I hope through our feature story,<br />
you feel as though we have provided you with<br />
resources and information and that you are able<br />
to participate in protecting children and stopping<br />
abuse along with family, friends and our<br />
community.<br />
Now that spring is in full swing, I’m not<br />
ashamed to admit that I have already removed<br />
the top on my jeep (a few times) and broken<br />
out my shorts and sleeveless blouses. Clocks<br />
moved forward and believe it or not, I’m actually<br />
ahead of the game this year on several<br />
projects!!! Having the longer daylight hours is<br />
such a blessing when there are so many things<br />
I need to accomplish outdoors and I will admit<br />
I am one of those people who tends to go into<br />
hibernation during the colder winter months.<br />
When I arrive home from work and it’s dark<br />
already, I just want to put on my pajamas and<br />
be a lounge lizard! When I have more sunlight<br />
in my day, it changes my entire perspective. I<br />
know this may seem strange but you know the<br />
saying “busy people get things done” well this<br />
busy person needs more daylight!!! Now, I can<br />
get more done!!!<br />
I am truly excited to start seeing all the trees<br />
budding; the white and pink of the Bradford<br />
pears – stinky or not - and the tulips and daffodils<br />
poking their little heads up out of the<br />
ground. This is an encouraging and sure sign<br />
that spring has finally arrived!<br />
So for now, I’m breaking out my flip-flops<br />
and enjoying the transition into spring.<br />
Until next month!<br />
Spring has officially arrived, all the<br />
signs are here! Fayetteville is starting<br />
to bloom all over. Everyone is hitting<br />
the streets walking, running or biking;<br />
enjoying the warm sunny days we’ve<br />
had lately. I have attempted to do<br />
some spring cleaning in my yard and<br />
then decided that I really do appreciate<br />
how hard my lawncare guy works!<br />
He definitely has job security working<br />
in my yard. On a beautiful spring<br />
day I would prefer to be sitting on<br />
a patio downtown sipping on a nice<br />
glass of wine, enjoying an appetizer<br />
Crystal MacClellan<br />
and good conversation.<br />
April is going to be an extremely busy month with spring break<br />
fast approaching and the Easter holiday. Of course, I have nothing<br />
planned at this point. I don’t know what happened. I used<br />
to be the most scheduled person on the planet. I guess with age<br />
you learn to not sweat the small stuff. Speaking of age, I look<br />
forward to celebrating my birthday with family and friends this<br />
month. How many times can you celebrate your 29th birthday? I<br />
think I can pull it off a few more years?<br />
I’m also looking forward to the Dogwood Festival April 24-26.<br />
There are a lot of activities surrounding this event. It kicks off<br />
Friday with a Garden Party fundraiser for The Girls and Boys<br />
Club of Fayetteville. Don’t forget your ”southern belle hats”<br />
ladies. You also don’t want to miss out on buying a duck for the<br />
Duck Derby on April 26 brought to you by Fayetteville Urban<br />
Ministry. There are so many great non-profit organizations to<br />
support in Fayetteville. I hope to see you all out and about this<br />
month, be sure to say hello!<br />
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April Contents<br />
Calendar ..........................................................................................................................................................................3<br />
Editors’ Notes...................................................................................................................................................................4<br />
Conversations With Margaret<br />
A Delicate Balance...............................................................................................................................6<br />
On The Cover<br />
April. Child Abuse Prevention Month...................................................................................................7<br />
Guardian Ad Litem (GAL).....................................................................................................................8<br />
For A GAL Volunteer, ‘A Little Goes a Long Way’..............................................................................9<br />
Recognizing and Reporting Suspected Child Abuse....................................................................10<br />
If You Believe, You can Change Your Stars....................................................................................12<br />
Jarred’s Story......................................................................................................................................13<br />
Fitness Spotlight<br />
Spring Clean Your Health..................................................................................................................16<br />
i_Lipo. A New Take On Body Contouring........................................................................................17<br />
Don’t Eat Less, Eat Right....................................................................................................................18<br />
Money Matters<br />
The Ugly Stepsister You Are Stuck With!...........................................................................................19<br />
Globe Trotting<br />
Let the Water That Has Moved Mountains Shape You..................................................................20<br />
Dishing it Up<br />
Stawberry Shortcake, Roasted Bell Pepper & Tomato Veggie Sandwich &<br />
Strawberry & Basil Margaritas...........................................................................................................21<br />
Turn the Page<br />
Hidden In Lies. Lies and Truth Book One..........................................................................................22<br />
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conversations withMargaret<br />
By Margaret Dickson<br />
As a parent, I know of no more exquisite<br />
torture than watching your child in distress<br />
and being unable to fix the situation.<br />
When children are young, parents often<br />
address whatever the trouble is with relative<br />
ease. A skinned knee, a broken toy, a spat with<br />
another child can all be dealt with, resolved,<br />
and forgotten. As children get older, though,<br />
the issues become more complex and more<br />
difficult to understand and to handle.<br />
School days bring conflicts with those<br />
in authority, troubles in relationships with<br />
peers, academic challenges and all the issues<br />
that come with human maturation. Young<br />
adulthood continues the complexity with<br />
broken romances, unfulfilled educational<br />
and career aspirations and the anticipation<br />
and apprehension that accompanies taking<br />
up adult responsibilities.<br />
Parents naturally want to ease the way for<br />
their children, no matter what their ages,<br />
but there is a fine balance between helping<br />
a child to grow into a productive and<br />
compassionate person and stunting their<br />
maturation, risking rendering them childlike<br />
creatures in adult bodies.<br />
We all know parents who love their children<br />
so fiercely, they cannot allow them to suffer in<br />
any way. These are the parents who do school<br />
projects while their children play. These are the<br />
parents who always take their children’s side<br />
on any issue, without ever acknowledging that<br />
their child might be in the wrong. These are<br />
the parents who ask their friends to give their<br />
children jobs to avoid rejection and failure in<br />
the open job market.<br />
Writing in The Atlantic, Jessica Lahey, a<br />
teacher, tells us why such blind love is not<br />
a good thing. Her article is entitled, “Why<br />
Parents Need to Let Their Children Fail.”<br />
Lahey recounts the story of a mother<br />
who wrote her daughter’s paper for Lahey’s<br />
class. The whole episode was unfortunate<br />
in many respects, of course, but it was<br />
particularly unfortunate since the mother<br />
plagiarized entire paragraphs from various<br />
websites. I shudder to think what the girl<br />
learned from that behavior! The mother<br />
confessed, the daughter finally wrote the<br />
paper herself and Lahey began pondering<br />
the concept of “over-parenting.”<br />
She found a study from Queensland<br />
University of Technology that looks at<br />
over-parenting, citing such examples as<br />
children kept so close to home they are<br />
not allowed to go to camp or to take<br />
driver’s education; parents who cut up their<br />
10-year-old’s food, or cook separate meals<br />
for picky 16-year-olds. Chances are good,<br />
Lahey says, that such children will eventually<br />
be just fine once they are out on their<br />
own in the real world.<br />
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Much more problematic are children who<br />
have never been allowed to take responsibility<br />
for their own actions; positive or negative.<br />
When a parent rushes in to save a child from<br />
a scary or difficult situation, the child does<br />
not have the opportunity to learn to solve his<br />
own problems. What is more, the child can<br />
develop a sense of entitlement that the world<br />
should always work the way he wants it to.<br />
Such children often have difficulty working<br />
with others, cooperating and collaborating in<br />
group settings. In short, they may not really<br />
grow up at all, because they have never been<br />
allowed to fail or to take the consequences of<br />
their own actions, so they have not learned<br />
how to cope with real-world situations.<br />
Lahey correctly asserts that teachers do<br />
not teach only academics, but much broader<br />
concepts, which are really the building<br />
blocks of a mature and successful human<br />
being. Says Lahey, “We teach responsibility,<br />
organization, manners, restraint and<br />
foresight. These skills may not get assessed<br />
on standardized testing, but as children plot<br />
their journey into adulthood, they are, by<br />
far, the most important life skills I teach.”<br />
Yes, indeed.<br />
These are also the skills that good parents<br />
teach children by correcting them when<br />
they are wrong, holding them accountable<br />
for their actions and the actions they do<br />
not take and by modeling these behaviors<br />
themselves. Good parents seek not only<br />
to protect their children from pain, harm<br />
and failure, but to give them the skills and<br />
experience to cope with the pain, harm and<br />
failure that inevitably comes to each and<br />
every one of us.<br />
In writing this, I have been reminded<br />
of a friend who, many years ago, when her<br />
children were young, did a bang-up fine job<br />
on her child’s North Carolina history project.<br />
During the process her child popped in<br />
periodically to find out how “her project”<br />
was going as her mother labored over a<br />
scale model of a famous North Carolina<br />
building, complete with tiny silk azaleas<br />
under the windows. My friend was so proud<br />
of the “A” her child received, she called all of<br />
her friends with the happy news.<br />
As far as I know, that child has grown<br />
into a fine young woman, but the delicate<br />
line between responsible parenting and<br />
over-parenting was definitely crossed on<br />
that project.<br />
The lesson here is apparently not how<br />
much love is too much but how to love both<br />
completely and responsibly.<br />
