Domestic Violence Counseling Manual - Hot Peach Pages
Domestic Violence Counseling Manual - Hot Peach Pages Domestic Violence Counseling Manual - Hot Peach Pages
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BEFORE YOU START COUNSELING… Before you start counseling you need to take some time to understand yourself and your own prejudices. Everyone has prejudices and biases that they must address in order to be a neutral and supportive counselor. Some of the possible issues that you will face as a counselor are… • Domestic Violence • Incest • Sexual Assault • Rape • Sexual Harassment • Child Abuse • STDs, HIV/AIDS • Birth-control, condoms • Drug/Alcohol use/abuse • Pre-marital sex Take a few hours and really think about your personal history with these issues. Perhaps some of these areas have been a part of your life, or the life of someone you know. When a story comes to mind, go over it in detail with yourself, or talk to someone else about it, so that you are not surprised if counseling someone else triggers this memory. When counseling you do not want the session to be about you and your past, but about the past, present, and future of your counselee. Therefore it is essential that you deal with your own issues prior to beginning your role as a counselor. WHAT A COUNSELEE SHOULD EXPECT OF YOU: • To listen without interruption and judgment to her story • To help her identify her feelings about the abuse, the abuser, and herself • To understand and identify the extreme danger she has been in, and could face again • To guide her in learning about her rights and resources available to her • To get her to identify her own inner strength and courage • To identify her power to live without violence and seek her own goals • To help her understand that it is the abuser who is responsible for the violence • To assist her in building her self-esteem and empowering herself WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT FROM A COUNSELEE: Trauma and shock of any kind, especially following abuse, affects people in different ways; some women may laugh and make jokes, while others may be hostile. Add to that, the fact that everyone has their own reaction and coping style, and it is easy to see that there are many different types of women you may come across in your counseling. The following is a list of some of the main types to help you in adapting. Please note that these are not set in stone and most women will not fit neatly into one category. These are meant to help you in your counseling, not limit you. 1. Women who are very nervous. 47-56
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BEFORE YOU START COUNSELING…<br />
Before you start counseling you need to take some time to understand yourself and your own prejudices.<br />
Everyone has prejudices and biases that they must address in order to be a neutral and supportive<br />
counselor. Some of the possible issues that you will face as a counselor are…<br />
• <strong>Domestic</strong> <strong>Violence</strong><br />
• Incest<br />
• Sexual Assault<br />
• Rape<br />
• Sexual Harassment<br />
• Child Abuse<br />
• STDs, HIV/AIDS<br />
• Birth-control, condoms<br />
• Drug/Alcohol use/abuse<br />
• Pre-marital sex<br />
Take a few hours and really think about your personal history with these issues. Perhaps some of these<br />
areas have been a part of your life, or the life of someone you know. When a story comes to mind, go<br />
over it in detail with yourself, or talk to someone else about it, so that you are not surprised if counseling<br />
someone else triggers this memory. When counseling you do not want the session to be about you and<br />
your past, but about the past, present, and future of your counselee. Therefore it is essential that you deal<br />
with your own issues prior to beginning your role as a counselor.<br />
WHAT A COUNSELEE SHOULD EXPECT OF YOU:<br />
• To listen without interruption and judgment to her story<br />
• To help her identify her feelings about the abuse, the abuser, and herself<br />
• To understand and identify the extreme danger she has been in, and could face again<br />
• To guide her in learning about her rights and resources available to her<br />
• To get her to identify her own inner strength and courage<br />
• To identify her power to live without violence and seek her own goals<br />
• To help her understand that it is the abuser who is responsible for the violence<br />
• To assist her in building her self-esteem and empowering herself<br />
WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT FROM A COUNSELEE:<br />
Trauma and shock of any kind, especially following abuse, affects people in different ways; some women<br />
may laugh and make jokes, while others may be hostile. Add to that, the fact that everyone has their own<br />
reaction and coping style, and it is easy to see that there are many different types of women you may<br />
come across in your counseling. The following is a list of some of the main types to help you in adapting.<br />
Please note that these are not set in stone and most women will not fit neatly into one category. These are<br />
meant to help you in your counseling, not limit you.<br />
1. Women who are very nervous.<br />
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