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uneral S ervice times The independent voice of the funeral profession APRIL 2014 Established 2006 ∙ ISSN 2046-7273 www.funeralservicetimes.co.uk COFFIN SPECIAL Our selection of the most trusted and innovative suppliers American Military Funerals An exploration of the US government’s special approach Alex James: Keeping solemnity in the list of funeral options George Callander: Reflections on the importance of coffin choice Peter Wyllie: Eric Idle’s witty tribute to George Harrison

uneral<br />

S ervice times<br />

The independent voice of the funeral profession APRIL 2014<br />

Established 2006 ∙ ISSN 2046-7273<br />

www.funeralservicetimes.co.uk<br />

COFFIN<br />

SPECIAL<br />

Our selection of the most<br />

trusted and innovative suppliers<br />

American<br />

Military <strong>Funeral</strong>s<br />

An exploration of the US<br />

government’s special approach<br />

Alex James:<br />

Keeping solemnity in the<br />

list of funeral options<br />

George Callander:<br />

Reflections on the<br />

importance of coffin choice<br />

Peter Wyllie:<br />

Eric Idle’s witty tribute<br />

to George Harrison


3<br />

APRIL 2014<br />

CONTENTS<br />

Dispatches 5<br />

The latest news from the profession<br />

Products 8<br />

New products and services for the trade<br />

Comment 10<br />

The BIFD’s president, Sally Walton, holds forth<br />

Peter Wyllie 12<br />

This month Peter Wyllie revisits Eric Idle’s<br />

tribute to his friend George Harrison<br />

Rev George Callander 18<br />

Reverend George Callander riffs on the coffin<br />

theme with his usual humorous take<br />

Coffin Special 23<br />

We present a definitive list of the foremost manufacturers<br />

and suppliers of coffins and caskets in the UK<br />

Coffins Special: Accessory Spotlight 29<br />

Two firms offering the added extras for a quality coffin<br />

and quality service<br />

Editor’s<br />

letter<br />

Dear readers,<br />

April brings my series on the funeral customs<br />

from a range of different cultures to a close. In<br />

a slight change of focus, it’s the nuances of an<br />

American military funeral that I’ve examined<br />

for this last entry. It was only in 2000 that<br />

the US government decided to pledge some<br />

funding and implement a formal procedure<br />

for the bereaved families of deceased veterans<br />

or those killed in action, including the right to<br />

request military honours at the funeral. Now<br />

it is common practice to have a bugler, honour<br />

guards carrying the deceased to their final<br />

resting place, and a priest all in attendance, the<br />

bill footed by the state.<br />

Those responsible for the policy also conceived<br />

the notion that there should be a toll-free phone<br />

number for families to call, and that the single<br />

operative who dealt with the phone call would<br />

be responsible for pursuing the request through<br />

to its final conclusion. It is a truly dignified way<br />

of honouring those who have died and sends a<br />

mature message to the people.<br />

The draped stars-and-stripes on the coffins<br />

set us thinking about what options are available<br />

in this particular purchase area, and this issue<br />

we’ve picked out some of the most innovative<br />

and interesting suppliers of coffins, caskets<br />

and all of the kit that a funeral director needs<br />

in carrying out the job. Finally, Alex James<br />

points out that whilst the chirpier ‘celebration<br />

of life’ is growing in popularity, the profession<br />

must be sure to cater for families that still<br />

want a traditional, deeply solemn affair.<br />

Coffin Special: Biers, Lifts & Trolleys<br />

Not many can lift a coffin without mechanical<br />

assistance: here are the essentials<br />

31<br />

I hope you enjoy the issue.<br />

American Military <strong>Funeral</strong>s 38<br />

Michael Northcott examines the nuances of a military<br />

honours funeral in the United States<br />

Comment: Alex James<br />

Bereavement UK’s Alex James on why traditional solemnity<br />

should not always roll over for ‘celebratory’ antics<br />

46<br />

Obituaries 50<br />

A tribute to some well-known names that have passed away recently<br />

Your Story 58<br />

Joanne Hutsby, The Eastwood <strong>Funeral</strong> Partnership, Nottingham<br />

Michael Northcott MA<br />

Editor, <strong>Funeral</strong> <strong>Service</strong> Times<br />

michael@funeralservicetimes.co.uk


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A B Walker hosts 2nd annual<br />

service of remembrance<br />

Berkshire-based funeral directors A.B.<br />

Walker & Son held its second annual<br />

service of remembrance on March 2.<br />

The service saw over 500 bereaved<br />

people come together at Reading<br />

Construction of a new crematorium and<br />

cemetery serving residents in Daventry<br />

District and Rugby Borough has been<br />

completed.<br />

Contractor Willmott Dixon handed<br />

over the keys to Rugby and Daventry’s<br />

new crematorium and cemetery,<br />

which is located on the edge of the<br />

Rainsbrook Valley in Rugby, ready for<br />

its opening in April.<br />

The keys were given to the Rugby<br />

and Daventry Joint Committee,<br />

which will run the crematorium<br />

on behalf of Rugby Borough<br />

Council and Daventry<br />

District Council, who split the<br />

construction costs between<br />

them. It marked the end of the<br />

construction phase of the project,<br />

which began last May, and the<br />

councils are now preparing the<br />

facility, ready to open for the first<br />

services in April.<br />

Chancellor Alan Hills,<br />

Minster of St Mary the Virgin in St<br />

Mary’s Butts to light candles in memory<br />

of loved ones. The service was officiated<br />

by the Venerable Olivia Graham,<br />

Archdeacon of Berkshire.<br />

Julian Walker, managing director of<br />

A.B. Walker, said: “It was a very moving<br />

service and we hope that those who<br />

attended found comfort from being<br />

there. It was a chance for those who had<br />

lost a loved one to be with others who<br />

had also suffered bereavement.<br />

“It was a time for them to pause and<br />

reflect. We realise there is a great need<br />

for people to collectively remember.”<br />

Having supported bereaved families<br />

for nearly 200 years, A B Walker &<br />

Son decided upon the yearly event after<br />

the first event in 2013 received such<br />

a positive response. The company has<br />

also set up a Link Bereavement Care<br />

Group alongside the charity Cruse<br />

Bereavement Care to help the bereaved<br />

in the community.<br />

Councils given keys to<br />

Rainsbrook Crematorium<br />

community, culture and leisure<br />

portfolio holder at Daventry District<br />

Council said: “The completion of this<br />

crematorium is great news for residents<br />

of Daventry District, who currently have<br />

to travel as far as Northampton and<br />

Banbury for similar facilities.<br />

“As well as being near at hand it<br />

provides a very peaceful and tranquil<br />

setting in a modern, state-of-the-art<br />

crematorium which will benefit the<br />

residents of both Daventry and Rugby.”


6<br />

DISPATCHES<br />

New ‘Guide to Coroner <strong>Service</strong>s’ aimed at<br />

the bereaved<br />

The bereaved will be put “at the heart of the coroner system”,<br />

Justice Minister Simon Hughes has announced, with the<br />

launch of a new guide for people who have to become<br />

involved with inquests.<br />

The new ‘Guide to Coroner <strong>Service</strong>s’ explains in simple<br />

terms to bereaved people how the inquest process works,<br />

what they should expect, what standards of service they<br />

should receive, how to find help and what to do if they<br />

were not satisfied by the service.The guide is the latest stage<br />

of government’s drive to modernise the coroner system<br />

and make sure that bereaved families can receive the same<br />

standards of service from all 96 coroners in England and<br />

Wales, bringing an end to past inconsistencies.<br />

It follows the introduction last year of new national<br />

standards and the appointment of the first ever Chief<br />

Coroner, Judge Peter Thornton QC, to oversee the new<br />

system and drive improvement.<br />

Launching the guide, Justice Minister Simon Hughes<br />

said: “I want people to know that coroners’ courts needn’t<br />

be scary places, they can be open and welcoming, and that<br />

is why we are making absolutely sure that the needs of<br />

bereaved families are put first and foremost.”<br />

The guide follows the new coroner rules implemented<br />

last year, which mean that coroners will be required to<br />

notify those who are bereaved within a week of setting<br />

the date for the inquest and provide greater access to<br />

documents and evidence, such as post-mortem reports,<br />

before the inquest takes place, to enable bereaved families<br />

to prepare for the hearing.<br />

They must also be able to speed up the release of bodies<br />

after post mortem and will be required to notify the<br />

deceased’s next-of-kin or personal representative if the<br />

body cannot be released within 28 days, and permit less<br />

invasive post-mortem examinations.<br />

Birmingham’s largest cemetery ‘full to capacity’<br />

Photo: oosoom<br />

Birmingham’s Witton Cemetery has revealed that it is ‘full to<br />

capacity’ and cannot serve any more clients, leaving families in<br />

the north of Birmingham to find alternative burial locations.<br />

The cemetery has been unable to take on new graves since<br />

late 2013 and a Birmingham City Council spokesperson said:<br />

“Witton Cemetery became full to capacity for new adult graves<br />

in December 2013.<br />

“Burials will continue to take place in Witton Cemetery<br />

where families have an existing grave that has space for burial.<br />

There are still new graves available for the burial of babies and<br />

cremated remains.”<br />

The council has been advising local funeral directors of the<br />

impending closure, ensuring that they are kept abreast of the<br />

situation. The spokesperson added: “Space is still available for<br />

new adult graves at Sutton New Hall, Handsworth, Lodge<br />

Hill, Quinton and Kings Norton Cemeteries.”


