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<strong>October</strong> <strong>2009</strong><br />

Arts Boosters Variety Show<br />

<strong>1791</strong> <strong>Letter</strong> ~ <strong>October</strong> <strong>2009</strong>


These electric days of autumn<br />

on the seacoast continue to move<br />

my soul. The number of recent days<br />

infused by azure skies and vibrant<br />

foliage have been truly amazing. I have<br />

had the pleasure of spending two of<br />

these dazzling afternoons at one of my<br />

favorite places: walking the fairways of<br />

The Ledges Golf Club in York. Golf<br />

represents many things in my life; joy,<br />

perseverance, and escape might be the<br />

top three. My first trip to The Ledges<br />

was inspired by our incredible Athletics<br />

Boosters golf tourney, where many<br />

<strong>Berwick</strong> friends enjoyed a perfect day<br />

filled with great laughs and perhaps just<br />

a few words that will not be repeated<br />

in this missive. We certainly left a few<br />

wayward shots in the woods. All of this<br />

went towards supporting our students in<br />

athletics, and I was so impressed by the<br />

efforts of the community as well as our<br />

amazing volunteers. One of the joys of<br />

working at a day school is the chance<br />

to partner with our parents, and events<br />

like the Bulldog Classic remind me just<br />

how lucky we are in this regard.<br />

My second trip to The Ledges<br />

was to get my annual fix. Every fall, I<br />

make sure to head over to see at least one<br />

of our varsity golf matches. I go mostly<br />

out of a genuine desire to support our<br />

boys, but I must confess that I go partly<br />

out of sheer and unbridled envy. Let’s<br />

just say that the quality of golf was a<br />

bit more impressive on my second trip<br />

to The Ledges this fall. We happen to<br />

have an exceptional golf team this year,<br />

and my jaw dropped as I watched the<br />

youthfully coiled shoulder turns and<br />

Tiger-esque short games unfold before<br />

me. I quickly realized that fatherhood<br />

and becoming a Head of School have<br />

certainly accelerated my decline in<br />

muscular flexibility.<br />

One of the greatest things<br />

about golf is that it is truly a game of<br />

integrity. Each time one decides to play,<br />

there are literally a limitless number of<br />

opportunities to take shortcuts without<br />

observable repercussions. As someone<br />

who loves the game, I often find myself<br />

embroiled in internal soliloquies<br />

about adjusting lies or whacking a<br />

quick mulligan for whatever reason or<br />

rationale. It is also hard to express to<br />

non-golfers the sense of sheer agony<br />

and frustration that the game can bring<br />

when things are not going well. Even<br />

the very best golfers seemingly lose<br />

their games for stretches of time for no<br />

apparent reason. When one competes<br />

on the <strong>Berwick</strong> Golf Team, one has to<br />

both play well, and manage emotion,<br />

frustration, and disappointment with<br />

dignity and grace.<br />

At the match I happened to<br />

watch a few weeks ago, I could sense<br />

the determination emanating from our<br />

squad- they believed this was a match<br />

they should win. Although I bounced<br />

around amidst the three foursomes,<br />

I quickly settled on watching our top<br />

two golfers in competition. One of<br />

our team leaders found himself in<br />

a surprising battle midway through<br />

his match. The score was even as we<br />

walked up to the sixth hole; one that I<br />

happen to think is among the hardest<br />

on the course. While his opponent<br />

striped a perfect tee shot, our <strong>Berwick</strong><br />

golfer watched as his ball hopped into<br />

a vicious hazard – a spot on the course<br />

that I know all too well. I slunk into<br />

the umbrella of technicolor trees to see<br />

what kind of drama would unfold from<br />

a distance.<br />

After a longish search, our<br />

player miraculously found his ball in<br />

the hazard; I was surprised that he was<br />

actually going to hit it. The ball was<br />

seemingly nestled between a bit of<br />

fescue and an outcrop of rocks. As he<br />

took a step towards the rocks, our player<br />

stumbled, and his club went into some<br />

neighboring weeds to brace a potential<br />

fall. An animated disagreement ensued,<br />

as the opponent argued that our player<br />

had grounded his club in the hazard<br />

and needed to take a penalty stroke.<br />

To be honest, I have no idea what the<br />

rules of golf suggest in this case, but it<br />

was obvious to me that our player fell<br />

inadvertently down this rocky path. At<br />

a minimum, this was an excruciatingly<br />

frustrating situation. I knew that the<br />

coaches were available to settle just<br />

this kind of rule dispute, which is what<br />

I assumed would have to happen given<br />

the intensity of the match and the<br />

emerging controversy. But I watched as<br />

our player literally bit his lip and made<br />

the internal decision to accept his<br />

fate and move forward. He absorbed<br />

the penalty stroke in question, even<br />

though I could tell it was eating him<br />

up below the surface. He proceeded<br />

to hack his ball further into the hazard<br />

but hit a miracle third shot onto the<br />

green. He ended up losing the hole by<br />

the one penalty stroke and walked off<br />

the green down one with only three<br />

holes remaining.<br />

As many of you may know, we<br />

spent our K-12 Tenth Day Assembly<br />

this fall exploring what a commitment<br />

to integrity means at <strong>Berwick</strong> <strong>Academy</strong>.<br />

We discussed what it means to be a<br />

person of character, and what it meants<br />

to do the right thing when no one is<br />

looking. Our young <strong>Berwick</strong>ian did<br />

not know that I was so engrossed with<br />

what was unfolding in this case, and I<br />

was amazed by what I had seen. What<br />

<strong>1791</strong> <strong>Letter</strong> ~ <strong>October</strong> <strong>2009</strong>


I witnessed was someone who found<br />

a way to move past what he thought<br />

was right, or just, or even fair. In fact,<br />

he was able to moderate his emotional<br />

response to a degree that he did not even<br />

seek an adult to resolve his frustration;<br />

I took this to be a compelling example<br />

of resiliency: resolving his problem on<br />

his own. As I mentioned earlier, I still<br />

had no idea what the rules would have<br />

suggested; I only knew that I couldn’t<br />

help but smile as I walked towards the<br />

next tee.<br />

Of course I had to stay for the<br />

final three holes, even though dinner<br />

with the Schneider girls was simmering<br />

on the stove at the Hayes House. I<br />

actually made eye contact with our<br />

player as he headed for the next tee,<br />

and I simply said “hang in there.” A<br />

fantastic birdie, a gritty bogey, and a<br />

rock solid closing par emerged under<br />

my watch. Our leader had won the<br />

match by a full two strokes, rendering<br />

the rule dispute moot in the end. As<br />

the two competitors shook hands on<br />

that ninth green underneath a setting<br />

seacoast sun, I simply turned towards<br />

my car and headed home in silence. As<br />

parents, children can often challenge<br />

us and frustrate us. As teachers, they<br />

puzzle and confuse us. Children also<br />

remind us why we work so hard at<br />

being parents and teachers. <strong>Berwick</strong><br />

<strong>Academy</strong> assures me that students can<br />

exceed even the highest of standards,<br />

including the ones that only they<br />

themselves can measure and judge.<br />

Safe in Place<br />

I am happy to report that<br />

we completed our first ever Safe in<br />

Place lockdown drill for the entire<br />

campus K-12 with the help of our<br />

new communication system. This is<br />

the result of multiple years of working<br />

on safety planning, and we learned a<br />

great deal from the experience. I have<br />

appreciated all of the support of our<br />

parents as we have worked through<br />

important challenges with safety in<br />

age- appropriate ways.<br />

Admissions Open House<br />

We enjoyed a wonderful<br />

Lower School nature activity afternoon<br />

on Sunday, <strong>October</strong> 18, and now we<br />

are turning our focus to the extremely<br />

important Admissions Open House on<br />

Wednesday, November 11. I would<br />

encourage all <strong>Berwick</strong> families to<br />

consider reaching out to a friend or<br />

neighbor who might be interested in<br />

having a first glance at our community<br />

on this day. There is no better way that<br />

our families can further the mission of<br />

our School than by spreading the word<br />

about what the <strong>Berwick</strong> experience has<br />

meant to their children.<br />

Book Fair<br />

Our annual Lower School Book<br />

Fair and Bake Sale will take place during<br />

the first week of November. Please come<br />

and enjoy incredible baked goods, and<br />

browse through the wide assortment of<br />

books brought to us through the efforts<br />

of the many volunteers that make this<br />

event possible.<br />

Seacoast United Soccer Tournament<br />

A hearty thank you to Rob<br />

Quinn, the Athletic Department, and<br />

our Athletics Boosters for hosting<br />

an expansive Seacoast United<br />

Soccer Tournament on our campus<br />

during Columbus Day weekend.<br />

Congratulations to all who were<br />

involved in preparing for this wonderful<br />

event that brought families to campus<br />

from throughout New England.<br />

Burleigh-Davidson Reunion<br />

On the Saturday of Columbus<br />

Day weekend, we also hosted the<br />

Burleigh and Davidson families as they<br />

celebrated their first family reunion.<br />

Family members clearly enjoyed the<br />

opportunity to view the Burleigh-<br />

<strong>1791</strong> <strong>Letter</strong> ~ <strong>October</strong> <strong>2009</strong><br />

