12 Steps to Whole Foods

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Introduction I once taught my children about the three parts of a grain—the bran (fiber), the germ (vitamins), and the endosperm (the glue). I’ve told them that white bread throws away the two good parts and keeps only the one useless part—the “glue” of the grain. Months later, I happened upon a conversation between my daughter and one of her friends, where she was explaining to her friend, waving a bottle of Elmer’s glue, that the bread her friend eats every day is made of exactly that substance. Obviously she’d taken what I said far too literally. Consider it a challenge to explain nutrition principles you read about in terms a child can understand. My belief is that parents willing to “walk the talk” and fill their own plates up with good things are teaching in the most powerful way possible: by example. But also, as the parents, we believe that we are in charge. Salad is not an option and it’s not a “side dish,” something in a corner taking up a square inch or two. I started feeding my kids green salad when they were old enough to chew. We did have to put it on the fork for them and help them with it, the first few years. In our family, we eat salad first (to provide enzymes for any cooked food that will follow)—so if you want the rest of the meal at our house, you are required to eat a big helping of salad. All four of my kids love and crave raw, green salads. So much for the idea we’ve often heard that if we “make” them do it, they’ll hate it and “rebel.” (My mom “made” me eat salad every night, too, and my siblings and I all love salad.) People simply do not rebel against everything they’re taught, and so a sound strategy is to teach true principles and set sound expectations regardless of any random guess about choices children might make in 20 years in reaction to those principles and expectations. On the other hand, kids who rarely or never eat vegetables aren’t likely to make the switch to eating nutritious food in adulthood. My kids don’t give me a hard time about eating salad because (1) the rule is well understood, (2) they know exactly why I provide them raw green food every night, and (3) they have learned, from listening to their bodies, that they prefer how they feel when eating lots of green roughage. Further, no one person burns out on making salads, because we take turns doing it—washing and chopping greens and other vegetables, getting a large salad together in 10 or 15 minutes. Only my youngest doesn’t help with that, because he’s not old enough to handle a knife yet (he can set the table and do other tasks, though). Not only does this free my time so I don’t burn out on being a slave to the kitchen, but it also gives my children a chance to contribute to the meal they will eat, a sense of accomplishment for having done a job well, and an opportunity to learn healthy habits for life. Many busy parents these days do not teach their children to cook. Not only will teaching them how to prepare a salad give them necessary skills for the future, but your child just might enjoy it and it can take a task off your plate (pun intended)! On this next suggestion, I’m going to mince no words: get rid of the worst choices from your fridge and pantry. Just quit buying them, cold turkey. Especially soft drinks, processed meat, potato chips, and sugar. Life won't be over or even less fun. They’ll still see those foods on occasions such as parties and barbecues—and that’s where those foods belong, a once-in-a-while indulgence (if they are important to you), not daily fare. Tell your family you’re going to learn to make treats that are both yummy and good for them. (Refer to Chapter 11 as much as you want!) I want to assure you that “picky kids” will not starve themselves. People who eat sugar every day have tastes adapted to that very addictive chemical and the dopamine receptors that respond to the chemical. But get rid of 16 12 Steps to Whole Foods © Copyright Robyn Openshaw

Introduction sugary foods for even a few days, and tastes change rather dramatically (of course, you have to live with the withdrawal symptoms in the meantime, but they don’t usually last more than a few days). Fruit tastes better, for instance, when you’re “off” sugar. And green smoothies are in the realm of possibilities when Capri Sun has been out of the picture for a while! A fair amount of research on “food neophobes,” which you can Google if you want to learn more, indicates that picky children must be exposed to a food nine to 10 times before accepting it. So don’t try green smoothies, or cauliflower, or Indian Dahl twice and then throw in the towel. Kids eat whole foods when whole foods become a lifestyle. When all else fails, resort to bribery. Do it in a subtle way you can live with. I haven’t used this technique, but I might if I were starting out with older children and needing to break them of bad habits. My friend Brenda pays her kids $20 for a month of eating no sugar, and then doubles that amount for each additional month. If that’s too crass for you, start out your green smoothie experiment with a chart on the fridge and a fun family outing planned for the end of the month for anyone who drinks a glassful every day that you make it during the month. The downside to this approach is that kids will expect to be rewarded in the future as well, so decide in advance how desperate you are, and if you can live with that. Then have a conversation with your kids and document in a 12 Steps journal entry the health effects they noticed, as well. Tell them at the beginning of the month that it’s a personal experiment for them as well as a family experiment, and you want them to keep an eye on whether they have more energy, more focus in school, better digestion, or a more positive mood. Tell them these are very common side effects of kicking out sugar and eating nutritious food. Tell your kids about Principal Yvonne Sanders-Butler in Lithonia, Georgia, who changed her diet when heart problems threatened her life. She lost 60 lbs. and got her life back. But she also banned sugar in her school and saw math and reading scores go up 15% and visits to the school nurse and discipline problems decrease. Educating your children will help your changes become permanent rather than just another short-lived “health kick.” The more you talk to your kids, the more they’ll hold you accountable for long-term changes! I went on a highly rated network television show in the summer of 2007 and stayed with a family whose lifestyle was the virtual opposite of my own. The inner-city skaters I was with ate a diet of exclusively junk food. Most of them didn’t even know the names of most everyday vegetables and had never tasted whole-grain bread. The crew, I’m sure, thought the kids would absolutely revolt when I whipped out the green smoothies. Imagine the lack of drama—the boring, almost unwatchable footage—of a couple dozen boys drinking the smoothies and saying, “Hmm, that’s pretty good. Can I have more?” The big vegetarian dinner I prepared featuring lots of raw vegetables was probably just as frustrating for the directors and producers: the kids ate it all up, said thank you, and asked for more! If inner-city skaters who’d never eaten spinach or beets went for it, your kids will, too. Give it time and patience and your best leadership skills, find the ingredients they like best, and tell them a few reasons why they should give nutritious foods a try. Avoid cutting the skins off fruit (and the crusts off whole-grain breads) for your small children. First, more nutrition and fiber (and less sugar) is found in the skin than anywhere else. Second, the minute you do this one time, the child will demand it, and you have now made nature’s perfect fast foods a labor-intensive chore for the rest of your child’s life in your home. Third, you are helping the child’s jaw and palate weaken and narrow, making him less able to break down fibrous whole foods with their superior nutrition. © Copyright Robyn Openshaw 12 Steps to Whole Foods 17