DISPATCHES 7<br />

Three Minute Interview<br />

CHERYL YARWOOD, owner of Secure Haven<br />

Describe yourself<br />

in three words<br />

Honest, caring, busy.<br />

What is your earliest<br />

memory<br />

Winning fancy dress competitions at Pontins<br />

- my nan and mum were great seamstresses,<br />

even with crepe paper.<br />

When you were at<br />

school, what did you<br />

want to be and why<br />

In primary school, a long distance lorry<br />

driver...No idea why!<br />

What was the first music<br />

album you bought<br />

The Bay City Rollers...I was very young and<br />

impressionable.<br />

If you could have dinner<br />

with one person, who would<br />

you choose and why<br />

Gordon Ramsey, he could cook and talk, I<br />

could sit on the other side of the granite top<br />

and have a night off.<br />

What is the best advice you<br />

have been given<br />

We can’t help everyone, but everyone<br />

can help someone (Ronald Reagan).<br />

What is your next<br />

goal in life<br />

To make a success of Secure Haven, helping<br />

people deal with their grief after losing a<br />

loved one.<br />

What is your personal<br />

mantra<br />

Don’t believe the naysayers... ‘You can’t do<br />

that!’ and I say ‘why not try’<br />

As a new face in the funeral<br />

sector, tell us about Secure<br />

Haven<br />

Paul and I set up Secure Haven to help the<br />

recently bereaved cope with the emotional<br />

trauma following a cremation. We collect<br />

from funeral directors and store treasured<br />

ashes if they cannot care for them and<br />

families need more time before they fulfil<br />

any final wishes. At our barn in Margaretting<br />

we store urns of ashes in ‘Secure Niches’ –<br />

custom-build wooden storage cabinets – with<br />

Image: The Essex Chronicle<br />

respect and sensitivity, for as long as needed.<br />

Family and friends are welcome to visit.<br />

What are your plans for<br />

the rest of the year<br />

We are spending all our time working<br />

with the Secure Haven team to get the<br />

business established.<br />

What is the most<br />

important thing your<br />

job has taught you<br />

That nothing can be achieved without<br />

hard work.<br />

Multiple charity<br />

donations<br />

introduced by<br />

MuchLoved<br />

Increasingly, funeral directors have<br />

been finding that families want to<br />

nominate more than one charity for<br />

their funeral collection, for example<br />

both a local hospice and a large<br />

national charity.<br />

MuchLoved has announced that<br />

its online tribute service can now<br />

be used to collect donations for any<br />

number of charities on any tribute,<br />

without limit. An additional enhanced<br />

‘Charity Search’ makes it effortless<br />

to add charities and to include<br />

instructions, such as a requirement for<br />

the donations to be used for a specific<br />

appeal or branch of the charity.<br />

Monthly provisional figures on deaths registered<br />

by area of usual residence, 2013<br />

Source: ONS<br />

England and Wales<br />

TOTAL REGISTRATIONS<br />

ENGLAND AND WALES<br />

ENGLAND<br />

North East<br />

North West<br />

Yorkshire and the Humber<br />

East Midlands<br />

West Midlands<br />

East<br />

London<br />

South East<br />

South West<br />

WALES<br />

Non-residents of England & Wales<br />

Dec-13<br />

42,791<br />

42,705<br />

39,973<br />

2,154<br />

5,837<br />

4,372<br />

3,588<br />

4,415<br />

4,426<br />

3,958<br />

6,577<br />

4,646<br />

2,732<br />

84<br />

Jan-14<br />

49,030<br />

48,920<br />

45,931<br />

2,557<br />

6,612<br />

4,820<br />

4,089<br />

5,243<br />

5,194<br />

4,548<br />

7,685<br />

5,183<br />

2,989<br />

109<br />

Feb-14<br />

41,153<br />

41,066<br />

38,518<br />

2,192<br />

5,722<br />

3,974<br />

3,482<br />

4,267<br />

4,439<br />

3,830<br />

6,261<br />

4,351<br />

2,548<br />

85


8<br />

PRODUCTS<br />

Cemetery Development <strong>Service</strong>s<br />

Cemetery Development <strong>Service</strong>s in conjunction with<br />

Bosisio Srl, one of Italy’s longest established funeral furniture<br />

manufacturers, have jointly developed the Cinerarium.<br />

The development came from the requests of a number of<br />

crematoriums and funeral directors asking for a discreet and<br />

attractive method of memorialising cremated remains. Unlike<br />

the traditional columbarium the slim design - less than 110mm<br />

in thickness - and lightweight construction materials of the<br />

cinerarium enable it to be mounted on most walls indoors<br />

or outside. The cinerarium comes in two forms, either an<br />

aluminium frame or a modular fiberglass system. Both systems<br />

provide sufficient volume for one set of ashes per niche.<br />

Information: www.cemeterydevelopmentservices.co.uk<br />

Strong’s Memorials’<br />

Long established memorial masons, Strong’s Memorials’ new<br />

‘Plantmems’ are the company’s answer to the current economic<br />

climate, a quality product that is cost effective. Made from<br />

agglomerate and suitable for both indoor and outdoor use, the<br />

Plantmems house the standard polycontainers without the cost of<br />

a full traditional memorial. The firm explains: “Our Plantmems<br />

are proving to be a very popular alternative to standard urns and<br />

include a granite plaque which can be inscribed giving it a very<br />

personal touch.”<br />

Information: 01922 496117, moreinfo@strongmemorials.com or<br />

www.strongsmemorials.com<br />

Redwood Collections<br />

Redwood Collections offers a comprehensive service, from<br />

a gentle written reminder to proactive collection routines<br />

(including insolvency) if required. The company’s highly<br />

experienced account managers are there to advise and offer<br />

alternatives to the often ineffective, slow and costly process of<br />

taking county court action. With its unique ‘no collection, no<br />

commission’ debt collection service, Redwood Collections prides<br />

itself on its proactive communication with the debtor, which<br />

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Information: 0208 288 3555 or www.redwoodcollections.com<br />

O’Brien Carriage Masters<br />

O’Brien Carriage Masters caters to England, Scotland and<br />

Wales as well as parts of Ireland, providing its fleet of white,<br />

silver and black limousines and hearses to funeral directors,<br />

normally being able to accommodate clients on short notice as<br />

well. Offering a service that can include a range of everything<br />

such as removers, suppliers and conductors, paired with its<br />

limousines and hearses, O’Brien Carriage Masters has 35 years<br />

of experience under its belt. The company looks forward to<br />

any enquiries and building lasting relationships with funeral<br />

directors in the UK.<br />

Information: 0208 311 9591 or obriencars@ntlworld.com


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Are you still caring for<br />

ashes dating back years<br />

Even following a cremation, there are still difficult choices to<br />

be made by bereaved families – many funeral directors will<br />

discover relatives are simply not emotionally ready to deal<br />

with their loved one’s ashes.<br />

Secure Haven can support the bereaved by taking care of<br />

ashes, allowing more time for these difficult decisions over<br />

a permanent resting place to be made – free from anxiety.<br />

We can arrange for ashes to be collected and interred into<br />

private secure niches, storing them with dignity and respect,<br />

at our specially-adapted historic barn near Chelmsford, Essex.<br />

We will work closely with funeral directors and can provide<br />

a bespoke service delivered with discretion and sensitivity.<br />

Please contact our support team to arrange a private visit.<br />

01277 353776<br />

www.securehaven.co.uk<br />

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PETER WYLLIE: EULOGIES 11<br />

‘Life is somehow<br />

more important<br />

than show business’