Davidson Building throughout and<br />

thanks to the efforts of Patricia<br />

McManus and Rachel Saliba, were<br />

able to have their many questions<br />

answered. Thanks also to Seth Hurd<br />

for his extra efforts in making visitors<br />

feel welcome.<br />

<strong>Berwick</strong> <strong>Academy</strong><br />

Campus Store<br />

SHOP<br />

Online!<br />

Offering a selection of products<br />

from the school store including<br />

sweatshirts, hats, mugs, and more.<br />

Log on to www.berwickacademy.<br />

org and click on Community to find<br />

the <strong>Berwick</strong> Store


Peter Saliba<br />

The most important asset of<br />

any educational institution is its people.<br />

In my role, I get the chance to see each<br />

one of our teachers in action, mostly<br />

in their classrooms. Most of the time,<br />

these are glimpses, but at other times it<br />

is part of our formal evaluation system.<br />

Everyday I’m reminded how lucky we<br />

are to have our faculty, and the skills<br />

they bring to our campus. I know all<br />

of you appreciate the complexity of<br />

human relationships, and while good<br />

teaching navigates this fact with a<br />

great deal of difficulty, our jobs are also<br />

helped immensely by this reality. Yes,<br />

teaching is a tough job, but it’s made<br />

easier by the complexity of the task.<br />

The volume of research on<br />

good teaching is staggering. A student<br />

of pedagogy could spend an entire<br />

career simply reviewing all that has<br />

been written. From my perspective,<br />

there are three generally accepted truths<br />

of exceptional teacher performance<br />

in the classroom: Good teaching<br />

is whenever students are learning;<br />

excellent teachers reflect regularly on<br />

their practice; and the best teachers are<br />

acutely aware of how their students are<br />

experiencing their learning. Although<br />

these tenets of teaching sound simple,<br />

their execution is complex. For<br />

example, if you happen to be teaching<br />

Western Civilization, how important is<br />

it that your students know the location<br />

of the Sea of Tranquility It’s probably<br />

not that essential if you are focused<br />

on how the Hebrew vision of God<br />

provided the basis for monotheism, and<br />

its role as an essential building block<br />

for both Christianity and Islam. But,<br />

students were learning in this exercise<br />

of geography. Is that good teaching<br />

Of course, the answer is “it depends.”<br />

If a student happens to be a geography<br />

nut or someone passionate about<br />

exploration, you’ve hooked them<br />

into your class, at least temporarily.<br />

The permutations of “it depends” are<br />

infinite, and highlights the fact that<br />

one exercise or approach that might<br />

work really well for one student many<br />

not work for others in the classroom.<br />

I’m sure some of us think that this<br />

geography exercise in a Western Civ<br />

class is useless or unfair. I’m not going<br />

to try and tackle that issue here, but I<br />

will use it as a foil to highlight why the<br />

complexity of the situation helps us at<br />

<strong>Berwick</strong>.<br />

The complexity of teaching<br />

means that no matter what you do,<br />

some students will struggle with the<br />

goals of a lesson. This is because we<br />

often have multitudes of learning styles<br />

in the classroom. This in turn makes<br />

faculty think about adjustments because<br />

ultimately, we have the students at<br />

the center of our focus. Adjusting<br />

approaches, trying new things, learning<br />

from our experiences all describe a<br />

faculty member’s experience on a daily<br />

basis. We try to encompass everyone<br />

in the class. This situation, although<br />

difficult, also empowers the students<br />

because they know that they are not<br />

alone in grappling with challenges.<br />

They see us, like their peers, wrestle<br />

with our approaches and experiments,<br />

and witness our successes and failures.<br />

Empathy is a powerful tool<br />

in the world of teaching, and the<br />

recognition that all of us experience<br />

joy and frustration in our complex<br />

relationships makes our job as<br />

educators easier. Of course there are<br />

differences in how we (faculty and<br />

students) express our highs and lows,<br />

but the message is the same- we are all<br />

in this together.<br />

If teaching was simply about<br />

retaining content, then the Internet<br />

would have put schools out of business.<br />

What keeps us going is the fact that<br />

human beings need more care, support<br />

and nurturing than the LCD screen<br />

in a vacuum can provide. By making<br />

this journey together, the bonds of the<br />

complex relationship are strong and<br />

meaningful, and define our school.<br />

And, if you happen to know where the<br />

Sea of Tranquility is, give yourself a<br />

point of extra credit on your next test.<br />

Warmly,<br />

<strong>1791</strong> <strong>Letter</strong> ~ <strong>October</strong> <strong>2009</strong>


Several years ago, Hap<br />

Ridgway remarked upon what he called<br />

my “Mother Bear” responses when<br />

students or teachers needed protection<br />

of some sort. I am still unsure, given his<br />

experiences with grizzlies in Wyoming,<br />

if I was really quite that scary. I imagine<br />

that each parent among us can recall<br />

moments when we have felt that our<br />

children have been unfairly treated<br />

and we have raised ourselves up in high<br />

dudgeon against those who posed the<br />

threat.<br />

Protecting our children from<br />

danger is probably one of the hardwired<br />

responses in our brains that has<br />

continued to promote our successful<br />

evolution as a species. And while the<br />

world is a safer place in many respects<br />

than it was 400,000 years ago, the<br />

wiring remains the same. And so it<br />

seems that we parents see threats to<br />

safety even when there are none to the<br />

physical well-being at all. We can focus<br />

upon challenges, insults, exclusions,<br />

gossip, and even grades.<br />

Somehow, we read a threat<br />

when our children might be better<br />

served by having to struggle without<br />

our hovering. For example, a low<br />

performance on a test might be<br />

expressed as a matter of, “Mom, the<br />

teacher doesn’t like me.” While we may<br />

know better on an intellectual level, it<br />

can be all too easy to head down the<br />

road of blame. That road is perilous<br />

and frequently finds young adults who<br />

blame their bosses, the faulty radar gun<br />

of a police officer, or an unfair justice<br />

system. Moreover, the blaming pattern<br />

interrupts the development of honest<br />

self-reflection and mature acceptance of<br />

responsibility. I often tell students about<br />

the fine I once deserved (and paid) for<br />

driving 67 miles per hour on Route 95.<br />

I was angry for having been caught by<br />

a state police officer, but I paid the fine<br />

because I had been driving above the<br />

speed limit. The responsibility and not<br />

the blame belonged on my shoulders,<br />

and only mine.<br />

Another threat that certainly<br />

raised my hackles were mean, heartless,<br />

cutting words; the social cruelty that<br />

tends to diminish if not disappear in<br />

the young adult years. How often<br />

I was tempted to pick up the phone<br />

and demand a apology and a promise<br />

to “keep your distance.” Instead, I<br />

permitted the struggle with the words<br />

to happen. Asking, “Do you know<br />

those words to be true” about a rumor<br />

has been a reliable starting point.<br />

Statements may be unfair, untrue, and<br />

unkind. The world is all of those.<br />

Developing resilience is perhaps our<br />

best defense. Analyzing the other’s<br />

motivations is also an exercise in<br />

empathy.<br />

Ultimately, the development<br />

of good character is the job of one’s<br />

entire community. At the micro level,<br />

the early years at home are times when<br />

the foundation is established and<br />

set. School years are the times when<br />

the foundation is tested. The adults<br />

in one’s community model, foster,<br />

and celebrate the integrity of the<br />

individuals. More is gained through<br />

those three behaviors than through<br />

approbation. The community at large,<br />

local or global, still presents threats.<br />

Some of these are frighteningly real.<br />

Others demand the protection of thick<br />

skin and a clear-eyed view of making<br />

right choices.<br />

As we embark upon a year that<br />

<strong>1791</strong> <strong>Letter</strong> ~ <strong>October</strong> <strong>2009</strong><br />

explores our core value of integrity, the<br />

Middle School students and faculty<br />

will be busy. We shall be self-reflective<br />

and sometimes struggle with choices.<br />

I recommend Leo Tolstoy’s story, “The<br />

Three Questions,” as a place to start.<br />

The story can be read by children or<br />

adults, for its message is timeless. Here<br />

are the three questions asked by a king<br />

of a very old hermit: “How can I learn<br />

to do the right thing at the right time<br />

Who are the people I most need, and<br />

to whom should I, therefore, pay more<br />

attention than to the rest And, what<br />

affairs are the most important, and<br />

need my first attention” The hermit<br />

permits the king to answer his own<br />

questions, just as we each must, in<br />

our time. I hope that our year allows<br />

for some enlightenment and brings us<br />

further away from taking the stance of<br />

the mother grizzly bear. Governing<br />

through size and fear is a hard way to<br />

live, and there are no truly easy roads<br />

to integrity.


