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Baby Wearing<br />
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[08] A Challenging First Month<br />
[10] Nursing and Nurturing<br />
Two Babies under Three<br />
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[13] Making My<br />
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Staying Home<br />
A Juggling Act<br />
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Feature article<br />
Baby Wearing<br />
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Toddler Tips<br />
Temper Tantrums<br />
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Giving Birth<br />
Kate’s Story<br />
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Making It Work<br />
That Time <strong>of</strong> the Day<br />
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Eating Wisely<br />
Keeping It Simple<br />
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Mother and Baby Attachment<br />
Before I had my first baby I wondered whether I would know how to be a mother, whether I<br />
would in fact feel motherly toward my baby. It seems very odd to recall feeling like that. Now<br />
with three children, when I consider my identity, I certainly feel first and foremost a mother. After<br />
my son was born, my instincts just took over and I spent many blissful hours holding and nursing<br />
him, marveling at this tiny person, and forming the bond between us that will last a lifetime.<br />
In “<strong>The</strong> Chemistry <strong>of</strong> <strong>Bonding</strong>” Linda Folden Palmer examines the science behind our nurturing<br />
instincts and how we naturally form such strong attachments with our babies with the help<br />
<strong>of</strong> hormonal and neural interactions. Leader Sarah Barnard looks at baby wearing, how to<br />
choose a sling, and why carrying our infants is such a positive way to mother and form strong<br />
attachments.<br />
When the birth <strong>of</strong> a baby doesn’t go as planned, the trauma can leave a mother feeling resentful<br />
or indifferent toward her baby. In “Giving Birth” mother Kate Rayner shares her painful birth<br />
story. We look at how the physical contact <strong>of</strong> breastfeeding and the time it requires mother and<br />
baby to spend touching and holding can be comforting after a difficult birth and how it can help<br />
in establishing a loving relationship.<br />
Mothers share tips on coping constructively with tantrums in the “Toddler Tips” column and<br />
in “Staying Home” they share ideas for juggling the differing needs <strong>of</strong> family members when<br />
dad cannot be around much. In “Making It Work” mothers discuss how they deal with the<br />
practicalities <strong>of</strong> home life when what they want most <strong>of</strong> all is to be able to reconnect with their<br />
little ones after a day spent apart.<br />
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Linda Folden Palmer<br />
<strong>The</strong> Chemistry<br />
<strong>of</strong> <strong>Bonding</strong><br />
Human babies are born helpless,<br />
needing to be entirely cared<br />
for and protected. Luckily, they<br />
are born with all the necessary<br />
tools and “instructions” to attain<br />
such care for themselves and to<br />
become a loved and loving part<br />
<strong>of</strong> their family and society. <strong>The</strong><br />
neural and hormonal interactions<br />
provided for parent and child<br />
to assist them in this process<br />
are among the most powerful in<br />
nature.* <strong>The</strong> hormonal cues are<br />
clear and compelling and our<br />
instincts can provide us with all<br />
the appropriate responses. If they<br />
don’t make great efforts to avoid<br />
and ignore such urges, parents<br />
will naturally follow the advice<br />
<strong>of</strong> their neurons and hormones,<br />
nurturing their babies and<br />
maintaining physical closeness<br />
with them.<br />
Once born, a baby’s hormonal<br />
control systems and brain<br />
synapses begin to permanently<br />
organize according to the human<br />
interactions he or she experiences.<br />
Unneeded brain receptors and<br />
neural pathways are disposed<br />
<strong>of</strong>, while those appropriate to the<br />
given environment are enhanced.<br />
Oxytocin: a bonding<br />
hormone<br />
Oxytocin is a chemical messenger<br />
released in the brain chiefly in<br />
response to social contact, but its<br />
release is especially pronounced<br />
with skin-to-skin contact. In<br />
addition to providing health<br />
benefits, oxytocin promotes<br />
bonding patterns and creates<br />
desire for further contact with the<br />
individuals inciting its release.<br />
When the process is<br />
uninterrupted, oxytocin is one <strong>of</strong><br />
nature’s chief tools for creating<br />
a mother. Roused by the high<br />
levels <strong>of</strong> estrogen (“female<br />
hormone”) during pregnancy,<br />
the number <strong>of</strong> oxytocin receptors<br />
in the expectant mother’s brain<br />
multiplies dramatically near the<br />
end <strong>of</strong> her pregnancy. This makes<br />
the new mother highly responsive<br />
to the presence <strong>of</strong> oxytocin. <strong>The</strong>se<br />
receptors increase in the part <strong>of</strong><br />
her brain that promotes maternal<br />
behaviors. (1)<br />
Oxytocin’s first important surge<br />
is during labor. If a cesarean<br />
birth is necessary, allowing labor<br />
to occur first provides some <strong>of</strong><br />
this bonding hormone surge<br />
(and helps ensure a final burst <strong>of</strong><br />
antibodies for the baby through<br />
the placenta). Passage through<br />
the birth canal further heightens<br />
oxytocin levels in both mother and<br />
baby. Oxytocin release following<br />
birth is what makes the uterus<br />
contract.<br />
High oxytocin causes a mother to<br />
become familiar with the unique<br />
odor <strong>of</strong> her newborn infant and,<br />
once attracted to it, to prefer her<br />
own baby’s odor above all others.<br />
Baby is similarly imprinted on<br />
mother, associating feelings <strong>of</strong><br />
calmness and pain reduction with<br />
being with mom. When the infant<br />
is born, he is already imprinted<br />
on the odor <strong>of</strong> his amniotic fluid.<br />
This odor imprint helps him find<br />
mother’s breast, which has a<br />
similar but slightly different odor.<br />
In the days following birth, the<br />
infant can be comforted by the<br />
odor <strong>of</strong> this fluid. (2) Gradually<br />
over the next days, a baby<br />
continues imprinting upon his<br />
mother. Formula-fed infants are<br />
more attracted (in laboratory tests)<br />
to their mother’s breast odor than<br />
to that <strong>of</strong> their formula, even two<br />
weeks after birth. (3)<br />
Photo courtesy <strong>of</strong> Kerry Oscar<br />
By influencing maternal behavior<br />
and stimulating milk “let-down”<br />
(allowing milk to flow) during<br />
nursing, oxytocin helps make these<br />
first attempts at breastfeeding feel<br />
natural. Attempts at nursing during<br />
the initial hour after birth cause<br />
oxytocin to surge to exceptional<br />
levels in both mother and baby.<br />
Mothers who postpone nursing<br />
lose part <strong>of</strong> the ultimate hormone<br />
high <strong>of</strong> giving birth. Powerful<br />
initial imprinting for mother and<br />
baby makes it possible for mother<br />
and baby to be able to find and<br />
recognize each other in the hours<br />
and days after birth.<br />
Yet a lifetime <strong>of</strong> bonding and<br />
love is not lost if this initial<br />
window is missed. Beyond birth,<br />
mother continues to produce<br />
elevated levels <strong>of</strong> oxytocin as<br />
a consequence <strong>of</strong> nursing and<br />
holding her infant and the levels<br />
are based on the amount <strong>of</strong> such<br />
contact. This hormonal condition<br />
provides a sense <strong>of</strong> calm and<br />
well-being. Oxytocin levels are<br />
higher in mothers who exclusively<br />
breastfeed than in those who use<br />
supplementary bottles. (4) Under<br />
the early influence <strong>of</strong> oxytocin,<br />
With all <strong>of</strong> its powers,<br />
oxytocin is but one<br />
<strong>of</strong> a list <strong>of</strong> many<br />
chemicals that nature uses<br />
to ensure that baby finds the<br />
love and care he needs.<br />
nerve junctions in certain areas <strong>of</strong><br />
mother’s brain actually undergo<br />
reorganization, thereby making<br />
her maternal behaviors “hardwired.”<br />
As long as contact with the infant<br />
continues, oxytocin causes mother<br />
to be more caring, to be more<br />
eager to please others, to become<br />
more sensitive to others’ feelings,<br />
and to recognize nonverbal cues<br />
more readily. Continued nursing<br />
enhances this effect. With high<br />
oxytocin levels, mother’s priorities<br />
become altered and her brain no<br />
longer signals her to groom and<br />
adorn herself in order to obtain<br />
a mate and thus a pregnancy.<br />
4 New Beginnings | Issue 2 | 2010
Linda Folden Palmer<br />
Photo courtesy <strong>of</strong> Kerry Oscar<br />
Photo courtesy <strong>of</strong> Kerry Oscar<br />
Now that the child has already<br />
been created, mom’s grooming<br />
habits are directed toward her<br />
baby. High oxytocin in the female<br />
has also been shown to promote<br />
preference for whichever male<br />
is present during its surges—one<br />
good reason for dad to hang<br />
around during and after the<br />
birth. Prolonged high oxytocin<br />
in mother, father, or baby also<br />
promotes lower blood pressure<br />
and reduced heart rate as well<br />
as certain kinds <strong>of</strong> artery repair,<br />
actually reducing the lifelong risk<br />
<strong>of</strong> heart disease. (5)<br />
Although a baby makes her own<br />
oxytocin in response to nursing,<br />
a mother also transfers it to the<br />
infant in her milk. This provision<br />
serves to promote continuous<br />
relaxation and closeness for both<br />
mother and baby. A more variable<br />
release <strong>of</strong> oxytocin is seen in<br />
bottle-fed infants, but is definitely<br />
higher in an infant who is “bottlenursed”<br />
in the parents’ arms rather<br />
than with a propped bottle.<br />
Persistent regular body contact<br />
and other nurturing acts by<br />
parents produce a constant,<br />
elevated level <strong>of</strong> oxytocin in the<br />
infant, which in turn provides a<br />
valuable reduction in the infant’s<br />
stress-hormone responses. Multiple<br />
studies have demonstrated that,<br />
depending on the practices <strong>of</strong><br />
the parents, the resulting high or<br />
low level <strong>of</strong> oxytocin will control<br />
the permanent organization <strong>of</strong><br />
the stress-handling portion <strong>of</strong> the<br />
baby’s brain—promoting lasting<br />
“securely attached” or “insecure”<br />
characteristics in the adolescent<br />
and adult. Such insecure<br />
characteristics include anti-social<br />
behavior, aggression, difficulty<br />
forming lasting bonds with a<br />
mate, mental illness, and poor<br />
handling <strong>of</strong> stress.<br />
When an infant does not receive<br />
regular oxytocin-producing<br />
responsive care, the resultant<br />
stress responses cause elevated<br />
levels <strong>of</strong> the stress hormone<br />
cortisol. Chronic cortisol elevations<br />
in infants and the hormonal<br />
and functional adjustments that<br />
go along with them are shown<br />
in biochemical studies to be<br />
associated with permanent brain<br />
changes that lead to elevated<br />
responses to stress throughout life,<br />
such as higher blood pressure<br />
and heart rate. Mothers can also<br />
benefit from the stress-reducing<br />
effects <strong>of</strong> oxytocin—women who<br />
breastfeed produce significantly<br />
less stress hormone than those<br />
who bottle-feed. (6)<br />
Nor are fathers left out <strong>of</strong> the<br />
oxytocin equation. It has been<br />
shown that a live-in father’s<br />
oxytocin levels rise toward the<br />
end <strong>of</strong> his mate’s pregnancy.<br />
When the father spends significant<br />
amounts <strong>of</strong> time in contact with<br />
his infant, oxytocin encourages<br />
him to become more involved<br />
in the ongoing care in a selfperpetuating<br />
cycle. Oxytocin<br />
in the father also increases his<br />
interest in physical (not necessarily<br />
sexual) contact with the mother.<br />
Nature now provides a way for<br />
father to become more interested<br />
in being a devoted and satisfied<br />
part <strong>of</strong> the family picture through<br />
his involvement with the baby.<br />
Vasopressin &<br />
protection<br />
With all <strong>of</strong> its powers, oxytocin is<br />
but one <strong>of</strong> a list <strong>of</strong> many chemicals<br />
that nature uses to ensure that<br />
baby finds the love and care he<br />
needs.<br />
Although present and active<br />
during bonding in the mother<br />
and infant, vasopressin plays a<br />
much bigger role in the father.<br />
This hormone promotes brain<br />
reorganization that supports<br />
paternal behaviors when the male<br />
is cohabitating with the pregnant<br />
mother. <strong>The</strong> father becomes<br />
more dedicated to his mate and<br />
expresses behaviors <strong>of</strong> protection.<br />
Released in response to nearness<br />
and touch, vasopressin promotes<br />
bonding between the father<br />
and the mother, helps the father<br />
recognize and bond to his baby,<br />
and makes him want to be part<br />
<strong>of</strong> the family, rather than alone.<br />
It has gained a reputation as<br />
the “monogamy hormone.” Dr.<br />
<strong>The</strong>resa Crenshaw, author <strong>of</strong> <strong>The</strong><br />
Alchemy <strong>of</strong> Love and Lust, says,<br />
“Testosterone wants to prowl,<br />
vasopressin wants to stay home.”<br />
She also describes vasopressin as<br />
tempering the man’s sexual drive.<br />
Vasopressin reinforces the father’s<br />
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Linda Folden Palmer<br />
threats, whereas childless males<br />
do not. On the other hand,<br />
nursing mothers do not release<br />
prolactin in response to loud<br />
noise, whereas childless females<br />
do. In children and non-parents,<br />
prolactin surges are related to<br />
stress levels, so it is generally<br />
considered a stress hormone. In<br />
parents, it serves as a parenting<br />
hormone.<br />
Photo courtesy <strong>of</strong> Kerry Oscar<br />
testosterone-promoted protective<br />
inclination regarding his mate and<br />
child, but tempers his aggression,<br />
making him more reasonable<br />
and less extreme. By promoting<br />
more rational and less capricious<br />
thinking, this hormone induces a<br />
sensible paternal role, providing<br />
stability as well as vigilance.<br />
Prolactin & behavior<br />
Prolactin is released in all healthy<br />
people during sleep, helping to<br />
maintain reproductive organs and<br />
immune function. In the mother,<br />
prolactin is released in response<br />
to suckling, promoting milk<br />
production as well as maternal<br />
behaviors. Prolactin relaxes<br />
mother, and in the early months,<br />
creates a bit <strong>of</strong> fatigue during<br />
a nursing session so she has no<br />
strong desire to hop up and do<br />
other things.<br />
Prolactin promotes caregiving<br />
behaviors and, over time, directs<br />
brain reorganization to favor<br />
these behaviors. (7) Father’s<br />
prolactin levels begin to elevate<br />
during mother’s pregnancy, but<br />
most <strong>of</strong> the rise in the male occurs<br />
after many days <strong>of</strong> cohabitation<br />
with the infant.<br />
As a result <strong>of</strong> hormonally<br />
orchestrated brain reorganization<br />
during parenthood, prolactin<br />
release patterns are altered. It has<br />
been shown that fathers release<br />
prolactin in response to intruder<br />
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Opioids & rewards<br />
Opioids (pleasure hormones) are<br />
natural morphine-like chemicals<br />
created in our bodies. <strong>The</strong>y<br />
reduce pain awareness and<br />
create feelings <strong>of</strong> elation. Social<br />
contacts, particularly touch—<br />
especially between parent and<br />
child—induce opioid release,<br />
creating good feelings that<br />
Babies need milk,<br />
and opioids are<br />
nature’s reward<br />
to them for obtaining<br />
it, especially during the<br />
initial attempts.<br />
will enhance bonding. Odor,<br />
taste, activity, and even place<br />
preferences can develop as the<br />
result <strong>of</strong> opioid release during<br />
pleasant contacts, and eventually<br />
the sight <strong>of</strong> a loved one’s face<br />
stimulates surges. Opioid released<br />
in a child’s brain as a conditioned<br />
response to a parent’s warm hugs<br />
and kisses can be effective for<br />
helping reduce the pain from a<br />
tumble or a disappointment.<br />
Parents “learn” to enjoy beneficial<br />
activities such as breastfeeding<br />
and holding, and infants “learn”<br />
to enjoy contact such as being<br />
held, carried, and rocked, all as a<br />
response to opioid release.<br />
Babies need milk, and opioids<br />
Photo courtesy <strong>of</strong> Kerry Oscar<br />
are nature’s reward to them for<br />
obtaining it, especially during the<br />
initial attempts.<br />
<strong>The</strong> first few episodes <strong>of</strong> sucking<br />
organize nerve pathways in the<br />
newborn’s brain, conditioning<br />
her to continue this activity. This is<br />
the reason that breastfed babies<br />
sometimes have trouble if they<br />
are given bottles in the newborn<br />
nursery.<br />
Prolonged elevation <strong>of</strong> prolactin<br />
