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uneral S ervice times The independent voice of the funeral profession APRIL 2014 Established 2006 ∙ ISSN 2046-7273 www.funeralservicetimes.co.uk COFFIN SPECIAL Our selection of the most trusted and innovative suppliers American Military Funerals An exploration of the US government’s special approach Alex James: Keeping solemnity in the list of funeral options George Callander: Reflections on the importance of coffin choice Peter Wyllie: Eric Idle’s witty tribute to George Harrison
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uneral<br />
S ervice times<br />
The independent voice of the funeral profession APRIL 2014<br />
Established 2006 ∙ ISSN 2046-7273<br />
www.funeralservicetimes.co.uk<br />
COFFIN<br />
SPECIAL<br />
Our selection of the most<br />
trusted and innovative suppliers<br />
American<br />
Military <strong>Funeral</strong>s<br />
An exploration of the US<br />
government’s special approach<br />
Alex James:<br />
Keeping solemnity in the<br />
list of funeral options<br />
George Callander:<br />
Reflections on the<br />
importance of coffin choice<br />
Peter Wyllie:<br />
Eric Idle’s witty tribute<br />
to George Harrison
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APRIL 2014<br />
CONTENTS<br />
Dispatches 5<br />
The latest news from the profession<br />
Products 8<br />
New products and services for the trade<br />
Comment 10<br />
The BIFD’s president, Sally Walton, holds forth<br />
Peter Wyllie 12<br />
This month Peter Wyllie revisits Eric Idle’s<br />
tribute to his friend George Harrison<br />
Rev George Callander 18<br />
Reverend George Callander riffs on the coffin<br />
theme with his usual humorous take<br />
Coffin Special 23<br />
We present a definitive list of the foremost manufacturers<br />
and suppliers of coffins and caskets in the UK<br />
Coffins Special: Accessory Spotlight 29<br />
Two firms offering the added extras for a quality coffin<br />
and quality service<br />
Editor’s<br />
letter<br />
Dear readers,<br />
April brings my series on the funeral customs<br />
from a range of different cultures to a close. In<br />
a slight change of focus, it’s the nuances of an<br />
American military funeral that I’ve examined<br />
for this last entry. It was only in 2000 that<br />
the US government decided to pledge some<br />
funding and implement a formal procedure<br />
for the bereaved families of deceased veterans<br />
or those killed in action, including the right to<br />
request military honours at the funeral. Now<br />
it is common practice to have a bugler, honour<br />
guards carrying the deceased to their final<br />
resting place, and a priest all in attendance, the<br />
bill footed by the state.<br />
Those responsible for the policy also conceived<br />
the notion that there should be a toll-free phone<br />
number for families to call, and that the single<br />
operative who dealt with the phone call would<br />
be responsible for pursuing the request through<br />
to its final conclusion. It is a truly dignified way<br />
of honouring those who have died and sends a<br />
mature message to the people.<br />
The draped stars-and-stripes on the coffins<br />
set us thinking about what options are available<br />
in this particular purchase area, and this issue<br />
we’ve picked out some of the most innovative<br />
and interesting suppliers of coffins, caskets<br />
and all of the kit that a funeral director needs<br />
in carrying out the job. Finally, Alex James<br />
points out that whilst the chirpier ‘celebration<br />
of life’ is growing in popularity, the profession<br />
must be sure to cater for families that still<br />
want a traditional, deeply solemn affair.<br />
Coffin Special: Biers, Lifts & Trolleys<br />
Not many can lift a coffin without mechanical<br />
assistance: here are the essentials<br />
31<br />
I hope you enjoy the issue.<br />
American Military <strong>Funeral</strong>s 38<br />
Michael Northcott examines the nuances of a military<br />
honours funeral in the United States<br />
Comment: Alex James<br />
Bereavement UK’s Alex James on why traditional solemnity<br />
should not always roll over for ‘celebratory’ antics<br />
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Obituaries 50<br />
A tribute to some well-known names that have passed away recently<br />
Your Story 58<br />
Joanne Hutsby, The Eastwood <strong>Funeral</strong> Partnership, Nottingham<br />
Michael Northcott MA<br />
Editor, <strong>Funeral</strong> <strong>Service</strong> Times<br />
michael@funeralservicetimes.co.uk
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A B Walker hosts 2nd annual<br />
service of remembrance<br />
Berkshire-based funeral directors A.B.<br />
Walker & Son held its second annual<br />
service of remembrance on March 2.<br />
The service saw over 500 bereaved<br />
people come together at Reading<br />
Construction of a new crematorium and<br />
cemetery serving residents in Daventry<br />
District and Rugby Borough has been<br />
completed.<br />
Contractor Willmott Dixon handed<br />
over the keys to Rugby and Daventry’s<br />
new crematorium and cemetery,<br />
which is located on the edge of the<br />
Rainsbrook Valley in Rugby, ready for<br />
its opening in April.<br />
The keys were given to the Rugby<br />
and Daventry Joint Committee,<br />
which will run the crematorium<br />
on behalf of Rugby Borough<br />
Council and Daventry<br />
District Council, who split the<br />
construction costs between<br />
them. It marked the end of the<br />
construction phase of the project,<br />
which began last May, and the<br />
councils are now preparing the<br />
facility, ready to open for the first<br />
services in April.<br />
Chancellor Alan Hills,<br />
Minster of St Mary the Virgin in St<br />
Mary’s Butts to light candles in memory<br />
of loved ones. The service was officiated<br />
by the Venerable Olivia Graham,<br />
Archdeacon of Berkshire.<br />
Julian Walker, managing director of<br />
A.B. Walker, said: “It was a very moving<br />
service and we hope that those who<br />
attended found comfort from being<br />
there. It was a chance for those who had<br />
lost a loved one to be with others who<br />
had also suffered bereavement.<br />
“It was a time for them to pause and<br />
reflect. We realise there is a great need<br />
for people to collectively remember.”<br />
Having supported bereaved families<br />
for nearly 200 years, A B Walker &<br />
Son decided upon the yearly event after<br />
the first event in 2013 received such<br />
a positive response. The company has<br />
also set up a Link Bereavement Care<br />
Group alongside the charity Cruse<br />
Bereavement Care to help the bereaved<br />
in the community.<br />
Councils given keys to<br />
Rainsbrook Crematorium<br />
community, culture and leisure<br />
portfolio holder at Daventry District<br />
Council said: “The completion of this<br />
crematorium is great news for residents<br />
of Daventry District, who currently have<br />
to travel as far as Northampton and<br />
Banbury for similar facilities.<br />
“As well as being near at hand it<br />
provides a very peaceful and tranquil<br />
setting in a modern, state-of-the-art<br />
crematorium which will benefit the<br />
residents of both Daventry and Rugby.”
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DISPATCHES<br />
New ‘Guide to Coroner <strong>Service</strong>s’ aimed at<br />
the bereaved<br />
The bereaved will be put “at the heart of the coroner system”,<br />
Justice Minister Simon Hughes has announced, with the<br />
launch of a new guide for people who have to become<br />
involved with inquests.<br />
The new ‘Guide to Coroner <strong>Service</strong>s’ explains in simple<br />
terms to bereaved people how the inquest process works,<br />
what they should expect, what standards of service they<br />
should receive, how to find help and what to do if they<br />
were not satisfied by the service.The guide is the latest stage<br />
of government’s drive to modernise the coroner system<br />
and make sure that bereaved families can receive the same<br />
standards of service from all 96 coroners in England and<br />
Wales, bringing an end to past inconsistencies.<br />
It follows the introduction last year of new national<br />
standards and the appointment of the first ever Chief<br />
Coroner, Judge Peter Thornton QC, to oversee the new<br />
system and drive improvement.<br />
Launching the guide, Justice Minister Simon Hughes<br />
said: “I want people to know that coroners’ courts needn’t<br />
be scary places, they can be open and welcoming, and that<br />
is why we are making absolutely sure that the needs of<br />
bereaved families are put first and foremost.”<br />
The guide follows the new coroner rules implemented<br />
last year, which mean that coroners will be required to<br />
notify those who are bereaved within a week of setting<br />
the date for the inquest and provide greater access to<br />
documents and evidence, such as post-mortem reports,<br />
before the inquest takes place, to enable bereaved families<br />
to prepare for the hearing.<br />
They must also be able to speed up the release of bodies<br />
after post mortem and will be required to notify the<br />
deceased’s next-of-kin or personal representative if the<br />
body cannot be released within 28 days, and permit less<br />
invasive post-mortem examinations.<br />
Birmingham’s largest cemetery ‘full to capacity’<br />
Photo: oosoom<br />
Birmingham’s Witton Cemetery has revealed that it is ‘full to<br />
capacity’ and cannot serve any more clients, leaving families in<br />
the north of Birmingham to find alternative burial locations.<br />
The cemetery has been unable to take on new graves since<br />
late 2013 and a Birmingham City Council spokesperson said:<br />
“Witton Cemetery became full to capacity for new adult graves<br />
in December 2013.<br />
“Burials will continue to take place in Witton Cemetery<br />
where families have an existing grave that has space for burial.<br />
There are still new graves available for the burial of babies and<br />
cremated remains.”<br />
The council has been advising local funeral directors of the<br />
impending closure, ensuring that they are kept abreast of the<br />
situation. The spokesperson added: “Space is still available for<br />
new adult graves at Sutton New Hall, Handsworth, Lodge<br />
Hill, Quinton and Kings Norton Cemeteries.”