12<br />

PETER WYLLIE: EULOGIES<br />

Image: Sander Lamme<br />

George Harrison was<br />

just 27 when the Beatles<br />

broke up, meaning he<br />

had it all before he<br />

turned 30. This left him<br />

free to pursue meaning<br />

in his own life, and<br />

here, PETER WYLLIE<br />

revisits Eric Idle’s tribute<br />

to a man of real depth<br />

He was part of the soundtrack of<br />

my teenage years. Along with John<br />

Lennon, Paul McCartney and Ringo Starr,<br />

George Harrison was part of the most<br />

famous band in history and there is no<br />

doubt that the Beatles changed the course<br />

of popular music forever.<br />

In November 2001 (can it really be<br />

almost 13 years ago), George was the<br />

second Beatle to die after John had been<br />

shot 21 years before.<br />

It was the following year, 2002, that<br />

the Hollywood Bowl inducted George<br />

Harrison into their hall of fame. His<br />

friend Eric Idle of Monty Python fame<br />

was invited to make the induction.<br />

I suppose this is not strictly a “eulogy”<br />

but it is the perfect tribute; combining<br />

warmth and humour and showing<br />

flashes of both George’s personality and<br />

underlying beliefs.<br />

Interestingly at a time when funeral<br />

services increasingly use audio-visual<br />

elements, this tribute contained a video<br />

montage and a live performance of one of<br />

George’s songs.<br />

ERIC IDLE:<br />

“When they told me they were going<br />

to induct my friend George Harrison<br />

into the Hollywood Bowl Hall of Fame<br />

posthumously: my first thought was - I bet<br />

he won’t show up.<br />

Because, unlike some others one might<br />

mention - but won’t - he really wasn’t in to<br />

honours.<br />

He was one of those odd people who<br />

believe that life is somehow more important<br />

than show business.<br />

Which I know is a heresy here in<br />

Hollywood, and I’m sorry to bring it up here<br />

in the very Bowel of Hollywood but I can<br />

hear his voice saying: “Oh very nice, very<br />

useful, a posthumous award - where am I<br />

supposed to put it What’s next for me then<br />

A posthumous Grammy An ex-Knighthood<br />

An After-Lifetime Achievement Award”<br />

He’s going to need a whole new shelf up<br />

there.<br />

So “posthumously inducted” - sounds<br />

rather unpleasant: sounds like some kind of<br />

after-life enema.<br />

But ‘induct’ - in case you are wondering<br />

- comes from the word induce - meaning to<br />

bring on labour by the use of drugs.<br />

And ‘posthumous’ is actually from the Latin<br />

post meaning after and hummus meaning<br />

Greek food.<br />

So I like to think that George is still out<br />

there somewhere - pregnant and breaking<br />

plates at a Greek restaurant.<br />

I think he would prefer to be inducted<br />

posthumorously because he loved comedians -<br />

poor, sick, sad, deranged, lovable puppies that<br />

we are, because they, like him, had the ability<br />

to say the wrong thing at the right time -<br />

which is what we call humour.<br />

He put Monty Python on here at The<br />

Hollywood Bowl, and he paid for the movie<br />

The Life of Brian, because he wanted to see it.<br />

Still the most anybody has ever paid for a<br />

cinema ticket.<br />

His life was filled with laughter and even<br />

his death was filled with laughter… In the<br />

hospital he asked the nurses to put fish and<br />

chips in his IV.<br />

The doctor - thinking he was delusional<br />

- said to his son “don’t worry; we have a<br />

medical name for this condition.”<br />

“Yes” said Dahni, “humour”.<br />

And I’m particularly sorry Dahni isn’t<br />

here tonight - because I wanted to introduce<br />

him by saying: “Here comes the son”. But<br />

sadly that opportunity for a truly bad joke<br />

has gone, as has Dahni’s Christmas present<br />

from me.<br />

George once said to me: “If we’d known<br />

we were going to be The Beatles we’d have<br />

tried harder.”<br />

What made George special - apart from<br />

his being the best guitarist in the Beatles<br />

- was what he did with his life after they<br />

achieved everything.<br />

He realized that this fame business was -<br />

and I’ll use the technical philosophical term<br />

here - complete bullshit.<br />

And he turned to find beauty and<br />

truth and meaning in life - and more<br />

extraordinarily - found it.<br />

This is from his book I Me Mine:<br />

“The things that most people are<br />

struggling for are fame or fortune or wealth<br />

or position - and really none of that is<br />

important because in the end death will take<br />

it all away. So you spend your life struggling<br />

for something, which is in effect a waste of<br />

time… I mean I don’t want to be lying there<br />

as I’m dying thinking ‘oh shit I forgot to put<br />

the cat out’.”<br />

And he wasn’t. He passed away - here in<br />

LA - with beauty and dignity surrounded by<br />

people he loved.<br />

Because he had an extraordinary capacity<br />

for friendship.<br />

People loved him all over the planet.<br />

George was in fact a moral philosopher:<br />

his life was all about a search for truth, and<br />

preparing himself for death.<br />

Which is a bit weird for someone in rock<br />

and roll. They’re not supposed to be that<br />

smart. They’re supposed to be out there<br />

looking for Sharon. Not the meaning of life.<br />

Michael Palin said George’s passing was<br />

really sad but it does make the afterlife seem<br />

much more attractive.<br />

He was a gardener - he grew beauty in


14<br />

PETER WYLLIE: EULOGIES<br />

“He realised that this fame business was - and I’ll use the technical philosophical term<br />

here - complete bullshit. And he turned to find beauty and truth and meaning in life<br />

- and more extraordinarily - found it.”<br />

everything he did - in his life, in his music,<br />

in his marriage and as a father.<br />

I was on an island somewhere when a<br />

man came up to him and said “George<br />

Harrison, oh my god, what are you doing<br />

here” - and he said “Well everyone’s got to<br />

be somewhere.”<br />

Well alas he isn’t here. But we are. And<br />

that’s the point. This isn’t for him. This is<br />

for us, because we want to honour him.<br />

We want to remember him, we want to say<br />

Thanks George for being. And we really miss<br />

you. So let’s take a look at some of the places<br />

he got to in his life.<br />

(Video montage is shown of George<br />

Harrison’s life, from youthful Beatle to<br />

mature solo artist.)<br />

Well he’s still not here. But we do have<br />

someone very special who was very dear to him<br />

- who is here. The fi rst man to perform with<br />

the Beatles. The one and only Billy Preston.<br />

(Billy Preston and a chorus of vocalists<br />

sing Harrison’s “My Sweet Lord.”)<br />

Thank you Billy Preston.<br />

So this is the big drag about posthumous<br />

awards: there’s no one to give ‘em to.<br />

So I’m gonna keep this and put it next<br />

to the one I got last year. No, I’m going to<br />

give it to the love of his life, his dark sweet<br />

lady, dear wonderful Olivia Harrison, who<br />

is with us here tonight. Liv, you truly know<br />

what it is to be without him.<br />

Thank you Hollywood Bowl, you do good<br />

to honour him. Goodnight.”<br />

You see That is an almost perfect<br />

tribute and whether you were a Beatles<br />

or a Stones person, one thing is without<br />

doubt; it will be a long time before<br />

George Harrison’s influence is forgotten<br />

and his memory lost.<br />

Peter Wyllie is<br />

an independent<br />

funeral celebrant<br />

and a member of<br />

the AOIC. For<br />

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GEORGE CALLANDER<br />

Photos, wool,<br />

polished oak<br />

or stone<br />

The coffin is a major signifier of the character of the deceased: opulence, comfort,<br />

smartness, dignity or glamour - you can conjure any of these with the right choice,<br />