in the attached parent stimulates<br />
the opioid system, heightening the<br />
rewards for intimate, loving family<br />
relationships, possibly above all<br />
else. Just as with codeine and<br />
morphine, tolerance to natural<br />
opioids can occur, which reduces<br />
the reward level for various<br />
activities over time. But this is not<br />
a problem for attached infants and<br />
parents, because higher levels <strong>of</strong><br />
oxytocin, especially when created<br />
through frequent or prolonged<br />
bodily contact, actually inhibit<br />
opioid tolerance, (8) protecting<br />
the rewards for maintaining close<br />
family relationships. On the other<br />
hand, consuming artificial opioid<br />
drugs replaces the brain’s need<br />
for maintaining family contacts.<br />
Once a strong opioid bonding has<br />
occurred, separation can become<br />
emotionally upsetting and, in the<br />
infant, possibly even physically<br />
uncomfortable when opioid levels<br />
decrease in the brain, much like<br />
the withdrawal symptoms from<br />
cocaine or heroin. When opioid<br />
levels become low, one might<br />
feel like going home to hold the<br />
baby or like crying for a parent’s<br />
warm embrace, depending on<br />
your point <strong>of</strong> view. Sometimes<br />
alternate behaviors are helpful.<br />
For instance, thumb-sucking<br />
can provide some relief from<br />
partial or total withdrawal from a<br />
human or rubber nipple and can<br />
even provide opioid-produced<br />
reminiscences for a time.<br />
Pheromones & basic<br />
instincts<br />
How does the man’s body know<br />
to initiate hormonal changes when<br />
he is living with a pregnant
Linda Folden Palmer<br />
F<br />
requent proximity<br />
and touch between<br />
baby and parents can<br />
create powerful family<br />
bonding with many longterm<br />
benefits.<br />
female How can an infant<br />
accurately interpret mother’s<br />
“odors” that adults <strong>of</strong>ten can<br />
barely detect <strong>The</strong> answer is<br />
pheromones. Among other<br />
things, pheromones are steroid<br />
hormones that are made in<br />
our skin. Our bodies are<br />
instinctually programmed to<br />
react accordingly when we<br />
detect these pheromones<br />
around us.<br />
Newborns are much more<br />
sensitive to pheromones than<br />
adults. Unable to respond to<br />
verbal or many other cues,<br />
they apparently depend on this<br />
primitive sense that controls much<br />
<strong>of</strong> the behavior <strong>of</strong> lower animals.<br />
Part <strong>of</strong> an infant’s distress over<br />
separation may be caused by the<br />
lost parental cues about the safety<br />
<strong>of</strong> her environment. Of course the<br />
other basic sensation an infant<br />
responds to well is touch and,<br />
coincidentally, body odors and<br />
pheromones can only be sensed<br />
when people are physically very<br />
near each other.<br />
What the world<br />
needs now<br />
Universally infants cry when<br />
laid down alone. If we allow<br />
ourselves to listen, our neurons<br />
and hormones encourage us in<br />
the appropriate response. Babies<br />
are designed to be fed frequently<br />
in a fashion that requires skinto-skin<br />
contact, holding, and<br />
available facial cues. Beneficial,<br />
Photo courtesy <strong>of</strong> Kerry Oscar<br />
permanent brain changes result in<br />
both parent and infant from just<br />
such actions. Contented maternal<br />
behaviors grow when cues are<br />
followed. <strong>The</strong> enhancement <strong>of</strong><br />
fatherhood is strongly provided for<br />
as well. A father’s participation<br />
encourages his further involvement<br />
and creates accord between<br />
father and mother. Frequent<br />
proximity and touch between<br />
baby and parents can create<br />
powerful family bonding—with<br />
many long-term benefits.<br />
Sadly, over the last century<br />
parents have been encouraged<br />
by “experts” to ignore their every<br />
instinct to respond to their baby’s<br />
powerful parenting lessons.<br />
Psychologists, neurologists, and<br />
biochemists have now confirmed<br />
what many <strong>of</strong> us have instinctually<br />
suspected: that many <strong>of</strong> the<br />
rewards <strong>of</strong> parenthood have been<br />
missed along the way, and that<br />
generations <strong>of</strong> children may have<br />
missed out on important lifelong<br />
advantages.<br />
* Hormones are substances<br />
produced in the body’s tissues and<br />
conveyed by the bloodstream to<br />
effect physiological activity, such as<br />
growth or metabolism. <strong>The</strong> human<br />
brain contains billions <strong>of</strong> nerve<br />
cells, or neurons. Each neuron is<br />
connected to other neurons through<br />
many thousands <strong>of</strong> synapses. <strong>The</strong><br />
brain’s network <strong>of</strong> neurons forms our<br />
information processing system.<br />
References<br />
1. Insel, T.R. Oxytocin—a<br />
neuropeptide for affiliation:<br />
evidence from behavioral, receptor<br />
autoradiographic, and comparative<br />
studies. Psychoneuroendocrinology<br />
1992; 17(1), 3–35.<br />
2. Varendi, H. et al. Soothing effect<br />
<strong>of</strong> amniotic fluid smell in newborn<br />
infants. Early Hum Dev (Estonia)<br />
1998; 51(1), 47–55.<br />
3. Porter, R.H. et al. An assessment<br />
<strong>of</strong> the salient olfactory environment<br />
<strong>of</strong> formula-fed infants. Physiol Behav.<br />
1991; 50( 5), 907–11.<br />
4. Uvnäs-Moberg, K., Widström, A.<br />
et al. Oxytocin and prolactin levels<br />
in breast-feeding women. Correlation<br />
with milk yield and duration <strong>of</strong><br />
breast-feeding Acta Obstetricia et<br />
Gynecologica Scandinavica 1990;<br />
69, (4), 301–306.<br />
5. Knox, S.S. and Uvnas-Moberg, K.<br />
Social isolation and cardiovascular<br />
disease: an atherosclerotic pathway<br />
Psychoneuroendocrinology 1998;<br />
23(8), 877–90.<br />
6. Altemus, M. et al. Suppression<br />
<strong>of</strong> hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal<br />
axis responses to stress in lactating<br />
women. J Clin Endocrinol Metab.<br />
1995; 80(10), 2965–9.<br />
7. Bridges, R.S. <strong>The</strong> role <strong>of</strong><br />
lactogenic hormones in maternal<br />
behavior in female rats. Acta<br />
Paediatr Suppl. 1994; 397, 33–9.<br />
8. Kovacs, G.L. et al. Oxytocin<br />
and addiction: a review.<br />
Psychoneuroendocrinology.<br />
Hungary,1998; 23(8), 945–62.<br />
Dr. Linda Folden Palmer<br />
consults and lectures on the<br />
science behind natural infant<br />
health choices and optimal<br />
child nutrition. After running<br />
a successful chiropractic<br />
practice focused on nutrition<br />
and women’s health for more<br />
than a decade, Linda’s research<br />
into her infant son’s health<br />
challenges led her to write<br />
Baby Matters: What Your<br />
Doctor May Not Tell You<br />
About Caring for Your Baby.<br />
She has recently embellished<br />
and updated her book to be<br />
re-released as <strong>The</strong> Baby Bond,<br />
<strong>The</strong> New Science Behind<br />
What’s Really Important<br />
When Caring for Your Baby.<br />
www.<strong>The</strong>BabyBond.com<br />
2010 | Issue 2 | New Beginnings 7
Mothers’ Stories<br />
A Challenging<br />
First Month<br />
I was lucky enough—if you can<br />
call it luck—to be informed in<br />
advance <strong>of</strong> my second son’s<br />
birth that we would be <strong>of</strong>f to a<br />
rough start. We found out at 19<br />
weeks gestation that he would<br />
be born with an omphalocele (a<br />
birth defect in which the infant’s<br />
intestine or other abdominal<br />
organs stick out <strong>of</strong> the belly<br />
button). <strong>The</strong> defect was small and<br />
could potentially be repaired in<br />
one surgery. We scheduled a<br />
cesarean section so there would<br />
be little to no damage done to the<br />
organ at birth. I was extremely<br />
nervous to have this surgery as<br />
I had had an easy vaginal birth<br />
with my first son.<br />
When my beautiful son, Bennett,<br />
was born his doctor said that<br />
the defect was much smaller<br />
than anticipated, only a few<br />
loops <strong>of</strong> his bowel, and it could<br />
be repaired a few days later.<br />
He would not be allowed to eat<br />
before his surgery and he was<br />
strictly on IV fluids. I was fortunate<br />
enough to have nursed my first<br />
son for 20 months, when he<br />
self-weaned. So I was educated<br />
about breastfeeding and was<br />
determined to be successful<br />
nursing Ben. Right after my<br />
baby was born, it was hard not<br />
having that initial bonding that<br />
breastfeeding provides. Each time<br />
I visited him in the NICU the two<br />
days before his surgery, he would<br />
root towards my breast. That gave<br />
me hope that he would be able to<br />
breastfeed without much problem.<br />
I was pumping around the clock,<br />
but my milk had not come in by<br />
the time he was “allowed” to<br />
breastfeed, which was the<br />
evening after his surgery. He<br />
needed to eat to stimulate a<br />
bowel movement, which would<br />
determine if the surgery had<br />
been a success. I gave the<br />
nurses what little milk I was<br />
able to pump, but this was<br />
supplemented with formula,<br />
as much as it broke my heart.<br />
I knew it was important that<br />
Bennett learned to breastfeed,<br />
gain weight, and have an<br />
adequate number <strong>of</strong> wet and<br />
dirty diapers. I <strong>of</strong>fered the<br />
breast at every feeding while<br />
I was in the NICU (I was there<br />
for eight to ten hours a day),<br />
but he just wasn’t getting the<br />
hang <strong>of</strong> it. After five days, I was<br />
discharged, but my baby wasn’t.<br />
That was one <strong>of</strong> the hardest days<br />
<strong>of</strong> my life.<br />
I was fortunate enough to be<br />
able to stay nearby, since my<br />
own home was over an hour<br />
away. That day, my milk finally<br />
came in. Right before I left the<br />
hospital, Bennett latched on! I<br />
cried. He had a perfect latch and<br />
was nursing as though he had<br />
been doing it the whole time. He<br />
did so well.<br />
He was in the hospital another<br />
three days, taking bottles, but<br />
nursing well when I was with him.<br />
When he was discharged from the<br />
NICU, it was recommended that I<br />
continue supplementing, whether<br />
it was pumped milk or formula—<br />
though he had not had formula<br />
once since my milk had come in. I<br />
had faith that he was gaining well<br />
as he was having plenty <strong>of</strong> wet<br />
and dirty diapers.<br />
Once we got home I was<br />
Photo courtesy <strong>of</strong> Heather Stevens & Bennett<br />
Photo courtesy <strong>of</strong> Heather Stevens & family<br />
determined to nurse him<br />
exclusively. He must have known<br />
that he was home and in good<br />
hands because he took to nursing<br />
every two hours right away and<br />
needed no further supplemental<br />
bottles. We have had a great<br />
nursing relationship ever since. I<br />
feel so blessed to have a healthy,<br />
beautiful baby and to be able to<br />
breastfeed him is a dream come<br />
true. I’m so grateful to my family<br />
and my husband who were by my<br />
side, encouraging me the whole<br />
time.<br />
I am especially grateful to my <strong>La</strong><br />
<strong>Leche</strong> <strong>League</strong> family, the mothers<br />
whom I call my friends and whom<br />
I met on the LLL mother-to-mother<br />
forums. (Log on and visit http://<br />
forums.llli.org) <strong>The</strong>y talked me<br />
through all <strong>of</strong> my problems and<br />
anxiety during our NICU stay.<br />
I’ve been a member <strong>of</strong> the LLL<br />
forums for two and a half years,<br />
and I’m thankful every day for<br />
those women, without them it’s<br />
likely I would not have continued<br />
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Heather Stevens, Defiance,<br />
Ohio, USA<br />
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2010 | Issue 2 | New Beginnings 9
Mothers’ Stories<br />
Nursing and Nurturing<br />
Two Babies under Three<br />
Gabe was a little over a year when we decided to try to conceive our<br />
second baby. He was still nursing all day and all night and not very<br />
interested in eating other foods. I <strong>of</strong>fered him the foods my husband and<br />
I were eating. I was breastfed for several years myself and his lack <strong>of</strong><br />
interest in table food was normal to me. I knew he would eventually eat<br />
more foods, but I was very concerned that if I got pregnant and my milk<br />
supply decreased or disappeared,<br />
he would starve. Although I<br />
wanted to wait until Gabe was at<br />
least two to get pregnant again,<br />
with my husband Ryan’s future<br />
military deployments and frequent<br />
moves to plan around, we<br />
decided it would work out better<br />
to have a baby sooner.<br />
I conceived again when Gabe<br />
was 18 months old. I really<br />
wanted Gabe to have as much<br />
milk as he wanted until he was<br />
two. I planned to continue nursing<br />
throughout my pregnancy and<br />
then to tandem nurse. My milk<br />
supply gradually decreased<br />
and Gabe slowly started eating<br />
other foods. My milk supply had<br />
dwindled by the time I was 18<br />
weeks pregnant, but Gabe, 21<br />
months old at the time, was still<br />
very keen on nursing. And he<br />
didn’t starve himself! He didn’t<br />
even appear to notice the drop<br />
in my milk supply. He just nursed<br />
as normal and ate food to make<br />
up for not getting nutrition from<br />
nursing. He was not a picky eater.<br />
He ate what the rest <strong>of</strong> the family<br />
ate. For this I am very thankful.<br />
I<br />
learned how to do pretty<br />
much everything—<br />
cooking, helping Gabe<br />
use the bathroom, playing<br />
with Gabe, laundry—with<br />
Susanna nursing in the sling.<br />
Photo courtesy <strong>of</strong> Michelle & Susanna<br />
Nursing during pregnancy was<br />
not painful, although it was<br />
uncomfortable from time to time. I<br />
believed Gabe deserved to nurse<br />
and decided I was not going to<br />
wean. This mindset helped me get<br />
through the uncomfortable times.<br />
Nursing also made it easier to rest<br />
with a busy toddler. He was still<br />
waking <strong>of</strong>ten at night to nurse,<br />
which did make me more tired,<br />
but it was manageable. By the<br />
end <strong>of</strong> my pregnancy, Gabe was<br />
27 months old and not nursing a<br />
lot. He was sleeping through the<br />
night and nursing in the morning<br />
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and at nap and bedtime.<br />
I knew I was going into labor<br />
when I nursed Gabe to sleep one<br />
evening, which made my still<br />
irregular contractions stronger.<br />
By the time he awoke the next<br />
morning, I was having regular<br />
contractions and had been in<br />
contact with my midwife. My<br />
husband took Gabe to my mom’s<br />
house across the street so that he<br />
would not want to nurse while I<br />
was having contractions.<br />
My daughter, Susanna, was born<br />
at home that afternoon. My mom<br />
and Gabe came over shortly after<br />
the birth and the first thing Gabe<br />
said was, “I want milk.” I was<br />
nursing Susanna at that time, but I<br />
let him latch on and I nursed them<br />
together.<br />
who needs to nurse or to have to<br />
go comfort a toddler in another<br />
room. When the babies wake,<br />
they just nurse right there, not<br />
it would be much<br />
more challenging to<br />
have a weaned two-<br />
disturbing anyone. It can be a<br />
his first joke. I remember the lows—the<br />
problem when Gabe wakes while<br />
nipple pain; feeling overwhelmed by<br />
Oliver’s<br />
Susanna<br />
needs.<br />
is nursing<br />
But the<br />
because<br />
hundreds<br />
he<br />
<strong>of</strong><br />
normal has days, to wait. the He thousands accepts waiting <strong>of</strong> warm,<br />
enjoyable but whines but unmemorable a little bit about feeds, it. fade<br />
into a Sometimes blur. I wake up nursing<br />
Attending one <strong>of</strong> them LLL with meetings the other and one hearing<br />
about other mothers’ breastfeeding and<br />
whimpering and I’m not sure who<br />
parenting experiences have been<br />
is nursing and who is whimpering!<br />
brilliant. Over the past two and a half<br />
years Gabe I have started gained night so much waking from again the<br />
mothers after I Susanna have met was born, through but by LLL.<br />
<strong>The</strong>y’ve the suggested time she was tips six for weeks specific old, situations,<br />
his changed night waking some was <strong>of</strong> minimal. my attitudes<br />
completely, and given me true empathy.<br />
<strong>The</strong>ir<br />
I<br />
experiences have helped me to<br />
recognize the truth in the phrase “this<br />
think<br />
too shall pass.” This has really helped me<br />
to enjoy the good bits and cope with the<br />
rocky periods. I would like to say a<br />
During those first few days before particularly warm thank you to my local<br />
my milk came in, my mom and Leaders Ruth, Suzanne, and Barbara for<br />
their listening ears, helpful information,<br />
Ryan tried to spend a lot <strong>of</strong> time<br />
and, <strong>of</strong> course, their friendship.<br />
with Gabe. I did not want him year-old and a newborn.<br />
to nurse all the time, although Joanne Whistler<br />
I let him nurse as <strong>of</strong>ten as he West Yorkshire Gabe has Great shown Britainonly positive<br />
had prior to Susanna’s birth.<br />
Adapted feelings from a story toward in LLLGB’s Susanna. Breastfeeding I know<br />
Unlike Gabe, who nursed every Matters this is because he does not<br />