DISPATCHES 7<br />
Three Minute Interview<br />
CHERYL YARWOOD, owner of Secure Haven<br />
Describe yourself<br />
in three words<br />
Honest, caring, busy.<br />
What is your earliest<br />
memory<br />
Winning fancy dress competitions at Pontins<br />
- my nan and mum were great seamstresses,<br />
even with crepe paper.<br />
When you were at<br />
school, what did you<br />
want to be and why<br />
In primary school, a long distance lorry<br />
driver...No idea why!<br />
What was the first music<br />
album you bought<br />
The Bay City Rollers...I was very young and<br />
impressionable.<br />
If you could have dinner<br />
with one person, who would<br />
you choose and why<br />
Gordon Ramsey, he could cook and talk, I<br />
could sit on the other side of the granite top<br />
and have a night off.<br />
What is the best advice you<br />
have been given<br />
We can’t help everyone, but everyone<br />
can help someone (Ronald Reagan).<br />
What is your next<br />
goal in life<br />
To make a success of Secure Haven, helping<br />
people deal with their grief after losing a<br />
loved one.<br />
What is your personal<br />
mantra<br />
Don’t believe the naysayers... ‘You can’t do<br />
that!’ and I say ‘why not try’<br />
As a new face in the funeral<br />
sector, tell us about Secure<br />
Haven<br />
Paul and I set up Secure Haven to help the<br />
recently bereaved cope with the emotional<br />
trauma following a cremation. We collect<br />
from funeral directors and store treasured<br />
ashes if they cannot care for them and<br />
families need more time before they fulfil<br />
any final wishes. At our barn in Margaretting<br />
we store urns of ashes in ‘Secure Niches’ –<br />
custom-build wooden storage cabinets – with<br />
Image: The Essex Chronicle<br />
respect and sensitivity, for as long as needed.<br />
Family and friends are welcome to visit.<br />
What are your plans for<br />
the rest of the year<br />
We are spending all our time working<br />
with the Secure Haven team to get the<br />
business established.<br />
What is the most<br />
important thing your<br />
job has taught you<br />
That nothing can be achieved without<br />
hard work.<br />
Multiple charity<br />
donations<br />
introduced by<br />
MuchLoved<br />
Increasingly, funeral directors have<br />
been finding that families want to<br />
nominate more than one charity for<br />
their funeral collection, for example<br />
both a local hospice and a large<br />
national charity.<br />
MuchLoved has announced that<br />
its online tribute service can now<br />
be used to collect donations for any<br />
number of charities on any tribute,<br />
without limit. An additional enhanced<br />
‘Charity Search’ makes it effortless<br />
to add charities and to include<br />
instructions, such as a requirement for<br />
the donations to be used for a specific<br />
appeal or branch of the charity.<br />
Monthly provisional figures on deaths registered<br />
by area of usual residence, 2013<br />
Source: ONS<br />
England and Wales<br />
TOTAL REGISTRATIONS<br />
ENGLAND AND WALES<br />
ENGLAND<br />
North East<br />
North West<br />
Yorkshire and the Humber<br />
East Midlands<br />
West Midlands<br />
East<br />
London<br />
South East<br />
South West<br />
WALES<br />
Non-residents of England & Wales<br />
Dec-13<br />
42,791<br />
42,705<br />
39,973<br />
2,154<br />
5,837<br />
4,372<br />
3,588<br />
4,415<br />
4,426<br />
3,958<br />
6,577<br />
4,646<br />
2,732<br />
84<br />
Jan-14<br />
49,030<br />
48,920<br />
45,931<br />
2,557<br />
6,612<br />
4,820<br />
4,089<br />
5,243<br />
5,194<br />
4,548<br />
7,685<br />
5,183<br />
2,989<br />
109<br />
Feb-14<br />
41,153<br />
41,066<br />
38,518<br />
2,192<br />
5,722<br />
3,974<br />
3,482<br />
4,267<br />
4,439<br />
3,830<br />
6,261<br />
4,351<br />
2,548<br />
85
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Cemetery Development <strong>Service</strong>s<br />
Cemetery Development <strong>Service</strong>s in conjunction with<br />
Bosisio Srl, one of Italy’s longest established funeral furniture<br />
manufacturers, have jointly developed the Cinerarium.<br />
The development came from the requests of a number of<br />
crematoriums and funeral directors asking for a discreet and<br />
attractive method of memorialising cremated remains. Unlike<br />
the traditional columbarium the slim design - less than 110mm<br />
in thickness - and lightweight construction materials of the<br />
cinerarium enable it to be mounted on most walls indoors<br />
or outside. The cinerarium comes in two forms, either an<br />
aluminium frame or a modular fiberglass system. Both systems<br />
provide sufficient volume for one set of ashes per niche.<br />
Information: www.cemeterydevelopmentservices.co.uk<br />
Strong’s Memorials’<br />
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climate, a quality product that is cost effective. Made from<br />
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a full traditional memorial. The firm explains: “Our Plantmems<br />
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Information: 01922 496117, moreinfo@strongmemorials.com or<br />
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Redwood Collections<br />
Redwood Collections offers a comprehensive service, from<br />
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(including insolvency) if required. The company’s highly<br />
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O’Brien Carriage Masters<br />
O’Brien Carriage Masters caters to England, Scotland and<br />
Wales as well as parts of Ireland, providing its fleet of white,<br />
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such as removers, suppliers and conductors, paired with its<br />
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Are you still caring for<br />
ashes dating back years<br />
Even following a cremation, there are still difficult choices to<br />
be made by bereaved families – many funeral directors will<br />
discover relatives are simply not emotionally ready to deal<br />
with their loved one’s ashes.<br />
Secure Haven can support the bereaved by taking care of<br />
ashes, allowing more time for these difficult decisions over<br />
a permanent resting place to be made – free from anxiety.<br />
We can arrange for ashes to be collected and interred into<br />
private secure niches, storing them with dignity and respect,<br />
at our specially-adapted historic barn near Chelmsford, Essex.<br />
We will work closely with funeral directors and can provide<br />
a bespoke service delivered with discretion and sensitivity.<br />
Please contact our support team to arrange a private visit.<br />
01277 353776<br />
www.securehaven.co.uk<br />
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PETER WYLLIE: EULOGIES 11<br />
‘Life is somehow<br />
more important<br />
than show business’
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PETER WYLLIE: EULOGIES<br />
Image: Sander Lamme<br />
George Harrison was<br />
just 27 when the Beatles<br />
broke up, meaning he<br />
had it all before he<br />
turned 30. This left him<br />
free to pursue meaning<br />
in his own life, and<br />
here, PETER WYLLIE<br />
revisits Eric Idle’s tribute<br />
to a man of real depth<br />
He was part of the soundtrack of<br />
my teenage years. Along with John<br />
Lennon, Paul McCartney and Ringo Starr,<br />
George Harrison was part of the most<br />
famous band in history and there is no<br />
doubt that the Beatles changed the course<br />
of popular music forever.<br />
In November 2001 (can it really be<br />
almost 13 years ago), George was the<br />
second Beatle to die after John had been<br />
shot 21 years before.<br />
It was the following year, 2002, that<br />
the Hollywood Bowl inducted George<br />
Harrison into their hall of fame. His<br />
friend Eric Idle of Monty Python fame<br />
was invited to make the induction.<br />
I suppose this is not strictly a “eulogy”<br />
but it is the perfect tribute; combining<br />
warmth and humour and showing<br />
flashes of both George’s personality and<br />
underlying beliefs.<br />
Interestingly at a time when funeral<br />
services increasingly use audio-visual<br />
elements, this tribute contained a video<br />
montage and a live performance of one of<br />
George’s songs.<br />
ERIC IDLE:<br />
“When they told me they were going<br />
to induct my friend George Harrison<br />
into the Hollywood Bowl Hall of Fame<br />
posthumously: my first thought was - I bet<br />
he won’t show up.<br />
Because, unlike some others one might<br />
mention - but won’t - he really wasn’t in to<br />
honours.<br />
He was one of those odd people who<br />
believe that life is somehow more important<br />
than show business.<br />
Which I know is a heresy here in<br />
Hollywood, and I’m sorry to bring it up here<br />
in the very Bowel of Hollywood but I can<br />
hear his voice saying: “Oh very nice, very<br />
useful, a posthumous award - where am I<br />
supposed to put it What’s next for me then<br />
A posthumous Grammy An ex-Knighthood<br />
An After-Lifetime Achievement Award”<br />
He’s going to need a whole new shelf up<br />
there.<br />
So “posthumously inducted” - sounds<br />
rather unpleasant: sounds like some kind of<br />
after-life enema.<br />
But ‘induct’ - in case you are wondering<br />
- comes from the word induce - meaning to<br />
bring on labour by the use of drugs.<br />
And ‘posthumous’ is actually from the Latin<br />
post meaning after and hummus meaning<br />
Greek food.<br />
So I like to think that George is still out<br />
there somewhere - pregnant and breaking<br />
plates at a Greek restaurant.<br />
I think he would prefer to be inducted<br />
posthumorously because he loved comedians -<br />
poor, sick, sad, deranged, lovable puppies that<br />
we are, because they, like him, had the ability<br />
to say the wrong thing at the right time -<br />
which is what we call humour.<br />
He put Monty Python on here at The<br />
Hollywood Bowl, and he paid for the movie<br />
The Life of Brian, because he wanted to see it.<br />
Still the most anybody has ever paid for a<br />
cinema ticket.<br />
His life was filled with laughter and even<br />
his death was filled with laughter… In the<br />
hospital he asked the nurses to put fish and<br />
chips in his IV.<br />
The doctor - thinking he was delusional<br />
- said to his son “don’t worry; we have a<br />
medical name for this condition.”<br />
“Yes” said Dahni, “humour”.<br />
And I’m particularly sorry Dahni isn’t<br />
here tonight - because I wanted to introduce<br />
him by saying: “Here comes the son”. But<br />
sadly that opportunity for a truly bad joke<br />
has gone, as has Dahni’s Christmas present<br />
from me.<br />
George once said to me: “If we’d known<br />
we were going to be The Beatles we’d have<br />
tried harder.”<br />