says the REVEREND GEORGE CALLANDER<br />

Having finally dragged my old carcass<br />

into the 21st Century and embraced<br />

some of the now-ubiquitous technology, I<br />

am now a devoted ‘tweeter’ and enjoy many<br />

splendid exchanges @FrDoddie. Do feel free<br />

to ‘follow’ me. In a recent tweet exchange I<br />

was sent the old saying: “It’s not the cough<br />

what carries you off; it’s the coffin they<br />

carries you off in!”<br />

Hackneyed, I know, but nevertheless true.<br />

There is much about coffins to be found<br />

throughout this month’s edition of FST and<br />

rightly so. The coffin (or coffin alternative) is<br />

the most focal feature of a funeral, so has to<br />

be appropriate. A plethora of column inches<br />

and glossy brochures tastefully present colour<br />

photographs of coffins and caskets in all<br />

shapes, sizes, colours and finishes. Many are<br />

traditional in design and construction with<br />

an increasing number of bespoke creations of<br />

great quality, style and beauty.<br />

In recent months I have seen a couple<br />

of stunning coffins of such superb<br />

craftsmanship it seemed a shame to bid them<br />

farewell at the committal! How many times<br />

have we heard folks say they want no fuss for<br />

their funeral and would prefer to be placed<br />

in a bin bag They are most disgruntled to<br />

be told this is not possible because of (apart<br />

from anything else) cremation emissions<br />

from the bin bag. Others, too, believe<br />

a cardboard coffin to be the easiest and<br />

cheapest solution for their farewell journey.<br />

And as we know, this is not always the case.<br />

So, what then do we as consumers or<br />

professionals alike, expect from our coffin<br />

or casket Well, setting aside its principal<br />

function to securely contain a dead body<br />

prior to burial or cremation, a coffin should<br />

be aesthetically pleasing; well designed<br />

and no matter how cheap, appropriately<br />

constructed. No one wants to see bits falling<br />

off at the crem, or the bottom fall out at the<br />

worst possible moment. Fortunately I have<br />

not (as yet) seen this happen; but on more<br />

than one occasion my heart has jumped into<br />

my mouth!<br />

The material of which the coffin is<br />

constructed is also very important. Think for<br />

a moment of the lovely woolly coffins now<br />

widely available. They convey (even to this<br />

flinty old heart) a real sense of nurturing,<br />

of protection and even comfort. They are<br />

very tactile, too, which is so important for<br />

bereaved people. Whenever I see one of these<br />

woolly coffins I instinctively stroke it and<br />

think, “awwwww, isn’t that nice!” Which it<br />

is. A solid wood coffin, beautifully carved,<br />

furnished and polished coffin gives a real<br />

sense of grandeur and opulence. An aesthetic<br />

equally achievable with some of the better<br />

models of laminate coffin. Likewise bamboo<br />

coffins, pods and wicker caskets are beautiful<br />

things, conveying a softer, more natural<br />

impression.<br />

I appreciate families can have what they<br />

want. As I say time and again, that is a<br />

very good thing: some want the all singing<br />

and all dancing solid oak sideboard-esque<br />

craftsman-built coffin, embellished with<br />

solid brass handles, crosses and so on, fully<br />

lined in beautiful oyster satin. Others want<br />

plain simplicity and dignity. Some clients<br />

want a truly unique and personalised coffin<br />

for their unique loved one’s final journey,<br />

and choose a coffin adorned with photos<br />

or images. I think there is something very<br />

special about sitting down with a family<br />

to select a special design or put together a<br />

design from a collection of photographs,<br />

texts or images which adequately sum up the<br />

life ended. Making the personalised coffin a<br />

central feature of the farewell ceremony can<br />

truly benefit the bereaved.<br />

Although they are popular, I still cannot<br />

decide whether or not I like cardboard<br />

coffins (of the plainer type). I find them<br />

rather stark and utilitarian. Why is this I<br />

don’t know. Perhaps it’s because I’m from<br />

a generation still used to a coffin looking<br />

like a coffin. Although having said this I<br />

have seen cardboard coffins covered by batik<br />

cloth throws, and more traditional wooden<br />

coffin covers. One of my FD friends (alas, no<br />

longer trading) commissioned a textile artist<br />

to create a fantastic patchwork cover for<br />

cardboard coffins. This bright, cheerful and<br />

reusable object made from multi-coloured<br />

pieces of recycled fabric proved very popular.<br />

I christened it the ‘Coffin-Cosy’.<br />

It was tactile and cheerful, but never<br />

disguised the reality that beneath it, was the<br />

coffin of a much-loved person. The Coffin-<br />

Cosy was, to my mind, a contemporary take<br />

on the age-old custom of draping a coffin<br />

with a pall: the large, heavy drape completely<br />

covering the coffin. Often purple, coffin palls<br />

were decorated with religious or regimental<br />

symbols. One of the most beautiful I have<br />

seen was midnight blue velvet, decorated<br />

with lots of gold and silver applique stars.<br />

The ancient custom of draping coffins with<br />

flags and standards (think royal, state or<br />

military funerals) remains popular. Like<br />

every other aspect of funeral custom, it has<br />

evolved to include coffin drapes in football<br />

club colours and team emblems. Nothing<br />

in our profession remains unchanged for<br />

long: the wheel of custom and fashion<br />

never stops turning.<br />

Mind you, in recent weeks I have been<br />

hunched in front of the Chapel House telly,<br />

mug of coffee in hand, a plate of biccies at


GEORGE CALLANDER 17<br />

Photo: Tom Oates<br />

my side, watching the History Channel’s<br />

current series of “Grave Trade”, featuring<br />

the work of Thomas Cribb & Sons - a firm<br />

akin to funeral directing royalty for many<br />

East London families. What I enjoy most<br />

about this series is seeing how a big and<br />

busy firm operates. For some reason each<br />

episode is interspersed with footage from a<br />

funerary archaeological dig. Last week the<br />

archaeologists were plying their trade in<br />

the grounds of a now-demolished hospital<br />

where I once plied mine. This week they had<br />

unearthed a huge mediaeval stone coffin in<br />

the grounds of Lincoln Castle.<br />

Although interesting to watch, perhaps<br />

it is just as well stone coffins are rather out<br />

of fashion these days. I hate to think what<br />

it would do to the backs of Darren, Jimmy,<br />

Chris, Colin, Jeff, Iain, Paul and the many,<br />

many other underbearers up and down the<br />

land if they had to lug about stone coffins.<br />

Not to mention the suspension on the<br />

hearse! In the past, stone coffins were de<br />

rigeur for the great and the good of society.<br />

Abbots, Kings, Princes, Nobles and Bishops<br />

were laid in their stone coffin, often sealed<br />

by an elaborately carved stone lid. Examples<br />

of these are easy to spot at many a cathedral<br />

or historical site around the land. I expect<br />

being a hessian-wearing peasant, I would<br />

have been turfed into a simple grave: there<br />

not being enough stone in the quarry to<br />

enrobe this body!<br />

The beauty and artistry of many stone<br />

coffins has survived the centuries and still<br />

tell us their story today. Visit any catacombs<br />

or mausoleum and one can see coffins<br />

stretching back the generations, telling<br />

us their story, too: allowing us to see the<br />

evolution of funeral customs and fashions<br />

down the years. Many of the modern coffins<br />

and caskets we see in the course of our<br />

work are of such a solid construction and<br />

quality, they too, will tell their story to future<br />

generations of funerary historians.<br />

Similarly, with the increase in cremation,<br />

many more coffins and caskets of all<br />

shapes, sizes and materials are transient.<br />

I am a great supporter of the wide range<br />

of coffins, caskets, pods and shrouds<br />

available to us and our clients. I agree the<br />

appearance of the coffin is very important<br />

in the grieving process. Likewise, the<br />

quality of the service we all provide our<br />

clients. However, I never forget the most<br />

important aspect of every funeral process<br />

is the dignity shown to the deceased, and<br />

the consideration and compassion given to<br />

the bereaved people who mourn. This is -<br />

without question - essential.<br />

Now, all this talk of coffins hasn’t helped<br />

me. I still can’t decide in which kind of coffin<br />

I want to make my final journey. What about<br />

a stone coffin No, too expensive and a bit<br />

over the top. What about a solid oak beauty,<br />

furnished with the finest brash handles and<br />

accoutrements No, still too expensive. I am<br />

after all an Aberdonian! I think I have the<br />

solution: what about a stone-effect photo<br />

coffin, draped with a ‘Coffin Cosy’ made<br />

from my trademark fuschia-coloured socks<br />

Surely, this is perfection’s own self More<br />

than that, it will provide a conundrum<br />

for any funerary archaeologist in future<br />

centuries, busy howking up my bones.<br />

The Rev George Callander FRSA is senior minister of the liberal<br />

Christian UK Open Free Church, president of the Society<br />

of Bereavement Practitioners, and a bereavement specialist<br />

practitioner, speaker and trainer. Please visit www.gscallander.com<br />

or www.socbp.org for more information.


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And you can help the families you work with<br />

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Memoriam donations to Make-A-Wish is a<br />

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We speak to many families who have supported us<br />

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COFFIN SPECIAL<br />

Coffin Special<br />

Manufacturers & Suppliers<br />

PH COATE & SON<br />

01823 490249, elizabeth@englishwillowbaskets.co.uk or<br />

www.englishwillowcoffi ns.co.uk<br />

What are your coffin/caskets made from and why<br />

Our coffins our made from willow, a natural product which has the unique<br />

ability to regenerate repeatedly from the same crown for over 30 years, and<br />

provides an attractive and highly sustainable source of material to work with.<br />

Willow coffins are suitable for burial, cremation and green burial sites and we<br />

offer a range of shapes, colours and finishing details for customers to chose from.<br />

How long have you been trading<br />

PH Coate & Son has been working with willow on the Somerset Levels<br />

since 1819. With great attention to detail, each one of our coffins is strongly<br />

made using skills passed down through generations of the Coate family. The<br />

Somerset levels is one of the most important wetland areas in the UK. The<br />

unique landscape provides perfect conditions for growing willow.<br />

What is interesting about your manufacturing methods<br />

Each coffin is handcrafted to order so are made specifically for the person concerned. We use ‘randed’ weave which means they are woven one<br />

strand of willow at a time which gives a really strong weave but with a ‘fine’ look. A ‘wale’ is found around the base of the coffin to add strength<br />

and a border is made around the top of the coffin to give a good strong edge.The willow is plaited around the edge of the lid to give an artistic<br />

touch to the overall look.<br />

TRIBUTES<br />

0845 388 8742 or www.tributes.ltd.uk<br />

What new designs can we expect this year<br />

Following our recent launches of Tribute Heart Keepsakes and Heart Tags our customers have come to expect plenty of new ideas from Tributes<br />

and as always, we are working on a number of new products, but we don’t want to spoil any surprises, so watch this space.<br />

What are your coffin/caskets made from and why<br />

Our coffins are woven from natural willow and bamboo, with cotton calico linings, making them 100 per cent biodegradable. They have a<br />

unique supporting structure, giving them exceptional strength and stability, setting them apart from our competitors and making them popular<br />

with customers who previously may have been reluctant to change from traditional hardwood coffins.<br />

How long have you be trading<br />

Our company celebrates its 20th anniversary this year. We are a creative company<br />

and have been responsible for the invention of a number of innovative products<br />

for the funeral industry, including the Scatter Tube. We’re proud of our long<br />

record of supplying superior quality products at competitive prices and our<br />

excellent customer service.<br />

What is interesting about your<br />

manufacturing methods<br />

We work from design to production, ensuring efficiency,<br />

quality and fair trade, and listen closely to feedback from<br />

customers. This helps us refine designs to reflect the needs of<br />

funeral directors and families, resulting in products that are not<br />

only beautiful and high quality, but easy and efficient to use.


Honouring<br />

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WE NEVER FORGET A FAMILY HAS JUST LOST A LOVED ONE<br />

When someone passes away, it’s not only essential<br />

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the way for those who are left behind. Helping families<br />

through this process is what you do best.<br />

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THE SOMERSET WILLOW COMPANY<br />

01278 424003, enquiries@somersetwillow.co.uk<br />

or www.wickerwillowcoffi ns.co.uk<br />

What new designs can we<br />

expect this year<br />

We launched our premium interior set in January of this year;<br />

this consists of a cream frill that is hand stitched into our<br />

willow coffins, along with a matching mattress and pillow<br />

filled with natural hay.<br />

What are your coffin/caskets<br />

made from and why<br />

Our coffin/caskets are made from willow that we grow near<br />

our workshops here in Somerset, a fact which makes our<br />

products extremely environmentally friendly and with a very<br />

low carbon footprint.<br />

How long have you been trading<br />

The Somerset Willow Company is a fourth generation family<br />

business and has been trading for 55 years this year.<br />

What is interesting about your<br />

manufacturing methods<br />

We pride ourselves on the fact that our products are handwoven<br />

here in Somerset, employing local people. Even the<br />

growing and processing of our willow ready for weaving,<br />

requires very little mechanical processing.<br />

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COFFIN SPECIAL<br />

FTP ECOCOFFINS<br />

01584 819981, admin@finetimberproducts.co.uk<br />

or www.ftp-eco-coffi ns.co.uk<br />

What new designs can we expect this year<br />

At the end of March FTP Ecocoffins will be launching a new oval-shape oak veneer<br />

coffin with load-bearing handles, constructed from FSC certified materials, using<br />

reconstituted wood and formaldehyde-free wood adhesive. Three sizes will be available<br />

initially: 5’8”, 6’ and 6’4”.<br />

What are your coffins made from<br />

The great majority of our coffins are woven from environmentally friendly materials such as wicker,<br />

seagrass, water hyacinth, abaca and bamboo. This means that they not only fit our company’s eco credentials<br />

but the coffins are also pleasing to the eye.<br />

How long have you been trading<br />

FTP Ecocoffins has been trading since 2001. Our company was formerly known as Fine Timber Products but we changed the name a few years<br />

back to better reflect the nature of our business.<br />

What is interesting about your manufacturing methods<br />

All of our woven coffins obviously have to be made by hand, which helps to provide employment in poorer parts of the world. We manufacture our<br />

new oak veneer coffin in house near Tenbury Wells, Worcs and it was an interesting challenge given the fact that it is oval shaped.<br />

LT & R VOWLES<br />

01684 592212 or www.ltrvowles.co.uk<br />

What new designs can we expect this year<br />

This year we are developing an exciting range of bespoke coffin showroom and<br />

display furniture. However, we are always open to suggestions for new designs<br />

from the funeral industry.<br />

What are your coffin/caskets made from and why<br />

We carefully source a wide range of traditional materials from solid hardwoods<br />

to veneered fibre boards, as well as offering products in cardboard and natural<br />

materials such as willow, and wool.<br />

How long have you been trading<br />

For 77 years – since 1937.<br />

What is interesting about your manufacturing methods<br />

Manufacturing methods are evolving all the time. Why not visit us at our new showroom facility for a guided factory tour, and see for yourself<br />

GREENFIELD PRESTIGE<br />

01440 788 866, info@greenfieldprestige.co.uk<br />

or www.greenfieldprestige.co.uk<br />

What new designs can we expect this year<br />

Our Prestige cardboard coffins are going from strength to strength in<br />

2014 with a unique style and design. The coffins are aesthetically pleasing,<br />

in a range of colours and effects, such as wood grain and floral patterned.<br />