couple hours as a newborn, feel like he was replaced, and<br />
Susanna nursed continuously. because his needs have been<br />
I quickly reacquainted myself met. When she cries, her needs<br />
with nursing a baby in a sling! always come first and he seems<br />
I later learned to nurse Gabe to understand this. He is capable<br />
on the other side with Susanna <strong>of</strong> carrying A on Gift a conversation from<br />
in a sling. I learned how to do and will say, My “Susanna’s Sister fussing,<br />
pretty much everything—cooking, Susanna needs milk.” By seeing<br />
helping Gabe use the bathroom, me tend to her immediately when<br />
playing with Gabe, laundry—with My she younger fusses, sister, Gabe Jaime, is learning has how always<br />
Susanna nursing in the sling.<br />
been<br />
to<br />
one<br />
take<br />
to<br />
care<br />
learn<br />
<strong>of</strong><br />
a<br />
a<br />
lot<br />
baby.<br />
by<br />
I<br />
reading.<br />
suspect<br />
So<br />
when she was pregnant, Jaime read and<br />
I cannot think <strong>of</strong> another way to that he knows anyway but now<br />
learned a lot about breastfeeding. She<br />
manage with a newborn and a joined he a is <strong>La</strong> seeing <strong>Leche</strong> it <strong>League</strong> from the Group outside in her<br />
toddler!<br />
area and instead established <strong>of</strong> always a wonderful being the one breastfeeding<br />
taken relationship care <strong>of</strong>. with her daughter,<br />
We sleep in a family bed. We Erin.<br />
have a king-size futon and a twin When We talked I became a lot pregnant about having a month a<br />
after Erin was born, I asked Jaime about<br />
futon on our bedroom floor. Gabe baby before she was born and he<br />
breastfeeding. She told me several<br />
had been sleeping on the twin positives was about accustomed it and to told seeing me babies to look<br />
but moved himself back near me up the and number toddlers <strong>of</strong> nurse my local at <strong>La</strong> LLL <strong>Leche</strong> Group.<br />
after Susanna’s birth, booting my She didn’t <strong>League</strong> push meetings. information I had a on family me. In<br />
husband to the twin. My husband her quiet member way, staying she just with recommended me full time I<br />
doesn’t mind. I think he’s just glad read about until Susanna it and was decide one for month myself. old. I<br />
attended one LLL meeting late in my<br />
that he gets to sleep all night, We staggered the grandmas’<br />
pregnancy. I didn’t read a whole lot<br />
without waking to go get a baby visits and my husband taking<br />
time <strong>of</strong>f work so that someone<br />
would always be here with me<br />
but the house would never be full<br />
<strong>of</strong> people. This worked out very<br />
well and I don’t know how I could<br />
have managed without someone<br />
to help me that first month! My<br />
helper primarily played with<br />
Gabe, which he loved.<br />
I think it would be much more<br />
challenging to have a weaned<br />
two-year-old and a newborn.<br />
Like any mom with two so young,<br />
I am always busy but in a positive<br />
way. I spend my time nursing<br />
and playing with my babies,<br />
as well as accomplishing basic<br />
household tasks. With Gabe’s<br />
about needs met, it, just I haven’t the basics, had to and spend thought<br />
that time my preventing baby and him I from would hitting figure it out<br />
if the it baby were or meant managing to be. temper<br />
tantrums. I didn’t I have talk to prioritized my husband my about it<br />
much household or have tasks him and read only anything set out about<br />
it either. I remember him being very<br />
to do the most important ones:<br />
shocked when late in the pregnancy I<br />
announced<br />
grocery shopping,<br />
that I<br />
cooking<br />
would be exclusively<br />
feeding nutritious the meals, baby; and we laundry. would not be<br />
using My husband bottles does if the all dishes went and well. I<br />
remember anything else he that was must not be too done. happy about<br />
time went on. My mom tandem<br />
nursed my sister and me and has<br />
always told me it is very normal<br />
for a toddler to nurse more after<br />
the birth <strong>of</strong> a sibling.<br />
I do tell Gabe “no” sometimes<br />
when he wants to nurse. He<br />
usually accepts this or waits<br />
without much <strong>of</strong> a fuss.<br />
If I could have spaced the gap<br />
between my children however<br />
I wanted, not having to worry<br />
about other factors, I would have<br />
waited to get pregnant until<br />
my youngest was at least two.<br />
However, it is no bad thing having<br />
two under-threes—it is just very,<br />
very busy! Sisters I sleep Diane when and they Jamie sleep and their babies<br />
and I am lackadaisical not exhausted. attitude I am toward breastfeeding<br />
spend all during my time my with pregnancy came<br />
happy to<br />
my two from healthy, a lack thriving <strong>of</strong> knowledge; children. knowledge<br />
(thank goodness) that my sister learned<br />
from a book and passed on to me.<br />
When my daughter was born, I had<br />
Michelle Stille, Milton, FL,<br />
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Gabe did start eating less and Pregnancy and Beyond. LLLI,<br />
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became severe. I was there for three days before<br />
I delivered via cesarean section. I was not able to<br />
visit my babies for a whole day and was extremely<br />
fatigued due to all the medicines and the sickness at<br />
the end <strong>of</strong> my pregnancy.<br />
I started pumping my milk. At first it was only about<br />
four times a day, then I was able to build up to six<br />
times a day. <strong>The</strong> boys weighed 3lb 7oz and 3lb<br />
10oz. <strong>The</strong>y were started on naso-gastric feedings at<br />
a few days old and on bottles about a week later.<br />
<strong>The</strong>y tore through my limited supply <strong>of</strong> breastmilk<br />
very quickly and received formula milk several times<br />
to supplement it. It was frustrating because I never<br />
seemed to be able to get hold <strong>of</strong> a doctor and the<br />
nurses said they were afraid that nursing would tire<br />
my babies out too quickly. I only did kangaroo care<br />
twice for each boy the whole month they were there.<br />
Finally my babies came home after 26 and 28 days<br />
in the NICU. By this time they were used to bottles.<br />
Ian attempted nursing the night before coming<br />
home and Eli didn’t attempt it until he was home. I<br />
struggled to pump in between trying to get them to<br />
nurse and feeding them bottles. It was almost too<br />
much to bear.<br />
Photo courtesy <strong>of</strong> Cinda Vickery<br />
I’m Breastfeeding<br />
My Premature<br />
Twins<br />
I struggled to breastfeed my premature twin boys. Feeding two can<br />
be tricky and prematurity adds to the challenge. I wasn’t able to start<br />
breastfeeding until they came home at one month old.<br />
<strong>The</strong>n Eli discovered that he loved nursing and was<br />
able to latch on to the breast really well. I was able<br />
to nurse him almost every feeding while giving Ian<br />
bottles. And then it clicked for Ian as well. Soon every feeding was done<br />
mostly by breast.<br />
Now my boys are five months old. Ian is now over 10lb and Eli is almost<br />
10lb. <strong>The</strong>y are exclusively breastfed. We will be starting solids in a<br />
month or two.<br />
I hope this story encourages mothers out there who feel they can’t cope<br />
with trying to breastfeed when they experience problems. It felt that way<br />
for me too. I kept with it and succeeded and you can too.<br />
Cinda Vickery, Madisonville, KY, USA<br />
At 31 weeks gestation I was admitted to hospital due to high blood<br />
pressure. I was showing signs <strong>of</strong> premature labor and sent to a hospital<br />
an hour away from my home that had a better equipped NICU than<br />
my local hospital. I was diagnosed with pre-eclampsia, which quickly<br />
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Mothers’ Stories<br />
Making My<br />
Breastfeeding<br />
Journey<br />
My breastfeeding journey<br />
has been a rocky one, full <strong>of</strong><br />
disappointment and heartache,<br />
but oh what a happy ending!<br />
I’ve been a baby nurse for<br />
12 years now and I can’t tell<br />
you how many women I’ve<br />
encouraged and helped to<br />
breastfeed! In my career breast<br />
has always been best. Imagine<br />
my shock and disappointment<br />
when I had breastfeeding<br />
complications with my first child.<br />
From the first moment she nursed,<br />
my nipples were cracked and<br />
bleeding. I worked diligently<br />
with the lactation consultants to<br />
try to improve her latch. I tried<br />
various creams, gel pads, and<br />
nipple shields for the first week or<br />
two but then I was struck with a<br />
terrible bout <strong>of</strong> mastitis. Knowing<br />
that this is extremely common, I<br />
forged ahead after seeking advice<br />
from my midwife and lactation<br />
consultant. I was treated with<br />
antibiotics, rest, and fluids. But,<br />
the mastitis never improved … in<br />
fact, it got worse.<br />
<strong>The</strong> fever didn’t stop and the pain<br />
was considerable, as the infection<br />
spread to both sides. I was started<br />
on a different antibiotic and<br />
began pumping when nursing was<br />
too painful. By about five weeks, I<br />
was on my third antibiotic and still<br />
very sick. I was terribly engorged<br />
and the fevers continued to rage,<br />
but I persisted, determined to<br />
get through this. At my fourth<br />
trip to the doctor, he told me that<br />
enough was enough and I<br />
Photo courtesy <strong>of</strong> Wendy McDowell<br />
needed to stop. After ruling out<br />
a candidal infection, he said<br />
that this was the worst case <strong>of</strong><br />
recurrent mastitis that he had seen.<br />
I was sent for milk cultures and an<br />
ultrasound because he suspected<br />
an abscess. He even prescribed<br />
Parlodel to me, an old drug used<br />
in the past to stop lactation.<br />
I was so disappointed! How could<br />
this be I’m a nurse for goodness<br />
sake … I had to breastfeed! But,<br />
I unhappily took the drug and<br />
stopped nursing. I bound my<br />
breasts (not advisable) and used<br />
cabbage leaves to dry up my milk.<br />
I was put on a different antibiotic<br />
to treat the resistant strain <strong>of</strong><br />
bacteria I had developed. Slowly I<br />
improved and after several weeks<br />
was feeling better … physically.<br />
But utterly devastated emotionally.<br />
My next child was born four<br />
years later. I was ready this time.<br />
I was going to breastfeed her,<br />
no matter what! My family was<br />
supportive, but very concerned for<br />
my health. Prior to the birth, we<br />
decided (I very reluctantly) that at<br />
the first sign <strong>of</strong> mastitis, I would<br />
stop nursing. My milk came in on<br />
the third day postpartum and by<br />
the fifth day I was sick. <strong>The</strong><br />
fevers, chills, and headache<br />
started along with the telltale<br />
red streak. My daughter tried<br />
to nurse, but couldn’t get any<br />
milk. I tried to pump and was<br />
unsuccessful, despite the fact<br />
that I was hugely engorged.<br />
I used cabbage leaves to<br />
relieve the engorgement and<br />
started antibiotics. As agreed,<br />
I stopped nursing on day six.<br />
How could this be Weren’t<br />
women made to breastfeed<br />
Why wasn’t this working for<br />
me I felt like a disappointment<br />
as a mother and a woman.<br />
Why couldn’t I give my baby<br />
what was best for her<br />
Four years later, when we<br />
decided to have another child, I<br />
met with the lactation consultant<br />
immediately. Was there something<br />
I was missing Could the first<br />
mastitis have caused scar tissue<br />
that was blocking the outlet <strong>of</strong><br />
milk I met with a breast surgeon<br />
who did an ultrasound. She did<br />
indeed see some scar tissue, but<br />
said it was worth another shot. So,<br />
my midwife, lactation consultant,<br />
and I began researching severe<br />
recurrent mastitis. We developed<br />
a plan for prevention, hoping that<br />
maybe it would buy me at least a<br />
month or two <strong>of</strong> breastfeeding.<br />
When my daughter was born, I<br />
started taking a very low dose <strong>of</strong><br />
prophylactic antibiotics. <strong>The</strong> plan<br />
was to continue this for about two<br />
months. Upon discharge I was told<br />
that three things were not optional<br />
right now, sleep, nutrition, and<br />
plenty <strong>of</strong> fluids. Those were the<br />
things I had control over—the<br />
rest was left to faith. In addition, I<br />
met with the lactation consultants<br />
frequently to assess my baby’s<br />
latch-on and prevent nipple<br />
breakdown. I began taking<br />
the supplement lecithin daily to<br />
prevent clogged ducts.<br />
<strong>The</strong> first four weeks were<br />
rough. I was so paranoid about<br />
getting sick that at the first<br />
sign <strong>of</strong> night sweats, chills, or<br />
engorgement I would call the LC<br />
for encouragement. I should have<br />
put her number on my speed dial I<br />
called her so <strong>of</strong>ten! I analyzed my<br />
breasts every time I fed my baby,<br />
looking for any sign <strong>of</strong> redness,<br />
but it never came!<br />
Imagine my shock and excitement<br />
when one month came, then two,<br />
then three! Each time I nursed<br />
my daughter I thanked God for<br />
this wonderful opportunity. I can<br />
honestly say that there was not a<br />
feeding that went by (even those 3<br />
am ones) that I didn’t look into her<br />
sweet little face and think I was<br />
the luckiest mommy in the world to<br />
be blessed by so much.<br />
If you are struggling with<br />
breastfeeding, keep trying! <strong>The</strong>re<br />
will be ups and downs; that’s<br />
why we talk about a “journey.”<br />
It’s true that each baby and<br />
each breastfeeding experience<br />
is different. For me, the third<br />
time was the charm! That, along<br />
with the support <strong>of</strong> my family,<br />
a wonderful group <strong>of</strong> lactation<br />
consultants, and a lot <strong>of</strong> prayer!<br />
Now my daughter is a year old<br />
and my breastfeeding journey<br />
continues. And what a blessing it<br />
has been!<br />
Wendy McDowell, East<br />
Berlin, Pennsylvania, USA<br />
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Staying Home<br />
A Juggling Act<br />
Mother’s Situation<br />
Recently, my husband has been expected<br />
to work longer hours, which helps financially<br />
but means he is unable to do anything much<br />
to help in the home. We are expecting our<br />
second child and I am worried that I will<br />
struggle without his help to take care <strong>of</strong> a<br />
toddler and a newborn, as well as do all the<br />
household chores and cooking. I am happy<br />
that I am able to stay home to raise our<br />
children, but I am panicking at the prospect<br />
<strong>of</strong> having to manage everything on my own.<br />
How have other mothers coped in similar<br />
situations<br />
Response<br />
Take care <strong>of</strong> the children’s needs first. If some dishes need to be left in<br />
the sink, who cares Regular household chores will get done when there<br />
is time. If funds allow, hire a cleaning service.<br />
Prepare your toddler as much as possible for the new baby’s arrival.<br />
Read books to him on the subject and talk about it. When the new baby<br />
arrives, wear him in a sling or a carrier as much as possible so you can<br />
keep your hands free to accomplish those household chores. Wearing<br />
the baby also allows you to spend time with your older child.<br />
Make sure your husband is aware <strong>of</strong> your concerns. Including him in the<br />
planning and problem solving will keep you from feeling as if you are<br />
alone in the matter. You might find that he has been worrying about it as<br />
well, and has come up with some potential solutions or suggestions.<br />
Most <strong>of</strong> all, remember to give yourself a break. Adjusting to a newborn<br />
takes time, even if you have a lot <strong>of</strong> help in the house. Allow yourself<br />
the chance to fall into a routine with the new baby and the toddler. <strong>The</strong><br />
house and all <strong>of</strong> its chores will still be there when you are ready for it.<br />
Good luck!<br />
Karli Offutt, New Wilmington, PA, USA<br />
Photo: © shutterstock.com<br />
Response<br />
When I had my second baby, I was a stay-at-home mom and my<br />
husband was working full time, and also taking two courses at a<br />
college 30 minutes away. We had his mother stay at our house for<br />
the first week and my mother the second week. After that a couple <strong>of</strong><br />
friends came over to help me with the housework once or twice. <strong>The</strong>y<br />
helpfully suggested that we eat on paper plates, use paper cups, and<br />
even sometimes use disposable plastic utensils. We did that for several<br />
months, which was wonderful!<br />
During that time, two responsible teenage sisters, whom we knew<br />
and trusted, would come to our apartment after high school a couple<br />
<strong>of</strong> afternoons a week to play with our babies while I took a shower,<br />
took the kitchen trash to the dumpster behind our building, and started<br />
cooking supper. <strong>The</strong>ir mom would pick them up on her way home from<br />
work. One or the other <strong>of</strong> them continued to come at least once a week<br />
for a few months. <strong>The</strong>y were glad to do it free <strong>of</strong> charge because they<br />