What made George special - apart from<br />
his being the best guitarist in the Beatles<br />
- was what he did with his life after they<br />
achieved everything.<br />
He realized that this fame business was -<br />
and I’ll use the technical philosophical term<br />
here - complete bullshit.<br />
And he turned to find beauty and<br />
truth and meaning in life - and more<br />
extraordinarily - found it.<br />
This is from his book I Me Mine:<br />
“The things that most people are<br />
struggling for are fame or fortune or wealth<br />
or position - and really none of that is<br />
important because in the end death will take<br />
it all away. So you spend your life struggling<br />
for something, which is in effect a waste of<br />
time… I mean I don’t want to be lying there<br />
as I’m dying thinking ‘oh shit I forgot to put<br />
the cat out’.”<br />
And he wasn’t. He passed away - here in<br />
LA - with beauty and dignity surrounded by<br />
people he loved.<br />
Because he had an extraordinary capacity<br />
for friendship.<br />
People loved him all over the planet.<br />
George was in fact a moral philosopher:<br />
his life was all about a search for truth, and<br />
preparing himself for death.<br />
Which is a bit weird for someone in rock<br />
and roll. They’re not supposed to be that<br />
smart. They’re supposed to be out there<br />
looking for Sharon. Not the meaning of life.<br />
Michael Palin said George’s passing was<br />
really sad but it does make the afterlife seem<br />
much more attractive.<br />
He was a gardener - he grew beauty in
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PETER WYLLIE: EULOGIES<br />
“He realised that this fame business was - and I’ll use the technical philosophical term<br />
here - complete bullshit. And he turned to find beauty and truth and meaning in life<br />
- and more extraordinarily - found it.”<br />
everything he did - in his life, in his music,<br />
in his marriage and as a father.<br />
I was on an island somewhere when a<br />
man came up to him and said “George<br />
Harrison, oh my god, what are you doing<br />
here” - and he said “Well everyone’s got to<br />
be somewhere.”<br />
Well alas he isn’t here. But we are. And<br />
that’s the point. This isn’t for him. This is<br />
for us, because we want to honour him.<br />
We want to remember him, we want to say<br />
Thanks George for being. And we really miss<br />
you. So let’s take a look at some of the places<br />
he got to in his life.<br />
(Video montage is shown of George<br />
Harrison’s life, from youthful Beatle to<br />
mature solo artist.)<br />
Well he’s still not here. But we do have<br />
someone very special who was very dear to him<br />
- who is here. The fi rst man to perform with<br />
the Beatles. The one and only Billy Preston.<br />
(Billy Preston and a chorus of vocalists<br />
sing Harrison’s “My Sweet Lord.”)<br />
Thank you Billy Preston.<br />
So this is the big drag about posthumous<br />
awards: there’s no one to give ‘em to.<br />
So I’m gonna keep this and put it next<br />
to the one I got last year. No, I’m going to<br />
give it to the love of his life, his dark sweet<br />
lady, dear wonderful Olivia Harrison, who<br />
is with us here tonight. Liv, you truly know<br />
what it is to be without him.<br />
Thank you Hollywood Bowl, you do good<br />
to honour him. Goodnight.”<br />
You see That is an almost perfect<br />
tribute and whether you were a Beatles<br />
or a Stones person, one thing is without<br />
doubt; it will be a long time before<br />
George Harrison’s influence is forgotten<br />
and his memory lost.<br />
Peter Wyllie is<br />
an independent<br />
funeral celebrant<br />
and a member of<br />
the AOIC. For<br />
more information<br />
please visit<br />
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GEORGE CALLANDER<br />
Photos, wool,<br />
polished oak<br />
or stone<br />
The coffin is a major signifier of the character of the deceased: opulence, comfort,<br />
smartness, dignity or glamour - you can conjure any of these with the right choice,<br />
says the REVEREND GEORGE CALLANDER<br />
Having finally dragged my old carcass<br />
into the 21st Century and embraced<br />
some of the now-ubiquitous technology, I<br />
am now a devoted ‘tweeter’ and enjoy many<br />
splendid exchanges @FrDoddie. Do feel free<br />
to ‘follow’ me. In a recent tweet exchange I<br />
was sent the old saying: “It’s not the cough<br />
what carries you off; it’s the coffin they<br />
carries you off in!”<br />
Hackneyed, I know, but nevertheless true.<br />
There is much about coffins to be found<br />
throughout this month’s edition of FST and<br />
rightly so. The coffin (or coffin alternative) is<br />
the most focal feature of a funeral, so has to<br />
be appropriate. A plethora of column inches<br />
and glossy brochures tastefully present colour<br />
photographs of coffins and caskets in all<br />
shapes, sizes, colours and finishes. Many are<br />
traditional in design and construction with<br />
an increasing number of bespoke creations of<br />
great quality, style and beauty.<br />
In recent months I have seen a couple<br />
of stunning coffins of such superb<br />
craftsmanship it seemed a shame to bid them<br />
farewell at the committal! How many times<br />
have we heard folks say they want no fuss for<br />
their funeral and would prefer to be placed<br />
in a bin bag They are most disgruntled to<br />
be told this is not possible because of (apart<br />
from anything else) cremation emissions<br />
from the bin bag. Others, too, believe<br />
a cardboard coffin to be the easiest and<br />
cheapest solution for their farewell journey.<br />
And as we know, this is not always the case.<br />
So, what then do we as consumers or<br />
professionals alike, expect from our coffin<br />
or casket Well, setting aside its principal<br />
function to securely contain a dead body<br />
prior to burial or cremation, a coffin should<br />
be aesthetically pleasing; well designed<br />
and no matter how cheap, appropriately<br />
constructed. No one wants to see bits falling<br />
off at the crem, or the bottom fall out at the<br />
worst possible moment. Fortunately I have<br />
not (as yet) seen this happen; but on more<br />
than one occasion my heart has jumped into<br />
my mouth!<br />
The material of which the coffin is<br />
constructed is also very important. Think for<br />
a moment of the lovely woolly coffins now<br />
widely available. They convey (even to this<br />
flinty old heart) a real sense of nurturing,<br />
of protection and even comfort. They are<br />
very tactile, too, which is so important for<br />
bereaved people. Whenever I see one of these<br />
woolly coffins I instinctively stroke it and<br />
think, “awwwww, isn’t that nice!” Which it<br />
is. A solid wood coffin, beautifully carved,<br />
furnished and polished coffin gives a real<br />
sense of grandeur and opulence. An aesthetic<br />
equally achievable with some of the better<br />
models of laminate coffin. Likewise bamboo<br />
coffins, pods and wicker caskets are beautiful<br />
things, conveying a softer, more natural<br />
impression.<br />
I appreciate families can have what they<br />
want. As I say time and again, that is a<br />
very good thing: some want the all singing<br />
and all dancing solid oak sideboard-esque<br />
craftsman-built coffin, embellished with<br />
solid brass handles, crosses and so on, fully<br />
lined in beautiful oyster satin. Others want<br />
plain simplicity and dignity. Some clients<br />
want a truly unique and personalised coffin<br />
for their unique loved one’s final journey,<br />
and choose a coffin adorned with photos<br />
or images. I think there is something very<br />
special about sitting down with a family<br />
to select a special design or put together a<br />
design from a collection of photographs,<br />
texts or images which adequately sum up the<br />
life ended. Making the personalised coffin a<br />
central feature of the farewell ceremony can<br />
truly benefit the bereaved.<br />
Although they are popular, I still cannot<br />
decide whether or not I like cardboard<br />
coffins (of the plainer type). I find them<br />
rather stark and utilitarian. Why is this I<br />
don’t know. Perhaps it’s because I’m from<br />
a generation still used to a coffin looking<br />
like a coffin. Although having said this I<br />
have seen cardboard coffins covered by batik<br />
cloth throws, and more traditional wooden<br />
coffin covers. One of my FD friends (alas, no<br />
longer trading) commissioned a textile artist<br />
to create a fantastic patchwork cover for<br />
cardboard coffins. This bright, cheerful and<br />
reusable object made from multi-coloured<br />
pieces of recycled fabric proved very popular.<br />
I christened it the ‘Coffin-Cosy’.<br />
It was tactile and cheerful, but never<br />
disguised the reality that beneath it, was the<br />
coffin of a much-loved person. The Coffin-<br />
Cosy was, to my mind, a contemporary take<br />
on the age-old custom of draping a coffin<br />
with a pall: the large, heavy drape completely<br />
covering the coffin. Often purple, coffin palls<br />
were decorated with religious or regimental<br />
symbols. One of the most beautiful I have<br />
seen was midnight blue velvet, decorated<br />
with lots of gold and silver applique stars.<br />
The ancient custom of draping coffins with<br />
flags and standards (think royal, state or<br />
military funerals) remains popular. Like<br />
every other aspect of funeral custom, it has<br />
evolved to include coffin drapes in football<br />
club colours and team emblems. Nothing<br />
in our profession remains unchanged for<br />
long: the wheel of custom and fashion<br />
never stops turning.<br />
Mind you, in recent weeks I have been<br />
hunched in front of the Chapel House telly,<br />
mug of coffee in hand, a plate of biccies at
GEORGE CALLANDER 17<br />
Photo: Tom Oates<br />
my side, watching the History Channel’s<br />
current series of “Grave Trade”, featuring<br />
the work of Thomas Cribb & Sons - a firm<br />
akin to funeral directing royalty for many<br />
East London families. What I enjoy most<br />
about this series is seeing how a big and<br />
busy firm operates. For some reason each<br />
episode is interspersed with footage from a<br />
funerary archaeological dig. Last week the<br />
archaeologists were plying their trade in<br />
the grounds of a now-demolished hospital<br />
where I once plied mine. This week they had<br />
unearthed a huge mediaeval stone coffin in<br />
the grounds of Lincoln Castle.<br />
Although interesting to watch, perhaps<br />
it is just as well stone coffins are rather out<br />
of fashion these days. I hate to think what<br />
it would do to the backs of Darren, Jimmy,<br />
Chris, Colin, Jeff, Iain, Paul and the many,<br />