Introduction<br />

sugary foods for even a few days, and tastes change rather dramatically (of course, you have <strong>to</strong> live with the<br />

withdrawal symp<strong>to</strong>ms in the meantime, but they don’t usually last more than a few days). Fruit tastes better, for<br />

instance, when you’re “off” sugar. And green smoothies are in the realm of possibilities when Capri Sun has<br />

been out of the picture for a while!<br />

A fair amount of research on “food neophobes,” which you can Google if you want <strong>to</strong> learn more, indicates that<br />

picky children must be exposed <strong>to</strong> a food nine <strong>to</strong> 10 times before accepting it. So don’t try green smoothies, or<br />

cauliflower, or Indian Dahl twice and then throw in the <strong>to</strong>wel. Kids eat whole foods when whole foods become<br />

a lifestyle.<br />

When all else fails, resort <strong>to</strong> bribery. Do it in a subtle way you can live with. I haven’t used this technique, but<br />

I might if I were starting out with older children and needing <strong>to</strong> break them of bad habits. My friend Brenda<br />

pays her kids $20 for a month of eating no sugar, and then doubles that amount for each additional month. If<br />

that’s <strong>to</strong>o crass for you, start out your green smoothie experiment with a chart on the fridge and a fun family<br />

outing planned for the end of the month for anyone who drinks a glassful every day that you make it during the<br />

month. The downside <strong>to</strong> this approach is that kids will expect <strong>to</strong> be rewarded in the future as well, so decide in<br />

advance how desperate you are, and if you can live with that.<br />

Then have a conversation with your kids and document in a <strong>12</strong> <strong>Steps</strong> journal entry the health effects they<br />

noticed, as well. Tell them at the beginning of the month that it’s a personal experiment for them as well as a<br />

family experiment, and you want them <strong>to</strong> keep an eye on whether they have more energy, more focus in school,<br />

better digestion, or a more positive mood. Tell them these are very common side effects of kicking out sugar<br />

and eating nutritious food.<br />

Tell your kids about Principal Yvonne Sanders-Butler in Lithonia, Georgia, who changed her diet when heart<br />

problems threatened her life. She lost 60 lbs. and got her life back. But she also banned sugar in her school and<br />

saw math and reading scores go up 15% and visits <strong>to</strong> the school nurse and discipline problems decrease.<br />

Educating your children will help your changes become permanent rather than just another short-lived “health<br />

kick.” The more you talk <strong>to</strong> your kids, the more they’ll hold you accountable for long-term changes!<br />

I went on a highly rated network television show in the summer of 2007 and stayed with a family whose<br />

lifestyle was the virtual opposite of my own. The inner-city skaters I was with ate a diet of exclusively junk<br />

food. Most of them didn’t even know the names of most everyday vegetables and had never tasted whole-grain<br />

bread. The crew, I’m sure, thought the kids would absolutely revolt when I whipped out the green smoothies.<br />

Imagine the lack of drama—the boring, almost unwatchable footage—of a couple dozen boys drinking the<br />

smoothies and saying, “Hmm, that’s pretty good. Can I have more?” The big vegetarian dinner I prepared<br />

featuring lots of raw vegetables was probably just as frustrating for the direc<strong>to</strong>rs and producers: the kids ate it<br />

all up, said thank you, and asked for more!<br />

If inner-city skaters who’d never eaten spinach or beets went for it, your kids will, <strong>to</strong>o. Give it time and<br />

patience and your best leadership skills, find the ingredients they like best, and tell them a few reasons why<br />

they should give nutritious foods a try.<br />

Avoid cutting the skins off fruit (and the crusts off whole-grain breads) for your small children. First, more<br />

nutrition and fiber (and less sugar) is found in the skin than anywhere else. Second, the minute you do this one<br />

time, the child will demand it, and you have now made nature’s perfect fast foods a labor-intensive chore for<br />

the rest of your child’s life in your home. Third, you are helping the child’s jaw and palate weaken and narrow,<br />

making him less able <strong>to</strong> break down fibrous whole foods with their superior nutrition.<br />

© Copyright Robyn Openshaw <strong>12</strong> <strong>Steps</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>Whole</strong> <strong>Foods</strong> 17

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