were in an achievement program that required them to get service hours<br />
in order to receive awards.<br />
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Although I eventually had to<br />
face having two children and<br />
managing my home all by<br />
myself, that transition time while<br />
I recovered from pregnancy and<br />
birth was a lifesaver for me!<br />
Annette Avery, Johnstown,<br />
Colorado, USA<br />
Response<br />
I too am a full-time stay-at-home<br />
mom and have been facing<br />
a similar situation. I have a<br />
14-month-old son and I am 15<br />
weeks pregnant. My husband has<br />
been gone for nearly six months:<br />
he is in the Army National Guard<br />
and is training in Baltimore, while<br />
we live in St Louis. We have been<br />
to visit him twice.<br />
I suggest you start by getting<br />
organized and having a fairly set<br />
schedule. We eat basic meals that<br />
can be planned on a set schedule.<br />
It might get a little boring, but if<br />
you always know what you are<br />
going to eat and know what you<br />
need to have on hand it helps. I<br />
make three weeks <strong>of</strong> menus and<br />
have them rotate. <strong>The</strong> grocery list<br />
I use is also set and perhaps, like<br />
me, you can cut grocery shopping<br />
to a once a week activity.<br />
I do a small load <strong>of</strong> laundry every<br />
single day and have a small<br />
basket for my son and one for<br />
me. Each day I wash one basket<br />
load and have my son help with<br />
the folding by playing with his<br />
basket—he pushes it around, or<br />
puts his stuffed animals in it.<br />
I attend a mom and baby exercise<br />
class three times a week and find<br />
that time to be very important<br />
to me. <strong>The</strong> friendships with the<br />
other moms and the stress relief<br />
<strong>of</strong> getting exercise and getting<br />
out <strong>of</strong> the house on a regular<br />
set schedule is so important.<br />
<strong>The</strong>re are great double strollers<br />
available and you don’t have to<br />
spend a fortune on one. I find<br />
great baby stuff on Craigslist and<br />
Freecycle.<br />
For me the biggest thing that I<br />
have learned is how to put things<br />
into perspective. While I too<br />
worry about when the new baby<br />
comes and about dealing with<br />
a toddler, a newborn, and an<br />
entire household, I know what is<br />
important and what can wait.<br />
I don’t want to sound like I am<br />
complaining but I would be so<br />
happy to have my husband be<br />
home even for just an hour a<br />
day. I have learned through this<br />
experience to count my blessings<br />
first.<br />
Good luck.<br />
Jamie Smith-Rickly, USA<br />
Response<br />
I can empathize with your<br />
situation and can tell you honestly<br />
that it will be difficult in the<br />
beginning, but this too shall<br />
pass. I know that isn’t consoling<br />
as you face this mountain, but<br />
in the bigger picture I would say<br />
celebrate the small victories, and<br />
stay focused on the small steps<br />
you are making.<br />
I had two small children one year<br />
apart and when our second child<br />
was born, my husband had a new<br />
job and could not take any time<br />
<strong>of</strong>f. He also attended graduate<br />
school three times a week, which<br />
meant I was home alone with the<br />
children. With the birth <strong>of</strong> our<br />
third child (three years after our<br />
second), we had moved and he<br />
started another new job. He works<br />
long hours and the household<br />
tasks are left up to me to handle.<br />
When you have a newborn,<br />
everyone in the house has to<br />
adjust to the new baby. You<br />
will likely feel pulled in every<br />
direction. Give yourself time to<br />
adjust, even as much as three<br />
to six months to settle in to a<br />
routine. Only then can you start<br />
to prioritize a routine for yourself<br />
and your children. I strongly<br />
recommend soliciting the help<br />
<strong>of</strong> family and friends whenever<br />
possible, especially in the early<br />
months.<br />
I had an emergency c-section with<br />
our second child and I wasn’t<br />
permitted to pick up my one-yearold.<br />
I needed friends and family<br />
to help me with the most mundane<br />
tasks. Overall, I think friends<br />
enjoyed being able to spend time<br />
with my little ones and me. In<br />
return, I was humbled and in awe<br />
<strong>of</strong> their loving support.<br />
It can be very easy to become<br />
isolated, so it is important to get<br />
out as <strong>of</strong>ten as you can. Getting<br />
involved in local mothers groups<br />
can be a big help.<br />
Try to become more relaxed with<br />
regards to household chores<br />
and cooking. Having two small<br />
children forces you to be flexible<br />
with your priorities. Toys out,<br />
dishes in the sink, and laundry in<br />
the hamper waiting to be folded<br />
was (and still is) a daily sight at<br />
my house. I tackle what I can<br />
when I can.<br />
Be patient with yourself and allow<br />
yourself some time to adjust. Know<br />
that you aren’t alone and you are<br />
doing the best you can and that is<br />
all anyone can ask <strong>of</strong> you!<br />
Bianca Hennager, Roseville,<br />
California, USA<br />
Response<br />
Congratulations on the upcoming<br />
birth <strong>of</strong> your new baby! I can<br />
relate to your concerns about<br />
handling the needs <strong>of</strong> two children<br />
on your own while your husband<br />
is working long hours. I have four<br />
children and my husband works<br />
a military night-check (3 pm to<br />
1 am Sunday to Thursday). He<br />
is home and awake from about<br />
10:30 am to 2:30 pm. Our two<br />
oldest children are in elementary<br />
school, one is in preschool and I<br />
have a six-month-old. Most days<br />
I have the baby with me, a fouryear-old<br />
boy whom I watch, and<br />
my own three-year-old after 11:30<br />
am. My two older kids get home<br />
around 2:45 (not long after daddy<br />
has just left for work). During the<br />
busiest times <strong>of</strong> the day, getting<br />
everyone out the door to get<br />
to school in the morning and<br />
homework, supper and bedtime<br />
routines in the evening, I am on<br />
my own. I am a morning person<br />
so getting five people out the door<br />
isn’t too bad for the most part.<br />
<strong>The</strong> after school routine is where<br />
I struggle. I am not an evening<br />
person! I have found that the<br />
biggest hurdle in my evening<br />
is getting food on the table.<br />
Housework is sometimes a<br />
hurdle if I get behind. However,<br />
because my husband is at home<br />
and awake in the middle <strong>of</strong> the<br />
day, I do have help either with<br />
the children or with the work<br />
itself. I do all my cooking on the<br />
weekend when my husband is<br />
home all day. Since he tries to<br />
spend quality time with the kids<br />
on the weekend, I can get a lot<br />
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done. I prepare all our hot meals<br />
on Saturday (or sometimes Friday<br />
although that is usually errand<br />
day). I also do things like bake<br />
muffins and bread, and make and<br />
freeze pizza dough. During the<br />
week, we reheat the food and<br />
I use frozen vegetables, which<br />
I thaw/heat in the microwave<br />
because it’s faster. I admit that at<br />
least once a week we have cheese<br />
pizza. I keep tinned tomatoes in<br />
the pantry, the dough will thaw in<br />
about six hours and I just have to<br />
grate some cheese (which I can<br />
do before my husband goes to<br />
work).<br />
Figure out easy recipes that are<br />
nutritious and make two or three<br />
batches if you’ve got a deep<br />
freeze. I <strong>of</strong>ten assemble things like<br />
lasagne and freeze it uncooked.<br />
<strong>The</strong>n I can thaw it out during the<br />
day or overnight and bake it for<br />
supper. A freshly baked meal that<br />
only requires me to transfer a dish<br />
from the freezer to the fridge and<br />
the fridge to the oven is great.<br />
I tackle the housework a room or<br />
two at a time over the course <strong>of</strong><br />
a week rather than trying to do<br />
it all at once. I use a modified<br />
“Fly<strong>La</strong>dy” routine by dividing my<br />
home into zones for each day,<br />
except Sunday. I can get one or<br />
two rooms cleaned properly in a<br />
day. It’s amazing what you can<br />
accomplish in 10 or 15 minutes<br />
if you break up the tasks over the<br />
course <strong>of</strong> the day.<br />
With a new baby I found out<br />
something very important: friends<br />
want to help! If someone <strong>of</strong>fers<br />
help take it. People do not <strong>of</strong>fer<br />
help that they are not prepared<br />
to provide. If your LLL Group or<br />
friends <strong>of</strong>fer you meals accept<br />
them! If someone asks if you need<br />
anything at the store, ask him to<br />
pick up that gallon <strong>of</strong> milk you<br />
were going to try to get out for<br />
later. If someone <strong>of</strong>fers to come<br />
and play with your toddler while<br />
you take a nap with the new<br />
baby, say “yes!” Allow those who<br />
have anticipated or seen your<br />
need to meet it.<br />
You may have to let the housework<br />
slip a little because <strong>of</strong> the needs<br />
<strong>of</strong> the children—either to spend<br />
time with your toddler while your<br />
baby is sleeping, or because if<br />
you’re tandem nursing, you may<br />
be spending a lot time sitting in<br />
your nursing chair. Use the time<br />
your husband is home to do a<br />
little catching up and remember<br />
that while he’s been at work, he’s<br />
missed time with you so don’t<br />
spend all the precious time you<br />
have with your husband at home<br />
cleaning and cooking.<br />
I had some tough days in the first<br />
ten weeks with my fourth baby.<br />
She was a fussy baby—I think she<br />
had reflux—and I spent a lot <strong>of</strong><br />
time from 4 pm onwards having to<br />
walk with her in the sling, crying<br />
most <strong>of</strong> the time. It made getting<br />
food on the table a real challenge<br />
even when it was just warming<br />
something up in the microwave.<br />
But things settled down and now<br />
we’re in a nice smooth routine.<br />
I found that each time a new<br />
baby arrived, it was challenging<br />
at first and then within a couple<br />
<strong>of</strong> months, we had adjusted to<br />
our new routine with the extra<br />
person’s needs worked into<br />
our routine. It can be so hard<br />
sometimes when you’re exhausted<br />
and the baby still needs you and<br />
you’ve got no one to hand the<br />
baby <strong>of</strong>f to so you can just go to<br />
the bathroom. However, it’s also<br />
rewarding. I hope your husband<br />
won’t be working overtime forever<br />
and you’ll have him home more in<br />
the future to be a helping hand.<br />
Good luck with everything! It<br />
might take a bit <strong>of</strong> trial and error,<br />
but I’m confident you’ll find a<br />
way to make things work for your<br />
household just as I did for mine.<br />
Margo Trueman, California,<br />
USA<br />
Mother’s New<br />
Situation<br />
My youngest<br />
child just started allday<br />
kindergarten. I am<br />
in unfamiliar territory<br />
because I have always<br />
been running with<br />
my three children’s<br />
schedules. Now I have<br />
time on my hands and<br />
I do not know what to<br />
do with it. Many <strong>of</strong> my<br />
friends are assuming<br />
I will just get a job to<br />
fill my days, but I am<br />
not sure I want to, or<br />
will be able to with the<br />
job market the way it is<br />
today. How have other<br />
mothers adjusted to<br />
this first “empty nest”<br />
syndrome<br />
“Staying Home” is edited by<br />
Cathy DeRaleau, who lives in<br />
New Castle, PA, USA with her<br />
husband and four children.<br />
Please send responses and new<br />
situations to staying.home@llli.org<br />
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Feature article<br />
Baby Wearing<br />
<strong>The</strong>re are<br />
emotional,<br />
physical,<br />
and<br />
practical<br />
reasons<br />
why<br />
wearing a<br />
baby in a<br />
sling is a<br />
good idea.<br />
Human babies are born<br />
significantly less mature than<br />
babies <strong>of</strong> other species that, like<br />
us, give birth to single infants<br />
or small multiples. <strong>The</strong> human<br />
infant is born “prematurely” to<br />
allow its head to pass through<br />
the birth canal before it gets<br />
too big and it completes the<br />
gestational period outside<br />
the womb. <strong>The</strong> human brain<br />
quadruples in size after birth.<br />
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How mammals<br />
care for their<br />
young<br />
Depending on how they care for<br />
their young, mammals can be<br />
divided into four different groups.<br />
<strong>The</strong>re is an interplay between<br />
the baby’s immaturity and the<br />
differences in mother’s milk.<br />
• Cache mammals. <strong>The</strong>se<br />
include the deer and rabbit. <strong>The</strong>ir<br />
mothers hide their young in a<br />
safe place and return to them<br />
every 12 hours. Consistent with<br />
this behavior, the milk <strong>of</strong> cache<br />
animals is high in protein and fat.<br />
It sustains the young animals for a<br />
long time because babies are fed<br />
infrequently.<br />
• Follow mammals. <strong>The</strong> giraffe and<br />
cow are follow mammals. <strong>The</strong>y<br />
follow their mothers wherever they<br />
go. Since the baby can be near<br />
the mother throughout the day and<br />
feed <strong>of</strong>ten, the milk <strong>of</strong> the follow<br />
mammal is lower in protein and fat<br />
than that <strong>of</strong> a cache mammal.<br />
• Nest mammals. <strong>The</strong>se include<br />
the dog and cat. Nest mammals<br />
are less mature at birth than cache<br />
or follow mammals. <strong>The</strong>y need the<br />
nest for warmth and remain with<br />
the other young from the litter. <strong>The</strong><br />
mother returns to feed her young<br />
several times a day. <strong>The</strong> milk <strong>of</strong><br />
nest mammals has less protein and<br />
fat than cache mammals but more<br />
than that <strong>of</strong> follow mammals, which<br />
need to feed more frequently.<br />
• Carry mammals. This group<br />
includes the apes—including<br />
humans—and marsupials, such as<br />
the kangaroo. <strong>The</strong> carry mammals<br />
are the most immature at birth,<br />
need the warmth <strong>of</strong> the mother’s<br />
body, and are carried constantly.<br />
<strong>The</strong>ir milk has low levels <strong>of</strong> fat and<br />
protein, and they are fed <strong>of</strong>ten,<br />
around the clock. Human milk has<br />
the lowest fat and protein content<br />
<strong>of</strong> all mammalian milks. That and<br />
our immaturity at birth mean human<br />
infants need to feed <strong>of</strong>ten and are<br />
meant to be carried and held.<br />
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Feature article<br />
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Human babies are as vulnerable<br />
and dependent outside the womb<br />
as they are inside. Our babies<br />
need the same 24-hour nurturing<br />
and care that they had in utero.<br />
In the mother’s womb, the baby<br />
never feels hunger, is never<br />
lonely or cold, experiences all<br />
sounds and sensations through<br />
the mother’s body, which cushions<br />
and s<strong>of</strong>tens them. After the<br />
journey <strong>of</strong> birth, it seems natural<br />
that a baby would expect that<br />
same quality <strong>of</strong> 24-hour nurturing.<br />
Babies cannot get up and follow<br />
us on their own until about a year<br />
or so after birth. <strong>The</strong>y cannot, like<br />
ape and monkey babies, cling to<br />
their mothers, although the strong<br />
grip reflex with which babies are<br />
born is thought to be a remnant <strong>of</strong><br />
a time in our evolutionary journey<br />
when they could.<br />
So we find ways to keep our<br />
babies close, using our large<br />
brains rather than our body hair.<br />
Primate mothers tend to take their<br />
infants with them as they go—the<br />
infants following or clinging to<br />
their mother.<br />
Keep them close<br />
Recent research confirms that<br />
being close to an adult caregiver<br />
guarantees more than safety and<br />
convenience.<br />
Crying<br />
Babies in skin-to-skin contact have<br />
more stable heart and breathing<br />
rates, better blood sugar levels,<br />
significantly lower levels <strong>of</strong><br />
circulating stress hormones, and<br />
warmer body temperatures.<br />
Studies show that carried babies<br />
cry less. (1) <strong>The</strong> crying pattern <strong>of</strong><br />
normal infants in industrialized<br />
societies is characterized by an<br />
overall increase until six weeks<br />
<strong>of</strong> age followed by a decline<br />
until four months <strong>of</strong> age with a<br />
preponderance <strong>of</strong> evening crying.<br />
Hunziker and Barr hypothesized<br />
that this “normal” crying could<br />
be reduced by supplemental<br />
carrying, that is, increased<br />
carrying throughout the day in<br />
addition to that which occurs<br />
during feeding and in response<br />
to crying. In a randomized<br />
controlled trial, 99 mother-infant<br />
pairs were assigned to an<br />
increased carrying or control<br />
group. At the time <strong>of</strong> peak crying<br />
(six weeks <strong>of</strong> age), infants who<br />
received supplemental carrying<br />
cried and fussed 43% less overall,<br />