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Child Abuse Prevention Month<br />
April is Child Abuse Prevention<br />
Month, but truthfully, every month<br />
should be Child Abuse Prevention<br />
Month. Recently our community has<br />
been appropriately outraged by the<br />
maltreatment of three dogs — one<br />
injured and subsequently drowned,<br />
another starved to death and a puppy<br />
brutally beaten to death — all three<br />
at the hands of their owners.<br />
The irony in all of this is that in<br />
1874, the first child to be removed<br />
from abusive and neglectful guardians<br />
was 9-year-old Mary Ellen<br />
Wilson. Intervention on her behalf<br />
occurred after the founder of the<br />
American Society for Prevention of<br />
Cruelty to Animals asked his lawyer<br />
to find a legal mechanism to rescue<br />
the child as there were no laws at<br />
that time protecting children, only<br />
animals. It was not until 1962 that<br />
the first meaningful legislation was<br />
passed that mandated the reporting<br />
and protection of abused and<br />
neglected children.<br />
In l974, Congress assumed a leadership<br />
role with the passage of the Child<br />
Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act<br />
authorizing federal funds to improve<br />
state response to physical abuse, neglect<br />
and sexual abuse. CAPTA focused<br />
particular attention on improved investigation<br />
and reporting of child abuse.<br />
Additionally, CAPTA provided funds<br />
for training and for the establishment<br />
of multidisciplinary centers focused on<br />
child abuse and neglect.<br />
Our challenge today is to make<br />
sure our community is as outraged<br />
by acts of violence against defenseless<br />
children as it has been about the maltreatment<br />
of defenseless animals. If<br />
we truly believe that our children are<br />
our future and that they are our most<br />
precious asset, then we as a community<br />
must do all we can to advocate<br />
for them and to protect them.<br />
North Carolina Law mandates that<br />
anyone who suspects a child is being<br />
abused or neglected by their parent,<br />
guardian or custodian must contact<br />
the local Department of Social<br />
Services and make a report. They<br />
may also contact law enforcement,<br />
and should contact law enforcement<br />
directly when they are aware of a<br />
child being abused or exploited by a<br />
non-custodian. This law applies to all<br />
children, including those residing on<br />
a military base.<br />
We are fortunate in Cumberland<br />
County to have established a multidisciplinary<br />
team approach to the<br />
investigation of serious physical and<br />
sexual abuse. This team is made up<br />
of Child Protective Services workers,<br />
law enforcement, the district attorney,<br />
district court representative, mental<br />
health, medical provider, military<br />
representatives, the Cumberland<br />
County School System and Child<br />
Advocacy Center staff, including a<br />
child forensic interviewer. The Child<br />
Advocacy Center takes the lead in<br />
coordinating the team approach that<br />
ensures collaboration and the sharing<br />
of information among team members.<br />
Decisions are shared by all members<br />
of the team and may include recommendations<br />
for removal, prosecution<br />
of perpetrators and treatment options<br />
for the child victims and their family.<br />
So as we remember our children<br />
during this time, let us also remember<br />
and support the very difficult job our<br />
multidisciplinary team members are<br />
called upon to perform. Let us also<br />
remember that decisions they make<br />
are based on information and evidence<br />
that is gathered during a given<br />
point in time. It is critical that reporters<br />
of suspected child abuse provide<br />
specific information as to why they<br />
believe a child is being abused so that<br />
team members mandated to investigate<br />
can gather the necessary information<br />
that will allow them to protect<br />
the child and to provide necessary<br />
treatment for the child and family.<br />
For information on initiatives that<br />
target child abuse prevention, contact<br />
the Child Advocacy Center at (910)<br />
486-9700. Training options include<br />
Stewards of Children Child Sexual<br />
Abuse Prevention, Recognizing and<br />
Reporting Abuse and Internet Safety<br />
and other prevention programs.<br />
By Rosemary Zimmerman,<br />
Child Advocacy Center Board of Advocates Chairperson<br />
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Could you be the voice for a child?<br />
By Janice Burton<br />
The idea of going to court is scary for an adult; it is even more so for a child<br />
who enters the judicial system through no fault of his own. Many of those children<br />
find themselves in untenable situations and thrust into an overburdened<br />
child welfare system. Alone, confused and scared, they have no voice.<br />
But thanks to a group of dedicated volunteers, abused and neglected children<br />
find their voice through the work of a court-appointed Guardian ad Litem.<br />
The Guardian Ad Litem program is designed to provide legal representation<br />
for children who find themselves in this situation. In North Carolina, more<br />
than 1,700 abused and neglected children go to court alone – with absolutely<br />
no one to stand for them. Children who are fortunate enough to have a Guardian<br />
appointed have an advocate who speaks for them, conferring with the<br />
presiding judge to find a solution that is in their best interest. In Cumberland<br />
County, The Guardian Ad Litem program falls under the auspices of the Court<br />
Appointed Special Advocates office. The program was established In North<br />
Carolina in 1983 by the N.C. General Assembly, and pursuant to G.S. 7B-601,<br />
when a petition alleging abuse or neglect of a juvenile is filed in district court,<br />
the judge appoints a volunteer Guardian ad Litem advocate and an attorney advocate<br />
to provide team representation to the child, who is recognized as someone<br />
having full party status in trial and appellate proceedings. Each volunteer<br />
Guardian Ad Litem is charged with performing five key tasks:<br />
• Fulfill state and federal statutory mandates to protect and promote the<br />
best interests of juveniles in abuse and neglect court proceedings<br />
• Help the courts work efficiently toward safety and permanence for children<br />
• Conduct independent investigations to determine the facts, needs of the<br />
child and the resources appropriate to meet those needs<br />
• Determine the wishes or expressed preferences of the child and report<br />
those to the court<br />
• Provide a voice for abused and neglected children<br />
In Cumberland County, there are two attorney advocates, four program<br />
supervisors, a program assistant, a district administrator and approximately<br />
100 volunteers.<br />
Dwight Torrey is the district administrator in Cumberland County. According<br />
to Torrey, GALs represent annually more than 640 children each year. The children,<br />
who are taken from their homes, are initially placed with a relative or friend<br />
if the court authorizes it or put directly into foster care. Once placement of a child<br />
is taken care of, the clock starts rolling to either get the child back home with their<br />
parents if at all possible or to find a permanent placement for them.<br />
This is where the Guardian ad Litem steps in. Torrey explains that the<br />
Guardian’s sole role is to be the voice and advocate for their child. To do that,<br />
they must understand what the child wants; his concerns, fears and needs. This<br />
isn’t an easy process.<br />
“We go into that first meeting and the child is scared. They don’t know what<br />
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is going to happen to them. They have been traumatized,” he explained. “We<br />
tell them who we are and why we are there. We explain that our job is to let the<br />
judge know their wishes and concerns. It’s a process. Initially, they are seeing a<br />
lot of people, and in that first meeting, we are just another face.”<br />
He said the child might be closed down or distant, but as they continue to<br />
see the Guardian as a consistent presence, as someone who truly cares about<br />
listening to them, hearing them, helping them, they being to open up. Torrey<br />
said for most children, this usually happens on the fourth visit.<br />
Once the volunteer advocate has earned the trust of a child, the main goal<br />
of the advocate is to determine<br />
what the child wants and how<br />
they can best help them. As is the<br />
case with most child abuse/neglect<br />
cases, the goal is for the family to<br />
become whole again. This process<br />
can up to a year or two years,<br />
and is largely dependent on the<br />
progress of the parents and their<br />
willingness to meet the rulings set<br />
by the court, such as family therapy,<br />
child-rearing classes, anger<br />
management, etc. If the parents<br />
are successful, the child returns<br />
home. In Torrey’s experience, that<br />
happens about 80 to 85 percent<br />
of the time; however, many of the<br />
children return back into the system.<br />
When that happens the court<br />
may consider permanently removing<br />
a child from their parents and<br />
finding them a new home<br />
With the sheer number of<br />
children that are entering and<br />
exiting the system, it is imperative<br />
that there are number of trained,<br />
compassionate GALs to step in<br />
and become the voice of these<br />
disenfranchised children.<br />
The GAL program, other than the paid support staff is entirely volunteerdriven.<br />
Finding volunteers who are willing to step into such an emotionally<br />
charged situation is not always easily.<br />
“We are definitely looking for people who can work independently, who are<br />
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For A GAL Volunteer,<br />
‘A Little Goes a Long Way’<br />
high energy, persistent and consistent,” said Torrey. “A volunteer<br />
guardian may have to make numerous phone calls before they ever<br />
get it answered or returned. They have to break through and build a<br />
relationship with a child who really doesn’t trust adults.”<br />
Being a Guardian ad Litem is not for the faint of heart. But it is<br />
for those whose hearts are full for children in need. Volunteers to<br />
the program are mature, stable community residents. There is no<br />
educational requirement; however, all volunteers must go through a<br />
training program operated by the state and pass an intensive background<br />
check and in-depth interviews with the staff. Not everyone<br />
is suited for this position.<br />
The training, which occurs the first and third week of the<br />
month, begins at 8: 30 a.m. in the Cumberland County Courthouse.<br />
Training consists of a 30-hour class, which covers everything<br />
from how the system works to how the guardian plugs into<br />
its community partners.<br />
“This is where they learn that our job is to be the eyes and ears of<br />
the court in order to protect a child’s well being,” said Torrey.<br />
Following the 30-hour training class, volunteers have four hours<br />
of court observation to see the process in action. Following successful<br />
completion of the court, the volunteer is sworn in as an officer of the<br />
court and begins receiving assignments.<br />
“At that point, everything is done on their time line,” said Torrey.<br />
“All GALs with an active case must visit the child in their charge at<br />
