Domestic Violence Counseling Manual - Hot Peach Pages
Domestic Violence Counseling Manual - Hot Peach Pages
Domestic Violence Counseling Manual - Hot Peach Pages
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5. Financial/Economic<br />
• Keeping a person from working<br />
• Controlling someone’s money or the household/family money<br />
• Withholding money<br />
• Spending money on himself (often on alcohol or drugs) or/and on other women<br />
THE PSYCHOLOGY OF THE ABUSER<br />
The following are some general characteristics of abusers:<br />
• Anger, suspicion, moodiness, tension, resentment, hypersensitivity<br />
• Helplessness, fear, inadequacy, insecurity<br />
• Low self-esteem, loser mentality<br />
• Exaggerated jealousy<br />
• Inability to cope with being alone<br />
• Jekyll & Hyde personality<br />
• Projects blame and responsibility for his actions on partner and others, refuses accountability,<br />
downplays the seriousness of his own violence<br />
• Drug or alcohol abuse (note: this does not cause violence, it only exacerbates it, see myth #5)<br />
• Believes in traditional gender roles and sex stereotypes<br />
• Extremely controlling and possessive, often manufactures power struggles to prove virility<br />
• Unable to handle stress (may be job related)<br />
• Often charming and endearing to manipulate others<br />
• Frequently uses sex as an act of aggression and to enhance self-esteem, believes in legitimized<br />
rape<br />
• Feels victimized by partner and society, does not believe his violent acts should incur negative<br />
consequences for him<br />
• Pushes for quick escalation of the relationship<br />
• Unrealistically demanding (“If you love me...”)<br />
• Aims to be the center of the partner’s world by isolating them from others and badgering them<br />
into letting go of the family and friends who would be a support network<br />
• Blames uncontrollable urges and partner for his own violent tendencies and feelings<br />
• Cruel to children and animals, frequently sadistic<br />
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