and 51% less during the evening<br />
hours (4 pm to midnight). Similar<br />
but smaller decreases occurred<br />
at 4, 8, and 12 weeks <strong>of</strong> age.<br />
Decreased crying and fussing<br />
were associated with increased<br />
contentment and feeding<br />
frequency but no change in<br />
feeding duration or sleep. <strong>The</strong>y<br />
concluded that supplemental<br />
carrying modifies “normal” crying<br />
by reducing the duration and<br />
altering the typical pattern <strong>of</strong><br />
crying and fussing in the first three<br />
months <strong>of</strong> life. <strong>The</strong> relative lack<br />
<strong>of</strong> carrying in our society may<br />
predispose to crying and colic in<br />
normal infants (Hunziker and Barr<br />
1986).<br />
Where baby wearing is the<br />
norm, babies demonstrate a<br />
strong attachment to parents and<br />
caregivers, and show greater<br />
social awareness. Happy babies<br />
make happy mothers, too.<br />
Passive involvement<br />
One <strong>of</strong> parents’ tasks is to show<br />
their child what it means to be a<br />
member <strong>of</strong> a family, community,<br />
and country. It is not too difficult<br />
to achieve when your baby is<br />
not kept at a distance. He can<br />
be passively involved in all you<br />
do while you hold him securely<br />
against your warm comforting<br />
body—he knows and trusts<br />
you. Jean Liedl<strong>of</strong>f, author <strong>of</strong> <strong>The</strong><br />
Continuum Concept, wrote, “<strong>The</strong><br />
baby passively participates in<br />
the bearer’s running, walking,<br />
laughing, talking, working, and<br />
playing. <strong>The</strong> particular activities,<br />
the pace, the inflections <strong>of</strong> the<br />
language, the variety <strong>of</strong> sights,<br />
night and day, the range <strong>of</strong><br />
temperatures, wetness and<br />
dryness, and the sounds <strong>of</strong><br />
community life form a basis for the<br />
active participation that will begin<br />
at six or eight months <strong>of</strong> age with<br />
creeping, crawling, and then<br />
walking.” (2) You provide your<br />
baby with the security he needs<br />
to be able to look outwards and<br />
explore the world.<br />
Flat head syndrome<br />
In recent years there has been an<br />
increase in the number <strong>of</strong> babies<br />
with plagiocephaly or flat head<br />
syndrome, a malformation <strong>of</strong><br />
the head marked by an oblique<br />
slant to the main axis <strong>of</strong> the skull<br />
or a persistent flattened spot on<br />
the back or side <strong>of</strong> the head.<br />
Wendy S. Biggs (3) describes<br />
how the length <strong>of</strong> time babies<br />
in Western society spend supine<br />
has increased the likelihood <strong>of</strong><br />
suffering from this malformation.<br />
She directly attributes this to<br />
the infant spending “more time<br />
reclining with his or her head on a<br />
hard surface such as in a car seat<br />
or swing.” Babies who spend less<br />
time in seats and more time being<br />
carried in a sling are less at risk<br />
<strong>of</strong> developing this deformation. It<br />
seems logical that if your baby is<br />
<strong>of</strong>ten upright against your body,<br />
his head supported not by rigid<br />
plastic but by s<strong>of</strong>t fabric or by<br />
your arms, he is less likely to suffer<br />
from flat head syndrome.<br />
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Carrying is practical<br />
When you have a new baby,<br />
while your hormones do all<br />
sorts <strong>of</strong> wonderful things such as<br />
helping you to make milk and<br />
promoting feelings <strong>of</strong> love and<br />
attachment to your baby, they<br />
do not, unfortunately, grow you<br />
a spare pair <strong>of</strong> hands! A sling,<br />
however, can act as an extra pair<br />
<strong>of</strong> hands—gentle, warm, snugly<br />
hands that hold your baby close<br />
to you while you are able to do<br />
other things.<br />
Chief among the things I wish I<br />
had known when my daughter<br />
was born is that a sling should be<br />
on everyone’s Essential Newborn<br />
Accessories list, rather than being<br />
considered just as a nice optional<br />
extra. Even if you only have<br />
practical concerns there are a<br />
multitude <strong>of</strong> reasons to use one. I<br />
somehow managed without one,<br />
partly through extreme laziness—<br />
“I can’t do that at the moment,<br />
the baby needs cuddling!”—and<br />
having a lot <strong>of</strong> support with things<br />
that required more than one hand.<br />
For months I held my baby in my<br />
arms, instinctively knowing that<br />
in my arms was the best place<br />
for her to be, but it did make it<br />
challenging to get things done!<br />
Those evenings in the early weeks<br />
when your baby cluster feeds for<br />
hours are not so stressful if you are<br />
not obliged to stay in the same<br />
place. If you wear your baby in<br />
a sling you can keep her at the<br />
breast and still get up, eat dinner,<br />
or go to the bathroom. If you have<br />
older children who also need<br />
your attention and your hands<br />
to cuddle or help them, a sling<br />
allows you to meet their needs as<br />
well as most <strong>of</strong> the baby’s needs<br />
more easily.<br />
So which kind <strong>of</strong> sling<br />
do you need<br />
<strong>The</strong>re is a bewildering array <strong>of</strong><br />
slings available. Of course you<br />
can, and many baby wearers<br />
do, have a different style <strong>of</strong> sling<br />
for every occasion, from an easy<br />
pouch, an everyday wrap, a<br />
silk ring sling for glamour, or a<br />
structured s<strong>of</strong>t carrier for life in the<br />
great outdoors.<br />
Wrap slings are basically a long<br />
piece <strong>of</strong> fabric that you tie around<br />
yourself. <strong>The</strong>y can look daunting<br />
to the sling novice but the basic<br />
positions are easily learned and<br />
are well worth the effort. <strong>The</strong><br />
spread <strong>of</strong> fabric across your back,<br />
particularly in a basic cross over<br />
tie, gives good weight distribution.<br />
<strong>The</strong> weight <strong>of</strong> the baby is spread<br />
all over the back and then tied<br />
round the hips, meaning that the<br />
pelvis rather than the lower back<br />
carries the bulk <strong>of</strong> the weight. A<br />
stretchy wrap with a proportion<br />
<strong>of</strong> Lycra or Spandex in the fabric<br />
is <strong>of</strong>ten a good place to start,<br />
particularly if the idea <strong>of</strong> tying<br />
yourself up in five meters <strong>of</strong> cloth<br />
is frightening. A stretchy one can<br />
easily be tied into position while<br />
the baby is safely elsewhere, and<br />
worn as long as desired, allowing<br />
you to take your baby in and out<br />
as necessary. Many <strong>of</strong>fer a good<br />
variety <strong>of</strong> carrying positions,<br />
cradle hold for newborns (and<br />
ideal for breastfeeding), front, hip,<br />
and back.<br />
Woven wraps, especially in a<br />
long length, give even more<br />
variety and once you master the<br />
art <strong>of</strong> tying in the back carrying<br />
positions, a wrap that <strong>of</strong>fers such<br />
a possibility will allow you to<br />
use the same sling from birth till<br />
the moment your child has no<br />
further need to be carried. <strong>The</strong>re<br />
are even varieties that work like<br />
a wrap sling but have the tying<br />
done for you.<br />
If you wear your<br />
baby in a sling you<br />
can keep her at the<br />
breast and still get up,<br />
eat dinner, or go to the<br />
bathroom.<br />
Pouches and ring slings are<br />
easy to use, simply put one arm<br />
through and slip over the head.<br />
It is important to get the size that<br />
fits you comfortably to ensure<br />
the safety and comfort <strong>of</strong> your<br />
baby. Others are adjustable<br />
and <strong>of</strong>fer more flexibility if more<br />
than one adult will be using the<br />
same carrier. It is easy to slip<br />
this type <strong>of</strong> carrier <strong>of</strong>f with the<br />
baby fast asleep in it and lay the<br />
baby down. It’s great for a quick<br />
transfer from car seat to sling<br />
when you are out and about.<br />
Mesh slings such as the Tonga,<br />
designed to be worn in the shower<br />
or swimming pool, are a useful<br />
addition to your sling collection if<br />
you have a baby who likes to be<br />
close to you everywhere you go.<br />
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Asian-style or Mai-tei carriers have<br />
the advantage <strong>of</strong> great simplicity<br />
and <strong>of</strong>ten come in the most<br />
gorgeous designs. <strong>The</strong>y <strong>of</strong>fer front<br />
and back carrying positions. <strong>The</strong>y<br />
are not the easiest to breastfeed<br />
in, although women have done so.<br />
(Slings that <strong>of</strong>fer a cradle position<br />
are the easiest for nursing.)<br />
Structured s<strong>of</strong>t carriers are also<br />
easy to use as they are more likely<br />
to have buckles and more shaped<br />
fabric. <strong>The</strong>y are <strong>of</strong>ten popular<br />
with dads.<br />
It is hard to overestimate the<br />
importance <strong>of</strong> touch to the wellbeing<br />
and development <strong>of</strong> a new<br />
baby. Wearing your baby is good<br />
for both <strong>of</strong> you. In a society that<br />
urges new mothers to “get their<br />
life back” following childbirth, a<br />
sling enables you as a mother to<br />
redefine that life and to broaden<br />
your horizons to include rather<br />
than exclude your baby. With<br />
access to the security that your<br />
body represents, your baby can<br />
learn what it means to be human.<br />
References<br />
1. Hunziker U.A., Barr<br />
R.G. Increased carrying<br />
reduces infant crying: a<br />
randomized controlled<br />
trial. Pediatrics 1986<br />
May; 77(5):641–8.<br />
2. Liedl<strong>of</strong>f, J. <strong>The</strong><br />
Importance <strong>of</strong> the In-Arms<br />
Phase, Mothering, Winter<br />
1989.<br />
3. Wendy S. Biggs,<br />
MD, <strong>The</strong> ‘Epidemic’<br />
<strong>of</strong> Deformational<br />
Plagiocephaly and the<br />
American Academy <strong>of</strong><br />
Pediatrics’ Response<br />
Journal <strong>of</strong> Prosthetics &<br />
Orthotics, Vol 16, 2004;<br />
5–9.<br />
<strong>The</strong> CPSC (Consumer<br />
Product Safety<br />
Commission) issued a<br />
warning against the use <strong>of</strong><br />
baby carriers and slings<br />
on March 12, 2010. <strong>The</strong><br />
Academy <strong>of</strong> Breastfeeding<br />
Medicine issued a press<br />
release dated 3/19/2010<br />
in response, which<br />
you can read on<br />
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Toddler Tips<br />
Temper Tantrums<br />
Mother’s<br />
Situation<br />
My three-year-old has<br />
temper tantrums <strong>of</strong><br />
frightening intensity.<br />
Everyone tells me<br />
that she’ll grow<br />
out <strong>of</strong> this, but I<br />
am finding it very<br />
difficult to cope<br />
with, especially<br />
when we are in public. Yesterday she had a<br />
big tantrum in a store and lay on the floor<br />
kicking and screaming. I hadn’t even started<br />
my shopping and wasn’t able to do it. Lots <strong>of</strong><br />
people stared at me, making me feel angry,<br />
flustered, and embarrassed. I feel confused<br />
about how to deal with her outbursts. How do<br />
others deal with tantrums<br />
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Response<br />
My daughter had challenges with<br />
certain situations when she was<br />
three. Even now that she’s six, we<br />
still find there are times when her<br />
resources are tapped and she just<br />
can’t organize her behavior to<br />
cope with a situation. One thing<br />
my husband and I say is that<br />
she sees and experiences life in<br />
Technicolor, while the rest <strong>of</strong> us<br />
see in shades <strong>of</strong> gray. Knowing<br />
that she’s experiencing the world<br />
with an intensity far greater than<br />
our own helps us understand<br />
her, and with that understanding<br />
comes more patience and<br />
empathy.<br />
For me, the simplest coping<br />
methods worked the best. I kept<br />
trips short and focused. We<br />
went on a full stomach and well<br />
rested. I discussed with her my<br />
expectations ahead <strong>of</strong> time. I<br />
tried to reserve a portion <strong>of</strong> the<br />
list for her alone, giving her the<br />
responsibility for picking out the<br />
juiciest apples, for example. If she<br />
started to lose it, I’d get down on<br />
her level and make eye contact,<br />
focusing on her for a moment.<br />
It’s easy to forget to do that when<br />
you’re rushing through the store<br />
or tending to other young ones.<br />
That little bit <strong>of</strong> connection helped<br />
her to re-center, though, and was<br />
well worth the short delay in our<br />
shopping trip.<br />
I also had to recognize there were<br />
certain times or situations (such<br />
as the big holiday grocery trip<br />
before visitors arrived) that were<br />
beyond her ability to handle. I<br />
would make other arrangements,<br />
sometimes even doing the grocery<br />
shopping at night while daddy put<br />
the kids to bed at home!<br />
Know that these days do not<br />
last forever, and that an intense<br />
child at three <strong>of</strong>ten develops<br />
exceptional skills as she grows.<br />
At six now, my daughter’s teacher<br />
<strong>of</strong>ten comments on her fantastic<br />
memory and her great attention<br />
span. While the intensity was a<br />
significant challenge in her toddler<br />
years, I can see how it can help<br />
Response<br />
You are not alone! It can feel isolating and overwhelming to be going<br />
through these challenges, especially when other mothers are not dealing<br />
with these extreme behaviors. I always felt like I was the only one in<br />
the store with a crying, screaming child. It can leave you feeling, “what<br />
is wrong with me” and “what is wrong with my child” For me, the<br />
solution has been to have my husband or parents watch my son and<br />
my other toddler while I go shopping. No matter how hard I tried to<br />
prepare my son on what he could and could not get on our shopping<br />
trip, always making sure not to go when he was tired or hungry, the<br />
inevitable tantrum would ensue. I’d get no shopping done and leave the<br />
store feeling depleted and demoralized.<br />
Having our groceries delivered by an online grocery store has been<br />
another good solution for us. Hang in there! I hope things get easier for<br />
us both in year four.<br />
Karen Goetze, Geneva, IL, USA<br />
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her be successful and I’m excited<br />
now to see where she will go!<br />
Karen Smith, St. Charles, IL,<br />
USA<br />
Response<br />
My heart goes out to you! While<br />
parenting a high need youngster,<br />
I found he could not take a<br />
sudden change <strong>of</strong> plans or even<br />
a disappointment. I began to<br />
brainstorm with him ahead <strong>of</strong><br />
time. I learned (the hard way) that<br />
there were several things I could<br />
not do without warning. I had to<br />
tell him several days in advance<br />
that an appointment, unpleasant<br />
procedure, or a night out with my<br />
husband was coming up. He would<br />
have a huge meltdown the first<br />
time I told him, but each day it got<br />
better and by the day <strong>of</strong> the event,<br />
we could go without incident. This<br />
was also not a child who could be<br />
told, “If you behave at the grocery<br />
store, you can ride the merry go<br />
round.” He did much better if you<br />
let him ride the merry go round<br />
when you passed it. If you did not<br />
have time to ride it, or if you were<br />
going to buy a toy for a cousin’s<br />
birthday (and not for him), you had<br />
to tell him long before you got to<br />
the store.<br />
I got many useful tips from How To<br />
Talk So Kids Will Listen And Listen<br />
So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber<br />
and Elaine Mazlish. <strong>The</strong> one I still<br />
use with my second graders is<br />
to identify the child’s unpleasant<br />
feeling, give it a name, and even<br />
commiserate with the child.<br />
If tantrums continue to be a<br />
problem I would suggest <strong>The</strong><br />
Explosive Child by Ross Greene. It<br />
is a refreshing read for struggling<br />
parents.<br />
<strong>The</strong>resa Kinzly, Peachtree<br />
City, GA, USA<br />
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Response<br />
I remember days when my children<br />
had those intense toddler tantrums.<br />
Figuring out what to do at home<br />
is much different than deciding<br />
the best course <strong>of</strong> action in public.<br />
Sometimes you can be proactive<br />
about things at home before a<br />
tantrum starts by <strong>of</strong>fering a snack,<br />
cutting a play date short, or<br />
snuggling in for a nap.<br />
I found that aborting the shopping<br />
trip was for me almost always the<br />
best way to handle it. Most grocery<br />
stores have a large cooler where<br />
they can store your full shopping<br />
cart until you return later in the day<br />
to finish up. I spent a lot <strong>of</strong> time<br />
sitting in the back seat <strong>of</strong> the car<br />
with my child while he screamed<br />
and cried. And sometimes I cried<br />
right along with him. When your<br />
child has calmed down—perhaps<br />
after breastfeeding, you may be<br />
able to complete your to-do list.<br />
Keep in mind that tantrums<br />