a minimum one time a month; however, more visits are better.”<br />
He explained that the guardian visits the child Monday through<br />
Saturday in the various places they go, i.e., at school, childcare,<br />
church, foster placement, etc. This allows the guardian to see how<br />
the child is progressing and to remain current on what the child<br />
needs. On average each guardian has two cases at a time; one case<br />
is active and one case is in monitoring status, following the children<br />
through permanent placement or unification.<br />
Torrey said that while the job is not for everyone, there are other<br />
roles and other ways that people can help. Key to the success is<br />
getting the word out about the program. Throughout the year, the<br />
office will participate in different types of events, which are mainly<br />
aimed at attracting volunteers.<br />
“We need people who can help us with these recruitment<br />
events, who can set up at various functions and expos and talk<br />
about the program and let people know the importance of<br />
it,” said Torrey. “While we are advocating for the children of<br />
Cumberland County,<br />
Lorendy Lugo is a self-professed Army<br />
Brat and only child, who moved frequently,<br />
but always found a way to make new friends<br />
and adapt to her new surroundings.<br />
As a college student at the University of<br />
North Carolina Pembroke, she found that volunteering<br />
was a great way to connect to others.<br />
“Making sure that I always gave back to<br />
my community and those who are less fortunate<br />
was something that my mother instilled<br />
in me at an early age,” she explained.<br />
“Growing up, my mother and I would often<br />
feed the homeless at different shelters in<br />
our community. I have always been the one<br />
to lend a helping hand to anyone in need<br />
and wanted to continue that throughout my<br />
college career.”<br />
To that end, Lugo made a visit to the Office<br />
of Community and Civic Engagement<br />
at UNC-P during her sophomore year and<br />
signed up to volunteer for community events.<br />
“My very first event was a Dr. Seuss<br />
Reading Party. I asked the Associate Director<br />
of the CCE, Christie Poteet, what it was<br />
that I would be doing during the reading<br />
party and she explained that I would be<br />
reading to kindergarten through first grade<br />
students, as well as playing a few activities<br />
that would encourage them to want to read<br />
more,” recalled Lugo, who is currently the<br />
volunteer spotlight for the Cumberland<br />
County Guardian ad Litem. “I thought to<br />
myself, ‘That should be a piece of cake!’<br />
“The day came, and I was just an hour<br />
away from being in charge of at least 10<br />
little bodies. I have always had a love for<br />
children, so I didn’t think that it would be<br />
too hard; 11 a.m. hit and about 15 little<br />
bodies were facing me, waiting for me to<br />
read Dr. Seuss’, “The Cat in the Hat!,” she<br />
continued. “I had never been so nervous or<br />
had to interact with this many children at<br />
once. So I did what I thought anyone else<br />
would do; I got into character and tried to<br />
become Dr. Seuss. By the end of the story,<br />
the children wanted me to read another<br />
book; unfortunately, we had to move on to<br />
the next station. Apparently, I did a great<br />
job since they wanted me to continue with<br />
another book, right? My main concern was<br />
making sure that they were not only having<br />
fun, but learning as well. By the end of the<br />
event, they were coming up to me hugging<br />
me and telling me how much fun they had.”<br />
That experience had a major impact on<br />
Lugo’s life, not only did it show her the<br />
value in volunteering, but it also helped<br />
her realize how much she genuinely<br />
enjoyed interacting and helping children.<br />
That realization lead Poteet to introduce<br />
her to Michelle Ivy, the program supervisor<br />
for the Robeson County Guardian ad<br />
Litem program.<br />
“After conversing with Mrs. Ivy, I decided<br />
to obtain the proper training and I even<br />
brought my roommate along with me so she<br />
could join in. I was sworn in as a Guardian<br />
ad Litem Advocate in March of 2013,” said<br />
Lugo. She worked with the program for a<br />
while, but was forced to reorder her activities<br />
to make school her number one priority.<br />
Upon graduation from UNC-P with a<br />
bachelor’s in criminal justice, Lugo returned<br />
to the program.<br />
“I picked back up with the Guardian<br />
ad Litem Program here in Cumberland<br />
County following graduation,” she said. “I<br />
thoroughly enjoy volunteering with GAL.<br />
Knowing that I get to advocate for children<br />
who have been abused or neglected, children<br />
who without me, would remain voiceless.<br />
Helping them makes me happy. When<br />
coming into the GAL office, I always try<br />
to keep in mind what Christie Poteet has<br />
always told me, ‘A little goes a long way.’”<br />
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Recognizing and Reporting Suspected Child Abuse<br />
By Janice Burton<br />
For many, the picture of child abuse is a child with blackened eyes or broken<br />
bones. While that may be a very visual indication that a child is suffering abuse,<br />
there are other, less visible types of abuse that leave deeper scars and have a longlasting<br />
impact on a child’s life.<br />
While physical abuse is easily recognized due to the scars it leaves, not all child<br />
abuse is as obvious. Ignoring a child’s needs, putting a child in unsupervised, dangerous<br />
situations, or making a child feel worthless or stupid are also child abuse.<br />
Whichever the case, the earlier abuse is detected, reported and resolved, the<br />
greater chance the child has to heal. By understanding common signs of abuse<br />
and knowing what actions you can take if you suspect abuse, you have the ability<br />
to greatly impact the life of a child.<br />
In North Carolina, child abuse is a reality that must be dealt with In FY 2013-<br />
2014, 128,005 children were referred to local Departments of Social Services for<br />
possible abuse and neglect. During this same time period, 7,103 reports of child<br />
abuse and neglect were reported in Cumberland County, with male children<br />
under 5 at highest risk, according to statistics gathered by Prevent Child Abuse<br />
North Carolina.<br />
Current resource on child abuse, shows that communities feel powerless to deal<br />
with abuse when media coverage on abuse and fatalities are widespread. Instead, the<br />
best way to start a conversation about child abuse is to ensure that people feel that<br />
they can have an impact on stopping the abuse and or preventing it. Understanding<br />
child abuse, its impact and how to respond to it, empowers a community to become<br />
part of the solution by giving them a healthy way to deal with the problem.<br />
Common Myths About Child Abuse and Neglect<br />
MYTH #1: It’s only abuse if it’s violent.<br />
Fact: Physical abuse is just one type of child abuse. Neglect and emotional abuse<br />
can be just as damaging, and since they are more subtle, others are less likely to<br />
intervene.<br />
MYTH #2: Only bad people abuse their children.<br />
Fact: While it’s easy to say that only “bad people” abuse their children, it’s not always<br />
so black and white. Not all abusers are intentionally harming their children. Many<br />
have been victims of abuse themselves, and don’t know any other way to parent. Others<br />
may be struggling with mental health issues or a substance abuse problem.<br />
MYTH #3: Child abuse doesn’t happen in “good” families.<br />
Fact: Child abuse doesn’t only happen in poor families or bad neighborhoods. It<br />
crosses all racial, economic, and cultural lines. Sometimes, families who seem to<br />
have it all from the outside are hiding a different story behind closed doors.<br />
MYTH #4: Most child abusers are strangers.<br />
Fact: While abuse by strangers does happen, most abusers are family members or<br />
others close to the family.<br />
MYTH #5: Abused children always grow up to be abusers.<br />
Fact: It is true that abused children are more likely to repeat the cycle as adults, unconsciously<br />
repeating what they experienced as children. On the other hand, many<br />
adult survivors of child abuse have a strong motivation to protect their children<br />
against what they went through and become excellent parents.<br />
Effects of Child Abuse<br />
Children who have been abused suffer more than broken bones and bumps.<br />
Abuse can have long-lasting impacts on a child’s life, leaving the child emotionally<br />
scared and damaging their sense of self worth. Abused children are often<br />
unable to create or maintain healthy relationships as teens and even over into<br />
adulthood. These children may have trouble succeeding in school, creating and<br />
maintaining friendships and later, in adulthood holding down a job and have a<br />
successful relationship.<br />
Some effects include:<br />
• Lack of trust and relationship difficulties. If you can’t trust your parents,<br />
whom can you trust? Abuse by a primary caregiver damages the most fundamental<br />
relationship as a child— that you will safely, reliably get your physical and<br />
emotional needs met by the person who is responsible for your care. Without this<br />
base, it is very difficult to learn to trust people or know who is trustworthy. This<br />
can lead to difficulty maintaining relationships due to fear of being controlled or<br />
abused. It can also lead to unhealthy relationships because the adult doesn’t know<br />
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what a good relationship is.<br />
• Core feelings of being “worthless” or “damaged.” If you’ve been told over and<br />
over again as a child that you are stupid or no good, it is very difficult to overcome<br />
these core feelings. You may experience them as reality. Adults may not strive for more<br />
education, or settle for a job that may not pay enough, because they don’t believe they<br />
can do it or are worth more. Sexual abuse survivors, with the stigma and shame surrounding<br />
the abuse, often especially struggle with a feeling of being damaged.<br />
• Trouble regulating emotions. Abused children cannot express emotions<br />
safely. As a result, the emotions get stuffed down, coming out in unexpected ways.<br />
Adult survivors of child abuse can struggle with unexplained anxiety, depression,<br />
or anger. They may turn to alcohol or drugs to numb out the painful feelings.<br />
TYPES OF ABUSE<br />
Child abuse isn’t just about bruises. There are many types of recognized child<br />
abuse, but all forms go back to the emotional impact of abuse on the child.<br />
Emotional child abuse<br />
Emotional abuse can severely damage a child’s mental health or social development,<br />
leaving lifelong psychological scars. Examples include:<br />
• Constant belittling, shaming, and humiliating a child.<br />
• Calling names and making negative comparisons to others.<br />
• Telling a child he or she is “no good,” “worthless,” “bad,” or “a mistake.”<br />
• Frequent yelling, threatening, or bullying.<br />
• Ignoring or rejecting a child as punishment, giving him or her the silent treatment.<br />
• Limited physical contact with the child—no hugs, kisses, or other signs<br />
of affection.<br />
Warning signs of emotion abuse in children include:<br />
• Excessively withdrawn, fearful, or anxious about doing something wrong.<br />
• Shows extremes in behavior (extremely compliant or extremely demanding;<br />