many other underbearers up and down the<br />
land if they had to lug about stone coffins.<br />
Not to mention the suspension on the<br />
hearse! In the past, stone coffins were de<br />
rigeur for the great and the good of society.<br />
Abbots, Kings, Princes, Nobles and Bishops<br />
were laid in their stone coffin, often sealed<br />
by an elaborately carved stone lid. Examples<br />
of these are easy to spot at many a cathedral<br />
or historical site around the land. I expect<br />
being a hessian-wearing peasant, I would<br />
have been turfed into a simple grave: there<br />
not being enough stone in the quarry to<br />
enrobe this body!<br />
The beauty and artistry of many stone<br />
coffins has survived the centuries and still<br />
tell us their story today. Visit any catacombs<br />
or mausoleum and one can see coffins<br />
stretching back the generations, telling<br />
us their story, too: allowing us to see the<br />
evolution of funeral customs and fashions<br />
down the years. Many of the modern coffins<br />
and caskets we see in the course of our<br />
work are of such a solid construction and<br />
quality, they too, will tell their story to future<br />
generations of funerary historians.<br />
Similarly, with the increase in cremation,<br />
many more coffins and caskets of all<br />
shapes, sizes and materials are transient.<br />
I am a great supporter of the wide range<br />
of coffins, caskets, pods and shrouds<br />
available to us and our clients. I agree the<br />
appearance of the coffin is very important<br />
in the grieving process. Likewise, the<br />
quality of the service we all provide our<br />
clients. However, I never forget the most<br />
important aspect of every funeral process<br />
is the dignity shown to the deceased, and<br />
the consideration and compassion given to<br />
the bereaved people who mourn. This is -<br />
without question - essential.<br />
Now, all this talk of coffins hasn’t helped<br />
me. I still can’t decide in which kind of coffin<br />
I want to make my final journey. What about<br />
a stone coffin No, too expensive and a bit<br />
over the top. What about a solid oak beauty,<br />
furnished with the finest brash handles and<br />
accoutrements No, still too expensive. I am<br />
after all an Aberdonian! I think I have the<br />
solution: what about a stone-effect photo<br />
coffin, draped with a ‘Coffin Cosy’ made<br />
from my trademark fuschia-coloured socks<br />
Surely, this is perfection’s own self More<br />
than that, it will provide a conundrum<br />
for any funerary archaeologist in future<br />
centuries, busy howking up my bones.<br />
The Rev George Callander FRSA is senior minister of the liberal<br />
Christian UK Open Free Church, president of the Society<br />
of Bereavement Practitioners, and a bereavement specialist<br />
practitioner, speaker and trainer. Please visit www.gscallander.com<br />
or www.socbp.org for more information.
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families.<br />
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We speak to many families who have supported us<br />
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COFFIN SPECIAL<br />
Coffin Special<br />
Manufacturers & Suppliers<br />
PH COATE & SON<br />
01823 490249, elizabeth@englishwillowbaskets.co.uk or<br />
www.englishwillowcoffi ns.co.uk<br />
What are your coffin/caskets made from and why<br />
Our coffins our made from willow, a natural product which has the unique<br />
ability to regenerate repeatedly from the same crown for over 30 years, and<br />
provides an attractive and highly sustainable source of material to work with.<br />
Willow coffins are suitable for burial, cremation and green burial sites and we<br />
offer a range of shapes, colours and finishing details for customers to chose from.<br />
How long have you been trading<br />
PH Coate & Son has been working with willow on the Somerset Levels<br />
since 1819. With great attention to detail, each one of our coffins is strongly<br />
made using skills passed down through generations of the Coate family. The<br />
Somerset levels is one of the most important wetland areas in the UK. The<br />
unique landscape provides perfect conditions for growing willow.<br />
What is interesting about your manufacturing methods<br />
Each coffin is handcrafted to order so are made specifically for the person concerned. We use ‘randed’ weave which means they are woven one<br />
strand of willow at a time which gives a really strong weave but with a ‘fine’ look. A ‘wale’ is found around the base of the coffin to add strength<br />
and a border is made around the top of the coffin to give a good strong edge.The willow is plaited around the edge of the lid to give an artistic<br />
touch to the overall look.<br />
TRIBUTES<br />
0845 388 8742 or www.tributes.ltd.uk<br />
What new designs can we expect this year<br />
Following our recent launches of Tribute Heart Keepsakes and Heart Tags our customers have come to expect plenty of new ideas from Tributes<br />
and as always, we are working on a number of new products, but we don’t want to spoil any surprises, so watch this space.<br />
What are your coffin/caskets made from and why<br />
Our coffins are woven from natural willow and bamboo, with cotton calico linings, making them 100 per cent biodegradable. They have a<br />
unique supporting structure, giving them exceptional strength and stability, setting them apart from our competitors and making them popular<br />
with customers who previously may have been reluctant to change from traditional hardwood coffins.<br />
How long have you be trading<br />
Our company celebrates its 20th anniversary this year. We are a creative company<br />
and have been responsible for the invention of a number of innovative products<br />
for the funeral industry, including the Scatter Tube. We’re proud of our long<br />
record of supplying superior quality products at competitive prices and our<br />
excellent customer service.<br />
What is interesting about your<br />
manufacturing methods<br />
We work from design to production, ensuring efficiency,<br />
quality and fair trade, and listen closely to feedback from<br />
customers. This helps us refine designs to reflect the needs of<br />
funeral directors and families, resulting in products that are not<br />
only beautiful and high quality, but easy and efficient to use.
Honouring<br />
a life well-lived<br />
WE NEVER FORGET A FAMILY HAS JUST LOST A LOVED ONE<br />
When someone passes away, it’s not only essential<br />
to remember the life, but to ensure its meaning lights<br />
the way for those who are left behind. Helping families<br />
through this process is what you do best.<br />
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THE SOMERSET WILLOW COMPANY<br />
01278 424003, enquiries@somersetwillow.co.uk<br />
or www.wickerwillowcoffi ns.co.uk<br />
What new designs can we<br />
expect this year<br />
We launched our premium interior set in January of this year;<br />
this consists of a cream frill that is hand stitched into our<br />
willow coffins, along with a matching mattress and pillow<br />
filled with natural hay.<br />
What are your coffin/caskets<br />
made from and why<br />
Our coffin/caskets are made from willow that we grow near<br />
our workshops here in Somerset, a fact which makes our<br />
products extremely environmentally friendly and with a very<br />
low carbon footprint.<br />
How long have you been trading<br />
The Somerset Willow Company is a fourth generation family<br />
business and has been trading for 55 years this year.<br />
What is interesting about your<br />
manufacturing methods<br />
We pride ourselves on the fact that our products are handwoven<br />
here in Somerset, employing local people. Even the<br />
growing and processing of our willow ready for weaving,<br />
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FTP ECOCOFFINS<br />
01584 819981, admin@finetimberproducts.co.uk<br />
or www.ftp-eco-coffi ns.co.uk<br />
What new designs can we expect this year<br />
At the end of March FTP Ecocoffins will be launching a new oval-shape oak veneer<br />
coffin with load-bearing handles, constructed from FSC certified materials, using<br />
reconstituted wood and formaldehyde-free wood adhesive. Three sizes will be available<br />
initially: 5’8”, 6’ and 6’4”.<br />
What are your coffins made from<br />
The great majority of our coffins are woven from environmentally friendly materials such as wicker,<br />
seagrass, water hyacinth, abaca and bamboo. This means that they not only fit our company’s eco credentials<br />
but the coffins are also pleasing to the eye.<br />
How long have you been trading<br />
FTP Ecocoffins has been trading since 2001. Our company was formerly known as Fine Timber Products but we changed the name a few years<br />
back to better reflect the nature of our business.<br />
What is interesting about your manufacturing methods<br />
All of our woven coffins obviously have to be made by hand, which helps to provide employment in poorer parts of the world. We manufacture our<br />
new oak veneer coffin in house near Tenbury Wells, Worcs and it was an interesting challenge given the fact that it is oval shaped.<br />
LT & R VOWLES<br />
01684 592212 or www.ltrvowles.co.uk<br />
What new designs can we expect this year<br />
This year we are developing an exciting range of bespoke coffin showroom and<br />
display furniture. However, we are always open to suggestions for new designs<br />
from the funeral industry.<br />
What are your coffin/caskets made from and why<br />
We carefully source a wide range of traditional materials from solid hardwoods<br />
to veneered fibre boards, as well as offering products in cardboard and natural<br />
materials such as willow, and wool.<br />
How long have you been trading<br />
For 77 years – since 1937.<br />
What is interesting about your manufacturing methods<br />
Manufacturing methods are evolving all the time. Why not visit us at our new showroom facility for a guided factory tour, and see for yourself<br />
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or www.greenfieldprestige.co.uk<br />
What new designs can we expect this year<br />
Our Prestige cardboard coffins are going from strength to strength in<br />
2014 with a unique style and design. The coffins are aesthetically pleasing,<br />
in a range of colours and effects, such as wood grain and floral patterned.<br />
What are your coffin/caskets made from and why<br />
All the coffins are made from cardboard ink and corn starch glue, developed with a fully<br />
biodegradable lining suite.<br />
How long have you be trading<br />
Greenfield Prestige was unveiled at the National <strong>Funeral</strong> Exhibition in June 2013 as a modern approach to the increased demand for<br />