are scary for our children and<br />
sometimes for us, too. Those big,<br />
bad feelings take over and our<br />
little ones don’t yet have the coping<br />
skills they need to move past the<br />
hurt that caused them to lose all<br />
self-control. Yes, some people will<br />
stare. You may even be asked to<br />
relocate. So long as you respect<br />
your child’s need to vent in a safe<br />
way that isn’t obtrusive to others<br />
you’ll make it through another day<br />
with your growing toddler.<br />
We are the key to safety, both<br />
physical and emotional. A child<br />
hearing from his mother or father<br />
that it’s okay to feel sad, mad,<br />
frustrated, whatever, and that<br />
crying is okay is more likely to<br />
grow into an emotionally mature<br />
adult.<br />
Wendy Cohen, Savannah,<br />
GA, USA<br />
Response<br />
Accept that toddler tantrums do<br />
not mean you have failed as a<br />
mother. Decide now that for the<br />
next tantrum you will not feel<br />
embarrassed, angry, or flustered.<br />
Remember that your child does not<br />
feel that she has any other way<br />
to communicate with you. She is<br />
letting you know that she wants to<br />
exert control over her life. This is<br />
a good thing in that she is trying<br />
to become more independent.<br />
It is bad because she is doing it<br />
inappropriately.<br />
Photo: © shutterstock.com<br />
<strong>The</strong>re are many ways to cope<br />
with tantrums. If she is getting<br />
frustrated, stop what you are<br />
doing, get down on her level and<br />
talk to her. If you find out what<br />
she wants you can <strong>of</strong>fer options<br />
and alternatives. Talk pleasantly<br />
and do not be in a hurry. Life is<br />
going to continue and you only<br />
have a few months <strong>of</strong> time when<br />
this will be a problem. Teach your<br />
daughter that you are there for<br />
her.<br />
Carol Oswald, Augusta,<br />
Georgia, USA<br />
Mother’s New<br />
Situation<br />
Yesterday, my<br />
12-month-old, who has<br />
a good number <strong>of</strong> teeth<br />
now, bit me. I was so<br />
startled that I pulled<br />
him <strong>of</strong>f and screamed.<br />
This upset him and<br />
he would not go back<br />
to the breast until<br />
bedtime, when he had<br />
a sleepy feeding. I am<br />
really anxious that he<br />
might do it again. How<br />
have other mothers<br />
prevented their little<br />
ones from biting<br />
“Toddler Tips” is edited by LLL<br />
Leader Karen Smith in St. Charles,<br />
IL, USA. She and her husband,<br />
John, have two children, Liam (8),<br />
and Anastasia (6). Karen speaks<br />
and writes on parenting topics as<br />
well as writing fiction.<br />
Please send responses and new<br />
situations to toddler.tips@llli.org<br />
2010 | Issue 2 | New Beginnings 23
Giving Birth<br />
Alert and active<br />
participation by the<br />
mother in childbirth<br />
is a help in getting<br />
breastfeeding <strong>of</strong>f to a<br />
good start.<br />
“Giving Birth” features stories about how<br />
birth affects breastfeeding. Please send<br />
stories that describe the impact <strong>of</strong> your<br />
birth experience on breastfeeding. Articles<br />
focused on specific issues relating to birth<br />
and lactation are also welcome.<br />
Sometimes, in spite <strong>of</strong> our intentions or expectations, birth does not<br />
go according to plan. Although many <strong>of</strong> our prior decisions can shape<br />
the way that labor and birth unfold, the unexpected can and does<br />
happen, and the impact can be far-reaching. In the following story, Kate<br />
describes how her hopes for a gentle birth were ended by a potential<br />
medical emergency and how it affected her feelings for her baby<br />
afterwards.<br />
Kate’s Story<br />
When birth doesn’t go as planned<br />
With my fourth pregnancy, I planned a home birth. I hoped to have<br />
my baby handed to me immediately when she emerged and then to<br />
breastfeed her within minutes <strong>of</strong> the birth, as had happened with my<br />
other three babies. I expected to have an easy birth because my last<br />
two babies’ births had been very short—indeed one involved only two<br />
pushes!<br />
When I was pregnant with Caitlin, I had experienced symphysis pubis<br />
displacement, a slight separation <strong>of</strong> the s<strong>of</strong>t joint between the two pubic<br />
bones in the pelvis. This is a common problem in pregnancy. It was<br />
painful for me to walk. So, when I experienced dragging pains in my<br />
abdomen during the last month <strong>of</strong> pregnancy and tests showed no clear<br />
reason for them, we assumed these were ligament pains.<br />
Around my due date, I started to bleed and went by ambulance to<br />
hospital with stomach pains. I became exhausted and hysterical,<br />
whereas during my previous labors I had remained calm and somehow<br />
above the pain. I could not feel Caitlin moving forward in the birth<br />
canal.<br />
Photo: © inmagine.com<br />
<strong>The</strong> appearance <strong>of</strong> meconium<br />
in the amniotic fluid brought a<br />
team <strong>of</strong> pediatricians into the<br />
room. When my baby’s head<br />
crowned but her shoulders could<br />
not come out, there was a flurry<br />
<strong>of</strong> activity in which the medical<br />
team manipulated my legs into<br />
very strange positions to help her<br />
out. <strong>The</strong>y did this so forcefully that<br />
I was still experiencing back pain<br />
13 months later. We soon saw<br />
what the problem was. <strong>The</strong> cord<br />
was wrapped around my baby’s<br />
neck several times, then around<br />
her shoulders, body, and legs.<br />
As she engaged, and was then<br />
expelled, the cord was tugging on<br />
both <strong>of</strong> us. I had been at risk <strong>of</strong><br />
an abruption (the placenta tearing<br />
away from the wall <strong>of</strong> the uterus,<br />
which can deprive the baby <strong>of</strong><br />
oxygen and cause heavy bleeding<br />
in the mother). Caitlin was grey<br />
and floppy with a low Agpar<br />
score because <strong>of</strong> the shock.<br />
At that point no one thought <strong>of</strong> my<br />
birth plan. <strong>The</strong>y were preoccupied<br />
with giving her oxygen, while<br />
I just lay with my eyes closed,<br />
feeling relieved that the pain was<br />
over and occasionally asking if<br />
she was breathing. <strong>The</strong>y showed<br />
her to me and then took her away<br />
to the NICU, saying that I could<br />
see her when I had had a shower<br />
and felt better.<br />
When I did see her an hour later,<br />
she was clean, dressed in a<br />
diaper, and lying in an incubator<br />
with a tube down her nose. It<br />
didn’t seem like she was my baby<br />
at all. I cried because I pitied her<br />
for having such a hard time, but I<br />
felt no love for her. I believe now<br />
that she should have been given<br />
to me as soon as her breathing<br />
was established, but hospital<br />
procedure got in the way.<br />
She did not need to be tube fed<br />
immediately, but that is what was<br />
deemed necessary. I said that<br />
I wanted to breastfeed, but the<br />
hospital staff kept tube feeding her<br />
“to get her blood sugar level up.”<br />
Although some nurses said, “Of<br />
course you can pick her up, she is<br />
24 New Beginnings | Issue 2 | 2010
Giving Birth<br />
your baby,” one nurse told me not<br />
to come during the doctor’s rounds<br />
as I would be in the way, and<br />
kept shooing me away “to rest.”<br />
<strong>The</strong> fact that I was tired and alone<br />
made me tolerate this for some<br />
time, but when my milk came in<br />
on day three, I just took her and<br />
fed her myself.<br />
<strong>The</strong>y were surprised that her blood<br />
sugar level shot up even though<br />
I had stopped her tube feedings.<br />
If I had not been confident that<br />
she needed my milk and needed<br />
me we would probably not<br />
have started breastfeeding. As<br />
for bonding with my daughter,<br />
I knew that that would come in<br />
time, and I made a special effort<br />
to encourage the process by<br />
always stroking Caitlin while we<br />
breastfed—her downy head, her<br />
little feet, over and over.<br />
I can’t say exactly when those<br />
feelings <strong>of</strong> displacement and<br />
distance went, but now I adore my<br />
little girl.<br />
Kate Rayner, Cambridge, GB<br />
How traumatic birth<br />
makes us feel<br />
When birth is traumatic, it’s<br />
not surprising that mothers may<br />
feel indifferent or even resentful<br />
toward their babies. Mothers may<br />
be recovering from unexpected<br />
surgery if they had an emergency<br />
cesarean section, or perhaps<br />
the event was frightening and a<br />
mother felt out <strong>of</strong> control. It is this<br />
lack <strong>of</strong> control that <strong>of</strong>ten affects<br />
women the most. Sheila Kitzinger,<br />
the British birth author and activist,<br />
notes that women will perceive<br />
their birth experience as a<br />
negative one if they are unhappy<br />
with the setting in which they<br />
gave birth and by the way they<br />
were treated. Rules, restrictions,<br />
rigid protocols, personal neglect,<br />
bossiness, unkindness, shift<br />
changes, and the appearance<br />
Breastfeeding has<br />
the advantage<br />
that physical<br />
contact is inevitable,<br />
and time spent touching<br />
and holding the baby<br />
can be comforting and<br />
will help mother and<br />
baby establish their<br />
relationship.<br />
<strong>of</strong> nameless strangers, are all<br />
cited as reasons why women<br />
may feel their birth was traumatic<br />
(Kitzinger, 2006; 11). And if<br />
a new mother feels inherently<br />
uncared for, she may not muster<br />
up enough energy and enthusiasm<br />
to care for her new baby.<br />
Indeed, she may even blame the<br />
baby for the awful experience.<br />
And it is made harder by the<br />
fact that everyone is likely to be<br />
fussing around the new baby and<br />
telling the mother how lucky she is<br />
to have such a beautiful child.<br />
Somewhere deep inside the<br />
mother knows this, but it may take<br />
a while for her to feel attached<br />
and loving toward her baby.<br />
Many mothers describe the early<br />
days as simply going through the<br />
motions—acting like a mother,<br />
but not really feeling like one.<br />
Kitzinger uses the term “robot”<br />
to describe the traumatized new<br />
mother who is unable to respond<br />
in an emotionally positive and<br />
spontaneous way (Kitzinger,<br />
2006; 122).<br />
When birth goes well—and<br />
this usually means a gentle,<br />
intervention-free birth—then a<br />
mother’s body will produce a<br />
range <strong>of</strong> hormones that will make<br />
her feel good. As the baby is<br />
born she will experience a surge<br />
<strong>of</strong> endorphins that make her feel<br />
euphoric. This happy, confident<br />
state will make her very receptive<br />
to welcoming and nurturing her<br />
baby (Robertson, 2004; 44). When<br />
a traumatic birth gets in the way<br />
<strong>of</strong> this boost <strong>of</strong> confidence and<br />
euphoria, it’s hardly surprising that<br />
mothers may not be particularly<br />
responsive to their babies<br />
immediately after the trials <strong>of</strong> labor.<br />
<strong>The</strong> good news is that feelings can<br />
and do change, over time. <strong>Bonding</strong><br />
is a gradual process.<br />
Breastfeeding has the advantage<br />
that physical contact is inevitable,<br />
and time spent touching and<br />
holding the baby can be comforting<br />
and will help mother and baby<br />
establish their relationship.<br />
Although breastfeeding problems<br />
may sometimes seem to exacerbate<br />
a mother’s struggles after a<br />
traumatic birth, managing to<br />
breastfeed successfully may be a<br />
very healing process as it helps<br />
women to feel in control and<br />
empowered as they nurture and<br />
nourish their babies.<br />
Kathleen Kendall-Tackett, PhD,<br />
IBCLC, LLL Leader, encourages<br />
mothers to process their traumatic<br />
births. “Talking to someone who<br />
has shared similar experiences<br />
provides validation <strong>of</strong> your feelings,<br />
just as breastfeeding mothers find<br />
validation at <strong>La</strong> <strong>Leche</strong> <strong>League</strong><br />
meetings. Sometimes, just talking<br />
about your feelings with a good<br />
friend can help you sort things out<br />
and calm any fears or anxieties.”<br />
Kendall-Tackett always encourages<br />
mothers to get copies <strong>of</strong> their<br />
medical records. “If possible, talk<br />
with your health care provider or<br />
someone else who can help you<br />
understand the events that occurred<br />
during your birth. It is also helpful<br />
to read books that might put your<br />
birth experience in a broader<br />
perspective.” See “Making Peace<br />
with Your Birth Experience” New<br />
Beginnings, issue 5 & 6 2009;<br />
50–55.<br />
By talking about her birth<br />
experience and seeking counselling,<br />
if necessary, a mother can<br />
understand and come to terms with<br />
what’s happened and then move<br />
on. This will help her connect with<br />
her baby and give him the love he<br />
needs.<br />
References<br />
Kitzinger, S. Birth Crisis,<br />
Routledge, 2006.<br />
Robertson, A. <strong>The</strong> Midwife<br />
Companion, third edition,<br />
Birth <strong>International</strong>, 2004.<br />
<strong>The</strong> Breastfeeding Answer<br />
Book, third revised edition,<br />
Schaumburg, IL: <strong>La</strong> <strong>Leche</strong><br />
<strong>League</strong> <strong>International</strong>, 2002.<br />
If you would like to talk with<br />
someone about your birth<br />
experience, you may find<br />
the Birth Crisis Network<br />
helpful. See http://www.<br />
sheilakitzinger.com/<br />
BirthCrisis.htm<br />
“Giving Birth” is edited by Sara<br />
Walters, who lives in Carmarthen,<br />
South Wales, GB. She has had two<br />
American hospital births (Rebecca<br />
in 1999 and Jonathan in 2002)<br />
and one British homebirth (Catrin<br />
in 2006).<br />
Please send submissions to<br />
editornb@llli.org<br />
2010 | Issue 2 | New Beginnings 25
Making It Work<br />
That Time <strong>of</strong><br />
<strong>The</strong> Day<br />
Mother’s Situation<br />
<strong>The</strong> most hectic part <strong>of</strong> my day is coming<br />
home to a messy kitchen sink with breakfast<br />
dishes still on the table and no ideas for<br />
dinner. How do other employed mothers make<br />
the most <strong>of</strong> this short but important part <strong>of</strong><br />
the day with their babies when housework<br />
and meals demand their time and attention<br />
Response<br />
Sitting down to nurse my baby after the day’s separation is my top<br />
priority on arriving home. While I’m doing that, I can chat to my schoolaged<br />
children about their day or listen to them read or recite spellings,<br />
for instance. We eat very simply to save precious time that we need to<br />
reconnect. Meals that can be put together in five minutes are the sort I<br />
favor! We also eat a lot <strong>of</strong> raw vegetables and bread and cheese. I can<br />
tackle more elaborate dishes on the weekend.<br />
We have had to lower our standards <strong>of</strong> household order since I went<br />
back to work although spending less time in the house means it doesn’t<br />
get quite as messy as it used to!<br />
I try to remember to put the dishwasher and washing machine on before<br />
going to bed and unload both first thing in the morning before breakfast.<br />
Being organized about doing the little jobs means that things don’t get<br />
unmanageable.<br />
My husband helps by putting out the garbage, picking up groceries on<br />
his way home, and putting the children to bed while I nurse our baby.<br />
It isn’t easy when there don’t seem to be enough hours in the day, but<br />
I find it helps to remind myself that my family comes first and that my<br />
children would rather have cuddles and plain food than watch me spend<br />
hours in the kitchen or cleaning the house.<br />
Susan Long, Chicago, IL, USA<br />
Photo: © inmagine.com<br />
Response<br />
I think that it really helps to plan your meals before you do the shopping.<br />
Always decide in the morning what you are going to cook for dinner.<br />
Perhaps alternate some responsibility with your husband. If you are<br />
picking up your child and he is going to be home first can your husband<br />
do the dishes If he has a real aversion to dishes or housework can he<br />
cook If he can do none <strong>of</strong> those can he go to get your child instead so<br />
you can cook We do all <strong>of</strong> these. We plan our meals and my husband<br />
helps in the kitchen. We also alternate who is going to pick up our son.<br />
Shelly Alvarez, Oakland, CA, USA<br />
Response<br />
Delegate! Delegate! Delegate!<br />
Seriously, one approach you could take is to prioritize tasks and<br />
delegate some, just as you might be used to doing at work. And this is<br />
where being a breastfeeding mother really pays <strong>of</strong>f—since breastfeeding<br />
and reconnecting with your baby must take priority, and you are the<br />
only one who can breastfeed, the other tasks will have to be delegated.<br />
You can justifiably put your feet up and have a breather while your<br />
partner and any older children tackle the chores. <strong>The</strong>n, once you are<br />
revived, and your baby is either settled or revived, you can rejoin the<br />
fray, at which point the others can, if necessary, take over care <strong>of</strong> the<br />
baby or have a break themselves. If your baby is awake and alert, you<br />
could pop him/her in a sling while you go about the various chores.<br />
26 New Beginnings | Issue 2 | 2010
