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the happY hoh |<br />

Yo – hearing care<br />

professionals! Can<br />

anybody tell us where a<br />

family can sign up for a<br />

communication course<br />

(And I’m not talking<br />

about a mandatory<br />

program involving a<br />

psychologist or the<br />

police.) It’s tough enough for a hard of<br />

hearing person to find access to effective<br />

aural rehabilitation, let alone a program<br />

that includes communication partners<br />

like spouses and children past the spitup<br />

stage.<br />

The need is great. In many families,<br />

hearing loss is the elephant in the room,<br />

the monkey wrench thrown into family<br />

communication. Attending even a single<br />

facilitated session on communication<br />

strategies can make a big difference in the<br />

quality of family life. I know what you<br />

might be thinking – and to keep this<br />

animal analogy going – you can lead a<br />

horse to water but you can’t make it<br />

drink. People may not break down your<br />

door to sign up for the session or course,<br />

but the ones that do will benefit greatly.<br />

It can be a bit lonely as the only HoH in<br />

the house. Just because a family is wellversed<br />

in effective communication<br />

strategies, doesn’t mean it actually<br />

practices them. This is not because of<br />

pettiness, negligence or a lack of caring,<br />

but simply because family members, in<br />

the moment, can forget the basics of good<br />

communication. A turned-away face or a<br />

question bellowed from upstairs can suck<br />

the pleasant air out of a room in two<br />

seconds flat, kick-starting a familiar<br />

Hearing loss – A Family Affair<br />

scenario of rising irritation and heated<br />

words.<br />

Me: Why did you do that<br />

Him: (sigh) Do what<br />

Me: You started talking to me as you<br />

walked away. You KNOW I can’t<br />

understand when you do that.<br />

Him: Sorry, hon, I forgot.<br />

Me: You forgot, you forgot! How many<br />

times will it take before you<br />

remember<br />

Him: Until death do us part, OK I will<br />

always forget sometimes, I can’t help<br />

it. Now, do you wanna know what I<br />

said, or not<br />

Hearing loss is a family affair. Its impact<br />

reaches beyond the personal to anyone<br />

within communicating distance. In my<br />

house, even after living together for years,<br />

simply mis-communications can still<br />

spark reactions that range from a laugh to<br />

mild irritation to full-on frustration. This<br />

is part of our more-or-less accepted family<br />

dynamic and, when the bad moment<br />

passes, we move on – time after time.<br />

But the family affair has recently become<br />

more complicated. One change involves<br />

the 17 year-old son who has already<br />

moved beyond our sphere of influence.<br />

The little boy who was raised to respect<br />

the gift of hearing and understand the<br />

consequences of hearing damage, now<br />

enjoys his music at dangerous levels.<br />

There’s not much I can do beyond<br />

offering a good supply of earplugs (which<br />

I can no longer stuff in his ears for him)<br />

and reminding (nagging) him that if he<br />

continues to abuse his hearing, we’ll be<br />

comparing hearing aids at some point in<br />

the future.<br />

By Gael Hannan<br />

gdhannan@rogers.com<br />

The other change involves his parents.<br />

Up until now, Mommy has been the only<br />

one playing in the hearing loss sandbox.<br />

But now Daddy, who has been sitting on<br />

the fence between the two worlds of<br />

hearing (his) and hearing loss (mine),<br />

may have stuck a toe in the sandbox, too.<br />

When it’s noisy, he doesn’t hear me as<br />

well as he used to. Recently, at a hearing<br />

health fair I was involved with, my<br />

husband signed up for free hearing test.<br />

Although the testing environment was<br />

less than ideal, his hearing was “normal”<br />

until 4000 Hz – and then kaboom, the<br />

famous NIHL notch!<br />

The day may have arrived that the former<br />

Hearing Husband and I must practice<br />

two-way communication strategies. I now<br />

need to practice what I preach, making<br />

sure, for example, that he can see my face<br />

in order to understand what I’m saying.<br />

But my husband and I have grown into<br />

this situation – I was already hard of<br />

hearing when we got married. What<br />

about the couples or families who<br />

experience hearing loss after years of<br />

being together The emotional impact is<br />

often immeasurable. Internet resources<br />

such as personal blogs and consumer/<br />

professional hearing loss sites offer a great<br />

deal of helpful information, but don’t<br />

match the effectiveness of learning<br />

and practicing good communication<br />

strategies with real people.<br />

As hearing care professionals, you can<br />

help ensure your clients’ success by<br />

helping their families deal with the<br />

REVUE CANADIENNE D’AUDITION | CANADIAN HEARING REPORT 13

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