I enjoyed hosting the Lower<br />

School Curriculum Night on Tuesday,<br />

<strong>October</strong> 6. The presentation combined<br />

aspects of a Lower School Coffee and<br />

a Lower School Forum as we discussed<br />

segments of our division’s curriculum<br />

on the heels of our Back-to-School<br />

Night. During the evening, I presented<br />

and led a discussion on the math and<br />

health/wellness programs; Maria Isaak<br />

did the same for the music program.<br />

Certainly, a division’s<br />

curriculum is a regular and essential<br />

school focus. In the Lower School and<br />

across campus, it has taken on greater<br />

importance this year with our efforts in<br />

curriculum mapping and instructional<br />

differentiation. As I mentioned<br />

during the presentation, curriculum<br />

mapping is a process by which the<br />

faculty is reviewing the daily, weekly<br />

and year-long curriculum by entering<br />

critical information into an electronic<br />

database. We are using templates that<br />

display key curriculum components<br />

including units of study, essential<br />

questions, student skills proficiencies,<br />

student knowledge proficiencies and<br />

assessment. The curriculum mapping<br />

approach uses real-time curricular data<br />

about what is taught over the course<br />

of the year in order to promote further<br />

scope and sequence decision making.<br />

We are using the Atlas curriculum<br />

mapping program, which is supported<br />

by Rubicon (educational services).<br />

This Internet-based program will allow<br />

for greater faculty review of curricular<br />

goals at specific grade levels, within<br />

divisions and across our kindergarten<br />

through grade twelve spectrum.<br />

I also defined and reviewed our<br />

approach to differentiation which is<br />

one of the primary Academic Affairs<br />

Committee agenda topics this year, with<br />

important implications at the division<br />

level as well. In brief, differentiation<br />

involves adapting teaching and<br />

learning materials to account for<br />

individual differences in learning style<br />

amongst a given group of students. At<br />

<strong>Berwick</strong>, as with any other school, it<br />

is important to identify areas in which<br />

we can successfully differentiate within<br />

the instructional realm in a manner<br />

that promotes greater levels of student<br />

achievement.<br />

In the remainder of this<br />

column, I hope to give greater focus to<br />

the math program by using Curriculum<br />

Night talking points. As I work<br />

with the faculty—and ultimately the<br />

students—my overall Lower School<br />

math goals are threefold: to develop<br />

a meaningful network of skills and<br />

subject knowledge; to develop number<br />

sense and mathematical thinking and<br />

to develop awareness that math makes<br />

sense as a specific subject area, across<br />

the curriculum and in “real life.”<br />

We use the second edition<br />

of the Investigations math program<br />

as a foundation for our instruction.<br />

Investigations is based on the national<br />

math standards developed by the<br />

National Council of Teachers of<br />

Mathematics. Through a nine-unit<br />

per grade level focus (seven units at<br />

kindergarten), the skills and objectives<br />

spiral coherently across and within<br />

grade levels in relation to number sense,<br />

algorithms and problem solving. It is<br />

crucial to have a program that promotes<br />

consistent language, activities, scope<br />

and sequence and assessment, while<br />

allowing for teacher flexibility in<br />

tailoring lessons to specific classroom<br />

needs.<br />

During the evening, we looked<br />

at Lower School examples of math<br />

curricula and curriculum mapping<br />

approaches. I am eager to help<br />

facilitate the merger of these two areas<br />

over the course of the year. As we<br />

progress, we will also continue to make<br />

natural integrations between the math<br />

program and technology, science and<br />

special projects across the curriculum.<br />

As we look to the future of<br />

math education in the Lower School,<br />

I am working actively to ensure that<br />

our grade-level schedules allow for<br />

one hour of math instruction per day.<br />

We are also increasing our assessment<br />

focus by adding the Terra Nova test<br />

at the third grade level, so that we<br />

have standardized test scores across<br />

the second, third and fourth grade<br />

continuum. Another important goal<br />

this year involves looking at ways<br />

in which we can offer more depth<br />

and possibilities to summer math<br />

experiences. Finally, we are addressing<br />

the manner in which we can connect<br />

and integrate math skills and objectives<br />

across the curriculum into other subject<br />

areas.<br />

Curriculum mapping,<br />

instructional differentiation and the<br />

math program have connected in<br />

important ways at the beginning of<br />

this academic year. I was pleased to<br />

lead the math presentation during<br />

our Curriculum Night, and I welcome<br />

any related thoughts from the Lower<br />

School community related to the math<br />

program.<br />

<strong>1791</strong> <strong>Letter</strong> ~ <strong>October</strong> <strong>2009</strong>


Rob Quinn<br />

<strong>Letter</strong> to the <strong>Berwick</strong> Community<br />

Dear <strong>Berwick</strong> Community,<br />

Columbus Day weekend in <strong>October</strong><br />

always proves to be a very busy time in New<br />

England with leaf peepers traveling north to get<br />

a glimpse of the natural beauty of all the fall<br />

foliage in our area. However this particular<br />

weekend is also quite popular for soccer<br />

tournaments being hosted in the local area,<br />

which also draw large crowds of visitors. At<br />

<strong>Berwick</strong> <strong>Academy</strong> this held true and Seacoast<br />

United Soccer Club held its tournament for the<br />

very first time at BA with 35 teams visiting our<br />

beautiful campus over the long weekend.<br />

A soccer tournament being held<br />

at our campus gave the BA community an<br />

opportunity to showcase our school, students,<br />

parents and all the beautiful facilities we have.<br />

Also, this was an opportunity for our Athletics<br />

Boosters to use their time and talents to raise<br />

funds in a concessions tent. With the help of<br />

many, many parent and student volunteers,<br />

the Athletics Boosters were successful in their<br />

quest for fundraising. It is with great pleasure<br />

that I recognize those BA student-athletes who<br />

gave their time to BA on a very breezy, brisk<br />

fall weekend to work on the Hilltop for the<br />

greater good of all our BA athletes and athletic<br />

programs.<br />

Andrew Hawkins, Leigh Chilton,<br />

Kyle Mullaney, Jim Sherbahn, Max Werman,<br />

Ethan Hawes, Skyler Stern, Parker Woolley,<br />

John Reinhardt, Blake Downey, Jamie Meader,<br />

Katy Davis, Will Reis, Lydia Waldo, Alex<br />

Devine, Win Hahn, Michael Keefe, Gabbie<br />

Wiggin, Averill Daly, Kelsey Hayden, Alex<br />

Wood, Rachel Ikegami, Patrick Nichols, Simon<br />

Corson, Jamie Wilson, Chelsea Vanderlinde,<br />

Elias Thayer, Abby Thayer, Jordan Katz, Lee<br />

Tsairis, Alicia Springer, Julia Kokernak, Nate<br />

Potter, Samantha Sullivan, Sarah Murray, Jess<br />

Murray, Erica van Dissel, Abby Martinen,<br />

Cora Ordway, Ellie Penati and Mike Henry.<br />

Please forgive me if I’ve missed<br />

recognizing any student. All of your efforts<br />

are greatly appreciated by many. For all the<br />

parents who drove our volunteer athletes to<br />

campus and for those parents who gave of their<br />

time to work in the concession tent; THANK<br />

YOU!!<br />

It is for these reasons that I am so<br />

proud to serve as the President of BA Athletics<br />

Boosters. Enjoy the remainder of our teams’<br />

games, matches and meets and we look forward<br />

to joining in the fun of Winter Sports.<br />

Warm regards and many thanks,<br />

Kim Mills and the BA Athletics Boosters<br />

Bulldog Classic<br />

The weather was spectacular<br />

for the 19th Annual Bulldog Golf<br />

Classic that featured the participation of<br />

nearly 95 golfers, including 11 alumni;<br />

everyone enjoyed the opportunity<br />

to gather, golf, and meet new people<br />

and/or reconnect with classmates. A<br />

special thank you to so many people<br />

who made this event successful. Golf<br />

Committtee adviser Cider Berry;<br />

Boosters members Terri Atwood, Lisa<br />

Harris, Jim and Diane Wheeler, Steve<br />

Grenier, Chris Nichols, Joyce O’Day,<br />

Paula Reid, Stephanie Lawrence, Andy<br />

Lathrop and Marilena Canuto. Your<br />

work is truly the backbone that makes<br />

this event a reality.<br />

We would also like to recognize<br />

the parents that participated in this<br />

event by coming out to play golf and<br />

support our athletic programs. Upper<br />

School parents: James Dolan, John<br />

MacFarlane, Kevin Reinhardt, Ron<br />

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Siegal, Jay McFarland, Neal Wittet,<br />