Making It Work<br />
To make the situation easier<br />
on everyone, you could also<br />
try the following.<br />
• Getting up a little earlier in the<br />
morning to give yourself time to<br />
clear the breakfast table before<br />
leaving for work.<br />
• Keeping housework to a<br />
minimum and once again<br />
delegating as much <strong>of</strong> it as<br />
possible—if you have older<br />
children, give them set tasks to do<br />
in return for pocket money.<br />
• Planning your dinner menus<br />
for the week in advance (when<br />
you have a quiet moment), so<br />
that there is no last-minute panic<br />
at a time when you are tired and<br />
unlikely to have much inspiration.<br />
• Taking short-cuts with meals,<br />
cooking double quantities so<br />
that you can freeze a portion for<br />
another day; opting for simpler<br />
dishes mid-week (soups and<br />
stews that just involve throwing<br />
everything into one pot, or “nocook”<br />
salads in summer); even<br />
the occasional ready meal or<br />
“take-away.”<br />
Good luck with “making it work”<br />
for you!<br />
Gwyneth Little, East Lothian,<br />
UK<br />
Response<br />
I am a fairly creative person when<br />
it comes to food. I work full time<br />
out <strong>of</strong> the home and I make homemade<br />
meals, every single day <strong>of</strong><br />
the week.<br />
I have made a deal with<br />
my husband: he empties the<br />
dishwasher and I fill it as I go<br />
about my food prep.<br />
When I get home, I will look over<br />
what food we have in the house<br />
and then I’ll choose a meat, a<br />
vegetable, and noodles or rice.<br />
If I’m really tired, I will just throw<br />
some cooked ground meat or<br />
sausage into a pot with a can <strong>of</strong><br />
mixed vegetables, a can <strong>of</strong> broth,<br />
and one can <strong>of</strong> water. Depending<br />
on flavor, I’ll add a can <strong>of</strong> diced<br />
tomatoes, a can <strong>of</strong> white beans,<br />
or a handful <strong>of</strong> elbow macaroni.<br />
<strong>The</strong>n I’ll leave it to cook, stir it<br />
occasionally and voilà supper<br />
with very little effort.<br />
Cyndie, Oklahoma, USA<br />
Response<br />
When I was faced with a similar<br />
dilemma, I decided I simply could<br />
no longer cope with working<br />
outside the home. I was fortunate<br />
enough to be able to change my<br />
hours and work part time. Now<br />
my home is a bit more organized<br />
and I have a little more time for<br />
my children. This may well not<br />
be an option you have. A friend<br />
<strong>of</strong> mine is able to do some <strong>of</strong> her<br />
work from home a few days a<br />
week, which frees up the time she<br />
would otherwise spend traveling<br />
to and from her <strong>of</strong>fice.<br />
Other mothers I know have started<br />
their own businesses out <strong>of</strong> their<br />
homes in order to spend more<br />
time with their families.<br />
Good luck finding your way.<br />
<strong>The</strong>re is never one right solution!<br />
Geraldine P., New York, NY,<br />
USA<br />
Mother’s New<br />
Situation<br />
I was so looking forward<br />
to having my baby and<br />
starting to run my own<br />
business from home. I<br />
expected there to be a<br />
period <strong>of</strong> adjustment,<br />
<strong>of</strong> course, but now six<br />
months after my son’s<br />
birth, I am still feeling<br />
blue. I have no good<br />
reason to feel this way<br />
because I have a lovely<br />
baby, a supportive<br />
family, and network<br />
<strong>of</strong> friends. However, I<br />
am finding every day a<br />
struggle, even if I have<br />
a good night’s sleep. I<br />
have a live-in au pair,<br />
whom my baby adores,<br />
and I can nurse my baby<br />
whenever he needs<br />
me. My business is<br />
reasonably successful.<br />
Why am I so sad I <strong>of</strong>ten<br />
find myself in tears, for<br />
instance, if I hear a sad<br />
story on the news and<br />
incapable <strong>of</strong> doing my<br />
everyday business tasks.<br />
Have other new mothers<br />
had these prolonged<br />
blues and how have you<br />
coped<br />
Please send your responses to<br />
our Making it Work Mother’s<br />
New Situation to<br />
making.it.work@llli.org<br />
2010 | Issue 2 | New Beginnings 27
Eating Wisely<br />
Keeping It Simple<br />
Good nutrition means eating a well-balanced<br />
and varied diet <strong>of</strong> foods in as close to their<br />
natural state as possible.<br />
I’m always looking for simple nutritious food that I can prepare quickly<br />
for my family, my two-year-old daughter with a big and eclectic appetite,<br />
my four-year-old son, who can be described politely as “conservative” in<br />
his tastes, and my husband, who says he likes his food “substantial and<br />
tasty.”<br />
Sometimes I’m organized and manage to make our evening meals<br />
during the day. At other times, I have to get a meal on the table as<br />
quickly as possible while keeping my daughter from having her five<br />
o’clock meltdown and having an in-depth discussion about planes and<br />
submarines with my son.<br />
Although this lentil bake is not a meal that can be prepared particularly<br />
quickly it’s really tasty and filling. Everyone who tried it liked it! If you<br />
wanted you could spice it up a bit with some chili powder.<br />
Lois Rowlands, West Sussex, GB<br />
Nutritional Facts<br />
Lentils<br />
Lentils are pulses and are rich in protein but they do not constitute a<br />
complete protein in themselves. When combined with a grain, however,<br />
they do form a first class protein, which makes them very suitable for<br />
vegetarian cookery. Apart from protein, pulses contain carbohydrates,<br />
vitamins (particularly B), and minerals (notably iron). Lentils do not<br />
require soaking and cook quickly. You can use them in purees, bakes,<br />
burgers, and curries. <strong>The</strong>y can also be sprouted very successfully.<br />
Oats<br />
Oats are a highly nutritious grain. <strong>The</strong>y contain carbohydrates, protein,<br />
and fat. <strong>The</strong>y are also a good source <strong>of</strong> iron, potassium, and Vitamin B.<br />
LLL Leader Kimberley Wells says “This lentil bake was delicious at our <strong>La</strong><br />
<strong>Leche</strong> <strong>League</strong> spring workshop as part <strong>of</strong> the buffet ‘pot luck’ lunch.”<br />
<br />
Lentil Cheese and Oat Bake<br />
by Nicola Crossland, Milton Keynes, GB<br />
Serves 4<br />
Ingredients<br />
170g (6 oz) red lentils <br />
420 ml (3/4 pint or 1 1/2 cups) water <br />
1 tsp oil <br />
2 onions, peeled and chopped <br />
4 heaped tablespoons<br />
porridge oats<br />
2 stalks celery, thinly sliced (or<br />
one red pepper diced)<br />
1 carrot, finely chopped or grated <br />
125g (4 1/2 oz) cheese, grated <br />
1 tsp dried mixed herbs <br />
2 tablespoons tomato puree <br />
<br />
Method<br />
Put lentils in a pan with the water. Bring to the boil and simmer for<br />
15–20 minutes until s<strong>of</strong>t and moist. Drain. Heat oil and fry onions until<br />
s<strong>of</strong>t. Add oats, celery, cheese, carrot, herbs, tomato puree and drained<br />
lentils. Mix well. Put into a lightly greased shallow ovenpro<strong>of</strong> dish or<br />
tin, bake in a preheated oven at 350 F/180°C/Gas Mark 4, for about<br />
30 minutes. <strong>The</strong> bake is s<strong>of</strong>t when warm but firmer when cold and can<br />
be eaten hot or cold.<br />
“Eating Wisely” is edited by LLL Leader Lesley Robinson.<br />
She lives in Ottawa, Canada with husband, Mark.<br />
Her three grown children have flown the nest.<br />
Please send stories and photos to eating.wisely@llli.org<br />
Photo courtesy <strong>of</strong> Lois Rowlands<br />
Adapted from an article in LLLGB’s Breastfeeding Matters.<br />
28 New Beginnings | Issue 2 | 2010
World Breastfeeding Week Celebrations<br />
World Breastfeeding<br />
Week Celebration<br />
Winners<br />
Over 10,500 people participated in events across the USA for World<br />
Breastfeeding Week Celebrations in 2009, raising almost $52,000. <strong>The</strong><br />
fundraising efforts will be used to continue to help mothers and babies to<br />
know the joys and benefits <strong>of</strong> breastfeeding.<br />
See the box for the list <strong>of</strong> prize sponsors. This year’s first prize winner<br />
was Susan Vicknair <strong>The</strong>all. She raised over $2000 for <strong>La</strong> <strong>Leche</strong> <strong>League</strong> <strong>of</strong><br />
Jefferson, Louisiana.<br />
LLL <strong>of</strong> Jefferson held a Baby & Child Expo at a local mall. <strong>The</strong>y were<br />
allowed to use the mall and 45 tables for free. Local businesses paid to<br />
reserve tables, volunteers gave half-hour talks, teens provided children’s<br />
crafts, and snacks and drinks were donated by a health food store. A bag<br />
<strong>of</strong> samples was given to every family who signed in. Items were listed in<br />
the program for an eBay auction.<br />
Leader Susan Vicknair <strong>The</strong>all commented: “Several <strong>of</strong> the tables are<br />
reserved for our breastfeeding information displays and we hang large<br />
breastfeeding posters on the columns around our area. One <strong>of</strong> our tables<br />
has information for parents to take home and we also provide all <strong>of</strong><br />
the medical pr<strong>of</strong>essionals with gift bags <strong>of</strong> free tear-<strong>of</strong>f sheet pads. Our<br />
meeting information is also in the program. This is a wonderful way to<br />
educate our community about our organization and the resources available<br />
to pregnant women and nursing mothers.”<br />
Individual prizes were awarded to 41 people, who raised between $250<br />
and $1999 during their WBWC events. 21 Groups received a total <strong>of</strong><br />
$2,702.62 in Group rebates. (Rebates were awarded to the Groups who<br />
raised over $750.36.) Groups were awarded participation incentive<br />
prizes.<br />
To view the entire list <strong>of</strong> winners, go to<br />
www.lllusa.org/wbw/ and click on Reports.<br />
Pam Dunne, LLL USA<br />
THANK YOU TO THE WORLD BREASTFEEDING<br />
WEEK CELEBRATIONS 2009 PRIZE SPONSORS!!!<br />
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A Guide to<br />
Pumping<br />
Your Milk<br />
When Baby Is Unable to Come to Breast<br />
or Can’t Breastfeed We l<br />
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find tha they can forgo the middle-<strong>of</strong>-the-night pumping. Other<br />
mothers need to maintain that middle-<strong>of</strong>-the-night pumping in<br />
order to protect their a l-day supply until they are about four<br />
Sometimes a baby is unable to come to breast or can’t drain the months postpartum.<br />
breasts we l enough to maintain mother’s milk supply. Such situations<br />
can include prematurity, hospitalization for serious i lne s, a<br />
Some mothers find that once they have had an established fu l milk<br />
physical condition such as cleft palate, and other conditions. If you<br />
supply for abou two weeks, they can return the rental hospitalgrade<br />
pump and purchase a retail electric double pump. <strong>The</strong> pack-<br />
must establish a milk supply for a baby who cannot do so, your best<br />
choice is a hospital-grade breast pump. <strong>The</strong>se pumps are very<br />
aging for such a pump should not say “For Occasional Use.”<br />
expensive to purchase (usua ly over $1,000whennew), so they are<br />
However, these double pumps were not rea ly designed for maintaining<br />
a milk supply when baby is unable to come to breast or feed<br />
usua ly rented, though some mothers choose to purchase them.<br />
we l at breast. Other mothers find that if they try to switch away<br />
<strong>The</strong> ability <strong>of</strong> the breasts to produce enough milk for a larger baby from a hospital-grade pump, their milk supply starts to drop in a<br />
i set during th early postpartum weeks. Even if you have a tiny week or two, and they need to go back to using the hospital-grade<br />
premature baby, you wan to be able to expre s about 30 ounces pump to rebuild and maintain their milk supply.<br />
(900 ml) every 24 hours by two weeks postpartum. If you are not<br />
producing that much milk by two weeks, you may wan to contact<br />
Some mothers dislike the sound <strong>of</strong> an electric breast pump so much<br />
an LLL Leader or lactation consultant for suggestions for increasing<br />
tha they have a hard time releasing (le ting down) their milk. For<br />
your milk supply. <strong>The</strong> best way to establish optimum milk production<br />
is to mimic the nursing frequency <strong>of</strong> a newborn. Mothers<br />
some <strong>of</strong> these mothers, using two one-handed manual pumps or a<br />
pedal pump may be a be ter choice. However, when using manual<br />
should pump at least eigh to 10 times every 24 hours. You may<br />
pumps to maintain supply for a baby who can’t nurse we l, it is very<br />
choose to pump every three hours, or you may choose to pump<br />
important that the mother pay very close a tention to making every<br />
every two to two and a half hours during the day and take one<br />
suction stroke as similar as po sible to each other, and that she perform<br />
50 to 55 suction strokes per minute.<br />
longer, five-hour stretch at night. (Timing is counted from the start<br />
<strong>of</strong> one pumping se sion to the start <strong>of</strong> the next pumping se sion.)<br />
Most mothers stimulate a higher prolactin level and therefore a<br />
larger milk supply if they pump both breasts at the same time<br />
(“double pumping”), rather than pumping one breast and then the<br />
other. Double pumping also saves significant time through the Most mothers who experience separation <strong>of</strong> five hours or more<br />
course <strong>of</strong> the day. Pumping 10 to 15 minutes for a single baby or (perhaps even several days due to travel) wi l need to pump their<br />
20 minutes if you have multiples is usua ly su ficient.<br />
milk to protec their milk supply. Any retail double breast pumps<br />
that do not state “For Occasional Use” are very good for thi situation.<br />
<strong>The</strong>re are also somenon-hospital-graderentalpumpsavail-<br />
lishing a fu l milk supply. Once a fu l supply (30 ounces every 24 able, usua ly for a cheaperfeethanhospital-gradepumps, that can<br />
A middle-<strong>of</strong>-the-nightpumpingsesionisveryimportantinestab-<br />
hours) has been established for abou two weeks, some mothers be used for this type <strong>of</strong> pumping. Again, a mother should make<br />
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Breastfeeding mothers may find themselves<br />
in a variety <strong>of</strong> situations in which it<br />
seems nece sary for them to pump their<br />
milk. If you find the need to use a breast<br />
pump, you may wan to know which type is<br />
best suited to your needs. With practice,<br />
almost any type <strong>of</strong> pump wi l work, but different<br />
situations may make one type <strong>of</strong><br />
pump preferable to another. You may also<br />
want to become familiar with manual or<br />
hand-expre sion as this can be useful in<br />
many situations. Information on manual<br />
expre sion can be found in LLL publications,<br />
<strong>The</strong> Womanly Art <strong>of</strong> Breastfeeding<br />
and Manual Expre sion <strong>of</strong> Breast Milk—<br />
Marmet Technique, or by contacting a <strong>La</strong><br />
<strong>Leche</strong> <strong>League</strong> Leader in your area.<br />
<strong>The</strong> fo lowing describes the most common<br />
reasons mothers use breast pumps and the<br />
considerations that might make one type<br />
<strong>of</strong> pump preferable over another.<br />
When Mother is Separated from Baby<br />
Due to Work, School, or Travel<br />
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Care Plan for<br />
Mastitis<br />
Mastitis is an inflammation <strong>of</strong> the breast. It is usua lycaused<br />
by backed up milk in a section <strong>of</strong> the breast. This<br />
can progre s to an infection if no treated. Delayed nipple<br />
wound healing, stre s, chronic engorgement, persistentbreast<br />
pain, and breast ma ses (with or without fever)<br />
increase the risk <strong>of</strong> mastitis. Areas <strong>of</strong> the breast that<br />
remain undrained or that experience plugge ducts may<br />
be focal points for bacteria to take hold and start an infective<br />
proce s. Milk production may drop from the a fected<br />
breast for a few days during the worst <strong>of</strong> the symptoms,<br />
but it is important for the baby to continue breastfeeding<br />
from that side to help preven the infection from turning<br />
into an absce s. <strong>The</strong> milk from the a fected breast wi l not<br />
harm the baby.<br />
Mastitis most frequently recurs when the bacteria are resistant or<br />
not sensitive to the prescribed antibiotic, when antibiotics are not<br />
continued long enough, when an inco rect antibiotic is prescribed,<br />
when the mother stops nursing on the a fected side, or when the<br />
initial cause <strong>of</strong> the mastitis has not been addre sed (such as milk<br />
stasis). If mastitis recurs, make sure that a culture and sensitivity<br />
test is done on the milk to discover exactly what organism is<br />
involved and what antibiotic wi l eliminate it. Many organisms are<br />
resistan to common antibiotics and repeated use <strong>of</strong> ine fective<br />
medications increases the risk <strong>of</strong> an absce s.<br />
Mastitis caused by methici lin resistant Staph aureus (MRSA) is<br />
becoming more prevalent. Increased risk for hospital-acquired<br />
MRSA, a virulent and di ficul to treat situation, i seen in mothers<br />