What are your coffin/caskets made from and why<br />

All the coffins are made from cardboard ink and corn starch glue, developed with a fully<br />

biodegradable lining suite.<br />

How long have you be trading<br />

Greenfield Prestige was unveiled at the National <strong>Funeral</strong> Exhibition in June 2013 as a modern approach to the increased demand for<br />

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28<br />

COFFIN SPECIAL<br />

Accessory Spotlight<br />

DJ MacNeice & Company<br />

Established in the early 1990’s, DJ<br />

MacNeice & Company has forged a<br />

reputation as a leading supplier and<br />

manufacturer in the funeral business<br />

in Ireland. DJ MacNeice management<br />

and staff endeavour to provide a<br />

deep knowledge of the funeral and<br />

embalming trade. “We dedicate ourselves<br />

to developing innovations that cater<br />

to the unique requirements within the<br />

funeral service sector. The company is<br />

a one-stop shop, offering a full range of<br />

quality products and services to funeral<br />

homes, coffin makers and mortuary<br />

technicians in Ireland and Britain. Our<br />

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Information: 00353 1882 8731,<br />

sales@djmacneice.com or<br />

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no discomfort during the carry, eliminating<br />

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the likelihood of other associated manual<br />

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30<br />

FOCUS ON TROLLEYS & BIERS<br />

Focus on:<br />

Trolleys & Biers<br />

Trolleys and biers are a necessity when transporting coffins or caskets, and here<br />

LAUREN MORTON identifies the standout designs on offer in 2014<br />

Auden <strong>Funeral</strong> Supplies<br />

PFM Design Consultancy<br />

AR Twigg & Son<br />

funeral bier or trolley can be a funeral<br />

A director’s best friend, making light work<br />

of moving a coffin or casket during a funeral,<br />

and with so many different styles and extras, it<br />

can be difficult to decide which one fits your<br />

needs best. However with current attention<br />

focused on the nation’s obesity, the impact it<br />

has had on the funeral industry has meant a<br />

change of direction.This follows reports from<br />

the Overseas Development Institute which<br />

identified that 64 per cent of the UK adult<br />

population is currently obese, meaning a body<br />

mass index (BMI) of more than 25. Naturally,<br />

as the nation’s weight increases, the typical bier<br />

or trolley no longer does the job adequately.<br />

Auden <strong>Funeral</strong> Supplies, which constantly<br />

strives to offer its clients innovative solutions<br />

to their funeral needs, has developed its<br />

XL range of trolleys to cater to the growing<br />

population. Increasing average weight is a<br />

problem that Auden believes has had funeral<br />

directors reaching more towards a larger,<br />

sturdier trolley that they may not have<br />

considered in the past.<br />

The firm makes its XL trolleys to the<br />

highest specifications, while still ensuring that<br />

they are light and flexible enough for everyday<br />

use.The company explains: “Future proof your<br />

business by investing in a multilevel XL300<br />

and by doing so you get all the additional<br />

features as well as bariatric capability for the<br />

future.” Every XL300 trolley that Auden<br />

produces includes, multi-height functionality,<br />

multi directional wheels available, roll-inroll-out<br />

for use in tight space, extendable side<br />

arms and up to 400kg load capacity.<br />

AR Twigg & Son has continued to expand<br />

its range during a highly productive first few<br />

months of 2014. Building on the success of<br />

its ‘Electro Hydraulic Embalming Trolley’,<br />

introduced last year, the company has now<br />

launched a ‘Manual Hydraulic’ version which<br />

is capable of lifting 45 stones.<br />

With the increasing sizes of caskets and<br />

coffins, AR Twigg has introduced a new<br />

heavy-duty version of its renowned ‘Standard<br />

Lattice Bier’ which is capable of supporting 50<br />

stones. The company says: “To meet similar<br />

needs of crematoria, we have also added a<br />

70 stones Cremator Trolley to our portfolio,<br />

giving the industry a better choice of quality<br />

heavy-duty trolleys at affordable prices. All<br />

new products are made bespoke to individual<br />

customer specifications and this service is<br />

provided at no extra cost.”<br />

Sticking to more traditional methods, PFM<br />

Design Consultancy also creates bespoke biers<br />

to meet the needs of funeral directors. Owner<br />

Peter Moles explains: “All of my biers are built<br />

to order and as I am a one man business with<br />

engineering experience I am able to take on<br />

custom designs for any problems you may have.”<br />

Moles, along with his late wife, established<br />

PFM Design Consultancy in 2010 having<br />

retired the year before, though following an<br />

inundation of enquiries he continues to offer<br />

a variety of biers and a transport trolley to<br />

funeral directors. Catering to the growing<br />

number of woodland burials, Moles adds:<br />

“They are built to order and offer a choice of<br />

two large and two small or four large roller<br />

bearing wheels. Fancy gloss back powdercoated<br />

scroll and steel work, plus a choice of<br />

oak, beech or sappele wooden sub frame and<br />

stretcher. Side rails, roller beds and hydraulic<br />

disc brakes can also be added at extra cost.”<br />

Supplier Listing:<br />

Auden: 01924 0402080 or www.audenfs.com<br />

AR Twigg: 0113 256 1194, sales@artwigg.co.uk<br />

or www.artwigg.co.uk<br />

PFM Design Consultancy: 01476 530632/<br />

07711181934 peter.moles@btinternet.com or<br />

peter.moles@classicalbiers.co.uk


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FOCUS ON TROLLEYS & BIERS<br />

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AMERICAN MILITARY FUNERALS 33<br />

A military chaplain seen leading honor guards derived<br />

from the United States Marine Corps as they carry the<br />

casket of General Robert H. Barrow to the place of burial.<br />

The Final<br />

Military funerals have<br />

always offered pomp<br />

and circumstance - it’s<br />

partly why police and fire<br />

departments developed a<br />

similar sense of spectacle<br />

in remembrance.<br />

Here, MICHAEL<br />

NORTHCOTT examines<br />

the nuances of the US<br />

military’s approach<br />

Salute<br />

It is reasonably common knowledge that bosses take the funerals put on for fallen<br />

the US takes the armed forces and their servicemen and women very seriously, too.<br />

people very seriously. Spending on military In 2000, Section 578 of Public Law 106-65<br />

functions is more than any other single of the National Defense Authorization Act,<br />

portion of the federal budget. In 2013, the decreed that if the family of an eligible<br />

government spent $682 billion on it, which veteran of the US Armed Forces requests<br />

was 4.4 per cent of the country’s GDP, and the ‘rendering of honours in a military<br />

39 per cent of the global total that countries funeral’, then an ‘honor guard’ detail of at<br />

spent on on their armed forces.<br />

least two serving members of the military<br />

It stands to reason, then, that military must be in attendance at the ceremony.


34<br />

AMERICAN MILITARY FUNERALS<br />

Escort platoons marching during the military funeral of Admiral<br />

Thomas Hinman Moorer in Arlington National Cemetery, 2004.<br />

At the very least, the ceremony must<br />

include the American tradition of the folding<br />

of the national flag to be presented to the<br />

family of the deceased, and also a bugler<br />

(or sound sytem) must play Taps, the US<br />

military’s traditional bugled funereal tune.<br />

Interestingly, the military sometimes has<br />

to call on the services of the Reserve or<br />

National Guard, just to source a bugler,<br />

as there are so few people good enough at<br />

playing the instrument throughout the US.<br />

What makes a<br />

veteran eligible<br />

According to official guidance from the<br />

US Department of Defense (or defence,<br />

to us British):<br />

• Personnel who are on active duty or<br />

‘Selected Reserve’ throughout the Armed<br />

Forces<br />

• Those who were formally on active duty<br />

but have been honourably discharged<br />

through retirement etc.<br />

• Enlisted personnel (below the rank<br />

of commission offi cer, generally people<br />

performing roles that match their own<br />

skills/occupation)<br />

• Anyone who was discharged from<br />

the Armed Forces because of ‘disability<br />

incurred or aggravated’, which is generally<br />

taken to mean injured or put out of action<br />

by injury.<br />

The Old Guard transports the flag-draped casket of the second Sergeant Major of the Army<br />

George W. Dunaway who was buried with full military honors at Arlington National Cemetery.


36<br />

AMERICAN MILITARY FUNERALS<br />

“The fl ag is folded in a special folding ceremony by the six honour guards who<br />

carried the casket. It always fi nishes with the stars point up, sometimes shells are<br />

placed in the folds of the fl ag”<br />

Members of the 86th Airlift Wing honor<br />

guard conduct a flag-folding ceremony<br />

at Ramstein Air Base, Germany, 2009.<br />

The types of<br />

ceremony<br />

Standard Honor: A military chaplain for the<br />

family, the coffin or casket draped with the<br />

national flag, sometimes a flyover of fighter<br />

jets in the ‘Missing Man Formation’, a rifle<br />

party tasked with firing a three-volley salute.<br />

Full Honor: All the standard honours are<br />

included, and in addition a riderless horse<br />

follows the caissons and limbers in the<br />

procession - this one is for commanding<br />

officers. For general officers, depending on<br />

the number of stars they have to their rank,<br />

there are varying numbers of guns from 11 to<br />

17 gun salute. Furthermore, a military band<br />

will play.<br />

Armed Forces military funeral: This is a<br />

special form of the military funeral reserved<br />

solely for the President of the United States<br />

(as commander-in-chief of the Armed<br />

Forces), the Secretary of State for Defense,<br />

the Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, and<br />

any officers who had been granted ‘multipleservice<br />

command’. Presidents are honoured<br />

with a 21-gun salute using artillery.<br />

In most cases, the flag is folded in<br />

a special folding ceremony by the six<br />

honour guards who carried the casket. It<br />

always finishes with the stars pointing up,<br />

sometimes shells are placed in the folds<br />

of the flag, and when the ceremony is<br />

complete, it is presented to the family of the<br />

deceased. Whoever is doing the presenting<br />

of the flag utters the following words:<br />

“On behalf of the President of the United<br />

States, the United States (Army, Marine<br />

Corps, Navy, Air Force or Coast Guard ),<br />

and a grateful nation, please accept this fl ag<br />

as a symbol of our appreciation for your<br />

loved one’s honorable and faithful service.”<br />

There’s no doubt that the wars of the<br />

last 15 years have provided impetus to<br />

honour veterans properly, and policies such<br />

as standardising the wording (as above),<br />

providing a free-phone number for families to<br />

request military honours, and the funding to<br />

perform the honours, are a way of celebrating<br />

the bravery of the Armed Forces as well as<br />

giving the deceased a dignified send-off.<br />

If there’s one thing the Americans do well,<br />

it is grandeur, and no less so than in these<br />

gravitas-laden events.