John Zannos, Mike Claire, Jimmy<br />

Wheeler, Steve Grenier and Middle<br />

School parents: John MacFarlane,<br />

Andrew Siegal, Jay McFarland, Mike<br />

Claire, Chris Grassie and Richard<br />

Salvati. Lower School parents: Vic<br />

Sunshine, Brooke Storey, Thomas<br />

Hourihan, Chip Gaudette, Nickie<br />

Gaudette, Scott Knightly.<br />

Special thanks to our student<br />

athletes who came to the course<br />

early in the morning before school to<br />

welcome our guests and carry their<br />

golf bags to the assigned carts. John<br />

Reinhardt, Mike Grenier, Jamie Wilson<br />

and Derek Lavigne- Job well done!<br />

Finally, a tremendous thank you to<br />

our sponsors and prize donors who we<br />

would like to recognize below:<br />

Tournament Sponsor<br />

Head & Neck Specialty Group of<br />

N.H.<br />

Tournament Sponsor – UBS Wealth<br />

Management<br />

Cart Sponsor – Atlantic Sportswear<br />

Putting Green Sponsor – The Benson<br />

Family<br />

Beverage Cart Sponsors – Atwood<br />

Carpentry<br />

Breakfast Sponsors – Sports Medicine<br />

Atlantic Orthopaedics<br />

Master’s Sponsor – Eastern Propane<br />

and Oil<br />

PGA Sponsor – Budel<br />

PGA Sponsor – Emerson Technologies<br />

Lunch Sponsor – Muddy River<br />

Marketplace<br />

U.S. Open Sponsors<br />

George Blaisdell Insurance<br />

Brock’s Building Materials<br />

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you gotta have Arts<br />

Art Society Inductions<br />

A number of serious Upper<br />

School visual artists and musicians<br />

will be inducted into the National Art<br />

Honor Society and the Tri-M Music<br />

Honor Society during a reception in<br />

the Commons Dining Hall at 5:30<br />

p.m. on Thursday, November 5. Light<br />

refreshments will be available for the<br />

inductees and their guests during the<br />

ceremony.<br />

Dance<br />

The dance program is pleased<br />

to announce the captains for the <strong>2009</strong>-<br />

2010 academic year. From a unanimous<br />

vote of the Upper School dance<br />

company members, Chelsea Johnson<br />

and Mollie Stolzer emerged as the<br />

student leaders of the <strong>Berwick</strong> <strong>Academy</strong><br />

Dance Program. As captains, Mollie<br />

and Chelsea will assist the faculty in<br />

preparations for the dance performance<br />

in May, as well as act as student liaisons,<br />

promote the presence of dance in our<br />

community, look for opportunities for<br />

outreach, and contribute choreography<br />

to the Company Blue repertory.<br />

Congratulations, Chelsea and Mollie!<br />

Director of Dance Sasha<br />

Randall has continued her work with<br />

the Maine Arts Commission and Maine<br />

Alliance of Arts Education by working<br />

closely with the groups at their recent<br />

conference in Northport, Maine. The<br />

Arts Connect conference brought<br />

three hundred arts educators from<br />

the state of Maine together to discuss<br />

advocacy, adversity, opportunities,<br />

connections and pedagogical tools.<br />

During this conference, Sasha was<br />

introduced to blogging and has<br />

started a blog discussing the state<br />

of dance throughout New England,<br />

primarily focusing on dance education<br />

in the private school sector. You can<br />

contribute to the conversation at www.<br />

nedance.wordpress.com<br />

Drama<br />

Fall Drama Production-- The<br />

Upper School Drama Department will<br />

kick off the performing arts season with<br />

The Perfect Alibi, a detective mystery<br />

in three acts, by A.A. Milne. This<br />

production will be staged by the Upper<br />

School Drama Department on Friday<br />

and Saturday, <strong>October</strong> 30-31, in Fogg<br />

Memorial. Admission is $5 Adults, $3<br />

Students, at the door, no reservations<br />

required.<br />

Visual Arts<br />

Five Artists Who Teach—<br />

Melissa Hannon, Teaya Fitzgerald,<br />

Raegan Russell, Deloris White and<br />

Lynn Wildnauer are in the process of<br />

hanging and presenting works that<br />

represent them as visual artists. The<br />

exhibit will be in the Jackson Library<br />

Gallery through December.<br />

These artist/teachers recently<br />

attended the annual Maine Art<br />

Educators Conference at Haystack<br />

Mountain School of Crafts on Deer Isle.<br />

This year’s emphasis was on art and the<br />

environment and the keynote address<br />

as well as the workshops reflected this<br />

theme, utilizing recycled and natural<br />

materials in the creation process.<br />

Winterfest<br />

Winterfest Auditions—January<br />

7, 12, and 14, 2010-- It is not too early<br />

to begin thinking about Winterfest<br />

2010. The auditions will take place<br />

the first two weeks after we return<br />

from the winter holiday break. We<br />

continue to look upon the auditions<br />

as an educational experience. Last<br />

year, seventy-six individual performers<br />

or groups auditioned. The final<br />

selection of twenty-two performers<br />

was very difficult. Winterfest 2010<br />

will represent our “One School”<br />

philosophy. Therefore, <strong>Berwick</strong><br />

students in kindergarten through grade<br />

twelve who excel in their performing<br />

arts concentration must submit a<br />

Recommendation for Audition Form,<br />

signed by their performing arts<br />

instructor in early December to sign<br />

up for a five-minute audition time slot.<br />

Students will be informed of their<br />

assigned audition time the first week<br />

in January. Auditioning before a jury<br />

is a competitive process, therefore,<br />

performing arts students are encouraged<br />

to prepare early and thoroughly for the<br />

Winterfest audition days in January.<br />

Because of the numerous students<br />

auditioning, each student may audition<br />

only once, either as a solo performer<br />

OR part of a group. If selected,<br />

each student may perform ONLY<br />

as accepted by audition. Everyone<br />

must decide exactly what they will<br />

be performing prior to the audition.<br />

Please note that Winterfest 2010 will<br />

take place on Friday, January 22, at<br />

7:00 p.m., with a snow date planned for<br />

Sunday, January 24, at 2:30 p.m. Any<br />

student interested in signing up for an<br />

audition should check with parents and<br />

coaches to determine if they have any<br />

conflict with the performance date or<br />

the snow date. Please contact Deloris<br />

White dewhite@berwickacademy.org<br />

if you have any questions regarding<br />

this process.<br />

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President’s Notes<br />

Thanks to the many volunteers<br />

who helped make the busy first 6 weeks<br />

of school a little easier for everyone.<br />

BAPA has already supported many<br />

events and activities: parent coffees,<br />

Picture day, team building trips and<br />

socials, Upper School wilderness trips,<br />

fourth Grade Seacoast Science Center<br />

trip, Upper School magazine sale, and<br />

more. We want to thank everyone who<br />

helped, whether it was by supporting<br />

our fundraisers or by volunteering their<br />

time; we can’t do what we do without<br />

you. Everyone makes a difference<br />

when they volunteer, so thank you<br />

very much.<br />

There are more events coming<br />

up so please look at the NEW BAPA<br />

portal for BAPA updates and news, and<br />

also look in the weeklies for volunteer<br />

opportunities and events in your<br />

children’s divisions.<br />

BAPA Social at the Redhook Brewery<br />

We’re trying something totally<br />

new for this year’s BAPA Parent’s Fall<br />

Social and we are having a casual event<br />

at Redhook Brewery. Join us for beer,<br />

wine, and hot and cold hors d’oeuvres.<br />

A one-hour brewery tour will be offered<br />

if there is enough interest. The tour<br />

will include tasting several beers and<br />

a complimentary tasting glass to take<br />

home.<br />

Date: Tuesday, November 10, <strong>2009</strong><br />

Time: 5:30 p.m. – 8:00 p.m.<br />

Place: Redhook Brewery, 35 Corporate<br />

Drive, Portsmouth, NH (Pease<br />

Tradeport) There is no charge to<br />

attend this event. BAPA is sponsoring<br />

the hors d’oeuvres and brewery tour.<br />

There will be a cash bar. Watch your<br />

