[Mantak_Chia,_Michael_Winn]_Taoist_Secrets_of_Love(BookFi.org)

Students Experiences 211
ejaculation control. At that point there is a lot of my heat energy
going through the penis. Just then I've often felt a chill go right up
my back. At one point I looked at the window, I thought there was
a draft at my back, it was so distinct. I've often experienced my
partners body feeling cool and moist, while my energy is very hot
and dry.
M.W.: Is this a practice that you would, as a psychologist,
recommend to someone who is emotionally disturbed or is trying to
work out their relationship?
Student: No, not at all. The energy swings would be very
destabilizing.
M.W.: So it's really only for people who already have a fairly
solid relationship? »
Student: I think so. It's also very important that people practice
this meditation together, the Microcosmic Orbit. It should not
be divorced from the system.
M.W.: You said it brought so much more to your relationship
and so many relationships flounder on sexual compatibility.
Wouldn't this help cure that or have a therapeutic value?
Student: It could in certain ways, in that it cures premature
ejaculation. I think the real benefit is to see the spiritual context but
teaching it as a therapeutic method should be an interesting experiment.
M.W.: Do you think Western sexologists, like Kinsey and
Masters whould be interested in this?
Student: They might if it were in a context where they could
understand it. Masters and Johnson and other sexologists work
with ejaculatory control, so in that sense this method is not dissimilar.
Putting pressure on the seminal duct, manually, is very
similar to Masters and Johnson method. But beyond that they are
still in kindergarden when it comes to understanding the role of sex
in the human energy system, or how to use your mind to control
energy balance and sex drive.
M.W.: A lot of men your age go through a mid-life crisis
which is partly seen in sexual terms. How does the practice relate
to that?
Student: I had my mid-life crisis these last few years. A lot had
to do with a career change and decisions about what kind of work I
wanted to do. So this Taoist work has helped me decide on what I
want, how I use my energy and how I use my energy in sex and