Domestic Violence Counseling Manual - Hot Peach Pages
Domestic Violence Counseling Manual - Hot Peach Pages
Domestic Violence Counseling Manual - Hot Peach Pages
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• Figure out where you can go to be safe if you need to leave your house<br />
• Decide if you can lie or withhold information to protect yourself<br />
• Try to identify a friend or family member whom you can rely on for support<br />
• Establish a “code word” or sign so that family, friends, teachers, or co-workers know when to<br />
call for help<br />
• Think about what you can say to your partner if he becomes violent<br />
• Teach your children how and when to dial the police and to stay out of any conflict between<br />
you and your partner<br />
• Pack a bag with important things you’d need (money, keys, clothing, medication,<br />
records/documents, etc.) if you had to leave your home quickly<br />
Assess your risks:<br />
• What might happen to you (or your children) if you stay in the relationship<br />
• What might happen to you (or your children) if you end the relationship<br />
Risk Factor If she stays in the relationship If she leaves the relationship<br />
Loss or damage to<br />
possessions<br />
Loss of partner or<br />
relationship<br />
Being alone, single<br />
parenting<br />
Standard of living<br />
Loss of caretaker<br />
Substance abuse<br />
He may destroy things of importance<br />
or value to her to gain further control<br />
He could leave her or be emotionally<br />
unavailable<br />
He could be emotionally unavailable,<br />
he could do little to help her with the<br />
children<br />
He may control the money and give<br />
her little money to live on, he could<br />
lose or quit his job, he could make her<br />
lose or quit her job<br />
If she is disabled and he is her<br />
caretaker he may not adequately care<br />
for her<br />
She may abuse drugs and/or alcohol<br />
to help her cope with the emotional<br />
and physical pain<br />
He may destroy things of importance or<br />
value to her to gain further control, she<br />
may have to leave things behind when<br />
she leaves, he may get things in a divorce<br />
proceeding<br />
Loss of partner and relationship<br />
He is unavailable and she may not be<br />
able to (or want to) find someone new, he<br />
may not visit or help raise the children, it<br />
may not be safe for the children or her to<br />
have him do so<br />
She may now live solely on her income,<br />
she may have to move out of her home or<br />
neighborhood, she may have less money<br />
If she is disabled and he is her caretaker<br />
he will no longer be there to help her<br />
Even if she leaves, she will take an<br />
addiction with her, she may abuse drugs<br />
and/or alcohol to cope with her new life<br />
situation<br />
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