with a cesarean delivery, administration <strong>of</strong> antibiotics in the peripartum<br />
period, mothers with multiple gestation, and mothers who<br />
have experienced in vitro fertilization. Outpatient infection with<br />
MRSA also is becoming more common.<br />
Establishing<br />
Prevention<br />
Your Milk Supply<br />
Prevention is the best line <strong>of</strong> defense.<br />
Tip 1: Nurs early and <strong>of</strong>ten.<br />
• Avoid going for long periods <strong>of</strong> time between feedings<br />
• Make sure that a l areas <strong>of</strong> the breast are we l drained at each<br />
• Addre s any areas <strong>of</strong> the breas that remain hard by ma saging<br />
while nursing<br />
• Quickly begin to take care <strong>of</strong> plugge ducts. Ma sage over<br />
and/or behind the blockage has been the commonly used<br />
A baby’s need for milk and his mother’s ability<br />
to produce it in just the right quantity is one<br />
<strong>of</strong> nature’s most perfect examples <strong>of</strong> the law <strong>of</strong><br />
supply and demand. Understanding how the milk<br />
supply is established and regulated makes it easier<br />
to maintain an ample milk supply. Here are 10 tips<br />
to help you.<br />
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way to reduce and disperse the material obstructingtheduct.<br />
A di ferent approac has been recommended whereby the<br />
mother ma sages in front <strong>of</strong> the lump toward the nipple.<br />
Begin by ma saging close to the nipple, reposition the massage<br />
farther back until you are ma saging directly in front <strong>of</strong><br />
the blockage. This is though to help clear the way through<br />
convoluted ductwork that may not be in straight alignmentto<br />
the nipple. Plugged ducts require prompt a tention, because<br />
they can start a cascade <strong>of</strong> events that leads to breast inflammation<br />
and breast infection.<br />
• Troubleshoo the cause <strong>of</strong> sore or damaged nipples. Get help<br />
from a <strong>La</strong> <strong>Leche</strong> <strong>League</strong> Leader, an <strong>International</strong> Board<br />
Certified <strong>La</strong>ctation Consultant (IBCLC), or other expert in<br />
breastfeeding to make sure that your baby is positioned,<br />
latched, and suckling co rectly. Once a break in the skin<br />
occurs, it increases your chances <strong>of</strong> a breast infection.<br />
Consider the use <strong>of</strong> a suitabl emo lien that i safe for the<br />
baby to ingest, such as HPA <strong>La</strong>nolin. This can be soothing<br />
and speed healing <strong>of</strong> a cracked nipple. You also may wish to<br />
talk to your doctor about applying a medicated ointmen to<br />
the damaged nipple to decrease the likelihood <strong>of</strong> a breast<br />
• Due to the link between severe nipple sorene s and infection<br />
<strong>of</strong> the nipple by Staph aureus, some experts recommend<br />
careful washing <strong>of</strong> the nipple with soap and water and the<br />
application <strong>of</strong> a medicated ointmen to promote wound healing<br />
and prevent progre sion to an infection that can eventua<br />
ly a fec the breast. Talk with your doctor abou this type<br />
<strong>of</strong> breast infection.<br />
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This is the key to establishing a abundant milk supply and ge ting<br />
If you find that your baby regularly sl eps more than thr e hours between<br />
breastf eding o f to a good start. Mothers who nurse their babies within an<br />
feedings, he may n ed to be awakened for f edings at least every two hours<br />
half hour after birth and continue to nurse at frequent, unrestricted intervals<br />
during the day until your milk supply is we l established. If the baby begins to<br />
are more likely to establish a good milk supply than mothers who nurse on a<br />
nurse less frequently, there wi l be a co responding drop in milk production. If<br />
restricted feeding schedule.<br />
nursings continue to be spaced farther and farther apart or if the baby nurses<br />
less vigorously or for a shorter period <strong>of</strong> time at each f eding, the milk supply<br />
wi l diminish. <strong>The</strong> law <strong>of</strong> supply and demand also works in reverse: the le s <strong>of</strong>ten<br />
the baby nurses, the le s milk there wi l be.<br />
<strong>The</strong> breast produces milk almost continuously. Frequent nursing and e fective<br />
suckling signal the mother’s body to produce the amount <strong>of</strong> milk her baby<br />
n eds. So the more <strong>of</strong>ten the baby nurses, the more milk the breast wi l Usua ly around 3 weeks, 6 w eks, 3 months and 6 months <strong>of</strong> age you may<br />
make. This simple rule <strong>of</strong> supply and demand is the key to establishing and notice your baby nursing more <strong>of</strong>ten. A lowing your baby to nurse more <strong>of</strong>ten<br />
maintaining an abundant milk supply.<br />
for two or thr e days around these times will increase your milk supply to m et<br />
Tip 2: <strong>The</strong> more the baby nurses, the more<br />
milk there wi l be.<br />
Tip 3: Newborns usua ly nurs every one to two hours, or at<br />
least ten to 12 times in a 24 hour period.<br />
This frequent nursing is nature’s way <strong>of</strong> not only helping the mother provide a<br />
wonderful source <strong>of</strong> comfort and nutrition for her newborn, but also to help Your baby may be nursing <strong>of</strong>ten because he<br />
the mother’s milk supply to become quickly established. Enjoy these special likes the f eling <strong>of</strong> security from the close body<br />
nursing se sions and bond with your baby.<br />
contact that comes with nursing, because he<br />
n eds to satisfy his suckling n ed, or because<br />
he finds the sound <strong>of</strong> your heartbeat and the<br />
gentlene s <strong>of</strong> your touch a great source <strong>of</strong> comfort<br />
Your baby needs to nurse long enough to get the hindmilk, the milk that comes as he adjusts to his new world. If you have any further<br />
toward the end <strong>of</strong> a f eding as it is creamy and high in calories. Encourage the questions or concerns, be sure to contact your <strong>La</strong> <strong>Leche</strong><br />
baby, if wi ling, to nurse from both breasts at least 10 to 15 minutes on each <strong>League</strong> Leader or other breastf eding specialist.<br />
side. It may take the milk two or three minutes to “let down,” or start to flow,<br />
especia ly in the beginning. Babies who have had enough hindmilk usua ly have<br />
relaxed bodies and may fa l asl ep at the breast. If your baby suckled both<br />
breasts at the f eding, start the next f eding with the breast the baby nursed<br />
from last. (Often sma l infants, like late preterm infants, only take one breast at<br />
a f eding the first few days, and they do just fine if they are nursing frequently<br />
enough.)<br />
Tip 4: Don’t look at the clock, look at your baby.<br />
Tip 5: Be sure your baby i suckling e fectively.<br />
Milk production depends on milk removal. Watch baby for signs <strong>of</strong> milk<br />
removal. Does your baby have a large mouthful <strong>of</strong> breast ti sue Can you s e<br />
baby’s tongue betw en your breast and their lower gum Are baby’s temples<br />
moving as baby swa lows Can you hear baby swa lowing your milk Do you<br />
f e like your breast has b en drained after baby comes o f the breast <strong>The</strong>se<br />
questions may be helpful in a se sing weather your baby is removing milk from<br />
the breast. Sore or cracked nipples may be an indicator <strong>of</strong> improper latch or<br />
positioning at the breast.<br />
Tip 6: Breastfed babies feed more <strong>of</strong>ten than formula<br />
fed babies.<br />
K ep in mind that since human milk is perfectly suited to your baby, it wi l be<br />
digested more rapidly and completely than non-breastmilk substitutes like<br />
cow’s milk or soy-based formulas. Your breastfed baby wi l be ready to eat<br />
again sooner than his bo tle-fed counterpart. Remember the law <strong>of</strong> supply and<br />
demand that is at work here—the more <strong>of</strong>ten the baby nurses, the more milk<br />
your body wi l produce for your baby.<br />
Tip 7: Count diapers to check if your baby is ge ting<br />
enough to eat.<br />
Sometimes a mother finds herself thinking that her baby is nursing “all the<br />
time,” and wonders if this means that she doesn’t have enough milk to satisfy<br />
him. If he has six to eight wet cloth diapers (five to six disposables) and two<br />
to five bowel movements per day (beginning the third day after birth) and is<br />
not being given anything but your milk, you can be sure he is ge ting plenty <strong>of</strong><br />
nourishment. An older baby may have bowel movements le s frequently, but<br />
they should be plentiful.<br />
Tip 8: You may need to wake your baby for feedings.<br />
Tip 9: Growth spurts cause babies to nurse more <strong>of</strong>ten.<br />
Tip 10: Remember that newborns nurse for many<br />
reasons other than hunger.<br />
** Breastfed newborns<br />
should regain their birth<br />
weight by 10 days to two<br />
weeks <strong>of</strong> age. A baby who<br />
is not gaining we l should<br />
be checked by a doctor.<br />
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Increasing<br />
Your<br />
Milk<br />
One <strong>of</strong> the most common<br />
reasons mothers give for weaning<br />
sooner than they had planned<br />
is concern about milk supply.<br />
Living in a culture that is used<br />
to measuring everything, it can<br />
be difficult for mothers to trust<br />
the breast when they cannot<br />
see how much milk is inside it<br />
or going into the baby. When<br />
doubts begin to set in, mothers<br />
<strong>of</strong>ten receive we l-intentioned<br />
but poor advice that may even<br />
make the situation worse.<br />
Fortunately, there are ways to<br />
know if you are making enough<br />
milk and ways to help increase<br />
it, if needed. Understanding<br />
how milk supply works and the<br />
things that can cause problems<br />
is key to finding the best way to<br />
increase your milk.<br />
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to eat more than your breasts<br />
have stored up a the moment,<br />
he wi l keep nursing and draining<br />
your breasts until milk production<br />
speeds up to meet his needs. If<br />
you are making more than he<br />
wants, the leftover milk he leaves<br />
inside signals your breas to make<br />
less and less until your supply<br />
matches what he needs. How<br />
<strong>of</strong>ten your baby feeds ultimately is<br />
determined not by his age but by<br />
your milk storage capacity—the<br />
size <strong>of</strong> the warehouse in your milk<br />
factory. <strong>The</strong> babies whose mothers<br />
can store lots <strong>of</strong> milk may take<br />
larger feedings less <strong>of</strong>ten, while the<br />
babies <strong>of</strong> mothers with less storage<br />
space get sma ler meals and may<br />
feed more <strong>of</strong>ten.<br />
How Do You Know if Your<br />
Milk Supply is Low<br />
Baby behaviors like fussing after<br />
nursing, feeding <strong>of</strong>ten, or feeding<br />
for short or long periods <strong>of</strong> time,<br />
within two to four days, milk production kicks or changes such as s<strong>of</strong>ter breasts or less<br />
into high gear. From tha time on, the factory leakage, may or may not indicate a low milk<br />
—your breasts—determine how much milk to supply. <strong>The</strong>se behaviors are <strong>of</strong>ten just part <strong>of</strong><br />
make by how much milk your baby takes out. the normal course <strong>of</strong> breastfeeding. Whereas<br />
That puts your baby in charge <strong>of</strong> your milk in the early weeks the breasts are fu l and<br />
sometimes hard, this is related to additional<br />
fluids in the breasts as we l as extra milk over<br />
and beyond what your baby needs. As the<br />
When a fu l-term, healthy baby is a lowed<br />
fluid is lost and your breasts se tle into milk<br />
to nurse as <strong>of</strong>ten and as long as he needs,<br />
production that matches your baby’s needs,<br />
a good supply <strong>of</strong> milk is usua ly established.<br />
the breasts wi l feel s<strong>of</strong>ter—even though<br />
Most babies eat 8-12 times a day. If the baby<br />
there is plenty <strong>of</strong> milk in them, and more on<br />
is unable to do the job due to premature<br />
the way! Sometimes an increase in frequency<br />
birth, separation, i lness, or another condition,<br />
o feeding is an indication <strong>of</strong> an increase in<br />
milk must be removed from your breasts<br />
your baby’s need for “mommy time,” and does<br />
by other means or else the milk factory wi l<br />
not reflect a supply problem. <strong>The</strong> best way<br />
begin to shut down. If you and your baby find<br />
to te l is to look at your baby’s diaper output<br />
yourselves in this situation and taking into<br />
and weight gain. In the first 6-8 weeks, most<br />
consideration how may times a day your baby<br />
babies have at least 5-7 good wet diapers and<br />
nurses e fectively a the breast, pumping up to<br />
at least 3-4 stools larger than a US quarter<br />
8-12 times each 24 hours wi l help to ensure<br />
(2.5 cm). As they get older, they have fewer<br />
a good milk supply. If your baby is not feeding<br />
but larger bowel movements. From the time<br />
directly a the breast, a good goal for the<br />
their mothers’ milk comes in until four to six<br />
During pregnancy, the breasts build a milk amount <strong>of</strong> milk you pump per day is at least<br />
months <strong>of</strong> age, the babies should gain around<br />
factory in preparation for feeding your baby. 25 to 30 ounces (750-900mls).<br />
5-7 ounces (150-210 grams) per week.<br />
Hormones from the placenta aid this process,<br />
Weight gain slows down gradua ly for the<br />
and for mothers ca rying multiple babies, extra Your milk factory is always making milk.<br />
rest <strong>of</strong> the first year. Your baby’s health care<br />
hormones create an even bigger milk factory. When your breasts are drained <strong>of</strong>ten, they<br />
provider can te l you if he is continuing to gain<br />
Once the baby is born and the placenta comes make more milk faster. If milk builds up and<br />
appropriately or if there is cause for concern.<br />
out, the milk factory opens for business and isn’t removed <strong>of</strong>ten or for a while, they make<br />
milk more slowly. If your baby decides he wants<br />
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To Honor and Remember<br />
To Honor<br />
Sarah Chaikin<br />
With deep appreciation for Sarah’s help upon the birth<br />
(and breastfeeding start!) <strong>of</strong> our daughter Aviva. Without<br />
your help, I would not have been able to share the joy <strong>of</strong><br />
breastfeeding with my daughter. From Cathrin Weinstein,<br />
Margate City, NJ<br />
Betsy Belle Eadie<br />
Happy 65th birthday, 45th anniversary and 34th year as<br />
an LLL Leader! Thank you for being an amazing Mom and<br />
Grandmother. Love, Your Children and Grandchildren<br />
Cindy Garza<br />
Thanks for introducing us to LLL. Happy Mother’s Day. We<br />
love you. Elias and Dubraska Wawi, Houston, TX<br />
Jan Kozub<br />
To my dear friend and Wilbraham LLL leader for over 40<br />
years!! - Happy Birthday Jan Kozub. I admire and honor<br />
you for helping so many breastfeeding families over the<br />
years. Because <strong>of</strong> your dedication, love, support and clinical<br />
expertise so many have succeeded to breastfeed despite huge<br />
obstacles. You are the best. Thank you for being my mentor,<br />
friend and respected LLL leader. Love, Nancy Aberdale,<br />
Venice, FL<br />
Ruri <strong>La</strong>ne<br />
Ruri is an acquaintance <strong>of</strong> Sue Counselman. It was through<br />
Sue that I heard <strong>of</strong> Ruri’s predicament. I would like to honor<br />
Ruri through my donation to LLLI. From Monica Syler, San<br />
Francisco, CA<br />
Evy and Marc Simon<br />
Happy 50th Wedding Anniversary!<br />
Best Wishes and Love, Les Duman, Wyncote, PA<br />
Helena K. Solis<br />
Dear Mom, Thank you for your support in my extended<br />
breastfeeding <strong>of</strong> Finn. Love, Sandra, Woodhaven, NY<br />
To Remember<br />
Molly Ortne<br />
Mother, grandmother, sister, friend.<br />
You are loved and missed by so many.<br />
From Christine Smith, <strong>La</strong>keland, FL<br />
Jan Graham Zimmet<br />
In loving memory <strong>of</strong> Jan Graham<br />
Zimmet, devoted wife <strong>of</strong> Ron Zimmet<br />
and mother <strong>of</strong> Arthur, Ron, and Amy<br />
Mae Zimmet Osborne. <strong>La</strong>rry and Jane<br />
Graham, Austin, TX<br />
Please accept this in memory <strong>of</strong> Jan<br />
Zimmet. From Jill and Peyton Quarles,<br />
South Daytona, FL<br />
For <strong>of</strong>fering support back in the days<br />
when there was none to be had. From<br />
Sharon Atack, Flagler Beach, FL<br />
With our deepest sympathy for<br />
your loss. From Don and Joy Hevey,<br />
Tallahassee, FL<br />
It is an honor to contribute to the<br />
<strong>League</strong> in Jan Zimmet’s memory. Jan<br />
was truly a champion <strong>of</strong> both mothers’<br />
and childrens’ health. May she rest in<br />
peace.<br />
From Randy and Nancy Croy,<br />
Daytona Beach,<br />
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You can make a donation to <strong>La</strong> <strong>Leche</strong><br />
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For a minimum gift <strong>of</strong> $25, the<br />
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Because <strong>of</strong> space constraints, only<br />
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