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40<br />

COMPANY PROFILE<br />

Larger<br />

than Life<br />

BATESVILLE CASKET COMPANY, manufacturer of burial caskets, tells FST<br />

how it can benefit funeral directors here in the UK<br />

Tell us about Batesville<br />

Casket Company<br />

Batesville Casket Company is a manufacturer<br />

of burial caskets, founded at the turn of the<br />

20 th century in the Midwest of the United<br />

States in an area where high-quality hardwoods<br />

were plentiful. The business originally started<br />

manufacturing coffins, but transitioned to<br />

manufacturing wood caskets as this larger,<br />

more ornate product category became the<br />

more dominate choice of consumers in<br />

North America. Batesville Coffin Company,<br />

as it was known then, was purchased by the<br />

Hillenbrand family in 1906. The Hillenbrand<br />

family founded Hillenbrand Industries whose<br />

subsidiaries also included a world-renowned<br />

hospital bed and equipment manufacturer,<br />

Hill-Rom. Through extensive investments<br />

in world class manufacturing facilities and<br />

expansion of an advanced distribution system,<br />

the Hillenbrands grew Batesville throughout<br />

the 20th Century into the largest casket<br />

company in the world. Batesville Casket UK<br />

is the British subsidiary of Batesville and is<br />

located within the small Derbyshire market<br />

town of Castle Donington. With the help<br />

of our UK distribution partner, we have<br />

built long-term relationships with funeral<br />

directors, funeral associations and many funeral<br />

professionals throughout the United Kingdom,<br />

the Republic of Ireland and Europe.<br />

Tell us about your caskets<br />

Superior craftsmanship, the highest quality<br />

materials and constant innovation have<br />

become the hallmarks of the Batesville brand.<br />

Batesville offers two types of premium caskets:<br />

first, hardwood caskets include a variety<br />

of species: mahogany, cherry, maple, oak,<br />

poplar, and pine, all sourced in the United<br />

States. These caskets are the choice of families<br />

who appreciate and cherish the qualities of<br />

natural wood. The same warmth, beauty and<br />

personality it brings to fine furniture makes it<br />

ideally suitable for the construction of quality<br />

caskets. Second, metal caskets include those<br />

made from bronze, copper, stainless, and<br />

carbon steel. These caskets are known for their<br />

unique finishes. Bronze and copper are among<br />

the most durable and beautiful of metals; both<br />

are naturally non-rusting. Stainless and carbon<br />

steel caskets come in a variety of grades, gauges,<br />

styles, and finishes.<br />

Why should a funeral<br />

director choose you<br />

when helping families<br />

with their needs<br />

When a loved one dies, families must choose<br />

an appropriate container to hold that loved<br />

one before, during and after the funeral. While<br />

many UK families have traditionally chosen<br />

coffins for this purpose, another unique option<br />

is a Batesville casket. Different from traditional<br />

coffins, caskets are larger, more substantial<br />

vessels made from the finest materials with<br />

unique features to help memorialise the lives<br />

of loved ones. For over 100 years, Batesville<br />

has manufactured some of the finest caskets<br />

available anywhere in the world. Batesville<br />

has always taken immense pride in fulfilling<br />

the needs of funeral directors as they serve<br />

families in their hour of greatest need, and we<br />

never forget that each of our products plays an<br />

important role in representing a precious life of<br />

a loved one. Those funeral homes who wish to<br />

offer their families the very best and include a<br />

full range of options should consider Batesville.<br />

We take great care in the manufacturing of<br />

each and every casket and are committed to<br />

ensuring those products are provided to the<br />

family with the highest standards of quality<br />

and service. To fulfil that commitment,<br />

Batesville exclusively sells and distributes its<br />

caskets through a carefully chosen network<br />

– professional funeral directors. <strong>Funeral</strong><br />

directors have been selected for their ability<br />

to provide the right product for each family’s<br />

particular situation and explain our exclusive<br />

features. <strong>Funeral</strong> directors have enduring<br />

commitments to serving their communities<br />

and a comprehensive understanding of serving<br />

families’ needs.<br />

You offer innovative<br />

merchandising solutions<br />

and implementation<br />

strategies, how does this<br />

benefit funeral directors<br />

With a focus on meeting everyday business<br />

challenges, Batesville draws upon its 100<br />

years of experience with the funeral process<br />

to provide solutions that not only include the<br />

highest quality products, but also the tools<br />

needed to clearly convey the value of the<br />

products and services funeral directors provide.<br />

By taking the time to understand the specific<br />

needs of each business we serve, Batesville<br />

can help funeral directors meet the family’s<br />

expectations from the arrangement conference,<br />

to the product selection process, to the funeral<br />

service. We do this by providing funeral<br />

directors with the right product assortment<br />

and point-of-sale materials to ensure sufficient<br />

choices and communicate important features<br />

to help families express their love, devotion,<br />

values, and beliefs in ways to honour the lives<br />

of loved ones.<br />

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www.batesville.co.uk


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ALEX JAMES<br />

Out With<br />

The Old –<br />

In With The New<br />

Celebrating the<br />

life of a loved one<br />

is a commendable<br />

approach, but, says<br />

ALEX JAMES, there is<br />

no need to hop on the<br />

bandwagon if clients<br />

would prefer a more<br />

solemn affair<br />

Whilst working in a palliative care<br />

setting as a family support, my<br />

role was to support families facing death<br />

of a loved one, and in particular children<br />

facing the death of a parent. The most<br />

beneficial relationships I formed with<br />

people were those that developed over a<br />

period of up to two years, and after death,<br />

until the remaining family were able to<br />

work towards manageability themselves.<br />

During the shared journeys I would<br />

eventually talk to the dying about their<br />

ending. This included thoughts feelings,<br />

and hopes about the future – a future in<br />

which they would not be present.<br />

Much of my work centred around how I<br />

might capture the essence of an individual<br />

so that their family might feel a bond to<br />

them even after death, and so that the<br />

children might have a way of knowing<br />

them, to grow up feeling some kind of<br />

transcendental link to their deceased parent.<br />

By involving the children in some of<br />

the pre-bereavement journey, they would<br />

have a base of understanding for when<br />

the inevitable happened, and a place<br />

from which to continue with their life.<br />

We would talk about many things whilst<br />

sitting together; early on in kitchens over<br />

cups of tea; in my offi ce at work; later at<br />

bedsides, whilst the children drew pictures<br />

and wrote stories. There were tears and<br />

laughter too. I felt a deep sense of privilege<br />

for being trusted and allowed to share<br />

those precious times with each families.<br />

I’m telling you this because I want<br />

you to understand my work and my<br />

relationship with my clients. Talking<br />

about the future became easier as our<br />

relationships developed, and talking<br />

about final arrangements also came to feel<br />

comfortable as a topic, sad though it was<br />

for all of us. I remember once sitting in<br />

a client’s garden, a young mum with two<br />

small children. It was a beautiful sunny<br />

afternoon and as her husband made tea<br />

and the children helped to prepare a tray<br />

of cakes, we looked at a brochure together:<br />

a collection of coffi ns. The lady had asked<br />

me to bring it with me so that hey might<br />

choose hers together.<br />

“Pink is your colour,” her husband<br />

chuckled as he spotted the bright fuchsia<br />

pink casket on the page before us. “Oh my


ALEX JAMES 43<br />

God this is unreal...tea Alex” As we sat<br />

in the sunshine, the children on their<br />

climbing frame, bees buzzing around us<br />

and the smell of freshly cut grass in the<br />

air, it didn’t seem possible that such an<br />

ordinary afternoon could facilitate such an<br />

extraordinary conversation. Things seemed<br />

so normal and yet there we were planning<br />

her funeral together. The pink coffin was<br />

something she connected with - “you<br />

should all wear something pink,” she said,<br />

“and afterwards have pink champagne or<br />

something - make it a celebration of my<br />

life, not a sombre sad event. What music<br />

should I have Any ideas Alex” She spoke<br />

with an ease that might have been present<br />

if she were planning her 40 th birthday, not<br />

her final farewell.<br />

Another client, Tim, was 30, he had four<br />

children, and I grew to know the family<br />

well over the last year of his life. One<br />

morning shortly before he died he asked<br />

me whether I thought it was mean that he<br />

didn’t like the idea of everyone going down<br />

the pub after his funeral without him. He<br />

felt angry that life was cheating him out of<br />

what he perceived would be his. “I want<br />

my parents to arrange my funeral,” he<br />

said, “and I don’t know about the children<br />

attending - they’re very young - but I’ll<br />

leave that to Helen. I just want it to be a<br />

quiet, sad affair with space for Helen and<br />

my parents to say whatever they want.<br />

Actually I don’t even mind if its only them<br />

who attend. Does this sound selfish Alex”<br />

I can honestly say that most of my clients<br />

have been like Tim, but somehow they or<br />

their families got caught up in the new<br />

‘celebration of life’ services that seemed to<br />

be the way.<br />

It is a growing phenomenon that<br />

families want to ‘keep things light’, apply<br />

a little humour, and make reference to<br />

how the deceased ‘wouldn’t have wanted<br />

a really sad affair’. It is as though we have<br />

recognised man’s failure to overcome<br />

mortality and decided: ‘If we can’t control<br />

it, let’s make a party out of it. Let’s<br />

provide a fun day of commemoration<br />

with bands and banners, and caskets with<br />

“I didn’t seem possible that such an ordinary<br />

afternoon could facilitate such an extraordinary<br />

conversation. Things seemed so normal and yet there<br />

we were planning her funeral together.”<br />

wonderfully painted murals, and lanterns<br />

and balloons and pink champagne. Let’s<br />

even write our own epitaphs so as to make<br />

the congregation laugh rather than cry.<br />

Let’s put the fun into funerals - out with<br />

the black car and traditional sadness, and<br />

in with the smiles.’<br />

But stop for a moment. Whilst I<br />

believe we should have choices (and of<br />

course there’s nothing wrong with a more<br />

personal final goodbye), I also believe that<br />

most people aren’t too enthusiastic about<br />

throwing parties or tossing tradition out<br />

of the window. Many still want to feel safe<br />

in the traditional oak, carried by the men<br />

in black. They want to know their loved<br />

ones are sad to see them go.<br />

My view, therefore, is we shouldn’t race<br />

towards change too quickly. There’s room<br />

for everything, and there is no need to<br />

embrace the carnivalesque when it comes<br />

to funerals - not if clients would prefer<br />

something more solemn. We should<br />

facilitate what individuals want and guide<br />

them through it, give them time, and<br />

above all tell them that there is nothing<br />

uptight about opting out of the jazz and<br />

humour. Death is sad, after all.


