Domestic Violence Counseling Manual - Hot Peach Pages
Domestic Violence Counseling Manual - Hot Peach Pages Domestic Violence Counseling Manual - Hot Peach Pages
experience. Counselors should also be careful not to treat the counselee as too “special.” In our desire to be helpful, sensitive, and accepting, we may isolate them even further, thereby reinforcing their sense of being different and alone. We may also steer them away from the incest experience because of our own discomfort or feelings of inadequacy as a counselor. Once again, this is another reason you must think about your reactions to these hard issues before you start counseling, not in the middle of a session. Counseling Significant Others: Significant others may be a friend, relative, partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse of the victim. They may be facing their own problems in coming to terms with the situation of the victim. Keep in mind that they may also be the actual victim masquerading as a significant other. The “my friend has a problem” line is not uncommon. Some issues that significant others may face are: • Anger, desire for revenge • Feelings of guilt or responsibility • Feelings of disgust or frustration • Feeling of fear, shock, or denial • Not knowing how to help the victim or what to say to her The best thing that you can do for a significant other is to educate them. Dispel their myths and stereotypes and teach them how to listen so that they can be there for their loved one in a constructive and helpful manner. 56-56
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- Page 13 and 14: • Verbally abusive, threatening,
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- Page 21 and 22: Ultimately, domestic violence is on
- Page 23 and 24: STATISTICS (from the handbook Sayin
- Page 25 and 26: MENTAL PREPERATION When someone exp
- Page 27 and 28: Threat to “turn her in” Loss of
- Page 29 and 30: SECTION 5 LEGAL & MEDICAL PROCEDURE
- Page 31 and 32: issues and domestic violence; they
- Page 33 and 34: A Protection Order... • Has the a
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- Page 49 and 50: show how she is really feeling. Let
- Page 51 and 52: the first weeks after an assault, p
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experience. Counselors should also be careful not to treat the counselee as too “special.” In our desire<br />
to be helpful, sensitive, and accepting, we may isolate them even further, thereby reinforcing their sense<br />
of being different and alone. We may also steer them away from the incest experience because of our<br />
own discomfort or feelings of inadequacy as a counselor. Once again, this is another reason you must<br />
think about your reactions to these hard issues before you start counseling, not in the middle of a session.<br />
<strong>Counseling</strong> Significant Others:<br />
Significant others may be a friend, relative, partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse of the victim. They<br />
may be facing their own problems in coming to terms with the situation of the victim. Keep in mind that<br />
they may also be the actual victim masquerading as a significant other. The “my friend has a problem”<br />
line is not uncommon. Some issues that significant others may face are:<br />
• Anger, desire for revenge<br />
• Feelings of guilt or responsibility<br />
• Feelings of disgust or frustration<br />
• Feeling of fear, shock, or denial<br />
• Not knowing how to help the victim or what to say to her<br />
The best thing that you can do for a significant other is to educate them. Dispel their myths and<br />
stereotypes and teach them how to listen so that they can be there for their loved one in a constructive and<br />
helpful manner.<br />
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