environmentally friendly coffins, however, Greenfield Creations has been trading since 1990, with more than 20 years of building cardboard coffins.<br />
What is interesting about your manufacturing methods<br />
The improved graphic printing technologies means that our coffins look almost identical to a real wooden coffin. They have the look but lots<br />
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COFFIN SPECIAL<br />
Accessory Spotlight<br />
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in Ireland. DJ MacNeice management<br />
and staff endeavour to provide a<br />
deep knowledge of the funeral and<br />
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FOCUS ON TROLLEYS & BIERS<br />
Focus on:<br />
Trolleys & Biers<br />
Trolleys and biers are a necessity when transporting coffins or caskets, and here<br />
LAUREN MORTON identifies the standout designs on offer in 2014<br />
Auden <strong>Funeral</strong> Supplies<br />
PFM Design Consultancy<br />
AR Twigg & Son<br />
funeral bier or trolley can be a funeral<br />
A director’s best friend, making light work<br />
of moving a coffin or casket during a funeral,<br />
and with so many different styles and extras, it<br />
can be difficult to decide which one fits your<br />
needs best. However with current attention<br />
focused on the nation’s obesity, the impact it<br />
has had on the funeral industry has meant a<br />
change of direction.This follows reports from<br />
the Overseas Development Institute which<br />
identified that 64 per cent of the UK adult<br />
population is currently obese, meaning a body<br />
mass index (BMI) of more than 25. Naturally,<br />
as the nation’s weight increases, the typical bier<br />
or trolley no longer does the job adequately.<br />
Auden <strong>Funeral</strong> Supplies, which constantly<br />
strives to offer its clients innovative solutions<br />
to their funeral needs, has developed its<br />
XL range of trolleys to cater to the growing<br />
population. Increasing average weight is a<br />
problem that Auden believes has had funeral<br />
directors reaching more towards a larger,<br />
sturdier trolley that they may not have<br />
considered in the past.<br />
The firm makes its XL trolleys to the<br />
highest specifications, while still ensuring that<br />
they are light and flexible enough for everyday<br />
use.The company explains: “Future proof your<br />
business by investing in a multilevel XL300<br />
and by doing so you get all the additional<br />
features as well as bariatric capability for the<br />
future.” Every XL300 trolley that Auden<br />
produces includes, multi-height functionality,<br />
multi directional wheels available, roll-inroll-out<br />
for use in tight space, extendable side<br />
arms and up to 400kg load capacity.<br />
AR Twigg & Son has continued to expand<br />
its range during a highly productive first few<br />
months of 2014. Building on the success of<br />
its ‘Electro Hydraulic Embalming Trolley’,<br />
introduced last year, the company has now<br />
launched a ‘Manual Hydraulic’ version which<br />
is capable of lifting 45 stones.<br />
With the increasing sizes of caskets and<br />
coffins, AR Twigg has introduced a new<br />
heavy-duty version of its renowned ‘Standard<br />
Lattice Bier’ which is capable of supporting 50<br />
stones. The company says: “To meet similar<br />
needs of crematoria, we have also added a<br />
70 stones Cremator Trolley to our portfolio,<br />
giving the industry a better choice of quality<br />
heavy-duty trolleys at affordable prices. All<br />
new products are made bespoke to individual<br />
customer specifications and this service is<br />
provided at no extra cost.”<br />
Sticking to more traditional methods, PFM<br />
Design Consultancy also creates bespoke biers<br />
to meet the needs of funeral directors. Owner<br />
Peter Moles explains: “All of my biers are built<br />
to order and as I am a one man business with<br />
engineering experience I am able to take on<br />
custom designs for any problems you may have.”<br />
Moles, along with his late wife, established<br />
PFM Design Consultancy in 2010 having<br />
retired the year before, though following an<br />
inundation of enquiries he continues to offer<br />
a variety of biers and a transport trolley to<br />
funeral directors. Catering to the growing<br />
number of woodland burials, Moles adds:<br />
“They are built to order and offer a choice of<br />
two large and two small or four large roller<br />
bearing wheels. Fancy gloss back powdercoated<br />
scroll and steel work, plus a choice of<br />
oak, beech or sappele wooden sub frame and<br />
stretcher. Side rails, roller beds and hydraulic<br />
disc brakes can also be added at extra cost.”<br />
Supplier Listing:<br />
Auden: 01924 0402080 or www.audenfs.com<br />
AR Twigg: 0113 256 1194, sales@artwigg.co.uk<br />
or www.artwigg.co.uk<br />
PFM Design Consultancy: 01476 530632/<br />
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AMERICAN MILITARY FUNERALS 33<br />
A military chaplain seen leading honor guards derived<br />
from the United States Marine Corps as they carry the<br />
casket of General Robert H. Barrow to the place of burial.<br />
The Final<br />
Military funerals have<br />
always offered pomp<br />
and circumstance - it’s<br />
partly why police and fire<br />
departments developed a<br />
similar sense of spectacle<br />
in remembrance.<br />
Here, MICHAEL<br />
NORTHCOTT examines<br />
the nuances of the US<br />
military’s approach<br />
Salute<br />
It is reasonably common knowledge that bosses take the funerals put on for fallen<br />
the US takes the armed forces and their servicemen and women very seriously, too.<br />
people very seriously. Spending on military In 2000, Section 578 of Public Law 106-65<br />
functions is more than any other single of the National Defense Authorization Act,<br />
portion of the federal budget. In 2013, the decreed that if the family of an eligible<br />
government spent $682 billion on it, which veteran of the US Armed Forces requests<br />
was 4.4 per cent of the country’s GDP, and the ‘rendering of honours in a military<br />
39 per cent of the global total that countries funeral’, then an ‘honor guard’ detail of at<br />
spent on on their armed forces.<br />
least two serving members of the military<br />
It stands to reason, then, that military must be in attendance at the ceremony.
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AMERICAN MILITARY FUNERALS<br />
Escort platoons marching during the military funeral of Admiral<br />
Thomas Hinman Moorer in Arlington National Cemetery, 2004.<br />
At the very least, the ceremony must<br />
include the American tradition of the folding<br />
of the national flag to be presented to the<br />
family of the deceased, and also a bugler<br />
(or sound sytem) must play Taps, the US<br />
military’s traditional bugled funereal tune.<br />
Interestingly, the military sometimes has<br />
to call on the services of the Reserve or<br />
National Guard, just to source a bugler,<br />
as there are so few people good enough at<br />
playing the instrument throughout the US.<br />
What makes a<br />
veteran eligible<br />
According to official guidance from the<br />
US Department of Defense (or defence,<br />
to us British):<br />
• Personnel who are on active duty or<br />
‘Selected Reserve’ throughout the Armed<br />
Forces<br />
• Those who were formally on active duty<br />
but have been honourably discharged<br />
through retirement etc.<br />
• Enlisted personnel (below the rank<br />
of commission offi cer, generally people<br />
performing roles that match their own<br />
skills/occupation)<br />
• Anyone who was discharged from<br />
the Armed Forces because of ‘disability<br />
incurred or aggravated’, which is generally<br />
taken to mean injured or put out of action<br />
by injury.<br />
The Old Guard transports the flag-draped casket of the second Sergeant Major of the Army<br />
George W. Dunaway who was buried with full military honors at Arlington National Cemetery.
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AMERICAN MILITARY FUNERALS<br />
“The fl ag is folded in a special folding ceremony by the six honour guards who<br />
carried the casket. It always fi nishes with the stars point up, sometimes shells are<br />
placed in the folds of the fl ag”<br />
Members of the 86th Airlift Wing honor<br />
guard conduct a flag-folding ceremony<br />
at Ramstein Air Base, Germany, 2009.<br />
The types of<br />
ceremony<br />
Standard Honor: A military chaplain for the<br />
family, the coffin or casket draped with the<br />
national flag, sometimes a flyover of fighter<br />
jets in the ‘Missing Man Formation’, a rifle<br />
party tasked with firing a three-volley salute.<br />
Full Honor: All the standard honours are<br />
included, and in addition a riderless horse<br />
follows the caissons and limbers in the<br />
procession - this one is for commanding<br />
officers. For general officers, depending on<br />
the number of stars they have to their rank,<br />
there are varying numbers of guns from 11 to<br />
17 gun salute. Furthermore, a military band<br />
will play.<br />
Armed Forces military funeral: This is a<br />
special form of the military funeral reserved<br />
solely for the President of the United States<br />
(as commander-in-chief of the Armed<br />
Forces), the Secretary of State for Defense,<br />
the Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, and<br />
any officers who had been granted ‘multipleservice<br />
command’. Presidents are honoured<br />
with a 21-gun salute using artillery.<br />
In most cases, the flag is folded in<br />
a special folding ceremony by the six<br />
honour guards who carried the casket. It<br />
always finishes with the stars pointing up,<br />
sometimes shells are placed in the folds<br />
of the flag, and when the ceremony is<br />
complete, it is presented to the family of the<br />
deceased. Whoever is doing the presenting<br />
of the flag utters the following words:<br />
“On behalf of the President of the United<br />
States, the United States (Army, Marine<br />
Corps, Navy, Air Force or Coast Guard ),<br />
and a grateful nation, please accept this fl ag<br />
as a symbol of our appreciation for your<br />
loved one’s honorable and faithful service.”<br />
There’s no doubt that the wars of the<br />
last 15 years have provided impetus to<br />
honour veterans properly, and policies such<br />
as standardising the wording (as above),<br />
providing a free-phone number for families to<br />
request military honours, and the funding to<br />
perform the honours, are a way of celebrating<br />
the bravery of the Armed Forces as well as<br />
giving the deceased a dignified send-off.<br />
If there’s one thing the Americans do well,<br />
it is grandeur, and no less so than in these<br />
gravitas-laden events.