extremely passive or extremely aggressive).<br />
• Doesn’t seem to be attached to the parent or caregiver.<br />
• Acts either inappropriately adult (taking care of other children) or inappropriately<br />
infantile (rocking, thumb-sucking, throwing tantrums).<br />
Child Neglect<br />
Child neglect is a pattern of failing to provide for a child’s basic needs, whether<br />
it is adequate food, clothing, hygiene, or supervision.<br />
Warning signs of abuse include:<br />
• Clothes are ill fitting, filthy, or inappropriate for the weather.<br />
• Hygiene is consistently bad (unbathed, matted and unwashed hair, noticeable<br />
body odor).<br />
• Untreated illnesses and physical injuries.<br />
• Is frequently unsupervised or left alone or allowed to play in unsafe situations<br />
and environments.<br />
• Is frequently late or missing from school.<br />
Physical Abuse<br />
Physical Abuse involves physical harm or injury to the child. It may be the<br />
result of a deliberate attempt to hurt the child, but not always. It can also result<br />
from severe discipline, such as using a belt on a child, or physical punishment that<br />
is inappropriate to the child’s age or physical condition.<br />
Many physically abusive parents and caregivers insist that their actions are simply<br />
forms of discipline—ways to make children learn to behave. But there is a big<br />
difference between using physical punishment to discipline and physical abuse.<br />
The point of disciplining children is to teach them right from wrong, not to make<br />
them live in fear.<br />
Warning sign of physical abuse include:<br />
• Frequent injuries or unexplained bruises, welts, or cuts.<br />
• Is always watchful and “on alert,” as if waiting for something bad to happen.<br />
• Injuries appear to have a pattern such as marks from a hand or belt.<br />
• Shies away from touch, flinches at sudden movements, or seems afraid to go home.<br />
• Wears inappropriate clothing to cover up injuries, such as long-sleeved shirts<br />
on hot days.<br />
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Sexual Abuse<br />
Child sexual abuse is an especially complicated form of abuse because of its layers<br />
of guilt and shame. It’s important to recognize that sexual abuse doesn’t always<br />
involve body contact. Exposing a child to sexual situations or material is sexually<br />
abusive, whether or not touching is involved.<br />
While news stories of sexual predators are scary, what is even more frightening is that<br />
sexual abuse usually occurs at the hands of someone the child knows and should be able<br />
to trust—most often close relatives. And contrary to what many believe, it’s not just<br />
girls who are at risk. Boys and girls both suffer from sexual abuse. In fact, sexual abuse<br />
of boys may be underreported due to shame and stigma.<br />
Warning signs of child sex abuse include:<br />
• Trouble walking or sitting.<br />
• Displays knowledge or interest in sexual acts inappropriate to his or her age, or<br />
even seductive behavior.<br />
• Makes strong efforts to avoid a specific person, without an obvious reason.<br />
• Doesn’t want to change clothes in front of others or participate in physical activities.<br />
• An STD or pregnancy, especially under the age of 14.<br />
• Runs away from home.<br />
Reporting Child Abuse<br />
North Carolina law requires that any adult who suspects that abuse is occurring<br />
must make a report.<br />
Reporting child abuse can bring up a lot of difficult emotions and uncertainty. You<br />
may ask yourself if you’re doing the right thing, or question if your voice will even be<br />
heard. Here are some tips for communicating effectively in difficult situations:<br />
• Try to be as specific as you can. For example, instead of saying, “The parents<br />
are not dressing their children right,” say something like, “I saw the child running<br />
outside three times last week in subzero weather without a jacket or hat. I saw<br />
him shivering and uncomfortable. He seemed to want to come inside.” However,<br />
remember that it is not your job to “prove” abuse or neglect. If suspicions are all you<br />
have, you should report those as well.<br />
• Understand that you may not learn of the outcome. Due to confidentiality laws<br />
in the U.S., unless you are a mandated reporter in an official capacity, Child Protective<br />
Services probably won’t update you about the results of their investigation. The<br />
family may not broadcast that they have been mandated services, either — but that<br />
doesn’t mean they are not receiving them.<br />
• If you see future incidences, continue to call and report them. Each child abuse<br />
report is a snapshot of what is going on in the family. The more information that you<br />
can provide, the better the chance of getting the best care for the child.<br />
What Can You Do If You Believe a Child Is Being Abused or Neglected?<br />
An excellent way to help improve a situation for a child and create connections<br />
within your community is to become comfortable involving yourself in the lives<br />
of others. Whether it is helping to alleviate stressful situations you see in public<br />
places, such as helping a parent with a small child get through the checkout line<br />
at the grocery store, or offering to listen to an acquaintance who seems aggravated<br />
with his or her children, your support in even the smallest ways can make a huge<br />
difference in preventing possible harm to children.<br />
Report your suspicions to your local child abuse or child protection hotline.<br />
Again, everyone has the right and responsibility to report any incidence of suspected<br />
child abuse or neglect at any time. You do not need to have “evidence” or actual<br />
knowledge of abuse when you make a report; all you need is reasonable cause, suspicion<br />
or belief based on your observations. Information to support your concern<br />
may include your firsthand observations or beliefs, your professional training or<br />
experience, or statements made to you by the child or parent. The more specific and<br />
concrete information you can provide, the better.<br />
It is also important for you to know that all states have laws that protect reporters<br />
from legal liability as long as reports are made in good faith.<br />
Whom Do You Call? Then What Happens?<br />
To report suspected abuse or neglect, contact your local child welfare agency.<br />
Depending on where you live, this agency might be called Department of Social<br />
Services, Children and Family Services or Human Welfare. The contact number for<br />
your local child welfare agency can be found online at http://www.childwelfare.gov/<br />
If you feel that the child is in an emergency situation, however, call 911 or your local<br />
law enforcement agency immediately.<br />
The person who responds to your call will ask you several questions in order to<br />
provide the assessment or investigative team with sufficient information. Keep in<br />
mind that you do not need to know all the answers to make a report; you just need<br />
to be as comprehensive, specific and clear as possible with what you do know.<br />
Information for this article was compiled from a variety of sources dealing with<br />
child abuse in North Carolina.<br />
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If You Believe,<br />
You can Change Your Stars<br />
By Stephanie Crider<br />
Liz Murray is a highly sought after<br />
inspirational speaker, and in April,<br />
area residents will have the opportunity<br />
to hear her speak. Brad Loase,<br />
the owner of Express Employment, is<br />
one of many who are excited to hear<br />
her story in her own words.<br />
“I think Liz’s story is really great.<br />
Rather than accepting her situation,<br />
she saw what she could be and what<br />
she wanted to be and she went for it<br />
and committed to it,” he said. “That<br />
is something we can all learn from.”<br />
Murray’s presentation is part of<br />
the Refresh Leadership Live Sumulcast<br />
on April 15 at the Holiday Inn<br />
I-95, 1944 Cedar Creek Road. The<br />
seminar is sponsored by a number of<br />
local businesses, including Express<br />
Employment Professionals and Up &<br />
Coming Weekly. The event begins at<br />
9 a.m. and includes a Live Simulcast<br />
featuring Daymond John, CEO of<br />
FUBU, Shark Branding and ABC’s<br />
Shark Tank; comedian Dan Aykroyd<br />
and Murray.<br />
Following the free simulcast, attendees<br />
are invited to participate<br />
in the Keynote Luncheon, which<br />
features former Fayetteville resident,<br />
now turned motivational speaker<br />
Denise Ryan. Ryan travels extensively<br />
throughout the southeast lighting<br />
fires of enthusiasm. She has spoken<br />
for Fortune 500s ,as well as small<br />
businesses and government agencies<br />
wanting to boost morale or institute<br />
change. She specializes in enthusiasm<br />
— reminding audience members<br />
that life without passion or purpose<br />
is empty. FireStar speeches burn, so if<br />
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one kitchen to avoid! Advance tickets<br />
to the luncheon are $35. Registration<br />
at the door is $45.<br />
Throughout the day, a Shop Small<br />
Business Expo will be ongoing from<br />
9 a.m. to 5:15 p.m. For more information<br />
about the day-long event<br />
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Life’s not fair. That’s no secret. Although it seems that fate is<br />
more unkind to some people than to others. In the end, we all play<br />
the hand we are dealt and hope for the best. And for some, we<br />
take the hand dealt and defy the odds to create an amazing<br />
life, such is the case with Liz Murray.<br />
Murray was born in the Bronx in 1980 to drug addicted<br />
parents. Her life, like those of others born into<br />
her situation, could have followed the path of least<br />
resistance. She could have followed her parents down<br />
the path into drug addiction, which leads many to<br />
sell their bodies on the street for a fix. Or she could<br />
have engaged in a life of crime to get the things<br />
she wanted that her parents could not provide.<br />
Or she could take the road less traveled by those<br />
in her community; the one that took her out<br />
of the projects, off the street and to Harvard<br />
Square. Murray went against the odds and<br />
chose Harvard.<br />
In speaking of her childhood, Murray refers<br />
to her parents as “well-meaning” even in the<br />
midst of their addiction; that being said, there<br />
was not a lot for her family to celebrate. Her<br />
home life was centered around the first of the<br />
month when the welfare check arrived. In her book<br />
Breaking Night: A Memoir of Forgiveness, Survival and My<br />
Journey from Homeless to Harvard, she writes about the<br />
excitement of the postman’s visit.<br />
“The first of the month, the day Ma’s stipend from<br />
welfare was due, held all the ritual and celebration of<br />
Christmas morning. Our collective anticipation of the<br />
money filled the apartment with a kind of electricity,<br />
guaranteeing that Ma and Daddy would be agreeable<br />
and upbeat for at least 24 hours each month. ”<br />
By the end of the week, with the money gone, despair<br />
would again pervade the home and Murray and<br />
her sister turned to their standby of egg and mayonnaise<br />
sandwiches. When that option was exhausted<br />
and her parents had spent everything on cocaine and<br />
heroin, she and her sister would eat ice cubes and even<br />
once split a tube of toothpaste.<br />
Most people would think her life couldn’t get any<br />