SALLY WALTON 45<br />

Getting creative<br />

with coffins<br />

The general public are getting savvier about death and funerals, and the sheer<br />

amount of choice is helping to make the conversation more accessible and less<br />

frightening. We need not be as much a ‘hideaway’ profession as in the past<br />

How much choice can you give to<br />

families Nowadays there seems to be<br />

an inordinate amount of choice in transport,<br />

floral tributes and of course, coffins. The<br />

market is awash with new innovations all the<br />

time, and new ranges and variations arrive in<br />

the pipeline constantly. From cardboard and<br />

animal shapes, to banana leaf and sea grass.<br />

Even if you have a set catalogue at your<br />

premises, how can each business expect to<br />

show everything that is available At our<br />

small business, we hold catalogues and<br />

can usually offer whatever the customer<br />

demands, but even we wouldn’t have all<br />

that on show at once. I think some families<br />

do not wish to have too much choice, as it<br />

makes it harder to reach a final decision.<br />

I heard the other day that a family arrived<br />

at a funeral home and asked about coffin<br />

choices because they had a particular one in<br />

mind, and the funeral arranger told them<br />

that the company did not offer it. How<br />

is that possible in this day and age The<br />

internet or even a phone call to a well-known<br />

manufacturer could have given them a price<br />

and delivery time, and they could have given<br />

the family exactly what was asked for. We<br />

all know the customer is right and in the<br />

funeral profession we also know that the<br />

family have to make their own choices to<br />

help them in the future with their memories<br />

of the funeral, and service we give them.<br />

We sell a few creatively designed coffins<br />

and one in particular sticks in my mind. It<br />

was a mother’s choice for her son and he had<br />

been a James Bond fan. We told the coffin<br />

company that he liked the Aston Martin<br />

car and the 007 logo with the gun, and<br />

after a few design tweaks and changes it was<br />

perfect. In fact, I hadn’t realised that after the<br />

initial design had arrived, which had a blue<br />

background, our company boss had been<br />

playing on his computer with the colour. He<br />

had printed off another one, which I thought<br />

had come from the coffin company. Well, of<br />

course, I showed this to the family, they said<br />

it was perfect and then I realised my mistake,<br />

hoping that it was possible to match it. We<br />

did manage to match it, and the boy’s mother<br />

was so impressed that she also ordered a<br />

Cremated Remains Casket to match.<br />

I am currently just ordering one with palm<br />

trees on it for another family and have also<br />

tweaked the design, adding extra palm trees.<br />

His wife had a white one with pink daisies.<br />

Each family must be given the chance to make<br />

their choices, and we must strive to offer these<br />

choices. Coffin manufacturers these days can<br />

produce them in the shape of a skate board,<br />

an aeroplane, a train or even an elephant.<br />

How do you display your coffins Do<br />

you just have a book with pictures, or do<br />

you have actual coffins in a display area, or<br />

even miniature size replicas The picture<br />

above is a coffin manufacturer in Kenya,<br />

but the premises are not quite up to our UK<br />

standards. I don’t think our workers would<br />

be happy out of doors in the public eye! We<br />

are still very much a hide-away profession<br />

in this country. Things are changing slowly<br />

and members of the public are beginning<br />

to ask questions and want to know what<br />

the process of dying involves. Choice in<br />

everything including the appearance of the<br />

coffin, will help to dismantle that taboo.<br />

Sally Walton is national<br />

president of the British<br />

Institute of <strong>Funeral</strong><br />

Directors (BIFD). For<br />

further information about<br />

the organisation, please<br />

visit www.bifd.org.uk


46<br />

OBITUARIES<br />

Bob Crow<br />

Image: Jarvin Jarle Vines<br />

Tony Benn<br />

Image: Isujosh<br />

Clarissa Dickson<br />

Image: Mark Robinson<br />

11 March<br />

Bob Crow (aged 52)<br />

Born in east London, Bob Crow became<br />

interested in trade unionism in 1977 after<br />

he joined London Transport. He became<br />

a local trade union representative in 1983<br />

and then not long after the national officer<br />

for trackworks in the National Union<br />

of Railwaymen. Crow quickly became a<br />

powerful voice in the then 80,000 strong<br />

union, and though he took a strong stance<br />

on disputes, often reached agreements<br />

before a walk out. Crow was a character<br />

rarely disliked and was always happy to<br />

negotiate but the trade unionist had his<br />

limits and would occasionally struggle to<br />

contain himself. Keen on defending the<br />

rights of low paid workers, Crow was met<br />

with opposition voices who asked why they<br />

should concern themselves with unreliable<br />

workers. Nonetheless he continued to fight<br />

for them. As the leader of the RMT, he was<br />

not unfamiliar with opposition throughout<br />

his career, often bearing the brunt of names<br />

such as ‘the most hated man in Britain’<br />

and even physical attacks. He was a regular<br />

on BBC Question Time, and many will<br />

know Crow from this past February when<br />

ticket offices were closed across the London<br />

Underground, leaving the Underground<br />

network in chaos for two days. A second<br />

strike was called off after Transport for<br />

London agreed to talks. Crow died of a<br />

heart attack just a couple of weeks later.<br />

14 March<br />

Tony Benn (aged 88)<br />

Tony Benn was a key figure in left-wing<br />

politics for more than 50 years, following<br />

in his father William Wedgewood Benn’s<br />

Rest in peace<br />

A tribute to some well-known individuals who have<br />

sadly passed away during the last month<br />

footsteps. Tony studied philosophy, politics<br />

and economics at New College, Oxford<br />

before serving in the RAF during the<br />

Second World War and then working as<br />

BBC radio producer upon his return. Benn<br />

entered parliament through a by-election<br />

for Bristol South East in 1950 and was<br />

a conventional centre-right backbencher<br />

until the death of his eldest brother meant<br />

that he would become Lord Stansgate,<br />

meaning that he had to give up his seat<br />

in the House of Commons. Benn fought<br />

for a bill which would allow people to<br />

renounce hereditary titles, although the<br />

Lords voted against, leading Benn to<br />

develop a reputation as an advocate of<br />

constitutional reform. Following his father’s<br />

death and his switch of support from<br />

Gaitskell to Wilson in 1959, Benn was able<br />

to renounce his title with support from<br />

the Conservative government, winning a<br />

by-election he returned to the Commons.<br />

Later, Benn was appointed postmaster<br />

general, a move which saw him try, and<br />

fail, to have the Queen’s head removed<br />

from stamps. Benn lived a very varied<br />

political career, championing a referendum<br />

on Britain’s membership of the European<br />

Economic Community and standing<br />

against Denis Healey for deputy leadership<br />

in 1981. He retired in 2001 famously<br />

claiming that he wanted “to devote more<br />

time to politics”, and was a well known<br />

supporter of major anti-war protests.<br />

15 March<br />

Clarissa Dickson Wright<br />

(aged 66)<br />

Clarissa Dickson Wright is best known<br />

as one of the Two Fat Ladies, presenting<br />

along with Jennifer Paterson between<br />

1996 and 1999. The cooking show, which<br />

highlighted the duo’s love of rich food,<br />

saw them travel around in a motorcycle<br />

and sidecar, a far cry from her days at<br />

University College London where she<br />

studied law. Having been raised as a<br />

Roman Catholic throughout her life,<br />

Dickson Wright was, at the time, the<br />

youngest woman to be called to the bar<br />

at the age of just 21, but her life growing<br />

up was not easy and she had described her<br />

childhood as an unhappy one. Later in life<br />

she battled with alcoholism after the death<br />

of her mother in 1975, ending her career<br />

as a lawyer before reinventing herself<br />

as a cook at Books for Cooks in central<br />

London. The Cooks Bookshop was her<br />

next venture after Books for Cooks came<br />

to an end, still delving into the television<br />

world with Clarissa and the Countryman<br />

between 2000 and 2003; however she<br />

declared herself bankrupt in 2004.<br />

Dickson Wright wrote her autobiography


OBITUARIES 47<br />

L’Wren Scott<br />

Image: Solmaz A<br />

James Rebhorn<br />

Image: David Skankbone<br />

Patrice Wymore<br />

in 2007 entitled Spilling the Beans and<br />

throughout her career also produced<br />

several books including Game Cookbook<br />

in 2004 and A Sunday Roast in 2002.<br />

17 March<br />

L’Wren Scott (aged 49)<br />

Fashion designer and other half to rocker<br />

Mick Jagger, L’Wren Scott was an influential<br />

force in the high fashion industry.<br />

Throughout her career, the former model<br />

joined forces with top brands, most recently<br />

Banana Republic who she worked with to<br />

make her ranges more affordable to the<br />

masses, pulling away from her more couture<br />

pieces which would sell for thousands.<br />

Scott also recently finished a collaboration<br />

with make-up artist Bobbi Brown, with<br />

the pair creating a cosmetics range entitled<br />

Bobbi Brown X L’Wren Scott including<br />

mascara and an award winning gel eyeliner.<br />

The Utah born stylist and designer saw<br />

her creations adorn the likes of Nicole<br />

Kidman, Sarah Jessica Parker and Angelina<br />

Jolie since the birth of her company<br />

in 2006. However, she was reportedly<br />

struggling under a pile of debt at the time<br />