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COMPANY PROFILE<br />
Larger<br />
than Life<br />
BATESVILLE CASKET COMPANY, manufacturer of burial caskets, tells FST<br />
how it can benefit funeral directors here in the UK<br />
Tell us about Batesville<br />
Casket Company<br />
Batesville Casket Company is a manufacturer<br />
of burial caskets, founded at the turn of the<br />
20 th century in the Midwest of the United<br />
States in an area where high-quality hardwoods<br />
were plentiful. The business originally started<br />
manufacturing coffins, but transitioned to<br />
manufacturing wood caskets as this larger,<br />
more ornate product category became the<br />
more dominate choice of consumers in<br />
North America. Batesville Coffin Company,<br />
as it was known then, was purchased by the<br />
Hillenbrand family in 1906. The Hillenbrand<br />
family founded Hillenbrand Industries whose<br />
subsidiaries also included a world-renowned<br />
hospital bed and equipment manufacturer,<br />
Hill-Rom. Through extensive investments<br />
in world class manufacturing facilities and<br />
expansion of an advanced distribution system,<br />
the Hillenbrands grew Batesville throughout<br />
the 20th Century into the largest casket<br />
company in the world. Batesville Casket UK<br />
is the British subsidiary of Batesville and is<br />
located within the small Derbyshire market<br />
town of Castle Donington. With the help<br />
of our UK distribution partner, we have<br />
built long-term relationships with funeral<br />
directors, funeral associations and many funeral<br />
professionals throughout the United Kingdom,<br />
the Republic of Ireland and Europe.<br />
Tell us about your caskets<br />
Superior craftsmanship, the highest quality<br />
materials and constant innovation have<br />
become the hallmarks of the Batesville brand.<br />
Batesville offers two types of premium caskets:<br />
first, hardwood caskets include a variety<br />
of species: mahogany, cherry, maple, oak,<br />
poplar, and pine, all sourced in the United<br />
States. These caskets are the choice of families<br />
who appreciate and cherish the qualities of<br />
natural wood. The same warmth, beauty and<br />
personality it brings to fine furniture makes it<br />
ideally suitable for the construction of quality<br />
caskets. Second, metal caskets include those<br />
made from bronze, copper, stainless, and<br />
carbon steel. These caskets are known for their<br />
unique finishes. Bronze and copper are among<br />
the most durable and beautiful of metals; both<br />
are naturally non-rusting. Stainless and carbon<br />
steel caskets come in a variety of grades, gauges,<br />
styles, and finishes.<br />
Why should a funeral<br />
director choose you<br />
when helping families<br />
with their needs<br />
When a loved one dies, families must choose<br />
an appropriate container to hold that loved<br />
one before, during and after the funeral. While<br />
many UK families have traditionally chosen<br />
coffins for this purpose, another unique option<br />
is a Batesville casket. Different from traditional<br />
coffins, caskets are larger, more substantial<br />
vessels made from the finest materials with<br />
unique features to help memorialise the lives<br />
of loved ones. For over 100 years, Batesville<br />
has manufactured some of the finest caskets<br />
available anywhere in the world. Batesville<br />
has always taken immense pride in fulfilling<br />
the needs of funeral directors as they serve<br />
families in their hour of greatest need, and we<br />
never forget that each of our products plays an<br />
important role in representing a precious life of<br />
a loved one. Those funeral homes who wish to<br />
offer their families the very best and include a<br />
full range of options should consider Batesville.<br />
We take great care in the manufacturing of<br />
each and every casket and are committed to<br />
ensuring those products are provided to the<br />
family with the highest standards of quality<br />
and service. To fulfil that commitment,<br />
Batesville exclusively sells and distributes its<br />
caskets through a carefully chosen network<br />
– professional funeral directors. <strong>Funeral</strong><br />
directors have been selected for their ability<br />
to provide the right product for each family’s<br />
particular situation and explain our exclusive<br />
features. <strong>Funeral</strong> directors have enduring<br />
commitments to serving their communities<br />
and a comprehensive understanding of serving<br />
families’ needs.<br />
You offer innovative<br />
merchandising solutions<br />
and implementation<br />
strategies, how does this<br />
benefit funeral directors<br />
With a focus on meeting everyday business<br />
challenges, Batesville draws upon its 100<br />
years of experience with the funeral process<br />
to provide solutions that not only include the<br />
highest quality products, but also the tools<br />
needed to clearly convey the value of the<br />
products and services funeral directors provide.<br />
By taking the time to understand the specific<br />
needs of each business we serve, Batesville<br />
can help funeral directors meet the family’s<br />
expectations from the arrangement conference,<br />
to the product selection process, to the funeral<br />
service. We do this by providing funeral<br />
directors with the right product assortment<br />
and point-of-sale materials to ensure sufficient<br />
choices and communicate important features<br />
to help families express their love, devotion,<br />
values, and beliefs in ways to honour the lives<br />
of loved ones.<br />
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ALEX JAMES<br />
Out With<br />
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Celebrating the<br />
life of a loved one<br />
is a commendable<br />
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ALEX JAMES, there is<br />
no need to hop on the<br />
bandwagon if clients<br />
would prefer a more<br />
solemn affair<br />
Whilst working in a palliative care<br />
setting as a family support, my<br />
role was to support families facing death<br />
of a loved one, and in particular children<br />
facing the death of a parent. The most<br />
beneficial relationships I formed with<br />
people were those that developed over a<br />
period of up to two years, and after death,<br />
until the remaining family were able to<br />
work towards manageability themselves.<br />
During the shared journeys I would<br />
eventually talk to the dying about their<br />
ending. This included thoughts feelings,<br />
and hopes about the future – a future in<br />
which they would not be present.<br />
Much of my work centred around how I<br />
might capture the essence of an individual<br />
so that their family might feel a bond to<br />
them even after death, and so that the<br />
children might have a way of knowing<br />
them, to grow up feeling some kind of<br />
transcendental link to their deceased parent.<br />
By involving the children in some of<br />
the pre-bereavement journey, they would<br />
have a base of understanding for when<br />
the inevitable happened, and a place<br />
from which to continue with their life.<br />
We would talk about many things whilst<br />
sitting together; early on in kitchens over<br />
cups of tea; in my offi ce at work; later at<br />
bedsides, whilst the children drew pictures<br />
and wrote stories. There were tears and<br />
laughter too. I felt a deep sense of privilege<br />
for being trusted and allowed to share<br />
those precious times with each families.<br />
I’m telling you this because I want<br />
you to understand my work and my<br />
relationship with my clients. Talking<br />
about the future became easier as our<br />
relationships developed, and talking<br />
about final arrangements also came to feel<br />
comfortable as a topic, sad though it was<br />
for all of us. I remember once sitting in<br />
a client’s garden, a young mum with two<br />
small children. It was a beautiful sunny<br />
afternoon and as her husband made tea<br />
and the children helped to prepare a tray<br />
of cakes, we looked at a brochure together:<br />
a collection of coffi ns. The lady had asked<br />
me to bring it with me so that hey might<br />
choose hers together.<br />
“Pink is your colour,” her husband<br />
chuckled as he spotted the bright fuchsia<br />
pink casket on the page before us. “Oh my
ALEX JAMES 43<br />
God this is unreal...tea Alex” As we sat<br />
in the sunshine, the children on their<br />
climbing frame, bees buzzing around us<br />
and the smell of freshly cut grass in the<br />
air, it didn’t seem possible that such an<br />
ordinary afternoon could facilitate such an<br />
extraordinary conversation. Things seemed<br />
so normal and yet there we were planning<br />
her funeral together. The pink coffin was<br />
something she connected with - “you<br />
should all wear something pink,” she said,<br />
“and afterwards have pink champagne or<br />
something - make it a celebration of my<br />
life, not a sombre sad event. What music<br />
should I have Any ideas Alex” She spoke<br />
with an ease that might have been present<br />
if she were planning her 40 th birthday, not<br />
her final farewell.<br />
Another client, Tim, was 30, he had four<br />
children, and I grew to know the family<br />
well over the last year of his life. One<br />
morning shortly before he died he asked<br />
me whether I thought it was mean that he<br />
didn’t like the idea of everyone going down<br />
the pub after his funeral without him. He<br />
felt angry that life was cheating him out of<br />
what he perceived would be his. “I want<br />
my parents to arrange my funeral,” he<br />
said, “and I don’t know about the children<br />
attending - they’re very young - but I’ll<br />
leave that to Helen. I just want it to be a<br />
quiet, sad affair with space for Helen and<br />
my parents to say whatever they want.<br />
Actually I don’t even mind if its only them<br />
who attend. Does this sound selfish Alex”<br />
I can honestly say that most of my clients<br />
have been like Tim, but somehow they or<br />
their families got caught up in the new<br />
‘celebration of life’ services that seemed to<br />
be the way.<br />
It is a growing phenomenon that<br />
families want to ‘keep things light’, apply<br />
a little humour, and make reference to<br />
how the deceased ‘wouldn’t have wanted<br />
a really sad affair’. It is as though we have<br />
recognised man’s failure to overcome<br />
mortality and decided: ‘If we can’t control<br />
it, let’s make a party out of it. Let’s<br />
provide a fun day of commemoration<br />
with bands and banners, and caskets with<br />
“I didn’t seem possible that such an ordinary<br />
afternoon could facilitate such an extraordinary<br />
conversation. Things seemed so normal and yet there<br />
we were planning her funeral together.”<br />
wonderfully painted murals, and lanterns<br />
and balloons and pink champagne. Let’s<br />
even write our own epitaphs so as to make<br />
the congregation laugh rather than cry.<br />
Let’s put the fun into funerals - out with<br />
the black car and traditional sadness, and<br />
in with the smiles.’<br />
But stop for a moment. Whilst I<br />
believe we should have choices (and of<br />
course there’s nothing wrong with a more<br />
personal final goodbye), I also believe that<br />
most people aren’t too enthusiastic about<br />
throwing parties or tossing tradition out<br />
of the window. Many still want to feel safe<br />
in the traditional oak, carried by the men<br />
in black. They want to know their loved<br />
ones are sad to see them go.<br />
My view, therefore, is we shouldn’t race<br />
towards change too quickly. There’s room<br />
for everything, and there is no need to<br />
embrace the carnivalesque when it comes<br />
to funerals - not if clients would prefer<br />
something more solemn. We should<br />
facilitate what individuals want and guide<br />
them through it, give them time, and<br />
above all tell them that there is nothing<br />
uptight about opting out of the jazz and<br />
humour. Death is sad, after all.