email for your invitation!<br />

Magazine Sale<br />

Please remember to support the<br />

magazine sale still going on to benefit<br />

the Junior and Senior Prom. This is the<br />

only fundraiser for the prom so please<br />

help support it by buying or renewing<br />

a magazine subscription. Thanks so<br />

much for your support.<br />

Lost and Found<br />

Have you checked out the Lost<br />

and Found lately By this time of the<br />

year our precious children have usually<br />

lost something. If you can not find a<br />

raincoat or that favorite sweatshirt,<br />

look in the Commons (bottom floor).<br />

Please remember to label your children’s<br />

clothes to help identify items.<br />

BAPA Board Opening for <strong>2009</strong>-2010<br />

The BAPA Board is looking<br />

ahead to next year. If you are<br />

interested in becoming involved in the<br />

BAPA leadership and would like to be<br />

considered for a position, please submit<br />

your name along with the position or<br />

positions you are interested in, to my<br />

attention, via e-mail or letter (Mail to<br />

<strong>Berwick</strong> <strong>Academy</strong>, Attention BAPA.)<br />

by February 2010.<br />

BAPA Gardens<br />

I want to thank Kristin Wiese<br />

Adelman for taking care of the BAPA<br />

gardens. They look great. We really<br />

appreciate your time and energy.<br />

Jean Jarvis<br />

BAPA President<br />

Jean.jarvis1@myfairpoint.net<br />

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Treasurer’s Report<br />

September 30, <strong>2009</strong><br />

Gr. 8 BBQ Income $2755.96<br />

Expenses:<br />

Middle School<br />

Gr. 5 Team Building $300<br />

Gr. 6 Team Building Workshop $1,200<br />

Enrichment – River as a Classroom $560<br />

Enrichment – Bale to Bolt $390<br />

Enrichment – Midsummer Night’s Dream<br />

at UNH Gr. 8 $504<br />

Total MS $2,954<br />

Upper School<br />

Clubs/Extracurricular -<br />

Lassiter Buddy Supplies $60.48<br />

Junior Magazine Drive Lunch $51.90<br />

Enrichment -Isles of Shoals trip $1,800<br />

Freshman Orientation Pizza $467<br />

Total US $2,379.38<br />

Total BAPA Expenses 9/1/09 – 9/30/09<br />

$5,333.38<br />

Net BAPA support 9/1/09 – 9/30/09<br />

$2,577.42<br />

Nancy Noyes<br />

nnoyes@comcast.net<br />

Schools Treasurer<br />

Lower School News<br />

The school year has gotten off<br />

to a wonderful start! The leaves are<br />

falling, the weather is turning colder,<br />

and that means that we are gearing<br />

up for the annual Lower School Book<br />

Fair and Bake Sale. The event will take<br />

place November 2 through November<br />

6 in the Commons Lounge. We will<br />

feature books from both Scholastic and<br />

Usborne aimed at a wide range of ages<br />

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and interests. Books for children of<br />

preschool age through grade 8, as well<br />

as adult best-sellers and cookbooks<br />

(Think Rachel Ray!) will be available.<br />

We will also feature autographed copies<br />

(and possibly a live signing or two)<br />

of books by local authors, including:<br />

Michele Werwein Albion, Jeannie<br />

Brett, Jane Cowen Fletcher, and Tracy<br />

Kane.<br />

Lower School classroom<br />

teachers, unified arts teachers, and<br />

the Middle School librarian will be<br />

filling out wish lists. Please stop by the<br />

Teacher Wish List Booth at the book<br />

fair and purchase a book for your child’s<br />

teacher. You and your child can fill out<br />

a bookplate sticker indicating the book<br />

is a gift from your child.Lower school<br />

children will be going over to the Book<br />

Fair with their teachers and filling out<br />

wish lists of their own. Your child’s<br />

wish list will be sent home the week of<br />

the Book Fair and can be used to help<br />

you shop.<br />

BA is again participating in One<br />

for Books, a charitable giving program<br />

aimed at donating one million books<br />

to schools in disadvantaged areas.<br />

Drop your spare change in the box<br />

or let your children do so. Look for<br />

more details on the portal and in the<br />

LS Weekly.<br />

Please stop by and support the<br />

Book Fair and Bake Sale! All proceeds<br />

benefit the Lower School and the<br />

Lower School Library.<br />

In addition to the Book Fair<br />

and Bake Sale, we have a few other<br />

upcoming activities:<br />

<strong>October</strong> 29, 2:00 p.m.: Lower School<br />

concert for grades K-2 and grades 3-4<br />

Mini Blues concert.<br />

<strong>October</strong> 30, 2:00 p.m.: Halloween<br />

parade.<br />

November 10, 5:30-8:00 p.m.: BAPA<br />

Parents’ Fall Social. Join us for beer,<br />

wine, and hot and cold hors d’oeuvres.<br />

A one-hour brewery tour will be<br />

offered if there is enough interest. The<br />

tour includes tasting several beers and<br />

a complimentary tasting glass to take<br />

home.<br />

BAPA is looking for volunteers<br />

to help with the Lower School Book<br />

Fair and Bake Sale. We are also looking<br />

for a coordinator for the Lower School<br />

Book Club. If you are interested,<br />

please contact the Lower School<br />

coordinators.<br />

Pamela Oberg<br />

pamela@hike-nh.com<br />

Beth Tykodi<br />

bptykodi@comcast.net<br />

Lower School Coordinators<br />

Middle School News<br />

The crisp and cool air of Fall has<br />

hit New England once again. We have<br />

jumped back into the school year with<br />

many activities underway. The buzz<br />

of learning and happenings is clearly<br />

underway when you step beyond the<br />

doors of the Middle School.<br />

The Eighth Grade BBQ was<br />

quite a success. Thank you to all the<br />

parents and students who came out to<br />

support our eighth graders during Blue<br />

and White week.<br />

Grade 5 students enjoyed<br />

a class trip to Lowell on <strong>October</strong> 1.<br />

They learned about the Merrimack<br />

River and performed some interesting<br />

experiments. Our fifth and sixth graders<br />

had a wonderful first social of the year<br />

at Skate Newington, zipping around in<br />

their skates and roller blades.<br />

Be sure to mark your calendars for the<br />

following upcoming Parents Night<br />

Out:<br />

On <strong>October</strong> 22 the seventh grade will<br />

have a Parent Night Out at Rudi’s in<br />

Portsmouth.<br />

On November 5 all fifth grade parents<br />

can enjoy a night out at The Shipyard<br />

Brew Pub in Eliot.<br />

The grade 6 Parents Night Out has<br />

been rescheduled. We will notify you<br />

when a new date has been set.<br />

We are still hoping to organize a Grade<br />

8 Parents Night Out. Any volunteers<br />

to assist in this would be greatly<br />

appreciated.<br />

Our next Middle School Coffee will<br />

be on <strong>October</strong> 28 at 8:30 in the<br />

Commons Lounge. This meeting will<br />

be followed by a class rep meeting.<br />

Come have some coffee and goodies<br />

while we gain more knowledge about<br />

all that is going on in the Middle<br />

School.<br />

On November 5, BAPA will sponsor the<br />

eighth grade class to see a production<br />

of A Midsummer Night’s Dream at UNH.<br />

This will be a wonderful trip for the<br />

students and an opportunity to tie into<br />

their reading of this classic story.<br />

Come join us on November 10 for<br />

the Parents Fall Social that BAPA will<br />

host at the Redhook Brewery (Pease<br />

Tradeport) in Portsmouth from 5:30 to<br />

8:00 p.m. It is a great way to catch up<br />

with old friends and meet new ones.<br />

This will be a casual get together at the<br />

Brewery and there will be a cash bar, hot<br />

and cold hors d’oeuvres and a tour of<br />

the Brewery for all who are interested.<br />

We hope that you can attend!<br />

On November 20 and 21 the Middle<br />

School will be performing the musical<br />

“You’re A Good Man Charlie Brown!”<br />

The play will be a fun night out and<br />

a venue to see our children become<br />

rising stars as actors and singers.<br />

There are still volunteer<br />

positions available whether you<br />

want to help out with the auction,<br />

the upcoming Middle School Play, a<br />

Parents Night Out or in joining some<br />

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of our Middle School reps. There is<br />