of her death, an issue that has been at the<br />

centre of speculations as being the reason<br />

behind her suicide at just 49 years old.<br />

21 March<br />

James Rebhorn (Aged 65)<br />

Actor James Rebhorn was known for roles<br />

in films and television, in a career spanning<br />

more than 50 years, starring in films such as<br />

Independence Day in 1996, The Talented<br />

Mr Ripley in 1999 and Meet the Parents<br />

in 2000. He was well known on the small<br />

screen as well, having appeared in Boston<br />

Legal, The Practice, The Good Wife,<br />

Law and Order and Seinfeld throughout<br />

his career. Originally starting out as a<br />

theatre actor, gaining experience following<br />

his graduation from the University of<br />

Springfield where he studied political<br />

science, Rebhorn went on to study acting<br />

at Columbia University. He appeared in<br />

daytime soaps including The Doctors,<br />

Guiding Light and As the World Turns<br />

but it wasn’t until the 80’s that Rebhorn<br />

became a well-known name. In 1983 he<br />

starred in Silkwood with Meryl Streep and<br />

in 1991 he was in drama Regarding Henry<br />

with Harrison Ford. Other notable works<br />

include Lorenzo’s Oil in 1992 and in the<br />

same year, Scent of a Woman, which went<br />

on to win awards at the Oscars. The Game<br />

in 1997 and Far From Heaven in 2002<br />

were also films he became known for and<br />

most recently starred as the father of Claire<br />

Danes character, Carrie Mathison in the hit<br />

American series Homeland. He passed away<br />

after finally losing a long battle with skin<br />

cancer.<br />

22 March<br />

Patrice Wymore (aged 87)<br />

Patrice Wymore was a dancer, singer and<br />

actor, however is best known as the third<br />

wife to Hollywood actor Errol Flynn.<br />

The pair starred in Rocky Mountain<br />

together in 1950 and at the time Wymore<br />

was 23 and Flynn was 41 years old. She<br />

appeared in musicals such as Hold it!<br />

in 1948 and Tea for Two in 1950, this<br />

was followed by The Big Trees and She’s<br />

Working Her Way Through College in<br />

1952. Typecast as the girl next door and<br />

given supporting roles, Wymore starred<br />

in She’s Back on Broadway the following<br />

year but went into what is described as<br />

‘semi-retirement’ in which she spent several<br />

years with a close eye on husband Flynn<br />

who, at the time had a drug and alcohol<br />

addiction. Following her husband’s death<br />

at just the age of 50, Wymore had a small<br />

role in Ocean’s Eleven in 1960 before<br />

retiring to a 2,000 acre ranch in Jamaica<br />

that had been left to her by Flynn.<br />

30 March<br />

Kate O’Mara (aged 74)<br />

Best known for her role as Joan Collins’s<br />

sister on Dynasty, Kate O’Mara comes<br />

from a family committed to showbiz as<br />

five generations of her family have been<br />

involved in the business either as actors or<br />

as managers. Her career took many forms,<br />

in both theatre, television and film and, as a<br />

dedicated Shakespearean, gave performances<br />

in plays such as A Midsummer Night’s<br />

Dream and Much Ado About Nothing.<br />

O’Mara also took on other major<br />

performances such as Mrs Cheveley in<br />

Oscar Wilde’s An Ideal Husband however,<br />

though she built a promising stage career<br />

she was more known by her television roles<br />

including The Brothers in 1975, Howards’<br />

Way in 1989 and Crossroads in 2003. Her<br />

film career wasn’t as prominent as her stage<br />

or television presence, her debut was in<br />

1956 in Vernon Sewell’s Home and Away<br />

and she went on to appear in films such<br />

as The Horror of Frankenstein and The<br />

Tamarind Seed in the seventies. Throughout<br />

her career she wrote two novels, Game<br />

Plan: A Woman’s Survival Kit in 1990<br />

and Vamp Until Ready in 2003. In 2008<br />

O’Mara enjoyed success in a Lunch with<br />

Marlene at the New End in Hampstead<br />

before starring in ITV’s Benidorm, in 2012.<br />

She passed away following a short illness.


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50<br />

YOUR STORY<br />

Your Story<br />

JOANNE HUTSBY, The Eastwood <strong>Funeral</strong> Partnership, Nottingham<br />

Tell us about The Eastwood<br />

<strong>Funeral</strong> Partnership<br />

We’re based on the Nottinghamshire/<br />

Derbyshire border and have four funeral<br />

homes at Eastwood, Kimberley, Heanor<br />

and Stapleford – all within a few miles<br />

of each other. In total there are 15 of us,<br />

including the four partners, myself and<br />

my parents Barry and Elaine Hutsby, and<br />

Anthony Topley, whose father-in-law Jack<br />

Gillott founded Gillotts <strong>Funeral</strong> <strong>Service</strong>,<br />

our Heanor funeral home. My sister Alison<br />

also works in the business. We’ve embraced<br />

a lot of the options to personalise a funeral<br />

that have become available in the last few<br />

years. In the past month we’ve used a Morris<br />

Minor hearse, a vintage ambulance and also<br />

transported a coffin to the crematorium<br />

on a tractor trailer. We have quite a large<br />

coffin range – all of our veneered and solid<br />

coffins come from Steve Soult, whose factory<br />

is only eight miles away, so we can offer a<br />

wide range of options which are produced<br />

to order. We have a great relationship with<br />

the team there, and we enjoy giving them<br />

a challenge when a client is looking for<br />

something a bit different.<br />

Why did you decide to<br />

become a funeral director<br />

Well I tried not to! I went off to university<br />

with no intention of becoming involved with<br />

the business, but towards the end of my time<br />

there I realised that what was happening<br />

back at home was more interesting and<br />

relevant to me than what was on offer in a<br />

lot of the so-called graduate professions. So<br />

within weeks of graduating, I started work<br />

at our Stapleford funeral home. I’d already<br />

spent time in the summer holidays working<br />

in the business, either in the office or washing<br />

cars and fitting coffins, so I was already fairly<br />

familiar with what the job entailed.<br />

What do you personally<br />

do for each funeral<br />

Our ethos is to try and ensure that the same<br />

person follows a funeral through from start<br />

to finish, so when I arrange a funeral with a<br />

family, I try and ensure that I’m their point<br />

of contact throughout the proceedings and<br />

I’m there on the day to make sure everything<br />

goes smoothly.<br />

In addition to being a funeral director, one<br />

of my many roles is head of logistics, so my<br />

first job of the day is to plan what everyone is<br />

doing that day to make sure everything and<br />

everyone is where they need to be at the right<br />

time. So while the majority of the funerals we<br />

conduct are handled by my colleagues, I have<br />

the satisfaction of knowing that I’ve helped to<br />

ensure that each one goes smoothly.<br />

How do you feel<br />

your 24-hour service<br />

benefits families<br />

It is vital to families who lose someone at<br />

home and I’m always amazed when people<br />

– even professionals we work with such as<br />

doctors and ministers – say that they’ll ‘leave<br />

a message on the answerphone’. We’ve never<br />

had an answerphone! As a fairly small firm<br />

our response time is very good – we aim to<br />

get to the house within an hour of the family<br />

contacting us and it’s often quicker than<br />

that. Sometimes it’s not the actual transfer of<br />

the deceased that’s important to the family,<br />

but the reassurance that comes from having<br />

someone arrive who can explain their next<br />

steps and give them some basic information<br />

and guidance. We also go to great lengths to<br />

ensure that our on-call staff has information<br />

to hand about all of the funerals we are<br />

dealing with, so that clients or members<br />

of the public who have a query can get an<br />

answer whenever they ring us.<br />

What advice would you<br />

give to someone entering<br />

the funeral profession<br />

Try not to make assumptions about people<br />

or circumstances, because you’ll probably be<br />

wrong. This job teaches you a lot about the<br />

human race and how differently each of us<br />

reacts to stressful situations. You need to give<br />

yourself time to learn to read people - I’ve<br />

been doing this job for nearly 20 years and<br />

I’m still learning.<br />

Do you have any plans to<br />

expand in the future<br />

We have plans in the pipeline for an<br />

additional funeral home and I’m looking<br />

forward to the challenges and opportunities<br />

that will bring.<br />

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Remembering<br />

a baby<br />

Every year in the UK one in four parents will<br />

lose their baby during pregnancy or birth.<br />

Tommy’s exists to help bereaved parents and to give them hope for the future.<br />

We fund medical research into the causes and prevention of miscarriage,<br />

premature birth and stillbirth.<br />

Our goal is to halve the number of babies who are lost during pregnancy<br />

or birth by 2030.<br />

We are here for mums and dads at every stage of their journey.<br />

From bereavement counselling or a friendly chat, to fundraising support or<br />

discussing our research.<br />

‘The only thing that kept me going in the early days<br />

was knowing that I could talk to Tommy’s and that I<br />

was doing something positive in my babies’ memory.’<br />

‘Knowing that my baby didn’t die in vain and that<br />

I was helping to fund research to help prevent this<br />

happening to others gave me great comfort.’<br />

Please let any parents visiting you<br />

know that Tommy’s is here to help.<br />

They can visit our website<br />

www.tommys.org/inmemory<br />

or call Emma on 0800 0147 800<br />

w: tommys.org/inmemory<br />

e: jbrewin@tommys.org<br />

t: 020 7398 3450<br />

Registered charity number 1060508 and SCO39280

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