worse, but Murray, a realist, quietly waited for the other<br />
shoe to drop. That happened when she was 11-years<br />
old. Her mother was diagnosed with AIDS. Shortly<br />
after that, her parents split up. She lived with her dad<br />
until she was 13, and was placed in the child welfare<br />
system. Her mother was able to get her back for a short<br />
period, but at the age of 15, she had dropped out of<br />
school, was homeless and on the streets.<br />
She recounts how she slept in doorways and on<br />
subway cars. When she was 16, her 41-year-old<br />
mother died. For Murray, who was still living in stairwells,<br />
it was a turning point. She started writing in her<br />
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journal, and one day, while crouched in the doorway,<br />
she had a spiritual epiphany and made a pledge to<br />
her mother that she would excel, which meant going<br />
back to school, a place where she had been bullied<br />
for her poverty. Murray became a top student at a<br />
Manhattan alternative school, and finished it in two<br />
years instead of four. While there, she wrote an essay<br />
on her personal journey. That essay was her ticket to<br />
Harvard, but it didn’t fix everything. It took her nearly<br />
10 years to finish at the university, but during that<br />
time she came to realize that she was not a victim of<br />
fate, but rather that she was in charge of her own life.<br />
She could decide her future. Much like William in A<br />
Knight’s Tale, Murray lived this quote from the movie:<br />
“Can a people change the stars?”<br />
“Yes, if one believes enough, they can do anything!”<br />
Murray took that life lesson and turned it into her<br />
book, which was later made into a Lifetime movie<br />
Homeless to Harvard: The Liz Murray Story, which was<br />
based on her book a New Times Best Seller. Today,<br />
Murray uses her fame and her life to try to influence<br />
others to take control of their own lives and to<br />
recognize that who they become has nothing to do<br />
with where they started. She travels the nation talking<br />
to groups big and small, with a particular emphasis on<br />
homeless teens, changing them one speech at a time.<br />
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By Janice Burton<br />
“Jarred was a teacher,” said Sparks.<br />
“I didn’t realize what<br />
he was doing in our lives until he<br />
was gone. Hands down he<br />
has been the most influential<br />
person in my life.”<br />
Amy Sparks is a friendly woman. The career educator does not appear<br />
to meet a stranger. Even over the telephone you feel a warmth emanating<br />
from her. You hear something in her voice that lets you know she cares<br />
… about a lot of things.<br />
A teacher at Vanstory Elementary School, Sparks has been tested by<br />
fire and it has refined her spirit and strengthened her resolve.<br />
“Have you ever lost a child?” she asks with a voice that is thick with<br />
unshed tears. “Losing a child is devastating. It’s a club you definitely<br />
don’t want to belong to. It is gut wrenching. It is the worst thing that<br />
could ever happen to you. EVER.”<br />
For some, the loss of a child breaks them; marriages and families fall<br />
apart. Dreams die. People struggle just to find the strength to go on,<br />
to get out of bed, to get dressed. That isn’t the case with Sparks and<br />
her family.<br />
On June 10, 2011, the unthinkable happened<br />
and the Sparks lost their son Jarred<br />
in a tragic accident.<br />
“The biggest thing that I can say about<br />
Jarred’s story, in the least amount of<br />
words, is that I know my son is telling me,<br />
‘Mom, let my memory go on by helping<br />
others,’” she said. “That is where I gain my<br />
strength. First and foremost from God,<br />
and in knowing that I am doing what<br />
Jarred would want me to do and knowing<br />
that I am going to see my son again.<br />
When I’m feeling weak or sad, I can hear<br />
him telling me, ‘Mom, you have a job to<br />
do. Now get it done.”<br />
For Sparks, and those who knew and loved Jarred, taking this devastating<br />
event in their lives and turning it to good is a way to celebrate<br />
Jarred’s life.<br />
At the age of two and half, Jarred was diagnosed with severe autism.<br />
He was non-verbal.<br />
“Jarred was 5 before I have ever heard him say ‘momma’,” explained<br />
Sparks. “He was 7, before I heard the words ‘I love you.’ It’s hard to<br />
know what that means to a momma if you’ve always had it. I had so<br />
longed to hear his voice.”<br />
And that’s where Jarred’s story really begins. The Sparks wanted more<br />
for their son than to see him locked up inside himself. So they started<br />
researching alternative means of treatment for children with autism. This<br />
was in the early days, when autism was not very well understood. At that<br />
time, in Sparks’ opinion, children with autism were pushed aside.<br />
“So many times people think that children with this kind of<br />
disability are not going to amount to anything, so why bother even trying,”<br />
she said.<br />
Sparks<br />
believed<br />
Jarred could<br />
be so much<br />
more, so she<br />
kept pushing,<br />
even to the extent of suing the Fort Bragg School System in order to get<br />
advanced therapy implemented for children with autism.<br />
“For many, many years, my husband I were in this fight alone for<br />
Jarred. My husband would drive from Pope Air Force Base to Greensboro<br />
two or three times a week for speech therapy,” she explained. “We<br />
were the first family in the area to bring Applied Behavioral Analysis to<br />
Fayetteville.”<br />
The program, which is based on intense<br />
behavior modification, had phenomenal<br />
results with Jarred, who received 50 hours<br />
a week of one-on-one instruction.<br />
“Believe you me, it made the biggest<br />
difference in our lives. It saved our lives,”<br />
she said. “At that point, I wanted to prove<br />
that children deserve a quality education.<br />
We saw that with Jarred and his therapy.<br />
While children with disabilities at Fort<br />
Bragg Schools were mastering four objectives<br />
or less in a year, Jarred was mastering<br />
400 in four months.”<br />
Winning the fight with Bragg to bring<br />
the therapy into the school system was<br />
a major step forward for Sparks and Jarred. Jarred found his voice and<br />
was able to connect with those around him. Those are the memories that<br />
keep Sparks going.<br />
“Jarred was a teacher,” said Sparks. “I didn’t realize what he was doing<br />
in our lives until he was gone. Hands down he has been the most influential<br />
person in my life.”<br />
And not just in Sparks’ life.<br />
“I don’t know anyone who didn’t love him,” she continued. “He had a<br />
way of finding your heart and just stole it. His death was devastating to<br />
so many people in our lives. That tragedy isn’t just ours.”<br />
Talking about Jarred’s last days doesn’t come easy for Sparks.<br />
“It was the last day of school. It was really weird, but Jarred found a<br />
way of saying goodbye to everybody, we just didn’t know it at that time,”<br />
she said.<br />
Two days before he died, Mr. Williams, his teacher (who is also the president<br />
of the Jarred Bryan Sparks Foundation) had his chance at goodbye.<br />
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Amy Sparks has turned the tragedy of her son Jerred’s death into hope with the<br />
creation of a new school for children with autism.<br />
“Mr. Williams loved Jarred like<br />
a son. When the day was over, he<br />
would always call out to Jarred to<br />
come and give him a hug. On that<br />
day, Jarred walked up and gave<br />
him a hug without being asked,”<br />
she said. “My daughter Kelsey and<br />
Jarred used to do this dance together.<br />
They did it the day before he<br />
died. She had the chance to dance<br />
with her brother one more time.”<br />
For Sparks, it was the kind of<br />
moment that all mothers cherish in<br />
their hearts.<br />
“I remember he came up to me<br />
and was smiling at me,” she said.<br />
“I reached up and put my hands on<br />
his cheeks and I said, ‘You are such<br />
a good boy. Momma loves you so<br />
much.’ And he kept smiling. We all<br />
had that moment to say goodbye<br />
without even knowing that’s what<br />
we were doing, and that’s what<br />
makes it so special.”<br />
In the dark days following<br />
Jarred’s death, the Sparks turned<br />
to their faith, their friends, their<br />
church and to each other.<br />
“My husband is my best friend.<br />
When I was weak, he was strong,<br />
and when he was weak, I was<br />
strong,” she explained. “We both<br />
helped each other and comforted<br />
each other.”<br />
It was then that they realized<br />
they had a choice to make.<br />
“Jarred was placed on this earth<br />
for such a short time, but he had<br />
such an impact on so many people.<br />
I believe Jarred was an angel in our<br />
lives. I was honored to be his mom.<br />
I feel very blessed that God allowed<br />
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him to be my son. That I got the<br />
opportunity to experience what I<br />
did. It made me stronger, it gave me<br />
a reason to live and keep on going.<br />
I am never going to let his memory<br />
die and I’m going to let his death<br />
be in vain.”<br />
Sparks said she frequently tells<br />
the children in her classes that they<br />
have two choices. They can give up<br />
or get themselves up, dust themselves<br />
off and start running again.<br />
“It doesn’t mean I’m not going to<br />
fall. It just means I’m going to get<br />
back up and start running toward<br />
that goal. People are counting on us.”<br />
The goal Sparks wants to reach<br />
is the creation of The School of<br />
Hope, a specialized school designed<br />
solely for the education of children<br />
with autism. Sparks goal is to open<br />
the school in August 2016. The<br />
school will provide autistic children<br />
with the kind of therapy and<br />
education that can open the world<br />
up for them.<br />
The School of Hope is a fitting<br />
legacy of Jarred’s life.<br />
“About 15 years ago, a military<br />
newspaper did an article about<br />
Jarred. The title was ‘A Fight to<br />
Recover: Hope for Jarred.’ That has<br />
always stayed with me,” she said.<br />
“Families with a child who has autism<br />
need hope to know that what<br />
they are doing makes a difference<br />
in their child’s life.”<br />
With the creation of the school,<br />
Sparks sees a way of offering hope.<br />
“We want to start out small;<br />
quality — not quantity. The school<br />
is not about making money. It’s<br />
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about serving children and giving them the<br />
very best education they can get. At the School<br />
of Hope, we will only employee people who<br />
understand and get autism. We have to have<br />
people who understand that no two children<br />
with autism are alike. You can’t group them.<br />
You have to find out what makes them tick,”<br />
she said. “I want people to move to Fayetteville<br />
to find hope for<br />
their children.<br />
“We will be a specialized school. I do not<br />
know about other disabilities; I know autism.<br />
Jarred taught me what I need to know about<br />
autism,” she continued. “Am I going to make<br />
mistakes? Absolutely. Am I going to learn? You<br />
bet. I want to give hope to caregivers. I want<br />
them to know not to quit.”<br />
Sparks vision for the school is to start small<br />
with 25 students.<br />
“One child with autism is like five students<br />