SALLY WALTON 45<br />
Getting creative<br />
with coffins<br />
The general public are getting savvier about death and funerals, and the sheer<br />
amount of choice is helping to make the conversation more accessible and less<br />
frightening. We need not be as much a ‘hideaway’ profession as in the past<br />
How much choice can you give to<br />
families Nowadays there seems to be<br />
an inordinate amount of choice in transport,<br />
floral tributes and of course, coffins. The<br />
market is awash with new innovations all the<br />
time, and new ranges and variations arrive in<br />
the pipeline constantly. From cardboard and<br />
animal shapes, to banana leaf and sea grass.<br />
Even if you have a set catalogue at your<br />
premises, how can each business expect to<br />
show everything that is available At our<br />
small business, we hold catalogues and<br />
can usually offer whatever the customer<br />
demands, but even we wouldn’t have all<br />
that on show at once. I think some families<br />
do not wish to have too much choice, as it<br />
makes it harder to reach a final decision.<br />
I heard the other day that a family arrived<br />
at a funeral home and asked about coffin<br />
choices because they had a particular one in<br />
mind, and the funeral arranger told them<br />
that the company did not offer it. How<br />
is that possible in this day and age The<br />
internet or even a phone call to a well-known<br />
manufacturer could have given them a price<br />
and delivery time, and they could have given<br />
the family exactly what was asked for. We<br />
all know the customer is right and in the<br />
funeral profession we also know that the<br />
family have to make their own choices to<br />
help them in the future with their memories<br />
of the funeral, and service we give them.<br />
We sell a few creatively designed coffins<br />
and one in particular sticks in my mind. It<br />
was a mother’s choice for her son and he had<br />
been a James Bond fan. We told the coffin<br />
company that he liked the Aston Martin<br />
car and the 007 logo with the gun, and<br />
after a few design tweaks and changes it was<br />
perfect. In fact, I hadn’t realised that after the<br />
initial design had arrived, which had a blue<br />
background, our company boss had been<br />
playing on his computer with the colour. He<br />
had printed off another one, which I thought<br />
had come from the coffin company. Well, of<br />
course, I showed this to the family, they said<br />
it was perfect and then I realised my mistake,<br />
hoping that it was possible to match it. We<br />
did manage to match it, and the boy’s mother<br />
was so impressed that she also ordered a<br />
Cremated Remains Casket to match.<br />
I am currently just ordering one with palm<br />
trees on it for another family and have also<br />
tweaked the design, adding extra palm trees.<br />
His wife had a white one with pink daisies.<br />
Each family must be given the chance to make<br />
their choices, and we must strive to offer these<br />
choices. Coffin manufacturers these days can<br />
produce them in the shape of a skate board,<br />
an aeroplane, a train or even an elephant.<br />
How do you display your coffins Do<br />
you just have a book with pictures, or do<br />
you have actual coffins in a display area, or<br />
even miniature size replicas The picture<br />
above is a coffin manufacturer in Kenya,<br />
but the premises are not quite up to our UK<br />
standards. I don’t think our workers would<br />
be happy out of doors in the public eye! We<br />
are still very much a hide-away profession<br />
in this country. Things are changing slowly<br />
and members of the public are beginning<br />
to ask questions and want to know what<br />
the process of dying involves. Choice in<br />
everything including the appearance of the<br />
coffin, will help to dismantle that taboo.<br />
Sally Walton is national<br />
president of the British<br />
Institute of <strong>Funeral</strong><br />
Directors (BIFD). For<br />
further information about<br />
the organisation, please<br />
visit www.bifd.org.uk
46<br />
OBITUARIES<br />
Bob Crow<br />
Image: Jarvin Jarle Vines<br />
Tony Benn<br />
Image: Isujosh<br />
Clarissa Dickson<br />
Image: Mark Robinson<br />
11 March<br />
Bob Crow (aged 52)<br />
Born in east London, Bob Crow became<br />
interested in trade unionism in 1977 after<br />
he joined London Transport. He became<br />
a local trade union representative in 1983<br />
and then not long after the national officer<br />
for trackworks in the National Union<br />
of Railwaymen. Crow quickly became a<br />
powerful voice in the then 80,000 strong<br />
union, and though he took a strong stance<br />
on disputes, often reached agreements<br />
before a walk out. Crow was a character<br />
rarely disliked and was always happy to<br />
negotiate but the trade unionist had his<br />
limits and would occasionally struggle to<br />
contain himself. Keen on defending the<br />
rights of low paid workers, Crow was met<br />
with opposition voices who asked why they<br />
should concern themselves with unreliable<br />
workers. Nonetheless he continued to fight<br />
for them. As the leader of the RMT, he was<br />
not unfamiliar with opposition throughout<br />
his career, often bearing the brunt of names<br />
such as ‘the most hated man in Britain’<br />
and even physical attacks. He was a regular<br />
on BBC Question Time, and many will<br />
know Crow from this past February when<br />
ticket offices were closed across the London<br />
Underground, leaving the Underground<br />
network in chaos for two days. A second<br />
strike was called off after Transport for<br />
London agreed to talks. Crow died of a<br />
heart attack just a couple of weeks later.<br />
14 March<br />
Tony Benn (aged 88)<br />
Tony Benn was a key figure in left-wing<br />
politics for more than 50 years, following<br />
in his father William Wedgewood Benn’s<br />
Rest in peace<br />
A tribute to some well-known individuals who have<br />
sadly passed away during the last month<br />
footsteps. Tony studied philosophy, politics<br />
and economics at New College, Oxford<br />
before serving in the RAF during the<br />
Second World War and then working as<br />
BBC radio producer upon his return. Benn<br />
entered parliament through a by-election<br />
for Bristol South East in 1950 and was<br />
a conventional centre-right backbencher<br />
until the death of his eldest brother meant<br />
that he would become Lord Stansgate,<br />
meaning that he had to give up his seat<br />
in the House of Commons. Benn fought<br />
for a bill which would allow people to<br />
renounce hereditary titles, although the<br />
Lords voted against, leading Benn to<br />
develop a reputation as an advocate of<br />
constitutional reform. Following his father’s<br />
death and his switch of support from<br />
Gaitskell to Wilson in 1959, Benn was able<br />
to renounce his title with support from<br />
the Conservative government, winning a<br />
by-election he returned to the Commons.<br />
Later, Benn was appointed postmaster<br />
general, a move which saw him try, and<br />
fail, to have the Queen’s head removed<br />
from stamps. Benn lived a very varied<br />
political career, championing a referendum<br />
on Britain’s membership of the European<br />
Economic Community and standing<br />
against Denis Healey for deputy leadership<br />
in 1981. He retired in 2001 famously<br />
claiming that he wanted “to devote more<br />
time to politics”, and was a well known<br />
supporter of major anti-war protests.<br />
15 March<br />
Clarissa Dickson Wright<br />
(aged 66)<br />
Clarissa Dickson Wright is best known<br />
as one of the Two Fat Ladies, presenting<br />
along with Jennifer Paterson between<br />
1996 and 1999. The cooking show, which<br />
highlighted the duo’s love of rich food,<br />
saw them travel around in a motorcycle<br />
and sidecar, a far cry from her days at<br />
University College London where she<br />
studied law. Having been raised as a<br />
Roman Catholic throughout her life,<br />
Dickson Wright was, at the time, the<br />
youngest woman to be called to the bar<br />
at the age of just 21, but her life growing<br />
up was not easy and she had described her<br />
childhood as an unhappy one. Later in life<br />
she battled with alcoholism after the death<br />
of her mother in 1975, ending her career<br />
as a lawyer before reinventing herself<br />
as a cook at Books for Cooks in central<br />
London. The Cooks Bookshop was her<br />
next venture after Books for Cooks came<br />
to an end, still delving into the television<br />
world with Clarissa and the Countryman<br />
between 2000 and 2003; however she<br />
declared herself bankrupt in 2004.<br />
Dickson Wright wrote her autobiography
OBITUARIES 47<br />
L’Wren Scott<br />
Image: Solmaz A<br />
James Rebhorn<br />
Image: David Skankbone<br />
Patrice Wymore<br />
in 2007 entitled Spilling the Beans and<br />
throughout her career also produced<br />
several books including Game Cookbook<br />
in 2004 and A Sunday Roast in 2002.<br />
17 March<br />
L’Wren Scott (aged 49)<br />
Fashion designer and other half to rocker<br />
Mick Jagger, L’Wren Scott was an influential<br />
force in the high fashion industry.<br />
Throughout her career, the former model<br />
joined forces with top brands, most recently<br />
Banana Republic who she worked with to<br />
make her ranges more affordable to the<br />
masses, pulling away from her more couture<br />
pieces which would sell for thousands.<br />
Scott also recently finished a collaboration<br />
with make-up artist Bobbi Brown, with<br />
the pair creating a cosmetics range entitled<br />
Bobbi Brown X L’Wren Scott including<br />
mascara and an award winning gel eyeliner.<br />
The Utah born stylist and designer saw<br />
her creations adorn the likes of Nicole<br />
Kidman, Sarah Jessica Parker and Angelina<br />
Jolie since the birth of her company<br />
in 2006. However, she was reportedly<br />
struggling under a pile of debt at the time<br />