something for everyone. Just let us know<br />

your preference and we will point you<br />

in the right direction. Please contact<br />

Andrea Bristol at malted 92@comcast.<br />

net or Joanne Meyer at jomeyer777@<br />

aol.com.<br />

Upper School News<br />

First, I would like to thank<br />

Kim Mills the past Upper School<br />

Coordinator for leaving the books<br />

in such good order so that when the<br />

school year began we hit the ground<br />

running. For those parents who are not<br />

aware, the BAPA US parents support<br />

quite a bit for the school. So far, we have<br />

supported the Freshmen Wilderness<br />

Trip (including the pizza and t-shirts<br />

upon their return), and the ninth grade<br />

parent gathering on the BD porch. We<br />

helped support the Upper School trip<br />

out to the Isles of Shoals and the senior<br />

parents were in charge of all the food<br />

at the first coffeehouse. Many thanks<br />

to all who contributed as the kids were<br />

impressed by your generosity. We<br />

provided the juniors with a lunch while<br />

they helped organize the magazine<br />

drive and we will provide the DJ and<br />

some fundraising for the US dance on<br />

<strong>October</strong> 23. We contribute to the fall<br />

play with lighting, costume or other<br />

requested needs. Come see the play on<br />

the third floor of Fogg on the evenings<br />

of <strong>October</strong> 30 and 31. For November,<br />

the sophomore parents will be in<br />

charge of the food for the November<br />

20 coffeehouse. Please save the date for<br />

an informal, BAPA sponsored Parents<br />

Fall Social at the Redhook Brewery in<br />

Portsmouth on Tuesday, November 10<br />

from 5:30 – 8:00 p.m.<br />

So, please take the time to enjoy<br />

the fall season because before we know<br />

it we will be sending out semiformal<br />

invitations, putting together the ninth<br />

graders special exam packets and<br />

picking up the Upper School’s exam<br />

snacks!<br />

Email either of us with any questions<br />

or comments.<br />

Suzanne McFarland<br />

suzannerye@comcast.net<br />

Mary Pat Dolan<br />

Marypat.dolan@comcast.net<br />

New Family News<br />

So how’s it going Are you<br />

overwhelmed or in the groove The<br />

good news is you made it through to<br />

Columbus Day weekend, the first major<br />

milestone in the school year! If you are<br />

in the MS or US, you know that the<br />

first term has just ended and the first<br />

grades of the year will be out soon. If<br />

you are in LS, you are half way through<br />

the first semester. Next stop, the winter<br />

break! However, let’s not wish the time<br />

away. There is so much to enjoy in the<br />

next month…<br />

For all <strong>Berwick</strong> <strong>Academy</strong> parents, there<br />

are the following events:<br />

Tuesday, Oct. 21 – Picture Retake<br />

Day. If you would like your child’s<br />

school picture retaken, please bring<br />

in the photo packet you received to<br />

school, and the pictures will be retaken<br />

on that day. Please retain class photos<br />

as they will not be returned.<br />

Thursday, Oct. 23 – Susan G. Komen<br />

Fundraiser for breast cancer awareness.<br />

Each student wishing to participate in<br />

this event is recommended to bring in<br />

$1 and enjoy a dress down day.<br />

Friday, Oct. 30 – Lower School<br />

Halloween Parade at 2 p.m. For Lower<br />

School parents, this is a must-see event.<br />

The children all look so fantastic in<br />

their costumes and the teachers go all<br />

out to make it a great day. At 2 p.m.<br />

the Lower School children will parade<br />

through the quad. If you are on campus<br />

that day, please steal a look. It’s too<br />

cute!<br />

Week of Nov. 2 – Lower School Book<br />

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Fair and Bake Sale. Even if you are not<br />

in the Lower School, this is a great<br />

opportunity to buy books and get a<br />

jump on your Christmas shopping.<br />

Books will be on sale for all reading<br />

levels – even adults! You can donate<br />

books in your child’s name to the<br />

library, and there will be sweet treats<br />

to keep you motivated as you shop.<br />

Please don’t miss it. Proceeds go to buy<br />

books for the Lower School library.<br />

Tuesday, Nov. 10 – BAPA Social 5:30-<br />

7:30 p.m. at the Redhook Brewery in<br />

Portsmouth. As a parent at <strong>Berwick</strong><br />

<strong>Academy</strong>, you are automatically a<br />

member of BAPA. This event is for you!<br />

It is a great casual affair, and everyone<br />

is invited. We hope you will stop by<br />

and check it out. In addition to drinks<br />

and food, there will be an opportunity<br />

to take the Brewery tour!<br />

Just a few other things going on at<br />

school you should know about…<br />

The Middle School will<br />

present a musical production,<br />

“You’re a Good Man Charlie Brown”<br />

on November 20 and 21. If you would<br />

like to help out and volunteer with this<br />

theater production, your help would<br />

be most appreciated. Your child need<br />

not be in MS to help! Please contact<br />

lwagner@berwickacademy.org or call<br />

207-384-2164, ext. 2911.<br />

BAPA Auction – BAPA is looking for<br />

auction volunteers at all levels. Please<br />

consider putting your hand up for any<br />

spare time you have. It’s a great event,<br />

and so important to making <strong>Berwick</strong><br />

<strong>Academy</strong> the great school it is. Please<br />

contact Lesli Friel mfriel@comcast.net,<br />

Jean Jarvis jean.jarvis1@myfairpoint.<br />

net or Mary Towey marytowey@<br />

comcast.net.<br />

Integrity Theme – If you never<br />

go to the Middle School, you really<br />

should take a look. Don’t be scared.<br />

You’re allowed. On the wall as you<br />

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Understanding Friendships<br />