without autism,” she said.<br />
For Sparks, the pieces are coming together.<br />
She has found what she believes is the ideal<br />
location, and the stars seem to be aligning in her<br />
favor, with the current tenant moving out just in<br />
time for her to get ready for the new school year.<br />
“It would be the perfect place for us,” she said.<br />
Another hurdle passed was gaining approval<br />
from the Jarred Sparks Foundation for money<br />
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to get the articles of incorporation<br />
drawn up.<br />
With April, also being Autism<br />
Awareness Month, Sparks<br />
sees it as another good sign.<br />
“Jarred’s birthday is April 24.<br />
He would have been 23,” she<br />
said. “He loved the water, and on<br />
April 24, we are going to celebrate<br />
his life by doing something<br />
he loved. We will be on the<br />
water somewhere, somehow.”<br />
That celebration is personal,<br />
on April 18, the Sparks and<br />
their foundation will have a public celebration<br />
with the 4th Annual Spring Festival, a community<br />
event that helps showcase what the foundation<br />
is all about.<br />
“It’s going to be a great day for families in<br />
our community — those who have children<br />
with disabilities and those who do not. We<br />
are going to have games, face painting, bounce<br />
houses, vendors. All of the people who loved<br />
and cherished Jerred and who supported us<br />
will be there. When I see all of the people who<br />
come out from teachers and students at Vanstory<br />
to former students, I know that Jarred is still<br />
making a difference in the lives of others.<br />
“Last year, I was standing in the middle of<br />
the festival and I looked around at so many<br />
families having fun. And I had to look up, and<br />
think, ‘This is Jarred. He is still affecting lives<br />
and changing the people around him.<br />
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Spring is a time to reevaluate<br />
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for a happy and healthier lifestyle.<br />
Simple changes, such as resetting<br />
your sleep pattern, updating your<br />
oral care routine and refreshing your<br />
diet can result in big changes to your<br />
overall well-being.<br />
1. Get moving outside: Spring is<br />
a great time to be outdoors, so ease<br />
back into your exercise routine with<br />
daily walks outside. This will help<br />
reduce stress and help lower your risk<br />
of heart disease and hypertension.<br />
Get creative and use apps to track and<br />
challenge your friends to walk at least<br />
10,000 steps a day.<br />
2. Reset your sleep pattern: With<br />
the arrival of spring come longer days<br />
and more daylight. Beat fatigue by<br />
setting a goal to keep your waking<br />
and bed time consistent— even on<br />
weekends. This will help avoid midday<br />
burn outs while keeping your<br />
body in sync with its natural rhythms.<br />
3. Think about your gum health:<br />
Most people don’t realize that proper<br />
oral hygiene can be a good step<br />
toward helping to improve their<br />
overall health. In addition to brushing<br />
your teeth, make sure to take good<br />
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4. Travel healthy and be prepared:<br />
As you begin to make plans for<br />
spring and summer travel, be sure<br />
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to schedule your family doctor and<br />
dentist appointments and address<br />
any issues before your trip. Compile<br />
a list of medications, unique health<br />
issues or history, and physician contact<br />
information. This will be important<br />
and save time if you end up needing<br />
healthcare while you’re away.<br />
5. Refresh your diet: Simple changes<br />
to your diet can bring more sustained<br />
energy and knock off a few pounds.<br />
Swap out snacks like potato chips with<br />
banana chips and replace red meat<br />
with lean protein from turkey and<br />
chicken. Also look to incorporate fresh<br />
fruits and vegetables that are in season<br />
into your diet.<br />
6. Declutter your life: Things have<br />
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have a list of projects that need to<br />
be done. Tackle one a week for the<br />
next six weeks. You will be surprised<br />
at how much better you feel without<br />
the weight of your to-do list on your<br />
shoulders. Is your closet exploding,<br />
find a charity in need of gently<br />
used clothing — perhaps one that<br />
provides business clothes to women<br />
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interviews. Hanging on to clothes a<br />
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According to the website Beauty Redefined,<br />
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alternative means to get the body they want, two things<br />
are happening:<br />
1. The price of elective beauty procedures are going down.<br />
2. Newer, less invasive means of achieving change in the<br />
body are being invented and approved for use.<br />
As noted above, liposuction tops the list of procedures being<br />
performed in the United States. The cost of liposuction varies<br />
depending on the area of the body that is treated, if more than<br />
one area is treated and the type of liposuction procedure undertaken.<br />
Usually liposuction surgery will cost between $1,500<br />
and $3,000, with the national average at $2,578.<br />
With advancements in medical technology, that number<br />
is going down. One such advancement is i-Lipo®, which<br />
is being touted as the “intelligent alternative to liposuction.”<br />
Unlike liposuction, i-lipo is non-invasive, pain<br />
free, with no needles and no down time for recovery.<br />
i-Lipo is usually done in a course of eight sessions,<br />
performed twice a week, which can result in<br />
a patient losing one to two dress sizes over the<br />
course of treatment.<br />
Sound too good to be true? That’s what I<br />
thought until I visited the office of Dr. Robert<br />
Twaddell, a Fayetteville physician who offers<br />
i-Lipo body contouring. I admit curiosity<br />
about this procedure, which involves a laser<br />
to complete body contouring. Clearly, this<br />
technology is intended for people wanting an alternative to replace more<br />
traditional forms of body-contouring surgery.<br />
Personally, I would prefer anything to needles! Prior to making any<br />
decision concerning treatment, Dr. Twaddell explained the science<br />
behind the i-Lipo treatment and how and why it works.<br />
The procedure, established in 2012, is FDA approved and is the latest<br />
in laser lipolysis. Low-level lasers trigger a chemical in fat cells that<br />
breaks down stored triglycerides into free fatty acids and glycerol. The<br />
fatty acids and glycerol are released through cell membranes, and the<br />
fat content is transported around the body to tissues where it will be<br />
“burned off ” during a period of post-treatment exercise.<br />
Like every diet program, exercise is the key to success with the<br />
i-Lipo procedure. Exercise creates a demand in our bodies for extra energy.<br />
The body responds to this demand by releasing stored fat content<br />
for use as fuel, but the release can come from anywhere in the body. So,<br />
through the use of the low level lasers, the i-Lipo procedure mimics<br />
the body’s natural fat burning process, allowing you to target an area of<br />
your body for fat release even before you begin exercising!<br />
After talking with Dr. Twaddell, I decided to give it a try. The i-Lipo<br />
procedure was administered under his direction and supervision. I<br />
was skeptical, but there was absolutely no question that a measurable<br />
change in my waistline occurred within minutes. First I answered a<br />
full medical questionnaire, then during the treatment, I was measured<br />
and then strategically fitted with the i-Lipo treatment pads while lying<br />
comfortably on a treatment table. The entire process took approximately<br />
30 minutes.<br />
Following the treatment, Dr. Twaddell sent me to his patient<br />
workout room for a 20 to 30 minute exercise regimen. Additionally,<br />
I was encouraged to drink as much water as possible throughout the<br />
day, which contributes to the effectiveness of the procedure, as well as<br />
encouraging long-term measurable differences.<br />
The i-Lipo procedure gives your body a jump start, which serves as a<br />
motivation to get people exercising.<br />
Dr. Twaddell is not looking for a quick fix for his patients. He is<br />
very up front with the idea that his goal is for his patients to become<br />
healthier through correct diet and exercise.<br />
The good news about this treatment is that it can be performed on all<br />
skin types and body areas where unwanted fat is stored and you can return<br />
to normal activity immediately following the treatment, which includes<br />
that round of exercise immediately following the procedure.<br />
I felt extremely comfortable and was able to do my exercise, drink<br />
my water and felt absolutely fine!<br />
The recommended number of treatments is structured to eight. Of<br />
course as with anything that could vary patient to patient depending<br />
on desired results. The average loss in inches is one to three with one<br />
treatment and prices can vary with a national average of about $1,800<br />
per eight-session treatment.<br />
If you are interested in i-Lipo there are numerous websites that can<br />
educate you on the procedure, but the best way to get information is<br />
to visit a physician who actually does the treatment, as I did with Dr.<br />
Twaddell. Twaddell’s clinic, Fayetteville Laser Therapy is the only<br />
clinic in the Cape Fear Region that is certified to perform i-Lipo.<br />
Fayetteville Laser Therapy is located at 1411 Fort Bragg Rd. For more<br />
information about the clinic and the procedure, you can call 303-2690<br />
or visit the website at www.faylaser.com.<br />
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fitnessspotlight<br />
Don’t Eat Less, Eat Right<br />
There seems to be a myth out<br />
there that tells people if they<br />
want to lose weight they need<br />
to eat less. Trimming down isn’t<br />
about eating less; many people<br />
have to eat more when they<br />
choose to live a healthier lifestyle.<br />
Shedding those extra pounds<br />
happens by eating healthier and,<br />
for some people, more often than<br />
what they are accustomed to. As<br />
a personal trainer and nutrition<br />
coach, I realize this isn’t easy for<br />
everyone, but it can be done<br />
with a little bit<br />
of knowledge<br />
and preparation.<br />
The problem with<br />
eating less is that most<br />
people associate eating<br />
less with drastically<br />
decreasing their calorie<br />
intake. What many people<br />
may not realize is that your body<br />
will actually pack on pounds if it<br />
is not being fueled with the proper<br />
number of calories. If one’s body<br />
doesn’t get the caloric intake it<br />
needs, it will go into starvation<br />
mode. This means your body will<br />
start storing fat because it doesn’t<br />
know when the next meal is going<br />
to happen. According to the<br />
National Lung and Heart Institute<br />
a very low-calorie diet shouldn’t<br />
be used unless your doctor is<br />
monitoring you. Not eating is<br />
not only going to keep your body<br />
storing fat, but there are other<br />
negative side effects associated<br />
with very low calorie diets such as<br />
fatigue and nausea.<br />
In order to steer clear of these<br />