of her death, an issue that has been at the<br />
centre of speculations as being the reason<br />
behind her suicide at just 49 years old.<br />
21 March<br />
James Rebhorn (Aged 65)<br />
Actor James Rebhorn was known for roles<br />
in films and television, in a career spanning<br />
more than 50 years, starring in films such as<br />
Independence Day in 1996, The Talented<br />
Mr Ripley in 1999 and Meet the Parents<br />
in 2000. He was well known on the small<br />
screen as well, having appeared in Boston<br />
Legal, The Practice, The Good Wife,<br />
Law and Order and Seinfeld throughout<br />
his career. Originally starting out as a<br />
theatre actor, gaining experience following<br />
his graduation from the University of<br />
Springfield where he studied political<br />
science, Rebhorn went on to study acting<br />
at Columbia University. He appeared in<br />
daytime soaps including The Doctors,<br />
Guiding Light and As the World Turns<br />
but it wasn’t until the 80’s that Rebhorn<br />
became a well-known name. In 1983 he<br />
starred in Silkwood with Meryl Streep and<br />
in 1991 he was in drama Regarding Henry<br />
with Harrison Ford. Other notable works<br />
include Lorenzo’s Oil in 1992 and in the<br />
same year, Scent of a Woman, which went<br />
on to win awards at the Oscars. The Game<br />
in 1997 and Far From Heaven in 2002<br />
were also films he became known for and<br />
most recently starred as the father of Claire<br />
Danes character, Carrie Mathison in the hit<br />
American series Homeland. He passed away<br />
after finally losing a long battle with skin<br />
cancer.<br />
22 March<br />
Patrice Wymore (aged 87)<br />
Patrice Wymore was a dancer, singer and<br />
actor, however is best known as the third<br />
wife to Hollywood actor Errol Flynn.<br />
The pair starred in Rocky Mountain<br />
together in 1950 and at the time Wymore<br />
was 23 and Flynn was 41 years old. She<br />
appeared in musicals such as Hold it!<br />
in 1948 and Tea for Two in 1950, this<br />
was followed by The Big Trees and She’s<br />
Working Her Way Through College in<br />
1952. Typecast as the girl next door and<br />
given supporting roles, Wymore starred<br />
in She’s Back on Broadway the following<br />
year but went into what is described as<br />
‘semi-retirement’ in which she spent several<br />
years with a close eye on husband Flynn<br />
who, at the time had a drug and alcohol<br />
addiction. Following her husband’s death<br />
at just the age of 50, Wymore had a small<br />
role in Ocean’s Eleven in 1960 before<br />
retiring to a 2,000 acre ranch in Jamaica<br />
that had been left to her by Flynn.<br />
30 March<br />
Kate O’Mara (aged 74)<br />
Best known for her role as Joan Collins’s<br />
sister on Dynasty, Kate O’Mara comes<br />
from a family committed to showbiz as<br />
five generations of her family have been<br />
involved in the business either as actors or<br />
as managers. Her career took many forms,<br />
in both theatre, television and film and, as a<br />
dedicated Shakespearean, gave performances<br />
in plays such as A Midsummer Night’s<br />
Dream and Much Ado About Nothing.<br />
O’Mara also took on other major<br />
performances such as Mrs Cheveley in<br />
Oscar Wilde’s An Ideal Husband however,<br />
though she built a promising stage career<br />
she was more known by her television roles<br />
including The Brothers in 1975, Howards’<br />
Way in 1989 and Crossroads in 2003. Her<br />
film career wasn’t as prominent as her stage<br />
or television presence, her debut was in<br />
1956 in Vernon Sewell’s Home and Away<br />
and she went on to appear in films such<br />
as The Horror of Frankenstein and The<br />
Tamarind Seed in the seventies. Throughout<br />
her career she wrote two novels, Game<br />
Plan: A Woman’s Survival Kit in 1990<br />
and Vamp Until Ready in 2003. In 2008<br />
O’Mara enjoyed success in a Lunch with<br />
Marlene at the New End in Hampstead<br />
before starring in ITV’s Benidorm, in 2012.<br />
She passed away following a short illness.
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YOUR STORY<br />
Your Story<br />
JOANNE HUTSBY, The Eastwood <strong>Funeral</strong> Partnership, Nottingham<br />
Tell us about The Eastwood<br />
<strong>Funeral</strong> Partnership<br />
We’re based on the Nottinghamshire/<br />
Derbyshire border and have four funeral<br />
homes at Eastwood, Kimberley, Heanor<br />
and Stapleford – all within a few miles<br />
of each other. In total there are 15 of us,<br />
including the four partners, myself and<br />
my parents Barry and Elaine Hutsby, and<br />
Anthony Topley, whose father-in-law Jack<br />
Gillott founded Gillotts <strong>Funeral</strong> <strong>Service</strong>,<br />
our Heanor funeral home. My sister Alison<br />
also works in the business. We’ve embraced<br />
a lot of the options to personalise a funeral<br />
that have become available in the last few<br />
years. In the past month we’ve used a Morris<br />
Minor hearse, a vintage ambulance and also<br />
transported a coffin to the crematorium<br />
on a tractor trailer. We have quite a large<br />
coffin range – all of our veneered and solid<br />
coffins come from Steve Soult, whose factory<br />
is only eight miles away, so we can offer a<br />
wide range of options which are produced<br />
to order. We have a great relationship with<br />
the team there, and we enjoy giving them<br />
a challenge when a client is looking for<br />
something a bit different.<br />
Why did you decide to<br />
become a funeral director<br />
Well I tried not to! I went off to university<br />
with no intention of becoming involved with<br />
the business, but towards the end of my time<br />
there I realised that what was happening<br />
back at home was more interesting and<br />
relevant to me than what was on offer in a<br />
lot of the so-called graduate professions. So<br />
within weeks of graduating, I started work<br />
at our Stapleford funeral home. I’d already<br />
spent time in the summer holidays working<br />
in the business, either in the office or washing<br />
cars and fitting coffins, so I was already fairly<br />
familiar with what the job entailed.<br />
What do you personally<br />
do for each funeral<br />
Our ethos is to try and ensure that the same<br />
person follows a funeral through from start<br />
to finish, so when I arrange a funeral with a<br />
family, I try and ensure that I’m their point<br />
of contact throughout the proceedings and<br />
I’m there on the day to make sure everything<br />
goes smoothly.<br />
In addition to being a funeral director, one<br />
of my many roles is head of logistics, so my<br />
first job of the day is to plan what everyone is<br />
doing that day to make sure everything and<br />
everyone is where they need to be at the right<br />
time. So while the majority of the funerals we<br />
conduct are handled by my colleagues, I have<br />
the satisfaction of knowing that I’ve helped to<br />
ensure that each one goes smoothly.<br />
How do you feel<br />
your 24-hour service<br />
benefits families<br />
It is vital to families who lose someone at<br />
home and I’m always amazed when people<br />
– even professionals we work with such as<br />
doctors and ministers – say that they’ll ‘leave<br />
a message on the answerphone’. We’ve never<br />
had an answerphone! As a fairly small firm<br />
our response time is very good – we aim to<br />
get to the house within an hour of the family<br />
contacting us and it’s often quicker than<br />
that. Sometimes it’s not the actual transfer of<br />
the deceased that’s important to the family,<br />
but the reassurance that comes from having<br />
someone arrive who can explain their next<br />
steps and give them some basic information<br />
and guidance. We also go to great lengths to<br />
ensure that our on-call staff has information<br />
to hand about all of the funerals we are<br />
dealing with, so that clients or members<br />
of the public who have a query can get an<br />
answer whenever they ring us.<br />
What advice would you<br />
give to someone entering<br />
the funeral profession<br />
Try not to make assumptions about people<br />
or circumstances, because you’ll probably be<br />
wrong. This job teaches you a lot about the<br />
human race and how differently each of us<br />
reacts to stressful situations. You need to give<br />
yourself time to learn to read people - I’ve<br />
been doing this job for nearly 20 years and<br />
I’m still learning.<br />
Do you have any plans to<br />
expand in the future<br />
We have plans in the pipeline for an<br />
additional funeral home and I’m looking<br />
forward to the challenges and opportunities<br />
that will bring.<br />
If you would like to appear on this page, please send an email to Lauren Morton at laurenmorton@funeralservicetimes.co.uk
Remembering<br />
a baby<br />
Every year in the UK one in four parents will<br />
lose their baby during pregnancy or birth.<br />
Tommy’s exists to help bereaved parents and to give them hope for the future.<br />
We fund medical research into the causes and prevention of miscarriage,<br />
premature birth and stillbirth.<br />
Our goal is to halve the number of babies who are lost during pregnancy<br />
or birth by 2030.<br />
We are here for mums and dads at every stage of their journey.<br />
From bereavement counselling or a friendly chat, to fundraising support or<br />
discussing our research.<br />
‘The only thing that kept me going in the early days<br />
was knowing that I could talk to Tommy’s and that I<br />
was doing something positive in my babies’ memory.’<br />
‘Knowing that my baby didn’t die in vain and that<br />
I was helping to fund research to help prevent this<br />
happening to others gave me great comfort.’<br />
Please let any parents visiting you<br />
know that Tommy’s is here to help.<br />
They can visit our website<br />
www.tommys.org/inmemory<br />
or call Emma on 0800 0147 800<br />
w: tommys.org/inmemory<br />
e: jbrewin@tommys.org<br />
t: 020 7398 3450<br />
Registered charity number 1060508 and SCO39280