Student friendships are usually<br />

a primary focus of my work at the<br />

beginning of each school year. Parents<br />

of many new (and returning) students<br />

are as concerned about this aspect of<br />

their child’s school experience, as they<br />

are about their academics. Division<br />

directors, deans, advisors and teachers<br />

are not only tracking their students’<br />

academic progress at the beginning<br />

of the school year, but they are also<br />

keeping a watchful eye on the formation<br />

of friendships.<br />

Friendships or peer<br />

relationships between children are more<br />

than just fun; they are an important<br />

part of a child’s social and emotional<br />

development. In fact, the single best<br />

predictor of adult adaptation is not<br />

school grades, classroom behavior, or<br />

popularity, but rather, the adequacy<br />

with which a child gets along with other<br />

children. Like adults, children need<br />

positive friendships. These childhood<br />

friendships lay the foundation for future<br />

same-gender and opposite-gender<br />

relationships. Research shows that<br />

children with friends have a greater<br />

sense of well-being, self-esteem and<br />

fewer social problems as they move<br />

through life and into adulthood.<br />

The characteristics of<br />

friendships, or how friends are described,<br />

changes dramatically as a child moves<br />

through childhood, early adolescence,<br />

and finally late adolescence. There<br />

are even differences seen with gender.<br />

The way a male adolescent describes<br />

a friend is very different than the<br />

way a female adolescent describes<br />

one. These differences do narrow as<br />

adolescents become older and approach<br />

adulthood, but even in adulthood some<br />

gender differences are seen. Another<br />

interesting finding is that parental<br />

influence on friendships doesn’t stop at<br />

the “play date” stage. It is important<br />

for parents to provide encouragement,<br />

support, direction and modeling for<br />

their children’s friendships throughout<br />

childhood, adolescence and into<br />

adulthood. But before highlighting<br />

more of these important findings, let<br />

me break down “friendships through<br />

the ages.”<br />

According to Michael<br />

Thompson, Psychologist and School<br />

Consultant, a mother is usually a<br />

child’s first friend. A baby who feels<br />

securely attached to their primary<br />

caregiver develops an “internal model<br />

of relationship” which includes<br />

intimacy, security, safety and the<br />

pleasure of interacting with another<br />

human being. This first friendship<br />

becomes the child’s template for future<br />

friendships. Thompson believes<br />

that children develop friendships at<br />

different rates. In his book, Best Friends,<br />

Worst Enemies~Understanding the Social<br />

Lives of Children, Thompson describes a<br />

unique friendship between an eightmonth-old<br />

boy and a ten-month-old<br />

girl. Of course this friendship looks<br />

dramatically different than one we<br />

might see in preschool or in high<br />

school, but the qualities of warm<br />

interactions and smiles of pleasure are<br />

common links.<br />

During elementary school<br />

years children generally choose friends<br />

who are similar to themselves and<br />

share their interests. The accounts of<br />

first and second graders of the children<br />

they like, reflect the concrete and the<br />

here-and-now. A friend is a playmate,<br />

or someone who is fun to do things<br />

with; “nonfriends” are those who are<br />

different or not fun to be around.<br />

The most important factor in defining<br />

a relationship at this point is how<br />

satisfying the relationship is personally.<br />

Friendships become increasingly group<br />

oriented as a child grows older and<br />

moves through elementary school. The<br />

most well-liked children are those who<br />

can manage social relations and think<br />

of activities that are fun. It is during<br />

the latter part of elementary school<br />

that teachers and parents get their first<br />

glimpse of some of the social problems<br />

that exist in all relationships - inclusion/<br />

exclusion, conformity, independence,<br />

fear of rejection and popularity.<br />

Starting around age ten or<br />

eleven, more abstract notions begin to<br />

emerge about friendships. An individual<br />

is defined as a friend “because he sticks<br />

up for me,” or “because we share values”<br />

or “because we think the same things<br />

are important.” Later still, on the verge<br />

of adolescence, friendships include<br />

elements of empathy. Some adolescents<br />

begin to develop what is called “a best<br />

friend” - an individual with whom he/<br />

she enjoys a kind of relationship not<br />

previously experienced, not even with<br />

a parent. But like everything in life, we<br />

must take the good with the bad. At<br />

the same time these wonderful bonds<br />

begin to emerge between adolescents,<br />

cliques begin to form. Cliques can be<br />

based on appearance, athletic ability,<br />

academic achievement, talent, ability<br />

to attract the opposite sex, or seeming<br />

sophistication. Cliques peak in middle<br />

continued on pg. 14...<br />

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Rachel Saliba<br />

Over 100 Burleigh-Davidson<br />

family members visited campus for<br />

their family reunion last weekend.<br />

Their visit included tours of BD as well<br />

as lunch in the Commons and a tour<br />

of South <strong>Berwick</strong>. Pat McManus and<br />

I were on hand to answer questions<br />

about the Burleigh-Davidson Building,<br />

but quickly realized that the family<br />

knew a lot more than we did – even if<br />

some of them asked us if we were still<br />

a boarding school. The following is a<br />

brief history of the Burleigh-Davidson<br />

family and their splendid home.<br />

John Holmes Burleigh 1822-1877<br />

Captain John Holmes Burleigh<br />

attended <strong>Berwick</strong> <strong>Academy</strong>, but left<br />

in 1837 to work on a clipper ship at<br />

the age of 16. He became a captain<br />

by 21 and even took his bride, Matilda<br />

Buffum Burleigh to sea with him for a<br />

few years.<br />

When the couple returned to<br />

South <strong>Berwick</strong>, John purchased the<br />

Newichawannock Woolen Mills (the<br />

old mill on the river on Brattle Street)<br />

and renamed it Burleigh Mills. Burleigh<br />

Mills made woolen blankets for the<br />

Union soldiers during the Civil War<br />

and then became famous for producing<br />

auto robes and blankets. Captain<br />

Burleigh became one of the wealthiest<br />

men in Maine and he had a home to<br />

reflect his success. Below is a sketch<br />

of the Burleigh Mansion located on the<br />

site where BD currently sits<br />

The First Burleigh Mansion –<br />

built c. 1864 and destroyed by fire in 1892<br />

Captain Burleigh, like three of<br />

his descendants, was a member of the<br />

<strong>Berwick</strong> <strong>Academy</strong> Board of Trustees.<br />

He was also the President of the<br />

National and Savings Banks, served four<br />

terms in the state legislature and served<br />

two terms as a U.S. Congressman until<br />

his untimely death when his horse and<br />

carriage bolted off the bridge between<br />

South <strong>Berwick</strong> and Salmon Falls in<br />

1878.<br />

Captain Burleigh was survived<br />

by his wife Matilda Buffum Burleigh<br />

and their five children, all of whom<br />

graduated from <strong>Berwick</strong> <strong>Academy</strong>.<br />

After their mansion was destroyed in<br />

1892, Matilda built the current Burleigh<br />

Davidson building. The bannisters<br />

went all the way to the third floor. One<br />

could stand at the bottom and look all<br />

the way up to a stained glass sky light.<br />

Matilda’s youngest daughter,<br />

Elizabeth Burleigh Davidson, and her<br />

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six children came to live with her after<br />

Elizabeth was also widowed in 1901.<br />

Eventually, all of Elizabeth’s children<br />

graduated from <strong>Berwick</strong> <strong>Academy</strong> and<br />

two served on the <strong>Academy</strong>’s Board<br />

of Trustees. A portrait of Thomas<br />

Davidson (Class of 1915) is hanging in<br />

the BD Conference Room.<br />

<strong>Berwick</strong> <strong>Academy</strong> purchased<br />

the Burleigh-Davidson Estate in 1945<br />

from the family to prevent it from<br />

being turned into a turkey farm. The<br />

estate included a tennis court, a pool<br />

and a coach house. It has gone through<br />

many transformations since then, but<br />

that is another story.<br />

As always, please contact me<br />

at rsaliba@berwickacademy.org if you<br />

have any questions or if I have made an<br />

error. You can also visit the archives on<br />

Mondays and Fridays from 8:30 – 2:30<br />

each week.<br />

Library Volunteer Opportunities<br />

All Middle School students<br />

are invited to volunteer in the library<br />

and the archives after school on<br />

Wednesdays from 2:15 – 3:15 p.m.<br />

Eighth grade students are also invited<br />

to volunteer during their study hall on<br />

Fridays. A volunteer sign-up sheet is<br />

located at the front desk of the library.<br />

If you are an adult, and you’d also like<br />

to volunteer your time in the library<br />

or archives, please contact Rachel<br />

Saliba at rsaliba@berwickacademy.<br />

org or Jennifer Brewer at jbrewer@<br />

berwickacademy.org. We’d appreciate<br />

your help.<br />

13


BAPA News...cont. from pg 11 Wellness News...cont. from pg 12<br />

walk in is a huge banner with the word,<br />

“INTEGRITY”. The students have been<br />

encouraged to write on the banner<br />

their personal definition of the word<br />

“integrity”. The writing is inspiring,<br />

humbling and very interesting.<br />

Make time to see it. You won’t be<br />

disappointed. As always, if you need<br />

help or have a question with anything<br />

at all, please contact me. I’m happy to<br />

help you.<br />

Katie Clark Kclark_uk@hotmail.com<br />

BAPA New Families Coordinator<br />

(207) 698-0080<br />

Auction News<br />

WE’RE MOVING! The BAPA Benefit<br />

Auction is moving to a new venue.<br />

Join us April 24, 2010, at the Links at<br />

Outlook (www.outlookweddings.com).<br />

There are lots of ways to volunteer for<br />

this exciting event. Please contact<br />

Lesli or Mary if you would like to get<br />

involved.<br />

Lesli Friel m.friel@comcast.net.<br />

Mary Towey marytowey@comcast.net<br />

Auction Co Chairs<br />

BAPA Communications<br />

Check out BAPA on the Portal!<br />

We have a new ‘BAPA Portal View’<br />

where you can find all the latest BAPA<br />

news, announcements, events and<br />

volunteer opportunities. Thank you<br />

to volunteers Linda Lyon, Paula Hoy<br />

and Mary Towey for their help with<br />

an admissions mailing in September.<br />

More great volunteers helped stuff<br />

packets in <strong>October</strong>. Thank you to new<br />

parents Emily Urquhart and Kate Thut<br />

and to Kim Levy and Diane Walker.<br />

If you would like to join the fun and<br />

volunteer an hour or two please contact<br />

me.<br />

school as peer relationships and acceptance augment family relationships and (the<br />

good news) then decrease in high school. Cliques are a common phenomenon<br />

during adolescence; many of us were part of one during our middle or early high<br />

school years. It is important for a parent to remember that the best defense to<br />

the rejection or aggression that sometimes negatively erupts from cliques is a<br />

“good quality” friendship. Thompson reminds us in his book that when it comes to<br />

friendship, quality is much more important than quantity.<br />

The amount of time spent with friends is greatest during adolescence. High<br />

school students spend more than twice as much time with their friends as they do<br />

their parents. The bottom line is that teenagers want to be with other teenagers.<br />

They depend on each other to lend a sympathetic ear and offer emotional support<br />

when they are faced with dilemmas about relationships, school, siblings, parents,<br />

or life in general. But contrary to psychoanalytic theory, adolescents do not have<br />

to “turn against their family” as they move toward their friends. Contemporary,<br />

nonpsychoanalytically- oriented thinking suggests that transition to adolescence is<br />

nowhere near as problematic for parents or for adolescents. Even though teens may<br />

see a lot less of their parents, they continue to rely on them, not only for guidance,<br />

but also for support in friendships and activities. In fact, when real hardships arise;<br />

most teens turn to their parents. In his book, Michael Thompson describes the<br />

importance of connecting with your child’s friends particularly during adolescence.<br />

This does not mean carrying on an hour conversation with them, but what it does<br />

mean is that you acknowledge their presence and make them feel welcomed in<br />

your home. Friendships in later adolescence are described as strong, stable and<br />

intimate bonds that last over time. These friendships, along with healthy parental<br />

relationships lead to social competence in adulthood.<br />

From playing peek-a-boo with your infant to the planning of a surprise<br />

eighteenth-birthday party, parents are a key component. Michael Thompson, as<br />

well as other researchers suggests that a parent’s role in helping to develop and refine<br />

their child’s friendship-making skills may be greater than we once thought. Not<br />

only do children need a safe and secure environment, and loving and encouraging<br />

parents to develop social competencies, they also need “friendship” role models.<br />

Studies have shown that parents, who have good friends themselves, raise kids<br />

who make good friends. There is ample reason to believe that the reactions of<br />

parents with their own friends provide children and adolescents with models and<br />

cues about the social skills involved in making friends. Children who see their<br />

parents respecting each other, and valuing their own friends have an easier time<br />

establishing friendships.<br />

If you haven’t already, I would highly suggest that you read Michael<br />

Thompson’s book Best Friends, Worst Enemies~Understanding the Social Lives of<br />