negative side effects, individuals<br />
should do a caloric calculation to<br />
figure out how much weight they<br />
want to lose prior to changing<br />
their eating habits, then equate<br />
themselves on what their meal plan<br />
will look like, then prepare. It is<br />
recommended that people do not<br />
try to lose more than two pounds<br />
a week. This would equal 1,000<br />
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calories per day. So for<br />
example, an individual<br />
who typically<br />
consumes 2,700 calories<br />
a day and wants to lose<br />
one pound per week<br />
would intake 2,200 calories<br />
or 1,700 calories per day to drop an<br />
extra two pounds per week.<br />
Here is the good news... fewer<br />
calories don’t have to mean less<br />
food! It means making better<br />
choices. So rather than eating that<br />
400 calorie cheeseburger, one could<br />
indulge in a 4 oz piece of chicken,<br />
with a serving of broccoli, a serving<br />
of carrots and a whole wheat dinner<br />
roll and come in a whopping 110<br />
calories below a small burger from<br />
the local fast food restaurant.<br />
Choosing to drop one soda per day<br />
would allow for an extra 4 ounces<br />
of lean protein or two servings of<br />
fruit and veggies.<br />
Another great thing about<br />
making better choices is that<br />
the amount of calories you will<br />
be saving from making better<br />
choices will allow you to eat<br />
more often throughout the day,<br />
in turn, allowing for you to have<br />
a continuous stream of energy<br />
and keeping you from feeling<br />
too hungry before you next meal.<br />
Eating smaller meals, more often,<br />
will prevent you from indulging in<br />
unplanned junk food or treats prior<br />
to your next meal.<br />
So how does one get<br />
in the habit of eating<br />
these five to six small<br />
meals a day? I have<br />
some suggestions that<br />
have helped many of<br />
my clients and I hope<br />
will help my readers<br />
as well. The most<br />
important thing for<br />
people to understand<br />
is preparation is key.<br />
Each week I sit down<br />
and right up a meal<br />
plan for my week. This<br />
includes all of my meals, including<br />
snacks. I then make a list and head<br />
to the grocery store.<br />
Sound easy? That’s not the hard<br />
part. It’s easy to have the food<br />
in your kitchen, the hard part is<br />
making it user friendly for your<br />
busy lifestyle. This is where the<br />
hard part comes in. Each week after<br />
my grocery shopping is complete, I<br />
wash and cut my fruits and veggies<br />
and divvy them out into snack size,<br />
“to-go” baggies. I boil and peel<br />
my eggs for the week and cook<br />
any chicken I will use for salads<br />
for the week. Not easy enough…<br />
that’s where Pinterest comes in!<br />
I have found several quick and<br />
easy ideas on Pinterest, including<br />
the salad in a jar. This where you<br />
layer your salad toppings in a jar<br />
It’s easy to<br />
have the<br />
food in your<br />
kitchen, the<br />
hard part is<br />
making it<br />
user friendly<br />
for your busy<br />
lifestyle.<br />
in the opposite order as you<br />
want them to come out (nuts<br />
and cheese on top, then fruit<br />
or veggies, followed by salad<br />
mix), this allows you to grab a<br />
jar and turn it over on a plate<br />
for a pre-made salad. I have<br />
even found several pre-bagged,<br />
crock pot recipes that are great.<br />
Package a meal in a gallon bag<br />
and dump the bag into the<br />
crock pot in the morning for a<br />
quick, healthy dinner!<br />
Again, having these great<br />
snack options doesn’t mean<br />
much if you aren’t eating<br />
the snacks. This is why<br />
I encourage people<br />
who are new to the<br />
small meal idea to set<br />
alarms for themselves<br />
throughout the day.<br />
Once you form<br />
the habit of eating<br />
every three hours or<br />
so, your body will<br />
become accustomed<br />
to it and it will be<br />
natural. Until then<br />
it takes conditioning<br />
and planning.<br />
These are just<br />
a few ideas that I<br />
have found that<br />
work for me. I have<br />
found when I take<br />
a few hours at the<br />
beginning of the<br />
week (I choose Sundays), I have<br />
no excuses for snacking on junk<br />
food. Having prepared meals ready<br />
for your family via a crock pot can<br />
also prevent the stop through the<br />
drive-through on your way home<br />
from work. There are many options<br />
to prepare quick and tasty meals<br />
for yourself and your family on<br />
Pinterest and other websites; if you<br />
are willing to take a few extra hours<br />
to use them you can save a few<br />
thousand calories a week.<br />
Cosette Clendenen is a Personal<br />
Trainer at Gold’s Gym and a Fitness<br />
and Nutrition Coach with Beachbody.<br />
For any questions, comments or<br />
for more information you can e-mail<br />
Cosette at customfitnessdm@gmail.<br />
com or visit her website at www.<br />
customfintessdm.com.<br />
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moneymatters<br />
The Ugly Stepsister You Are Stuck With!<br />
By Mackenzie Toland<br />
Finances — they are like the ugly stepsister that you are stuck with for<br />
life. Finances are the number two reason why couples get divorced, second<br />
only to communication. If financial insecurity becomes the topic of discussion<br />
more often than other topics, then your marriage may be in a downward<br />
spiral.<br />
So what can you do to ensure that your family does not get stuck in the<br />
same place that many other couples do? One of the biggest challenges that<br />
couples have is living outside their means. It is important to have the right<br />
tools in your relationship so that you and your partner can work together to<br />
live within your means in a fair and fiscally responsible way. So here’s the<br />
question for today: To have joint bank accounts or to have separate bank<br />
accounts. Which decision is best for your marriage?<br />
If you can’t decide on a joint account or a separate accounts why not do a<br />
mix of both? You could have a joint account for expenses and separate accounts<br />
for spending. Whatever you choose, do yourself and your marriage<br />
a favor and stay in control of finances. It could be the difference between a<br />
lasting marriage and a fallen one. You can find me at A New Leaf Therapeutic<br />
Services PLLC, 910.493.3555, and mackenzie@fayettevillenewleaf.com.<br />
The Joint Bank Account: Pros<br />
One of the greatest benefits of having a joint bank account is transparency<br />
in your relationship. You both have the benefit and security of<br />
knowing where the money is and where it is going. When couples have<br />
a joint bank account they are more likely to have clear communication<br />
about finances. Chances are high that you and your spouse regularly<br />
communicate about where and how money is being spent or saved.<br />
Joint checking accounts give the feeling that you are in this together.<br />
It is one pot of money that you are sharing. So, really, it doesn’t matter<br />
who pays for what — because both of you are sharing expenses. Also,<br />
an extra little benefit is that the combined amount in your account will<br />
be higher and you will be less likely to have to pay those pesky fees associated<br />
with overspending your checking account.<br />
The Separate Bank Account: Pros<br />
As long as the expenses are divided up fairly then you have the freedom<br />
to spend your money how your please. Try to be fair about how<br />
expenses will be divided and revisit how to disperse expenses every time<br />
there is a big life change; like someone get’s a fancy promotion or a nice<br />
raise. Having separate accounts with the same institution under the<br />
same login make it easy to be transparent about your expenses while<br />
still having the independence of separate accounts.<br />
The Joint Bank Account: Cons<br />
Everything has pros and cons and unfortunately the joint bank<br />
account has cons, too. With a joint bank account, one of the partners<br />
may feel constricted as if they do not have any spending money of their<br />
own. One person in the relationship is going to have to take care of<br />
paying the bills and this partner may harbor resentment for having to<br />
do the extra work. Finally, if one partner is financially irresponsible and<br />
makes a big purchase without telling the other partner immediately<br />
then the other partner may find out the hard way: a declined debit card.<br />
The Separate Bank Account: Cons<br />
While dividing up everyday expenses may be easy, what happens<br />
when there is a big car repair or an unavoidable expensive emergency?<br />
How will that be paid? It is important to have a back up plan for<br />
emergencies if you and your partner choose to have separate bank<br />
accounts. Having two bank accounts at different<br />
institutions is an option, but I do not<br />
recommend it.<br />
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globetrotting<br />
Let the Water That Has Moved Mountains<br />
Located in the southwest<br />
corner of North Carolina just<br />
an hour from Asheville and<br />
two hours from Charlotte,<br />
Transylvania County is the place<br />
where water falls and falls.<br />
Known as the Land of<br />
Waterfalls, this destination is<br />
a perfect place to explore more<br />
than 250 waterfalls, the Pisgah<br />
National Forest and the endless<br />
beauty of the surrounding<br />
Great Smoky Mountains. Some<br />
of the beautiful waterfalls<br />
found in this small patch of<br />
heaven on earth have starred in<br />
Hollywood movies. Others offer more secluded spots to reflect during<br />
a memorable hike.<br />
You could just jump in your car and drive and find the falls on your<br />
own, or you can use the list below to ensure you see some of the most<br />
beautiful sites in the state.<br />
DuPont State Recreational Forest was the setting for filming of<br />
The Hunger Games. The beautiful falls and lush forests in the park<br />
made astounding visuals, many of which people thought were created<br />
through graphic enhancements. But they weren’t. They were real and<br />
they are right here in North Carolina. Triple Falls, Bridal Veil Falls<br />
and the covered bridge at High Falls all served as backdrops for scenes<br />
from the film, and visitors can relive the movie and get a behind-thescenes<br />
experience.<br />
Looking Glass Falls is one of the country’s most viewed falls. Looking<br />
Glass Falls is 35 feet wide and drops 65 feet. It was named for the<br />
reflective layer of ice that forms<br />
on Looking Glass Rock during<br />
the winter. You can view it from<br />
the observation deck or you can<br />
walk to its base.<br />
Rainbow Falls takes its name<br />
from the constant mist in<br />
warm weather that sends<br />
rainbows cascading toward<br />
the sun. Rainbow Falls, also<br />
known as High Falls, is on<br />
the Horsepasture River in<br />
Transylvania County.<br />
Looking Glass Falls Sliding Rock is a 60-foot natural<br />
water slide in the Pisgah National<br />
Forest. While it isn’t really a<br />
waterfall, you could say it turns you into one. Wear your cut-off shorts,<br />
sit down and slide down the rock into the pool below, where 60-degree<br />
water feels fantastic in the summer heat.<br />
Turtleback Falls is another favorite swimming spot when the summer<br />
heat gets to be too much. Moore Cove Falls, which spills over a<br />
tremendous granite shelf, creating a falls you can walk behind. Twin<br />
