If I kept it to myself - World YWCA
If I kept it to myself - World YWCA
If I kept it to myself - World YWCA
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Young women intervene in a world w<strong>it</strong>h AIDS<br />
Lydia Rwechungura<br />
Being young, we can make a difference and change the<br />
world. Life has <strong>to</strong> go on and we have <strong>to</strong> show <strong>it</strong>!<br />
I got married in 2000 and became pregnant<br />
in 2001. In the second month of pregnancy, I<br />
attended an unfriendly antenatal clinic and was<br />
not convinced <strong>to</strong> test for HIV. In 2002, I gave<br />
birth <strong>to</strong> my daughter and breastfed her. At that<br />
time, I was beginning <strong>to</strong> have AIDS symp<strong>to</strong>ms,<br />
especially on my skin. I asked my husband <strong>to</strong><br />
go for testing. He refused and we continued<br />
<strong>to</strong> have sex w<strong>it</strong>hout using protection. After a<br />
while, I <strong>to</strong>ld him that if he did not go w<strong>it</strong>h me for<br />
testing, I would s<strong>to</strong>p having sex w<strong>it</strong>h him. He<br />
finally accepted and, <strong>to</strong>gether w<strong>it</strong>h our child, we<br />
went for HIV testing. The following week, the<br />
counsellor informed us that my daughter and I<br />
tested HIV pos<strong>it</strong>ive, and my husband tested HIV<br />
negative. He was <strong>to</strong>ld <strong>to</strong> return for another test<br />
after three months.<br />
Since that day, my husband changed completely;<br />
he moved out of our bedroom and refused <strong>to</strong> eat<br />
the food I prepared. He <strong>to</strong>ld all of his relatives<br />
in Dar es Salaam that I was HIV pos<strong>it</strong>ive, and<br />
that I knew my HIV status before and wanted <strong>to</strong><br />
deliberately kill him. As if that was not enough,<br />
he then came w<strong>it</strong>h his sister demanding <strong>to</strong> know<br />
who the father of our daughter was, as <strong>it</strong> could<br />
not possibly be him, considering his status.<br />
My husband went on stigmatising me and then<br />
I became ill and was adm<strong>it</strong>ted <strong>to</strong> hosp<strong>it</strong>al. I was<br />
retested for my CD4 count and found out that<br />
I had only six CD4 cells. From the hosp<strong>it</strong>al, my<br />
relatives <strong>to</strong>ok me <strong>to</strong> the family house <strong>to</strong> care for<br />
me, but after a while my husband said he wanted<br />
me back home, as he <strong>to</strong>o could take good care<br />
of me. I refused, and his relatives reminded us<br />
that they had paid a dowry for him <strong>to</strong> marry me<br />
through good and bad times, and that according<br />
<strong>to</strong> our trad<strong>it</strong>ions and culture I belonged <strong>to</strong> him.<br />
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