Children.<br />

Sincerely,<br />

Cindy Briggs<br />

Sarah Hebert hebertsh@comcast.net<br />

BAPA Communications Coordinator<br />

14 <strong>1791</strong> <strong>Letter</strong> ~ <strong>October</strong> <strong>2009</strong>


Athletics News...cont. from pg. 7<br />

The Bunny Clark<br />

Charter Oak Capital Management<br />

Diverse Networks LLC<br />

Ironman Fitness<br />

Lago’s Ice Cream<br />

Holly Malloy<br />

Jay McFarland<br />

The Millerick Family<br />

The Mills Family<br />

Reid & Company<br />

Ronn Woolley<br />

Somersworth Nissan<br />

The Springer Family<br />

Stage Neck Inn<br />

Strogen’s HVAC, LLC<br />

Summit Land Development<br />

Dr. Richard Zeff, Cosmetic and Plastic<br />

Surgery<br />

Prize Donors<br />

Abby Chic Florist<br />

Bauer Hockey<br />

Heidi & John Bement<br />

Blackman Chiropractic<br />

Bob’s Clam Hut<br />

Celebrity Marketing<br />

Chuck Clement IV<br />

Cinnamon Rainbow<br />

Cumberland Farms<br />

Dick’s Sporting Goods<br />

Dover Wine<br />

Dunkin Donuts<br />

Eastern Propane & Oil<br />

Eight Winds Hair Salon<br />

Fischer Cats<br />

Kathy Ford<br />

Granite Steak & Grill<br />

Great Bay Pottery<br />

Steve Grenier<br />

Gustafson’s Gallery<br />

Hampton Airfield<br />

Hillcrest 3 Par<br />

Holy Rosary Credit Union<br />

Honore LaFlamme<br />

Kennebooks<br />

Lego Systems, Inc.<br />

Lindt Chocolates<br />

Mac Ford Custom Building<br />

Marriott Cambridge<br />

Dr. McQueeney<br />

The Music Hall<br />

My Liege Salon<br />

NE Creations<br />

New England Skydive<br />

North Hampton Recreation<br />

The Old Salt<br />

Dr. Amy Pruszemski<br />

Ragged Mountain, Danbury, NH<br />

Red Sox<br />

Riptide Charters<br />

Robert Ryder Bulk Hauling<br />

Smuttynose Brewery<br />

The Wheeler Family<br />

Top Shelf Cigar, Dover<br />

USS Dallas Gifts<br />

Windjammers Seafood Restaurant<br />

York Harbor Inn<br />

The College Bound Athlete<br />

Please join us on Tuesday,<br />

<strong>October</strong> 20 at 6:30 p.m. in the<br />

Patricia Baldwin Whipple Arts Center<br />

for an information session regarding<br />

the college-bound athlete. This<br />

presentation will help our studentathletes<br />

who are thinking about<br />

playing college athletics navigate the<br />

college search process. The program<br />

will include evaluation opportunities,<br />

contacting college coaches, citizenship<br />

and the college visit process. All<br />

athletes and parents are welcome.<br />

Courtside Café<br />

As we head into the winter<br />

season we are looking for help from<br />

parents who have students playing<br />

basketball. We have an oustanding<br />

concession area in the Athletic Center<br />

that we use to raise money for our<br />

athletic programs. The Courtside Café<br />

is run by our Athletics Boosters group<br />

and they are currently looking for<br />

parents to donate their time and help<br />

with concession sales. You can sign up<br />

for a game or two during the season to<br />

help support your teams. Please contact<br />

Rob Quinn for more information.<br />

Off the Hilltop<br />

<strong>Berwick</strong> <strong>Academy</strong> Junior<br />

Zac Lawrence competed in the <strong>2009</strong><br />

USATF National Junior Olympic<br />

Track & Field Championships held<br />

in Greensboro, North Carolina.<br />

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The USATF Junior Olympic Track<br />

& Field Championships is the most<br />

visible youth athletic development<br />

program in the world. Over 7,000<br />

athletes competed in the event held<br />

July 27 through August 2 at the Irwin<br />

Belk Field at North Carolina A & T<br />

University. Entry for this championship<br />

is based on athlete performances at<br />

preliminary, Association and Regional<br />

levels of competition. Zac finished<br />

an impressive 18th out of a field of 45<br />

competitors.<br />

Upcoming events<br />

Thursday, November 5, Middle<br />

School Fall Sports Awards at 1:30 p.m.<br />

Reminder - 5:30 p.m. late bus schedule<br />

begins Monday, November 16.<br />

15


Dear <strong>Berwick</strong> Community,<br />

<strong>October</strong> has been an energizing month! By now the Annual Fund has officially kicked off, and we are fortunate to have<br />

so many dedicated Annual Fund volunteers raising awareness of the importance of participating in the Annual Fund. I<br />

want to thank the over 50 parents and past parents who have volunteered to be a part of the <strong>2009</strong> - 2010 Annual Fund<br />

team! They are:<br />

Annual Fund Chair<br />

Holly Malloy, Trustee<br />

Annual Fund Team<br />

Lower School<br />

Holly Grimes,<br />

LS Division Leader<br />

Grade 1<br />

Beth Lowenstein, Grade Leader<br />

Michelle Albion<br />

Michelle Hanson<br />

Grade 2<br />

Michelle Soares, Grade Leader<br />

Tom Parrott<br />

Heather Kodzis<br />

Betsy Rawlings<br />

Grade 3<br />

Kristin Morales, Grade Leader<br />

Vic Sunshine<br />

Grade 4<br />

Costikyan Jarvis, Grade Leader<br />

Dee Whall<br />

Suzanne Richardson<br />

Middle School<br />

Margaret Talcott, Trustee<br />

MS Division Leader<br />

Grade 5<br />

Janet Stevens, Grade Leader<br />

John Barbour<br />

Grade 6<br />

Lisa Anderson, Grade Leader<br />

Amy Criswell<br />

Paula Reid<br />

Laura Smith<br />

Grade 7<br />

Betsy Coughlan, Grade Leader<br />

Stephen Young<br />

Jane Hourihan<br />

Deborah Walden<br />

Kendall Montouri<br />

Grade 8<br />

Holly Malloy, Grade Leader<br />

Nina Maurer<br />

Carol Welsh<br />

Tim Platt<br />

Adriana Cunha-Salomon<br />

Upper School<br />

Leigh Ann MacFarlane,<br />

US Division Leader<br />

Grade 9<br />

Eliza Peter, Grade Leader<br />

Mary Boswell<br />

Molly Samson<br />

Gloria Legere<br />

Sue Downey<br />

Mary Connors<br />

Grade 10<br />

Sheila Woolley, Grade Leader<br />

Jennifer Saulnier<br />

Mary Reinhardt<br />

Carolyn Woodward<br />

Grade 11<br />

Laurie Hair, Grade Leader<br />

Maria Moschetto<br />

Diane Mugford<br />

Susan Stedman<br />

Leadership Chair<br />

Debbie Bauder, Trustee<br />

Leadership Team<br />

Mark Tay, Chair, Board of Trustees<br />

Jamey French, Trustee<br />

Holly Malloy, Trustee<br />

Margaret Talcott, Trustee<br />

Lesli Friel<br />

Meg Cavanaugh<br />

Thomas Hourihan<br />

Jedd Whitlock,<br />

Director of Advancement<br />

Kathryn Strand, Development Office<br />

By now, you should have received your Annual Fund appeal letter. Annual Fund volunteers will be contacting parents from<br />

<strong>October</strong> 19 through November 20, to ask them to participate in this year’s Annual Fund. As in past years, parents of the<br />

Class of 2010 will be asked to support an endowed fund in honor of the graduating class. Parents new to <strong>Berwick</strong> this year<br />

will be formally asked for their support in February of 2010.<br />

The Annual Fund is <strong>Berwick</strong>’s number one fundraising priority. To learn more about the Annual Fund and how it directly<br />

impacts our most important resources – exceptional teachers, talented students, and a campus well-equipped for learning,<br />

please visit www.berwickacademy.org > Support BA > Annual Fund. Please note that secure online giving is available for<br />

your convenience at www.berwickacademy.org/giving.<br />

Thank you again to all our Annual Fund volunteers for your time and effort on behalf of <strong>Berwick</strong> <strong>Academy</strong>, and thank you in<br />

advance to the entire <strong>Berwick</strong> community for considering participation in the <strong>2009</strong> – 2010 Annual Fund drive. If you have<br />

any questions, please do not hesitate to contact me or feel free to stop by the <strong>1791</strong> House when you are on campus.<br />

Best,<br />

Jedd Whitlock<br />

Director of Advancement<br />

jwhitlock@berwickacademy.org<br />

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