Falls, as the name suggests, features two beautiful falls.<br />
Whitewater Falls is a 411-foot waterfall, called the “King of<br />
Waterfalls.” It is the highest waterfall in the eastern United States,<br />
and has been designated a North Carolina Natural Heritage Area. No<br />
other waterfall in the East has its combination of water volume, height<br />
and visibility.<br />
While you’re in the area, be sure to check out the quaint mountain<br />
town of Brevard, a Land of Waterfalls base camp of sorts, where you<br />
can enjoy everything from boutiques and bistros to music festivals.<br />
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With the arrival of Spring, most of us break our winter hibernation and find excuses to get outdoors<br />
and enjoy the sunshine and warmer temperatures. For many of us, it’s also a time to take advantage of<br />
fresh fruits like the luscious strawberries that can be found throughout ourcommunity. This month<br />
check out a couple of great strawberry-based recipes, along with a light sandwich that is perfect for a<br />
warm afternoon.<br />
Strawberry<br />
Shortcake<br />
For the strawberries<br />
1 lb. ripe strawberries, hulled<br />
(about 4 cups)<br />
2 Tbs. granulated sugar; more<br />
to taste<br />
For the biscuits<br />
9 oz. (2 cups) unbleached allpurpose<br />
flour; more for rolling<br />
1/3 cup plus 1 Tbs. granulated sugar<br />
2-1/2 tsp. baking powder<br />
1/4 tsp. baking soda<br />
1/2 tsp. kosher salt<br />
4 oz. (1/2 cup) cold unsalted butter, cut into 1/2-inch pieces<br />
1 large egg<br />
1/4 cup heavy cream; more for brushing<br />
1/4 cup buttermilk<br />
For the whipped cream<br />
1-1/2 cups heavy cream<br />
2 Tbs. granulated sugar<br />
Prepare the strawberries<br />
Put one-third of the berries in a medium bowl and, using a potato masher,<br />
crush them into a chunky purée. Slice the remaining berries 1/4 inch thick<br />
and stir them into the mashed berries along with the sugar. Taste the berries,<br />
adding more sugar if necessary. Let the berries sit at room temperature for at<br />
least 30 minutes.<br />
Make the biscuits<br />
Position a rack in the center of the oven and heat the oven to 425°F. Line<br />
a large heavy-duty baking sheet with parchment. Sift the flour, 1/3 cup of<br />
the sugar, the baking powder, and baking soda into a large bowl. Stir in<br />
the salt. Using a pastry blender, a fork, or your fingertips, work the<br />
butter into the dry ingredients until the mixture resembles coarse<br />
cornmeal. In a small bowl, beat the egg and heavy cream with<br />
a fork. Mix in the buttermilk. Make a well in the center of the<br />
flour mixture and pour in the cream mixture. Mix with the fork<br />
until the dough is evenly moistened and just comes together; it<br />
will still look a little shaggy. Gather the dough and gently knead it<br />
three or four times. If the dough seems dry and doesn’t form a cohesive<br />
mass, work in more cream, 1 tsp. at a time. Transfer the dough to a lightly<br />
floured surface and roll it into a 3/4 -inch-thick disk. With a sharp 2 1/2-inch<br />
biscuit cutter, press straight down to cut the dough into rounds and lift straight<br />
up to remove (don’t twist the cutter or it will seal the sides of the biscuits and<br />
interfere with rising). Transfer the rounds to the prepared baking sheet. Gather<br />
the dough scraps, gently knead them together, re-roll, and cut out more<br />
biscuits until you have a total of 6. Lightly brush the biscuit tops with cream<br />
(about 1 Tbs.) and sprinkle with the remaining 1 Tbs. sugar. Bake, rotating the<br />
baking sheet once, until the biscuit tops are lightly browned, 10 to 15 minutes.<br />
Let the biscuits cool slightly while you whip the cream.<br />
Whip the cream<br />
In a large, chilled metal bowl, whip the heavy cream and sugar to soft<br />
peaks with an electric hand mixer. (Use immediately or refrigerate, covered<br />
until ready to serve).<br />
Assemble the shortcakes<br />
Using a serrated knife, split the warm biscuits in half horizontally and<br />
transfer the bottoms to 6 dessert plates. Spoon about three-quarters of the<br />
macerated berries and their juice evenly over the biscuit bottoms. It’s OK if<br />
some of the berries spill out onto the plate. Top with a generous dollop of<br />
whipped cream and cover each with a biscuit top. Spoon more berries and<br />
cream over each shortcake and serve immediately.<br />
dishingitup<br />
Roasted Bell Pepper and Tomato<br />
Veggie Sandwich<br />
10 min preparation + 10 min cooking<br />
Serving Size / Yield –1 sandwich<br />
Ingredients<br />
1 yellow bell pepper, sliced in half<br />
1 red bell pepper, sliced in half<br />
4-5 tomatoes slices<br />
3 mozzarella slices<br />
1 white single baguettes<br />
1 tbsp balsamic<br />
2 tbsp vegetable oilOur Readers Also Loved<br />
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Directions<br />
Begin by cutting your baguette in half and toasting it. Then in<br />
a skillet begin by sautéing the peppers that have been sliced in half. Add<br />
the oil and balsamic to the skillet and keep sautéing the peppers until they’re tender.<br />
Start layering your sandwich up on the toasted baguette. Start with one slice<br />
of yellow and red pepper. Then add the mozzarella cheese, tomato, and then the<br />
other half of both peppers. Drizzle some balsamic on top and enjoy.<br />
Strawberry Basil<br />
Margaritas<br />
Makes 1 pitcher, or about 8 servings<br />
1 can (12 ounces) frozen limeade concentrate 10<br />
strawberries (or 12 if you’re using<br />
smaller ones from the farmer’s market or your<br />
backyard.) 8 basil leaves 2 to 2 1/2 cups tequila<br />
(gold or silver)<br />
Empty the limeade concentrate into a pitcher.<br />
Add 2 1/2 cans of water and 1 1/2 (18 ounces,<br />
or 2 1/4 cups) cans of tequila (or a bit less, if you<br />
don’t want your drinks to be quite as strong).<br />
Hull the strawberries, slice lengthwise, and<br />
add to the pitcher. Crumple the basil a little in your hands (this will help the basil<br />
flavor release into the drink) and add it to the pitcher, too. Place the pitcher, covered,<br />
in the fridge overnight, or for at least four hours.<br />
When you remove the pitcher from the fridge, your margaritas will be a lovely pale pink<br />
color. Now all you have to do is serve them and wait for the compliments to pour in.<br />
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turnthepage<br />
LIES AND TRUTH BOOK ONE<br />
by MeMe Novella<br />
Welcome back to my<br />
reading corner. I hope<br />
so far that you’re<br />
enjoying getting to know some new<br />
authors, especially some of our own<br />
hometown talent.<br />
This month, I’d like to share<br />
the work of local author, Rachael<br />
Duncan. Her latest novel, Hidden<br />
in Lies, was released in February.<br />
Duncan, a military wife, enjoys<br />
writing romance.<br />
Hidden in Lies Summary;<br />
Who needs love when you<br />
have money?<br />
It used to be enough, but now it’s not.<br />
Not since he walked into my life<br />
and made me question everything.<br />
Now I want more, but I know<br />
that’s impossible.<br />
Things aren’t always as they seem.<br />
My true self is hidden, and that<br />
works for me.<br />
Or it did.<br />
I hide in a bed of deception to<br />
disguise myself, and I’m good at it.<br />
Or I was.<br />
I’m Elizabeth Fitzgerald.<br />
I’m a Senator’s wife.<br />
And I hate my life.<br />
Review: The main character in<br />
this book is Elizabeth Fitzgerald.<br />
Her mother’s advice was that she<br />
should marry for money so she<br />
found herself married to Senator<br />
Callahan Fitzgerald. Throughout<br />
her marriage, she has hidden her<br />
unhappiness until Alex comes into<br />
her life.<br />
Alex has been hired to protect<br />
the senator’s assets — including his<br />
wife, Elizabeth.<br />
Cal, as he is known, is very big<br />
on himself and keeping up public<br />
appearances. Behind the scenes; however,<br />
he is a monster to his wife, abusing her<br />
both physically and mentally.<br />
Alex is former military now doing<br />
private security. He is not only hot;<br />
but a genuinely nice person. He<br />
sees things that she’s hiding and<br />
tries to help her.<br />
Elizabeth is a very sympathetic<br />
character, especially when you can<br />
feel the abuse she lives with daily.<br />
She is stuck in a loveless marriage<br />
and knows that she can’t leave<br />
because of the scandal it would cause<br />
in the lives of those around her.<br />
Hidden in Lies was a great read,<br />
it hooked me from the beginning.<br />
FYI, it does end with a cliffhanger,<br />
but I’m sure it won’t be long before<br />
book two is available.<br />
I give this book FIVE stars and<br />
recommend it highly. It is available<br />
on Amazon in e-book form and<br />
also in paperback.<br />
Questions or comments? Contact<br />
me at memenovella@gmail.com.<br />
ARIES: March 21-April 20<br />
Patience is a virtue you must<br />
have this week, Aries. Others may<br />
not be able to maintain your pace,<br />
so exercise patience with those<br />
who need it.<br />
TAURUS: April 21-May 21<br />
Share your thoughts and feelings<br />
about a particular project wtth<br />
others, Taurus. The people closest<br />
to you will provide just the support<br />
you need to move forward.<br />
GEMINI: May 22-June 21<br />
Embrace the competitive nature<br />
of a coworker this week, Gemini.<br />
This person might just motivate<br />
you to reach heights you have yet<br />
to reach, and this may lead to a<br />
promotion at work.<br />
CANCER: June 22-July 22<br />
Cancer, a heart-to-heart<br />
talk with a loved one has you<br />
feeling confident as you move<br />
forward. Embrace this chance to<br />
communicate for the opportunity<br />
it truly is.<br />
LEO: July 23-August 23<br />
Leo, allow someone close to<br />
you to enjoy his or her space this<br />
week. Find a way to keep busy as<br />
this special someone does some<br />
soul-searching.<br />
VIRGO: August 24-September 22<br />
Avoid rushing to judgment on<br />
an issue this week, Virgo. Rather<br />
than speculating on the “whys” and<br />
“how comes,” wait until you can get<br />
some solid facts.<br />
LIBRA: September 23-October 23<br />
Luck is on your side this week,<br />
Libra. Make the most of this lucky<br />
streak and invite others to join in<br />
your fortune in the weeks to come.<br />
SCORPIO: October 24-November 22<br />
Scorpio, lend a helping hand to<br />
a loved one who could use some<br />
words of encouragement. Your<br />
efforts will be both effective and<br />
very much appreciated.<br />
SAGITTARIUS: November 23-<br />
December 21<br />
Sagittarius, anxiety about starting<br />
a new chapter in life is normal. Fear<br />
of the unknown can worry anyone,<br />
but look forward to all of the<br />
positive changes that are in store.<br />
CAPRICORN: December 22-<br />
January 20<br />
Capricorn, thinking outside<br />
of the box comes easily to you.<br />
Although others may scoff at your<br />
unconventional ways, you always<br />
get the job done and this week is<br />
no different.<br />
AQUARIUS: January 21-<br />
February 18<br />
Aquarius, peer pressure abounds<br />
this week, but you needn’t worry<br />
about succumbing to it. You like to<br />
march to the beat of your own drum,<br />
and others look to you as a leader.<br />
PISCES: February 19-March 20<br />
Pisces, you may need to take an<br />
unusual approach to get things<br />
done this week. Don’t be afraid to<br />
be aggressive.<br />
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22 APRIL 2015<br />
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